Does she have your back?
I was having dinner with a group of friends recently when the topic of loyalty came up. A lot of the men believed that a woman who was not loyal or unable to show support, is put in the category for “recreational purposes” only. In other words, they don’t take her seriously.
Most of the guys agreed that when a man sees that his woman supports him and has his back, it makes a huge difference in how he relates to her. It is something that a lot of men value when they have it, and can definitely tell when they don’t. How hard is it to find a loyal woman to date though?
I figured women are already hard wired to be nurturing and supportive. Surely, they meet many women who can have their back, right? Noooooope. Apparently, some women find it difficult to do, and some men think this is the reason their dating relationships don’t work out.
What do you think? Do you generally meet and date people who seem willing and able to be supportive? Do you think this is something that is only shown over time within a committed relationship?
If you are in a relationship now, do you feel like they have your back? How long did it take before you felt that they did
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disco
November 15th, 2012
3:22 pm
C – I’ve been there with the long post. I’d ask leggs to waive the fine but like she said, times are hard. you can, however, pay the hood way by putting a little bit on your bill at a time. lol. leggs – can celisea pay $2.00 now and the rest over time?
Celisea
November 15th, 2012
3:24 pm
disco – If y’all can defer until I get my taxes, I can pay it off then…lololololol IJS
disco
November 15th, 2012
3:26 pm
C – you crazy. tax time is one of the biggest promises out there. I’ve heard little kids talking about income tax time. lol.
Exiled!
November 15th, 2012
3:30 pm
3:07 Celisea?
a neeegroah’s deduction of 3:07:
She talks but she easy. :lol;
Don’t kill me Cel
Exiled!
November 15th, 2012
3:32 pm
I went to Ivy League of Africa!
since uall on the Ivy League tip.
Celisea
November 15th, 2012
3:34 pm
disco – And a time (for creditors) that NEVER comes. Just promises…lol I got kinfolks that do that
Mmeello – I ain’t sure what you saying in your 3:30, but okay…I think and a
Exiled!
November 15th, 2012
3:41 pm
Celisea..,’I am not afraid to become open and vulnerable’
….men listen to the ‘important words’…..never mind she talking and talking and talking(finger motion of talking here
)
Celisea
November 15th, 2012
3:44 pm
Mmello – I don’t know if I’m missing something (I’m in brain overload for real), but I’m serious when I say that. I’m not scared to open up if I feel you ain’t gonna burn me. IJS
Okay, back to the grind
Celisea
November 15th, 2012
3:46 pm
Mmello – Easy though I ain’t. Have never been.
Okay, gotta run…I’ll be glad when things ease up a bit. At least I’m hoping…lol The positive flip side is….it’s good to be gainfully employed
Toodles
Leggs
November 15th, 2012
3:47 pm
disco ~ when did you become the accountant Blogsville? Like the IRS, I need a higher percentage paid before I can accept that payment plan. This ain’t K-Mart!
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
3:52 pm
All you number-crunchers kill me!
Comon Cents
November 15th, 2012
3:55 pm
disco~ Do you have a kindle? Or are you one of the ones who needs an actual book. I can’t remember.
disco
November 15th, 2012
3:56 pm
leggs – I’m far from anybody’s accountant. just saying some folks pay their bills in full, some folks don’t pay their bills at all and some folks put some on it. at least celisea didn’t put her blog bill in her niece or nephew’s name. lol.
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
3:56 pm
Comon – Speaking of Kindle, there are signs up all over the department. A woman left her Kindle in the ladies room and is asking for it’s safe return.
disco
November 15th, 2012
3:57 pm
CC – I have nook.
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
3:57 pm
Comon did you take that lady’s Kindle?
kimmie
November 15th, 2012
3:59 pm
Next blog-bill I make, I’m going to put it in Exiled name!
