I am filing this one under: “I hate Facebook.” Do you remember your first love? The first person that made you feel intense emotions? The one that first broke your heart? Well, imagine the person telling you that they don’t remember ANY of that…and barely remember you.
My first love found me on Facebook and sent a friend request. He proceeded to tell me that because of tragic motorcycle accident, he has nearly NO long-term memory. He only remembers that he knew me. That’s it. Ouch, right? Since we have mutual friends, I was shocked that I had not heard of his accident.
I admit, my inner egomaniac/self-absorbed side was kind of devastated to learn that MY role in his life is so ..diminished, now? I actually considered going in and ticking off all the hurtful things that he did to me. How dare HE gets a clean slate while I am stuck with the bittersweet memories? Why can’t I get in on that Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind kind of action??
Then, I got over myself. He is struggling with the ordeal of losing large parts of his memory. Surely, I can suck it up and spare him the gory details of something that happened years ago. If he asks me, I will be honest as possible, but tread lightly. No good can come from making him feel worse. He has been through enough, obviously.
I started to think of how I would handle losing my memory of the people I once loved. Would there be at least one person I would literally WANT to forget? If I didn’t have all my “wisdom” from my dating misadventures, would I be doomed to repeat the same mistakes?
Would it bother you if someone you once loved had no memory of your time together?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog