Dating: How persistent should you be?
When you decide to focus all your efforts on someone you are interested in, how persistent are you willing to be? I ask because it seems that often times we are quick to cut the person off if they start to become challenging.
Do you believe that being persistent and maintaining pursuit means you come off as desperate or thirsty? If you really like the person the more you pursue them, is it worth it to keep up the same effort?
I know a guy who has pursued the same woman for a year and has not shown any reciprocity. He has become a good friend – at best, but is willing to wait for her. Persistent or deluded?
If you ever find yourself stuck in the friend zone, would you try your chances and hope that being their friend will pay off for you later?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Leggs
November 26th, 2012
2:43 pm
Never head of someone “getting brainn.” Is that a southern term? Never heard of anyone snorting Kool-Aid either!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 26th, 2012
2:47 pm
Brain?? Dome?? MP for mouth piece??
Jake-SPJTWB
November 26th, 2012
2:52 pm
The sad part of this “Happy Crack” whatever is two fold.
1. It really illustrates the depth of American Drug Culture as kids are describing the time honored tradition of mixing sugar and Kool-Aid with a reference to the most destructive drug to ever hit the streets and that sounds “cool” to them..
2. Schools are so inept, and there are so many underequipped Educators that they have to “ban it”, dayum a ban, if you see it, take it, pour it, in a trash can…I don’t racall there ever being one incident related to a pixi-stix in my school.
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
2:53 pm
Leggs~ The first time I heard it, some of the hubs friends were “rapping” along with a song and the term was used in the song. I was like WTF is that?!?
They all looked at the hubs like “You don’t get brain from your wife?!?” LMAO!
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
2:53 pm
Jake ~ I almost O’d off pixi-stix yesterday. They do need to be banned!
disco
November 26th, 2012
2:58 pm
I’m all for the kids downing the sugar. have at it I say but snorting it? that’s too much. packaging it in little ziplock bags and selling it? really? they done took koolaid to a whole new level.
Jake-SPJTWB
November 26th, 2012
3:00 pm
I here you Leggs, but shid, I used kill a bag a day, I was never, too hard to handle, cause if my Teachers had to call my parents, I knew what it was…My Mama used to love to say this bull, “If teacher your calls, your azz is grass, and I’m gonna be the Lawnmower”…I HATED when she would say that….messed around and found out she meant it too
Jake-SPJTWB
November 26th, 2012
3:01 pm
your teacher
Delvon
November 26th, 2012
3:03 pm
Mistake!!! Called Ole Girl and she on that BS. Trynna hit them pockets str8 off the rip. Nawh I’m good
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
3:04 pm
My mother said the same thing, except she left off the lawnmower part, but it was definitely implied. I was a fresh mouth in school, but never fresh to my teachers (only to the kids) and never had the school call home on me. Perhaps the genes have been mutated because we kids grew up on sugar back in the day. Never craved to snort it or get high from it. Nothing is safe if people are trying to get a high off Kool-Aid.
Jake-SPJTWB
November 26th, 2012
3:05 pm
What you mean by hit them pockets, cause you know it aint never free!
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
3:06 pm
Mistake!!! Called Ole Girl and she on that BS. Trynna hit them pockets str8 off the rip. Nawh I’m good -
Sorry, but I am cracking up!!!! That is straight up hood, Del. Last time you play her if she can’t play you first (lol), no one is playing!!!!!
disco
November 26th, 2012
3:06 pm
jake – your mom sounds like me. my son knew good and darned well I wasn’t making any visits to the schoolhouse.
delvon – I gotta know. what did old girl ask for and exactly how did she ask for it? lol.
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
3:06 pm
She’s trying to hit your pockets straight off the rip, and you’re trying to hit her panties straight off the rip…Gotta love it!
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
3:07 pm
Jake You beat me to the punch!
Ain’t nuthin free but air. LMAO! You want some nookie and she thought “Awww, suki, suki! Bout to get my hair did and my nails did… ”
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
3:08 pm
I’m calling BS on Delvon…IJS
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
3:08 pm
I’m with you, Celisea. Quite a bit is off!!!!
disco
November 26th, 2012
3:08 pm
leggs – yeah it’s straight hood. that’s why I wanna know how she played it. she probably knows delvon is a buster (no offense D – I don’t know you like that but you said y’all got history) and so rather than even play with him she shot from the chest. step up ninja or step back ninja. lol. OR she was probably softer back when and after her and D fell off she got with the type brothers who provided and she has decided she’s not going back to giving it up for nothing.
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
3:09 pm
Even swap ain’t no swindle
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
3:10 pm
Leggs – One good con deserves another. Ass ain’t (or shouldn’t be) free. Don’t nobody shoot me for that but….IJS
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
3:11 pm
disco ~ gotta respect your post. I think you drew an accurate picture and both scenarios probably play in her busting out the six-shooter!
Delvon
November 26th, 2012
3:13 pm
She talking about some boots and a purse and car note money. Aint talked to her in almost a year and now this BS.
Jake-SPJTWB
November 26th, 2012
3:13 pm
Wait, wait, wait…Disco, don’t go playfully calling the man out already…no evidence, no indictment!
