Dating: Will ONLY cook for love
The joys of having male friends knows no bounds. They say the most enlightening things to get me really thinking. For instance, my friends tell me it is easier to get sex from a “modern woman” than a home-cooked meal. Not that they are complaining, mind you.
Apparently, the women they meet consider cooking the last frontier in a new relationship. These women will ONLY cook for love. There really is something to be said about a woman taking the time to cook a man a home cooked meal. Cooking for and feeding a man is a very intimate thing, but so is sex.
I am curious to know if men remember the women who cooked a great meal for them more than the woman who rocked his world in the bedroom. What would you think if a woman offered to cook you dinner for a first or second date? Have you ever cooked a meal for a woman you just started dating?
Ladies, when do you decide to cook a meal for a guy? Is it usually after the two of you have become physical? When was the last time you made a romantic dinner for someone?
P.S. We are all adults, right? So let’s have a judgement free discussion!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Robert
December 3rd, 2012
1:52 pm
“Have you ever cooked a meal for a woman you just started dating?”
Yes. I love to cook. My favorite meal is breakfest and if you are lucky enough to be invited to spend the night at my house after a night out on the town dancing the night away I will cook you a great breakfest. I have been told my hashbrown potato’s, slab bacon, country sausage and eggs cooked to order (omelette, over easy, etc.)are very good.
If you fall asleep after eating breakfest I love cooking in my “crock pot” slowly all day. I hope you wake-up and smell “what’s cooking” and stay a little while longer. Enjoy.
Exiled!
December 3rd, 2012
1:54 pm
I took a carpentry class in high school and struggled for a “C”.
DU..me too….
every week, i would be starting on a “new” item coz i never completed the one i started the previous week and didnt know where i put the unfinished item in carpentry class…i hated it….
im better at farming tho..gardening, tilling the ground nd planting seeds etc…that i can do.and i like….
Exiled!
December 3rd, 2012
1:56 pm
Dawgs are overrated..!!!!!
be back later..lemme pick up my kid
Single and Happy Magnificent Monday
December 3rd, 2012
1:57 pm
Leggs, bluz, maybe I haven’t got there yet, but there isn’t a fight or argument that I’ve got into that has made me think about going to get my gun, half the time I forget I even have it. I haven’t been to the range in over 16 years, and I’m pretty good shot. If you’re the kind of person that will snap, the gun just happen to be your weapon of choice, people do it with knives and any other weapon that they can get their hands on.
Ex, everyone in our shop wear gloves when we have to handle the tough jobs. it’s usually the jack legs that don’t.
Dushawn, sometimes it can be curse if you don’t know how to say no!!
Lady~sunshine
December 3rd, 2012
2:00 pm
wow just caught up interesting as usual~
Leggs
December 3rd, 2012
2:01 pm
DuShawn ~ I was regulated to making salad until my cooking skills peaked. I remember bringing a peach cobbler to a gathering and folk staring at me in wonderment, then asking if I would make them one!
Single and Happy Magnificent Monday
December 3rd, 2012
2:03 pm
My ex asked me what my favorite dish was, and made if for me ONCE, told her not to worry about it anymore, and she could cook (LOL)
Single and Happy Magnificent Monday
December 3rd, 2012
2:04 pm
Ex the dog weren’t over rated, the just meet a superior team
Where’s Comon, Swiss, and ITL (LOL)
Robert
December 3rd, 2012
2:05 pm
@DuShawn – “Guns”
Too many cowards are walking around with guns. For example in the state of GA over 250,000 people (grandpa/ma, etc.) applied for and recieved permits to carry concealed weapons in public places. Laws such as “Stand Your Ground” are making it easier for people to use “fear” as an excuse for taking matters into their own hands. Guns do not kill people. People kill people.
Single and Happy Magnificent Monday
December 3rd, 2012
2:08 pm
Stand your ground is not a bad law, but like all laws people are going to try use them to their advantage.
