Does she have your back?
I was having dinner with a group of friends recently when the topic of loyalty came up. A lot of the men believed that a woman who was not loyal or unable to show support, is put in the category for “recreational purposes” only. In other words, they don’t take her seriously.
Most of the guys agreed that when a man sees that his woman supports him and has his back, it makes a huge difference in how he relates to her. It is something that a lot of men value when they have it, and can definitely tell when they don’t. How hard is it to find a loyal woman to date though?
I figured women are already hard wired to be nurturing and supportive. Surely, they meet many women who can have their back, right? Noooooope. Apparently, some women find it difficult to do, and some men think this is the reason their dating relationships don’t work out.
What do you think? Do you generally meet and date people who seem willing and able to be supportive? Do you think this is something that is only shown over time within a committed relationship?
If you are in a relationship now, do you feel like they have your back? How long did it take before you felt that they did
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Single and Happy
November 15th, 2012
6:58 am
Hey all
Not being the type of person to talk about doing things, my first thought is how can I instead of why I can’t, I can’t say that I’ve needed or even thought about someone being supportive after my teen years. Usually when I mention something to someone, the wheels are in motion to make it happen.
lee
November 15th, 2012
7:35 am
Its a two way street, not a one way. I find men to be its all about them, then they get pissed when you aren’t there and all of a sudden you don’t have their back. Really, so when i need something it gets dismissed but when you need something i am wrong. I find that interesting..
When i was married my X would get stuck, lost his credit card – and i drove all over the damn place to help him, I got stuck with my car on the highway, lets just say thank god i had triple A other wise i would still be on the side of the road. Oh thats terrible he goes.
Single and Happy
November 15th, 2012
7:59 am
Lee, in your scenario, it would be a 2 way street, you were just with the wrong man.
Exiled!
November 15th, 2012
8:14 am
Lee…agree with Single,that wasn’t even a ‘man’
On topic: a woman having my back does not necessarily translate to her doing something for me. Simple things like her just mouthing support may be enough for me to know she cares.
And sometimes,even before you get a step in the relationship,she will give you signals by how she mouthes off,what she won’t do..blah blah blah…u know uall like to sound off and blow hot air bout stuff….’I ain’t gonna do this..I ain’t gonna do that’ all the while,your mouth is full,you can hardly be audible as we sitting down at dinner and you eating the food I’m buying.
So you put her in the ‘recreational binder’
Scratch my back I scratch yours.
Having the man’s back is more valuable than offering your unAlbertinanized coochie!
It’s more solid!
Exiled!
November 15th, 2012
8:18 am
Good morning MIA!,my bad.
I ain’t rude,u know that!
Single and Happy
November 15th, 2012
8:22 am
Dang ex we’re agreeing, WTH (LOL) yea if you don’t listen to those early warning signs then you get what you get.
Most of the time in my situation it’s that I won’t have there back, then when I bring all the times I’ve had their back without hesitation, then I’m throwing it up in their face.
Single and Happy
November 15th, 2012
8:38 am
O/T very early this AM
ABC Report Why Successfull Black Women Find It So Hard To get Married this is 2 years old, but hmmmmm
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TL6uVLfKRoo&feature=youtube_gdata_player
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote Ready
November 15th, 2012
8:55 am
I wouldn’t want to be watched like a baby but having my back is a good compliment. It is a two way street but men should be the provider and protector. Women have power and they know having their man’s back go a long way for his own sense of security. That will motivate him into respecting his relationship when he knows she will protect his back.
Lee
November 15th, 2012
8:56 am
Single yes he was wrong. Just not a man. That is why he is an X and that was a small samle of his childish behavior. oh well.. we live and learn.. only to learn some new stuff.
i like this saying: If someone doesn’t appreciate your presence make them appreciate your absence.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote Ready
November 15th, 2012
8:57 am
Good Morning!
I’m backing in here.
Comon Cents
November 15th, 2012
8:57 am
Having the man’s back is more valuable than offering your unAlbertinanized coochie!
So, I don’t have to have his back because I’m Albertinaized?
On topic~ I agree with S/H & Exiled. (Who knew?!?) What is the point of having a significant other if you don’t look out for each other? In this day and age, the world is a cold, cold place. It’s nice to have someone who you know has your best interests at heart.
Good Morning, bloggies!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote Ready
November 15th, 2012
9:02 am
Where’s the drinks, breakfast bar, and most important the women?
disco
November 15th, 2012
9:09 am
good morning folks. I’m all for loyalty. I’m incredibly loyal. once I’m down for you, I’m down for you. of course, once I’m done with you, I’m good and done. thing is not everyone even deserves loyalty. some folks think you are supposed to be loyal to them on GP. hate to say it but it just don’t work like that. I still can’t stand a whiney A man (or woman) who acts like they can’t do a daggone thing without someone encouraging and supporting them along the way.
Dani
November 15th, 2012
9:13 am
Good Morning- I had my ex’s back, he didn’t have mine. That’s why he is my ex. Sometimes you put in more than what you get out of an relationship. You live and you learn.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote Ready
November 15th, 2012
9:17 am
disco how are you I agree with you can’t go round being loyal to every body that happens by.
Comon Cents
November 15th, 2012
9:20 am
Dani~ That begs the question (yeah, Imma be the one to throw out the elephant in the room and ruin the harmony) How does one determine what is loyalty and having your back and what is not?
I too have an ex and if you ask him, he would say that he had my back just not in the ways I expected him to.
(By the way, just playing devil’s advocate here)
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote Ready
November 15th, 2012
9:24 am
“I had my ex’s back, he didn’t have mine”
Did you think he would come around at any time?
disco
November 15th, 2012
9:25 am
dani – re putting in and getting out. I’m constantly advising folks to pay attention to the balance on that one. I’ve been deemed a “scorekeeper” and a “tit for tat” type. not saying I expect 50/50 because that can be unrealistic but folks better make sure their side of the scale ain’t about to touch the ground. ijs.
hey blackfoote.
Bluzgirl
November 15th, 2012
9:29 am
I’ve also had a man’s back when he didn’t have mine. That is why he’s an ex.
I’m a very loyal girlfriend and friend. I will have your back when it’s called for. BUT…if you are wrong, I will call you on it as well.
Good morning bloggers. I’m sitting here hoping I’m not coming down with something. My throat has been sore for two days…ugh!!!
