Substance over superficial?
My friend Panama participated in a relationship panel that listed “substance over superficial” as part of a man’s wish list. I won’t come out and call shenanigans on this title completely, because women are known to be superficial creatures too. However, I want to know how many men can truly say they value substance more than superficial things?
I have seen a lot of men who get blinded by the beauty and completely overlook glaring red flags. When they learn the woman’s character is horrendous, do they take their lesson and choose better the next time? If so, what age do you think men become more enlightened?
When we tout all the things that are meaningful traits that would contribute to a lasting, long relationship, are we putting all that above the physical? Obviously we want the both of best worlds: personality and looks, but what is more important?
How many people have you asked out or dated strictly on their looks? If you had prior knowledge someone that you were attracted to is a raging jerk, would that turn you off enough to keep it moving?
Basically, what I want to know is..how superficial are you? If you were to rate your superficial number based on 1 to 10 scale, with 10 being SHALLOW HAL.
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
accessAtlanta Partner Sites
Sections
Advertise on accessAtlanta.com »
Reach the audience you want by advertising on accessAtlanta.com
Join the Access Atlanta Network »
Advertisers and Publishers, expand your reach by joining the Access Atlanta Network.
Tell us what you think about the site
Visitor Agreement | Privacy Statement | About our ads
© 2013 The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
261 comments Add your comment
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
6:26 am
Superficial is not only measured by looks(physical). It is also measured by beliefs or wants(needs).
See;I won’t(don’t) cook.
Physicality just happens to be so there,glaring but…
But to be honest,every man appreciates a nice but and legs in a woman. If she has good wife(long term potential), the man hovers longer in order to explore further.
If she is shallow then the man goes for a shallower short term deal.
On the whole,u look for a happy balance.
Not too pretty(coz every man will want her and holla) and not too too serious(u don’t want a Margaret Thatcher All the damn time)
Good morning!!
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
6:57 am
My Shallow index is 6!
Good eye candy physicality then I want to peel the inside and peer thru after that.
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
7:10 am
I kid and joke and cut-up sometmes (cause I always got a fan tailing me), but in all seriousness, for me substance wins hands down….EVERYTIME. I don’t need “Pretty Ricky”, eye-candy or some statuesque Adonis that ain’t worth his weight in gold. By the same token, I’ve always pretty much dated “handsome.” NEVER anything I aimed for or targeted. Matter of fact, I consider myself to be very average, still and even so, that’s just been the attraction. I have a “type”, but it’s nothing to do with looks but more so how a person acts, their drive and motivation towards getting a bang out of life. A person whose preferences and beliefs aligns with mine. IMO, it just makes better for meshing. I believe every individual should be their best person. From the inside out. I find absolutely nothing wrong with being attractive or being attracted to someone attractive. But the inside would have to match the outside.
Having said all of that, I don’t grant a pass to cute dudes if they violate. I’m not dealing with bullcrappery, disrespect, or being treated less than a lady…cause you’re cute. Nuh uh, not happening. I’ll happily take a pass and let someone else feel the honor of your cuteness….lol But that’s just how I’ve always been. I don’t see “looks” when it comes to that stuff.
Funny thing is while I’ve always dated someone whose beliefs and outlook on life pretty much aligns with mine, I always end up with someone whose is seemingly opposite of me when it comes to “personalities.” But it works…if that make sense. Quiet and mild manner, laid back and not one easily riled….and handsome
So, my point is you can do cute, handsome, not so cute, quiet, outspoken…whatever. As long as there’s substance (i.e. respect first and foremost, morals, etc)…I’m good with whomever.
Looks don’t EVER get a pass with me on behavior (esp towards women) that I deem not up to par or disrespectul or just plain lazy, or no drive. Substance goes a LOOOOONG way with me.
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
7:14 am
Oh, and ahead of “Pretty Ricky”, I’ll take a crisp, clean cut, well shaven, nicely duded (jeans, suit, whatever) dude anyday
lee
December 4th, 2012
7:16 am
As a lady my shallow index when i was younger was a 10. Now that i am older its more like a 5, give me the fat guy, short guy, bald — as long as he treats me right and is a good person, i am good.
Single and Happy Magnificent Monday
December 4th, 2012
7:17 am
Rate your superficial number based on 1 to 10 scale, with 10 being SHALLOW HAL.
I would say I’ve always been a 6, looks does not make up for attitude. Not worried about other men hollering at her, just like don’t know what wife material is either. My thing is, is this someone I would one to spend the rest or my life with, will I enjoy her everyday no matter what is going on with us.
How many people have you asked out or dated strictly on their looks?
Don’t think I’ve ever asked them out, but it is the first thing that I noticed.
Single and Happy Magnificent Monday
December 4th, 2012
7:19 am
Hello Lee, have we meet (LOL)
LeeH1
December 4th, 2012
8:24 am
To catch a fisherman, women need to learn how to fish. Beauty is simply the bait. But to have the man swallow the bait, to reel him in you need a good hook, and that is your character.
If the man swallows the bait, but finds there is nothing there, he will fight the hook and escape. If he realizes that he has a good thing, he will remain hooked to you.
But you have to make it worthwhile.
Timeless
December 4th, 2012
8:37 am
Nice transition, lee!
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
8:55 am
Now that i am older its more like a 5, give me the fat guy, short guy, bald
Button
December 4th, 2012
8:55 am
Good morning, that’s a good analogy LeeH1.
My shallowness is an 8, I like a good looking guy I can’t lie. I love having good looking things and people around me. After I find out there’s nothing underneath all that handsomeness I bow out gracefully. The good thing about it all is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Button
December 4th, 2012
8:57 am
OLDER WOMEN SETTLE! shuddup Exile! lol
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
9:06 am
And really, what’s beautiful to one is not the same to another. Cause I can’t really see “all that” with Idris Elba. IJS He’s okay but I don’t get all the hype. Now, Laz Alonzo….mmm mmm mmm and my my my
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
9:08 am
Alonso
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
9:09 am
………and he’s fione too! Shoooot
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
9:11 am
Celisea…now the haters(some women) will besmirch Alonso and whisper, ‘pretty boy’…..trying to tag a ghey thing to him….
much like some dudes will label a chic the h word when they are spurned….
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
9:12 am
IJS
Button
December 4th, 2012
9:15 am
I’m with you on that Celisea, folks say that denzel washington is fine but I just don’t see it.
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
9:16 am
….and one more…HUGH JACKMAN. Those two right there could get it with me. Okay, off to work now.
Love a chiseled dude…mmm mmm mmm
MMeello, such is life….lol There’s always some sort of stimga attached either way. They MUST being ho-ing if they’re fine. They (both guy and gal) MUST be desperate if they rate low. You gotta go for what you know and what YOU like. Forget all others and what they think.
There are plenty times women (as shallow as WE can be), will see a cutie and wonder what’s up with the women we might think is not so cute. Well, I for one don’t really do that…even though I want to be fair and say we. I get it. There’s something about her or him for that matter that they see, that maybe others can’t see. Substance, I’m guessing…lol I love it when women don’t “get it.” As it relates to a couple and what they see and how they mesh and what works for them, it matters not what other folks think.
But yeah, MMeello….folks will jump to conclusions based on folks hotness…or not
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
9:18 am
Button – When Denzel was younger, I always felt that way and still do….somewhat. He’s aging now so as it happens to us all, beauty fades. But with Denzie….he’s got chrisma. Don’t get me wrong, in his younger days, I felt he was a looker but for me it was the chrisma and that swagger (don’t shoot me) that ALWAYS oooozed through to make him be that “it” man, so many of us gush over. Plus I admire the fact that his wife is average. Not bad looking at all, but just a simply seemingly nice woman. I like that he didn’t go all out for arm candy
MsAtl
December 4th, 2012
9:23 am
Morning All!
