Distant memory to no memory
I am filing this one under: “I hate Facebook.” Do you remember your first love? The first person that made you feel intense emotions? The one that first broke your heart? Well, imagine the person telling you that they don’t remember ANY of that…and barely remember you.
My first love found me on Facebook and sent a friend request. He proceeded to tell me that because of tragic motorcycle accident, he has nearly NO long-term memory. He only remembers that he knew me. That’s it. Ouch, right? Since we have mutual friends, I was shocked that I had not heard of his accident.
I admit, my inner egomaniac/self-absorbed side was kind of devastated to learn that MY role in his life is so ..diminished, now? I actually considered going in and ticking off all the hurtful things that he did to me. How dare HE gets a clean slate while I am stuck with the bittersweet memories? Why can’t I get in on that Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind kind of action??
Then, I got over myself. He is struggling with the ordeal of losing large parts of his memory. Surely, I can suck it up and spare him the gory details of something that happened years ago. If he asks me, I will be honest as possible, but tread lightly. No good can come from making him feel worse. He has been through enough, obviously.
I started to think of how I would handle losing my memory of the people I once loved. Would there be at least one person I would literally WANT to forget? If I didn’t have all my “wisdom” from my dating misadventures, would I be doomed to repeat the same mistakes?
Would it bother you if someone you once loved had no memory of your time together?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
6:56 am
good day all
If you’ve truly moved on with your life, why would you even care if past loves remember you? And most of the time when they do, their memory and your memory aren’t the same! Sounds like diva still want’s some “closure”, the best way to get that is to let things go and move on with your life.
lee
November 28th, 2012
7:19 am
As an adult i only had guys years later talk about regret, oh well i don’t have any regrets.
As a teen i was dating a guy named Drew, and then he broke up with me stating, ” he got a girl pregnant before he started dating me”. Then some time passes and his name came up, and i told this guy i knew him and what happened. Well he went back and asked Drew about me and Drew denied even knowing me. Karma is good — in my early 20’s i was at a party and Drew was there, he came up to me “Hey” i stated i don’t know you, sure you do he says, well i acted like “don’t remember” and this was in front a bunch of guys.. he walked away with his tail between his legs:)
I found out later any girl he couldn’t get sexual with he dumped them and used the same excuse. To bad so sad for him. It was great giving back what he dished out. Have a wonderful day.
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
7:25 am
Yea, Single, she wants sum for Closure.
Or her egomaniac/me me me condition is the real chronic one.
Otherwise how do u explain it when dude send to be suffering from worse than she is?
I don’t remember a whole lot of my real exes and the real short ex quickies.
Got a litany of carcases(dead,not broken hearts) in my trail.
Dead and forgotten.
Good morning MIA!
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
7:27 am
Seems to be(not send)
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 28th, 2012
8:05 am
Good morning,
What ego wouldn’t want your past loves to remember them? Afterall, we were the best thing that ever happened to them, right…lol
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
8:59 am
Ex “Since we have mutual friends, I was shocked that I had not heard of his accident.” = I think he’s lying!
Button
November 28th, 2012
9:03 am
LOL you got the right SlimNu.
If my ex were to lose all memory of what we had, if wouldn’t have any affect on my whatsoever.
Wise you should be happy to know that he made it through his accident only losing memory that can be retold to him compared to losing his life or other extremities. Have you thought about sharing with him fond memories of what you two shared?
disco
November 28th, 2012
9:07 am
lol. good morning y’all. guess I’m way off base. I immediately thought first love as first childhood crush. I had a thing for a little boy named “JB” in my second grade class. even to this day my mother recalls how I talked about him constantly. in school, elementary and junior high, we were never anything more than competitors. always trying to see who would get the best grades or win the spelling bee or whatever. we went to different high schools. our families are still in touch – I actually visited his father over the summer. JB is a doctor now and married and all that. I wish him the best. I did tell him once back when we were in our 20s how I crushed on him in elementary. he claimed to never have noticed. go figure.
MsAtl
November 28th, 2012
9:21 am
Morning All!
I don’t think it would bother me much if someone I once loved had no memory of our time together. There had to be a reason he was a “once.”
disco
November 28th, 2012
9:23 am
ms. atl – barring the traumatic brain injury type incident I don’t think I would even buy the “I don’t remember you” line. I’d accept it for what it is “I wish I’d never met your janky A” and keep it moving. shoot, I don’t deny there’s some folks in my past I wish I’d never come across but pretending not to know them is just childish.
MsAtl
November 28th, 2012
9:32 am
Disco- Janky? Had to laugh at that. Okay, I read Diva as saying they had no memory of specific times/ incidents. If someone claimed not to remember me at all, then yes, I would call BS. It seems this guy had the TBI type injury, so he can get a pass.
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
9:48 am
I wouldn’t be ticked that he didn’t remember anything because he had an accident. With that aside, to not remember me and dismiss me as an average joe blow with all your faculties in tact would bother me. You cared enough back then to date me, I sho hope I made an impact somewhere on your timeline of life.
Morning…blah, blah, blah!
disco
November 28th, 2012
9:49 am
ms. atl – yeah. janky is one of my words. I just like the way it sounds. the movie the vow was on recently. I guess it would suck to be married and have your spouse wake up and not remember who you were. guess it would suck know matter who it was: spouse, parent, child, friend. guess memory is one of those things we take for granted.
leggs – blah blah blah back at you.
Comon Cents
November 28th, 2012
9:57 am
Who cares if an ex remembers you? Hell, I would like my exes to forget me completely!
However, in this case, I have to say that it’s pretty crass to be hurt that someone who had a traumatic brain injury did not remember you. I mean, really? Jesus H. the man almost died and you’re upset that he doesn’t remember a relationship from 10-20 years ago?!? (estimating the time as I don’t know how old MIA is or how old she was when she had her first love)
Good Morning, bloggies!
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
10:11 am
Thanks disco!
abc
November 28th, 2012
10:13 am
I’ve actually had girls from high school contact me about ‘remember when’ and they were pretty offended when I didn’t; but, I really don’t, so while I feel bad for them about it, I figure it can’t have really been all that memorable.
Just stop with the Facebook nonsense.
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
10:13 am
However, in this case, I have to say that it’s pretty crass to be hurt that someone who had a traumatic brain injury did not remember you. – Yeah, that was my point, but I’m loss for words this morning (lol).
disco
November 28th, 2012
10:16 am
leggs – you are welcome. I, for one, understand blah blah blah. lol.
abc – nothing wrong with not remembering specific incidents but to front like you don’t remember the person might be going too far. just my opinion though. granted there’s lots of folks I’m sure I’ve forgotten about but I would like to believe that I would remember everyone I actually “got busy” with. when you get to the point that you don’t remember them, your memory isn’t the most important problem you have.
Comon Cents
November 28th, 2012
10:24 am
Leggs~ Thats what I’m here for. lol!
And disco, blah blah blah…
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
10:31 am
Disco, while you may think you may have had a significant roll in their lives, you may not have. I really don’t remember everyone I’ve gotten busy with.
” Do you remember your first love? The first person that made you feel intense emotions? The one that first broke your heart?.”
While they may have been all the above to you, to them, you were just a bump in the road. I recently reunited with a girl after 30 years that I had a major crush on during high school, we were in the same homeroom for 4 years, and took several classes together, after awhile of getting reacquainted in my mind, she told me she didn’t remember me at all, while over the years I’d often wonder what happened to her.
disco
November 28th, 2012
10:31 am
any of y’all co-workers collecting for the powerball pool? I never participate but then I have to hope and pray my co-workers don’t win. lol.
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
10:31 am
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
10:34 am
I accidentally put my winning powerball numbers on a Mega Millions ticket. Tried to give back to the woman behind counter, but she couldn’t take them back. So now, I have 8 tix. 4 mega and 4 powerball. Hopefully, my mistake will at least let me recoup my $12.
disco
November 28th, 2012
10:34 am
S/H – in my opinion – and this is just me – if you don’t remember everyone you’ve slept with then you may have slept with too many people. mind you, it’s not for me to say what number is too many but ijs…
btw – your example I can get with. the significant difference though is it was just a one-sided crush. there was no relationship. if the crush never even knew you were checking for them you can’t hold that against them.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
10:35 am
My co-workers started a pool, if I don’t win, I would hope they would win, because it would be a win win situation, either way, I won’t be around them anymore (LOL)
disco
November 28th, 2012
10:38 am
leggs – earlier this year a friend asked me to pick up some powerball tickets. I don’t normally play numbers so I was actually standing off to the side like the village idiot reading the instructions on the little card you fill in. anyway, when I did go up to the cashier someone ahead of me had walked off and left their tickets on the counter ($25 worth). you see my dilemma. lol. long story short, I scooped up their tickets, bought my tickets and rolled out. the whole time I’m watching the door thinking someone was going to come in looking for their tickets. I remember telling everyone I felt just like the thief that I was. they tried to console me by telling me “finders keepers”.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
10:40 am
Disco, I can’t remember all the details, but I think I tried, but it didn’t bother me either way, she knows me now
And you can never sleep with too many people, now to few is a whole nother issue (LOL)
and the school situation, because of our names we were always seated close enough to have conversations, so she knew me then, just didn’t remember me.
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
10:42 am
disco ~ I was at the counter sometime ago when I noticed someone left their tix behind. I had them in my hand when the cashier said “you’re not taking those are you?” I said, of course not. Just looking at the numbers and handed them over. She cleared my conscious for me.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
10:44 am
Disco, if they don’t sign the back of the ticket, it’s anybody’s ticket, finders keepers, loosers weepers (LOL)
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
10:46 am
Leggs, she said that because she wanted them (LOL) there have been several instances where the clerks have stole tickets, and one case where a lady found a winning ticket in the garbage and the store sued saying it belonged to them.