Dani
November 15th, 2012
9:35 am
Loyalty begins and ends with fidelity to me. After that is gone I will treat you like you are mofo off the streets.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 15th, 2012
9:36 am
Bluz
That’s what’s the happening is all about becoming friends, lovers, and loyal lovers. Sound easy doesn’t it but reality kicks in the door sometimes and leaves us frail. May need to see your doctor for that sore throat before it change into strep.
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 15th, 2012
9:39 am
If you are in a relationship now, do you feel like they have your back?
yup
How long did it take before you felt that they did
he was always a consummate gentleman and a man of his word. he made it clear that he was to be depended upon w/o question. that’s his character. and i’m his woman, so ….
s/o has told me that he has accomplished so much more because i believe he can accomplish so much more. that really touched me because i have never considered NOT believing in all that he is and is yet to be.
morning, all.
two more days; still not packed.
Dani
November 15th, 2012
9:39 am
disco- You are right about pay attention to balance. I didn’t in the past.
Comon Cents
November 15th, 2012
9:42 am
Dani~ So fidelity is it? I know that for me, it’s more than that. Fidelity is important, but I also expect that if things are getting to be too much for me, you will pick up some of the slack just to ease the amount of pressure on me. Of course, that is a two way street.
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 15th, 2012
9:43 am
BUT…if you are wrong, I will call you on it as well.
just between us, tho. i will always front on his side.
honestlly, i may or may not even call him on it. just depends coz sometimes he already knows and there’s just no need to rub it in.
my ex had so many chicks watching his back, i was able to quietly slip away and leave him well covered.
Toria
November 15th, 2012
9:45 am
I must admit I haven’t been loyal to every man I’ve dated. I didn’t feel as if they were loyal to me, so it didn’t make me want to give them that.
The man I’m dating now is in the military and is currently deployed. Nothing like 6000 miles to test loyalty. From the beginning he was different. He’s not one to express his feelings verbally, but he shows love and care through his actions. The biggest one– he helped me study for my finals right before he left (I’m in grad school). He has no interest or background in what I’m studying and sacrificed 2 days of his off time to help me study.
He was scared at first because his last girlfriend wasn’t loyal. She couldn’t handle his career and broke up with him 2 days after he went into basic training. So it took a minute for him to realize I’m down for him through whatever. I send him care packages, talk about anything to get his mind off of where he is, and tell him how proud I am of him. It took him a while to realize that my feelings don’t change just because his geography did.
MsAtl
November 15th, 2012
9:45 am
Morning All!
Like Dani & Bluz, I had my ex’s back period! He thought having my back meant doling out money. Having someone’s back means much more than that.
Ex- you are absolutely right, sometimes it means emotional support.
Comon- yes, it is nice toknow someone has your best interests at heart and loyalty is a two-way street.
A friend of mine asked the question on FB the other day- which would you rather have in a partner; love or loyalty? I chose love because in my opinion love includes loyalty. However, you can be loyal out of fear (as with pimps and mobsters). I thought it was an interesting question.
Bluzgirl
November 15th, 2012
9:46 am
BF – You’re right…it sounds easy and it should be easy. Unfortunately, too many people are quick to take advantage of a loyal person.
I’m hoping maybe it’s just the weather changes that have me feeling blah, but if my throat still hurts by this afternoon, I’ll call my doctor. I’m just trying to get through work. I was out 1.5 days last week because I was sick and sure hope I don’t really get sick this time! Too much to do this weekend!!!
Single and Happy
November 15th, 2012
9:48 am
Disco, why you got to be a score keeper see my 8:22
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 15th, 2012
9:48 am
There need to be a balance and most times it’s not always gonna be 50/50, sometimes the scales can dip to 70/30. Don’t panic the scales always move up and down, when it stops going up that’s where you find your issues.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 15th, 2012
9:56 am
Single when you do things often sometimes that’s not taken as having their back it’s taken as I got a sucker…………..LOL
Been there and done it too.
disco
November 15th, 2012
9:57 am
Mrs. Atl – your post makes me think of sonny in Bronx tale. the talk with colojero re being feared or respected. lol. (you know almost everything takes me back to a movie)
S/H – I don’t keep a literal scorecard but cool believe I’m always paying attention to what I’m putting in and what I’m getting out. if I ever feel like I’m doing too much or way more than someone is attempting to do for me it’s time to re-evaluate the situation. I will not be in a one-sided relationship with a grown man. bump that.
BF – re those scales. yep. that’s what i’m talking about.
Leggs
November 15th, 2012
10:01 am
If we are dating, I would like to believe/feel that we have each other’s back. Until something comes up that tells me I need to abandon ship, I will have your back. You don’t receive what you don’t give.
Single and Happy
November 15th, 2012
10:04 am
Black, disco, it’s not the score card, but more of the Janet Jackson song, “What Have You Done For Me Lately” and usually when I start hearing how I don’t have their back that’s my cue it’s time to leave.
disco
November 15th, 2012
10:07 am
for me loyalty also entails other smaller scale things like the fact that I can talk about you like a dog but I won’t sit by and let someone else do it in my presence. or maybe I’ll keep a little faux pas on your part to myself because I know if it got out folks would clown you. sure, I’ll clown you but that’s between us. loyalty isn’t always die hard.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 15th, 2012
10:08 am
Hey Leggs, the man that have your back aint gon let you abandon no ship beleive me on this……….LOL
disco
November 15th, 2012
10:11 am
S/H – well if we are going to turn this into songs I’ll have to go with CeCe Peniston. keep on walking. “you can just go. walk on. keep on”. lol. still, I’m always tickled by men and women who claim that their happiness comes solely from making the other person happy and that other person is beating them, using them, cheating on them, whatever and they just keep trying and trying and trying to make the other person love them. crazy I tell ya.
Single and Happy
November 15th, 2012
10:12 am
For the guys, how would you need your woman’s support?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 15th, 2012
10:13 am
LOL……….disco I agree again, just like at family reunions. We can cut up with each other but we won’t let an outsider come in and cut up a member of the family.
Button
November 15th, 2012
10:13 am
Good morning, I agree with Single, Exile and Common..Blackfoote you said it too.
I consider myself a loyal person by default. In a relationship loyalty is right next to love. The two go hand in hand. What good is it to have love but no loyalty and vice versa.