I would say that my shallow index is 4. I must have substance.
Ex- I’m with Button- zip it! I’m not settling.
Cel- I think both Idris & Alonso are pretty hot.
DuShawn
December 4th, 2012
9:24 am
I have had more than my share of beautiful idiots. We always would have similar interest and a thousand things to talk about………until I nut. Then the substance of our relationship is flushed away in a condom.
MsAtl
December 4th, 2012
9:25 am
Cel- yes to Denzel on that charisma. He has a presence and that makes him hot! His looks ain’t none too dad either.
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
9:28 am
Substance always wins. For me, superficiality doesn’t necessarily rests with someone’s look. More importantly, your character is front and center and that dictates how I respond to you and how I “see” you going forward. Depending on the events, it may be our last encounter. Looks are nice, but it’s not the #1 feature I look for.
Morning.
O/T: A little miffed this morning. Had a doctor’s apptmt only to stand outside a locked door having to call them and find out they moved locations a month ago. Confirmed my apptmnt (with a human) yesterday and nothing was said about their move. They apologized, agreed to knock off 3 months of my next co-pay. Nonetheless, so unprofessional. Have to research new doctors w/in my network!
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
9:33 am
MrsAtl/Button ~ not sure why folk believe the older you get the more you will settle. Perhaps some will, but I think more won’t. To have an idiot with a heartbeat and walking on all 2’s is not inviting. Naw, no need to settle anymore! Women are so more self-sufficient than back in the day. And for you Ex, not everyone is thirsty nor desperate!
Button
December 4th, 2012
9:33 am
WORTH REPEATING – You gotta go for what you know and what YOU like. Forget all others and what they think.
Button
December 4th, 2012
9:40 am
Leggs cos they’re idiots for thinking that way.
disco
December 4th, 2012
9:41 am
good morning.
celisea – I have to start with your post. you consider yourself average but have always dated handsome. just for conversation, do you generally think that the guys you date are the better looking one in the relationship? I ask because often times it seems like when it comes to looks most men date equal or “up”. of course, that’s not always the case. every now and again you’ll see a couple and wonder how did that one pull the other one? I was just asking your take on it.
personally, while handsome is great I’m bigger on physique than face so I’ll take the not so handsome man with the banging body over the handsome dude with a mediocre body. anyway, I got sidetracked. let me continue to read and see what others have to say.
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
9:41 am
MsAtl – Sho nuff
Button
December 4th, 2012
9:43 am
Dushawn! smh
disco
December 4th, 2012
9:44 am
lee – to catch a fisherman a woman doesn’t necessarily need to know how to fish. she simply needs to know how to cast a net.
C – I like idris and laz. both are alright with me. of course, idris isn’t just straight head shot fine. his face is actually pretty regular. he’s package fine. it all comes together nicely.
button – I’ve never been on the denzel as sex symbol bandwagon either.
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
9:45 am
disco – You asked “Do I think they’re the better looking one in the relationship?”
Nothing like that has ever crossed my mind. I don’t EVER feel below or beneath or subpar to any dude, no matter how cute…lol Ever. I do okay and apparently I must look okay cause I seemingly attract “okay.”
Button
December 4th, 2012
9:47 am
You can have all the substance and no looks but when you get into a tiff with said person you just might call them fugly in the heat of the moment (Im just being bad this morning)
disco
December 4th, 2012
9:48 am
C – just asking primarily because you described yourself as average and your man/exes as handsome. I recently saw an episode of king of queens where the waitress hit on doug and it threw carrie off because in her mind she was always the “looker” in the relationship. there was another episode of the same show when doug lost weight and was feeling kind of fly and that also threw carrie off her game. lol.
Lady~sunshine
December 4th, 2012
9:49 am
hmmmmmm with the topic! Howdy C & MIA!
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
9:53 am
disco – No biggie…lol I’m confident in who I am…inside and out! To the rest of your 9:48, see my 9:16. I’m NEVER one of those silly women (Carrie in your example), that gets thrown because of what I think “beauty” is or how it rate. I’ve always known and been able to understand that where there’s something wholesome there that a person’s partner can see but other can’t see with the naturally eye or I should say not apparent to those on the outside looking in (cause it ain’t in their looks), I get it. I don’t hate or make remarks or sniggle. I just get it.
When we see folks mixmatched, by our standards, usually the two loving each other can laugh. They know what they have in one another and usually are skipping along in laugh while folks on the outside, mainly single are still standing around looking perplexed.
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
9:54 am
skipping along in life…not laugh
Heeeeeey Lady!! “Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm” indeed….lolololol
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
9:55 am
okay…there were all kinds of typos in that…lol
MsAtl
December 4th, 2012
9:57 am
Leggs- Exactly! Maybe they think that way because the focus (in literature) is mostly how women are desparate to settle down due to their biological clock or maybe it is the theory that women outnumber men so women will take whomever glances twice? I don’t know, but definitely not true in my circle.
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
10:03 am
Disco…Celisea is calling herself ‘average’ coz she is modest….(Substance anyone?)
U want her to call herself ‘Fly’?….??.
How would that come across…to both men and women on the blog..
The blog females,naturally will hate another female…..its a known,women will hate on another just coz shes fly,her shoes are flly..blah blah.blah…even when they dont know her..
Then the blog men will be falling over themselves…..mentally thinking….let me see…
Meelo ofcourse will Demand a pic…
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
10:06 am
Mmeello – Ding ding ding ding ding….yooooou got it! Too it would just be presumptious to call yourself hot. Whether you are or aren’t. I know it’s a bit contradictory for me to say this, to what I’ve posted but really it’s the folks on the outside that should do the gauging….NOT YOU, YOURSELF. If a dude tells me he’s hot or fly, Imma take a pass, with the quickness.
Lady~sunshine
December 4th, 2012
10:08 am
lol @ Ex C what are you starting sis?!?
OAN: today is a bore abd drag :/ lol
MsAtl
December 4th, 2012
10:09 am
Exiled- Oh Ex, you buy into so many stereotypes. If a woman has on fly shoes, I don’t hate; I want to know where she got them. If another woman looks good, that is not an issue for me. I have no problem telling a woman I like her hair, dress, whatever. It takes nothing away from me because I know who I am and I am secure enough to recognize that there is enough room for plenty of good looking folks in the world.
Cel- Btw- if you’re wearing some fly shoes, then I demand a picture (of the shoes).
disco
December 4th, 2012
10:09 am
ex – I can respect modest. maybe she’s being modest. maybe she really views herself as average. it’s neither here nor there. I consider myself to be an average looking chick in a headshot. nothing special but I clean up nice. now, on body I rate myself higher because in my own opinion I happen to think I’m shaped up quite nice. personally, I wouldn’t “hate” on someone who said they were a dime or thought they were all that. if you don’t, who will. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I’m all about “respect the truth”.
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
10:11 am
Lady – Gurrrrrrrrl, just the average day (for me) in blogsville….lol
MsAtl – Yep, all day long. I’m cool feeling like a sister is doing the dang thing. I give nothing but props and love. I’m like you, I just might ask heeeey, where you find those or that?? lolol
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 4th, 2012
10:16 am
People with character and substance is who want no matter how they look. Cely you got substance, there’s nothing like a mature lady that’s gets it. I can’t get into who has this or that but when you stand firm with your beliefs and convictions that is character and substance.