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
10:48 am
I thought that too, Single!! But one thing I do know, God don’t like ugly so I try not to do too much wrong. I don’t necessarily walk the straight and narrow, but my walk is only slightly crooked (lol).
disco
November 28th, 2012
10:48 am
leggs – good for you and the cashier. I needed someone to clear my conscious. I swear I felt like the po-po were going to pull me over at any moment behind some daggone lottery tickets. I was nervous for real. (I’ve done my dirt but stealing was never my thing). it didn’t help that the folks that I called to confess my sin were all talking about I would have been a fool to leave them there. the found tickets did win a little something but certainly not jackpot money.
S/H – also the states have conducted stings where they send folks in with winning tickets and have them ask the clerk if they won and the clerk says no and keeps the ticket. greed is a muthah.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
10:54 am
There was a guy on this show about lottery winners, who won and lost everything, took the ticket to the store and the clerk told him it didn’t win. A couple of days later he looked at the numbers and realized he did win, but the clerk didn’t give him back his ticket, needless to say when he went looking for the clerk he was long gone. tried to pursue it through the police and lottery offices but because he didn’t sign the back of the ticket, it wasn’t his. So if you find a winning ticket and there is no signature, it’s your ticket, by law that is.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
10:57 am
Leggs, If I found some money and someone came and said they lost the amount I found I would give it to them, or if I saw the person that left the tickets, I would let them know. but if I found the ticket for that half a billion, (hell here I come) (LOL)
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
10:59 am
Disco, don’t know why these lottery players don’t sign their tickets when the get them, that way even the clerks can’t steal them.
disco
November 28th, 2012
11:00 am
a family member went to bingo the other night with $20 and left $1800 richer. I haven’t played bingo in 25 or 30 years but maybe I need to go find me a bingo hall to hang out in every now and again
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
11:05 am
Disco..re Powerball?
I don’t know if I would be off base but ummmmm…
I did a budget in that $5hundred mil!
And I got the resignation letter off work ready on the lap email..ready to hit submit with a thud!
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
11:05 am
blah blah blah….I gotcha Single! When I left the store this morning, this guy was standing outside drinking coffee. He asked if I had the winning numbers. I shrugged my shoulders. He asked if I would buy him a cup of coffee if I won tomorrow morning. I said sure.
Speaking of that, let me tell you a kindhearted foolish thing I did last night. There’s this vagrant that stands outside the likka store I frequent shining hubcaps for people to spare change. He’s been doing this a few years. He asked if I was cooking Tksgiving dinner if I would bring him a plate. I agreed. We scheduled pickup for last night. He wasn’t there. I actually waited 5 mins then left. I remembered that he sometimes will be at the gas station across the street. Don’t you know I made a U-turn and went across the street looking for him. He wasn’t there so I had to go to the next light and make another turn to get back on street to go home. As I was driving by the last gas station I spotted him standing in the corner. I made another U turn, gave him the plate and laughed at myself all the way home. Felt like those people searching derelict row looking for loved ones.
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
11:05 am
I just pulled my tix out and signed them!!!
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
11:06 am
Budget on the..
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
11:11 am
If I don’t hit this lotto(banish that thought!!) I be really crushed.
and MIA….after I win(not if) u be the first to know…that tmrw.
Promise!
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
11:17 am
If you won the lottery, would A) be at the lottery office when it opened, B) consult a lawyer and accountant before claiming your prize.
for me it would be A, don’t need to talk to anyone about my money
disco
November 28th, 2012
11:24 am
S/H – your post re what to do with lottery winnings reminded me of this morning’s radio call in which in turn reminded me of yesterday’s radio call in. the doug banks show I think. the topic was for folks to call in and tell about the worse beat down they ever got. some chick called in and said she was riding the bus with a friend, just sitting on the bus talking smack about everyone who got on the bus. said a midget got on and she talked about her too. turns out they got off at the same stop and the midget called her out and had her scared to get off the bus. she said the bus driver finally made her get off. when she got off she said the chick straight stole on her and beat her down right at the door of the bus. she said she could hear laughing and she swears she was seeing stars. I was driving along cracking up.
Albert
November 28th, 2012
11:36 am
Wise Diva, was this guy on the level, or just yanking your chain?
kimmie
November 28th, 2012
11:42 am
Hey errbody!!!
Dude had brain injury and lost his memory of me? All bets are off! Diva, your first reaction to that is jacked up! My ego would never have ever come to play in a case like that!
Disco, I agree with your 9:23. That “I don’t remember you” game is childish. You might not remember every detail, but yo behind remembers!
Either way, I’ve so moved on from the past. I don’t care if any of my exes remember me. Hope they are all doing well, but that’s it. Don’t have no kids with none of them, so no need to keep contact in any way.
