Casual dating vs Committed Relationship?
Before you go on a holiday dating spree, perhaps it is worthwhile to figure out what your short-term and long-term goals are. When you approach your dating life, having some sense of what you truly want is a good way to get the results that you want. I know what, you’re saying..that’s a no-brainer, Diva! Well, you would be surprised at the number of single people walking around with nary a clue of what they want.
Generally, you meet people who either want to keep things casual or those who want to ultimately move towards a committed relationship. The casual dating folks will say things like, “I just want to kick-it with somebody cool, and see where things go” Or one of my favorites: “I like just going with the flow.” Keep in mind, these are the same people that will try to have sex with no strings attached.
People who want committed relationships are fine with taking things slow. They feel comfortable with the idea of making room in their lives for somebody special. They don’t stress about giving up freedom or allowing someone to them for who they are.
I believe that casual dating has it’s place and those who want it should clearly state that intention upfront. There is nothing wrong with casual dating if that is what you want. The trick is figuring out when you should be casually dating people and when you are ready to build a relationship with someone.
How do you know when to keep it light, fun and easy with casual dating? When do you know that it is time to take it to another level?
What do you do when you are ready to leave casual and go committed? If the person/people you are seeing don’t want the same thing, what do you do?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating
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Exiled!
November 20th, 2012
7:01 am
Casual dating,Diva,is a way to get your Lay On,so that you don’t go on full blown famine. Insisting on committed relationships maybe impractical,especially when the right men are few or most don’t want to go there.
So what a woman To Do to keep the Long Term Intentions On whilst also being cognizant of the short term Lay needs?
Casual Dating!!
It is better to be true to yourself ladies than permanently carry a frown. Coz truf be told,if you ain’t get laid,your brow will tell. And any little thing a man does,a small to minor transgression by a man will invite a monster tongue lashing!
That’s when you know,here madam has a serious case of ABW occasioned by cobwetaitis!
High blood pressure will kill you ladies! No joke. Tata Tata Tata dead! (that’s high old pressure for u)
All because you want to keep the y unnumbered as if the hymen is still stella and intact. Why lie to urself and self molest?
Casual dating!
I tell ya!
Happy Thankgiven MIA!
I’m Early. couldn’t sleep looking frward to catching the flight home to Queen and the gang!
Exiled!
November 20th, 2012
7:05 am
High blood pressure(not old pressure)
Unencumbered(not what the IPhone filled there)
Cherry
November 20th, 2012
7:38 am
Hello blog,
I’m new here. I was following this blog all last week. Am I allowed to jump in? H
ello Exiled, you are one funny man. lol Will I have to retype my name each time? I noticed sometimes your name is all capitalized then sometimes not. I wondered if I’d to key in everytime I want to make comments?
I think I’m going to like this place!
Cherry
November 20th, 2012
8:00 am
I am engaged and the holidays are always a great time for my soon to be family. My fiance and I try to equally divide our time.
I’m getting the hang of this! It seems I won’t have to re-enter my name each time. I guess the site retains my name.
lee
November 20th, 2012
8:54 am
End result if someone doesn’t want the same as you, you need to move along.
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
8:55 am
Good Morning, bloggies!
Casual Dating vs Committed Relationship? (in other words Hooking Up vs Serious Dating)
I think that question speaks for itself. If I want to hook up and you want to be committed, incompatible. Same with the other way. People must be on the same page about what they want.
And contrary to popular belief, hooking up does not lead to long term relationships.
Good morning, Cherry! Welcome!
Single and Happy
November 20th, 2012
8:56 am
For me, ALL dating is casual until I get to know the person! Casual dating doesn’t always lead to sex. If someone tells me they are looking for a serious relationship, then I’m not the one, If you would like to get to know each other and see where it goes. I’m the one.
Single and Happy
November 20th, 2012
8:56 am
For me, ALL dating is casual until I get to know the person! Casual dating doesn’t always lead to sex. If someone tells me they are looking for a serious relationship, then I’m not the one, If you would like to get to know each other and see where it goes. I’m the one.
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
9:00 am
S/H~ I am sorry I forgot to email you! I got a call yesterdday afternoon from an immigration attorney I had called when we had the convo about your friend.
Do you still need my help?
Single and Happy
November 20th, 2012
9:02 am
Comon I may, I got the information, and sent it to her, but what they tell me and what she says the do doesn’t make any sense. do you still have my email address?
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
9:03 am
Good morning Ladies, Gents and Miscreants
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
9:06 am
Yay, Miscreants!
S/H~ I do still have your email addy at home. I can email you tonight if you like.
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
9:07 am
S/H – That’s how I’m thinking. I’m not used to this dating, but I want to keep it casual until I know whether or not we should move forward. You don’t know until you get to know each other well, right?
So…the Young One and I hung out Friday night. I took him to a friend’s housewarming party. He had several beers. On the way back to take him to his car, he asked me what we are. I said that we are just dating and seeing what happens. A little bit later, he asked me what I want from him. I told him that I didn’t know yet…I want to keep hanging out and get to know each other better. I like him, but not quite sure about him yet. Taking it easy and just seeing what happens…
Single and Happy
November 20th, 2012
9:07 am
Thanks, comon.
Hello all
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
9:09 am
Welcome Cherry. Please, do not tell Ex he’s funny. That’s a compliment giving him permission to come in for the kill (lol).
Casual dating is where one starts out until time leads both to think they may want to continue down the path toward a committed relationship. You have to start out casually before you even have the notion that this person is worth an emotional investment. BUT, with casual dating, more than likely no chance for entwining our bodies together. “Casual” is just that, having sex requires that we have moved out of that dating bracket. My mind and intuition, along with your actions, will tell me that. Mere words are a dime a dozen!
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
9:12 am
Bluz~ Did you ask him what he thought you were? Are you feeling like he is trying to lock you down or is he trying to push the relationship to the next level?
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
9:13 am
Welcome Cherry. Please, do not tell Ex he’s funny. That’s a compliment giving him permission to come in for the kill (lol).
kimmie
November 20th, 2012
9:17 am
Morning All!!
Exiled – Man, what was with that wack to me late Friday about lawyers??? Heck, the law students were not the only ones that thought they were “all that” in college, the dumb-azz athletes, the pre-meds, you name it! Just cause I mentioned hubs at times puts his lawyer hat on and shows me a different way to look at things, we don’t dumb it down to each other & the kids, somehow we think we’re better than everyone?? Would you have felt better if I said hubs used to be a garbage collector so he hates seeing a full trash can in the house?? Man, get outta here!!LOL!!!
On topic – My only contribution to this is I wish more would be honest with themselves when confronted with the casual versus committed decision. Meaning, if someone tells you upfront what they want and it’s different from what you want, don’t just go along with it hoping that person will change their mind. Nip it in the bud before you catch feelings and get them hurt down the line.
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
9:24 am
CC – He really likes me a lot…I can tell. I think he wants to be able to call me his girlfriend. Thing is…we don’t know each other well enough. We’ve only hung out 3 times and out of those times, we only were alone once. He did warn me that he gets attached quickly…it kind of scares me. I like him enough to keep it going, but I’m not at the point where I’m crazy about him and want to jump in…Honestly…I feel like this is great growth for me! I’m usually the one who wants to jump in!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
9:26 am
Bluz – I’m glad you answered the way you did….those questions this early on would make me give him the side-eye honestly. Just seems too early…but that’s just me
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
9:27 am
CC – He really likes me a lot…I can tell. – Don’t you think it would be better if you actually heard him say it. He asked you, why didn’t you return the question back to him??? Are you afraid to hear what he actually will say possibly making you think and bust a move a little faster???
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
9:28 am
Bluz – That one time yall were alone…um….did any….cough cough….action happ’n?
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
9:28 am
Leggs~ And that was my point.
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
9:30 am
Slim~ You stoopid! (But I have to be honest, I was wondering the same…)
kimmie
November 20th, 2012
9:30 am
Bluz – That actually sounds great. I do read growth in you. You are taking your time and setting the pace.
Cherry
November 20th, 2012
9:31 am
Thanks guys for such a warm welcome!
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
9:35 am
So, Cherry, when are you getting married?
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
9:36 am
Slim…no…only kissing!
Leggs – He actually has told me that he likes me. He compliments me often. I guess I didn’t think about putting the question back on him. In a way, it’s nice to have some control of the pace. I am very hesitant because he does seem to like me a little too much too soon. I’m not used to that. When we were kissing goodbye Fri night, he asked if I wanted to go to his place, but I was tired and I said no. He said ok and then joked that he’s not a very good salesman because he’s not pushy enough. I looked him in the eye and said that with me, I’d prefer him to not be pushy…
kimmie
November 20th, 2012
9:36 am
Slim – Women only seem to give the side-eye to a guy wanting to lock it down quick when they are not really feeling him. If they are, then it’s all good. This is my observation/opinion. My hubs was ready to lock it down after 3 dates. If I had not been feeling him, it would have creeped me out.
Not saying this is the case with Bluz AT ALL. Especially since she said they’ve only been out alone once.
kimmie
November 20th, 2012
9:38 am
Where are my manners – Welcome Cherry!!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
9:38 am
I’m wondering what the outcome of two folks who usually move too fast would be….Hmmm?
Not to be Debbie Downer but buddy seems like his mind is on the puddy. You’re kissing then he asks about you coming to his place, then throws out there that he isn’t pushy enough. Slow ya roll buddy.
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
9:39 am
kimmie~ cosign on your 9:36. That has been my observation too. Isht that would be creepy if you weren’t feeling the guy becomes “cute” or “sweet” when you are.
disco
November 20th, 2012
9:39 am
hey y’all.
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
9:40 am
I’m wondering what the outcome of two folks who usually move too fast would be….Hmmm?
I can answer that. Divorce.
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
9:40 am
Heeeeyyyy disco!
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
9:41 am
Good to hear, Bluz! Looking in the eye to convey your sentiment is also good.
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
9:41 am
Slim…I know he wants the puddy, but he really doesn’t seem like the type to be only after that. Honestly, I see a lot of myself in him…or, at least how I’ve been with men. He seems to have a good heart and may be one who falls hard and fast. I’ve been known to be that way…
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
9:45 am
Hey disco!
