Mo’ Money, Mo Problems
I was having a nice quiet dinner alone recently when I happened to witness an awkward scene happening at the table next to mine. There was a lady celebrating her promotion at work while her man was sitting there practically pouting about her new salary.
Apparently, she had joined the six-figure club, which displeased him because he was not already in it. I didn’t even KNOW this woman and I wanted to tell her to RUN from that guy. What kind of man gets visibly upset when the woman he supposedly loves succeeds? Like, who does that??
Putting my hypercritical judgment aside, I have to wonder why Ms. Six-Figure was disclosing her exact salary to a guy she was only dating? Do you ever tell people you are dating how much you make?
I know some people prefer that men have the “power” in a relationship, but does it matter if a woman makes more money than her man? Does that change the dynamic of the relationship? Should it change the dynamic?
Happy Friday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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EXILED!
November 16th, 2012
3:13 pm
since she sees the entire block is out, unless he’s obligated to pay that entire grid.
YES but NO…..see,this is this whole concept of marriage and having another’s back…when u married, u need assurance from ur partner..it doesnt have to be a complicated issue or subject..even the on the most benign of issues like electricty being out….on the whole block..and ur woman is worried….she still needs reassurance…
Its a “luxury” a single person (woman) doesnt have….
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
3:13 pm
With that phone call, I know I would have said the same thing about paying for the entire block.
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
3:15 pm
Ex, no matter how you slice it, there’s only a NO.
Its a “luxury” a single person (woman) doesnt have…. = a bunch of crock!! Even a single woman may not remember if she paid the bill that month but can look outside and see the entire block is out and know it’s not because she didn’t pay the bill.
EXILED!
November 16th, 2012
3:16 pm
Single..u want to sound all logical as if u never have cajoled a chic, during ur very single days, ……’lemme just put the head in and ima pull it out’
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
November 16th, 2012
3:16 pm
good example Dushawn…..yep, sometimes I do not want to take those 20mins of how was your day; but I call it the “the magic 20 minutes”…there are a couple of things that can happen…the normal is, I find out what her day was like, she feels satisfied, I go ahead and do what I really planned on doing that evening OR all what I said, then we find ourselves in a moment, I rock it, then I do what I planned on doing that evening…either way, I win…giving her that undivided attention for a brief moment makes my life a whole lot easier….Conversely, when I don’t…there is this unstated intensity in the air that does not really clear until she gets a chance to talk….just comes wit it
Comon Cents
November 16th, 2012
3:17 pm
kimmie~ I feel ya! What you see is what you do.
Speaking of which~ I have a girl that I have known since way back in the pre-law days when I worked for the county. Her family was on my caseload and when she graduated high school, I was pulling some serious strings trying to help girlie get into college. In the interim, she met this knuckle head n’er-do-well boy from the hood and ended up getting pregnant by him. Flash forward, girlie now has 5 (yes I said 5) kids by this sorry azz SOB and she has finally left him. She is struggling to make it on her own and I help her out when I can. Here’s the issue: She seems to think that puddy is free and this bothers me. She has no problem asking me to help her out (this week, her truck needs a new hub & bearing) but you got a dude laying up with you and coming in and out and you can’t ask him to help fix your car or pay a bill because (and I quote) “He ain’t my man.”?!? Am I missing something?
Single and Happy
November 16th, 2012
3:22 pm
Kimmie, no this is not one of those.
Leggs, yes it does, and they’re probably sitting there saying the same thing about me. I had and ex that had problems with directions, didn’t understand if you took 75south to get to the mall that you had to take 75north to get back home, would call me when she got to Mcdonaugh then argue with me about the directions I was giving her. after 15 to 20 mins of arguing I would finally say, WTF did you call me for if you knew where were going, then she would cry, i’d apologize and finally she would listen and I would talk her home (LOL) But she did have her good points also
EXILED!
November 16th, 2012
3:23 pm
Leggs..Single’s analysis is much ado bout nothing really…like i said… a single woman dont have that luxury of a sounding board…
thats what married/coipled folks do…..
watch…..”honey, do I look fat in this dress?”
“Honey, have I lost weight’ …
“honey do u like these shoes”
Silly questions to a very single man…..
same to a married men but we deal with it.
Single and Happy
November 16th, 2012
3:23 pm
Ex, I haven’t did that type of mess since I was teenager (LOL)
Comon Cents
November 16th, 2012
3:25 pm
Ex~ I don’t ask those kinds of questions because I’m a realist. And I am married to a realist. That ends badly…
kimmie
November 16th, 2012
3:26 pm
Comon – SMH!! Naw hon, you aren’t missing anything, but she is !! I just could not relate to that. If she was a friend or relative of mine, I would have a hard time not grabbing her by the shoulders and shaking her silly!!!
