Distant memory to no memory
I am filing this one under: “I hate Facebook.” Do you remember your first love? The first person that made you feel intense emotions? The one that first broke your heart? Well, imagine the person telling you that they don’t remember ANY of that…and barely remember you.
My first love found me on Facebook and sent a friend request. He proceeded to tell me that because of tragic motorcycle accident, he has nearly NO long-term memory. He only remembers that he knew me. That’s it. Ouch, right? Since we have mutual friends, I was shocked that I had not heard of his accident.
I admit, my inner egomaniac/self-absorbed side was kind of devastated to learn that MY role in his life is so ..diminished, now? I actually considered going in and ticking off all the hurtful things that he did to me. How dare HE gets a clean slate while I am stuck with the bittersweet memories? Why can’t I get in on that Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind kind of action??
Then, I got over myself. He is struggling with the ordeal of losing large parts of his memory. Surely, I can suck it up and spare him the gory details of something that happened years ago. If he asks me, I will be honest as possible, but tread lightly. No good can come from making him feel worse. He has been through enough, obviously.
I started to think of how I would handle losing my memory of the people I once loved. Would there be at least one person I would literally WANT to forget? If I didn’t have all my “wisdom” from my dating misadventures, would I be doomed to repeat the same mistakes?
Would it bother you if someone you once loved had no memory of your time together?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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SlimNu: Life always happens
November 28th, 2012
2:57 pm
kimmie – An old coworker of mine always wins things…she won a car before as she joined a raffle at the last minute. She always wins cash 3’s, 4’s stuff like that. So of course I called her for some numbers last night.
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
2:59 pm
Lol Swiss..jus in case?
U don’t even believe ur nerdy stats?
Accident odd 1 in 6,700? Damn
We might lose some blog fo on the road this year,quite possible.
kimmie
November 28th, 2012
2:59 pm
Disco – You are hilarious!! The most I’ve won in the lottery is $75 on a scratch off years ago. I hit the $40 Triple 7 “jackpot” on a dime machine in Vegas back in the 90’s. I’ve one a few door prizes and raffles here and there, won a toaster oven and a Target gift card for $20.
Imma winnah!!!
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:00 pm
the way you guys go on about dream, surprised someone doesn’t have a dream book for number
kimmie
November 28th, 2012
3:01 pm
won, not one
what’s wrong with me??
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:01 pm
I did break even in Vega’s so I guess you can call that winning, $500
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
3:05 pm
Slim.,,tell Officer that the wedding of him and Slim Cootey is on me.
U ain’t gotta do nothing.
It will be catered and evthang
All he gotta do is drop that knee and pop the ???
and ofcourse the ring is on him.
At least he gotta show me he wants it…put hos skin in the game,so to say..,
Then Uncle Meeelo take over!
U like dat?
disco
November 28th, 2012
3:07 pm
kimmie – yes. you are a winner. lol.
S/H – I do have a dream book with numbers. thing is I don’t play numbers. I have a few folks that I call when I specifically dream numbers and a few of them have hit. I recently told a friend about a number I had dreamed. she wrote it down for her hubs but forgot about it. a week or so later she remembered and got the number out of her car. her hubs looked it up and it had fallen twice the previous week. her hubs told me to call him directly if I ever dream numbers again.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 28th, 2012
3:16 pm
Ex – Email me all this in your real name, signed and notarized. Comon, where are ya when I need ya?
Today this customer that comes in almost every week was asking me that “Why aren’t you married question?…and the “what is he waiting for question”…He was like, you need to tell him that there are many men here that think highly of you and think you’re a very nice lady, so he needs to put some fire under his butt.
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
3:18 pm
There’s no need to trip, period! he hasn’t won anything. – EXACTLY!!!
A friend just fainted after finding out my age. I’m trying to revive them now!!!!
MsAtl
November 28th, 2012
3:18 pm
Outside of the office pool, I bought my own. To my surprise, the clerk winked at me and gave me a free ticket.
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
3:22 pm
I’m still hoping to win a car, and I’m still waiting on Pricehouse Sweepstakes to ring my bell!
disco
November 28th, 2012
3:22 pm
to all of you talking about he hasn’t won anything yet. she’s being proactive. just in case he wins she can argue that they had an oral agreement in place if she can get him to “jokingly” say he’ll give her X amount of money. it’s not a strong leg to stand on but crazier things have been known to happen.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:24 pm
disco, she was saying put the ticket in her name because he doesn’t want it in his nam
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 28th, 2012
3:28 pm
Slim is now signing the back’s of all her lotto tickets
disco
November 28th, 2012
3:29 pm
S/H – oh. thanks. you see I done forgot the whole backdrop. just remembered old girl was trying to get her hands on the loot. re that putting stuff in other people’s name. that’s one I don’t play too much. back in the day when I used to hold things I let my boys know if something happens and you end up dead I’m not giving anything to your momma or your baby momma. if you want them to have it you ought to ask them to hold it.
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
3:29 pm
SlimNu ~ with all this talk, I signed mine this morning!!!
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
3:32 pm
“I let my boys know if something happens and you end up dead I’m not giving anything to your momma or your baby momma.” – I understand the baby momma, but aren’t you the momma of your boys??? You don’t sound like the neighborhood parent parenting the boys in the neighborhood. More like standing on your porch with a shotgun yelling for them to take their narrow behinds out your yard (lol). Sorry, I loves you disco and your style!!!! And you know this….
