I won’t even try and speak for the masses, but for me persistence ALWAYS pays off. I’m not trying to pass an opinion on what works for others, however for me, anything worth having is worth the effort. I don’t believe in nor buy into the cart before the horse theory…..as in let’s become physical first and then we’ll decide. NOPE! It works…..for me. Too, it’s not about just the physical. I’m NOT becoming physical nor having anything with anyone without a bit of chase…. I never have.. I know it’s a bit antiquated, but it works.

Having said all of that, I believe the “art of courting” still exists. If some dude have spent his years having “stuff” handed to him or never felt a bit of a challenge, well naturally that’s gonna feel like “too much work”. Well, too bad I guess…lol By the same token, you gotta leave a few breadcrumbs on the trail. If you’re feeling him, he needs to feel that and know. I mean you do want to be caught….eventually. If your stance is I like you but abstaining, put it out there. Believe it or not, I believe in that and not knocking.

Anyway, I ain’t mad at the “gentleman” in today’s post. I find it rare and refreshing!! If he’s happy and willing to wait, I tip my hat to him….lol

Off topic: I had the BEST time! Everything went well. We all enjoyed the mini vacay, spent plenty money, ate well and gained weight…..probably…lol I absolutely enjoyed shopping and eating on River Street. I bought chocolate covered Pringles We also stopped at Tangers. I shopped at Jones of New York and Jokey!!! Overall, I’m giving it a 10!!!

Alright, back to reality

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Good morning all,

Hope yall enjoyed your family and friends over the holiday. Too bad it back to reality all too soon.

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Dang Celisea!

If I gotta chase you long and hard like that then the puddy better be the damn bizzness!

I see you had fun Cel..work hard play hard!!

Mine was good too..glad Ima be home for a minute.

On topic: me,I like chase but within reason. And I have lurked and circled in friend zones.

A shark worth the name circles around.

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Morning All!
Hope everyone enjoyed their time away. As has been said, there is nothing wrong with a bit of chase, but know when to stop. I would not pursue someone for a year, particularly where the person shows no reciprocity or interest. Diva, I think your friend needs to have a conversation to determine whether he is persistent or deluded.

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Hey Disco!
Ex- Cel isn’t cocky, she’s confident; there’s a difference.
Cel- It is confidence, right? Don’t make me look bad, lol.

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MsAtl, never cocky….always confident. Of course everybody won’t read it that way…lol I didn’t think MMeello meant cocky. That was me that tossed that tidbit in there

I’m listening to Mary Mary’s Sunday Morning….heeeey (bumping in my chair)

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As with anything, everything is a gamble. There are those that chase cause they just wanna say they won and there are those that chase because they think it’s worth it. There are those that never had to chase and can be true to whatever it is going down, and then there are those that never had to chase, ain’t gonna chase, would rather not chase. There are those that don’t chase and will be quick to call a woman easy. So, in this day and age it all just depends. You have to make the call that’s right for you.

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Do you believe that being persistent and maintaining pursuit means you come off as desperate or thirsty? = Probably a little of both to the person who really isn’t interested. I connected with this guy a few years back and believed we had a connection. I think my 2nd call asking when will we see each other again bothered him so I told him the ball was in his court. Guess he decided not to bounce it.

The art of being pursued is not lost, you just have to connect with the one who want you to pursue them.

Morning! Hope everyone enjoyed their family, friends and food!!!

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leggs – re visitors. as per usual, glad to see them come, glad to see them go. lol. re food – yum.

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♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪HAPPY, HAPPY BIRTHDAY, BLUZ!♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪

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slim – parking lot scuffle? now that’s what I’m talking about. some holiday drama. lol. re boy chasing I don’t necessarily mean psycho stalker chick but I do know a thing or two about putting myself in a guy’s path. lol. back in the day if I was checking for dude and I knew dude hung out at such and such spot cool believe I was getting dolled up and rolling through such and such spot. boy chasing sounds like it’s a female taking the lead but really it’s nothing more than a formulation of “womanly wiles”. women have their little subtle tricks but subtle or not, it’s boy chasing, man-grabbing, whatever you want to call it.

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Morning All!!

I had a nice, quiet T-day with the family.

Topic – I think the decision to be persistent in one’s pursuit of another should be handled on an indiividual basis. One person’s persistent is another persons delusional/stalker. Sometimes if there is some interest on both parts but the timing is just off, it may pay off to keep your hat in the ring. Say it’s someone you grew up around and liked or maybe were friends with in the past. But the only way I see it working is if there is SOME interest on the other person’s part. Waiting around for that lightbulb to go off for the other person would be creepy, at least for me.

I know a guy that is definitely delusional. He dated a lady briefly that broke it off with him. She met another guy and moved in with him & his 2 kids. It went into a few years and dude was still pining away for her. I told him he needed to give it up. He said he didn’t want to give up “too quick” only to have her change her mind! I’m talking years and he wouldn’t date anyone else. It was weird!

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Dang Slim, how youtube comes before jail (LOL)

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Slim – Is this the same sister that married the crazy guy?

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Later gators!

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What up peeps, hope everyone had a great holiday, because it sure sucks being back at work!

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S/H- come on now, you know you can’t scratch your tail in public these days without it ending up on youtube.

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Good Morning, bloggies!

T-Day was fabulous. Had a great time with the hubs family.

Re: Turkey Day Drama~ Slim apparently yours was mild compared to Halle Berry’s! (Thank heaven’s for small favors )

On Topic: I think it has all already been said. There is a fine line between persistent & delusional. Know when to say when!

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CC – Way to put my ordeal into perspective I heard buddy got that ass whooped

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On the Halle situation, apparently pretty boy baby daddy effed with the wrong one! Come to find out the fiance’ has a boxing background and wiped the floor with his behind. Supposedly pretty boy punched first. You would think he would have thought twice since he’s a model & his face is what makes him his money. Well that and the child support Halle has to pay him!

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S/H~ Guess it would depend on how much reciprocity there was…

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disco ~ although I’ve heard about Halle being a handful over the years, I think Eric Benet’s facial expressions when she accepted her award talking about her father was never present, yada yada said it all. His face said “awww shiggity, here we go again with this isht about growing up fatherless!” He looked like he was done with her and her drama then.

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What happened?? I didn’t even hit submit. Was still typing!

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Disco-Justice remarried, had some kids and whatnot…I took a look at the story, apparently, they want to move his daughter to France, at least he took that azz whippin for the right reason.

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Leggs~ Couldn’t have been Wesley; he doesn’t date black.

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It was Wesley.

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CC – maybe he only dated half of her. lol.

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Yeah, I heard it was Wesley also. On the fight issue, from what I read, daddy returned child, fiance told him it was time to move on, daddy shoved fiance, fight started, result= neck injuries, head injuries, concussions, multiple cuts & contusions, they end up two doors from each other in the ER & daddy is arrested & slapped with a restraining order. At first blush, I would say that fiancee should not have handled the child hand-off; not his place. Otherwise, daddy should have just went on & not reacted. Bad behavior all around. Great job “adults!”

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Free Wesley!!!! and he never said he didn’t date black women!!

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Jake- you sure about that? I had heard the same thing. Either way, don’t make me no nevermind; I like my eardrums.
Leggs- Wonder if she yelled out “jive turkey” while going after him with the fork? That is some crazy mess. I will take a drama-free holiday any day.

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CC – Yuuuuup….lol I guess Sukiyaki ain’t there for him these days.

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Disco- “love to hear about other folks’ drama”: that’s what FB is for, lol.

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How old was the person who passed out on the lawn?

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come back to so much work…is where I was going

Again, sigh (with a slight noise)

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Mom sat there watching her grown daughter look a fool dead drunk on the front lawn. Mother sitting there saying “look at this fool, can’t handle her likka. She gone throw up, it will be right here on this front yard.” Now, mother is yelling, somebody get me a blanket to cover this chile up with!

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Woo hoo, the dinner has been cancelled!!! Everybody (our client) is sick Not glad for their sickness but I was sho hoping to go home tonight and kickback.

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My story goes a little like this….Me and ole girl chilled last year for several months. But due to a little run-in or bump in the road things ended. Now, this year, been thanking bout her, remembering how she do me and things of that nature. Thanking bout calling ole girl.

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MsAtl, I’ve had folks tell me I can’t do that

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“remembering how she do me and things of that nature” – So, you’ll only thinking of her in a sexual way??? You comfortable opening things back up taking the sexual route???