Speaking of lotto, how about a good friend of mine called me this morning mad at her boyfriend. He went thru a nasty divorce and is still battling his ex over the kids. Naturally he’s a little gun-shy when it comes to marriage and relationships. Anyway, they got to talking about if he won the lottery and she said until they get this custody thing straight with the kids he should probably put his winnings in someone else’s name. He said if he did, he would put the money in his mom or sister’s name. My friend got mad because she said they are in love and she would not hesitate to put the money in his name if she was in a similiar situation. I told her I understood where dude was coming from. He’s been burned and not as trusting. Yall all in love now, but you are not married and stuff changes, like it did for him & his ex. I told her she needed to be just as smart about her money when it comes to someone she’s not married too. She’s all running thru the daisies, but she needs to be alot more practical. I told her I never got into any financial intanglements with anyone I was not married to!!
DuShawn
November 28th, 2012
11:47 am
I remember reconnecting with this chick that I hadn’t seen in twenty years. We got to reminiscing about how we used to get it in. I told her I remembered how that thang used to smack. I’m thinking she gone speak on how I used to beat it up or my skillz in the sheets. She said she only remembered how much I used to sweat…….I’m like….ouch! I got real quiet after that.
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
11:49 am
Kimmie.. Lol
Ur friend is very delusional honestly!
…giving a girlfriend custody of my half a bill$$ lotto winnings? Really?
How old is this ‘in love’ friend Kimmie?
Kraaaaeeezey!
kimmie
November 28th, 2012
12:03 pm
Exiled – Almost 40 – too old!! And divorced herself, so she outght to know better!!!
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
12:16 pm
Kimmie, now this guy is someone who needs to consult a lawyer before doing anything, things can backfire on you in heart beat.
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
1:09 pm
I see this page hasn’t really moved any.
kimmie ~ she should smack herself into reality. I wish I would put someone that I’m dating as a beneficiary of my winnings. Not going to happen.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
1:21 pm
Leggs, she’s not talking a beneficiary, she wants him to put it in her name.
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
1:24 pm
Then she kills him off and takes off w/the money!
abc
November 28th, 2012
1:28 pm
Actually, I can think of a couple of exes that I WISH would forget they ever knew me.
kimmie
November 28th, 2012
1:31 pm
As much as I obviously loved my now husband when we were dating, no way would I have even considered being so clueless and wreckless as that.
The more you guys talk about it and I think about it, it’s really disturbing me that she hasn’t progressed further along than this. Imma have to call her tonight and have a sister-friend talk with some tough love!
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
1:32 pm
Leggs, she wouldn’t have to kill him, just take off with the money, a risk he would take by putting it in anyone else’s name.
Scenario 1, gives mom ticket, mom signs ticket, mom dies of heart attack, now winnings go to next of kin, husband and siblings.
Scenario 2, gives sister ticket, sister signs ticket, sister dies in car accident, winnings go to husband and kids.
Scenario 3, gives ticket to girlfriend, girlfriend signs ticket, girlfriend runs off with me
I like scenario 3 (LOL)
Delvon
November 28th, 2012
1:34 pm
Used to dabble on FB. Got my twitting turned up but don’t do the blast from the past folks too tuff.
kimmie
November 28th, 2012
1:37 pm
Dang Single, can’t “win” for losing!!LOL!!
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
1:38 pm
Media has been running stories on some that won lottery and how they lost it all. One man went to his sister’s house. Once he got there sister was telling brother that she was having car trouble. Brother refused to help her so sister and her boyfriend killed the brother and tried to claim the rest of his money. Seriously, people are so greedy they can’t see the fallacy in their own crimes. What an idiot! Now, they’re both serving life!!!!
kimmie
November 28th, 2012
1:40 pm
Leggs, I heard that story. Crazy!!
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
1:40 pm
I’m gon see a lawyer and accountant and split my lotto in half,one half to Queen and kids and the rest to me.
Then we divorce!
She ain’t gon pout,I know that.
For me,I gotta take my loot to some exotic locale somewhere in a Tropical island(s)
Can’t enjoy this unless I got some topless Brazilian gals hovering and nibbling with me.
If I get broke,which is unlikely,the kids will implore Queen to take me back.
She is my insurance.
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
1:41 pm
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
1:44 pm
If I get broke, – Had to laugh….you will be so far up someone’s puddy, you will be robbed every time. Yous a sexual fiend and all that white stuff will be blinding you. Wait, you don’t do oral, but you’ll still be blinded because you will be a man ho! Said with love (lol).
Delvon
November 28th, 2012
1:45 pm
Work peeps trynna get er’body to go in together for the lottery. Don’t really like’em that much no way and def. don’t trust’em. Nawh, I’m good! Besides, they probably gon jinx the digits anyway.
Delvon
November 28th, 2012
1:48 pm
Enter your comments here
kimmie
November 28th, 2012
1:49 pm
Delvon – One chick I work with kinda got mad at me about the lotto this morning. She works with a different team and I heard them pooling their money and plotting. I walked by and told them I was not going in with anybody cause when I win I want ALL my money!LOL!! Errbody else laughed at me, but she seemed a little miffed and couldn’t “believe” I said that!!