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
9:46 am
♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪HAPPY BIRTHDAY, SWISS!!!
♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
9:47 am
Bluz~ IMO there is a certain amount of info you should know about someone before you can call yourself “in a relationship”. Basic info, like:
When is your birthday?
What’s your middle name?
Where were you born/did you grow up?
Are your parents in the area?
How many siblings do you have?
Did you go to college and where?
What are your goals/aspirations and what are you doing to make them a reality?
How many previous relationships have you been in? (Coupled with have you ever been married?)
Do you have kids?
I am always amazed at the basic information people DON’T know about someone they are dating/sleeping with. Don’t make that mistake!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
9:47 am
Especially since she said they’ve only been out alone once.
kimmie – That is exactly the point i’m coming from…It does not seem to have been situation’s where they had time to really get to know each other one on one.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
9:48 am
Bluz – So how does it feel to be dating yourself?
HST
November 20th, 2012
9:52 am
He puts his Miscreant Hat at the door.
Good Morning Bloggers. Welcome to posting Cherry, this place is always fun.
“Keep in mind, these are the same people that will try to have sex with no strings attached.” It almost seems that this is implied as a negative.
Bluz, as a stage one clinger or former, you have now found one yourself (through his own admission) – has that given you a new perspective on clinging? You seem like this bright young lady. Stop dating men who can’t challenge you. Musicians and younger men are not the way to challenge you emotionally. You sound like a gem, find a man that compliments you…
Cherry
November 20th, 2012
9:52 am
next fall, but we haven’t fully decided.
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
9:55 am
Cherry~ Well, congrats! You will have to keep us posted on your progress and let us know once you set a date.
Good morning, HST.
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
9:55 am
CC – I agree with you. I know some of those things, but need to know more…
Slim – Funny…I guess I can now see what I’ve put some guys through! LOL
At least when I’ve jumped too fast into something with men in the past, I knew the men for a while. This is really the first time that I’ve met a guy at a bar and started dating him. It’s all a new experience for me. My mom asked me if I wanted to invite him to Thanksgiving, but I decided that I’m not ready for all of that. At this point, I don’t know if I want to have a relationship with him. Time will tell. I’m not going to stress myself about it. If he tries to stress me about being in a relationship, then I will end up pushing him away…
MsAtl
November 20th, 2012
9:56 am
Morning All! Welcome Cherry.
Topic- If I am “casually dating” someone, there will be no penis between us. Otherwise, people need to be honest about what they expect & intend. If you want a committed relationship and the other party does not, it is best to keep it moving.
Bluz- Great! Best to move slowly. Btw- did you do a background check to make sure he isn’t Jack the Ripper or some stalker? Google will work.
Comon- You forgot the leading questions; Do you have a wife, lover, girlfriend, boyfriend, babymama?
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
9:56 am
you have now found one yourself (through his own admission) – has that given you a new perspective on clinging?
HST – I was soooo thinking this same thing…
disco
November 20th, 2012
9:57 am
CC – that’s alot of “personal” info. no wonder i’m single. lol.
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
10:01 am
Btw- did you do a background check to make sure he isn’t Jack the Ripper or some stalker? Google will work.
See, there you go MsAtl. I was trying to be nice and let her get the information the good old fashioned way!
You had to go the route that every female lawyer I know goes. But I guess if it works for job hunting, it will work for dating too… 
And I didn’t leave out the leading questions, I just cleaned them up. (ie Do you have kids? Have you ever been married? etc…)
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
10:04 am
disco~ The way I look at that is before I let someone work on my car, I would want to see an ASE certification to know that you were qualified to do the work and you weren’t going to fck up my car. I can buy another car! So, if I am going to (ahem) let you under my hood, I need to know that you are qualified before that happens. I can’t get another puddy. IJS…
kimmie
November 20th, 2012
10:05 am
Hey Disco!!
MsAtl
November 20th, 2012
10:05 am
Comon- At least I didn’t tell her to do a Lexis serch, lol. Once she clears him from the murderer rolls through Google, she can get information the old fashioned way.
I told my nieces that I was going to give them a dating checklist. They laughed at that.
Disco- I can picture you cringing at the thought of providing info, lol. At least she didn’t say name, rank & serial number.
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
10:07 am
Oh…I have done the Google! Not much out there. He has been married before…I did verify that with the search! LOL! You Google me and there is a ton of info on all the charity work I’ve done. All good stuff! I did find his high school picture also!
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
November 20th, 2012
10:10 am
I literally laughed out loud at “the Google” just now…
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
10:12 am
He has been married before…I did verify that with the search!
Did he tell you that or did you have to Google him to find that out?
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
10:20 am
Seems like she had to verify it after Google, so he wasn’t forthcoming. Perhaps after 3 encounters one alone, he didn’t feel it was time to reveal that.
disco
November 20th, 2012
10:21 am
mrs. atl – i can get with a little bit of questioning when i’m in the mood but generally i’m more of an i’ll tell you when i want you to know type. god forbid i tell someone something and then they have half a dozen follow up questions. uggh. one guy is always talking about how i know so much more about him than he knows about me and i always tell him he needs to quit running his business. lol. i don’t ask he just feels the need to run off at the mouth.
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
10:23 am
Bluz ~ you seem to have the upper hand in this newly minted relationship. Does it make you wary that you may not know how to go about getting to the next steps? Are you uncomfortable that he seems to like you more than you like him since this is something you’re not used to? Power is dangerous when one doesn’t know how to yield it’s weight! You might kill yourself off.
Dani
November 20th, 2012
10:26 am
Good morning- I have an update on my Thanksgiving plans. The ex didn’t read the parenting plan and thought he was getting the kids midday on Thanksgiving and returning on Friday. He is supposed to get them on Wednesday night before and they return on Monday after school day. I found this out from the 7 year old. Since he is getting them on Thursday we are doing a Thanksgiving breakfast that morning before they leave. So I will get to spend part of the day with my girls. I did get the guilt trip from my mom stating this is the 1st Thanksgiving I have not been there!
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
10:29 am
Dani ~ I can feel your smile!!! Glad you’re able to spend some of the day with your girls.
i'm swiss
November 20th, 2012
10:31 am
Thanks, Leggs! Do I get a spanking, too?
Welcome, Cherry. (Okay, now you regulars all know how hard it is for me not to make a sexual comment involving that moniker. Somebody ought to at least give me some props for fighting the urge this long…)
kimmie
November 20th, 2012
10:33 am
Dani – Nice you get to be with your babies!!
Dani
November 20th, 2012
10:33 am
I am smiling over here! Heck I’m going out and buy my Christmas tree tonight. We can decorate and back cookies tomorrow.
kimmie
November 20th, 2012
10:34 am
Happy Birthday Swiss Beatz and fellow Dawg!!!
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
10:34 am
swiss~ I’ll be more than happy to come and spank you…
HBTY!
Hey, Dani! Glad you get some time with your girls on Thanksgiving! What are you doing with the rest of your day?
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
10:35 am
swiss ~ you sure do, but it won’t be my hand on your untanned behind (lol).
kimmie
November 20th, 2012
10:35 am
Swiss – I know it’s killing you!! You have me trained well, cause I thought about how you’d twist up her moniker!!
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
10:36 am
swiss ~ yes sir, I know that was hard for you not to say anything. Yesterday, we had hymen and now we have cherry. You must really be squirming.
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
10:36 am
squirming, not squirting (lol). Uggg, sorry, folk. Was that a bit much??
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
10:38 am
Excellent Dani! You just made lemonade out of your lemons! Get that tree and decorate it. Your girls won’t even notice a disconnect…that’s the key.
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
10:38 am
He did tell me up front that he had been married before. He was very open and honest about it. I just saw on Google later the date of the marriage and of the divorce.
Leggs – I think I am a little uncomfortable with him liking me more than I like him. It scares me a little. I’m not used to that. But…he also doesn’t know me very well. Maybe there is a small fear that he won’t like me so much once he gets to know me better. I don’t know why that would be a fear because I’m very likable!
He’s such a nice guy and part of me is afraid that I’m going to hurt him. Maybe one problem is that he is too nice…My mom and I were talking about it last night and I just kept saying that “I just don’t know about him yet.”
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
10:41 am
Happy birthday Swiss!!!
kimmie
November 20th, 2012
10:42 am
Maybe one problem is that he is too nice…
Bluz – Really????? Come on girl, stop playing games. That “too nice” stuff is for high school girls that want to rebel against their parents by dating the bad boy! A real man doesn’t put you thru changes, so stop waiting for the other shoe to drop.
MsAtl
November 20th, 2012
10:45 am
Happy birthday Swiss!
Good news Dani.
Bluz- just take it slow & enjoy the ride (no pun intended).
Robert
November 20th, 2012
10:46 am
“How do you know when to keep it light, fun and easy with casual dating? ”
It’s important to be honest so the other person will know what your casual dating expectations are. For example if you are just looking for a travel partner or someone who can fix things around the house(Handy Man)let the other person know what you are looking for. I think people respect honesty whether you are casual dating or not.
Dani
November 20th, 2012
10:46 am
Comon- I never heard back from Meals on Wheels. I will probably take the dog for a run at Arabia Trails and chill at home the rest of the day.
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
10:48 am
Leggs – I think I am a little uncomfortable with him liking me more than I like him. It scares me a little. – Don’t you think there’s always someone in the relationship liking their mate a little more than the other. Could it simply be that you aren’t feeling him. If you were, you would be talking about you wonder how long or thick his penis is, and if he knows how to use it…ijs…
Single and Happy
November 20th, 2012
10:49 am
Hmm looking for a handy man, I hope you have some handy money (LOL) that isn’t casual dating that’s FWB
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
10:52 am
kimmie – I guess I’m just used to the other shoe dropping! I should be used to a guy treating me like he has so far. It’s just all so new to me.
kimmie
November 20th, 2012
10:53 am
Hmm looking for a handy man, I hope you have some handy money (LOL) that isn’t casual dating that’s FWB
Single – LOL!!!
