Dating: How persistent should you be?
When you decide to focus all your efforts on someone you are interested in, how persistent are you willing to be? I ask because it seems that often times we are quick to cut the person off if they start to become challenging.
Do you believe that being persistent and maintaining pursuit means you come off as desperate or thirsty? If you really like the person the more you pursue them, is it worth it to keep up the same effort?
I know a guy who has pursued the same woman for a year and has not shown any reciprocity. He has become a good friend – at best, but is willing to wait for her. Persistent or deluded?
If you ever find yourself stuck in the friend zone, would you try your chances and hope that being their friend will pay off for you later?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
11:53 am
It was Wesley.
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
11:54 am
What mother drags dudes over her little infant girl? Halle got issues. she needs to work on self before jumping in and out time and time again with all these different dudes. IJS The happiness, I’m guessing she’s so badly in need of and hunting for, should first begin with within.
disco
November 26th, 2012
11:54 am
CC – maybe he only dated half of her. lol.
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
11:59 am
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/crime/woman-stabs-dinner-guest-turkey-fork-article-1.1207383
MsAtl
November 26th, 2012
12:04 pm
Yeah, I heard it was Wesley also. On the fight issue, from what I read, daddy returned child, fiance told him it was time to move on, daddy shoved fiance, fight started, result= neck injuries, head injuries, concussions, multiple cuts & contusions, they end up two doors from each other in the ER & daddy is arrested & slapped with a restraining order. At first blush, I would say that fiancee should not have handled the child hand-off; not his place. Otherwise, daddy should have just went on & not reacted. Bad behavior all around. Great job “adults!”
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
12:05 pm
Thanks Celisea. I believed I remembered correctly.
Jake-SPJTWB
November 26th, 2012
12:08 pm
Free Wesley!!!! and he never said he didn’t date black women!!
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
12:11 pm
LOLOLOLOL…Wesley is locked up at his own failure to pay up…lol Wudn’t us (black women). Bet he’d take a black woman right about now…lololol
MsAtl
November 26th, 2012
12:14 pm
Jake- you sure about that? I had heard the same thing. Either way, don’t make me no nevermind; I like my eardrums.
Leggs- Wonder if she yelled out “jive turkey” while going after him with the fork? That is some crazy mess. I will take a drama-free holiday any day.
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
12:14 pm
C~ As opposed to the big dude named Bubba who’s probably making him his b!tch right now?
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
12:15 pm
CC – Yuuuuup….lol I guess Sukiyaki ain’t there for him these days.
disco
November 26th, 2012
12:16 pm
ms atl – I too prefer the drama-free holiday but that doesn’t mean I don’t love to hear about other folks’ drama.
I wonder if Wesley has a few chicks lined up to put money on his books.
MsAtl
November 26th, 2012
12:22 pm
Disco- “love to hear about other folks’ drama”: that’s what FB is for, lol.
disco
November 26th, 2012
12:27 pm
ms atl – I don’t do facebook. have to get my drama fix the good old fashioned way (word of mouth). so far I haven’t come up with much though, guess folks were chilling this holiday. a friend and his stepmom got into it and another friend’s sister got so drunk that she passed out on her mother’s front lawn and her mother sat on the porch and let her lay there, wouldn’t even let anyone else help her up. I guess that’ll teach her. lol.
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
12:30 pm
How old was the person who passed out on the lawn?
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
12:30 pm
This has been one of those days where I come in to so much where it’s hard to focus and get through one thing without somebody calling/IMing/emailing me on another….sigh I’m struggling with staying focused.
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
12:31 pm
come back to so much work…is where I was going
Again, sigh (with a slight noise)
disco
November 26th, 2012
12:31 pm
leggs – not positive but definitely in her 40s or 50s. mom who sat on porch is 79.
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
12:37 pm
Mom sat there watching her grown daughter look a fool dead drunk on the front lawn. Mother sitting there saying “look at this fool, can’t handle her likka. She gone throw up, it will be right here on this front yard.” Now, mother is yelling, somebody get me a blanket to cover this chile up with!
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
12:48 pm
disco~ We saw a guy who was so drunk he looked like he was line dancing as he did field sobriety. Hubs said I was wrong to want to stop and offer him a card…
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
1:28 pm
Woo hoo, the dinner has been cancelled!!! Everybody (our client) is sick
Not glad for their sickness but I was sho hoping to go home tonight and kickback.
MsAtl
November 26th, 2012
1:30 pm
Comon- I’m with you; he might need that card. When I pass cops searching cars on the side of the highway, I want to yell “make them get a warrant!”
Disco- No FB? gasp!, I feel faint.
Delvon
November 26th, 2012
1:30 pm
My story goes a little like this….Me and ole girl chilled last year for several months. But due to a little run-in or bump in the road things ended. Now, this year, been thanking bout her, remembering how she do me and things of that nature. Thanking bout calling ole girl.
MsAtl
November 26th, 2012
1:32 pm
Del- you won’t know if you don’t try.
Single and Happy Marvelous Monday
November 26th, 2012
1:35 pm
MsAtl, I’ve had folks tell me I can’t do that
Delvon
November 26th, 2012
1:41 pm
Yeah just might hit her up. Aint trynna be no sucker tho.
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
1:48 pm
“remembering how she do me and things of that nature” – So, you’ll only thinking of her in a sexual way??? You comfortable opening things back up taking the sexual route???
Jake-SPJTWB
November 26th, 2012
1:51 pm
I see its super slow today, but yes MsAtl…I am 100% sure….his comments were very general, but he had an Asian lady at the time, so you know he got tar and feathered by Us’s
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
1:56 pm
MsAtl~ True! I don’t know why people want to go letting the cops go through their cars and come up in their homes without a warrant. Just stupid.