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
1:51 pm
Kimmie, that’s what I told my co-workers to, I don’t like them well enough to share with them. (lol)
Delvon
November 28th, 2012
1:52 pm
Yep…they tripped a minute cause I did go in. Way I see it, it’s my money…my choice. Feel yah tho on that.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 28th, 2012
1:52 pm
Whew, finally back to my desk….so we’re now trying to figure out how to steal other people’s winning lotto tickets? The beau called me from the damn woods to make sure I played some numbers for him….aka US
Delvon
November 28th, 2012
1:55 pm
Folk up in here get it twisted. Just cuz we work together, does not make us friends, buddies or pals…we just work at the same place. Nawh, I’on wanna go to lunch wit yah, no I don’t wanna go out for drinks, I aint coming to yo house…we just work at the same place. I’m good got my own crew for social activities.
kimmie
November 28th, 2012
2:03 pm
Single – I was just laughing with one of my coworkers about how crazy I was when I was single about not getting tied up financially with a dude I’m just dating. I told her I actually had to think about putting my now hubs on my Costco membership so he could pick up some things for me when we were dating!
Delvon
November 28th, 2012
2:04 pm
Anybody tailgating for the game?
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
2:04 pm
Delvon, have you met disco (lol).
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
2:06 pm
Kimmie, so why is the one of the worse things you can say to a girlfriend is, it’s my money, can’t I do what I want to with it??
Hell we ain’t married, it is my money!!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 28th, 2012
2:09 pm
I have a question about the lotto stuff…so if someone who might not be in a lottery state, asks you to get them a few tickets, and if they hit, is it really their ticket? Would you feel right about just giving them the ticket knowing that they won??? OR would you give it to them and just expect them the split it with you?
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
2:11 pm
things that make you go hmmmmm
http://www.boston.com/news/nation/2012/11/28/dallas-trucker-talks-about-time-mexican-prison/ykSX7PCTRgdUq8s2oMeltI/story.html
Delvon
November 28th, 2012
2:12 pm
Nawh!! Don’t know the guy.
Boy they on it today in dis piece. Been pulling dis gig for 2years now, I aint neva did they secret Santa BS or they Christmas luncheon, they ack like I have changed.
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
2:12 pm
Best way to do that is to immediately call them with their numbers. If they hit, they hit. Don’t expect them to split their winnings with you, but expect them to give you something. I would have said all this when I called with their numbers. Yo a$$ is breaking me off something, and I don’t mean a nominal fee.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
2:13 pm
Slim, if they gave you the money for the ticket, why would you expect them to split with you? Would you feel right if you turned in the ticket? Would you split with them?
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
2:15 pm
If you asking me to buy you a ticket, you better be sending me some money right away!! No money, no ticket!! cause if it wins and I haven’t been paid, it’s my ticket!!
kimmie
November 28th, 2012
2:17 pm
Single – It wouldn’t have been the worst thing with me at all. A big part of my attitude about the whole thing is how I was raised. My parents stressed not taking much from people, especially men you are just dating beyond bday and Christmas gifts. If I had trouble paying a bill, a boyfriend would be the very last resort and even then it would depend on the amount. Otherwise I found a way to get the money on my own or my family would help. I don’t mind giving and always been very generous, but I’m no fool either. You keep your money(along with your debt) and I keep mine until we are legal.
I am very unusual, I know.
disco
November 28th, 2012
2:17 pm
hey y’all. I’se back. kimmie – re your friend and her dude’s hypothetical lottery situation I know a dude who wins from time to time. not millions but tens of thousands at a pop. one time $60k I know. anyway, he’s married and has a couple of baby momma’s. he puts his winnings in his mother’s name. once the streets got to talking about him winning and a baby momma had him in court trying to get her hands on the lottery money. no haps. she got nada.
also I have a male friend who plays the lottery faithfully. I asked him how many tickets he bought. he said 10. then had the nerve to ask me if I would marry him if he had the winning ticket. I replied sure, we can stop at the justice of the peace on the way to the lottery headquarters. lol. he then emailed back talking about why don’t I marry him anyway. ??? I’m not sure what’s up with that so I left it alone.
Delvon
November 28th, 2012
2:19 pm
I’d be decent about it. We can work something out about the winnings, if not…I’m cashing OUT, gon have a condo round neck .
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
2:20 pm
I ain’t buying nobody a ticket coz I don’t want none of that after my luck hits. What I buy is mine and mines..
Coz money changes folks including me so …agh naw.
If u don’t live here or in a State with lotto..too bad,I ain’t helping u with that.
Besides it’s just greedy trying to get a lotto somewhere else coz ur state don’t have it.
We don’t have free healthcare here in GA and I ain’t going to Massachusetts when I get sick…just because.
So..
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
2:21 pm
Disco ole dude is crazy for letting people know he wins. Your business will not get out if you don’t tell it!!
MsAtl
November 28th, 2012
2:22 pm
My office has a lottery pool. Whoever collects the money to buy the tickets holds on to the tickets but everyone has a copy of the tickets. Whichever co-worker decides to sit out the drawing, we let them know that when we win we will hire a clown to follow them around for a month throwing crumpled dollar bills at them.