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
10:54 am
S/H~ cosign on your 10:49.
Leggs~ I also cosign on your 10:48.
Guess I’m just cosigning today…
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
10:55 am
Leggs – True…I’ll be honest and say that I’m not totally feeling him. I think I want to and would like to give it more time to see if I will. He is the type of guy I should be with…one who adores me and compliments me and will probably put me on a pedastool…I need to see if he also will challenge me.
i'm swiss
November 20th, 2012
10:56 am
Thanks for all the b-day wishes, folks.
Comon — My cheeks are bared are waiting.
Leggs — It may be untanned now, but just wait until Comon gets finished with me…
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
10:57 am
Bluz – Do you always tell your mom about dudes you meet or date no matter how casual or serious it is?
Single and Happy
November 20th, 2012
11:00 am
comon, on your questions, what if I plead the fifth
Bluz, did he tell you what happened with his marriage? his side at least.
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
11:02 am
Slim – My mom is my best friend…I may not go into full details, but I do talk to her about a lot of stuff.
S/H – He has not yet told me what exactly happened to the marriage. He just said that they made a mistake by marrying young…stayed married for 7 years, trying to work it out…in the end, they were not right for each other…
MsAtl
November 20th, 2012
11:03 am
Swiss- you are hilarious!
Comon- run to Walmart & grab a wooden paddle or hair brush.
Single and Happy
November 20th, 2012
11:07 am
Bluz, they made a mistake marrying young, and now after all of 3 weeks, he’s all into you? (repeat offender) keep a level head.
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
11:07 am
swiss – I’ll give you some birthday spankings if you come give me my birthday spankings on Monday!
Single and Happy
November 20th, 2012
11:08 am
Bluz, how old did you say dude was?
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
11:08 am
comon, on your questions, what if I plead the fifth
Then there is nothing further to talk about because I know where you stand.
run to Walmart & grab a wooden paddle or hair brush.
I already have one
It’s got swiss’ name on it…
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
11:08 am
Enter your comments here
Single and Happy
November 20th, 2012
11:08 am
Enough talk with all these spankings, I’m about to fake a birthday!!
Single and Happy
November 20th, 2012
11:09 am
come on comon, don’t go with your instincts (LOL)
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
11:10 am
S/H – I am definitely keeping a level head with this one. I promise that!
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
11:11 am
S/H – He’s 29…I feel like a cougar even though I’m only 4 years older! LOL
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
11:11 am
He is the type of guy I should be with…one who adores me and compliments me and will probably put me on a pedastool…I need to see if he also will challenge me.
Hell, you need to challenge yourself to be with someone who isn’t walking over you and treating you like an insignificant doormat. That’s what you’re used to. Girl, burn that shield and try a nice person who cares!!! it’s a damn shame we tend to let our past continuously dictate our future. Snap out of it, Bluz!!!!
swiss ~ when Comon get’s finished with it, it will still be untanned, but red as hell with hand welps. Wait, you’d like that (lolol).
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
11:15 am
Leggs – I know…I’m working on it. It really is nice to have someone who adores me!
i'm swiss
November 20th, 2012
11:15 am
Bluz — My pleasure (and happy early b-day to you, too). Just so you know, I am a naturalist, so I only give spankings bare back. Just FYI…
(So you just barely missed being a Scorpio, eh? I assume some of the freak still rubbed off on you, though).
“It’s got swiss’ name on it…”
Comon — I guess that’s for the best. Mrs. Swiss probably wouldn’t appreciate it if you branded your name on my booty.
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
11:17 am
swiss – I wouldn’t have it any other way! I’m close to the cusp, so I have a little Scorpio and a lot Sag in me…
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
11:18 am
SlimNu ~ I was thinking the same because I remember how excited her mother was about the army man or army doctor or military something or another (lol). They were looking at wedding books together.
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
11:19 am
Leggs – It was Dr. Britt that mom was excited about. Army guy was the one night stand! Let’s keep it straight. LOL!!! Mom wants me to be with a good man and settle down already! She also likes the Young One, but she’s right there with me with taking it slow and getting to know him better before jumping in…
Exiled!
November 20th, 2012
11:20 am
Kimmie..u so late..what was the discussion bout…lawyers,accountant,grabage collector..if ua good hubby,u good hubby,never mind ur profession..that was the import of my discourse.
Oh,Happy birfday Swiss..ur birfdate and ur kid’s will be real close.ha.
Hows the prego coming along….
And hello and welcome to Cherrie..did i spell that correct?
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
11:22 am
and a lot Sag in me…
I don’t know about that one Bluz. We Sags are shoot from the hip type of people, don’t tend to sugarcoat too much for the benefit of the other person, but won’t purposely go out to hurt someone (unless they deserve it). I only know of two quiet Sags and you might now be the 3rd.
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
11:24 am
Bluz ~ darling I am so trying to keep it all straight. Thanks for clarifying. Dr Britt, Army guy….all nuts!
Dani
November 20th, 2012
11:25 am
I will cosign on that about the Sag. I have been told I have a way with words and I need to work on my delivery.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
11:26 am
swiss – The CT will be whistling the birthday song to you later on
Exiled!
November 20th, 2012
11:28 am
How old are u Bluz?
kimmie
November 20th, 2012
11:28 am
Exiled – Made my point to your stank post, that’s all!
Bluz – Don’t force yourself to be with someone you’re not feeling. He’s the type of dude you “should” be with? That’s the kiss of death!!
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
11:28 am
Dani ~ I’ve been told that my entire life. I’ve gotten better over the past few decades, but man o man, I was hell on wheels (lol). When’s your bday?
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
11:29 am
Ex ~ yonger guy is 4 years older than she and he’s 29. Pull out the calculator if you need to (lololol).
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
11:29 am
4 years younger than she…nothing like being sarcastic and messing up the delivery (lol).
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
11:30 am
LOL Leggs – you know I’m just teasing you…
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
11:32 am
Ex – The Young One is 29…I’ll be 33 on Monday…4 years older…
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 20th, 2012
11:32 am
On topic: I tend to think most relationships started with “let’s see where things can go”…at least for me, historically that’s what it’s been. Yes, there’s the feel of casual only because we don’t know one another but I’m one not into spinning wheels just for the sake of. I’ve never jumped in all deep, day one. By the same token, I ask that if you’re in it for just “kicking” it, to let me know. I don’t EVER feel like I want to waste my your time and more importantly, mine. But, whatever floats your boat is what every individual should do. Some folks are cool just kicking it and have found that they really like the person. As with anything and as we’ve all said before, just have the talk and make certain there’s a crystal understanding of both parties intents. IMO, that’s the component that makes a world of difference…..being forthcoming in your intentions.
Off topic: Welcome Cherry. New faces are always welcomed!!!
Jake-SPJTWB
November 20th, 2012
11:36 am
What up Ladies and Gentleman…now who is spanking who?
Dani
November 20th, 2012
11:37 am
11/28
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
11:38 am
Swiss is currently getting spanked, and Bluz is standing in line.
czBrat .. hola from panama!
November 20th, 2012
11:39 am
on topic: just oy!
My hubs was ready to lock it down after 3 dates. If I had not been feeling him, it would have creeped me out.
lmao @ ^
looks like great convo today. wish i had time for more.
ciao!
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
11:39 am
Sorry, I already had it on the Blog calendar (lol). I think you, Comon and czB were talking about bdays last week.
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
11:40 am
How’s you doing, czB? I know you’re refreshed just being with your family. Stu is marveling at the beauty isn’t he. No, chile, not talking about you (lolol).
Into the Light
November 20th, 2012
11:43 am
Hey y’all!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY, SWISS!!! Hope it’s the best one yet, with many more to follow.
Headed out for lunch; just wanted to pop in and say hi.
Exiled!
November 20th, 2012
11:48 am
At 29, he is an adult, never mind he dont have a job right now, which is not unusual in this economy. However, u describe him..or it domes accross to me, when u describe him that he is rather..kinda..immmature…ijs
Now to be fair, u sound a tad immature urself for a 33 year old chic..but i give u a slight pass given u have indicated(candidly i must say and unusually so), ur medical condition.
At 33..most chics are waaay more mature than dudes at same age..thats my experience at least..
I dont think a young dude will steady u..rather, a more mature dude could handle u better and even give u some steady hand to rely on, if he is serious about u….
The problem, given again ur situation, is how do u spot a sincere dude versus a dude coming in with red shot eyes,ready for the kill..but intending to let u lie and lick ur wounds after he gooten the guuud stuff…thats the challenge i see…
But i wld suggest u upgradeage wise…..and just..date date date date without getting sucked in..
Tall order Bluzz,given ur cootie needs a tap on the regular….
But u know,(ask the blog chics for confirmation,they know) at 33, most single chics have have one good BOB on standby that does a damn heck of job pretty “well”…..Under the circumstances ofcourse!
:lol:
Exiled!
November 20th, 2012
11:49 am
@Bluz…11:48
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
11:52 am
Sorry, was thinking about Family Guy. Stu jumped in my mind!
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
11:57 am
Ex – I actually agree with most of what you said! LOL
He does have a job…granted, it’s not one that he likes or seems to be great at, but he’s going to stick it out as long as he can and see what happens with it.
As far as dating older…I typically do date older men and they seem to be much more immature. I’ve always liked older men.
To be honest, I’m very mature in many ways…just not so much when it comes to men. That comes from things that have happened to me in the past, but like I’ve said before, I’m working on it all.
And…by the way…I do have a great BOB…
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
12:00 pm
We Sags are shoot from the hip type of people, don’t tend to sugarcoat too much for the benefit of the other person, but won’t purposely go out to hurt someone (unless they deserve it).
My son & my nephew are both Sags and I have found this to be true as well.
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 20th, 2012
12:01 pm
MMeello – I’m impressed with most of that 11:48. I’on know about the B.O.B. I don’t have one of those. Well, at least not batter operated…lolololol
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
12:02 pm
C~ Gas/electric hybrid?!? Mine too!