Do you generally meet and date people who seem willing and able to be supportive? Yes, my guy supports me in eating healthy which influences him to eating healthier and also encouraging me with excercising and decluttering my life, me on the other hand I support him with being a sounding board and keeping him grounded.
If you are in a relationship now, do you feel like they have your back? Yes
How long did it take before you felt that they did? I can’t pinpoint exactly how long but it wasn’t immediatley for sure. It was a natural process. It’s safe to say I didn’t notice until I noticed it.
Single and Happy
November 15th, 2012
10:15 am
Disco, that sounds more like someone that has to feel needed no matter what. If you keep doing the same ole stupid $iht and keep getting the same stupid results, don’t keep coming to me crying cause i’m going to push you in the back, not have your back.
MsAtl
November 15th, 2012
10:18 am
Disco- good movie! I don’t do strict tit-for-tat or think things have to be 50-50, but there has to be some balance, some give and take.
I used to believe that you supported your mate through whatever, but not anymore! I had to realize how bad it was when I received a call asking for help with a legal situation and had to say “Are you crazy? We are in the middle of a nasty divorce and you still expect me to have your back?” Now I can only laugh at that.
Now I pay more attention to what I am withdrawing as well as depositing. I have cut several people from my life over the past year. When you hear from someone three times a year and always to borrow money, don’t bother! Then they can’t even call, they send a text message? Are you kidding me? It took some doing because I am a nurturer at heart and was raised to help others, but mama didn’t raise no fool and I ain’t up for being used.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
10:24 am
Until something comes up that tells me I need to abandon ship, I will have your back. You don’t receive what you don’t give.
Worth repeating…
That sums it all up with a pretty pink bow on top.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 15th, 2012
10:24 am
Single all she has to do is say she’s proud of me as her man and I’m good.
Leggs
November 15th, 2012
10:31 am
Morning BF!
Now I pay more attention to what I am withdrawing as well as depositing. – ON POINT!
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
10:39 am
Leggs…mail call
disco
November 15th, 2012
10:42 am
I knew a guy who used to always say either you are adding and multiplying or dividing and subtracting. lol.
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 15th, 2012
10:43 am
or maybe I’ll keep a little faux pas on your part to myself because I know if it got out folks would clown you.
lol @ disco. i’ve been told i have too much damaging info. if i try to leave, i’ll be shot on the spot.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
10:52 am
Really y’all..did everyone stay home to play hookie? Or are people actually working…
Bluzgirl
November 15th, 2012
10:57 am
MsAtl – I’m with you. I have dropped a few friends over the past couple of years due to one-sided friendships. It was hard to do because I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but in the end, it was all better. I felt more free having cut them out…
Comon Cents
November 15th, 2012
10:59 am
disco~ Someone once told me that if you break up, you can actually divide the relationship in half and you have been breaking up half the time that you were together. (IE~ If you were together for 8, you were breaking up for 4)
He got the side eye for that… 
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
11:00 am
Morning beautiful blog peeps!!!
Hey Foote, good to read ya!!
On topic – My hubs and I have had each other’s back from the beginning, I feel. But yes, in some of my past relationships I know I put in more than I got out, emotionally anyway. I felt used and taken advantage of, but hey you live and you learn. I learned that while everything will not be 50/50 all the time, things need to balance out at the end of the day. There will be days when I will be needing more and days I’ll be giving more. But on those days that I’m needing and he’s coming up short every time, well Houston we have a problem.
Oh and yeah Exiled, I will say up front there are some things I just “ain’t gonna do”. I’m ride-or-die to a point. I’m not going to jail for no dude, so miss me with your illegal requests. Or being there for you while you make stupid decisions that put me & the kids lives in jeopardy. Just not happening!
Leggs
November 15th, 2012
11:01 am
SassyMe ~ nothing showing up. Postini comes on at 11:00 showing me if emails have been dumped there.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 15th, 2012
11:03 am
@Sassy it’s a cool wet day and some couples didn’t want to get out of bed so they decided to stay home warm and dry in bed with a splash of sweat.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
11:04 am
Okay no problem…
Leggs
November 15th, 2012
11:08 am
Sassy, you’ve been dropped in my junk email. Just retrieved.
disco
November 15th, 2012
11:08 am
CC – I’ve heard that too but I don’t buy into it. maybe if we “went together for two weeks” but I’m not wasting years trying to decide I want out. sure, some do but I’m not one of them.
hey kimmie!!! (I think I just like saying hey kimmie. I don’t know any kimmies). lol.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 15th, 2012
11:09 am
Heey Kimmie glad to be back adding my 2 cents to the blog.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
11:12 am
Blackfoote that sounds like a great idea…maybe that’s what’s going on. I ain’t mad,though, cause if I could I probably would’ve done the same thing.
Leggs
November 15th, 2012
11:13 am
“…they decided to stay home warm and dry in bed with a splash of sweat.” – Cute!
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
11:15 am
Hey Disco!
Leggs
November 15th, 2012
11:16 am
A man wants to hear his woman tell him she honors him, she supports/trusts his decisions, respects him and has his back 110%.
Single and Happy
November 15th, 2012
11:16 am
Comon, Disco, on the half, if you listen to folks, they complain about the same ole stuff for years before they decide it’s not going to change and move on.
Leggs
November 15th, 2012
11:17 am
Like The Moments said, “Love is a Two-Way Street” not to be lost on a lonely highway riding solo.
Single and Happy
November 15th, 2012
11:20 am
Kimmie, it’s not even that deep as to go to jail, but it’s the I aint going to support no man, I aint going to pay any bills, I aint going to suck no **** see where I’m going with this. Even if a woman tells me there are certain things she’s not going to do until she’s married she’s got to go. The only thing she can say she’s not going to do is have sex until marriage.
Exiled!
November 15th, 2012
11:20 am
No illegal requests here,that wasn’t me suggesting that Kimmie.
I ain’t the Bonnie and Clyde type myself.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 15th, 2012
11:24 am
Sassy I know that’s right today is a great day to stay warm and dry in bed with a splash of sweat every couple of hours……………LOL
Leggs you’re too funny.