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MsAtl~ True! I don’t know why people want to go letting the cops go through their cars and come up in their homes without a warrant. Just stupid.

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S/H- can’t do what? Hand out your card or yell out for them to get a warrant?
Leggs- D’oh! I wasn’t thinking of it in a sexual way or my response would have been different.

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Comon-are they just stupid, or have no fundamental understanding of the Criminal Justice System.

Case and point, I was once in a situation where I was at a party that was disbanded by the Police, who stated everyone had to leave, lets just say I had been drinking. So as people are filing out he looks at me and says you too. My response, no sir, I have been drinking, it would be dangerous for me to operate a vehicle, besides, I am a guest at this home, and they have given me permission to stay, have a goodnight…turned around and walked upstairs smiling the whole way…he was pissed!!

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o/t – question to you parents of youngsters – what’s up with this “happy crack” stuff?

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Jake~ And you know they picked up every other individual that left that party, right? Good move on your part.

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Jake- you have a point. I think some people take the position that they have nothing to hide, while others may be afraid and just consent.
Comon- Nah buddy; I may have nothing to hide, but you are going to do your job and put in the work!
Leggs- Judging by Del’s reply, you were partially right, lol.

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MsATL, tell them to get a warrant

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I think I mentioned to you all on here about me having a cousin locked up and he has acquired a cell phone behind bars. He sends texts almost daily or is sending pictures of himself shirtless. So over the holidays he came up and EVERYBODY seemed irritated by this. So I felt a sense of relief that I was not the only one wishing he would quit. Even his sister went off on him about those daily Good morning, Good afternoon, Good night texts and of course the pictures.

That’s what I call Holiday Comic Relief

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ms. atl – re the cops doing their jobs. I laughed because I always think of them trying to get info from folks talking about if we don’t aid in their investigation we’re not helping them do their jobs. I’m like the day a cop comes to my job and helps me do my work we can talk.

CC/jake – had my niece last week. she was talking about happy crack like she was strung out for real. I was just wondering if there was an epidemic. lol. turns out her school has banned it but of course kids are still sneaking and eating it. I read that older kids are actually snorting it and there are variations on the recipe. all I could do was shake my head. I was way out of the loop.

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CC-Not sure who they got that night, but I know who they didn’t get…buster azz police…I was a Crim Jus Minor, and was just showing out cause I knew he couldn’t do nothing…it wasn’t as clean and proper as wrote, but he knew I what the heyal i was talking bout…tossing around the word entrapment, its my right to stay here, blah,blah,blah….good clean fun I tell ya.

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Disco- good idea. Next time a cop says that, I will invite him to assist at my job.
Snorting kool aid? Wth? Tell me about being out of the loop. I remember several years ago, having to dip out of a client interview to call my then teenager son to ask him what “brains” were since my client had been kicked out of school “for getting brains.” Heck! I didn’t know if he had gotten smart witht he teacher or what. I thought brains in school was a good thing. Apparently not!

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Never head of someone “getting brainn.” Is that a southern term? Never heard of anyone snorting Kool-Aid either!

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The sad part of this “Happy Crack” whatever is two fold.

1. It really illustrates the depth of American Drug Culture as kids are describing the time honored tradition of mixing sugar and Kool-Aid with a reference to the most destructive drug to ever hit the streets and that sounds “cool” to them..

2. Schools are so inept, and there are so many underequipped Educators that they have to “ban it”, dayum a ban, if you see it, take it, pour it, in a trash can…I don’t racall there ever being one incident related to a pixi-stix in my school.

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Jake ~ I almost O’d off pixi-stix yesterday. They do need to be banned!

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I here you Leggs, but shid, I used kill a bag a day, I was never, too hard to handle, cause if my Teachers had to call my parents, I knew what it was…My Mama used to love to say this bull, “If teacher your calls, your azz is grass, and I’m gonna be the Lawnmower”…I HATED when she would say that….messed around and found out she meant it too

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Mistake!!! Called Ole Girl and she on that BS. Trynna hit them pockets str8 off the rip. Nawh I’m good

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What you mean by hit them pockets, cause you know it aint never free!

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jake – your mom sounds like me. my son knew good and darned well I wasn’t making any visits to the schoolhouse.

delvon – I gotta know. what did old girl ask for and exactly how did she ask for it? lol.

