What stops you from approaching?
We can never explain why we are attracted to certain people, while others just don’t do it for us. A lot of the reasons we pass people up are completely superficial and nonsensical, but sometimes we have valid reasons to pause.
Call it instinct or intuition, but we often have to let our gut tell us when to keep it moving. I know for me, the minute I don’t go with my instinct, I end up regretting it later on. So how do we know when to follow our instinct and when to proceed with caution?
Have you ever noticed someone and was contemplating checking them out but decided not to? What was it that stopped you from approaching?
What turn-offs do you spot that immediately makes you rethink pursuing someone you initially thought was someone cool or a “great potential”?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Leggs
November 19th, 2012
3:30 pm
Sassy, they call this blogging, didn’t know that. when you used to have back and forth banter it was called chatting – isn’t chatting done in person or over the phone. When using a keyboard, it’s blogging (lol).
Single and Happy
November 19th, 2012
3:33 pm
Leggs, no, in the beginning they were called chat lines, just like the ones on the phone, blogging was done by a single person and usually if anyone posted anything, it was one post and moved on, no back and forth chatter.
kimmie
November 19th, 2012
3:33 pm
Leggs – I guess he’s talking about Internet chat rooms, which are different from a blog.
Single and Happy
November 19th, 2012
3:34 pm
Leggs and everything usually stayed on topic with the blogs
Sassy Me..I'm so ready ;-)
November 19th, 2012
3:34 pm
more participants and their thoughts will again help the pages flow faster.
Yes it surely will…
sexy (to me) is the way you carry yourself not the lack of clothing.
I think so,too. Speaking of that guy that’s raising his wife…a dress code was instituted for her and she looked much better in more clothes and not the hyper sexual nothings she’d wear all the time. It was a vast improvement but of course she bucked and they got booted from the show. I haven’t seen any new episodes yet but I know they came back recently.
kimmie
November 19th, 2012
3:35 pm
Leggs, did you watch Scandal last week?
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 19th, 2012
3:37 pm
Outside of this place and reading VSB, and abcnew.com (and a couple of other news sites), I haven’t done the chatting/chat lines/internet dating thingy. I’ve talked to a couple of folks from here, but I don’t really consider that “internet” dating. I’ve had wings and met a few but I wouldn’t consider that the same as building a profile for the sake of meeting a love.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 19th, 2012
3:37 pm
Random: OMG!! I know you’re new and all but if you see i’m on the phone, PLEASE do not interrupt me asking me questions…Then you ask me, in the middle of my phone call with a customer, how to spell Angle.
I really want to cuss you out but i’m just going to woosah it out for now.
Single and Happy
November 19th, 2012
3:38 pm
Don’t get me wrong, I do enjoy chatting/blogging with you guys, was just asking a question.
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 19th, 2012
3:40 pm
I just pop over to VSB cause they have really interesting topics and there’s always a large audience. I will say the moderators are fairly young but I think quite intelligent none the less. They really bring it…IMO
Sassy Me..I'm so ready ;-)
November 19th, 2012
3:40 pm
I really want to cuss you out but i’m just going to woosah it out for now.
Woooosaaaaaaaah Don’t cuss ‘em Slim…
Robert
November 19th, 2012
3:40 pm
@Common Cents – “No tattoos? I’m out!”
Why would any women put a “bumper sticker” on a “corvette” body.
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 19th, 2012
3:40 pm
There bloggers are funny as heck though on most days
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 19th, 2012
3:41 pm
their not there
MsAtl
November 19th, 2012
3:42 pm
Leggs- I didn’t tell her; she was with a group of friends & pulled it out before I could tell her. I knew she had to feel it.
Cel- The dress was not too small. I am thinking a thong or lack thereof.
Comon- That was my ex also. He married me but ran around with light skinned, “good hair” chicks. After I divorced him, his brother informed me that the ex had said I was safe because no one would mess with a dark female. His aunt called me upset because he posted a picture of his baby by his mixed patient on FB & wrote that he was putting his family back on the right side of the genome away from the apes. (the aunt is dark and took it personally). I am thinking crazy and slave mentality, but that way off topic for today.