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:34 pm
Leggs, I don’t think she’s talking about her son (LOL)
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:35 pm
and don’t think it was their paycheck from the legit job either (LOL)
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
3:35 pm
Yeah, I gathered (lol).
disco
November 28th, 2012
3:36 pm
S/H – right. I’m not talking about my son. talking about them other “boys”.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:38 pm
rock boys in the house (LOL)
i'm swiss
November 28th, 2012
3:38 pm
If I were to suddenly come into that kind of cash, your boy would disappear. I’d set up an anonymous trust to take care of my dad & sister (and possibly Mrs. Swiss’s mom, if she wanted — though, she might not, given their relationship), and otherwise, nobody I currently know would have any idea what happened. Make up some excuse about having to move for work or something, and folks would never see my azz again.
i'm swiss
November 28th, 2012
3:39 pm
The above is with the Mrs & baby included, of course…
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:41 pm
I would disappear for a little while to get used to my new found wealth.
disco
November 28th, 2012
3:42 pm
swiss – mm hmm. of course.
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 28th, 2012
3:43 pm
I’m all late and stuff:
On topic: Shame on you Diva
Dude had a legitimate reason for not remembering. First loves? Umm, I’m cool if you can’t remember. Keep everything in it’s season. IJS
I see MMeello is in the house and all chatty and feeling charitable today, volunteering to pay for Slim’s wedding. Woo hoo, hope Queen is cool with that. You know us women. IJS If you win, surely you gon break a sista off right? LOLOL
On lotto: Don’t play, so nothing there.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:44 pm
so would it annuity, or cash option,
For me annuity, I want all the money I can get
disco
November 28th, 2012
3:44 pm
so…I’m guessing most folks would use a little bit of their money for good but is anyone willing to admit that they’d use their money for “evil”. not necessarily evil evil but you know with enough money you can buy some good “get back”. anyone?
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 28th, 2012
3:45 pm
Hmmm, looks like Ex gave me the ole banana in the tail pipe move. (4, 3, 2, …..)
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
3:45 pm
Swiss..3;39 I am dissappointed in you!
thought we were(me & u) gon meet somewhere for debauchery,with ALL that money and me,ur closest relative.
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
3:47 pm
Slim..i got u…we dont need no snake oill folks Common folks in this arrangement…..
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:49 pm
don’t know about good get back, but the list of names that I’ve slept with would increase (LOL) don’t have anyone one I want to get back at
disco
November 28th, 2012
3:53 pm
S/H – so, what you are saying is, mo money will provide you with more puddy? are you assuming more chicks will be throwing themselves at you or are you admitting that you’ll have more money to buy more puddy? I’m just trying to be clear in my understanding of the situation.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
3:58 pm
Disco, all of the above
disco
November 28th, 2012
4:00 pm
well S/H since it’s just me and you (ain’t nobody else listening or reading right now) – just how much will “Single and Happy, new millionaire club member” be willing to pay for puddy?
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
4:03 pm
Disco..more money gives one access to more high class puddy?
some of uall puddy is washed in simple soap…now higher value puddy is fumigated in mix of oil,gold,lavendar etc…not washed…
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
4:05 pm
disco, puddy aint free, not even one night stands, you have to buy drinks to get those
disco
November 28th, 2012
4:06 pm
S/H – you act like you schooling me on puddy not being free. I know that. still it comes in all price ranges. I was just asking what millionare single and happy would be willing to pay. give it some thought and get back at me. lol.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
4:06 pm
Ex, high class puddy, what the heck is that it’s all the same (LOL)
Think I’ll stick with the simple soap
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
4:08 pm
disco, I would have to see the puddy before i could put a price on it, or at least see the body that the puddy is encased in (LOL)
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
4:09 pm
Now Disco..u know u lower income chics say no puddy is ever gon be served jes coz a dude bought u dranks in the club or something..
now the more money u got,the mo dranks u buy and the more puddy is offered to u….hows that?
Coz when u got money,the chics point to u and say…”oh,hey check,thats the dude with Romney kind money” and ALL the girls are ga ga,in wonderment…
The moment i say,’whats up” shes already squirting,pining to go with me home….
More money,more free puddy,Less fronting by chics!
Exiled!
November 28th, 2012
4:13 pm
Single..so u tell me puddy thats fed on SNAP(food stamps) is same value as puddy that eats caviar,fresh veggies,Ruth’s steak and lobster and deep sea fish nd oyster etc?
Dont think so?
disco
November 28th, 2012
4:14 pm
S/H – you cracking me up today.
ex – the game ain’t never about how much money a fellow has. it’s about how much of it he’s willing to part with. a stingy millionaire ain’t worth nearly as much as the generous guy who works two jobs but just wants you to be happy. lol.
where did everyone else go?
Comon Cents
November 28th, 2012
4:14 pm
Slim~ Sorry, I had to go ghost for a few hours, but I’se be back now!
I too have been a winner. I won a trip to Marlboro Racing School at Atlanta Motor Speedway, Tickets to a Bon Jovi concert and I have left up (substantially) on Vegas every time.
Ok, reading to catch up with the current topic.
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
4:15 pm
yea ex it has the same value
disco
November 28th, 2012
4:19 pm
CC – there ain’t no current topic. trying to come up with a current coochie value. is there a going market rate based on condition or is value determined solely by the purchaser? there’s so many variables. lol.
Leggs
November 28th, 2012
4:21 pm
Ex ~ if you want a banging good time in the bedroom you might want to sample that puddy on food stamps. But if you think the puddy rocks better because it’s living high on the hog, I’d bet you’re chances of laying with a Frigidaire increases!
Single and Happy Wonderful Wednesday
November 28th, 2012
4:22 pm
Now you can put a value on the coochie, but just like everything else, you have to find someone willing to pay it. Now if you let the purchaser put a value on it, you’ll probably go broke.