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Jake You beat me to the punch!

Ain’t nuthin free but air. LMAO! You want some nookie and she thought “Awww, suki, suki! Bout to get my hair did and my nails did… ”

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I’m with you, Celisea. Quite a bit is off!!!!

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Even swap ain’t no swindle

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disco ~ gotta respect your post. I think you drew an accurate picture and both scenarios probably play in her busting out the six-shooter!

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Wait, wait, wait…Disco, don’t go playfully calling the man out already…no evidence, no indictment!

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C said “Flag on the play!” Illegal use of a mobile device! 5 year penalty. Repeat last down.

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Del-there are serious details missing here, is that how you used to do it for her, if so, so set that expectation….if not, that chick crazy as hell….On to the next pimp!

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Which one did you offer to buy, Delvon?

You straight up pulling a prank!

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Delvon – Sorry if I overlooked it, but how old are you and this girl?

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Nawh she running with some “get it” girls and they crew so her vision is all cloudy.

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Oh, then I guess you should just let sleeping dogs lie.

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Comon, Leggs- yeah, my son was like “Uh, mom where are your brains?” Then came the feeling of incredibly stupid, lol.
disco- what do you mean packaging & selling it? The kids are selling the kool aid? You have got to be kidding me! Don’t the buyers know you can get it at Kroget 4 for $1.00, 6 on a good day? I remember when kids used it to dye their hair.

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Delvon, are you married?

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D~ Get it girls? Or girls that know that puddy isn’t free? There is a difference.

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Yeah just gotta walk away. Past is the past. Cant compete with the duffle bag boys

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Slim~ You want the honest answer to that or should I be politcally correct?

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CC – You know I don’t have an issue with being non-PC

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Oh, and swiss, what do you think of Chizik’s firing?

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I’m waiting for Kiffin to get fired from USC…

I don’t know how that man keeps a job. He is just garbage!

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IDk about Chizik. He turned the program around in 2010. He lost a lot of players. Not sure it is so much his coaching as a shake up in talent over there.

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“IDk about Chizik. He turned the program around in 2010″

Nah, $Cam & whoever managed to pay his daddy without a paper trail turned that program around in 2010. Chizik’s coaching had nothing to do with it.

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*song not dong… My bad.

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Leggs – You’re describing the dude that came on that time bragging about living out of his duffle bag, sans water/bathing and happy to be moving from chick to chick….WITH NO WASHING IN BETWEEN. Just ewwwww

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I am Celisea. I always think of him when I hear duffle bag

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Mrs.SC ~ that guy is going to run for the hills. You notice his reaction to her reaction when she found out he asked Kandi out? Not a good start.

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Leggs – I used to think KM was beautiful. Five minutes of seeing her on RHOA and I no longer think that at all.

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I don’t even remember her from Ms. USA/America. She’s stuck….much like those druggies who can’t move. Just stuck (on herself).

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Re: duffle bag boy~ Just ewww. I think I threw up in my mouth a little while reading that. Nasty!

Re: Kenya Moore~ She aiight. But I still don’t understand how she won Miss USA. She’s not that cute to me. IJS…

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Slim – That ain’t right…lol From one chicks’ juice to another…ewwww

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Ugggg, my tummy hurts!!! Hope I can make it home I DID NOT just say that did I??? LOL

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Kenya Moores chip on her shoulder bring any physical beauty potential down. She acts like she was the first lady or something…besides, who in the hell keeps up with the Teen USA’s, Miss America’s etc??? She could just be a random Jet Beauty of the week for all i know.
And that dude she’s dating, why does he always were his work shirt. Is that a slick way to advertise for his towing company??

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CC – My refreshedness is from the inside out. From all the pangs of working and clients and chained to my desk and laptop. Getting some time away always seems to do it for me That kind of “refreshedness.” That other? I get that every morning after I step out of the bath tub.

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Okay…the funniest part about dude that she is dating is that Kandi shot him down when he asked her out. (lol)

But whyyyyyyyyyy…..did this chick lie about microwaving the pasta from Trader Joe’s?

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Shoot, I just pulled back today. I still got emails I haven’t read. Of course the swap to that is working later at home. Shoot, sometimes I just have to pull back and sit here…lolololol That’s how I’m blogging today

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Read y’all later. I gots to run today.

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