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
November 15th, 2012
4:04 pm
back again, what’s the topic now?
on the BO and now black men have no excuse, the only excuses are the ones people make for themselves. The day after he was elected a coworker said today I’m proud to be a black man, I was like it took him becoming president for you to feel that way? I’ve always been, and always will be a proud black man, no matter what any other black man does.
disco
November 15th, 2012
4:07 pm
S/H – I have a cousin (yeah here I go). I’ve mentioned him before. mr. 10 kids and counting. married but neither of them works. boy, don’t get him started on obama and all of his accomplishments. he goes on and on like him and obama go way back. I’m like aside from the Lord’s order to be fruitful and multiply what the heck have you accomplished???
Comon Cents
November 15th, 2012
4:09 pm
kimmie~
What I want her kindle for?!? I have the kindle app on the iPad which is WAAAYYY sweeter… 
disco~ I was going to “loan: you a book on the kindle. I just finished reading “Inside the Murder Castle” which is about your boyfriend H.H. Holmes. Good read too!
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
November 15th, 2012
4:09 pm
Disco, 10 kids and doesn’t work, and of course the Rep say that’s Obama’s fault, if he wasn’t giving the handouts people wouldn’t do that type of thing (LOL)
Leggs
November 15th, 2012
4:10 pm
I’ll give it to you, disco, you definitely have a point in the bill not being in niece or nephew’s name. Now, try to get her to put more than $2.00 down.
Leggs
November 15th, 2012
4:23 pm
Are all 10 kids from the same woman?
Comon Cents
November 15th, 2012
4:23 pm
Read y’all tomorrow! I’m out to catch The Boy’s 1st basketball game of the season!
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
4:24 pm
10 kids and counting. married but neither of them works.
Seems to me sex is a poor man’s recreation… IJS…
Leggs
November 15th, 2012
4:29 pm
Or lots of arguments, then make up sex = babies
Comon ~ enjoy the game. Hope his team wins!
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
November 15th, 2012
4:31 pm
I got to go here, those are blessings (LOL)
disco
November 15th, 2012
4:39 pm
CC – I told you H.H. Holmes was the man. he was an innovative serial killer. I love my nook but almost everyone I know has kindle. I’ll be the loan chick at book club meetings with a nook. I like the in-store capabilities because I practically live across the street from a BN and spend quite a bit of time there.
S/H – in his defense (if there is a defense) they are a blended family. baby momma number one has 6. wifey has two of her own. they have two together (so far).
Jake-SPJTWB
November 15th, 2012
4:40 pm
Man, just getting back to the desk…on another note…tomorrow, after work:
Vanquish Lounge: Doors open at 6PM, live Band comes on at 8PM, its free before 10PM….shake somethin
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
4:41 pm
disco one of them needs to get fixed…
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 15th, 2012
4:47 pm
Alrighty blog familia…read y’all tomorrow. Have a great evening!!!
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
November 15th, 2012
4:51 pm
disco, you’re right, that’s not a defense (LOL)
Sassy, they both need to get fixed so there will be no doubt (LOL)
MsAtl
November 15th, 2012
5:15 pm
Sorry All- Meeting took me away.
For Real- Yes, I can live with a man who gave 70% all the time, but in that situation I would not be giving 30%. I don’t believe in slacking and letting my man carry all the weight any more than I want to carry all of the weight.
disco
November 15th, 2012
5:17 pm
I’m sure everyone’s gone now but I’ll toss one more big ups to my cuz. at least he only “technically” has 8 and they only have two mothers. it’s not much but it beats some of my other cousins with kids all over creation. I have one cousin (I’ve mentioned him here) that I’m not even sure how many kids he has. I know the oldest is close to 30 and the youngest (that I’ve heard of) is about 4 or 5. chicks still be chasing him though. they don’t care about all those kids and baby mommas.
Exiled!
November 15th, 2012
5:25 pm
Jake..maasan are u invested in Vanquish?
Or u just wanna cup some raw tender ?
Exiled!
November 15th, 2012
5:32 pm
Disco…shame on u for only popping one kid.
You got good kid producing genes!
Kat
November 15th, 2012
5:35 pm
Look at single and declaring black man!! LOL