Casual dating vs Committed Relationship?
Before you go on a holiday dating spree, perhaps it is worthwhile to figure out what your short-term and long-term goals are. When you approach your dating life, having some sense of what you truly want is a good way to get the results that you want. I know what, you’re saying..that’s a no-brainer, Diva! Well, you would be surprised at the number of single people walking around with nary a clue of what they want.
Generally, you meet people who either want to keep things casual or those who want to ultimately move towards a committed relationship. The casual dating folks will say things like, “I just want to kick-it with somebody cool, and see where things go” Or one of my favorites: “I like just going with the flow.” Keep in mind, these are the same people that will try to have sex with no strings attached.
People who want committed relationships are fine with taking things slow. They feel comfortable with the idea of making room in their lives for somebody special. They don’t stress about giving up freedom or allowing someone to them for who they are.
I believe that casual dating has it’s place and those who want it should clearly state that intention upfront. There is nothing wrong with casual dating if that is what you want. The trick is figuring out when you should be casually dating people and when you are ready to build a relationship with someone.
How do you know when to keep it light, fun and easy with casual dating? When do you know that it is time to take it to another level?
What do you do when you are ready to leave casual and go committed? If the person/people you are seeing don’t want the same thing, what do you do?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating
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Dani
November 21st, 2012
9:28 am
Bluz- Are you in the market for adult cat?
Dani
November 21st, 2012
9:29 am
I came home and a stray cat I have seen for the past few months came up to me crying.
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
9:29 am
I’m hoping it’s a slow day at work today…it’s my last day before having a week off! You know I’m in vacay mode!!! Ya’ll gotta keep me entertained. LOL
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
9:30 am
Oh…Good morning, by the way.
Dani – Nope…I have three cats myself…can’t take in anymore. You can’t give it a home?
Comon ¢
November 21st, 2012
9:30 am
Dani~ You’re a day late with that one. My daughter just got an “early present from Santa” and we are now the owners of Kobe the Wonder Cat. (Can’t you read the joy in my words?!?)
MsAtl~ Girl, go ahead out and eat! We went to the 1818 Club last year for Thanksgiving and it was awesome! My family stopped doing the home thing about 3 years ago (No one wanted to do all the cleanup) This year we are with the hubs fam so I have to make mac & cheese but we’re going to her house.
Dani
November 21st, 2012
9:33 am
Morning All- I’m making grilled steak, baked sweet potato and salad for my dinner.
Dani
November 21st, 2012
9:38 am
Bluz- I have never owned a cat before. I already have an 11 year old cocker spaniel. I told my mom I will buy some food and feed him/her to I find a home. I have a coworker who has 2 cats and just had to put one down. She is in Europe but when she gets back I’m hoping she will say yes.
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
9:43 am
Morning ladie, got you all to myself, (drooling)
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
9:43 am
Comon- It got so bad that I bought my son a birthday cake one year & he was not pleased! I had always made their cakes. I bought the ex a birthday cake one year & he refused to eat it. This is my baby’s last Thanksgiving at home; college in January, so I figured I would make at least a small meal. I’m thinking a roasted chicken, ox tails, mac & cheese, greens, sweet potatoes & store bought desserts.
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
9:44 am
Morning Single. Dani, that sounds good.
Comon ¢
November 21st, 2012
9:49 am
MsA~ Where do you buy your oxtails? If you are ever in the Gwinnett area, I would highly recommend the Gwinett Internation Farmers Market. They have one of the best selections at the lowest prices. I found them about a year ago (when the price of oxtails sky rocketed!) and I have been going there ever since.
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
9:49 am
Dani – if you have a Facebook page, post a picture…you might get a hit…
Dani
November 21st, 2012
9:52 am
I am making pancakes, bacon, eggs, hashbrowns and fruit salad in the morning before the kids go with their dad. My oldest daughter requested sparkling juice since this is a holiday breakfast.
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
9:53 am
Comon- I got them at Wayfield Foods. They had a Saturday sale $3.69 per pound. How much were they in Gwinnett?
Single- did you grab a napkin? Food & women; you must be having a fit, lol.
Dani
November 21st, 2012
9:53 am
Bluz- I have a facebook page, but I never post anything on it. I may try that. Thanks
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
9:57 am
MsATL, I’m not a big eater (of food that is) LOL
Comon ¢
November 21st, 2012
10:00 am
MsA~ They were around $1.79 per pound last time I was there (about 2 months ago) Their prices don’t tend to fluctuate that much from there. I think the most I ever paid there was $2.29 per pound.
Comon ¢
November 21st, 2012
10:00 am
Good morning, S/H!
Did you get my email?
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
10:07 am
Comon when did you send it, I checked earlier this morning and it wasn’t there. Now my email is acting up
Comon ¢
November 21st, 2012
10:45 am
S/H~ I sent it this morning around 9:00 AM.
