Relationships: Headed for a break up?
My friend Sara is quietly freaking out because she senses a change in her man’s behavior lately. They have not had any major fights, but she said he seems distant and kind of aloof. He’s been this way for a while but it wasn’t until he turned down sex this weekend that she got really concerned.
I am NO relationship expert *cough* but I told her a lot of times men go through things and they just don’t want to open up about it. It does not necessarily mean he has checked out on her emotionally. Still, she worries about his behavior and wonders if they are headed for a break up.
I think a lot of couples hit a rough patch in their dating relationship, some of which come really early on. It can be a double edged sword in that it can either bring you closer together or serve as the beginning of the end. I believe that it is about how you resolve conflict and talk things tough that makes the difference.
That is of course, if you are both committed to it. What should you do if you notice a change in the behavior of your significant other? If they insist that nothing is wrong, do you take their word for it or continue to press them to open up?
If you think about your last break-up, did you see it coming or were there signs that you missed?
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Celisea
November 29th, 2012
3:29 pm
A mother carries her baby nine months for reason. By design, she should not be able to easily part. There’s a reason God didn’t make it where we could deliver the minute conceived. By designed he made it where you can bond and grow, grow to love it before it even gets here. To develop a bond unexplainable. Again, that’s not always the case and not always a bad thing if the “better” or more responsible parent gets custody. By design though, the scales are tipped towards mother/baby rather than fahter/baby on purpose.
DuShawn
November 29th, 2012
3:30 pm
When my son was born, wifey started contracting at 22 weeks. She stayed in the hospital from November to February. She was in labor and delivery for 2 months. I used to eat in hospital cafeteria so much; the employees thought I worked there. He was a 1.4 lbs at birth and remained in Neo-natal ICU for 52 days. The bill was a quarter million dollars. Now, this little muffuka got the nerve to mumble under his breath this morning when I told him to pull the garbage cans to the curb.
Celisea
November 29th, 2012
3:31 pm
Reading back:
Cel, I didnt igg u Cel..(is that ignore?) lol
No, didnt intently do that….u knw that…
Mmeello – Okay now. Don’t go acting funny…lol
MsAtl
November 29th, 2012
3:32 pm
Disco- You have me over here laughing. Don’t try these judges in Fulton because in contempt is exactly where you would be.
S/H & Du- I am with you! I have asked people (usually men) the same thing; how the hayle you babysit your own kids? You’re not babysitting, you’re being a parent.
Exiled!
November 29th, 2012
3:38 pm
3:29 Cel..right on point.
disco
November 29th, 2012
3:39 pm
dushawn – not that you called him out his name. I ain’t mad at you. I would have popped him in the back of his head on his way out the door to get those trash cans.
ms. atl – that one wasn’t even meant to be a joke. that’s one where I would cut my losses and dip. on the outside looking in, I notice that a lot of men threaten to sue for custody not because they want the kids but because they want to take the mother threw the wringer. I’m always telling chicks to call their bluff. lol.
I admit that I’m a mouthpiece and talk much trash but at the end of the day I will say folks can raise their kids how they raise their kids. I just don’t like the whole concept of outsiders dictating that.
Leggs
November 29th, 2012
3:42 pm
Got it, disco!
Exiled!
November 29th, 2012
3:45 pm
Disco..,the one with male physical features must surely have a name?, right.
she is usually the one more agressive/protective.
I was at nrthlake mall some years back and spotted a real leggy curvey cutey coming this was. So I gave her a hard look up and down,naturally. Unbeknown to me,her female partner was next to her and saw my red shark eyes,threw her hand over the cutey’s shoulders then pulled her closer to her.
Smiling but taken aback,I sauntered away.
She had a look, gait and walk resembling Young Jeezy!
is that not the ‘male’ version Disco?
Exiled!
November 29th, 2012
3:46 pm
this way
Single and Happy Tantilizing Thursday
November 29th, 2012
3:49 pm
Ex, you still get a nut, just no swimmers in the stream (LOL)
Exiled!
November 29th, 2012
3:51 pm
I am at home and they are replaying Karl Rove’s election nite meltdown.
In retrospect,he is acting and looking like a real fool!
Single and Happy Tantilizing Thursday
November 29th, 2012
3:57 pm
Ex here is the real benefit of having it done
No need for general anesthesia. Lower cost/less invasive than tubal ligation for women.
Single and Happy Tantilizing Thursday
November 29th, 2012
3:58 pm
ex, nothing changes there, just no little tadpoles trying to break the egg
Exiled!
November 29th, 2012
4:04 pm
K gme a minute.
making a coffee brew then take a dump
i'm swiss
November 29th, 2012
4:05 pm
Me.lo — No need to worry… getting snipped doesn’t prevent you from injecting your chick with the hot creole marinade, nor does it stop you from pulling out & giving her the money shot on her face/t!ts/azz. To use an analogy, you’re still firing missiles, they’re just not armed.
DuShawn
November 29th, 2012
4:08 pm
Getting snipped might mess up my trajectory. I got nut stains on my ceiling. I blow tonsils out with force. I would hate to see that diminish to a few weak drips.
Single and Happy Tantilizing Thursday
November 29th, 2012
4:11 pm
Du, it affects none only thing it affects is you don’t have worry about getting no back talk when you take out the trash (LOL)
Single and Happy Tantilizing Thursday
November 29th, 2012
4:14 pm
http://www.webmd.com/sex/birth-control/vasectomy-14387
Try no scalpel, I was more afraid of the needle ( I hate needles)
DuShawn
November 29th, 2012
4:16 pm
I’m thinking about it. Let me see if Sebsatian Cashmere is gonna show up first.
disco
November 29th, 2012
4:16 pm
re the vasectomies – I’ll go back to my original stance – “if you are scared, say you’re scared”. lol.
DuShawn
November 29th, 2012
4:29 pm
“We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give.”
― Winston Churchill
HAPPY HOLIDAYS Yall….I’m out.
Celisea
November 29th, 2012
4:42 pm
I think the blog needs to assign a mayor and send out the calvary for all the folks that use to blog…or some new bloggers. New as in brandnew, not old but new names…lol I come back to a ghost town. Barely making 4 pages? Hope it’s not on it’s last leg.