Kimmie- I’m feeling you on the Costco card thing. If they bounce a check, aren’t you responsible?
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
2:23 pm
Slim…jes tell ur Alabama fo to stay in der lane!
disco
November 28th, 2012
2:23 pm
leggs – re that 2:04 to delvon. I was thinking the same thing. lol.
S/H – folks who are gambling buddies have systems in place. my peeps go into the bingo hall or the casino or wherever knowing that all winnings are to be split such and such way. folks better have the talk before and not after. I’m with you though if I bought “your” ticket with “my” money, it’s really “my” ticket unless I want to give it to you.
Delvon
November 28th, 2012
2:24 pm
If I win, me and the chief gon have a meeting first, so I can get clarity about my next move.
kimmie
November 28th, 2012
2:30 pm
MsAtl – Probably would be responsible. I didn’t think about check writing then, probably cause hubs almost never writes checks anyway, just cash, debit or his Amex. See, good thing for him, cause if I had considered the check writing thing, the answer would have been no!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 28th, 2012
2:35 pm
SH – Like my mom called and asked me to get some tickets and gave me some numbers to play…but of course she didn’t mail me any money. So if i’m buying the ticket even though they are your numbers, sounds like the only fair thing to do is share the winnings. But if they are just QP’s then sounds like you’re assed out
kimmie
November 28th, 2012
2:42 pm
My crazy friend’s boyfriend is a generous guy. If he won, he would give her a nice chunk anyway, cause that’s the type of guy he is. Even if they broke up, unless she just did something horrible to him, he’d still have her & her daughter set. Its just no need for her to trip over the tecnnicalities of the situation when they are not married!
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
2:45 pm
There’s no need to trip, period! he hasn’t won anything.
disco
November 28th, 2012
2:46 pm
so what have the blog folks won? personally, I’m not very lucky and I’m not a big gambler to boot. I don’t enter many contests so needless to say I don’t often win things. I have won a few event tickets here and there and a few door prizes.
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
2:49 pm
Disco..if i win..umm when I win u aint gon get none coz I don’t even know ur city.
Other blog folks that I got their email add?
Maybe a stack$$ each.
kimmie
November 28th, 2012
2:49 pm
There’s no need to trip, period! he hasn’t won anything
Single – BINGO!! LOL!! you are so right!!
kimmie
November 28th, 2012
2:50 pm
disco – I’d bet my money on Leggs! She’s always winning stuff!!
i'm swiss
November 28th, 2012
2:52 pm
Just to p!ss on everyone’s parade with some probability comparisons:
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/03/30/15-things-more-likely-to-happen-than-winning-mega-millions.html
And, yes, I do have my (one) ticket for tonight, just in case…
disco
November 28th, 2012
2:53 pm
kimmie – I (we all) know leggs is lucky like that. I just wonder if anyone else ever won anything worth mentioning. no jackpots? no new cars? no year’s supply of krispy kreme? nothing? if leggs is the only person on the blog with any luck then we are a janky crew all around.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 28th, 2012
2:54 pm
jes tell ur Alabama fo to stay in der lane!
Ex – I’m not paying you any mind…how bout dat
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
2:56 pm
I won a stereo from Captain D’s
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 28th, 2012
2:57 pm
kimmie – An old coworker of mine always wins things…she won a car before as she joined a raffle at the last minute. She always wins cash 3’s, 4’s stuff like that. So of course I called her for some numbers last night.
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
2:59 pm
Lol Swiss..jus in case?
U don’t even believe ur nerdy stats?
Accident odd 1 in 6,700? Damn
We might lose some blog fo on the road this year,quite possible.
kimmie
November 28th, 2012
2:59 pm
Disco – You are hilarious!! The most I’ve won in the lottery is $75 on a scratch off years ago. I hit the $40 Triple 7 “jackpot” on a dime machine in Vegas back in the 90’s. I’ve one a few door prizes and raffles here and there, won a toaster oven and a Target gift card for $20.
Imma winnah!!!
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:00 pm
the way you guys go on about dream, surprised someone doesn’t have a dream book for number
kimmie
November 28th, 2012
3:01 pm
won, not one
what’s wrong with me??
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:01 pm
I did break even in Vega’s so I guess you can call that winning, $500
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
3:05 pm
Slim.,,tell Officer that the wedding of him and Slim Cootey is on me.
U ain’t gotta do nothing.
It will be catered and evthang
All he gotta do is drop that knee and pop the ???
and ofcourse the ring is on him.
At least he gotta show me he wants it…put hos skin in the game,so to say..,
Then Uncle Meeelo take over!
U like dat?
disco
November 28th, 2012
3:07 pm
kimmie – yes. you are a winner. lol.
