Mo’ Money, Mo Problems
I was having a nice quiet dinner alone recently when I happened to witness an awkward scene happening at the table next to mine. There was a lady celebrating her promotion at work while her man was sitting there practically pouting about her new salary.
Apparently, she had joined the six-figure club, which displeased him because he was not already in it. I didn’t even KNOW this woman and I wanted to tell her to RUN from that guy. What kind of man gets visibly upset when the woman he supposedly loves succeeds? Like, who does that??
Putting my hypercritical judgment aside, I have to wonder why Ms. Six-Figure was disclosing her exact salary to a guy she was only dating? Do you ever tell people you are dating how much you make?
I know some people prefer that men have the “power” in a relationship, but does it matter if a woman makes more money than her man? Does that change the dynamic of the relationship? Should it change the dynamic?
Happy Friday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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294 comments Add your comment
Single and Happy
November 16th, 2012
4:00 pm
See ex, if it’s not everyday and she want’s to talk about it, damn that football game or anything else, she’ll have my undivided attention
Dushawn, yea time to argue then
ITL , can’t cosign with ex on the work part, because if you asked my exes about me, they would tell you I do some stupid $iht also (LOL)
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
4:01 pm
Oops got myself mixed up with a low self-esteem baby maker.
Into the Light
November 16th, 2012
4:03 pm
@Stamps: We all do some stupid isht sometimes. I file it under the “What do you expect? I’m human” tab.
@Leggs:
I didn’t mean anything by my comment, I meant “she” as in women in general, not you…..
Into the Light
November 16th, 2012
4:04 pm
Perma-weenie…..Perma-weenie….Perma-weenie…….
Makes me gigle, picturing a little hot dog with a perm dancing around.
Single and Happy
November 16th, 2012
4:06 pm
ITL, perma weenie is when he sticks it in, you can’t get rid of his sorry a$$
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
4:08 pm
ITL ~ I know that. You didn’t do anything, I did. But, I’m not a “woman in general” (lol). Seriously, I know what you mean.
I thought of your definition Single, definitely not ITL’s
Single and Happy
November 16th, 2012
4:10 pm
ITL, I file mine under the, And tab, it’s next to the, I don’t give a $iht tab
Into the Light
November 16th, 2012
4:10 pm
Uh oh…. are we bringing back Freaky Friday? I haven’t been on in awhile, so I might be rusty….
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
November 16th, 2012
4:11 pm
A LING, A LING, A LING, A LING….how’s that Leggs
Single and Happy
November 16th, 2012
4:11 pm
have a great weekend folks,
Comon Cents
November 16th, 2012
4:12 pm
And those are the ones that make me have to call CC after I cut ‘em clean to the white meat
S/H~ I have given her some wisdom… I gently reminded her that thing is not an ATM, but if you and I both got too many “ain’t gots” the LAST thing you can do for me is lay up in my albertinaized puddy.
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
4:12 pm
Jake it’s supposed to be DING A LING!!!!
EXILED!
November 16th, 2012
4:13 pm
Did somebody did a drive by on Disco?
she aint talked in a while……looking out for Disco…ember alert!
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
4:14 pm
Add A LING to the DING (lolol).
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 16th, 2012
4:14 pm
picturing a little hot dog with a perm dancing around.
I pictured Kat Williams…lol
Have a great weekend folks!!!!
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
November 16th, 2012
4:14 pm
Already gave you some Ding
EXILED!
November 16th, 2012
4:14 pm
ITL..Leggs and Slim was passing out WET towels and napkins,readying for Freaky friday..have u gotten urs?
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
4:14 pm
ember alert….are we walking around with fire torches looking for her??
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
4:15 pm
Ok, Jake!!!! Guess all those A LINGS were aftershocks.
Into the Light
November 16th, 2012
4:26 pm
LOL@Ex. No, I didn’t get my blog towelette. Leggs: Can I get one to match my vest? Vanilla-scented, if you have it.
LOL@CC. If i was still with __________ we woulda needed every clause, loophole, lasso, and caveat we could find.
Into the Light
November 16th, 2012
4:28 pm
@Jake: You giving away ding and no a ling? That’s like giving somebody a Twinkie that you’ve sucked all the cream filling out of. Yeah, you can eat the dry old sponge cake, but what’s the point???
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
4:31 pm
ITL ~ wet towels are dispensed to those having a marathon sexual session. Do you qualify?
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
4:32 pm
That’s like giving somebody a Twinkie that you’ve sucked all the cream filling out of. Yeah, you can eat the dry old sponge cake, but what’s the point???
That entire post is foul (lol).
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
November 16th, 2012
4:35 pm
ITL- hey white chocolate, here you guys go….DingaLing, Dingaling, Dingaling, Dingaling…
Alright you guys…off to Vanquish Lounge: Doors open at 6, Band hits stage at 8, free before 10
Into the Light
November 16th, 2012
4:35 pm
ITL ~ wet towels are dispensed to those having a marathon sexual session. Do you qualify?
