Casual dating vs Committed Relationship?
Before you go on a holiday dating spree, perhaps it is worthwhile to figure out what your short-term and long-term goals are. When you approach your dating life, having some sense of what you truly want is a good way to get the results that you want. I know what, you’re saying..that’s a no-brainer, Diva! Well, you would be surprised at the number of single people walking around with nary a clue of what they want.
Generally, you meet people who either want to keep things casual or those who want to ultimately move towards a committed relationship. The casual dating folks will say things like, “I just want to kick-it with somebody cool, and see where things go” Or one of my favorites: “I like just going with the flow.” Keep in mind, these are the same people that will try to have sex with no strings attached.
People who want committed relationships are fine with taking things slow. They feel comfortable with the idea of making room in their lives for somebody special. They don’t stress about giving up freedom or allowing someone to them for who they are.
I believe that casual dating has it’s place and those who want it should clearly state that intention upfront. There is nothing wrong with casual dating if that is what you want. The trick is figuring out when you should be casually dating people and when you are ready to build a relationship with someone.
How do you know when to keep it light, fun and easy with casual dating? When do you know that it is time to take it to another level?
What do you do when you are ready to leave casual and go committed? If the person/people you are seeing don’t want the same thing, what do you do?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating
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410 comments Add your comment
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
1:51 pm
dang, guess i’m just invisible over here
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
1:53 pm
Slim- he is going to Albany State University.
Single- lol, yeah, I guess. The folks in the tents outside of Best Buy were “too shy” to talk to reporters. Nah, they didn’t want to be seen buying the tvs that they would be selling at a higher price next week.
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
1:55 pm
MsATL, how do people do that, do they not have have jobs?
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
1:59 pm
SH – You’re working on the Black Friday Committee
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
2:01 pm
One female who did talk to reporters said her friend was going to relieve her after school & she was going to go home and do homework. They would sleep in the tent and she would go to work in the morning then relieve her friend afterwards. C-A-RAZY!
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
2:03 pm
The perks to being short staffed on a day before a holiday…the office ordered Shane’s Rib Shack for lunch! Yummy!!!
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
2:04 pm
I would like to find a good deal on a nice dock system for my iPod so I can crank it at home. Anyone have any brand suggestions?
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:04 pm
slim I can proudly say, I’ve never participated in black Friday, to many people trying to get to little merchandise
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
2:06 pm
Okay Folks- I’m out! Everyone enjoy your Thanksgiving and your time off. Be safe!
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
2:08 pm
Last year was the first time in many years I participated in Black Friday. I’m not much of a shopper. I really wanted the TV from Target last year, even though my TV is just fine. I’d like to get the one from Best Buy tomorrow night, but I don’t think I’ll be standing in line. Last year, it was fun standing in line at Target because I was coupled up and had someone to stand with…
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
2:10 pm
Have a good one MsAtl!!!
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:10 pm
I haven’t went shopping in years, love online buying
click and ship with one stroke (LOL)
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
2:11 pm
Bluz – Get youngin to stand with you
SH – Yeah I get what you mean…the last time I had to wait in line too long for too little inventory was when gas was scarce and they would only let you pump an unlimted amount.
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
2:14 pm
Slim – thought about that. I have a feeling he would do anything to spend time with me!
S/H – I am more of an internet shopper myself. Gotta love Amazon!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
2:14 pm
click and ship with one stroke
SH – Sounds like you’re combining online shopping with online p0rn
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
2:15 pm
Bluz – That’s a good thing, for the most part. As long as it doesn’t include stalking, tracking you via a hidden gps or anything like that
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:17 pm
Slim that’s click and strip, plus never pay for online porn, it’s to much out there for free (LOL)
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
2:19 pm
I’m trying to decide if I want to go out tonight. Not sure if I want to deal with the traffic if I go to VaHi…But, several friends are going. Hmmmmm…
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
2:21 pm
SH – Believe you me, I already know about the free stuff. It’ll probably come in handy next week while the beau is out of town
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:27 pm
slim you can last a week (LOL)
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
2:28 pm
SH – How you know how long it’s been already though. Things that make you go Hmmmm?
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:29 pm
Slim has it been more than 2 months
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
2:34 pm
Nope
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:35 pm
you can be strong for one week then, unless you have to have it on the regular (LOL)
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
2:38 pm
I’ll be alright, was really just messing with ya. But if things get hairy, i know how to take matters into my own hands. So no biggie, stress or strife round deez herrr parts. I can tell you one thing, i’m getting so sleepy right now. Dayum, 3 more hours to go
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:40 pm
Yea, my hand been working hard (LOL) isn’t the day going by fast
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
2:48 pm
Excuse me while I go find some latex gloves so you don’t get any of that on me.
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:51 pm
hmmm so you going to handle it for me, cause I’m not going to be aiming at your hands (LOL)
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
2:53 pm
Funny how things can easily turn dirty when there are only a few of us here!
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:53 pm
hmmm a 3 some
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
2:59 pm
what happened, you guys decided you didn’t need me (LOL)
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
3:00 pm
Well SH, if we take into account Bluzs proclaimed bi-polarness, then it’s really a 3-some 4-some. It just depends on the way we look at it
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
3:00 pm
Slim I want to be looking up at it
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
3:05 pm
bluz aint bipolar, she’s just confused
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
3:08 pm
Sooooooooo, lovely weather we’re having.
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
3:09 pm
Hey now Slim!!! LOL!
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
3:09 pm
Just 50 more minutes…
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
3:09 pm
SH – I’m just using the wording that she used. I didn’t know confused was synonamous for bi-polar.
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
3:09 pm
oh so now you want to change the subject
got me all worked up now, mind racing 
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
3:14 pm
slim I know it’s her words, but I just think these therapist have a term for everyone, and if they don’t they will make up one, to many crutches for normal problems
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
3:15 pm
Mind racing….ya know they make pills for that right? I believe it’s called Adderall
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
3:15 pm
I’m not bipolar…I’m cyclothymic, which is just below bipolar…
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
3:16 pm
Ok…let’s get off the subject of my mental health now. LOL
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
3:18 pm
SH – I was texting my Pops today talking about how crazy my sister is. He was like, I don’t know where that ‘crazy’ gene came from but it must be from his baby mama. Then he says, wait a minute, so you’re calling your sister crazy and think YOU’RE sane? I was like well i’m less insane than him and her. Then this fool says, “I’m the only rational person in yalls lives. Hold on, I think people are watching me”
My daddy is a skrait fool
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
3:18 pm
Slim, I don’t like taking my BP pills, have to be extreme pain to take something for it
but they make a pill for everything 
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
3:20 pm
bluz, we’re not trying to get on you
Slim he’s right, we’re all crazy (LOL)
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
3:23 pm
Yep…we’re all crazy in our own way! I at least own up to it
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
3:24 pm
Slim at least you called her your sister, when me and my sister talk, it’s your mamma, your sister, your brother (LOL)
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
3:26 pm
cyclothymic
Bluz – Just reading this word got me tongue tied
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
3:27 pm
Slim I didn’t even try, but she proved my point, they’ve got a name for everything (LOL)