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
11:31 am
Single – Oh I totally get where you are going and being the man you read like, I would expect nothing more. But you would be surprised what “having my back” means to alot of men. No it might not be as extreme as the examples I gave, but it comes pretty close, the requests some dudes have actually had the nerve to work their mouth to ask me. It might be something like expecting me to stand by you while you blow the rent/mortgage money on that 15th get-rich-quick scheme that never pans out. Then we have to worry about getting put out of our place ONCE AGAIN! That’s the stuff I’m talking about.
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
11:32 am
Exiled – I know you didn’t mean that, I was just taking it further. Check my 11:31 to Single. That’s what I’m talking about.
Leggs
November 15th, 2012
11:37 am
Leggs you’re too funny.
Yes, I am, BF!
Exiled!
November 15th, 2012
11:41 am
Although I will say this Kimmie(and in a fast rambling and speedy,incoherent way,the way those commercials do with the verbal fine print)
Queentcametobailyourboyouttadekakbjailonetime!
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
11:42 am
today is a great day to stay warm and dry in bed with a splash of sweat every couple of hours
A splash…I want to be drenched. A splash sounds like a warm up routine or something, if I’m missing work we ’bout to get good n Schweaty (love that SNL skit)
Comon Cents
November 15th, 2012
11:45 am
Sassy~ Schweaty Ballz… LMAO! I love that too!
Comon Cents
November 15th, 2012
11:46 am
Y’all got me up in here singing:
Up in the skrip club I get love for bout $500…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 15th, 2012
11:47 am
LOL…..@Sassy I hear ya.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
11:50 am
SANG it Comon
Jake-SPJTWB
November 15th, 2012
11:51 am
what up peeps, yep, its important for both parties to have each other’s back…
Hey Ex, you too….my baby has had to Bond me out before…and she did so without a peep, no how you get in this situation blah, blah, blah,etc,etc..she know the man was fuggin wit me….lol
Of course I have done the show up like superman cause she got her car booted, caught a flat, etc..
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
11:53 am
Exiled – I ain’t mad at Queen, I’d help my hubs out long as he didn’t make a habit/lifestyle out of it!!
I was dating this dude once that was getting into politics. There was some big Patreaus-like scandal going on in the news at the time with some big politician. I told him if we ever married, don’t expect me to stand there on the news next to him looking like an idiot and humiliated after he’s gotten himself caught up in some nasty mess with some skank!
Leggs
November 15th, 2012
11:58 am
Well, kimmie, I don’t recall seeing a black woman stand next to her philandering husband during a new conference in a very long time. If I remember correctly, Herman Cain’s wife didn’t stand there either (even though she seemed to have stood by her man off camera).
Dani
November 15th, 2012
12:03 pm
I told the ex if you go to jail for DUI or defending yourself I will come to bail you out. If you go for dealing drugs call your momma. He said that was cold hearted.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 15th, 2012
12:03 pm
What’s up Jake man I had a friend call me for bail because he didn’t want his wife to find out, sometimes you have to help a bro out of those situations……………LOL
It was cool though it only happend once.
Willie Dynamite
November 15th, 2012
12:03 pm
Afternoon all,
Loyalty is different things to different people. I don’t need a true ride or die type chick cause I’m not in that lifestyle no more. I do my best to show and prove that I’m the HOH. I don’t need a cheerleader or a support group. I feel her loyalty by just knowing she saw enough in me to wanna be the Mrs.
Not to steal Ex’s mantra but I know I’m the King. I also know the King doesn’t hold all the power.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 15th, 2012
12:13 pm
Willie D.
Being the HOH that’s a wonderful feeling, means you’re ready for any and all takers.
Willie Dynamite
November 15th, 2012
12:24 pm
BF- and givers.
Comon Cents
November 15th, 2012
12:25 pm
Oh Lawd, Jake, BF & Willie got me moving on to Tammy Wynette~
Stand by your man….
disco
November 15th, 2012
12:27 pm
S/H – re that 11:20 of yours, I’m sure it only applies to things that she’s not going to do that you just so happen to want her to do. lol.
BF – that’s funny. he must have known his wife was the type that didn’t play. lol.
BF/willie D – yes being HOH is a beautiful thing and I don’t say that speaking as one. I say it speaking as one waiting on a brother to come into my life and take the title. thing is, a lot of these busters just want the title and not the work.
Single and Happy
November 15th, 2012
12:29 pm
Kimmie, when they start doing stupid $iht, push them in the back, (away from you) (LOL)
Single and Happy
November 15th, 2012
12:34 pm
Disco, no it isn’t, like ex said these are things that are said in general conversation while getting to know the person. I never try to persuade someone to do anything they don’t want to do, because I’m not going to go anything I don’t want to do.
Disco, maybe BF friends wife had told him if you go to jail again, don’t call me (LOL)
disco
November 15th, 2012
12:39 pm
S/H – my argument essentially is you likely won’t have a problem with the things a woman “ain’t going to do” as long as they are things that you don’t mind her not doing anyway. I was just calling you out on that blanket statement.
MsAtl
November 15th, 2012
12:44 pm
Kimmie- I feel you on your 11:00 & 11:31. I can be ride or die to a certain extent, but at some point, it’s time to jump off.
Jake- I may bond you out once, but it will not be a habit. I bonded the ex out (doing 13 mph in a 65 zone) & he was mad because I didn’t get there fast enough. I told him that was his one pass.
Kimmie & Leggs- on the scandal thing. Umm, yeah, I will not be standing next to you with a plastic support my man smile on as you admit to some scandal; my tail will be two sheets in the wind!
Willie- I know you said you don’t need a cheerleader, but at any rate, {{back pat}}. I am sure she appreciates it.
MsAtl
November 15th, 2012
12:46 pm
That should have been 135 miles per hour in a 65 zone. As in twice the speed limit.
Single and Happy
November 15th, 2012
12:48 pm
Disco, I see your point, but to me when a person is filled with I aints. I won’t, the same goes for someone that complains about everything all the time, we’re not going to make a good couple. because one day i’m going to say will you shut the hell up (LOL) you can say I don’t feel comfortable doing that, that’s not something I enjoy doing or something else but I aint just doesn’t cut it
Comon Cents
November 15th, 2012
12:48 pm
MsAtl was married to a super speeder!
disco
November 15th, 2012
12:52 pm
S/H – okay. I’m fairly open minded but cool believe I will let a fellow (a chick, a boss, whoever) know that there are some thangs I just ain’t going to do. lol. I think of my grandma with that never say never. I always figured for some things you can most def say never.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
12:53 pm
a lot of these busters just want the title and not the work.