Good Morning:
Sag’s time to rise.
DuShawn
December 4th, 2012
10:17 am
When I think of substance vs superficial, I’m reminded of this chick I dated years ago. She wasn’t the cutest girl in the world, but I really enjoyed her company. I would fall by her spot with the intentions of beating it; we would be in her bed with all our requirements in close proximity (ice, vodka, etc.), throw in a flick and then proceed to talk for hours. We would discuss our jobs, our relationship with the creator, current events, our political views or any other topic that came to mind. We would often over talk one another and then apologize for interrupting because we were both so eager to interject our opinions. Before you know it hours had passed, the porn done went off, a half a bottle of vodka has disappeared and we still had yet to get it in. We would laugh and finally concentrate on the matter at hand. In retrospect, I rarely took that girl on real dates because I didn’t think she was pretty enough to be on my arm. I guess I’m the one that lacked substance.
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
10:18 am
Exiled- Oh Ex, you buy into so many stereotypes
MsAtl….nah….
see, u talking bout urself and u may be different…but
A lot of women..i mean a lot do that..in general……
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
10:18 am
Heeeeey Blackfoote – Thanks honey!!! I appreciate that
Blackfoote, I never got my birthday seafood dinner last year. We need to put something on the calendar for the Sags
Two weeks!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 4th, 2012
10:24 am
We got to get that in Cely and you to Leggs we can’t let December get passed us this time around. Hope y’all doing well.
disco
December 4th, 2012
10:28 am
dushawn – wasn’t there a song that said “if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, find an ugly woman and make her your wife”? I know my mom/aunts clown some of my male cousins when they bring the homely girls around and they ran through the homely girls. thing was those chicks loved their dirty draws.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 4th, 2012
10:28 am
The best time for me is the 13th, got all kinds of corporate and holiday shindings happening.
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
10:29 am
Blackfoote, the 13th might work for me.
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
10:30 am
DuShawn ~ perhaps you lacked substance in you didn’t want to be seen with her on your arm, but you did appreciate/admire her substance for wanting such a shallow person at the time (lol). I somewhat kid because you two did enjoy each other way before knocking boots and interlocking toes. That says a lot when a man and woman can lay in bed and talk and not pay attention to the porn movie (lolol).
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 4th, 2012
10:32 am
Name a spot.
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
10:35 am
Seafood….anywhere I’ll let you pick a spot. You might say I’m hordy tordy….lol
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
10:36 am
Lady – You coming with us?
Courtside Seats...For watching the action....
December 4th, 2012
10:40 am
Ok…..so out of all of the folks here, I am the only person that is willing to admit that my shallow index is in the eight or none range???? If I knew anyof you at all I would be tempted to call BS but since I don’t…….. In all seriousness, hard to imagine that with all of the thoughts and views that I read here daily, everyone here always forgoes style in favor of substance. Seems like there would be alot more long term relationships in this town if that were the case……
Lee
December 4th, 2012
10:40 am
Is that right Single? Lol
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
10:41 am
nah…i disagree Leggs….
when a man has to kahuns or the i dont care attitude(without even thinking of it in tose terms) then he wants the person for what and who she is…
but as long as u keep it indoors,avoiding the greater open crowd,there is till shallowness there….
men will do that tho…..for bootey……
well i guess women too, since it takes 2 to curl toes!
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
10:43 am
the kahunas
kimmie
December 4th, 2012
10:48 am
Morning Gang!
I also rate superficiality on more than just looks. It is ones general attitude. This person always has to have the latest whatever name-brand, and are too busy trying to see & be seen and keep up with the Jones. They look down their nose at others, yet have nothing to offer the world themselves.
Of course, if a dude doesn’t treat me right, is stupid and irresponsible, shows no concern for his fellow man, lazy, etc, it does not matter how good looking he is. That’s a no-brainer.
People, male and female, may hook up with someone temporarily that only has the superficial going for them, but to actually get into something long term would just be stupid. Folks are known to do that though.
I have always been attracted to how a man carries himself. That’s what I find attractive about men like Denzel, Idris, Barack – their smooth swagger. Yes, there are men that may be more attractive physically, but if they don’t have that swag, that confidence, that intelligence, that smoothness, well, they just gotta have that to turn my head. Some pretty boy with a stank attitude that can’t even change a lightbulb, he can go somewhere.
kimmie
December 4th, 2012
10:50 am
Oh, and I rate about a 7 on the shallow scale. What I rate as attractive might not be so to most others, but I like what I like. And I got what I like.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 4th, 2012
10:59 am
LOL……@Cely, long as it’s not someplace where I can’t pronounce the name. Heading out to an early lunch we’ll discuss.
Lady~sunshine
December 4th, 2012
11:11 am
did y’all confirm yet?
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
11:13 am
Blackfoote said as long as someplace he can’t pronouce….lol I say Pappadeauxs. I don’t think that’s too overboard. Lady, you cool with that? Blackfoote can let us know when he comes back from lunch.
Blackfoote – You still have my email addy?
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
11:13 am
can pronounce
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
11:14 am
Lady – If you have someplace you prefer, toss it out there. Don’t have to be seafood. That’s just what I was thinking. I’m good going wherever. I’m not big on steak and red meat. So that’s why I tossed out seafood.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 4th, 2012
11:21 am
Morning lovelies,
It’s been a while since I checked in with yall. As far as the topic goes, i’m not that superficial. I didn’t read everyone’s post but I’ve never been into the “Pretty Ricky’s” as someone stated earlier. I don’t want a ragamuffin but I don’t need a Morris Chestnut or anything like that. I more so go off personality and of course the other basic things like cleanliness, job, car responsibility.
Lady~sunshine
December 4th, 2012
11:21 am
seafood is fine but my schedule is upside as usual butI do want to come out and play……..pondering!
Robert
December 4th, 2012
11:25 am
“I want to know how many men can truly say they value substance more than superficial things?”
What is substance? I can only hope and pray that someday I meet a woman who lives her life as an example for all to follow.
1. She is made of sugar and spice and everything nice (Sexy)
2. She is a good friend and neighbor (Reliable, Dependable)
3. Faith is her foundation (Religous, Spiritual)
4. She is confident (Secure, Independent)
5. She is trustworthy (Honesty, Integrity)
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
11:25 am
Lady – We can see what time they close and see if we can work around your schedule. We’ll see what Blackfoote says. Would love for you to join us
DuShawn
December 4th, 2012
11:31 am
I have two of the wildest brother-in-laws you will ever meet. Wifey and I call both of them Shallow Hal. In the fifteen years I’ve known them; I have never seen them with a female that weighed less than 225 lbs. Most times they are with some real buga bears. I ask them once about their choices in women. It was my intention to commend them for bypassing the superficial and obviously dating these women for their inner beauty. Then they proceeded to tell me the “man f*%K inner bueaty”. the reason they date this type is because they have a place to live, they could cook, you never have to take them anywhere, and you don’t have to give them money to get their hair and nails done, because they do that. I laughed and said yall cats crazy. Here I am thinking yall men of substance, but yall really men of convenience. Them my brothers, gotta luv em.
disco
December 4th, 2012
11:37 am
robert – sugar and spice and every thing nice? dang. knocked me right on out the running on number one.
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
11:38 am
on that note, i will go take a shower!