Never mind.
Comon Cents
November 16th, 2012
4:44 pm
Leggs~ Where’s my towel then?
It’s going to be a banner weekend in the Cents’ household. DuSahwn got me all ready to pounce the hubby when I get home tonight…
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
4:47 pm
Good for you Comon. Please find a beige hand towel in the left hand cabinet in your upstairs bathroom. Don’t break, sprain or rupture anything. Just put that sweet pain on him (lol).
EXILED!
November 16th, 2012
4:47 pm
good week end folks…!
Comon Cents
November 16th, 2012
4:49 pm
And there you have it, Leggs. And there you have it.
Have a great weekend folks! Light, catch you on Saturday!
Go Dawgs!
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
4:53 pm
PEACE!!
WrightIdea
November 16th, 2012
4:59 pm
If it was the man celebrating his new 6 figure salary, would there be these many comments about it being inappropriate? Men celebrate their successes all the time. Women should be able to do so without anyone pouting or criticizing. We don’t know how long they had been dating – it could be two months or 10 years. We don’t know enough to draw judgment.
Jerome Jackson
November 16th, 2012
5:27 pm
I tell the girl I make a lot then inpregbate the girl and leave!
Successfull Dude
November 16th, 2012
5:39 pm
Absolutely never, ever reveal this sort of information to anyone!!!!! No one outside of your spouse has the right to know this.
Additionally, this sort of info paints a mighty big target on your back … saying come use me now!
Faith
November 16th, 2012
6:11 pm
Me personally I could care less because you have to be comfortable with yourself and self confidence in making the same income. I would not share that information until I knew we are totally committed in a relationship. However, most men would have a problem with that and just means you need to step your game up.
Bill Clinton
November 16th, 2012
6:12 pm
Where can I find this woman? I would like to offer her comfort.
Beautiful
November 16th, 2012
6:43 pm
hi ev1! i was dating this dude from Fresno, CA and he disclosed his retirement fund LOL! i was alittle turned off, because i thought he was bragging. but i later figured out that men who disclose their wealth is INTO YOU
if i were a gold digger i would have been set for life
OldTimer
November 16th, 2012
7:13 pm
Her salary only matters to me if she’s a ho.
Otherwise, it’s all good.
Animal187
November 16th, 2012
8:43 pm
I never tell anyone what my salary is…I just tell them that I am a MWB…
Minuim Wage Brother…who has to save up two weeks just to go to a dollar movie..
I usually get a pretty good laugh at that one !!!
LeeH1
November 16th, 2012
10:17 pm
She was evidently expecting him to pay for the dinner. Women want equal opportunities, but won’t pay equally on dates with men.
I would have probably been upset and annoyed at her bragging about her great finances at the “I’m richer than you are!” supper when she won’t share the bill, too.
clewis564
November 16th, 2012
11:12 pm
Whether a woman I am dating or married to makes more than me doesn’t matter. I’m still the man regardless. If we’re dating god for her. If we’re married good for US. People forget income goes up and down. Tables can turn and life can turn on a dime and she loses her job and takes a cut and he’s making more. It’s not a contest or fight with whom you’re in love of life with. It’s two people working together to make it period.
Jasmine
November 17th, 2012
1:50 am
Honestly…there are just some men that do not like their woman making more money than him. I agree with the person who said that there are men who would lie and say they have no problem with it but truthfully they are burning up inside. For the people that says she doesn’t know the woman’s personality doesn’t mean you know her either.
could be insecure
November 17th, 2012
2:25 am
Am very fortunate to have parents whose highest priority in marraige is to respect each other. Kinda spoiled me..am too fussy I guess.
Have one particular person/relationship in mind here. Mutual attraction me being male, her a six-figure gal for sure. Me, I work with my hands. Modest income. Stll we have great chemistry….except for her disrespect for men, probably resulting from fam background or divorce. She’s the complete package, but I the skeptic am to accept her like she is and not try ot change her. Couldn’t live with the demeaning and just know that my low salary would ammo for arguments she must win.
Ok, may be not understanding what love is…a complete acceptance without expectations for the other to change. I should be the one to change my expectations…got it. However, our insecurities intertwine and didn’t want to pay such a high emotional price and time investment to reach peace. Sometimes it really is apparent that money can be the root of all sorts of evil, one being having the upper hand on the purse strings and used as a weapon to mask over personal insecurities and an unwillingness to see the other as an equal.
Just my two cents worth from my little place in the universe.
Chris
November 17th, 2012
8:33 am
According to black enterprise magazine the average net worth of a black woman is…..$100. Some may make it but not saving or investing. Mall purchases and large car notes aren’t investments,
scootdog
November 17th, 2012
10:24 am
I wish my woman made more money than me