Robert 250,000 out of how man millions. now those are just the ones that you can account for.
disco
December 3rd, 2012
2:10 pm
ex – I don’t have a problem dating a guy who owns guns. I do, however, need to approve of his gun handling methods.
button – re hair. sure chemicals can be damaging especially if not applied properly and maintained properly. sounds like C lets a professional handle that. re the damage that comes from over-washing, it’s a different kind of damage. I don’t know if you answered the question of your ethnic background but I’ll suffice it to say “it’s a black thing, you wouldn’t understand”. y’all remember those t-shirts? lol.
still catching up.
Celisea
December 3rd, 2012
2:11 pm
but I’ll suffice it to say “it’s a black thing, you wouldn’t understand”. y’all remember those t-shirts? lol.
LOLOL…and yep
kimmie
December 3rd, 2012
2:11 pm
disco – I loves me some MAC, expensive & all!! Just one of my indulgences I treat myself to!
Buying a house made me really take notice to guys that are handy around the house.
Dushawn – I have a former boss just like your friend. He has a PH D in Finance and is working on one in Math just to have something else to do! But dude can fix cars and do ANYTHING around the house and yard! He said working on cars and houses helped put him thru college. I used to tease him and ask him how many houses he built over the weekend!
disco
December 3rd, 2012
2:13 pm
ex – most women might prefer those rough hands than those baby soft, scar-free hands that indicate a man might be a stranger to hard work. just me though.
bluz – as they say, guns don’t kill people, people kill people. if someone wants someone else dead there’s ways to make that happen.
Celisea
December 3rd, 2012
2:13 pm
Good point on the overwashing. A couple times a week of black hair being washed, tends to fall into the “overwashed” category. Yep, you get it…but of course you do!
disco
December 3rd, 2012
2:16 pm
dushawn and ex – I took wood shop and metal shop and did well in both of them.
Celisea
December 3rd, 2012
2:16 pm
I’m not for guns but I can’t lie, I ain’t mad at the folks that took someone out for stepping into their homes with the intent to harm. I’ve been burglarized twice and during that time, I was so mad I wished I had a gun.
Just the thought of a baby or toddler or kid for that matter getting ahold to one just does something to me.
kimmie
December 3rd, 2012
2:18 pm
most women might prefer those rough hands than those baby soft, scar-free hands that indicate a man might be a stranger to hard work.
disco – Not just you, I dig a man like that, don’t like the “softie” types!
Shoot, I’m a woman, but I’ve got what they used to say “dishpan hands”. I constantly have to use good hand cream.
Celisea
December 3rd, 2012
2:19 pm
The young mother on GMA some months ago or maybe a year or so ago that told her story, killed one of her intruders…the other coward ran.
She had just had a baby, husband had just died of cancer and she’s living out in the middle of nowhere. Two dudes apparently had been watching decided to come in on her. She had two guns. She dialed 911 and asked if she could shoot. The operator said I can’t tell you what to do but if they step in your house, you have the right to protect yourself. I was soooo happy happy happy for her in pulling the trigger. They found a long blade. No telling what they would have done to her and baby.
i'm swiss
December 3rd, 2012
2:20 pm
“as they say, guns don’t kill people, people kill people.”
disco — Maybe so, but guns do make it a helluva lot easier to kill people. Not much effort required — just point & shoot. The other available methods all require a lot more commitment to finish the drill, so to speak.
And speaking of finishing the drill — congrats to the bammers (S/H) on the win. Tough ending for my DAWGS, but a great game & great effort from both sides. Now, go & handle your business against the leprechauns.
Lee
December 3rd, 2012
2:21 pm
Celisea comment on 11:34am “right on”. Fully agree!!!
disco
December 3rd, 2012
2:22 pm
my son found my gun when he was around 6. not accidently found, went on purpose looking for it found. needless to say, he still remembers that butt whooping. I’m all for having a gun. I also have something in everyone room of my house that you can club someone over the head with. it may sound paranoid but you have to have a plan. I joked that I didn’t really have a fire drill plan in place but I had a home invasion plan in place. I wish a ninja would.
swiss – I know. just saying folks don’t need to act like so and so wouldn’t be dead if there wasn’t a gun involved. we all know bullets ain’t the only way to go.
i'm swiss
December 3rd, 2012
2:25 pm
disco — Actually, I think there are a lot of people who wouldn’t be dead if guns (and particularly semi-automatic assault weapons) weren’t so readily available. A lot of those folks in that movie theater & in the various schools, for example.
kimmie
December 3rd, 2012
2:26 pm
I also have something in everyone room of my house that you can club someone over the head with. it may sound paranoid but you have to have a plan.