Single and Happy
November 19th, 2012
3:43 pm
Robert, what if that tattoo is on the engine block of the corvette, and you don’t see it until you open the hood, would you still be out?
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 19th, 2012
3:45 pm
MsAtl, I’ve seen a couple of older ladies in church will stand up and have their skirts/dresses pulled/tucked in, unbeknownst. Somebody will do an “alert” and pull or let them know to check their clothing, but I dunno, I think that comes from commando or underwear but maybe spanks or something is needed. I don’t really think those, those ladies are commando at church. I could be wrong though. Stranger things have happened.
Leggs
November 19th, 2012
3:46 pm
“…blogging was done by a single person and usually if anyone posted anything, it was one post and moved on, no back and forth chatter. Sounds like you miss those days, Single??? That was in itsinfancy…nothing stays the same. Heck, first time the wheel was invented bet if fell off often. Now, the wheel is running nice and smoothly, just like blogging in the 21st century.
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 19th, 2012
3:46 pm
“….or wearing underwear but maybe the extra of spanks is needed” is where I was going
Leggs
November 19th, 2012
3:47 pm
Single, maybe some blogs are geared toward you staying on topic. Since day one I ventured into Blogsville, never stayed on topic (and I’ve been here a long time).
Leggs
November 19th, 2012
3:50 pm
kimmie ~ missed Scandal. Will catch in On Demand.
kimmie
November 19th, 2012
3:51 pm
Cel – I’ve had certain fabrics not “agree” with each other and stick, like have on cotton undies and a t-shirt like cotton sundress and have to costantly make sure it doesn’t gather up, even though the dress is not tight at all.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 19th, 2012
3:51 pm
Sassy – I did let her know when I got off the phone that i was in the middle of a call with a client. She’s like, “oh wow i’m soooo sorry”…I guess when you have a phone to your ear and words are coming out of your mouth in a conversational manner, it can still be misunderstood that one is NOT on the dayum phone lol
Comon Cents
November 19th, 2012
3:53 pm
Why would any women put a “bumper sticker” on a “corvette” body
Because it is something that they feel very strongly about. All of my tats are symbolic of something in my life that is extrememly important to me.
I guess that is one of the biggest differences between people with tattoos and people without; I don’t judge you because you don’t have tattoos.
Robert
November 19th, 2012
3:53 pm
@Single and Happy – “what if that tattoo is on the engine block of the corvette”
All Men want to know if they are the only one driving that car with the factory installed engine. If the Man found out that the engine was used he should remove the “bumper sticker” from the engine block and replace any broken or worn out parts. Hopefully the engine had low mileage.
Comon Cents
November 19th, 2012
3:55 pm
After I divorced him, his brother informed me that the ex had said I was safe because no one would mess with a dark female
Did you tell him how sadly mistaken your ex was?
kimmie
November 19th, 2012
3:55 pm
Robert – A virgin could get a tattoo on their butt if they wanted….
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 19th, 2012
3:56 pm
Since day one I ventured into Blogsville, never stayed on topic (and I’ve been here a long time).
Leggs – Yeah you’re right about that…i guess it’s sort of hard to say on the original topic ALLLLLL day long…especially since most of us are in here all day while working. Some topics just don’t have enough gas to keep us going for 7-8+ hours
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 19th, 2012
3:56 pm
Kimmie – Yep, sometimes that happens. The only time I’ve had that to happen is when I’m not wearing a slip. One of the reasons I wear one. I NEVER wear hose unless it’s on Sundays. The rest of the time (if not cold), I’m barelegged. Sitting a long period of time, will sometimes have lining or fabric to do that.
Comon Cents
November 19th, 2012
3:57 pm
All Men want to know if they are the only one driving that car with the factory installed engine. If the Man found out that the engine was used he should remove the “bumper sticker” from the engine block and replace any broken or worn out parts. Hopefully the engine had low mileage.