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
11:38 am
@DuShawn
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
11:41 am
I’m constantly giving Dushawn the side eye. Mmmm hmmm
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
11:45 am
http://www.draftfcb.com/holiday2011/
Try this….soooo cool
i'm swiss
December 4th, 2012
11:46 am
DuShawn — Not to mention that
all the big girls I’ve ever f__kedI’m told that a lot of big girls really know how to lay it on you in the bedroom…MsAtl
December 4th, 2012
11:46 am
Disco- Lol. That was my thought. At the end it says (sexy), but that sugar and spice threw me off.
Robert- dare I say I fit that profile. However, that is not an invitation. I think I may be too headstrong for you.
Lady~sunshine
December 4th, 2012
11:47 am
Thanks C!!!!!
BF we are long over due for seafood and drinks!!!!!
Jake-SPJTWB
December 4th, 2012
11:52 am
Courtside…you probably right, I say add a point to whatever score somebody gives…lol.
I’m no Shallow Hal, but I wasn’t checkin for substance until I hit 25. Even then, that substance needed to come wit some nice T&A. There is a certain weight class I won’t consider, and beauty is important, I too have had a few that were “nightfighters”, “midnight specials”, whatever you want to call them…only saw them for a good time and they didn’t have a chance at a midday lunch.
As I matured, my thought of what I liked and my opinion on what and is sexy and beautiful broadened tremendously!
DuShawn
December 4th, 2012
11:53 am
I spotted a new unopened tampax box in bathroom this morning. thats a good sign.
Jake-SPJTWB
December 4th, 2012
11:55 am
what is
Jake-SPJTWB
December 4th, 2012
11:56 am
Lol…Du, the bruhs praying you get that Christmas gift you want.
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
11:57 am
Ex ~ what’s new. You disagree with everything I say.
BF/Celisea ~ is your meeting up on the 13th a closed mtg? If so, BF, we need to followup on our bday drinks.
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
11:58 am
Leggs – You’re welcome to come. It’s for the Sags
i'm swiss
December 4th, 2012
11:59 am
DuShawn — Congrats on the tampax, dude. May the force be with you. BTW, I don’t know if Mrs. Swiss was reading the blog last week or not, but thankfully she took pity on me & broke me off a little something this weekend. Whew! I feel so much more relaxed…
disco
December 4th, 2012
12:03 pm
dushawn – since when is an unopened box a good sign? holler back when they are opened and used my brother. lol. I bet there are plenty of pregnant chicks with unopened boxes of supplies praying for the fertility gods to miss their mark.
DuShawn
December 4th, 2012
12:07 pm
Disco- Thats why I said it was a good sign. the Congrats are premature. Dont jinks me. Its not done done yet.
abc
December 4th, 2012
12:14 pm
Looks will get a man to show up, substance may encourage him to stick around. Doh.
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
12:16 pm
Du..u right,no congrats.yet .maybe she was clearing out to trash coz she knows they will be expired in 9 months time.
abc
December 4th, 2012
12:17 pm
Course the only substance I’m interested in is my wife. And, she’s prettier lounging around in pajamas than most any other chick made up to hit the town. I’m a lucky guy.
Lady~sunshine
December 4th, 2012
12:19 pm
Can December 20th work pretty please?!?
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
12:20 pm
I know Leggs…i disagree now on you trying to fit in on Cel,Lady and Black’s rendevous….
I was musing,green with envy that ,Black got himself a nice threesome there…..
and then here u come and try spoil it….
:lol
..i know, dont mind me.. lol
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
12:22 pm
I know Leggs…i disagree now on you trying to fit in on Cel,Lady and Black’s rendevous….
Wrong, wasn’t squeezing in. BF and I discussed the Sags getting together a few weeks ago on the blog. Thought this was what was suggested by Celisea. Wasn’t my intent.
Celisea ~ wasn’t my intent to barge in. If that’s how you took it please disregard! Thank you.
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
12:24 pm
Leggs – No apologies needed here…that’s Mmeello talking, not me.
disco
December 4th, 2012
12:26 pm
dushawn – alright. my bad. not trying to be a jinx. still, the suspense is even starting to get to me. have you guys taken a test? sure they aren’t always accurate but they can give us something to go on. lol. typing that I thought of all those chicks on “I didn’t know I was pregnant”.
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
12:30 pm
laughing..see Disco, the guys Always seem to hyperventilate,re prego..and the chics seem to take it easy… laughing at Dushawn
@Leggs..just joking… lol..
disco
December 4th, 2012
12:36 pm
ex – trust me when I say the chicks hyperventilate too. shoot, I don’t even know D’s wife but an element of that unopened box is pure wishful thinking. I’m sure she’s just as anxious as he is which answers my own question about whether or not they’ve taken a test. a test confirms things. waiting buys you time and gives you hope.
Robert
December 4th, 2012
12:49 pm
@MsATL – “I think I may be too headstrong for you.”
Perhaps….But I think my “head” may be too strong for you. lol…
Lady~sunshine
December 4th, 2012
12:49 pm
oh my!
Bluzgirl
December 4th, 2012
12:54 pm
I would say that I rate a 6 on the superficial scale. I definitely will take substance over looks. I’ve dated men in the past that may not have been the best looking men, but had a lot of great qualities (well…at the time). The Young One is a cutie, but doesn’t have enough substance for me.
And swiss…you’re right. I’m not a huge girl, but I’ve got some meat on my bones and I have to say that I know how to lay it down in the bedroom!!!
MsAtl
December 4th, 2012
12:56 pm
Robert- I am just going to leave that one alone, lol.
i'm swiss
December 4th, 2012
12:57 pm
“I’ve got some meat on my bones and I have to say that I know how to lay it down in the bedroom!!!”
Well, hello there, Bluz. How you doin’?
disco
December 4th, 2012
12:57 pm
lol. I always heard little, skinny chicks were “deeper”. fellas, any truth in that?
Bluzgirl
December 4th, 2012
1:00 pm
LOL swiss…I knew I’d get a reaction out of you! Too bad you have a Mrs. swiss…You’ll never know how I can lay it down!
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
1:01 pm
That was a nice spin, Robert. Good for you (lmao).
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
1:03 pm
Cool, Celisea.
Ex – why waste typing anything!!
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
1:12 pm
why u gotta double down by saying little and skinny..
Disco?
now Slim wont chime in now…. lol
but Slim/Skinny = Deep
Big = Tight
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 4th, 2012
1:24 pm
Sag’s time to rise.
Whateva…y’all only got a few more weeks then it’s Capricorn season…right in time for the festivities of Christmas and New Year’s.
December birthday celebrants should do something…drinks n dinner mayhaps…
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 4th, 2012
1:41 pm
Ex – You raaaaaaang lol I think that saying about skinny being deep is probably just a fable. And if you’re big, are you really tight or your extra meat is creating the illusion that your puddy is extra tight? Hmmmm
Robert
December 4th, 2012
1:42 pm
@Disco – “I always heard little, skinny chicks were “deeper”. fellas, any truth in that?”
Well, it depends on how many kids she had. Some women regardless of size after children need to get it “tighten-up”. Skinny chicks cause other problems such as “blue balls”. I need a healthly woman with meat on her bones to go as deep as I like to go.
i'm swiss
December 4th, 2012
1:45 pm
“And if you’re big, are you really tight or your extra meat is creating the illusion that your puddy is extra tight?”
For that matter, if she’s really that big, is it actually good puddy or just a sweaty fold?
Robert
December 4th, 2012
1:52 pm
@i’m swiss – “I’ve got some meat on my bones and I have to say that I know how to lay it down in the bedroom!!!”