Single – Hey, you think BO & Michelle have those silly, dumb kind of conversations??
Like I said before to you – get that blue collar chip off ya shoulders and get you a smart lady to marry! And record some of your conversations you have before you marry, so you can play them back for her in case she gets “brain drain”!!LOL!!!
Single and Happy
November 16th, 2012
3:27 pm
watch…..”honey, do I look fat in this dress?” umm yea you fat in everything
“Honey, have I lost weight’ …umm yea, see last answer
“honey do u like these shoes”naw I don’t think they will fit me
Silly questions to a very single man…..yep
same to a married men but we deal with it.
IJK
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
3:29 pm
But she did have her good points also – It’s that magic honey pot that has many staying longer then they really want to.
kimmie
November 16th, 2012
3:30 pm
Comon – I married a realist as well! Too real sometimes!!
Exiled – The mess you & these other dudes claim these women ask & say almost makes me gag to here it!! LOL!!!
Single and Happy
November 16th, 2012
3:30 pm
Kimmie don’t know about B and M, but I wanted to marry one of those because I was willing to take the good with the bad with her, and it wasn’t an everyday thing. with my co-workers it’s almost a everyday thing.
Comon I’m like you, tell me the truth, cause I already know the answer.
Comon Cents
November 16th, 2012
3:30 pm
me: “Honey, does this dress make me look fat?”
him: “Nah, baby. Your fat makes you look fat”
me:
Yeah, not a good start to the day… IJS
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
3:32 pm
a single woman dont have that luxury of a sounding board… = a bunch of crock (lol).
May be single in terms of not having a man at the house all the time, but please understand single women have sounding boards. I know what you’re trying to say, but since you aren’t saying it correctly, I’m harping on what you are saying (lololol).
Single and Happy
November 16th, 2012
3:32 pm
Leggs, it’s wasn’t the magic honey pot (it was the bomb) I really enjoyed her company, but things just started to get be to much of hassle. and when we finally broke up for good, she admitted she did a lot just to see when I would break,
Comon Cents
November 16th, 2012
3:33 pm
kimmie~ At least it’s not just me. But now I find myself in a position where when she asks me for help, I want to start laying down conditions (like a parent) but that’s not my place. However, I feel sorry for her kids…
kimmie
November 16th, 2012
3:35 pm
Single – Well, like you said, they like that ish!!
This is why I could never take being with a dumb dude! I don’t care how fine he was. I’m sorry, I would pull my hair out! Plus, I would just have a hard time respecting him and feeling assured he could handle the head of household role. Nope!
EXILED!
November 16th, 2012
3:35 pm
Kimmie….what i know is you are a woman…..and there are things u do and say that ur man wont care to argue bout or rationalize …al he says is OK
U too Coomon..
unless Ull are hermaphrodites
Single and Happy
November 16th, 2012
3:36 pm
comon, your girl is SOS (stuck on stupid) you aint messing nothing. If she’s asking for help, I would lay down conditions, I know you feel sorry for the kids, but you’re enabling her in the process.
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
3:38 pm
she admitted she did a lot just to see when I would break, – (1) she wanted the relationship to end, but wanted you to do it, (2) she really is crazy, (3) loves testing men and will probably forever be alone, (4) likes drama….
kimmie
November 16th, 2012
3:38 pm
she admitted she did a lot just to see when I would break,
Single – Okay, I rest my case (the power outage chick)!!!! LOL!!!
Single and Happy
November 16th, 2012
3:40 pm
ex, that’s the problem with me, I can only say okay so long, then I’m like either do something about it or let it go, but I’m tired of hearing about it. IE if she comes home complaining about her job every day (and there are people that do that) I’m like find another job or get over it, but I can’t take this everyday. .
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
3:41 pm
Comon ~ it may not be your place since you aren’t her parent, but because she turns to you, why not dispense some wisdom. Perhaps her silly behind needs to be told if she feels “he ain’t her man” she needs to keep her legs closed and find a man that wants to help her. He’s blocking her from better things….