CHURCH!!
Been there,done that and ended it. Being HOH is a title that’s earned not given all willie nillie (pun intended). Too many boys out here faking the funk like they’re men…and have no clue what it takes to wear that hat. Sadly there are women out there who give the title to men they KNOW can’t handle the responsibility..and frankly don’t want to.
Single and Happy
November 15th, 2012
12:56 pm
Hmm I wonder where would I be in life if I had the support of a good woman (daydreaming)
MsAtl
November 15th, 2012
1:06 pm
Comon- you just don’t know, Lol. I got a personal call at work from the po-po telling me they picked him up and for me to come get him. Thing is, I hired him an attorney & he got off with a fine.
S/H- who knows? Behind every great man is a phenomenal woman; just ask Mr. President.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
1:14 pm
Behind every great man is a phenomenal woman; just ask Mr. President.
Okay?! That’s the epitome of our discussion…yep perfect example.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 15th, 2012
1:17 pm
LOL……….@disco & Single you mentioned his wife told him not call her again, exactly he would have been sitting in there until further notified according to his wife.
Comon I like a lady that stands by her man of course……………(To A Certain Extent)……….LOL
Exiled!
November 15th, 2012
1:22 pm
MsAtl…are u sure its not 13 mph in a 65 mp hour zone,really sure?
Coz he may have been cruising,slow,hunting!
Mr Atl….eyes wide open…looks left…quickly looks right
Some bootey comes outta the shadows
………..slowing down his car and parks…..
And Bam! flashing blue lights((()())))))((())…
Officer: yes sir MrAtl,u live in Alpharetta,what ate u doing here on Cleveland avenue?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 15th, 2012
1:25 pm
Yep Sassy I agree with you on the President and his wife and the discussion of today. Michelle stands tall behind her man and you can see and sense the admiration they have for each other.
Single and Happy
November 15th, 2012
1:26 pm
MsAtl, I’ll give you that one, but I was being sarcastic, (LOL) very happy where I am, didn’t need anyone to push me, always pushed myself.
Single and Happy
November 15th, 2012
1:28 pm
Catch you guys later.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
1:36 pm
you can see and sense the admiration they have for each other.
Yes it’s obvious and quite palpable. I was on a website that had a gallery of pictures of them over the years and it tells the same story. The way they look at each other, especially when they embrace and make eye contact. Sometimes he looks at her like, “I’m the luckiest man alive to have you next to me” and then there are other times he looks at her like, “Imma tear you up later”… I think they’re an awesome couple. When he was first elected sisters were like, “Okay we have a Black POTUS so now the rest of you brothers have NO excuse”…there was some backlash from alot of men saying that for us to want a Barack was unrealistic(where they do that at?)…I call bullisht and foul on that play.
For Real
November 15th, 2012
1:47 pm
What up Blog Fam!
On topic: Men understand loyalty women do not which explains why the avg. woman has 23 best friends in her life time and men have 2 at most. To women loyalty stops when something is required of her and she believes its something you should be doing. It doesn’t matter if it’s a man or woman.
I haven’t read any of the post but I’m sure a one or two chicks has stated this “I’m not saying it’s has to 50/50 but I don’t want to put more in than he does” or “I have put more into the relationship than he did” which proves my point about women not understanding what loyalty is. Oh and for the blog chick that will post about chicks staying with dudes that drag them down, those chicks are staying with that guy out of loyalty they stay because they are looking for ROI or until they can hitch their rent to another dude.
For Real now sitting on a bench with a tray full of devil eggs.
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
1:51 pm
“Imma tear you up later
Sassy – Preach girl!!! Ain’t nothing like having your man look at you like that!! I cracked up over here when I read that. Love the admiration too! Barack & Michelle are an example for everyone!
Now I am most definitely ride-or-die for a dude that’s trying to make something of himself and leave his mark on the world. That can be by him teaching Sunday school, mentoring in the community, working hard to make that paper, raising his kids, yall get where I’m coming from. Being there to make doing those things a little easier like making sure everyone has healthly meals, making sure the house is kept up, all that. Work together and you can be a force, a movement!!
For Real
November 15th, 2012
1:51 pm
“Okay we have a Black POTUS so now the rest of you brothers have NO excuse” – No excuses for what? Exactly what impact do you think BO should have on dudes and does MO have the same impact on women?
“there was some backlash from alot of men saying that for us to want a Barack was unrealistic(where they do that at?)…I call bullisht and foul on that play” – Why are you calling BS?
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
1:51 pm
yawn…
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
1:53 pm
For Real now sitting on a bench with a tray full of devil eggs.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
1:54 pm
I’m calling BS because the men I spoke with felt that Barack was too high up the pole to be used as a measuring stick for what a Black man can do/accomplish. Some felt it was an unrealistic expectation.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 15th, 2012
1:56 pm
Women hold the keys to their heart, men need to know how to accept and respect the keys.
We can’t kiss you unless you say so……………….(sometimes you have to steal a kiss)
We can’t take you home until you show us where you live…………..(listen baby I have a GPS)
We can’t touch you unless you allow us………………..(pat on the butt is my favorite)
We can’t hold your hand until you are comfortable…………………..(no poison ivy here baby)
We can’t tell you we love you until you say it 1st……………..(baby I felt this way a long time ago)
We can wash your hair when you trust us………..(honey it’s that time of month again) * not that one
We can massage your entire body when you feel us………….(oh baby that felt so good)
We can cook you dinner and serve it on a candle lit table………(you sure know how to treat woman)
We can send you flowers to your job………………………..(honey you made my day thanks)
We can give you money………………………………….(that’s my man)
For Real
November 15th, 2012
2:00 pm
Well then I second you BS and raise you a you should have slapped the ish outta dem. Those are the type of dudes that go around saying “she won’t let me be the man” BS.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
2:03 pm
Those are the type of dudes that go around saying “she won’t let me be the man” BS.