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
3:13 pm
As time goes by, all should get hip to playing the game, especially if they’ve been played! Can’t stay in the streets playing. You have to advance yourself! Sounds like she went up a grade.
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
3:14 pm
C said “Flag on the play!”
Illegal use of a mobile device! 5 year penalty. Repeat last down.
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
3:15 pm
Honestly, Delvon, I don’t know of one woman that would come out her mouth like that to someone she hasn’t spoken to in over a year. In that year’s time, she might be a PRO by now talking like that!
Jake-SPJTWB
November 26th, 2012
3:16 pm
Del-there are serious details missing here, is that how you used to do it for her, if so, so set that expectation….if not, that chick crazy as hell….On to the next pimp!
Jake-SPJTWB
November 26th, 2012
3:16 pm
u set
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
3:17 pm
Which one did you offer to buy, Delvon?
You straight up pulling a prank!
disco
November 26th, 2012
3:18 pm
delvon – boots, purse, car note money. hmmm. that’s really not asking for too much. of course, I don’t know what kind of boots/purse or what she’s driving but…..
jake – I’m not going to call her crazy. I’m saying she knows delvon and we don’t. either she knows he’s got it like that and she wants hers or she knows he doesn’t have it like that and that’s her way of not only telling him to kick rocks but telling him he’s a broke joker and can’t get none until he comes up. I, for one, ain’t mad at her. lol.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 26th, 2012
3:20 pm
Delvon – Sorry if I overlooked it, but how old are you and this girl?
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
3:20 pm
I’on really know anyone that will go there either, out of the gate and y’all ain’t talked or interacted in 12 months. Maybe that’s how it use to be and she didn’t realize thangs had changed. Set the tone my man, if you were a sponsor. And if not, I’d say she’s found her comeuppance. You gotta pay to play…IJS
Delvon
November 26th, 2012
3:21 pm
Nawh she running with some “get it” girls and they crew so her vision is all cloudy.
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
3:21 pm
I guess my next question is, does she have a job?
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
3:22 pm
Oh, then I guess you should just let sleeping dogs lie.
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
3:23 pm
Don’t stop, git it, git it…is what comes to mind…lolololol
MsAtl
November 26th, 2012
3:26 pm
Comon, Leggs- yeah, my son was like “Uh, mom where are your brains?” Then came the feeling of incredibly stupid, lol.
disco- what do you mean packaging & selling it? The kids are selling the kool aid? You have got to be kidding me! Don’t the buyers know you can get it at Kroget 4 for $1.00, 6 on a good day? I remember when kids used it to dye their hair.
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
3:27 pm
Delvon ~ wouldn’t necessarily say her vision is cloudy, but she sounds young. Sounds like those walking around believing their honey pots are made from gold!
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
3:29 pm
Delvon, are you married?
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
3:30 pm
Delvon ~ you now know if you have the right key to unlock the watery passageways. If not, put your oar back on deck and keep walking (lol).
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
3:31 pm
D~ Get it girls? Or girls that know that puddy isn’t free? There is a difference.
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
3:33 pm
Where’s swiss today? I was looking forward to chopping up some football action from the weekend…
Delvon
November 26th, 2012
3:34 pm
Yeah just gotta walk away. Past is the past. Cant compete with the duffle bag boys
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 26th, 2012
3:37 pm
I’m amazed how slang evolves or morphs as time goes on….duffle bag boys. Folks REALLY talk like this in the real world?
I cannot recall the last time, If any that I used that term in a sentence
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
3:41 pm
Slim~ You want the honest answer to that or should I be politcally correct?
i'm swiss
November 26th, 2012
3:43 pm
“Where’s swiss today?”
See, Comon… all you have to do is say my name and I come. Just like sex.
I have to say, I thoroughly enjoyed that epic azz whoopin’ we laid on the NATS Saturday. I even watched the replay in 3D last night & that Ogletree pile driver was even more fun to watch in 3D.
How was your turkey day?
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 26th, 2012
3:48 pm
CC – You know I don’t have an issue with being non-PC
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
3:52 pm
Hey swiss!
Turkey day was cool. I, of course, was ambivalent about the game on Saturday. Glad for myDawgs but sad that another season is going down the drain for the Jackets.
Another week where the Falcons looked terrible and just squeaked by Tampa Bay. The Giants put the smack down on Green Bay last night. And the best game of the weekend, by far, was the San Diego/Balitmore game, IMO.
How was your Turkey day?
Slim~ You have intellect and therefore you don’t speak that way.
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
3:54 pm
Oh, and swiss, what do you think of Chizik’s firing?
i'm swiss
November 26th, 2012
4:00 pm
Comon — RE: Chizik… I thought his canning was a foregone conclusion for quite a while. Curious to see what becomes of all the sniffing around the NCAA is doing on the plains. Also, I’m rooting for Petrino to be the new AU coach. That would give that “All In” mantra a whole new meaning.
Turkey day at the Swiss Family Robinson’s was great. Ate way too much food & watched way too much football.