What stops you from approaching?
We can never explain why we are attracted to certain people, while others just don’t do it for us. A lot of the reasons we pass people up are completely superficial and nonsensical, but sometimes we have valid reasons to pause.
Call it instinct or intuition, but we often have to let our gut tell us when to keep it moving. I know for me, the minute I don’t go with my instinct, I end up regretting it later on. So how do we know when to follow our instinct and when to proceed with caution?
Have you ever noticed someone and was contemplating checking them out but decided not to? What was it that stopped you from approaching?
What turn-offs do you spot that immediately makes you rethink pursuing someone you initially thought was someone cool or a “great potential”?
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Comon Cents
November 19th, 2012
12:22 pm
Hence, the reason Robert will be single forever… I kid, I kid (b/n/r)
No tattoos?
I’m out! 
What about piercings Robert? 
MsAtl
November 19th, 2012
12:23 pm
Leggs & Cel- I only passed 8, lol.
Celisea
November 19th, 2012
12:33 pm
Blackfoote – lol
Ms Atl – I wonder “what’s passing”……the entire 10???
Comon Cents
November 19th, 2012
12:33 pm
BF~ Better late than never
, but no, Cross Colors was started by Carl Jones and it was worn by the likes of Kriss Kross etc. (Think the Karl Kani era) Alexander Julian made a line of men’s sportswear called Colours. I think it’s still around…
Comon Cents
November 19th, 2012
12:34 pm
C~ I would look at the entire 10 as failing if Robert is the prize… IJS
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 19th, 2012
12:34 pm
Lets see Georgia can win a national championship title if they win the next three games.
MsAtl
November 19th, 2012
12:35 pm
Cel- I would say 10; looks like an all-or-nothing to me.
Leggs
November 19th, 2012
12:36 pm
Ms Atl – I wonder “what’s passing”……the entire 10??? – Ummm, you might have a jerk and/or snob on your hands. IDK…
Leggs
November 19th, 2012
12:36 pm
But seriously, we like and want what we like and want.
Celisea
November 19th, 2012
12:38 pm
CC – ouch!!
Ms Atl – I was so hoping not
Comon Cents
November 19th, 2012
12:40 pm
True, Leggs, but there has to be some room for negotiation. If your list is that strict and you are not willing to waiver at all, you have excluded the very person that might be your soul mate.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 19th, 2012
12:40 pm
I would look at the entire 10 as failing if Robert is the prize
Into the Light
November 19th, 2012
12:42 pm
Afternoon, all and Happy Monday!
Shhhh, BF. As a child of the Munson/Dooley raising, we don’t talk about that stuff. We have to take it one game at a time.
But I will admit that I was giddy as a kid on Christmas morning when I saw the sports news on Sunday morning. To know that we have a chance….WOW!
GO DAWGS!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 19th, 2012
12:42 pm
Comon yes I like the Colours by Alexander Julian designs.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 19th, 2012
12:49 pm
Hey Light, I know don’t want to jinx the boys but it is a novelty for them to be in this position. I thinks it’s great. Suppose Notre Dame loses to USC and Bama loses to Auburn that’ll turn the BCS on it’s head…………LOL
Into the Light
November 19th, 2012
12:51 pm
@BF: Oh, law. That would be a mess. I don’t see the Tide losing to Auburn, and now that Barkley is out, I think the Irish will take care of USC. But you never know…..
Comon Cents
November 19th, 2012
12:52 pm
BF~ While you’re joking, a Notre Dame loss to USC is entirely possible. USC is going to have an ax to grind after their loss to UCLA and, honestly, Notre Dame is not that good they just haven’t really played anyone yet. IJS.
Light, I looked for you on Saturday but my phone was dead and I didn’t bring your number. We ended up leaving early anyway because some little Heathen above us was spitting chewed popcorn over the railing. But it was a good game. Then I went home to watch Kansas St and Oregon lose! What a good night!
Into the Light
November 19th, 2012
12:54 pm
@CC: No worries. Things happen.
Celisea
November 19th, 2012
12:54 pm
Robert??
Into the Light
November 19th, 2012
12:59 pm
Okay, back to work. Happy Thanksgiving, all!
Leggs
November 19th, 2012
1:04 pm
Comon ~ yep on your 12:34.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 19th, 2012
1:06 pm
Light:
Happy Thanksgiving I’m doing a turkey breast, need to take that thing out today so it can defrost. Gonna inject it all over to add flavor and throw it in the crock pot.
Comon Cents
November 19th, 2012
1:08 pm
Happy Thanksgiving, Light!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 19th, 2012
1:10 pm
Comon I think USC gonna knock the Irish off, I really do.
Into the Light
November 19th, 2012
1:12 pm
Thanks, y’all!!
I’m going to Carolina. My mouth is all set for some fried turkey, ham, dressing, macaroni pie, etc, etc…. can’t wait!
Leggs
November 19th, 2012
1:14 pm
Happy Thanksgiving, ITL! All I need to buy are my collards and some vanilla ice cream. All, gotta get the likka too. That’s all (lol).