Hello. You can reach me at 770 ROBERTS. Look forward to hearing from you soon.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 4th, 2012
1:57 pm
Yes Cely I still have your email, Pappa Deax’s is good for me. Leggs you and Lady are welcome I’m good on the 20th. It will be a pleasure to be in ya’lls company.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 4th, 2012
2:01 pm
Hey Sassy that’s right you’re a child of December, come on board the ship.
i'm swiss
December 4th, 2012
2:01 pm
Robert — Just so there’s no confusion, I’m going to forward your previous post over to Bluz, who, I hope, was the intended recipient. In any case, you won’t be hearing from me anytime soon. Or ever.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 4th, 2012
2:01 pm
swiss – I learned on the Bert show a year or so ago that those sweaty folds are called panis’. lol
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
2:03 pm
Blackfoote – Hit me up
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
2:06 pm
Boooo, my salad was NOT good today
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
2:07 pm
The 20th is the Thursday before my touch-up. NOT gonna be a good hair day….lol IJS
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 4th, 2012
2:07 pm
come on board the ship.
Why thank you Blackfoote
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
2:07 pm
And look at Robert getting all bucky and spreading his wings. Awwww sookie sookie now.
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 4th, 2012
2:08 pm
Why are you saying that Celi?
You planning something?
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 4th, 2012
2:09 pm
That was in reference to your first 2:07…
Lady~sunshine
December 4th, 2012
2:11 pm
cool beans!
Lady~sunshine
December 4th, 2012
2:12 pm
no red lobster?!? lol
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
2:13 pm
Sassy – Just hate to do stuff with a nappy head….lol Really I’m kidding and saying that that lightly.
Bluzgirl
December 4th, 2012
2:15 pm
LOL Robert! I’ll call you in a few!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 4th, 2012
2:17 pm
LOL…..@Lady that made me blurt out loud that got all my folk looking and wondering why am I snickering at the computer screen.
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 4th, 2012
2:21 pm
Celi just checking…didn’t recall anyone suggesting anything so I wondered if I missed something…no problema
Bluzgirl
December 4th, 2012
2:23 pm
Going back to yesterday’s discussion about the difference between hair on black and white people…do black people have issues with dandruff? Just curious…
Lady~sunshine
December 4th, 2012
2:26 pm
lol I knew you would laugh sir! ha! #carryon
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
2:27 pm
For 9100 points I can redeem and purchase a Whirlpool Range or a laptop or an iPhone! Too bad I only have 5000…lol
For 5000 points I can redeem and purchase (just to name a few), a $250 BB gift card or BR or BBW or Gap (that’s just some merchants). A few restaurants, etc. For less for 5000, I can purchase Kate Spade bag(s), KC watches, B&B bag(s), CK watches, motor bike, Gucci bracelet, ACOUSTIC GUITAR, Coach legacy duffle bag and so much more…. I think I like the stuff that’s going for less than 5000…
Just checking out our site while I take a break…sigh…I’z tied
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
2:28 pm
Sassy – Blackfoote asked me to pick a spot for hanging out….for the Dec birthdays.
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
2:29 pm
We all get dandruff. Some flakes are bigger than others, but what else is new in life.
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 4th, 2012
2:33 pm
Blackfoote asked me to pick a spot for hanging out….for the Dec birthdays.
That’s cool but it seems as though sometimes these things gather alot of steam on the blog but end up being a bust in reality. You guys party like it’s 1999 when y’all hang and drink one for me.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 4th, 2012
2:35 pm
A lady just called from a law firm needing information on a client. After giving her what she needed she started flirting by asking me do women compliment me on my voice, I said yes. The flood gates blew open she started asking my height, weight and finally phone number. I don’t have a big head and I do get hit on over the phones a lot, some I’ve met and some I haven’t. Could this be an early Christmas pakage or a bust? Hmmmmm.
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 4th, 2012
2:37 pm
Enter your comments here
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
2:38 pm
So true, Sassy, so true!
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
2:38 pm
Sassy – I started typing something and then erased. I agree. I’ve only met up with Leggs and once with Willie, Jake and Swiss (which all showed up). But yeah, that’s a common thing I’ve noticed too. And partly why I sort of pass/passed on the idea when it’s tossed out there. Lady and I have met up a couple of times and WillieD (sorry boo….it’s innocent and all good) will meet for drinks and wings and cut up and laugh and have a blast. Not so much group gatherings though.
Blackfoote – You ain’t gonna bamboozle us are you? I’m calling your bluff (sorry that’s strong but I have no other word…lol). Don’t have some other dude showing up saying, oh btw I got an invite too cause you don’t really exist or it’s some other 4 foot dude turning the knobs behind the scene daily…lol You done told us how tall you are so don’t bail on us. I’m looking for a dude on stilts
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
2:38 pm
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 4th, 2012
2:40 pm
Blackfoote guess you won’t know ’til you try,huh?…
Anyhoo, I really,really don’t want to go to the gym…but read y’all in a few…
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
2:40 pm
Blackfoote – I thought you was booed up? No? If not, go for it my man!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 4th, 2012
2:41 pm
Damn she just sent me a picture and she’s goreous. WTF!
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 4th, 2012
2:42 pm
Not so much group gatherings though.
I’ve noticed that as well…so I won’t be doing that anymore… It’s all good.
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 4th, 2012
2:43 pm
Treadmill here I come…ugh..
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
2:46 pm
Damn she just sent me a picture and she’s goreous. WTF!
Is that your exit?? LOLOL I KID I KID You ain’t responded to none of our posts since 2:00. You know it’s all good.
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
2:47 pm
Where is MMeello?
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
2:48 pm
Got a question for you when you come back.
Lady~sunshine
December 4th, 2012
2:48 pm
C you are a riot! smh lol too funny!
characters are amusing!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 4th, 2012
2:50 pm
“gorgeous”
Cely no I’m not booed up yet, and would never would do a switcharoo. I’m trying to get a grip on this phone introduction she wants me to send her a picture of me.
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
2:50 pm
Lady – I’m serious if he is…I think it would be cool, us all having sitting around and getting better acquainted
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
2:51 pm
Blackfoote – You know you’re good with me
Handle yo business. Might be your Christmas snuggle bunny!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
December 4th, 2012
2:56 pm
It’s time for me to skip on out of this camp. Cely I’ll hit you up on email tomorrow.
Terrance
December 4th, 2012
2:56 pm
Older Women FTW, not into women my age or younger, kinda like that wild side done and gone, thank you.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 4th, 2012
3:00 pm
The 20th is the Thursday before my touch-up. NOT gonna be a good hair day
Cel – I just did my touch up Friday and I really dreaded even getting started. I’d like to go natural but after I was done, i’m like whew, it’s so much more manageable.
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
3:02 pm
Blackfoote – Cool…just whenever you get a minute. Seeing we have birthdays the same day, maybe we can exchange gifts or something
Slim – You ain’t never lied. I’ve done my own touch-up here and there over the years and that’s the hardest thing to do. But yeah, after it’s done it’s allll good
Lady~sunshine
December 4th, 2012
3:02 pm
keep me posted! bye y’all
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
3:02 pm
No way I could do natural unless I cut it off off.
Willie Dynamite
December 4th, 2012
3:05 pm
Afternoon all,
Long time no blog.
