Dating Dilemma: Didn’t meet the family?
Keith is trying to reassure the woman he is dating after he decided not to introduce her to his family at Thanksgiving. They are in a new relationship and things were not at the “meet the family” stage…according to him. She is seeing this as rejection and is now questioning everything and second guessing her feelings about him.
I feel for her, I really do, but she seems to be overreacting and over analyzing the situation. Shocking, right? So yeah, women are known to do this and it isn’t really fair. When Keith is actually being a good guy by taking things slow and not giving her false hope, she is letting insecurities show.
Would it bother you if the person you were dating has yet to introduce you to his inner circle of family/friends? I remember meeting families really early in relationships, but I didn’t think that was a sign of how much the guy liked me. Is meeting the family still viewed as a big deal like it was back in the day?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 27th, 2012
3:15 pm
So I guess, in the “me” category he scored well, in the “all else” category he failed. He dabbled in a few illegal stuff but I don’t think he ever did time.
disco
November 27th, 2012
3:20 pm
C – I flashed back on our childhood. peanut got hit by a car and the paramedics came. none of the cousins that were with peanut could tell them what his given name was. lol. in their defense they were probably on 8 or so but still. I know it’s messed up but in my family our nicknames run deep. throw out the government name and folks have to try to figure out who you are talking about.
Comon Cents
November 27th, 2012
3:23 pm
disco~ Ditto in my family. I have a SIL that is nicknamed after Knute Rockney and I never knew that it wasn’t her real name until I had to do some legal paperwork for her.
LMAO!
MsAtl
November 27th, 2012
3:24 pm
Disco- I had to laugh at that. We didn’t have a peanut in my family, but my 18 year old still asks what’s aunt or uncle nickname’s real name, lol.
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 27th, 2012
3:25 pm
none of the cousins that were with peanut could tell them what his given name was
Now that’s funny as heck…lolol I do know my Peanut’s real name…lol
disco
November 27th, 2012
3:29 pm
laugh on. it’s real in my family. when my son graduated high school I sent out his announcements. relatives nationwide were calling each other trying to figure out who he was. no one knew his real name. I recall back in high school a school friend called the house and asked for me by my real name. my own mother who gave me the name told her that she had the wrong number. after she hung up she was like “oh shoot” and laughed at herself.
Leggs
November 27th, 2012
3:30 pm
That is sad and funny at the same time, disco!!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 27th, 2012
3:36 pm
It’s amazing how fast your lip swells after you accidentally knock yourself in the mouth with the phone receiver.
disco
November 27th, 2012
3:38 pm
leggs – you are right. sad and funny at the same dang time.
slim – lol. for real? poor thing. that was one heck of a whap if you swelled yourself up. lol.
Leggs
November 27th, 2012
3:43 pm
SlimNu ~ unfortunately, those are usually some hard hits we accidentally give ourselves.
Leggs
November 27th, 2012
3:49 pm
Check this out. How do you feel when men call you and then hang up on you?
Leggs
November 27th, 2012
3:50 pm
I think it’s a burly move. Is this a double standard that’s more
acceptedunderstood when women do it?Single and Happy Terrific Tuesday
November 27th, 2012
3:53 pm
Leggs, did he say goodbye first?
Jake-SPJTWB
November 27th, 2012
3:54 pm
Leggs-No MAN should hang up on a woman; unless he has already said to this woman multiple times(at least 3)that I am about to get off the phone, look, we will talk later, hey, I told you I need to go….if that all has failed then a dialtone is acceptable.
As for the “Peanut” stories, I have yet to meet a P-Nut (tattoo version) that is not crazy as Katsh@t.
Comon Cents
November 27th, 2012
3:55 pm
I hate it when ANYONE calls me and hangs up. Just say “Wrong number” or “I misdialed” or “My bad” or whatever, but don’t just hang up in my face.
disco
November 27th, 2012
3:55 pm
S/H – re goodbye. I never say goodbye when ending a phone call. I usually say “alright” or “later” or whatever. apparently this really annoys some folks. who knew? one guy practically whines “say goodbye disco”. I’m like “alright” – click.