DuShawn
November 16th, 2012
3:42 pm
In the defense of idiots, I can be kind of an air head sometimes too, especially with directions. Imma master of SAP, Microsoft GreatPlains, Peoplesoft and several other ERP systems. I’m an artist in excel and I remember every phone number I have ever had. I have committed to memory at least 10 different user ID’s and passwords. But I can’t remember how to get places that I have been to several times. There have many occasions where I’m driving with wifey and I’ll say “ I think I missed my turn” she’ll say “you did… you should’ve turned two lights ago. I’ll be like, “why didn’t you say something?”…”DuShawn we have come to these peoples house ten timeS, you should know how to get there by now”. She gets some perverted pleasure by making my stupidity obvious. I tell her “man just let me know when to f*&vkin turn!” My mental hard drive is full, I don’t have the disk space to remember any more trivial information.
Single and Happy
November 16th, 2012
3:42 pm
Leggs 1, 2 half of 3, she got married, and 4 (LOL)
Kimmie (LOL)
kimmie
November 16th, 2012
3:42 pm
Exiled – I am married to a lawyer – it’s never just “okay honey”. He keeps me on my toes, but I wouldn’t have it any other way!. In fact, sometimes I feel a little silly cause he will come back with something I never even considered. It’s an interesting dynamic!
Single and Happy
November 16th, 2012
3:44 pm
Dushawn, do you argue with her when she’s giving directions, there is a big difference.
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
November 16th, 2012
3:46 pm
Shidd Leggs, No sane man is jumping at the chance to take on her and FIVE kids, she better fix what she got.
Single and Happy
November 16th, 2012
3:48 pm
Jake, you can’t fix that!! He’ll lay there until she puts him out just like the one before her, and the one after her.
EXILED!
November 16th, 2012
3:48 pm
Single..it doesnt have to be everyday..but the point is..thats why we are a couple…tell me whats on ur mind, untill its time for football,then just shet up and go bring me the gin,juice popcorn. and some grilled piece of steak.
ALL Women are WORK..all of them..even these self proclaimed Ivy leaguers..
They all talk talk talk talk talk talk talk talktalk talktalk talktalk talktalk talk
bout NOTHING!
Into the Light
November 16th, 2012
3:48 pm
He keeps me on my toes, but I wouldn’t have it any other way!.
@Kimmie: I agree. I like a man that challenges! Not in every little thing or in trivial things, but in a way that keeps me on my toes and keeps things from being too predictable.
I have known men that take it too far, though, and question about every little thing. And those are the ones that make me have to call CC after I cut ‘em clean to the white meat.
Sorry, I had to say that. A friend of mine says that and it cracks me up every time.
DuShawn
November 16th, 2012
3:49 pm
I don’t argue with her until she starts to patronize me. Talkin all slow and simple…..She be like “Its……..the………red………house……..on……..your………..left……..Now pull in the drive way and put the car in park”.
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
November 16th, 2012
3:50 pm
Ex…ain’t that the truuff…lol
Into the Light
November 16th, 2012
3:50 pm
ALL Women are WORK..all of them
What, Ex? I know you don’t think y’all are a walk in the park????
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
3:50 pm
Jake ~ I thought someone might say just that. So, you’re saying she can get all the weenie she needs, but nothing is ever going to be permanent.
EXILED!
November 16th, 2012
3:50 pm
Come on Kimmie…get off that lawyer horse…
u dont need a law degree to maintain a home…
comeon folks…..
Of toipic..when i was at college,the folks in law school had a chip coz thought they were it…
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 16th, 2012
3:51 pm
“Its……..the………red………house……..on……..your………..left……..Now pull in the drive way and put the car in park”.
Run Forrest….run!!!
Into the Light
November 16th, 2012
3:52 pm
So, you’re saying she can get all the weenie she needs, but nothing is ever going to be permanent
Perma-weenie. LMAO!
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
3:52 pm
Ex ~ I hope you realize you men give us women headaches too!!
EXILED!
November 16th, 2012
3:52 pm
They thought they were It…..
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 16th, 2012
3:52 pm
weenie…weenie…weenie
I don’t know what it is about that word that makes me laugh…
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 16th, 2012
3:54 pm
Perma-weenie.
———flatline——-
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
November 16th, 2012
3:54 pm
Ding,Ding,Ding,Ding……we have a winner and her name is Leggs, and I did mean Ding,Ding,Ding,Ding…cause that’s all she gonna get.
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
3:57 pm
EXILED!
November 16th, 2012
3:58 pm
Before I forget Dushawn…I quit on that FICO stuff coz i couldnt get a break with a j o b…..u got some inside scoop for me…it def pays more than BI….?
Leggs
November 16th, 2012
3:58 pm
And if DING is all I’m going to get, please add A LING to it.
Into the Light
November 16th, 2012
3:59 pm
Ding,Ding,Ding,Ding…cause that’s all she gonna get
Maybe that’s all she wants…..