Sticking with your “car” analogy, just because there are no bumper stickers, dosen’t mean that the previous owner did not rag the car out. I would rather have a well maintained Honda with a bumper sticker than a Porsche that the owner treated like crap and left with internal damage to the motor. IJS
Sassy Me..I'm so ready ;-)
November 19th, 2012
3:57 pm
it can still be misunderstood that one is NOT on the dayum phone lol
Well you know some folks need things spelled out…literally.
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 19th, 2012
3:58 pm
Some topics just don’t have enough gas to keep us going for 7-8+ hours
Especially if you’ve “been there done that”
Comon Cents
November 19th, 2012
3:58 pm
A virgin could get a tattoo on their butt if they wanted….
Exactly! I was tattooed before I was deflowered.
Leggs
November 19th, 2012
3:58 pm
If topics didn’t change, less and less participants!
Leggs
November 19th, 2012
3:59 pm
Comon ~ your entire post (3:57) sounds so, so very painful.
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 19th, 2012
4:01 pm
I can’t wait to get home and eat. I have left over chicken, roll, green beans and mac n cheese!! Yuuum
Into the Light
November 19th, 2012
4:01 pm
@CC’s 3:58: Really??? That’s interesting. No judgment here, just thinking that you must be a real trailblazer, because tattoos were not really “mainstream” like they are today say 20 years ago.
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 19th, 2012
4:01 pm
I meant to ask Blackfoote if he went to Publik when he did the Price is Right. I had the best green salad from there today, but I’m hungry.
MsAtl
November 19th, 2012
4:03 pm
Comon- I didn’t need to explain to his brother; his brother knew how he was & they were barely speaking. He constantly put himself above the other members of his family. He is perpetuating the same thing his grandfather did by favoring his lighter children over his darker children.
kimmie
November 19th, 2012
4:03 pm
Leggs – Even some one-topic blogs run out of gas after awhile. I mean, there are only so many things one could say about yesterday’s Falcons game, or how to bake a ham!!LOL!!
MsAtl
November 19th, 2012
4:04 pm
Cel- yum! Sounds good.
Willie Dynamite
November 19th, 2012
4:05 pm
Stepping back in, so what are y’all jaw jacking about now?
Leggs
November 19th, 2012
4:05 pm
ITL ~ you don’t know what age she was “deflowered.” She may not have been a trailblazer.
Single and Happy
November 19th, 2012
4:05 pm
Leggs, when I said give opinions about everything, I meant have an opinion on someone you see in the supermarket that you know nothing about. Or like a girl I work with that we call Chef Ramsey because she has an opinion on everyone’s food. It’s got so bad that people have no problem telling others, I don’t like what you’re wearing, I wouldn’t eat that. Okay, you’re not wearing it, and your not eating it, so why does it matter? Some how this turned into about blogging and Facebook, but that’s not what I was talking about.
Single and Happy
November 19th, 2012
4:07 pm
Robert, what does a tattoo have to do with someones sex life?
Sassy Me..I'm so ready ;-)
November 19th, 2012
4:08 pm
Even some one-topic blogs run out of gas after awhile
Sometimes it happens on the first page…most topic changes are pretty good and definitely keeps things going.
Into the Light
November 19th, 2012
4:08 pm
@Leggs: Seems to me like I remember her saying she and the hubs now lived together when they were 20 ish. If she’s late 30s, that’s 15-20 years. Unless of course they lived in separate rooms. IJS….
Comon Cents
November 19th, 2012
4:11 pm
Really??? That’s interesting. No judgment here, just thinking that you must be a real trailblazer, because tattoos were not really “mainstream” like they are today say 20 years ago.
Got my first tat at 18 (Purple rose) and my second at 22 (DST on my back) Got married later that year (1996) and lost my hymen. I had been 23 for a few months.
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 19th, 2012
4:11 pm
MsAtl – I can’t wait. I’m gonna put my chicken in my toaster oven to warm. I heard folks talking about toaster ovens the other day but I wouldn’t be without one. You can buy some really great ones….top of the line. Heck you can “cook” in those bad boys. My does everything. I NEVER use my microwave outside of popping popcorn.
kimmie
November 19th, 2012
4:12 pm
I think the point is that one can’t make assumptions about a person’s sex life just because they have a tattoo on their butt, like Robert was implying.