Excatly For Real. You eithe are or you aren’t…never quite understood that statement.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
2:05 pm
*either* and *exactly*..my blood sugar’s low…
Funny post Blackfoote…true but funny,too
For Real
November 15th, 2012
2:07 pm
We can’t kiss you unless you say so……………….(yes you can, you can sneeze in your hand and then wipe your hand across her face)
We can’t take you home until you show us where you live…………..(yes you can, you can slip her micky and then dig thru her pocketbook and get driver’s license)
We can’t touch you unless you allow us………………..(yes you can, you would be amazed at how many times you can get away with saying excuse me as you slide by on her booty)
We can’t hold your hand until you are comfortable…………………..(yes you can, and this is two for one move.. all you got to do is trip her and this is also good for touching her as well)
We can’t tell you we love you until you say it 1st……………..(yes you can, it’s the only way you will be able to get the sex unless you slip her a micky)
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
2:07 pm
My opinion on the “see if Barack can do it so can you” thing is alot different. I am fortunate enough to have been around high-achieving brothers all my life and some were the “first” in their field of expertise. So when Barack came on the scene, I had no problem envisioning him winning the presidency. And any men I’ve known had plenty other example before BO came along . Same with Michelle- known plenty succesful and supportive sisters just like her. But for alot of Americans of every color, this is their first time seeing such.
What got on my nerves were brothers saying “see, Michelle stood by her man when he had nothing”? Uh, Michelle didn’t pull BO off the street and clean him up. He had finished Harvard Law and was an intern at the firm she worked at. She’s an Ivy Leaguer herself. That degree is like money in the bank. I’m not saying she married him only for his earning potential, but that’s just not an example of someone recognizing a diamond-in-the-rough and taking a chance on him.
For Real
November 15th, 2012
2:08 pm
my blood sugar’s low… – Zipppppppppppppppppppp!!!!!!!
For Real is now giving Sassy some sugar.
MsAtl
November 15th, 2012
2:10 pm
Ex- lol on your 1:22. More than likely, he was trying to get to his side piece before her husband came home.
For Real- I don’t mind doing more, but it can’t be 70/30 FOREVER; that’s not cool. And why is there no mention of you sharing your deviled eggs? (unless that’s an analogy)
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 15th, 2012
2:11 pm
LOL………@For Real 2:07
Don’t give away all the secrets.
disco
November 15th, 2012
2:15 pm
for real – dang. where you get that friend count at? I do know a lot of chicks that really can’t keep friends (won’t go into all that though). me myself personally I have several friends that I’d cut for. friends that if something happened to them and no one would raise their kids I would do it. two of them are from childhood and the third we probably met about 12 years ago. acquaintances may come and go but my friendships are tight. (and just for ease of speech I generally say friend but often mean acquaintance).
kimmie – that was my pet peeve too. they acted like she pulled barack from a homeless shelter and helped him study for his GED test.
speaking of friends (acquaintances – lol) how come one just invited me to thanksgiving dinner. this is the same one that I told y’all makes the hardest, driest spaghetti I’ve ever encountered. child can’t cook a lick.
For Real
November 15th, 2012
2:16 pm
Kimmie: I agree with you and I too was surround by men and women that are/were very successful. What I didn’t like was some women started expecting every man to BO when they most certainly wasn’t MO.
MsA: So you are saying you couldn’t live with a man that’s giving 70% all the time?
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
2:17 pm
I saw this really cool bumper sticker the day after the election:
“Those who think it cannot be done should stay out of the way of the people who are actually doing it”
I have no trouble believeing anyone can do anything they put their minds to.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
2:18 pm
For Real is now giving Sassy some sugar.
You better not try to slip me a mickey
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
2:21 pm
For Real – Or expecting me to be Michelle when they were nowhere near a Barack!LOL!!!
I don’t like putting unrealistic expectations on people,but at the same time I expect you to at least try to be the best you can be at whatever it is you choose.
Comon Cents
November 15th, 2012
2:23 pm
What got on my nerves were brothers saying “see, Michelle stood by her man when he had nothing”? Uh, Michelle didn’t pull BO off the street and clean him up. He had finished Harvard Law and was an intern at the firm she worked at. She’s an Ivy Leaguer herself. That degree is like money in the bank. I’m not saying she married him only for his earning potential, but that’s just not an example of someone recognizing a diamond-in-the-rough and taking a chance on him.
Thank you!!! Worth repeating!
My brother went to an Ivy (Brown U) and when he got out of college, he made 15K more a year than anyone else in his department simply because he went to an Ivy. That is a guarantee of money in the bank.
Also, BO had true POTENTIAL. Not the I have a dream and a hustle potential, but the “I’ve worked really hard to get the credentials that are going to move US ahead” potential. BIG DIFFERENCE!!!
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
2:24 pm
And I also resent folks putting people in a catagory – Oh you’re black/female/male/physicaly challenged/gay/urban/rural//etc so you can’t _________!
Comon Cents
November 15th, 2012
2:25 pm
disco~ Ditto on the friends. I have 2. One is a soror that I have known since freshman year and one I have known since kindergarten. Anyone else is an acquaintance.
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
2:30 pm
Count me amongst the few true blue friends having. One is from elementary/HS/neighborhood. The other 3 from college. Made some very cool aquaintances along the way though.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 15th, 2012
2:33 pm
@Kimmie 2:17
I believe everybody has something in them they can contribute to mankind. Some people more than others reach down deep in their psyhce before getting exhausted and giving up. The President is one that digged deep and never got tired. Lot of others like that too.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
2:38 pm
I expect you to at least try to be the best you can be at whatever it is you choose.
Cosign. At least TRY and put in the effort. You have to work for what you want…it’s not a recipe…just add ____________ and stir. It takes mUch more than that..
Comon Cents
November 15th, 2012
2:41 pm
Sassy/kimmie~ Don’t you think that it takes a little more than trying?
Sassy, I know that you are a chemist (funny, I always think of a mad scientist when I see your name) and it took more than “trying” for you to get where you are. It took perseverence, dedication, a willingness to sacrifice for the greater good, intelligence and a whole lot of hard work.
kimmie~ I don’t know what you do for a living, but I would suspect that you needed a lot of those same attributes.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 15th, 2012
2:45 pm
It’s been fun as always, I wish everyone a safe trip home to greet your family. I know disco you and I live alone still be safe going home. There’s a lot of rain in the Carolina’s and you know those curves around the moutains can be treacherous.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
November 15th, 2012
2:48 pm
I forgot you too Sassy and Leggs, and all the folks that live by themself. Stay concsious and safe.