Leggs
November 27th, 2012
3:56 pm
NOPE! I called back and was told “we were not compatible and he didn’t want to waste his time.” This is only after speaking twice on the phone with me challenging certain things he said about women in general. So glad I didn’t send him a picture of myself like he asked (lol). I’m sitting here thinking of the convo and the hangup and wondered how many of you men hang up on the person you’re speaking with?
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 27th, 2012
3:56 pm
LOL….told ya, on every Peanut having issues….LOL
Single and Happy Terrific Tuesday
November 27th, 2012
3:56 pm
Jake, your’e good, I will give you 2, then dial tone, or just put the phone down and go on about my business
Single and Happy Terrific Tuesday
November 27th, 2012
3:59 pm
Disco, once and ex told me not to say goodbye because it meant I didn’t want to talk to her anymore, but if he said goodbye then hanging up is what’s next.
Leggs
November 27th, 2012
3:59 pm
I agree with you, Jake.
Single and Happy Terrific Tuesday
November 27th, 2012
4:00 pm
Leggs, you should call and thank him (LOL)
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 27th, 2012
4:02 pm
Let the hangup suffice and let buddy go on and kick rocks…lol Good riddance to bad rubbish!! Always!
Leggs
November 27th, 2012
4:03 pm
Can’t even say I was too feisty, but I clearly wasn’t a “yeah, you’re right,” “no, I understand,” “yeah, I gotcha” kind of woman! I even held the phone out in the air during one of our convos, but that’s better than a hangup.
Jake-SPJTWB
November 27th, 2012
4:03 pm
S/H-baseball rules brother…
Leggs
November 27th, 2012
4:04 pm
Leggs, you should call and thank him (LOL) – I like that.
Single and Happy Terrific Tuesday
November 27th, 2012
4:04 pm
held it out in the air, that’s alot for 2 convo’s
Single and Happy Terrific Tuesday
November 27th, 2012
4:04 pm
Jake, I don’t like baseball (LOL)
disco
November 27th, 2012
4:05 pm
celisea – you just had me do a mental rundown on peanuts. turns out I don’t know nearly as many as you would think. go figure. I’m still pulling my cuz out the box though. he might be a little sorry but he’s not crazy. lol.
leggs – so who is this joker?
Leggs
November 27th, 2012
4:10 pm
disco ~ nobody but a Joker. Spoke with him last year during a connection online. Never met. Not sure how we lost contact. Could be my short fuse with the things he was saying. Perhaps not his short fuse with me since he called again seeking a connection. I knew something was wrong when right after “hey” he follows it up with “why don’t women return phone calls?”
Leggs
November 27th, 2012
4:11 pm
Yes, it is Single. Yes, it is! Or, it’s a testament to my level of patience. I’m not sure.
Jake-SPJTWB
November 27th, 2012
4:12 pm
Peanut Stories-true story
This cat P-Nut that went to colleg wit us was and still is the craziest negro I have ever met. Would fight at the drop of a dime..so at one point the fella playing video games and he tells this cat don’t change to a different game, so of course, when P-Nut leaves the room he changes the game. P-Nut walks back in, looks at the TV, “SLAP”, never heard him say he gonna get somebody and not do it….Fast Forward 7yrs, I been hearing different stories along the way, he is treating his nose , held up a store, blah, blah, blah….I go back to the Ville for a Bachelor Party of a mutual friend…after an hour or so, who walks in the door with girl with a Dog Collar on her neck attached to a Chain, P-NUT…some real life “Black Snake Moan”…and yes, he is currently incarcerated!!