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 20th, 2012
12:02 pm
I’m a sag to my very core…waaaay down deep
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 20th, 2012
12:04 pm
CC – Huh? BOB? I was talking about a human operated one…lol Maybe I should ask and not assume what B.O.B. means…lol
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
12:08 pm
Battery Operated Boyfriend…
Jake-SPJTWB
November 20th, 2012
12:10 pm
Welcome Cherry Blossom!!
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
12:12 pm
Leave it to Jake to go adding stuff and thangs…
C~ Just a little joke. I used to have a friend that had a vibrator that plugged in.
So we said we were going to move her into the 21st century with a gas/electric hybrid.
Exiled!
November 20th, 2012
12:14 pm
Thnx Cel…
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 20th, 2012
12:15 pm
Got it! lol
Exiled!
November 20th, 2012
12:18 pm
Now, ladies..how bout u rattle off the brand names of these BOBs…..hitachi,sony,jvc etc…lets here…
shout out the names ladies….Leggs,who u with, Disco, who u with,Slim,who u rolling with,ITL and so on… etc….
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 20th, 2012
12:20 pm
MMeello – I can’t do foreign objects, not healthy…lololololol
Jake-SPJTWB
November 20th, 2012
12:27 pm
Comon-she needs to get used to that, you know there will some unprovoked, unannounced, unauthorized flirtations coming her way…I just wanted to welcome her the right way…lol
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
12:27 pm
Sorry, Ex, my bullet is very lonely these days. But back in the day, that’s what I had. And it was very, very healthy.
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
12:28 pm
Jake~ True… (in my 2Chainz voice)
Cherry Blossom
November 20th, 2012
12:31 pm
I love the addition to my name.
Nice to sort of meet you Jake – SPJTWB!
How do I make the smiley faces? Can someone assist?
Jake-SPJTWB
November 20th, 2012
12:31 pm
On another note: Vanquish was off the chain Friday Night…I was too!!!
I am officially recommending it as one of the for sure bets in ATL for Urban Entertainment on Friday’s!!!!
Into the Light
November 20th, 2012
12:39 pm
sn: WHY do I manage once every 2-3 years to convince myself that maybe Panda Express has gotten better and I should try it again? A whole bowl of rice and just a few little pieces of veggies? HMPH!
@Ex: I don’t to say it out loud….c’mere and I’ll whisper it in your ear… (ITL now blowing a foghorn in Ex’s ear, Looney Tunes-style)
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
12:41 pm
ITL – I see i’m not the only one who opted for Chy-Neeee today.
Ex – These day’s I roll with myself…unless of course the beau is nowhere around to catch me using his neck massager.
Exiled!
November 20th, 2012
12:46 pm
Jake, are u invested in Vanquish?
U got a buddy that works there..whats the deal…?
the realest deal?
U been promoting the place..for a minute..now how old are the prople that go there…is it a real loUnge or it ends up with folk(hoochie mamas) shacking their behind down low like ALL e the other young place?
Into the Light
November 20th, 2012
12:52 pm
@Slim: It was meh….so so. More veggies, more skrimps, less rice would have been MUCH better. It was kinda spicy, though, which I love.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
12:53 pm
ITL – I went to a spot not too far from my, it’s much better than PE but there is always room for growth lol…No imma need a nap
Single and Happy
November 20th, 2012
12:54 pm
Cherry blossom here’s the link, thanks to swiss
http://karaokebus.com/blog_formatting.txt
Exiled!
November 20th, 2012
12:55 pm
ITL..what are u doing for ThanksG….u vising ur peeps and planning to cook…..
whatchu all cook,other than the turkey…..
And Swiss..is it u cooking?..dont tell me u gon drag Ms Swissie with her pouchy belly to do the catering?
Jake-SPJTWB
November 20th, 2012
1:09 pm
Ex-Slow down Cowboy…I mentioned that I would be going last week, and I am giving an entertainment report, close your eyes for sec if you don’t like, Got Dayum FUN POLICE!!
As I was saying before being harrassed by Exiled:
Here is the Skinny:
The Happy Hour begins at 6PM, they have about 6 drinks specials at $5 along with a complimentary buffet, for your musical pleasure, its a neo-soul/r&b mix at a conversational level until about 8ish/8:30pm, which is the time that the live performance begins with an ecletic mix soul/hip-hop and the venue begins to fill dramatically. At the end of the performance, a DJ takes over until closing.
The Crowd is a Professional/Afterwork crowd, I give the age range from 25-50, there is some butt shaking, but since when was butt shaking not part of a good night out. The place does not have a traditional dance floor, so its really just good people and good times, you can make it a meet market, dance a bit, or just watch…If you are not into the full tilt club experience, you always have the option to leave when the DJ gets going, and you didn’t pay for it….I had a blast in the joint!!
This week: El Debarge is the live entertainment.
Single and Happy
November 20th, 2012
1:13 pm
Jake, where is it located?
Into the Light
November 20th, 2012
1:15 pm
@Ex: I’m going to visit family. We’re having fried turkey…my favorite!
@Slim: I shoulda called House of Chan for takeout, but I thought PE would be quicker. Probably was, but quicker is not better. Pooh.
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
1:16 pm
Off Topic~
http://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/2012/11/20/elmo-actor-kevin-clash-resigns-amid-sex-allegation/
So, I guess they’ll be releasing “Just Say No” Elmo in time for Christmas?
i'm swiss
November 20th, 2012
1:22 pm
Me.lo, Slim, ITL — Thanks, peeps.
Me.lo — Yup, yours truly is doing all the cooking this year. Actually, I do a lot of the cooking anyway, preggers or no preggers. I’m also cooking my own b-day dinner tonight — just picked up some dry-aged steaks to throw on the grill…
OMG, is Cherry in full bloom? We may need some fire hoses to ward off some of the blog wolves….
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
1:22 pm
Jake~ What night is El Debarge there? I would definitely go and check that out!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
1:24 pm
No mo Tickle Me Elmo either CC
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
1:26 pm
Been to company Thanksgiving luncheon with our Board Members.
Ex ~ I packed my silver bullet up when I packed up my house after my divorce and placed it on the market. I have no idea where that box is in the back of my garage. I know you find that hard to believe, but haven’t used one in a good 5 yrs.
I too like Cherry Blossum. Cherry, you do know it’s now hip to change that “o” to a “u.” You know like Jermaine Jackson to Jermaine Jacksun. Sorry, bad example!!
Jake-SPJTWB
November 20th, 2012
1:27 pm
Peachtree and 10th, near the new Loews Hotel. It shares a building with Club Reign, but Vanquish is a Lounge….Check out if you get a chance.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
1:28 pm
I wonder if Teddy Ruxpin ever got caught up in some ish?
Jake-SPJTWB
November 20th, 2012
1:30 pm
Comon-He is there this Friday
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
1:31 pm
If he shows up, Jake!
i'm swiss
November 20th, 2012
1:31 pm
Slim — Teddy Ruxpin enjoyed wearing women’s lingerie. That’s why he’s called “Teddy.”
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
1:33 pm
Slim~ That actually made me
Did they ever reveal who the voice of Teddy Ruxpin was?
BTW, you just took me back. I remember listening to my Guns n Roses cassette in my Teddy Ruxpin when I was in high school.
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
1:34 pm
ITL – I’ve always wanted to try a fried turkey!
Mom doesn’t want to do a turkey this year, so she’s trying a chicken/stuffing casserole. Works for me. As long as she makes my broccoli rice casserole, I’m good with anything else!
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
1:36 pm
I’m getting a fried turkey from Copelands. I haven’t baked a turkey in years. Not only that, really don’t want a turkey….too much bird for 3-4 people.
Exiled!
November 20th, 2012
1:37 pm
Ok Jake..see…u gave a report…which is good.
U know these days I dont want to crawl into a place with my creaky azz and the youngins are looking,whaaeet,
coz an ol G has strayed.
Since the week end is long ima try it.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
1:39 pm
I have no idea who’s voice TR had….
swiss – you’re crazy…
CC – So your Teddy’s mouth was moving real slow while Gun n Roses was blairing from the speaker?
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
1:44 pm
Leggs~ I thought he had kicked his drug habit. (If that’s what you’re referring to)
Into the Light
November 20th, 2012
1:44 pm
@Bluz: It’s really good. He injects it with a cajun-flavored marinade before he fries it. It is DELICIOUS!
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
1:44 pm
Slim~ You got it! And on the days when we had smoked some trees, that was just fabulous.
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
1:45 pm
“U know these days I dont want to crawl into a place with my creaky azz and the youngins are looking,whaaeet, coz an ol G has strayed.”
What, Ex, you don’t want someone looking at you the way you looked at the women sitting around the bar at Hairston’s? That’s rich!!!!!!!
Cherry Blossom
November 20th, 2012
1:55 pm
Thanks, Single and Happy
Sassy Me..I'm so ready ;-)
November 20th, 2012
1:55 pm
And on the days when we had smoked some trees, that was just fabulous.
You going down for that one…
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
1:56 pm
That’s what I’m referring to Comon. He has relapsed and has cancelled. He was supposed to show up to a concert I attended and cancelled. Don’t remember the reason, but I think he will forever struggle.
MsAtl
November 20th, 2012
1:57 pm
Bluz- Fried turkey is good!
Cracking up over Teddy Ruxpin getting caught up in some ish.
kimmie
November 20th, 2012
1:59 pm
We’ll probably be going to relatives for T-day, but I am doing a ham, some greens and some mac & cheese to have at the house since we won’t have any leftovers to eat on. Although if hubs does not get over this virus he has by then, we’ll stay at home.
Oh, and I’m putting together my famous Cuban Black Bean and Smoked Turkey soup! I have not made it in years, but usually when I do I make enough to give to a few family members.
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
2:00 pm
Leggs~ That is sad. I thought he had finally gotten it together.
kimmie
November 20th, 2012
2:01 pm
Fried turkey is the bomb-diggity! Hubs brother and my younger brother can both hook up some good ones.
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
2:01 pm
kimmie~ That sounds delish! You wanna forward that recipe?
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
2:01 pm
That soup sounds good, kimmie.
