Dating: How persistent should you be?
When you decide to focus all your efforts on someone you are interested in, how persistent are you willing to be? I ask because it seems that often times we are quick to cut the person off if they start to become challenging.
Do you believe that being persistent and maintaining pursuit means you come off as desperate or thirsty? If you really like the person the more you pursue them, is it worth it to keep up the same effort?
I know a guy who has pursued the same woman for a year and has not shown any reciprocity. He has become a good friend – at best, but is willing to wait for her. Persistent or deluded?
If you ever find yourself stuck in the friend zone, would you try your chances and hope that being their friend will pay off for you later?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
4:06 pm
I’m waiting for Kiffin to get fired from USC…
I don’t know how that man keeps a job. He is just garbage!
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
4:07 pm
What are duffle bag boys, Delvon?
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
4:07 pm
IDk about Chizik. He turned the program around in 2010. He lost a lot of players. Not sure it is so much his coaching as a shake up in talent over there.
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
4:08 pm
C~ Boys who spend lots of money on girls, cars, etc. Comes from a dong of the same name by the Playaz Circle ft. Lil Wayne.
i'm swiss
November 26th, 2012
4:09 pm
“IDk about Chizik. He turned the program around in 2010″
Nah, $Cam & whoever managed to pay his daddy without a paper trail turned that program around in 2010. Chizik’s coaching had nothing to do with it.
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
4:09 pm
Celisea ~ a guy who keeps soap mouthwash, toothbrush/paste, change of clothes, toiletries in his duffle bag going from woman to woman (lol).
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
4:09 pm
*song not dong… My bad.
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
4:10 pm
CC – Aha! Thanks. I would have NEVER known that. Of course I don’t claim to keep up with Lil Wayne and ‘nem…lololol
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
4:11 pm
Leggs – You’re describing the dude that came on that time bragging about living out of his duffle bag, sans water/bathing and happy to be moving from chick to chick….WITH NO WASHING IN BETWEEN. Just ewwwww
Mrs. SexyCool
November 26th, 2012
4:18 pm
Who is persistent and thirsty?
Kenya Moore on RHOA. She is practically begging that interesting looking dude to marry her and knock her up.
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
4:19 pm
disco
November 26th, 2012
4:21 pm
I won’t front. I’m not a little wayne fan but I do like a few songs here and there and duffle bag boy is one of them. that’s the one where he says “I ain’t never ran from a ninja and I damned sho ain’t bout to pick today to start running”. I’m feeling that line right there. lol.
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
4:21 pm
Mrs.SC ~ that guy is going to run for the hills. You notice his reaction to her reaction when she found out he asked Kandi out? Not a good start.
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
4:23 pm
That dude did NOT expect the reaction he got….lol He was all proud just posting away, all his nastiness. I think when he got a resounding EWWWWWWWW from all he blog women and nearly all the blog men (esp distancing themselves from that craziness), he tried to “splain” his actions. By then it was just too dang late. No way he was pulling off some sort of caped crusader of love plays/moves. It was just whacked and lame. Not bathing and hitting up several chicks. He thought it spoke of playa-dom, but NOT!!
Mrs. SexyCool
November 26th, 2012
4:23 pm
Leggs – I used to think KM was beautiful. Five minutes of seeing her on RHOA and I no longer think that at all.
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
4:24 pm
My tummy all of a sudden is aching….ugh
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
4:27 pm
I don’t even remember her from Ms. USA/America. She’s stuck….much like those druggies who can’t move. Just stuck (on herself).
Mrs. SexyCool
November 26th, 2012
4:30 pm
So true…stuck on a title from 20 years ago. I was Miss Essence 1990 (a small hometown title) but you don’t hear me always bragging about it. (Although I do still have the crown…lol)
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
4:37 pm
Re: duffle bag boy~ Just ewww. I think I threw up in my mouth a little while reading that. Nasty!
Re: Kenya Moore~ She aiight. But I still don’t understand how she won Miss USA. She’s not that cute to me. IJS…
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 26th, 2012
4:39 pm
Cel – We call those h0 baths
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
4:39 pm
Slim – That ain’t right…lol From one chicks’ juice to another…ewwww
Mrs. SexyCool
November 26th, 2012
4:40 pm
Hosea Williams’ granddaughter is pretty dinghy. (lol)
Wow…that reminds me of when I told another blogger she was kinda dinghy and she got mad at me. (lamo)
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
4:41 pm
Ugggg, my tummy hurts!!! Hope I can make it home
I DID NOT just say that did I??? LOL
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
4:42 pm
C~ I don’t know how you can even talk about that and still feel refreshed. I need to go hop in the shower right now.. Ewww.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 26th, 2012
4:43 pm
Kenya Moores chip on her shoulder bring any physical beauty potential down. She acts like she was the first lady or something…besides, who in the hell keeps up with the Teen USA’s, Miss America’s etc??? She could just be a random Jet Beauty of the week for all i know.
And that dude she’s dating, why does he always were his work shirt. Is that a slick way to advertise for his towing company??
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
4:43 pm
CC – He was proud of it too. Sad part was he didn’t know it was just wrong on every level, until everybody was like
say what????
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
4:44 pm
CC – My refreshedness is from the inside out. From all the pangs of working and clients and chained to my desk and laptop. Getting some time away always seems to do it for me
That kind of “refreshedness.” That other? I get that every morning after I step out of the bath tub. 
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 26th, 2012
4:45 pm
Cel – Take a couple of empty grocery bags with you on your way home.
Mrs. SexyCool
November 26th, 2012
4:45 pm
Okay…the funniest part about dude that she is dating is that Kandi shot him down when he asked her out. (lol)
But whyyyyyyyyyy…..did this chick lie about microwaving the pasta from Trader Joe’s?
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
4:46 pm
Slim – LOLOLOL…I’m gonna make a mad dash up out of here…in a few!!
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
4:48 pm
Shoot, I just pulled back today. I still got emails I haven’t read. Of course the swap to that is working later at home. Shoot, sometimes I just have to pull back and sit here…lolololol That’s how I’m blogging today
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
4:58 pm
C~ You k ow some people are just nasty like that and they don’t realize they’re nasty until someone else (usually a LOT of someone elses) points it out.
And gotcha on the refreshed. I feel the same.
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
5:01 pm
Read y’all later. I gots to run today.
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
5:01 pm
CC – Yup…kinda of like a person don’t know it’s wrong or not the norm until they find out no one else on the planet does or thing that way (in whatever it is…in this case, the nasties). Buddy was proud to post that mess…lol
Alright gotta ruuuuuun!!! For real