S/H – I do have a dream book with numbers. thing is I don’t play numbers. I have a few folks that I call when I specifically dream numbers and a few of them have hit. I recently told a friend about a number I had dreamed. she wrote it down for her hubs but forgot about it. a week or so later she remembered and got the number out of her car. her hubs looked it up and it had fallen twice the previous week. her hubs told me to call him directly if I ever dream numbers again.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 28th, 2012
3:16 pm
Ex – Email me all this in your real name, signed and notarized. Comon, where are ya when I need ya?
Today this customer that comes in almost every week was asking me that “Why aren’t you married question?…and the “what is he waiting for question”…He was like, you need to tell him that there are many men here that think highly of you and think you’re a very nice lady, so he needs to put some fire under his butt.
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
3:18 pm
There’s no need to trip, period! he hasn’t won anything. – EXACTLY!!!
A friend just fainted after finding out my age. I’m trying to revive them now!!!!
MsAtl
November 28th, 2012
3:18 pm
Outside of the office pool, I bought my own. To my surprise, the clerk winked at me and gave me a free ticket.
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
3:22 pm
I’m still hoping to win a car, and I’m still waiting on Pricehouse Sweepstakes to ring my bell!
disco
November 28th, 2012
3:22 pm
to all of you talking about he hasn’t won anything yet. she’s being proactive. just in case he wins she can argue that they had an oral agreement in place if she can get him to “jokingly” say he’ll give her X amount of money. it’s not a strong leg to stand on but crazier things have been known to happen.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:24 pm
disco, she was saying put the ticket in her name because he doesn’t want it in his nam
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 28th, 2012
3:28 pm
Slim is now signing the back’s of all her lotto tickets
disco
November 28th, 2012
3:29 pm
S/H – oh. thanks. you see I done forgot the whole backdrop. just remembered old girl was trying to get her hands on the loot. re that putting stuff in other people’s name. that’s one I don’t play too much. back in the day when I used to hold things I let my boys know if something happens and you end up dead I’m not giving anything to your momma or your baby momma. if you want them to have it you ought to ask them to hold it.
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
3:29 pm
SlimNu ~ with all this talk, I signed mine this morning!!!
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
3:32 pm
“I let my boys know if something happens and you end up dead I’m not giving anything to your momma or your baby momma.” – I understand the baby momma, but aren’t you the momma of your boys??? You don’t sound like the neighborhood parent parenting the boys in the neighborhood. More like standing on your porch with a shotgun yelling for them to take their narrow behinds out your yard (lol). Sorry, I loves you disco and your style!!!! And you know this….
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:34 pm
Leggs, I don’t think she’s talking about her son (LOL)
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:35 pm
and don’t think it was their paycheck from the legit job either (LOL)
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
3:35 pm
Yeah, I gathered (lol).
disco
November 28th, 2012
3:36 pm
S/H – right. I’m not talking about my son. talking about them other “boys”.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:38 pm
rock boys in the house (LOL)
i'm swiss
November 28th, 2012
3:38 pm
If I were to suddenly come into that kind of cash, your boy would disappear. I’d set up an anonymous trust to take care of my dad & sister (and possibly Mrs. Swiss’s mom, if she wanted — though, she might not, given their relationship), and otherwise, nobody I currently know would have any idea what happened. Make up some excuse about having to move for work or something, and folks would never see my azz again.
i'm swiss
November 28th, 2012
3:39 pm
The above is with the Mrs & baby included, of course…
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:41 pm
I would disappear for a little while to get used to my new found wealth.
disco
November 28th, 2012
3:42 pm
swiss – mm hmm. of course.
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 28th, 2012
3:43 pm
I’m all late and stuff:
On topic: Shame on you Diva
Dude had a legitimate reason for not remembering. First loves? Umm, I’m cool if you can’t remember. Keep everything in it’s season. IJS
I see MMeello is in the house and all chatty and feeling charitable today, volunteering to pay for Slim’s wedding. Woo hoo, hope Queen is cool with that. You know us women. IJS If you win, surely you gon break a sista off right? LOLOL
On lotto: Don’t play, so nothing there.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:44 pm
so would it annuity, or cash option,
For me annuity, I want all the money I can get
disco
November 28th, 2012
3:44 pm
so…I’m guessing most folks would use a little bit of their money for good but is anyone willing to admit that they’d use their money for “evil”. not necessarily evil evil but you know with enough money you can buy some good “get back”. anyone?
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 28th, 2012
3:45 pm
Hmmm, looks like Ex gave me the ole banana in the tail pipe move. (4, 3, 2, …..)
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
3:45 pm
Swiss..3;39 I am dissappointed in you!
thought we were(me & u) gon meet somewhere for debauchery,with ALL that money and me,ur closest relative.
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
3:47 pm
Slim..i got u…we dont need no snake oill folks Common folks in this arrangement…..