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 19th, 2012
1:20 pm
Thanks Leggs for reminding me I got to make a stop at the likka store too.
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 19th, 2012
1:22 pm
I ain’t did a thing today. I was actually blogging from the restaurant with my group (they were talking sports)…
I’m gonna pay dearly for dragging tail today
i'm swiss
November 19th, 2012
1:22 pm
I actually hope ND wins, because should UGA manage to get through Tech & Bama, I’d much rather face ND than Oregon.
Having said that… My DAWGS need to focus on nothing but those annoying little NATS. While they are a bag of flaming poop this year, we’ve already demonstrated that we are capable of playing down to the crappiest level of competition (Kentucky!) if we aren’t focused. Take care of business this week. Nothing else matters.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 19th, 2012
1:25 pm
Oooh just saw the most beautiful eyes, when eye lashes are real and the eye liner put on right that’s make a woman very sexy.
Comon Cents
November 19th, 2012
1:25 pm
I actually hope ND wins, because should UGA manage to get through Tech & Bama, I’d much rather face ND than Oregon
Agreed. Even though Oregon got beat by Stanford, I think that they are gonna come back with an ax to grind too!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 19th, 2012
1:27 pm
“we’ve already demonstrated that we are capable of playing down to the crappiest level of competition”
@swiss sound like you’re talking about the Falcons from yesterday………..LOL
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 19th, 2012
1:30 pm
Not that anyone asked me but I’ll be going to the Gump and we ordered our turkey breast from the Honey Baked Ham store.
Leggs
November 19th, 2012
1:34 pm
What or where is the Gump???
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 19th, 2012
1:35 pm
I’ll ask you Slim1 where and what is the Gump?
Into the Light
November 19th, 2012
1:35 pm
Ahhhhh, I had to peek back in to see if my brotha from anotha motha popped in. Hey Swiss! I co-sign your post! Can’t you just hear Munson now?
And, in case you haven’t heard, Miami recused themselves, so the Trade School is playing for the ACC Championship.
i'm swiss
November 19th, 2012
1:36 pm
BF — Yeah, the subjects are pretty much interchangeable in that statement.
Here’s my absolute dream scenario:
1) DAWGS, Gators & Cocky all win BIG this weekend (over their respective ACC in-state rivals).
2) DAWGS beat Bammer in SECCG
3) Tech beats FSU in ACCCG & gets Orange Bowl berth (highlighting the cosmic clusterf__k that is the ACC)
4) DAWGS beat the ever-loving crap out of ND
5) Tech loses by 5 TDs to Louisville in the Orange Bowl (reinforcing what a cosmic clusterf__k the ACC is).
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 19th, 2012
1:36 pm
Leggs great minds think a lot, now you know what I’m thinking………….LOL
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 19th, 2012
1:36 pm
Montgomery, AL….aka the GUMP
Into the Light
November 19th, 2012
1:37 pm
ITL’s Holiday Lesson #136: DO NOT eat 3 cheese biscuits at Red Lobster during lunchtime if you have to go back to work. Three shots of espresso, and I’m still dragging…. Darn carbs.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 19th, 2012
1:38 pm
LOL……@swiss and it’s all possible.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 19th, 2012
1:40 pm
ITL – At first I thought you were going to say you’re walking around with that garlic breath from the biscuits lol.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 19th, 2012
1:40 pm
Dang Leggs how come you didn’t tell we think a like and not a lot…………LOL
Robert
November 19th, 2012
1:49 pm
@kimmie – ” How would you know most of that just on an initial approach?”
Most Men can spot a hair weave, fake eyelashes, finger nails, etc., when they first approach a woman. For example some women;
1. keep their hair in braids too long and have a receding hair line
2. are going bald
3. changes style from braids to a weave to hide problems
4. you can see were the hair line starts to recede
5. she has too many layers of hair sewed or implanted into her head
Everybody can not have hair like Chaka Khan.
Leggs
November 19th, 2012
1:52 pm
BF, I’m getting much better at reading minds. Yes sir, I know whatcha thinking (lololol).
Leggs
November 19th, 2012
1:55 pm
Sorry, BF, didn’t even see the mistake until you pointed it out.
I never thought all that was Chaka’s hair. How do you know it’s her hair, Robert? Have you run your fingers through it and touched her scalp???
Celisea......mini vacay bound
November 19th, 2012
1:58 pm
Ummm, Chaka wears a weave….at least I always thought. Chaka’s hair ain’t been exactly the model…IJS
Robert – I’m a woman and really weave wear has been perfected. It’s hard to tell (some) at just a glance.
Into the Light
November 19th, 2012
1:59 pm
LOL@Slim’s 1:40. No ma’am, I keep a toothbrush, toothpaste, and Listerine here for that very reason. To be honest, though, the garlic and the espresso were duking it out. LOL
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 19th, 2012
2:00 pm
LOL………@Robert spotting weaves a mile away.
Comon Cents
November 19th, 2012
2:01 pm
And, in case you haven’t heard, Miami recused themselves, so the Trade School is playing for the ACC Championship
I had not heard this! Going to read now…