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 27th, 2012
4:12 pm
disco – Cool. I was only speaking for my peanut and most of the peanuts around the world. It seems Jake and CC can relate so, that would suffice for me in supporting my belief that
allmost peanuts are crazy. Good yours is not…lol At least he’s a break in that theory…lolSingle and Happy Terrific Tuesday
November 27th, 2012
4:19 pm
You guys and these nick names, reminds me of a guy in my home town that was a snitch for the police, they did a story on him and said they were going to a fictitious name and used his nickname, They would have been better off using his real name because no one knew that (LOL)
disco
November 27th, 2012
4:19 pm
C – i do like hearing the peanut stories though. makes me want to go out and meet a few more peanuts. lol. someone told me that everyone they ever met named reggie was cool as all get out. of course I don’t know very many reggies so I can’t comment on that one either. in fact, I don’t think I know anyone named reggie, at least not personally.
disco
November 27th, 2012
4:22 pm
S/H – I love nicknames. having one definitely makes it easier to screen calls. lol. also some of them have very interesting stories behind them. start asking folks “why they call you that” and you’ll see what I’m talking about.
Terrance
November 27th, 2012
4:23 pm
All I know is if a woman does not like the pace I take things, there is the door. I applaud the guy in this post, the woman is being pushy and is insecure, the world doesn’t revolve around a woman’s time clock. I think the guy should let that bitty go.
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 27th, 2012
4:24 pm
disco – I know a Reggie that’s cool as ever. He’s soft spoken but manly. Whatever you need or if ever in a pickle, he’s the man!!! I’ve known him now for 20 years or so and not one negative thing can I say or find about him. Everybody loves him.
Single and Happy Terrific Tuesday
November 27th, 2012
4:25 pm
Disco, you right about the interesting story, I know someone nicknamed TV, because he was watching something, and the man was in the desert begging for water so he went and got some and poured it on the TV (LOL)
time to call it a day, man this day went by fast (LOL)
Leggs
November 27th, 2012
4:30 pm
You’re a fool for that one, Single (lololol).
disco
November 27th, 2012
4:32 pm
S/H – shut up and get out of here. talking about the day went by fast. I’m feeling like a kid on Christmas eve. this here has been the longest day EVER.
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 27th, 2012
4:33 pm
Terrance – Exactly. Everybody’s got do and make the right call for them. It’s not to say she’s too anxious because it’s not at his pace and vice versa. A relationship consists of two people and finding a happy medium. If it’s not balanced, then yeah you should get the door so she can step through it for the one right for her…and again, vice versa.
Single and Happy Terrific Tuesday
November 27th, 2012
4:37 pm
this here has been the longest day EVER. If you think it’s long nowwwww wait until tomorrow disco (to the beat of “if you think you’re lonely now”) (LOL)
Single and Happy Terrific Tuesday
November 27th, 2012
4:39 pm
OT, why would anyone in a “NEW RELATIONSHIP” even want to meet the family? you don’t even know the person you’re with yet!
Tomorrow peeps
disco
November 27th, 2012
4:40 pm
I know a chick nicknamed “munchie”. everyone thinks it’s because she liked to eat but they started calling her that because her hair stood up when she was a baby like a little monchichi. remember monchichis from back in the day?
S/H – I am confident that tomorrow will fly by. I’m not sweating tomorrow. lol.
i'm swiss
November 27th, 2012
4:40 pm
Who is this “peanut” you speak of?
Leggs
November 27th, 2012
4:41 pm
Single ~ I was singing to that tune before reading you said to that same tune…that’s funny.
Comon Cents
November 27th, 2012
4:44 pm
disco~ I’m with you. Longest day EVER! And I can;t leave yet! Have a client meeting at 6 pm.
Ready to jump out a window right now…
Leggs
November 27th, 2012
4:44 pm
If you’re on the first floor, jump (lol). Get it out of your system.
Comon Cents
November 27th, 2012
4:45 pm
Hey swiss! How are you boo? You been luriking all day?