Disco – Not paranoid at all. Smart. Until I married, I kept a baseball bat well in reach behind my bed and there was something I could use in every room to beat the ish out of someone if need be!
Single and Happy Magnificent Monday
December 3rd, 2012
2:27 pm
disco
December 3rd, 2012
2:13 pm
ex – most women might prefer those rough hands than those baby soft, scar-free hands that indicate a man might be a stranger to hard work. just me though.
Why is this not a surprise (LOL)
Swiss this is for you
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BWsOUuDxHcI&feature=g-all
i'm swiss
December 3rd, 2012
2:30 pm
Don’t get too cocky, there, S/H. Don’t forget you were 1 tipped pass away from sitting home & watching the DAWGS beat ND.
But gotta give props to bammer’s OL. They were the difference in the game. Totally dominated the line of scrimmage, no doubt.
Single and Happy Magnificent Monday
December 3rd, 2012
2:32 pm
Swiss, criminals will find a way to get the guns they want, no matter what rules and regulations they put in place.
disco
December 3rd, 2012
2:32 pm
swiss – no doubt. I get it. I’m not talking massacre situations. I’m talking the husband that shoots his wife. he could just as easily choke her out or hold her down in the tub and drown her or something. he doesn’t have to shoot her to kill her. mothers that kill their children. sometimes they shoot them but usually they find other ways to kill them. I’m only saying where there’s a will there’s a way and when one person wants another person dead there’s more than one way to make it happen.
S/H – it shouldn’t be a surprise. I also can’t stand men with smooth, hairless legs. that’s not a good look. man-boobs are also not a good look. a man can be groomed but he doesn’t need to be “soft” with it.
Leggs
December 3rd, 2012
2:32 pm
“Shoot, I’m a woman, but I’ve got what they used to say “dishpan hands”. I constantly have to use good hand cream.:
Same here, kimmie. I have never liked my hands but am grateful I have them.
Celisea
December 3rd, 2012
2:32 pm
Lee? You popped back in to say that?? Awwww, now sweet. You’re normally here mornings only.
Single and Happy Magnificent Monday
December 3rd, 2012
2:34 pm
Swiss I can get cocky, because you were 11 points and 1 quarter away from it
Never should have gotten to the 5 yard line, that was piss poor coaching.
i'm swiss
December 3rd, 2012
2:35 pm
“criminals will find a way to get the guns they want, no matter what rules and regulations they put in place.”
The cases I referenced weren’t carried out by criminals. It was teenage kids & mental patients. If the simple act of acquiring an arsenal like that were illegal, they would have drawn attention to themselves before having the opportunity to carry out their plans & some of those cases could have been prevented.
Single and Happy Magnificent Monday
December 3rd, 2012
2:36 pm
swiss – no doubt. I get it. I’m not talking massacre situations. I’m talking the husband that shoots his wife. he could just as easily choke her out or hold her down in the tub and drown her or something. he doesn’t have to shoot her to kill her. mothers that kill their children. sometimes they shoot them but usually they find other ways to kill them. I’m only saying where there’s a will there’s a way and when one person wants another person dead there’s more than one way to make it happen.
Well said disco, people only seem to get upset when guns are involved like the gun did it.
Bluzgirl...A Sad Bulldog...
December 3rd, 2012
2:39 pm
I agree with “guns don’t kill people, people kill people.” There is a great possibility that my friend would have killed this guy with his hands or a knife. We’ll never know. I had heard that he recently bought the gun. I know the gun didn’t kill this guy…my friend killed this guy. He snapped and reached for the gun.
S/H – I would hope to never be in an argument that would escalate to one of us wanting to grab for a gun. Maybe I’ve wanted to choke someone, but wouldn’t actually do it!