My ex and lil leggs are both stricken with something. I hope I don’t get sick.
kimmie
November 20th, 2012
2:03 pm
That breaks my heart about El. I love the whole Debarge body of work, dating back to the Switch days. I have a Debarge greatest hits cd I play in my car all the time.
Leggs/Comon – Did you guys ever see the Unsung on Debarge?
Jake-SPJTWB
November 20th, 2012
2:05 pm
Ex-No doubt, trust me, I wouldn’t have brought it up if it wasn’t Grown & Sexy
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
2:05 pm
kimmie~ I did not see that. I will have to see if I can find it on demand
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
2:12 pm
My ex and lil leggs are both stricken with something. I hope I don’t get sick
It seems like everyone is getting something here at the job. I went out and bought clorox wipes and stuff to hopefully keep me from getting it too.
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
2:13 pm
kimmie ~ I saw it. The entire family is plagued by drugs. I felt, nor feel sorry for Bunny. She carried a lot of stress, they all did. So much potential down the drains. When El made his return at the soul train music awards, it was great seeing him and amazing that his vocal chords were still in tact. That was a miracle. Even Uncle Charlie tried to school him. Apparently, his “Constitution” isn’t as strong as his will to get to the drugs.
Sassy Me..I'm so ready ;-)
November 20th, 2012
2:14 pm
Did you guys ever see the Unsung on Debarge?
I saw that…they were sexually/physically abused as children and just never recovered. It’s like the whole brood has some sort of issue going on and it’s sad cause they’re so talented..even their children can sing. Ryan Cameron is/was having a party for all of Sags and El was supposed to perform. He and James were on the his show(via phone) about a week or two ago and he put El on the spot to sang and dude tore it up.
Dani
November 20th, 2012
2:16 pm
Jake- Been to Vanquish once during FAMU/SU weekend. My friend and I had a great time. It is a nice spot! I may have to go this Friday. I saw EL live at Essence in 2011 when he made the come back. His voice was still perfect. I hope he shows up also.
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
2:17 pm
Jake ~ I googled the establishment last week and googled directions. At some point, I will attend.
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
2:18 pm
That’s right, Sassy. They were just as troubled at The Jackson 5.
Exiled!
November 20th, 2012
2:18 pm
Ok pray for me folks.
Going to Ohare now ….in the A in a bit!
kimmie
November 20th, 2012
2:23 pm
Safe travels, Exiled, and everyone that has to travel during the holidays.
Sassy Me..I'm so ready ;-)
November 20th, 2012
2:25 pm
They were just as troubled at The Jackson 5.
Nah J-5 ain’t got nuthin on DeBarge. On their episode of Unsung Baby Face was saying that you didn’t mess with them…ANY of them cause they were hood. He said when they would all tour together NObody messed with them b/c they knew what time it was.
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
2:28 pm
That may be true, SassyMe. The level of being troubled probably cannot be weighed. Can only look at both families. Most of the Debarge clan is still struggling, MJ is gone, Tito probably the only sane one, Janet, pretty cool, LaTonya obsessed with her looks and a small framed body, Jermanine’s brain stopped growing and taking in info due to all the tar in his hair just to name a few. Dysfunction is dysfunction.
kimmie
November 20th, 2012
2:29 pm
Comon – I got the recipe for that soup from an old Southern Living Annual cookbook of my moms, dating back to 89/90. It is packed up in storage when I moved last year and I don’t feel like digging going to dig for it. So I will be going off of memory.
After you soak the beans to soften, you cook them in a chicken broth with chopped onion, a bay leaf, thyme, celery, pepper and some dry sherry. You take some of the beans out and puree them and then add them back to the soup to thicken. You then add chopped smoked turkey or ham and that’s it. Some people top it with sour cream or add chopped chiles. I put a little rice in the bottom of the bowl when I serve it sometimes.
Jake-SPJTWB
November 20th, 2012
2:30 pm
Dani-thanks for the assist, just trying to throw some options out.
Atlanta is wonderful place to live and be entertained if you choose to visit a place or two, but El Debarge is not coming to your living room to do a private show!!
Jake-SPJTWB
November 20th, 2012
2:33 pm
Unlees you got a big bowl of Bougar Sugar
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
2:33 pm
Jake~ Apparently, he won’t be coming to Vanquish to do a show either.
I kid, Ikid…
kimmie~ I will have to try that and see how it turns out. Sounds yummy!
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
2:35 pm
Or maybe he will come to my home for a private show if I have some crack!
Sassy Me..I'm so ready ;-)
November 20th, 2012
2:36 pm
but El Debarge is not coming to your living room to do a private show!!
Okay…what are you yelling for?
Dysfunction is dysfunction.
True…ain’t it sad. I was watching another show similar to Unsung about Marvin Gaye. I’ve seen his Unsung episode but this one delved deeper into the relationship he had with his father and what led to him shooting his son. He was indeed a Troubled Man (pun intended but not to be funny) I learned alot.
kimmie
November 20th, 2012
2:37 pm
Sassy – Yeah they said sometimes when Debarge was on the road for concerts, they would trash the hotel rooms!
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
2:37 pm
He wouldn’t miss that scheduled performance, Jake.
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
2:40 pm
SassyMe ~ you should read the book on Marvin Gaye. You will probably learn even more. Did you know he put the “e” on the back of his last name hoping to move further away from his cross dressing father’s name.
Sassy Me..I'm so ready ;-)
November 20th, 2012
2:56 pm
Did you know he put the “e” on the back of his last name hoping to move further away from his cross dressing father’s name.
Wow I had no clue. His relationship with his father was very strained and when he became the primary bread winner that really had a bad effect on Marvin,Sr. Marvin was very conflicted between his religion and secular music. That house wasn’t a happy house according to his sister Nona.
I knew that they had a fight the day he shot him but the Nona described it, Marvin kicked his dad’s butt for hitting their mom. Dude said he shot to kill because he was afraid and when he was asked if he loved his son, Marvin, Sr. said, “Well I didn’t hate the guy”..
Sassy Me..I'm so ready ;-)
November 20th, 2012
2:58 pm
*the way*
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
3:00 pm
Any of you blog folks have some crazy family stories of dysfunction or anything interesting to share?
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
3:05 pm
I’ll tell yall what i’ve heard in my family. My granny is one of 12 kids (she’s a twin) Anyway, I heard that the mom was probably cheating or something or found out the dad was cheating (details fuzzy). So long story short, the mom turned the son against the father and the son ended up stabbing his father and killing him. Now my granny was born in 1938 so not sure which brother did this or exactly when it happened but it was a long ass time ago.
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
3:07 pm
Sassy~ Nona is Marvin’s daughter, not his sister. I read the biography and I could not imagine growing up in a situation like that.
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
3:08 pm
Slim/Sassy~ I have an uncle whose wife shot him for being unfaithful and they are still married. I always think “Hell, he might be afraid to leave her. She might shoot him again!”
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
3:13 pm
The only dysfunction I can think of is Granddaddy had a second family back in the 30’s or 40’s.
My sister is a pathological liar who desperately needs attention so much that she faked a pregnancy, we gave baby shower, only for her to tell us later on that the baby was but it died a couple of hours later and his organs were donated. I cannot tell you how hopping mad I was at her and convincing Mama this trick was never pregnant. Yeah, I called my sister a trick!
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
3:22 pm
Leggs~ How do you know she was never preggo?
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
3:27 pm
Hmmm…there is a lot of dysfunction in my extended family. My dad’s mother pretty much dropped me and my brother when my family moved us here from Texas in 1986. She had some mental issues, but never knew what. I also have a cousin who was born a woman, lived many years as a man (how I grew up knowing her), then when I was about 10 or so, I was informed of all of this and she went back to being a woman! There are more stories…I don’t have the time to write them all out!
Into the Light
November 20th, 2012
3:30 pm
Jerry! Jerry! Jerry!
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
3:30 pm
Comon ~ this isn’t the first baby alarm she has cried. Even sitting here at my desk like I am now, I knew she was lying the day she told me she lost the baby. First, she was pregnant too long. Secondly, hearing her tell me what happened had me taking notes. From the park she was walking through when she went into labor, to the name of the hospital, to the ambulance being called, to sex of the child, her length of stay in the hopital, the whole nine….none of it added up. Yes ma’am, I called the hospital and asked how far they are from this particular park, which ambulance service would be used, any deliveries that day, any deliveries of a boy child that day, my sisters name and a few alias, baby organs being harvested for another infant, etc. Everything she told me, I investigated. Nothing panned out in her favor. NOTHING!
Months later, I confronted her, but there was always something medically wrong with her. I finally gave up, because I knew the truth with every fiber of my being. I can “possibly” understand getting some details wrong, but all of them. Mama says my sister should have known I would put on my investigative hat. I was pissed, to say the least!!
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
3:32 pm
And I would surmise I still am!
Sassy Me..I'm so ready ;-)
November 20th, 2012
3:32 pm
I cannot tell you how hopping mad I was at her and convincing Mama this trick was never pregnant.
That’s ground for a beat down…sister or not.
I have an uncle whose wife shot him for being unfaithful and they are still married.
Hell my now deceased granny shot one of her boyfriends once…he kept bothering her and she warned him she’d shoot him the next time. Sooo he kept it up and she shot him in the a$$ and had the nerve to ride to the hospital with him in the ambulance.
I have a cousin who had a disagreement(recently) with her then boyfriend…she got her gun and fired a couple shots at him….dude called the police but they couldn’t arrest her since they found no shells. AFTER that, dude stopped drinking, joined her church and they got MARRIED…now he’s like a mouse at our family functions..
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 20th, 2012
3:36 pm
OoooohMaGosh…that is funny as heck (the dude now married). Guess he got the message to simmer down.
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
3:37 pm
Sounds like a shell of a man, Sassy. She whipped him into shape/attention. Doesn’t sound like much fun (lol).
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
3:38 pm
Sassy~ I couldn’t be married to a person who tried to kill me… IJS
Leggs~ Don’t forget, I started school in the AUC. I prolly know some people that would handle that trick for a 40 and a blunt… LMAO!