Topic- I would prolly rate myself a 8 on whether I’m superficial. Honestly I like pretty women and I somehow am attracted to that. It probably moreso is the challenge in my mind as I am only a regular average dude, some days extra regular. On the flip side I am full of substance and require the same. After a few good convo’s a knockout chick would get weighed and measured whether its a conquest or really get to know them.
My wife is a real pretty chick and I/we occasionally get the “how did he get her” question. My ego usually answers with “I happen to be a helluva ninja that’s how” hahaha
disco
December 4th, 2012
3:06 pm
hmmm. we back on hair? I’m thinking of changing colors. this brown is getting played out.
Bluzgirl
December 4th, 2012
3:14 pm
Go for it disco!!! I gotta color my hair soon…my grays are showing!!!
kimmie
December 4th, 2012
3:14 pm
Disco – I wanna leave my hair alone for now, just trying to grow my chin length bob back. But I want to do something different, kinda out of the box for me. I’m toying with getting a 2nd hole in my ear or a tattoo!
i'm swiss
December 4th, 2012
3:16 pm
“My wife is a real pretty chick and I/we occasionally get the “how did he get her” question.”
What’s up, Willie D? How’s it going my friend? Maaaan, I get those looks ↑ all the time when I’m out with the Mrs. I usually just give them a little nod like, “That’s right… I get to f__k this, hater.”
disco
December 4th, 2012
3:17 pm
bluz – I am going for it. I’ve been “tobacco” (translation brown) for a couple of years. I’m thinking of a black with a cherry rinse.
kimmie – my hair is thriving right now. I don’t wear it “out” much but when stretched it comes past my chin/shoulders. I wear it flat twisted and pinned up so much that folks think I’m weaved or wigged when it’s out.
disco
December 4th, 2012
3:18 pm
WD/swiss – y’all are confirming what I was kind of dancing around earlier. how men usually manage to date/marry up (at least physically).
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
3:22 pm
disco – I think you missed the mark on this one. That’s what we or I was saying. It’s not “marrying up” per se. For a couple to appear to be seemingly mixmatch is usually folks (not say you…per se), that are hung up on looks. But if they work well together and thrive and vibe, it’s a perfect match.
I think the person named “courtide” or something like that missed it too. I mean who says eight or nothing….unless you’re like 20 something. And the age has nothing to do with settling or taking less, it has to do with growing and coming into what matters. I think Jake said once he got older, attaction was much bigger than he initially thought….at least that’s what I thought he was saying.
Bluzgirl
December 4th, 2012
3:22 pm
disco – I don’t know what you look like, but I like the idea of the black with a cherry rinse. Lately, I’ve been trying to get close to my natural color of medium brown. I used to do reds a lot, but it starts to look brassy after a while. Earlier this year (after the break up), I colored my hair black and it is finally almost out of my hair! I cut off about 6 inches a couple of weeks ago, so that got most of it.
Bluzgirl
December 4th, 2012
3:24 pm
Going back to the “settling as you get older,” I feel as though my standards are getting a little higher as I get older. I’ve settled too much and have learned what I do NOT want in a relationship. No way will I settle…
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
3:24 pm
Don’t get me wrong, eight is great!! But to say eight or nothing is mighty big. You better be a 10 or better if all or nothing. I think us regular folks like eights, will take an eight, could be an eight, but in reality we nothing sometimes that eight end up being a zero and you cut your chances hugely by doing the eight or nothing.
Now, I’m an all or nothing gal, but that’s got nothing to do with the looks-o-meter.
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
3:24 pm
“we know that” not “we nothing”
i'm swiss
December 4th, 2012
3:24 pm
disco — Well now, not to sell myself too short here — I’m not exactly Quasimodo.
But Mrs. Swiss is hot enough that she could get literally anybody she wanted. Luckily for me, she wanted more than just pure physical appearance — she wanted physical appearance plus a little extra, which opens the door for moi.
kimmie
December 4th, 2012
3:26 pm
And the age has nothing to do with settling or taking less, it has to do with growing and coming into what matters.
Celisea – You ain’t never lied. I just got to where I was less and less tolerant of BS. So I would say I got a lot more choosy as I got older. Heck, I figured I went that long, may as well go for exactly what I wanted and needed!
disco
December 4th, 2012
3:26 pm
C – I was saying the same thing but from the shallow perspective of folks on the outside looking in. no more, no less. not taking personality or anything else into consideration, just looks. like the folks WD and swiss are talking about don’t know anything about the people, they just know what they see.
Willie Dynamite
December 4th, 2012
3:26 pm
Swiss- what’s up man? Your time is almost up Bruh. Few more weeks and you will be puddy and sleep deprived at the same dayum time.
Disco- I don’t know what you were dancing around earlier but I must say the Mrs may have came up as well. IJS
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
3:28 pm
Kimmie – Iggg zackly. My BS-o-meter have always been leaning on the other side. Shoot, I don’t even know how to tolerate BS. But I agree, as you get older, if you’ve been one to try and be understanding or go along, bump that mess. You start telling folks to kick rocks without looking back to see how they took it….lololol
disco
December 4th, 2012
3:29 pm
bluz – I’m not bold with hair color. typically it’s black or it’s brown. I’ll do a rinse but you can hardly see that unless the light hits it just right.
swiss – not exactly Quasimodo? you know one could take that a few ways. lol.
i'm swiss
December 4th, 2012
3:31 pm
“Your time is almost up Bruh.”
Willie D — Maaaaaan, you know I’m already losing sleep from being nervous, and already on a severe puddy ration from having a 8+ months preggers Mrs. It’s just a couple more weeks until dirty diapers, spit-up and middle of the night crying gets piled on top of it…
Whew! Serenity now!
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
3:34 pm
You start telling folks to kick rocks without looking back to see how they took it….lololol
So very true. I have less ability to tolerate crap from anybody.
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
3:36 pm
Cel..here!!
had gon to pick the kid at school
whaeeeet up!??
kimmie
December 4th, 2012
3:36 pm
Swiss – I’m so excited for you!! And I’m happy it’s a girl, cause I’m bout sick of all these folk around me having boys!!
My hubs has 4 nephews and only one had a girl. Needless to say she steals the show every time she’s around, with her sweet little one year old self!!
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
3:38 pm
swiss ~ words you’ll probably throw out the window, but true love/understanding will have those 6 weeks flying by. Now, hopefully you aren’t the type to pressure her into doing something way before those 6 weeks only to turn around and find her preggo again.
disco
December 4th, 2012
3:39 pm
kimmie – I want everyone to have boys. the daughter of a friend of mine has 5 boys. she mistakenly believed that baby number 5 was going to be a girl. in the delivery room when she realized it was a girl she cried and cried and cried. her mom and I still laugh about that.
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
3:41 pm
Cel..u better hurry up..i got a live soccer match coming up….
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
3:42 pm
disco ~ I used to work with a woman who was determined to have a boy. She had 7 girls and was stopping until she had a boy. Finally, the 8th child was a boy child. Can’t even imagine 2 miniature adults coming out of me!
kimmie
December 4th, 2012
3:43 pm
disco – It might be better that most are having boys. There are so many cute things for baby girls. I remember when my nieces were born I almost went broke! Didn’t go as broke for the 4 nephews, sorry!!
i'm swiss
December 4th, 2012
3:44 pm
kimmie — The little one’s crib was just delivered today, so I’ll be putting it together tonight. The rest of her nursery furniture is being delivered Thursday. I just finished painting (baby pink, of course) and putting up the curtains in her room this weekend. Now just waiting on the little diva to arrive…
Leggs — 6 weeks can kick rocks. Mrs. Swiss is having a c-section, so that should speed up that back-to-fuggin’ recovery time a bit…
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
3:47 pm
Mmeello – You gonna be here when we meet up? Thought maybe you’d like to join, since here of late you’ve become our blog commentator. You know I say that with love, right?