Delvon
November 26th, 2012
1:58 pm
Ole girl was good to me in many ways in and out of the bedroom. But sometime it can be drama filled, loud and unpredictable. She a good girl with short comings like anybody else. She mean well, got a good heart.
MsAtl
November 26th, 2012
1:58 pm
S/H- can’t do what? Hand out your card or yell out for them to get a warrant?
Leggs- D’oh! I wasn’t thinking of it in a sexual way or my response would have been different.
Leggs
November 26th, 2012
2:03 pm
MsAtl ~ that’s just my slant on how he said what he said. I may be off. I doubt it, but I might be (lol).
Jake-SPJTWB
November 26th, 2012
2:04 pm
Comon-are they just stupid, or have no fundamental understanding of the Criminal Justice System.
Case and point, I was once in a situation where I was at a party that was disbanded by the Police, who stated everyone had to leave, lets just say I had been drinking. So as people are filing out he looks at me and says you too. My response, no sir, I have been drinking, it would be dangerous for me to operate a vehicle, besides, I am a guest at this home, and they have given me permission to stay, have a goodnight…turned around and walked upstairs smiling the whole way…he was pissed!!
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
2:10 pm
Aint trynna be no sucker tho.
Meaning? And what was the little run-in or bump in the road? One man’s speed bump is another man’s mountain…
disco
November 26th, 2012
2:12 pm
o/t – question to you parents of youngsters – what’s up with this “happy crack” stuff?
Jake-SPJTWB
November 26th, 2012
2:14 pm
Delvon-Call her up, you won’t know if your key still works unless you test the lock….Happy Hunting!!
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
2:15 pm
Jake~ And you know they picked up every other individual that left that party, right?
Good move on your part.
Celisea......refreshed!!!
November 26th, 2012
2:15 pm
I guess for Delvon’s situation, I’m wondering what’s happened since the split that he now wants to go back? Is he’s now seeing the grass ain’t greener…type situation, did he not recognize back then she had a good heart, are you just missing her for real, is she with someone else and you don’t want her to be? What? I mean you knew of the “drama” back then right, just as you knew of her good heart?
Just sparking convo
MsAtl
November 26th, 2012
2:16 pm
Jake- you have a point. I think some people take the position that they have nothing to hide, while others may be afraid and just consent.
Comon- Nah buddy; I may have nothing to hide, but you are going to do your job and put in the work!
Leggs- Judging by Del’s reply, you were partially right, lol.
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
2:16 pm
disco~ It’s a mixture of Kool-Aid and powdered sugar. What are you asking exactly?
Single and Happy Marvelous Monday
November 26th, 2012
2:16 pm
MsATL, tell them to get a warrant
Jake-SPJTWB
November 26th, 2012
2:17 pm
Disco-Nothing but Sugar and Kool-Aid mixed….used to do it in elementary, but we definitely didn’t call it “Happy Crack”, we called sugar and Kool-Aid mixed together.
Random
November 26th, 2012
2:18 pm
I think I mentioned to you all on here about me having a cousin locked up and he has acquired a cell phone behind bars. He sends texts almost daily or is sending pictures of himself shirtless. So over the holidays he came up and EVERYBODY seemed irritated by this. So I felt a sense of relief that I was not the only one wishing he would quit. Even his sister went off on him about those daily Good morning, Good afternoon, Good night texts and of course the pictures.
That’s what I call Holiday Comic Relief
Single and Happy Marvelous Monday
November 26th, 2012
2:21 pm
Delvon, just has the lonely holiday blues, just needs to keep reminding himself of why he left in the first place
disco
November 26th, 2012
2:22 pm
ms. atl – re the cops doing their jobs. I laughed because I always think of them trying to get info from folks talking about if we don’t aid in their investigation we’re not helping them do their jobs. I’m like the day a cop comes to my job and helps me do my work we can talk.
CC/jake – had my niece last week. she was talking about happy crack like she was strung out for real. I was just wondering if there was an epidemic. lol. turns out her school has banned it but of course kids are still sneaking and eating it. I read that older kids are actually snorting it and there are variations on the recipe. all I could do was shake my head. I was way out of the loop.
MsAtl
November 26th, 2012
2:24 pm
Happy crack? Never heard of it. As a kid, we mixed kool aid & sugar, though. Do they just eat it? (I hope, I hope).
Jake-SPJTWB
November 26th, 2012
2:25 pm
CC-Not sure who they got that night, but I know who they didn’t get…buster azz police…I was a Crim Jus Minor, and was just showing out cause I knew he couldn’t do nothing…it wasn’t as clean and proper as wrote, but he knew I what the heyal i was talking bout…tossing around the word entrapment, its my right to stay here, blah,blah,blah….good clean fun I tell ya.
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
2:27 pm
MsAtl~ As disco said, some of the middle schoolers are snorting it but the elementary kids just eat it. Problem is that it creates an incredible sugar rush and makes the kids hard to handle. My kids’ school has banned it as well.
MsAtl
November 26th, 2012
2:28 pm
Disco- good idea. Next time a cop says that, I will invite him to assist at my job.
Snorting kool aid? Wth? Tell me about being out of the loop. I remember several years ago, having to dip out of a client interview to call my then teenager son to ask him what “brains” were since my client had been kicked out of school “for getting brains.” Heck! I didn’t know if he had gotten smart witht he teacher or what. I thought brains in school was a good thing. Apparently not!
Comon Cents
November 26th, 2012
2:32 pm
MsAtl~ LMAO! I remember the first time I heard about someone “getting brain” I was like WTF does that mean? Then I felt incredibly stupid for not catching on.