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 20th, 2012
3:40 pm
I got into a fist fight with the kid’s grandmother…naturally on her dad’s side. They called the cops and I stuck around. I even remember asking his sister to “HOLD MY BABY”, and I when knuckles on her. In my defense, she finger poked me in my chest. That was allll I needed. The police lady sided with me.
Sassy Me..I'm so ready ;-)
November 20th, 2012
3:40 pm
By no means a shell…he was very much the opposite..he met his match is all.
She whipped him into shape/attention.
True…my mom and brother and I laugh about it and have nicknamed that “Scared Straight” like the tv show…
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 20th, 2012
3:44 pm
My name from then on from the kid’s dad was “hell raiser.” All I could ever retort was, you brang it out of me.
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
3:44 pm
Scared Straight is the perfect name (lol).
DuShawn
November 20th, 2012
3:45 pm
A former friend of mine admitted to me in a guilty conscience, I gotta get it off my chest, confession that he was having sex with his older sister. They have the same biological parents, no half sister, or adopted sibling . I asked him how that came about. He said they were smoking dope together and it just went down. He been hittin her ever since. Now that’s some dysfunctional shiznit.
Sassy Me..I'm so ready ;-)
November 20th, 2012
3:45 pm
I even remember asking his sister to “HOLD MY BABY”, and I when knuckles on her.
she finger poked me in my chest. That was allll I needed.
Yep well when you cross that line in the sand, a$$ whippings don’t discriminate.
I almost went to blows with my grandmother(naturally on my dad’s side) at a FUNERAL…they almost had to stop the service. Some ushers were tryna hold me back but finally I left..my little sister was in hysterics…they had to go back in the church to get my mom. And as soon as we walk outside who do we run into…my old man…and I proceeded to tell him a few choice words about him and his crusty mama…
Mrs. SexyCool
November 20th, 2012
3:45 pm
Happy birthday, Swizzbeats!
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
3:46 pm
Dang Celisea, you and the grandmother went to fighting. All I did was hangup the phone while she was in mid sentence and you would think it was the slap heard from The Bronx to Long Island. Everyone was calling my ex, because his mother called everyone saying I hung up on her. Hell, give me a chance to do it again….I would love to!
Mrs. SexyCool
November 20th, 2012
3:46 pm
Damn, Du…
I walk into THAT story. Dude, you need to write a book.
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
3:47 pm
No No, not “crusty mama” – too funny!
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 20th, 2012
3:47 pm
Yep well when you cross that line in the sand, a$$ whippings don’t discriminate.
Don’t know what his mama was thinking by going there. But yeah, you put a hand on me? I’m throwing blows…lol Of course that was my former self
I don’t and hopefully won’t ever be crossed in that type of situation again.
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 20th, 2012
3:50 pm
Sassy – 3:45…lol
Leggs – Yep, over putting him up for child support…really?? Yeah, she forgot where she was.
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
3:52 pm
Naw, she forgot who you were, Celisea!!
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 20th, 2012
3:53 pm
This was my first time using italics
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
3:53 pm
Seems like folks could shoot someone but not kill them, back in the day and get away with it. I have an uncle with a missing ring finger and I’m sure as hell there is a story behind that. He just won’t tell it
Some lady probaby was like, Oh so you want to play like youz ain’t marrieds, well imma chop this dayum fanga off so you’ll always know!!
MsAtl
November 20th, 2012
3:54 pm
Cel- Hold my baby? LMAO!
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
3:54 pm
confession that he was having sex with his older sister. They have the same biological parents, no half sister, or adopted sibling . I asked him how that came about. He said they were smoking dope together and it just went down. He been hittin her ever since. Now that’s some dysfunctional shiznit.
That’s not dysfunctional. That’s just straight up non-functional.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
3:55 pm
Leggs – That is just crazy but from some of the stories i’ve seen on tv, plenty of folks fake diseases like cancer or fake being pregnant for the attention or for money. That’s just crazy!!
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 20th, 2012
3:55 pm
LOLOL…yeah, by the time the kid was born, she should have been well acquainted with me. What I can say about her was, after a few holidays passed, she called me and asked me to bring the baby and eat with them. She apologized over and over. How could I not forgive her? From that time on, we’ve been cool. Well, except for she’s a bit off her rocker, but that’s nothing to do with me and the kid.
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 20th, 2012
3:57 pm
MsAtl – Gurrrrrrrrrrl. I ain’t with having somebody putting their hands on me. WE can talk and talk things out, but please, don’t go there…lolololol
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
3:57 pm
SlimNu ~ probably some truth in your story.
Comon ~ they seem to be functioning since they didn’t stop after their high wore off. They’re consciously screwing each other. Unreal…
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
3:57 pm
Sex with his older sister YIKES!!! I surely hope he isn’t skeeting in that either.
Sassy Me..I'm so ready ;-)
November 20th, 2012
3:59 pm
s like folks could shoot someone but not kill them, back in the day and get away with it.
Too bad it’s not like that now cause I’d but a cap in a couple of folks a$$es. Me being me, I would’ve been shot myself by now,too.
I’m out y’all. Have a safe and Happy Thanksgiving
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 20th, 2012
3:59 pm
I would be scared to fake a pregnancy. That whole process always come fully into fruition. Ain’t but so much faking you can do with that. After faking, come the crazies. By that I mean, you’re desperate and can’t produce, you tip over into entertaining the idea of stealing babies and stuff. That’s wild
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 20th, 2012
4:02 pm
The 13 year old that killed her baby sister did so because she allowed a boy in the house, the neighbor saw it, called the mom. The mom asked the neighbor to go over and make the boy leave. The 13 year old gets angry and kills the baby in turn. Just wild
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 20th, 2012
4:03 pm
Stabbed her to death. Just wild
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
4:05 pm
Cel – Did you hear about that story where a lady had taken advantage of a homeless pregnant chick. Faked like she wanted to donate some baby clothes to hear but ended up kidnapping her and trying to cut the baby out of her. The lady was cut open for like 3 days or so and ended up escaping.
DuShawn
November 20th, 2012
4:05 pm
This same dude, let some strippers piss all over him at a get together we had one night. He’s always been a wild boy, we been friends since childhood. In retrospect, his insatiable appetite for alcohol, drugs and women were pacifying his pain. We fell out several years ago because of his behavior in my home. I told his family; if you don’t want to bury him……keep him away from me. They knew I meant it.
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 20th, 2012
4:06 pm
Slim – OMG, no. That’s way too crazy!!
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
4:13 pm
I was wondering what was the underlying story for that 13 year old to stab a baby to death. I tell you one thing, there are a lot of bad a$$ kids and ghettozied mamas living in that complex. Crime is horrible
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
4:14 pm
Cel – Yup, check out the story
http://fooyoh.com/iamchiq_living_lifestyle/4365753
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
4:15 pm
Sorry wrong link..meant to paste this one
http://www.truecrimereport.com/2009/12/veronica_deramous_tried_to_cut.php
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
4:15 pm
WOW, DuShawn! When certain words are spoken, everyone around knows not to call their bluff!
Into the Light
November 20th, 2012
4:18 pm
I saw the story about the toddler who was killed yesterday, but I had not heard the reasons behind the 13 year-old sister killing her. I’m wondering, as a parent, how you could or if you could ever forgive your child for killing your other child.
cba
November 20th, 2012
4:19 pm
Celisea~ I read that story earlier today about the 13 yr old. They just said she was angry. How in the hell you get that angry at 13 to stab your own sister?? Just last week in Conyers, a 21 yr stabbed his mother several times and when the police arrived he was standing over her in the street. Police shot his azz but he survived and so did his mother. Are these the last days ???:shock:
Mrs. SexyCool
November 20th, 2012
4:23 pm
It’s been the last and evil days for at least 40 years. I’ve been hearing that since I was a child.
And quite frankly, for that child, yesterday was.
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
4:23 pm
ITL ~ what is the mindset of the 13 yr old to even think to do that. Back in our day, we took our punishment when nosey neighbors told on us, we didn’t kill anyone and make things worse, Did she not know this would be worse??? WTH?
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
4:24 pm
Exactly, cba!!
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
4:26 pm
cba…what was even worse about the Conyers story was that a school bus full of children witnessed it!
This world just gets more and more crazy and evil. I always say to my mom “And you wonder why I’m not interested in having kids…”
Into the Light
November 20th, 2012
4:28 pm
@Leggs: I know. It is a strange and mixed-up world we live in. I cannot imagine the agony of losing a child at the hands of another child.
Celisea
November 20th, 2012
4:30 pm
cba – They hadn’t revealed the reason on other channels. Just heard on 46, while waiting on my cart.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
4:31 pm
I’m really shocked at kids killing other kids these days, especially when they sexually assault other kids too. Unless they are having those things done to them, I don’t even see how they have that type of mindset. We might have dry humped each other back in the day but I never dry humped someone that didn’t want to be dry humped.
Celisea
November 20th, 2012
4:31 pm
car
cba
November 20th, 2012
4:34 pm
I don’t even want to think about what the parents are feeling but the father was rather calm on the tv interview. Unfortunately nothing shocks me these days, even Du’s friend. What’s the actor name who played along with Valarie Bertenalle (sp) back in the 80’s?? Her dad was sleeping with her.
Celisea
November 20th, 2012
4:37 pm
Yep, living in the last days
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
4:37 pm
Wasn’t it Mackenzie Phillips whose dad was molesting her?
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
4:40 pm
The Mama and The Pappa….Phillips
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
4:40 pm
Mama and The Pappas
cba
November 20th, 2012
4:41 pm
She’s the one Comon……I could see her face but couldn’t recall her name.
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
4:41 pm
That’s right, Leggs. John Phillips. And she said it was a consenual relationship. I remember that from her Oprah interview.
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
4:45 pm
Yep, yes, she said it was consensual.
cba
November 20th, 2012
4:45 pm
Now Leggs, I’m hearing the Mama & Pappas song in my head……… waaaay back probably before teenage years
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
4:47 pm
I hear it too, cba (lol). All the skies are blue….
Into the Light
November 20th, 2012
4:49 pm
Ummmm, can we talk about something fun? I’m down to the last few minutes before vacay, and now I’m feeling all sad….