Jake-SPJTWB
December 4th, 2012
3:47 pm
Yeah Celisea, it was something like that…as I have matured, my perspective on beauty has changed in many ways. I like’em a little thicker than I used too, natural or permed is fine, light or dark, busty or just a mouthful, stalks or big thighs, just depends on her presentation..and speaking of presentation.
I like a woman who maintains her grey well, its sexy too, all that coloring, but I understand that most women seldom find the same comfort in aging that men do. Its winter, got my grey’s on full display.
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
3:49 pm
I have a great niece on the way.
I was babysitting my two great nephews last night…I’m just sooo fond of them. 
They’re getting a babysister soon.
There’s also a couple at my church that’s just had a new baby and wouldn’t know, lil ole me makes a beeline everychance I get to talk and play with her. She’s soooooo adorable and so little and sooo cute. She’s got deep dimples too! Her mom was busy after church Sunday so I changed her Pamper. How bout I was struggling and put in on backwards…lol It’s been many many moons since I changed a Pamper. Hope she didn’t end up wetting her blankets in the babyseat all cause I did it wrong. lololol
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
3:50 pm
I hope so, swiss. I had a C-section and 6 weeks was out of the question!
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
3:51 pm
Jake – Good post, your 3:47….exactly. I got a few grays peeking through and as of know, I don’t plan on coloring. I want my stylist to use Shimmer Lights to keep them silver the more they come in.
My thing is, like I tried to say yesterday…aging beautifully is nothing to be ashamed of. I say embrace it…lol
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
3:52 pm
I suspect so Celisea..this is christmas so any assignment they might have, ima refuse it…and have a relaxed December…they will have to fire me.. lol
let me know the details… errrrrr, i dont do sea food that much so…..dont give me an excuse to decline.. lol…
And gimme me advance notice so i get a new wardrobe….lol..my superficial index just went up
okay Celisea..on board
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
3:53 pm
Meello – See that’s why I like you. Your post make me smile. Keeping it real. Don’t be bsing me now. You got my addy and I have yours. I’ll keep you posted.
i'm swiss
December 4th, 2012
3:53 pm
“I had a C-section and 6 weeks was out of the question!”
Leggs — Y’all just need to woman up!
I had a friggin’ nut removed and I was back to f__king less than a week later. 
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
3:57 pm
Jake, had a question for u..u got a basketball playing son right?
my son is 7 and just starting….u think its worth it for me to invest in that hoop ring for the drive way?
just spend $60 yesterday on soccer and basket ball and the ring is costing $130 to $250 wally wally price..its hitting my pocket…
u think its good to sppend that money on this..im conflicted…
what u think?
I asked the boy str8 up..”u wanna do this” my eyes blood shot coz man…i dont know
kimmie
December 4th, 2012
3:58 pm
Well I’m not ashamed of aging, but I hate my gray so I fight it kicking and screaming!!LOL!!
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
3:58 pm
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
3:58 pm
I volunteered the other week and there was nonblack chick there, 75 percent gray and an absolutely beautiful young looking face. A dude outright asked her how old she was and she said it proudly 45. She talked about her hair that both she and her sister were nearly gray, that she wasn’t dying and like it better with length. Said she tried it short and that didn’t bode well. She was a really nice looking girl. Small framed too.
Bluzgirl
December 4th, 2012
3:58 pm
Jake – I feel like I’m too young to have grays!
My grandmother was totally white haired by the time she was about 38. That scares me. I’ve actually been coloring my hair since I was about 14 years old. When I was younger, it wasn’t too many natural colors. For the past 10 years or so, I’ve stuck to normal colors mainly for my job!
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
3:59 pm
43 not 45
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
3:59 pm
I’m loving how I’m aging and even if you color your hair, dem gray strands have a mind of their own (lol).
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
4:00 pm
No one EVER believes my age. My mama was like that. She didn’t start looking aged until she was well past 70. And by that I mean, she always looked about 10 years younger than what she was.
Dani
December 4th, 2012
4:02 pm
Good afternoon
Disco- I color my own hair. I mix honey blonde and lightest blonde together to create my own shade.
Bluzgirl
December 4th, 2012
4:09 pm
After I hit 40, I’ll probably let my grays show and see what happens.
kimmie
December 4th, 2012
4:10 pm
Celisea – I went to kindergarten/1st grade with a girl that gray prematurely. I ran into her near our senior year in high school and she was salt & pepper. I saw her again around age 30 and her hair was almost snow white. She has absolutely beautiful hair whatever color it is though, looks satiny/silky. And her skin is a pretty olive brown. She’s a stunner.
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
4:12 pm
After I hit 40, I’ll probably let my grays show and see what happens
@Bluz
…it wld be nice if u are a lil bit more explicit with the grays’ location
u think the youngie will be spooked if its gey there….when and if he happens to get a peep ofcourse..unless if bald is your look….
IJS
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
4:13 pm
I have a co-worker in her mid 60’s who prematurely grayed in her late 30’s. Her hair is absolutely beautiful. Never been permed, fabulous hair line and silky smooth looking. She’s trained her hair well over the decades.
SlimNu: Life always happens
December 4th, 2012
4:14 pm
All the folks in my family on my mom’s side grayed early. My mom and all her sisters are fully gray with the exception of one who chooses to dye her hair. I actually have a lot of grays now and i have no issue with them as far as trying to dye my hair. My mom always gets compliments on her hair.
Leggs – You ain’t neva lied when it comes to the grays having a mind of their own. When I was getting my hair done at the salon, the beautician would always have trouble with a few unruly ones doing their own thing. They also are thicker and grow much faster than my other hair.
disco
December 4th, 2012
4:14 pm
dani – I dare not color my own hair. the main reason though is not fear of messing up my hair but fear of being impatient and messing around and getting dye on my floor or countertops or something.
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
4:15 pm
Is Amanada reading the news at 10 these days…after that DUI….anyone.??.havent done fox 5 lately
Bluzgirl
December 4th, 2012
4:16 pm
Ex – I shouldn’t even answer you, but I will. I’m talking about the hair on top of my head. The Youngster won’t get a chance to see down below anyways. Not feeling him that way anymore.
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
4:16 pm
Kimmie – That’s strange isn’t it how folks gray prematurely. My kid’s dad was graying at 21 and his mom 50% gray in her 40ties. Also, my mom was about 50% in her 50ties. I wonder if my kid will gray early.
disco
December 4th, 2012
4:16 pm
btw – I don’t necessarily dye my hair to cover gray. I initially dyed for the first time about 3 years ago to jazz up the natural hair. sometimes when my styles are very plain or boring the color is the extra kick I need. even just the plain puff seems a little sassier with a touch of color.
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
4:20 pm
I’m just starting to gray, but my mother doesn’t have any gray.
Jake-SPJTWB
December 4th, 2012
4:20 pm
Ex-No sir, I don’t have a son, but I played a lil ball in my day. If he really likes BBall I would say go ahead and get it. If he is so-so on the game I would wait. Here’s why, the basics of the game of basketball takes coordination of your motor skills at a higher level than most sports. Most kids will not really be able to “play” until about 10. If you do decide to get him a goal, put it at the regulation height of 10 feet, you want his form to develop shooting at regulation, that way as he gets older, his shot will be “pure”.