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
2:50 pm
Comon – Sure alot of factors come in to play, but trying is a start. Some don’t even do that.
I am a finance manager. I went to UGA undergrad & Ga State grad. There were times at both schools where I was not just the only AA, but the only woman! I would not trade my experience for the world. I stepped out of the box, because I come from a strong family of HBCU’s. My dad was a surgeon and my mom a teacher. Alot of their collegues, relatives and friends were trailblazers here in Atlanta and elsewhere. I am grateful for the examples they set and the expectations that had for me & my siblings.
For example, the late Dr Hamiliton Holmes, who integrated UGA, Emory Medical school and was Medical Director at Grady stichted up my knee when I was 12 years old. He is the one that inspired me to go to UGA.
I have seen what my people can do.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
2:54 pm
and it took more than “trying” for you to get where you are. It took perseverence, dedication, a willingness to sacrifice for the greater good, intelligence and a whole lot of hard work.
Of course it took more than trying but you have some poeple who won’t even do that…those are the ones on the sidelines mad cause they’re not on the field…and crying about this and/or that. You’ve got to put something on something in order to get anything worthy of having. It’s not some instant add _______________ and stir type isht…
Willie Dynamite
November 15th, 2012
2:56 pm
Stepping back in, went to lunch at my daughters school. I thought I was at the club with all the high heels and tight jeans. If they would’ve had a mini bar I might have posted up and dusted the jersey off. Hahaha
Leggs
November 15th, 2012
2:58 pm
Why are so many meetings snooze fests?
BF ~ you know me, very conscious of my surroundings. You should see me opening my own garage door and then going in laundry room making sure no one is hiding in there. Never too safe.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
2:58 pm
Aww thanks Blackfoote, you stay safe too!!
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
3:02 pm
Leggs – I hate meetings, but they can be a necessary evil!
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
3:06 pm
Why are so many meetings snooze fests?
Lawd and don’t have one right after lunch…that’s a definite set up for a nap..
disco
November 15th, 2012
3:06 pm
BF – talking about those winding mountain roads… I went to the casino at Cherokee earlier this year. the state of north Carolina is dead wrong for the road leading to the casino. you would think they would make a better way. it was a straight up loop de loop. I can imagine a gps unit just saying “eff it” because you don’t know if you are going north south east or west. lol. I also remember thinking the whole area looked straight out of coal miner’s daughter.
Celisea
November 15th, 2012
3:07 pm
Having his back:
Too often, too many are looking for “easy.” First let me start off with relationship shouldn’t be difficult, so understand me before I speak. There’s cause to be cautious. I for one, am that person that will say what I ain’t gonna do. Yuuup, that would be me…if you go asking. If I were to hand out a checklist of all that I will do, then what? You still won’t know until time reveals. Right? You interested? Don’t ask me what I will or won’t do, dig a little deeper and get in where you fit in, if getting in is what you desire. I don’t apologize for that. If we’re at the point of you asking, apparently I’ve not done it (whatever “it” is) so, no. And it’s no, until it changes to yes….lol Why would I do a checklist of “yeah, I gets it all done, your ride or die til the end??” I thought having your back was more so a frame of mind, a reaction to a deepness that speaks to how I feel about you, that only time and situations will reveal. A woman ain’t gotta be a banner wearing, wide-open book and a dude don’t need to be blinded by the mouth of that “can do” girl. Things always eventually and naturally fall into place when folks are truly vibing and synched. You ain’t gotta ask because having his/her back will manifest. When I see you being the man you’re designed to be, I’m not afraid to become open and vunerable (I didn’t say stupid) and loving and caring and concerned for you. Oh and please kill “ride or die” mantra/theme….lol. Hopefully, we’re living like we got a few marbles left from being young and dumb and we aren’t having to get out of stuff or find outselves on the run (i.e. Bonnie and Clyde)…IJS For me, essentially and overall, patience is a virtue.
So, having said that, don’t go asking me stuff in order for you to gauge if you is or if you ain’t. That disqualifies you to “ain’t” status. Don’t ask me where you should place your hand or foot, like folks do with twister. Again, just go on and get in where you fit in. You can’t dive in unless I say so? You can’t move unless I say do this, that, this, that and that and then this??? Well, if that’s the case you are NOT the one for me. I like a take charge kind of man. I’m not easy and I don’t like easy my dang self. I didn’t say difficult, I said easy. IMO, something just ain’t right about easy….lol
Celisea
November 15th, 2012
3:07 pm
My bad…didn’t realize how long that was gonna be…ooops
Comon Cents
November 15th, 2012
3:08 pm
kimmie~ Why when you typed Dr. Hamilton Holmes did I immediately think of Dr. H.H. Holmes?!?
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
3:09 pm
disco – Coal Miner’s Daughter is one of my favority movies!
“You ain’t woman enough, to take my man!”
“When ya lookin at me, ya lookin at coun-tree”
LOL!!
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
3:12 pm
Comon – Some of the Jim Crow stuff my parents used to tell me they had to deal with used to blow my mind! I often wondered how I would have handled such. They had much strength, I tell ya!
disco
November 15th, 2012
3:13 pm
kimmie – I love that movie too. watch it over and over. my son straight clowned me some years back for knowing the words to the songs. lol. I like when she found out she was pregnant and dolittle said they finally found something she could do.
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
3:15 pm
Cel – Good post.
Leggs
November 15th, 2012
3:16 pm
Celisea ~ it’s ok. Revenue is low, so this one rates a fine of $63.50. Please pay at your earliest convenience.
Celisea
November 15th, 2012
3:19 pm
Kimmie – Thnx
Leggs – It always seem like you’re not saying THAT much, until you hit submit. My bad.
disco
November 15th, 2012
3:22 pm
C – I’ve been there with the long post. I’d ask leggs to waive the fine but like she said, times are hard. you can, however, pay the hood way by putting a little bit on your bill at a time. lol. leggs – can celisea pay $2.00 now and the rest over time?
Celisea
November 15th, 2012
3:24 pm
disco – If y’all can defer until I get my taxes, I can pay it off then…lololololol IJS
disco
November 15th, 2012
3:26 pm
C – you crazy. tax time is one of the biggest promises out there. I’ve heard little kids talking about income tax time. lol.
Exiled!
November 15th, 2012
3:30 pm
3:07 Celisea?
a neeegroah’s deduction of 3:07:
She talks but she easy. :lol;
Don’t kill me Cel
Exiled!