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
4:49 pm
“All the leaves are brown and the sky is grey
I’ve been for a walk on a winters dayI’d be save and warm if I was in LA california dreaming on such a winters day”
Ooops, the sky is grey (lololol).
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
4:50 pm
ITL~ How bout them Dawgs? It should be a barn burner!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 20th, 2012
4:50 pm
I hope none of yall have to go to the grocery store because I hear it is already off the chain
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
4:50 pm
I will not be here tomorrow so I would like to wish each and everyone of you a
HAPPY, HAPPY THANKSGIVING!
cba
November 20th, 2012
4:50 pm
I knew you would know, that’s it
Gotta make it to the park before sundown…..don’t like this time.
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
4:52 pm
I just have to get my collards. Thank goodness.
Comon Cents
November 20th, 2012
4:53 pm
Happy Thanksgiving, Leggs.
I too am taking off tomorrow (it’s getting ready to be busy season for me!) Make sure you don’t drink & drive (And if you do & get caught call me) and I will read you all on Monday!
Have a safe holiday!
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
4:53 pm
I need to go to the grocery store, but not feeling it. I think tomorrow will be worse. Maybe I can go on my lunch break…
Happy Thanksgiving Leggs!!! Enjoy your time off!
ITL – GO DAWGS!!! I’m hoping the game will be televised in Charleston…
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
4:54 pm
I’m ready to get through tomorrow, then I’m off for a week!!!
Mrs. SexyCool
November 20th, 2012
4:55 pm
I shopped Friday. And M has tried to get me to promise not send him to the grocery store for the next two days. #NoCanDoHomey
Bluzgirl
November 20th, 2012
4:59 pm
I just need to pick up some basic things.
Debating on whether or not I want to try to make a pecan pie for Thursday. I gotta look at the recipe tonight to see what all I need…
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
5:00 pm
I shopped for everything Sunday, except Collards and Vanilla Ice Cream.
Mrs. SexyCool
November 20th, 2012
5:06 pm
I have already baked my Jiffy for my dressing.
Tonight, I am going to have M be my assistant sous chef and help with the peeling and chopping.
I will bake the pound cake and sweet potato pies and cook the collards tomorrow evening.
I will make the potato salad and candied yams Thursday morning, at the same time that the ham is in the oven. (After our Thanksgiving run at Silver Comet is done.)
Dinner should be on the table by 2p.
Into the Light
November 20th, 2012
5:11 pm
YAY! Look at all the happy thoughts (and yummy food!!!)
Y’all have a happy and safe holiday!
And GO DAWGS!!!
PS – Bluz, I think it’s the noon game on ESPN. I think.
Leggs
November 20th, 2012
5:17 pm
Sounds like a great plan, Mrs. SC! I’m going to cook everything tomorrow, but leave my mac n cheese until Thursday morning. I want that fresh and cheesy (lol).
Celisea
November 21st, 2012
7:01 am
In case there’s bootleg blogging……
I’m headed to my hair appointment in a few, we’re puling out around noon. Now there’s about ten of us going. I’m putting the new car on the road. Hadn’t planned to initially. Wish me luck…..first road trip with Mr. Man!!! I’m sure I’ll be fine
Be safe, be blessed and enjoy your holiday!!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
8:22 am
BOOTLEG BLOGGING UP IN HERRR, UP IN HERRR!
Where my peoples at?
Comon ¢
November 21st, 2012
8:54 am
Good morning, bloggies.
Blogging from home for a little while this morning. Anyone else up in herrre?
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
8:57 am
Morning Comon
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
8:58 am
Morning Slim & Cel. Safe travels Cel.
Comon ¢
November 21st, 2012
9:12 am
Good morning, MsAtl~ What are your big plans for the holiday?
Dani
November 21st, 2012
9:19 am
I’m here
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
9:21 am
I just got here…was waiting for a new topic! Wonder if WD will put one up today…
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
9:25 am
Hey Dani & Bluz. No Bluz, I don’t think we’ll get a new topic today.
Comon- Actually this is the first time in about 25 years that I am not having a big Thanksgiving. Canceled plans to go to SC, so I’m staying home & cooking a small meal for 3. Started to go completely hog wild & go out to eat but I could hear the gasps in my head. My family & friends have always called me Betty-Martha (Betty Crocker, Martha Stewart).
Dani
November 21st, 2012
9:26 am
I came yesterday and a stray cat in my subdivision decided to make yard it’s new home. It came up and started crying at me. I was wondering if anyone knows anybody in the market for an adult cat. I’m not sure if it is male or female.
Comon ¢
November 21st, 2012
9:26 am
Good Morning, Dani & Bluz!
Gurl, stop. You know WD is plotting out her turkey path right now!
Dani
November 21st, 2012
9:28 am
Bluz- Are you in the market for adult cat?
Dani
November 21st, 2012
9:29 am
I came home and a stray cat I have seen for the past few months came up to me crying.
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
9:29 am
I’m hoping it’s a slow day at work today…it’s my last day before having a week off! You know I’m in vacay mode!!! Ya’ll gotta keep me entertained. LOL
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
9:30 am
Oh…Good morning, by the way.
Dani – Nope…I have three cats myself…can’t take in anymore. You can’t give it a home?
Comon ¢
November 21st, 2012
9:30 am
Dani~ You’re a day late with that one. My daughter just got an “early present from Santa” and we are now the owners of Kobe the Wonder Cat. (Can’t you read the joy in my words?!?)
MsAtl~ Girl, go ahead out and eat! We went to the 1818 Club last year for Thanksgiving and it was awesome! My family stopped doing the home thing about 3 years ago (No one wanted to do all the cleanup) This year we are with the hubs fam so I have to make mac & cheese but we’re going to her house.
Dani
November 21st, 2012
9:33 am
Morning All- I’m making grilled steak, baked sweet potato and salad for my dinner.
Dani
November 21st, 2012
9:38 am
Bluz- I have never owned a cat before. I already have an 11 year old cocker spaniel. I told my mom I will buy some food and feed him/her to I find a home. I have a coworker who has 2 cats and just had to put one down. She is in Europe but when she gets back I’m hoping she will say yes.
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
9:43 am
Morning ladie, got you all to myself, (drooling)
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
9:43 am
Comon- It got so bad that I bought my son a birthday cake one year & he was not pleased! I had always made their cakes. I bought the ex a birthday cake one year & he refused to eat it. This is my baby’s last Thanksgiving at home; college in January, so I figured I would make at least a small meal. I’m thinking a roasted chicken, ox tails, mac & cheese, greens, sweet potatoes & store bought desserts.
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
9:44 am
Morning Single. Dani, that sounds good.
Comon ¢
November 21st, 2012
9:49 am
MsA~ Where do you buy your oxtails? If you are ever in the Gwinnett area, I would highly recommend the Gwinett Internation Farmers Market. They have one of the best selections at the lowest prices. I found them about a year ago (when the price of oxtails sky rocketed!) and I have been going there ever since.
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
9:49 am
Dani – if you have a Facebook page, post a picture…you might get a hit…
Dani
November 21st, 2012
9:52 am
I am making pancakes, bacon, eggs, hashbrowns and fruit salad in the morning before the kids go with their dad. My oldest daughter requested sparkling juice since this is a holiday breakfast.
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
9:53 am
Comon- I got them at Wayfield Foods. They had a Saturday sale $3.69 per pound. How much were they in Gwinnett?
Single- did you grab a napkin? Food & women; you must be having a fit, lol.
Dani
November 21st, 2012
9:53 am
Bluz- I have a facebook page, but I never post anything on it. I may try that. Thanks
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
9:57 am
MsATL, I’m not a big eater (of food that is) LOL
Comon ¢
November 21st, 2012
10:00 am
MsA~ They were around $1.79 per pound last time I was there (about 2 months ago) Their prices don’t tend to fluctuate that much from there. I think the most I ever paid there was $2.29 per pound.
Comon ¢
November 21st, 2012
10:00 am
Good morning, S/H!
Did you get my email?
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
10:07 am
Comon when did you send it, I checked earlier this morning and it wasn’t there. Now my email is acting up
Comon ¢
November 21st, 2012
10:45 am
S/H~ I sent it this morning around 9:00 AM.
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
10:51 am
comon, i didn’t get it
i'm swiss
November 21st, 2012
10:54 am
Well, well, well… what do we have here? Bootleg blogging, I see! And did Bluz just tell Dani to post a pic of her adult puddy tat on FB and she might get a hit???
Comon ¢
November 21st, 2012
10:58 am
swiss~ You are silly! FYI, I’m planning on posting pics of my new puddy tat on FB tonight…
Are you going to be one of the hits swiss?
S/H~ Did you check your spam folder?
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
10:59 am
comon, yes I did
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
11:08 am
swiss – I should have known…
i'm swiss
November 21st, 2012
11:24 am
Comon — I tought I taw a puddy tat!!!!!
Bluz — You really should have. Rookie mistake.
Comon ¢
November 21st, 2012
11:30 am
S/H~ I will try again when I get back to the house. If it doesn’t go through, I will have Leggs get you my email address.
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
11:41 am
I’m back. Thought I missed a lot, but nope. Was conducting a phone interview with a person in South Africa as part of my law school applicant interview program.
Hey Swiss!
i'm swiss
November 21st, 2012
11:48 am
Howdy, MsAtl. How you doin’?
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
11:53 am
I’m well Swiss. Waiting for early release today. We get sprung at 2 pm.
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
11:55 am
It’s too slow in here! I’m guessing others maybe don’t realize that we’re bootlegging it today. Or…they all have the day off!!!
I’m sitting here looking at online ads for Black Friday. I sure would like the TV from Best Buy that’s only $180 for a 40″…anyone wanna stand in line for me?
Dani
November 21st, 2012
11:59 am
Swiss- When I first posted about the cat I knew you come post to the blog.
MsAtl- I get sprung at 1pm.
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
12:02 pm
Bluz- I saw on the news that folks have been in line at Best Buy since 7 am Monday morning.
Exiled!
November 21st, 2012
12:05 pm
Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!