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
4:24 pm
Y’all catch this….I’m on a call currently with my manager and she asked me why I’m at work…
I’M SUPPOSE TO BE ON VACATION THIS WEEK AND I TOTALLY FORGOT!!! Seriously!!!
Sassy Me...Exhaling ;-)
December 4th, 2012
4:24 pm
Mission accomplished…
Dani
December 4th, 2012
4:25 pm
Disco- I am frugal not so much brave. I spend about $10 to color my hair. Stylists are always shocked that I do it myself and that it comes in a box.
kimmie
December 4th, 2012
4:26 pm
I used to get highlights every summer and got alot of compliments. But it’s hard to highlight AND cover gray. My stylist managed to do it for my wedding, but it was not easy.
Jake-SPJTWB
December 4th, 2012
4:26 pm
Bluz-my grey started coming in a few years back, (36 now) just on the chin in my Goatee, them boys out of control now….I just let’em hang, but the rest of the beard is still black, I kinda dig the contrast.
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
4:29 pm
The contrast is very appealing, Jake! Women like that look.
Willie Dynamite
December 4th, 2012
4:30 pm
Jake – same here, my goatee is salt and pepper. My pops and grandad were both grey by 40 so no use in me tripping about it. Wifey likes it so I’m good.
For Real
December 4th, 2012
4:30 pm
What blog fam!! Lets see what the happs are:
GAY!!! Dayum I didn’t know that it was that many gay people of the blog.
Wait a minute….. GREYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!
For Real now digging into his draw of eye glasses like Fred Samford.
disco
December 4th, 2012
4:32 pm
dani – now on the frugal tip I feel you. my stylist charges $55 for color. it’s a long way from what I was paying her in my relaxed days though so I don’t sweat it. plus I only get color done about every 9 months or so. I know that’s a big gap but – I know it sounds tacky – I happen to like the way my hair looks once the new growth kicks in. lol.
Bluzgirl
December 4th, 2012
4:34 pm
Jake and Willie – Gray makes men look more distinguished. It can make women look older (not all women). At 33, I’m just not ready to go au natural…
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
4:35 pm
Frugal. I still get a perm out the box $5.99, then go to the salon for a style and cut. I can’t see myself paying for a $45-$55 perm at a salon…no can do!
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
4:36 pm
$80 perm
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
4:37 pm
@Bluz..all good.at least i know
@Jake…apreciate that…the man seems to have more interest than in the other sports we have tried…golf,tennis,football..and his height is good,so.ima make a last minute decison including ur input…
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
4:37 pm
and I pay $45 for wash
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
4:38 pm
I was trying to be reasonable, Celisea since I really don’t know what the standing price is now. That’s entirely too much. Get a perm, cut and style and I’m cutting away half my permed hair. Doesn’t make sense to me.
Bluzgirl
December 4th, 2012
4:39 pm
I pay about $8-9 on hair color and the guy who cuts my hair only charges $14! Since I was letting my hair grow out, I went at least 6 months without a trim. Even when he chopped off my long hair, he still only charged me $14 and did a great job!
i'm swiss
December 4th, 2012
4:39 pm
I’ve got a good bit of grey, but because of the color of the rest of my hair, it’s pretty well camouflaged. Except in the stubble — it sticks out like a flashing light there…
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
4:39 pm
Celisea ~ you have a lot of hair. My peanut head doesn’t hold a lot of hair.
Dani
December 4th, 2012
4:39 pm
disco- i like the new growth look also only retouch every 2-3 months. I usually were my hair in curls/afro depends on the day. I did get it flat ironed for my bday. I was shocked at how light it is.
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
4:40 pm
Leggs I hear ya…lol Actually I’ve been wearing it shorter since you last saw me… I like it
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
4:42 pm
and u ladies spend a lot of money on that hair..$45 + every two weeks..and then u need a shoe rack or two to urself….and ur clothes cost more….then for some..u need finger nail game too…
Man!
(i on care for those long_I cant_cook_fangas, tho)
Willie Dynamite
December 4th, 2012
4:42 pm
Dayum Markina Brown can get it.
Dani
December 4th, 2012
4:43 pm
leggs-that’s the main reason i went natural the prices are expensive.
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
4:45 pm
Swiss…one of my ex work mates jus told me today that his son was in surgery last nite..he lost one of his balls…referenced some rare disease,not cancer…
I was re-assuring the guy that I got a friend(Swissie) who got one and..going by u…. his son should be aaaaaaight…..
i'm swiss
December 4th, 2012
4:47 pm
Me.lo — Ballz are like any other good teammates. When one goes down, the other steps up his game.
Jake-SPJTWB
December 4th, 2012
4:50 pm
Leggs..so I am beginning to see
Willie…yeah man, I decided I just wouldn’t color, now when my stache turn, I might have to do it.
Ex-no problem…if he is really into it, get him into an organized group to get the fundamentals: plant left foot, shoot right hand..plant right, shoot left…defend the stomach, where it goes, the man goes, etc….
Bluzgirl
December 4th, 2012
4:50 pm
The boss left early, so I am too. I’m out ya’ll!
Jake-SPJTWB
December 4th, 2012
4:55 pm
Bout to roll…but I gotta say this:
Yes Willie, Markina Brown can get IT, she got a fat Azz, and be walking back and forth the weather map flaunting it…me likes her lot
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
5:00 pm
Ex ~ hope you told your friend that his son has to have a positive attitude while walking around with one ball. Apparently, it’s not the end of the world, but it can be if he makes it that way. Attitude is 90% !
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
5:00 pm
Haa haa haaa, guess that would have come across better coming from swiss (lol).
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
5:02 pm
Okay…I’m outta here folks…I’m on the phone with a coworker that’s been talking the last half hour…..
Toodles…I’m out of here til next week
I might peek in tomorrow
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
5:02 pm
If I can get her to hang up…
Celisea
December 4th, 2012
5:03 pm
……….and she’s still talking….ugh
MMeello…don’t forget….Thursday the 20th. Have my birthday gift in hand please sir
I’m kidding (unless you gonna do it).
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
5:04 pm
“Have my birthday gift in hand” – You know that’s a loaded statement!
i'm swiss
December 4th, 2012
5:05 pm
Leggs / Me.lo — Seriously, apart from the “working without a safety net” aspect of it, the whole 1 ball thing is not only not a bad thing, but if you play your hand right, it can actually open some
legsdoors for you. You’d be surprised how many times the whole “lone nut” thing lends itself to being asked to see it. Which invariably leads to many other fun things…Celisea
December 4th, 2012
5:06 pm
And she’s stillllllll talking. She’s now talking about her 10 inch heels being 64 years old. I think that’s an exxaggeration!!! She’s saying she just got a “you go mum” from her coworker.
Night folks!!
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
5:10 pm
Who walks around in 10 inch heels??
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
5:11 pm
Especially 64 years ago. Mae West been done died (lol).
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
5:12 pm
Celisea..ok Ms….will do…see u then..
Leggs
December 4th, 2012
5:12 pm
Ok, googled her death..she died in 1980
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
5:13 pm
how long have u had the uniball Swiss?
i'm swiss
December 4th, 2012
5:15 pm
Me.lo — 14 years. Was diagnosed w/ cancer on my 25th birthday (happy f__king birthday to me!)
Exiled!
December 4th, 2012
5:17 pm
oh, man Swiss..the baby must surely be a pinnacle….u got big ball…
happy birfthday buddy….
ALL good….
good nite MIA