November 15th, 2012
3:32 pm
I went to Ivy League of Africa!
since uall on the Ivy League tip.
Celisea
November 15th, 2012
3:34 pm
disco – And a time (for creditors) that NEVER comes. Just promises…lol I got kinfolks that do that
Mmeello – I ain’t sure what you saying in your 3:30, but okay…I think and a
Exiled!
November 15th, 2012
3:41 pm
Celisea..,’I am not afraid to become open and vulnerable’
….men listen to the ‘important words’…..never mind she talking and talking and talking(finger motion of talking here
)
Celisea
November 15th, 2012
3:44 pm
Mmello – I don’t know if I’m missing something (I’m in brain overload for real), but I’m serious when I say that. I’m not scared to open up if I feel you ain’t gonna burn me. IJS
Okay, back to the grind
Celisea
November 15th, 2012
3:46 pm
Mmello – Easy though I ain’t. Have never been.
Okay, gotta run…I’ll be glad when things ease up a bit. At least I’m hoping…lol The positive flip side is….it’s good to be gainfully employed
Toodles
Leggs
November 15th, 2012
3:47 pm
disco ~ when did you become the accountant Blogsville? Like the IRS, I need a higher percentage paid before I can accept that payment plan. This ain’t K-Mart!
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
3:52 pm
All you number-crunchers kill me!
Comon Cents
November 15th, 2012
3:55 pm
disco~ Do you have a kindle? Or are you one of the ones who needs an actual book. I can’t remember.
disco
November 15th, 2012
3:56 pm
leggs – I’m far from anybody’s accountant. just saying some folks pay their bills in full, some folks don’t pay their bills at all and some folks put some on it. at least celisea didn’t put her blog bill in her niece or nephew’s name. lol.
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
3:56 pm
Comon – Speaking of Kindle, there are signs up all over the department. A woman left her Kindle in the ladies room and is asking for it’s safe return.
disco
November 15th, 2012
3:57 pm
CC – I have nook.
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
3:57 pm
Comon did you take that lady’s Kindle?
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
3:59 pm
Next blog-bill I make, I’m going to put it in Exiled name!
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
November 15th, 2012
4:04 pm
back again, what’s the topic now?
on the BO and now black men have no excuse, the only excuses are the ones people make for themselves. The day after he was elected a coworker said today I’m proud to be a black man, I was like it took him becoming president for you to feel that way? I’ve always been, and always will be a proud black man, no matter what any other black man does.
disco
November 15th, 2012
4:07 pm
S/H – I have a cousin (yeah here I go). I’ve mentioned him before. mr. 10 kids and counting. married but neither of them works. boy, don’t get him started on obama and all of his accomplishments. he goes on and on like him and obama go way back. I’m like aside from the Lord’s order to be fruitful and multiply what the heck have you accomplished???
Comon Cents
November 15th, 2012
4:09 pm
kimmie~
What I want her kindle for?!? I have the kindle app on the iPad which is WAAAYYY sweeter… 
disco~ I was going to “loan: you a book on the kindle. I just finished reading “Inside the Murder Castle” which is about your boyfriend H.H. Holmes. Good read too!
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
November 15th, 2012
4:09 pm
Disco, 10 kids and doesn’t work, and of course the Rep say that’s Obama’s fault, if he wasn’t giving the handouts people wouldn’t do that type of thing (LOL)
Leggs
November 15th, 2012
4:10 pm
I’ll give it to you, disco, you definitely have a point in the bill not being in niece or nephew’s name. Now, try to get her to put more than $2.00 down.
Leggs
November 15th, 2012
4:23 pm
Are all 10 kids from the same woman?
Comon Cents
November 15th, 2012
4:23 pm
Read y’all tomorrow! I’m out to catch The Boy’s 1st basketball game of the season!
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
4:24 pm
10 kids and counting. married but neither of them works.
Seems to me sex is a poor man’s recreation… IJS…
Leggs
November 15th, 2012
4:29 pm
Or lots of arguments, then make up sex = babies
Comon ~ enjoy the game. Hope his team wins!
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
November 15th, 2012
4:31 pm
I got to go here, those are blessings (LOL)
disco
November 15th, 2012
4:39 pm
CC – I told you H.H. Holmes was the man. he was an innovative serial killer. I love my nook but almost everyone I know has kindle. I’ll be the loan chick at book club meetings with a nook. I like the in-store capabilities because I practically live across the street from a BN and spend quite a bit of time there.
S/H – in his defense (if there is a defense) they are a blended family. baby momma number one has 6. wifey has two of her own. they have two together (so far).
Jake-SPJTWB
November 15th, 2012
4:40 pm
Man, just getting back to the desk…on another note…tomorrow, after work:
Vanquish Lounge: Doors open at 6PM, live Band comes on at 8PM, its free before 10PM….shake somethin
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
4:41 pm
disco one of them needs to get fixed…
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
4:47 pm
Alrighty blog familia…read y’all tomorrow. Have a great evening!!!
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
November 15th, 2012
4:51 pm
disco, you’re right, that’s not a defense (LOL)
Sassy, they both need to get fixed so there will be no doubt (LOL)
MsAtl
November 15th, 2012
5:15 pm
Sorry All- Meeting took me away.
For Real- Yes, I can live with a man who gave 70% all the time, but in that situation I would not be giving 30%. I don’t believe in slacking and letting my man carry all the weight any more than I want to carry all of the weight.
disco
November 15th, 2012
5:17 pm
I’m sure everyone’s gone now but I’ll toss one more big ups to my cuz. at least he only “technically” has 8 and they only have two mothers. it’s not much but it beats some of my other cousins with kids all over creation. I have one cousin (I’ve mentioned him here) that I’m not even sure how many kids he has. I know the oldest is close to 30 and the youngest (that I’ve heard of) is about 4 or 5. chicks still be chasing him though. they don’t care about all those kids and baby mommas.
Exiled!
November 15th, 2012
5:25 pm
Jake..maasan are u invested in Vanquish?
Or u just wanna cup some raw tender ?
Exiled!
November 15th, 2012
5:32 pm
Disco…shame on u for only popping one kid.
You got good kid producing genes!
Kat
November 15th, 2012
5:35 pm
Look at single and declaring black man!! LOL