Chilling in the King Den
Those of u travelling please be safe.
No drank and drive!
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
12:07 pm
Okay Dani- I’ll pass the extra hour by cleaning my office.
Hey Ex!
Exiled!
November 21st, 2012
12:11 pm
Hey MsAtl…
anything I can do for my Compatriot South African law school applicant,let me know.
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
12:28 pm
MsAtl – I did see that. I may do a drive by at 8 tomorrow night, just to see what the line looks like. I’m not one to stand in line too long. Last year, I stood in line at Target for 2 hours for a TV and a Christmas tree…I missed the TV by about 5 people!
Plus…I may want to go out tomorrow night. The blues jam I like to attend is still happening!
Dani
November 21st, 2012
12:43 pm
Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
12:45 pm
I’m baaaaccccck…Anybody else up in here?
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
12:52 pm
Bluz – The ONE time I participated in Black Friday I went to Wally World to get a laptop they had on sale. I get all the way to the front of the line and they tell me I was in the wrong dayum line. The laptop I wanted had a different line in a wholllle other part of the freaking store.
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
12:58 pm
comon, only one other person has had my email address don’t think legs has it. (LOL)
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
1:01 pm
I’m still here, checking in occasionally…
Happy Thanksgiving Dani!
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
1:02 pm
Slim – Dang…I would have been cussing!!!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
1:17 pm
Bluz – Black Friday just isn’t for me I suppose lol
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
1:18 pm
Ex- your compatriot has an awesome resume and I will be giving him a good recommendation!
In the middle of filing an answer in Federal Court. BRB
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
1:30 pm
If this is the pace the blog will be for the remainder of the day, then i’m fugged. I’ll be here until 5
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
1:32 pm
slim, come up with a hot topic
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
1:45 pm
Uh-oh Slim. Dani has been sprung from work & I am out in 20 minutes.
I used to go Black Friday shopping. We would leave the kids at home with the men and we would go out around 4 am. By that time, we had already scouted the ads and knew what we were buying and where we were going. We stayed away from the malls. Always worked out well. I haven’t gone in a few years since it has gotten out of control. I think the clincher for me was seeing two grown women fighting over a Care Bear and a $5 mixer. Not to mention, how many tvs could one possibly need?
The major thing I need this year is a laptop for my son who is headed to college in January, but I can probably find one online.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
1:49 pm
MsAtl – So basically i’ll be in here talking to myself huh? You can probably find some good online deals too…This is the season of the sales so Ill keep my fingers crossed for you. What school is your son going to?
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
1:50 pm
Now msatl, it’s not the fact that you need the tv, but you can’t beat those prices (LOL)
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
1:51 pm
dang, guess i’m just invisible over here
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
1:53 pm
Slim- he is going to Albany State University.
Single- lol, yeah, I guess. The folks in the tents outside of Best Buy were “too shy” to talk to reporters. Nah, they didn’t want to be seen buying the tvs that they would be selling at a higher price next week.
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
1:55 pm
MsATL, how do people do that, do they not have have jobs?
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
1:59 pm
SH – You’re working on the Black Friday Committee
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
2:01 pm
One female who did talk to reporters said her friend was going to relieve her after school & she was going to go home and do homework. They would sleep in the tent and she would go to work in the morning then relieve her friend afterwards. C-A-RAZY!
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
2:03 pm
The perks to being short staffed on a day before a holiday…the office ordered Shane’s Rib Shack for lunch! Yummy!!!
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
2:04 pm
I would like to find a good deal on a nice dock system for my iPod so I can crank it at home. Anyone have any brand suggestions?
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:04 pm
slim I can proudly say, I’ve never participated in black Friday, to many people trying to get to little merchandise
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
2:06 pm
Okay Folks- I’m out! Everyone enjoy your Thanksgiving and your time off. Be safe!
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
2:08 pm
Last year was the first time in many years I participated in Black Friday. I’m not much of a shopper. I really wanted the TV from Target last year, even though my TV is just fine. I’d like to get the one from Best Buy tomorrow night, but I don’t think I’ll be standing in line. Last year, it was fun standing in line at Target because I was coupled up and had someone to stand with…
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
2:10 pm
Have a good one MsAtl!!!
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:10 pm
I haven’t went shopping in years, love online buying
click and ship with one stroke (LOL)
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
2:11 pm
Bluz – Get youngin to stand with you
SH – Yeah I get what you mean…the last time I had to wait in line too long for too little inventory was when gas was scarce and they would only let you pump an unlimted amount.
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
2:14 pm
Slim – thought about that. I have a feeling he would do anything to spend time with me!
S/H – I am more of an internet shopper myself. Gotta love Amazon!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
2:14 pm
click and ship with one stroke
SH – Sounds like you’re combining online shopping with online p0rn
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
2:15 pm
Bluz – That’s a good thing, for the most part. As long as it doesn’t include stalking, tracking you via a hidden gps or anything like that
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:17 pm
Slim that’s click and strip, plus never pay for online porn, it’s to much out there for free (LOL)
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
2:19 pm
I’m trying to decide if I want to go out tonight. Not sure if I want to deal with the traffic if I go to VaHi…But, several friends are going. Hmmmmm…
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
2:21 pm
SH – Believe you me, I already know about the free stuff. It’ll probably come in handy next week while the beau is out of town
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:27 pm
slim you can last a week (LOL)
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
2:28 pm
SH – How you know how long it’s been already though. Things that make you go Hmmmm?
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:29 pm
Slim has it been more than 2 months
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
2:34 pm
Nope
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:35 pm
you can be strong for one week then, unless you have to have it on the regular (LOL)
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
2:38 pm
I’ll be alright, was really just messing with ya. But if things get hairy, i know how to take matters into my own hands. So no biggie, stress or strife round deez herrr parts. I can tell you one thing, i’m getting so sleepy right now. Dayum, 3 more hours to go
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:40 pm
Yea, my hand been working hard (LOL) isn’t the day going by fast
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
2:48 pm
Excuse me while I go find some latex gloves so you don’t get any of that on me.
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:51 pm
hmmm so you going to handle it for me, cause I’m not going to be aiming at your hands (LOL)
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
2:53 pm
Funny how things can easily turn dirty when there are only a few of us here!
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:53 pm
hmmm a 3 some
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:59 pm
what happened, you guys decided you didn’t need me (LOL)
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
3:00 pm
Well SH, if we take into account Bluzs proclaimed bi-polarness, then it’s really a 3-some 4-some. It just depends on the way we look at it
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
3:00 pm
Slim I want to be looking up at it
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
3:05 pm
bluz aint bipolar, she’s just confused
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
3:08 pm
Sooooooooo, lovely weather we’re having.
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
3:09 pm
Hey now Slim!!! LOL!
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
3:09 pm
Just 50 more minutes…
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
3:09 pm
SH – I’m just using the wording that she used. I didn’t know confused was synonamous for bi-polar.
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
3:09 pm
oh so now you want to change the subject
got me all worked up now, mind racing 
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
3:14 pm
slim I know it’s her words, but I just think these therapist have a term for everyone, and if they don’t they will make up one, to many crutches for normal problems
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
3:15 pm
Mind racing….ya know they make pills for that right? I believe it’s called Adderall
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
3:15 pm
I’m not bipolar…I’m cyclothymic, which is just below bipolar…
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
3:16 pm
Ok…let’s get off the subject of my mental health now. LOL
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
3:18 pm
SH – I was texting my Pops today talking about how crazy my sister is. He was like, I don’t know where that ‘crazy’ gene came from but it must be from his baby mama. Then he says, wait a minute, so you’re calling your sister crazy and think YOU’RE sane? I was like well i’m less insane than him and her. Then this fool says, “I’m the only rational person in yalls lives. Hold on, I think people are watching me”
My daddy is a skrait fool
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
3:18 pm
Slim, I don’t like taking my BP pills, have to be extreme pain to take something for it
but they make a pill for everything 
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
3:20 pm
bluz, we’re not trying to get on you
Slim he’s right, we’re all crazy (LOL)
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
3:23 pm
Yep…we’re all crazy in our own way! I at least own up to it
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
3:24 pm
Slim at least you called her your sister, when me and my sister talk, it’s your mamma, your sister, your brother (LOL)
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
3:26 pm
cyclothymic
Bluz – Just reading this word got me tongue tied
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
3:27 pm
Slim I didn’t even try, but she proved my point, they’ve got a name for everything (LOL)
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
3:34 pm
Bluz – We weren’t trying to get on you, was just being playful. Don’t hurt me now.
SH – Back in the day you were just considered bad as hell, which in turn meant you needed yo ass whipped just that much more lol
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
3:36 pm
Slim – It’s all good. I know ya’ll are just playing around. No worries! I’m in such a great mood…come 4:00, I don’t have to see this place again until next Thursday!!!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
3:39 pm
Bluz – I’m jealous…but i have some vacay hours I need to eat up before 12-31-12. I’ve already submitted time off request for the next few Friday’s lol I just may throw some Monday’s in there too
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
3:44 pm
I’m so ready to be away from here for a bit. We normally get our bonus in this pay check, but we haven’t and they haven’t said a word. I’ve heard they are still trying to work out something. I think it’s so rude to not say anything about it to us. I don’t expect a bonus, but I expect appreciation! I sure miss the days when the economy was booming and we got a bonus of 8% of our salary!
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
3:53 pm
Vacation, don’t mention those word, I haven’t been anywhere in 2 months
but I’ve got 2 weeks at the end of the year 
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
3:57 pm
time for me to roll on out of here, you guys have a great holiday
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
4:00 pm
Bluz – Tell me about it…I got a review on the 15th but no damn raise…Freeze on raises but there is no freeze on my job description or a freeze on me having to come in here errrry day. BUT it is Thanksgiving so let me get with the holiday spirit, begrudginly
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
4:00 pm
SH – PEACE OUT BUDDY
I have one more hour
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
4:01 pm
Alright ya’ll…it’s been fun! I’m out of here.
I hope you both have a wonderful Thanksgiving! You may see me on here next week while I’m off…we’ll see!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
4:08 pm
By Bluz, now I got the blues