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
10:51 am
comon, i didn’t get it
i'm swiss
November 21st, 2012
10:54 am
Well, well, well… what do we have here? Bootleg blogging, I see! And did Bluz just tell Dani to post a pic of her adult puddy tat on FB and she might get a hit???
Comon ¢
November 21st, 2012
10:58 am
swiss~ You are silly! FYI, I’m planning on posting pics of my new puddy tat on FB tonight…
Are you going to be one of the hits swiss?
S/H~ Did you check your spam folder?
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
10:59 am
comon, yes I did
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
11:08 am
swiss – I should have known…
i'm swiss
November 21st, 2012
11:24 am
Comon — I tought I taw a puddy tat!!!!!
Bluz — You really should have. Rookie mistake.
Comon ¢
November 21st, 2012
11:30 am
S/H~ I will try again when I get back to the house. If it doesn’t go through, I will have Leggs get you my email address.
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
11:41 am
I’m back. Thought I missed a lot, but nope. Was conducting a phone interview with a person in South Africa as part of my law school applicant interview program.
Hey Swiss!
i'm swiss
November 21st, 2012
11:48 am
Howdy, MsAtl. How you doin’?
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
11:53 am
I’m well Swiss. Waiting for early release today. We get sprung at 2 pm.
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
11:55 am
It’s too slow in here! I’m guessing others maybe don’t realize that we’re bootlegging it today. Or…they all have the day off!!!
I’m sitting here looking at online ads for Black Friday. I sure would like the TV from Best Buy that’s only $180 for a 40″…anyone wanna stand in line for me?
Dani
November 21st, 2012
11:59 am
Swiss- When I first posted about the cat I knew you come post to the blog.
MsAtl- I get sprung at 1pm.
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
12:02 pm
Bluz- I saw on the news that folks have been in line at Best Buy since 7 am Monday morning.
Exiled!
November 21st, 2012
12:05 pm
Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!
Chilling in the King Den
Those of u travelling please be safe.
No drank and drive!
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
12:07 pm
Okay Dani- I’ll pass the extra hour by cleaning my office.
Hey Ex!
Exiled!
November 21st, 2012
12:11 pm
Hey MsAtl…
anything I can do for my Compatriot South African law school applicant,let me know.
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
12:28 pm
MsAtl – I did see that. I may do a drive by at 8 tomorrow night, just to see what the line looks like. I’m not one to stand in line too long. Last year, I stood in line at Target for 2 hours for a TV and a Christmas tree…I missed the TV by about 5 people!
Plus…I may want to go out tomorrow night. The blues jam I like to attend is still happening!
Dani
November 21st, 2012
12:43 pm
Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
12:45 pm
I’m baaaaccccck…Anybody else up in here?
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
12:52 pm
Bluz – The ONE time I participated in Black Friday I went to Wally World to get a laptop they had on sale. I get all the way to the front of the line and they tell me I was in the wrong dayum line. The laptop I wanted had a different line in a wholllle other part of the freaking store.
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
12:58 pm
comon, only one other person has had my email address don’t think legs has it. (LOL)
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
1:01 pm
I’m still here, checking in occasionally…
Happy Thanksgiving Dani!
Bluzgirl
November 21st, 2012
1:02 pm
Slim – Dang…I would have been cussing!!!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
1:17 pm
Bluz – Black Friday just isn’t for me I suppose lol
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
1:18 pm
Ex- your compatriot has an awesome resume and I will be giving him a good recommendation!
In the middle of filing an answer in Federal Court. BRB
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
1:30 pm
If this is the pace the blog will be for the remainder of the day, then i’m fugged. I’ll be here until 5
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
1:32 pm
slim, come up with a hot topic
MsAtl
November 21st, 2012
1:45 pm
Uh-oh Slim. Dani has been sprung from work & I am out in 20 minutes.
I used to go Black Friday shopping. We would leave the kids at home with the men and we would go out around 4 am. By that time, we had already scouted the ads and knew what we were buying and where we were going. We stayed away from the malls. Always worked out well. I haven’t gone in a few years since it has gotten out of control. I think the clincher for me was seeing two grown women fighting over a Care Bear and a $5 mixer. Not to mention, how many tvs could one possibly need?
The major thing I need this year is a laptop for my son who is headed to college in January, but I can probably find one online.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 21st, 2012
1:49 pm
MsAtl – So basically i’ll be in here talking to myself huh? You can probably find some good online deals too…This is the season of the sales so Ill keep my fingers crossed for you. What school is your son going to?
Single and Happy
November 21st, 2012
1:50 pm
Now msatl, it’s not the fact that you need the tv, but you can’t beat those prices (LOL)