Single and Happy Magnificent Monday
December 3rd, 2012
2:39 pm
swiss, would you consider serial killers, mentally disturbed? how many of them use guns? also didn’t the kid from this area kill his grandmother with a sword? People will find a way if they want to do it.
i'm swiss
December 3rd, 2012
2:39 pm
Also, that whole “criminals don’t obey gun laws, so why have them?” argument has got to be the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. By that logic, there should be no laws at all, since criminals, by definition, break them. Makes absolutely no sense.
Single and Happy Magnificent Monday
December 3rd, 2012
2:42 pm
Swiss the rules and regulations I’m speaking of is the 3 day waiting period, the back ground checks. I have a problem with the laws they put in place, but will not enforce.
i'm swiss
December 3rd, 2012
2:42 pm
S/H — Do you think that whack job in Colorado could have killed as many people if he had walked into that theater with a sword instead of an assault rifle? Yes, there would still be murders. Yes, some of them would still involve guns. But just because you can’t completely eliminate something is not a reason to give up taking steps to reduce it.
disco
December 3rd, 2012
2:45 pm
swiss – that’s why they are taking snack machines out of schools. just because a few kids are overweight and eat too many honey buns everyone has to suffer. lol.
Single and Happy Magnificent Monday
December 3rd, 2012
2:48 pm
Swiss, I think he would have came up with another way to kill 14 people. Remember he thought he was the joker, the joker didn’t only use guns.
i'm swiss
December 3rd, 2012
2:49 pm
disco — Not sure I get your analogy, but pass me that honey bun.
Single and Happy Magnificent Monday
December 3rd, 2012
2:49 pm
Disco, yea taking the snack machines will fix that problem, because that’s the only place they can get it (LOL)
Single and Happy Magnificent Monday
December 3rd, 2012
2:52 pm
Swiss try this analogy, Why is it the last place you look that you find what you’re looking for. Well why would you keep looking since you’ve found it.
If guns weren’t so readily available, the killers would just find something else to do what they want to do, It wouldn’t deter them from killing.
disco
December 3rd, 2012
2:54 pm
swiss – I am ashamed to admit that I have eaten 3 honey buns in the last week. prior to last week I hadn’t had a honey bun in years. last week at the vending machine a honey bun was calling me and it was so good, soft, fresh, sweet that I’m almost hoping the guy who fills the snack machine gets sick or something. I do not need to eat another honey bun.
S/H – got me singing the cat in the hat song. “the way to find the missing something is to find out where it’s not”.
i'm swiss
December 3rd, 2012
2:56 pm
This is not a hypothetical argument. We have actual real-life facts to examine. The US has, by far, the easiest access to guns of any country in the western world. We also have, by far, the highest rate of gun-related deaths in the western world. This is not a coincidence. More guns == more gun violence. Period. Sure, there are other ways to kill people, but short of bombs, none as easy and efficient. Should bombs be legal? Should building your own chemical or biological weapons at home be legal? Again, no law will ever completely stop its intended target, but they do make a difference. All you have to do is look at the statistics.
Single and Happy Magnificent Monday
December 3rd, 2012
2:56 pm
see disco, it is the snack machines fault (LOL)
DuShawn
December 3rd, 2012
2:58 pm
I think it was Chris Rock that said, if you want to make gun laws more effective raise the price of bullets to $1,000.00 each. There is some validity to that concept.
Single and Happy Magnificent Monday
December 3rd, 2012
2:59 pm
No bombs should not be legal, but if someone couldn’t get a gun, they would be on the internet getting a information how to build a bomb, (Timothy Mkvee, Eric Rudolph, What was the mail bombers name)
i'm swiss
December 3rd, 2012
3:04 pm
“if someone couldn’t get a gun, they would be on the internet getting a information how to build a bomb, “
And that’s exactly the type of activity that draws the attention of law enforcement (hopefully) before the plan go come to fruition.
disco
December 3rd, 2012
3:05 pm
swiss – and with all that, even the most high powered fully automatic guns aren’t shooting themselves. it’s a people problem, not a gun problem.
S/H – trust me. I came to grips when the honey bun thing TODAY. I’m off the honey buns. trust.