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:49 pm
don’t know about good get back, but the list of names that I’ve slept with would increase (LOL) don’t have anyone one I want to get back at
disco
November 28th, 2012
3:53 pm
S/H – so, what you are saying is, mo money will provide you with more puddy? are you assuming more chicks will be throwing themselves at you or are you admitting that you’ll have more money to buy more puddy? I’m just trying to be clear in my understanding of the situation.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:58 pm
Disco, all of the above
disco
November 28th, 2012
4:00 pm
well S/H since it’s just me and you (ain’t nobody else listening or reading right now) – just how much will “Single and Happy, new millionaire club member” be willing to pay for puddy?
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
4:03 pm
Disco..more money gives one access to more high class puddy?
some of uall puddy is washed in simple soap…now higher value puddy is fumigated in mix of oil,gold,lavendar etc…not washed…
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
4:05 pm
disco, puddy aint free, not even one night stands, you have to buy drinks to get those
disco
November 28th, 2012
4:06 pm
S/H – you act like you schooling me on puddy not being free. I know that. still it comes in all price ranges. I was just asking what millionare single and happy would be willing to pay. give it some thought and get back at me. lol.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
4:06 pm
Ex, high class puddy, what the heck is that it’s all the same (LOL)
Think I’ll stick with the simple soap
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
4:08 pm
disco, I would have to see the puddy before i could put a price on it, or at least see the body that the puddy is encased in (LOL)
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
4:09 pm
Now Disco..u know u lower income chics say no puddy is ever gon be served jes coz a dude bought u dranks in the club or something..
now the more money u got,the mo dranks u buy and the more puddy is offered to u….hows that?
Coz when u got money,the chics point to u and say…”oh,hey check,thats the dude with Romney kind money” and ALL the girls are ga ga,in wonderment…
The moment i say,’whats up” shes already squirting,pining to go with me home….
More money,more free puddy,Less fronting by chics!
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
4:13 pm
Single..so u tell me puddy thats fed on SNAP(food stamps) is same value as puddy that eats caviar,fresh veggies,Ruth’s steak and lobster and deep sea fish nd oyster etc?
Dont think so?
disco
November 28th, 2012
4:14 pm
S/H – you cracking me up today.
ex – the game ain’t never about how much money a fellow has. it’s about how much of it he’s willing to part with. a stingy millionaire ain’t worth nearly as much as the generous guy who works two jobs but just wants you to be happy. lol.
where did everyone else go?
Comon Cents
November 28th, 2012
4:14 pm
Slim~ Sorry, I had to go ghost for a few hours, but I’se be back now!
I too have been a winner. I won a trip to Marlboro Racing School at Atlanta Motor Speedway, Tickets to a Bon Jovi concert and I have left up (substantially) on Vegas every time.
Ok, reading to catch up with the current topic.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
4:15 pm
yea ex it has the same value
disco
November 28th, 2012
4:19 pm
CC – there ain’t no current topic. trying to come up with a current coochie value. is there a going market rate based on condition or is value determined solely by the purchaser? there’s so many variables. lol.
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
4:21 pm
Ex ~ if you want a banging good time in the bedroom you might want to sample that puddy on food stamps. But if you think the puddy rocks better because it’s living high on the hog, I’d bet you’re chances of laying with a Frigidaire increases!
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
4:22 pm
Now you can put a value on the coochie, but just like everything else, you have to find someone willing to pay it. Now if you let the purchaser put a value on it, you’ll probably go broke.
Comon Cents
November 28th, 2012
4:24 pm
we dont need no snake oill folks Common folks in this arrangement…..
Slim, don’t listen to that hot gabage! That’s what they all say BEFORE they get the goods. You know I got yo back girl!
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
4:24 pm
Well said leggs, food stamp coochie will try to earn those green stamps, while green stamp coochie thinks she’s earned by giving you the privilage of seeing it
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
4:26 pm
Comon, I never got that email, here’s my addy again Incognegro1962@yahoo.com
Everyone feel free to send pictures (rotflmao)
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
4:28 pm
I doubt Single would even think of going down on food stamp coochie…i mean, it dont even look healthy
skin is ashy and flaby and all
Unless if his MO is to squint or close his eyes when giving oral
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
4:28 pm
PEACE!
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
4:30 pm
Before I go, Ex, your mental picture of what a person on food stamps looks like is disturbing.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
4:31 pm
ex, if I can’t go down it, I sho aint sticking nothing else in it!!
and vice versa!!
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
4:33 pm
time to, go have a good one
disco
November 28th, 2012
4:36 pm
y’all off. s/h – I hear you on the value. you can claim something is worth whatever you think it’s worth but it’s really only worth what someone is willing to pay for it. sentimental value don’t mean jack.
ex – you are likely chit chatting with food stamp folks each and every day. trust when I say, you don’t know who among you has a food stamp card.
Comon Cents
November 28th, 2012
4:43 pm
S/H~ You still here?
i'm swiss
November 28th, 2012
4:49 pm
Off topic: The little one’s stroller & car seat arrived today… Crib & nursery furniture next week, & wifi video baby monitor is on the way, too. I think the only thing missing now is the Baby Bjorn…
D@mn these little munchkins have too many accessories.
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
4:49 pm
Single u said going down is ur first choice right?
so no sticking for u!