Dating: Other people’s opinion
A lot of us are taking home dates for the holidays..some for the first time. You may want to prepare yourself (and your date!) for the onslaught of opinions from parents, distant relatives, and/or close friends.
They may have opinions about the way your date is dressed, their manners, or even the way they treat you when everyone is around. When you are surrounded by people that love you, they tend to be a bit opinionated, a tad judgmental about the people that you date. The key is how you handle all those well-intentioned comments and opinions.
What is the best way to handle a situation where your family is putting your date through the wringer? Do you abandon them and let them fend for themselves? Do you run interference and serve as a buffer to protect them from awkward conversations?
Have you ever taken a date home for the holidays and it turned into a disaster?
Would you break up with someone if they didn’t fare well with the “meet the family” introductions?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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lee
November 14th, 2012
6:35 am
I never had those issues. My family is not quick to make comments –all i ever received was he seems nice. Guess were not judgmental at the first meeting, people take time to get to know. If the person is “bad egg” it will come out, hopefully you find that out first before bring that person to meet family.
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
6:59 am
I handled that problem along time ago, by letting my family know that when it comes to who I’m dating their opinion really doesn’t matter because they’re dating me not them.
Usually any opinion that your family forms comes from you! And most of the time it’s not a good opinion because we tend to only tell the bad side of people.
Opinions should only be giving when asked for!!
Exiled!
November 14th, 2012
8:17 am
I never took the ‘disasters’ to meet the parents! :lol;
The ‘disasters’ stayed in the streets.
But relatives will comment,if not in your face,they will after you two are gone.
Try to Not make it a case of good riddance,’ oh her cooking was atrocious,she sloppy dresser,she got a fake smile,ohh she big etc’
And are you’ll going to book a hotel room or your folks(patents) are going to put you in the same bedroom at their house?
If you are in the same room at the parents house,please please,just let go of the humping at least until you are back to your place. These house walls are thin!
’she too loud’ and :eyeroll: are comments and facials that will make the holiday a forgettable one for u.
disco
November 14th, 2012
9:21 am
good morning guys. this one is funny to me. in my family the whole “meet the family” thing is a test of sorts. it’s the final frontier. not so much because the family’s opinion matters but because we need to know if a person can hold their own. if you can be dropped off in the mix with my people and come out unscathed you are good to go. if you can join in the fray (whatever the fray might be) and get in where you fit in, you are good to go. if you are sensitive, easily intimidated, stand off to the side acting all uppity like you are too good you might not last. who really wants the s/o that they have to hand hold and babysit at all family functions. if we are playing cards or dominoes or something you might want to holler out “I got next”. if we are cracking jokes you might want to say something funny or at least laugh when someone else says something funny. am I saying don’t be yourself? nope. just saying I hope you are versatile and open minded enough to find your niche.
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
9:25 am
Good Morning, bloggies!
I’m with Single; I never get the comments because I have made it clear up front that your opinion doesn’t matter because this is who I chose.
That being said, it is always nice when the family comes back and likes the person. It makes the holidays much smoother.
I have only had one disaster. A cousin showed up at a family function and my new boyfriend was her ex.
She had apparently dated him when they both lived in South Georgia and it had not ended well. She spent the whole function trying to get “closure” from him. Needless to say, that was a very short lived relationship…
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 14th, 2012
9:41 am
Have you ever taken a date home for the holidays and it turned into a disaster?
I’ve only ever done that once in my life and it went well.
Off to lab meeting..read y’all in a bit…
Good Mornting All
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
9:47 am
“When you are surrounded by people that love you, they tend to be a bit opinionated, a tad judgmental about the people that you date.” – I agree, but more importantly, I think they have the ability to objectively see him possibly a little more clearer than you may.
I feel it’s normal for family to put your date through a certain questioning period, not necessarily to make them squirm but to gauge what their intentions are. And, of course, you do not abandon them. Pretty sure the dates have been given the rundown on the family members beforehand. As been mentioned, some families know not to say anything.
I remember when my ex took me home to meet this family. I thought it mighty sweet that they seemed so close and loving. They welcomed me only to find out later they had daggers behind their backs and the entire clan is bat isht crazy!
Bluzgirl
November 14th, 2012
9:51 am
Morning!
Can’t say that I’ve had any disasters from bringing men to meet the family. I will say, however, that I have learned that maybe I should listen to what the family thinks…at least a little bit! They have been right so far!
So…my parents and several friends met the Young One Friday night and he got a lot of approval. My mom has asked me if I’d like to invite him over for Thanksgiving dinner! She must have liked him! I told her I’d have to think about it because it really is soon. I have invited him to a housewarming party for one of my friends on Friday, so he gets to meet a whole new group of my friends!
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
9:56 am
Sooo, Bluz, what about the “broke” part? Have you talked to him and cleared that piece up?
abc
November 14th, 2012
10:04 am
Sounds to me like the rudest family ever. I’d expect my family to treat my date with courtesy and respect, period, no matter what. And, I know they would. If they had any misgivings, they’d lay them on me later.
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
10:09 am
abc~ Exactly!
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
10:25 am
abc ~ I definitely agree with you and would prefer it to be that way. However, nothing wrong with some want to ask questions.
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
10:29 am
Speaking of the holidays, does anyone have the relative that you don’t get along with that you will have to see this holiday season? If so, how do you handle it?
Bluzgirl
November 14th, 2012
10:30 am
Comon – He gets his first pay check from his new job tomorrow. I have to give him credit that he told me he was broke on Friday, yet he still came to my party and hung out all night with me. He didn’t have to. He could have blown it off because he is broke. Things will be better tomorrow. He’s been down about the money situation.
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
10:32 am
Good! Sounds like he might be trying to pull it together!
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
10:33 am
comon, in my family we try to be cordial, but we say what we have to say. and if things get to far out of hand, that’s my cue it’s time to leave.
disco
November 14th, 2012
10:33 am
CC – my family is straight “clique-ish”. there’s all kinds of under currents about who likes who and who doesn’t eff with who. in particular – no big surprise – several family members don’t like me. it’s not personal so much as I “came up” and apparently am “brand new” and suddenly think I’m better than some of them. of course that’s not true but it is what it is. generally when I (or they arrive) we do the obligatory hug, what’s up, how you been, whatever and then we may stay out of each other’s space for the rest of the visit. a lot of it trickles down too. there’s a lot of folks who treat my son the same way on GP because I apparently raised him to think he’s better. it’s a bunch of hogwash but family is family.
Bluzgirl
November 14th, 2012
10:35 am
Comon – Yeah…he really wants to pull it together, so I know he will. He’s not a lazy slacker like other men I’ve been with!
MsAtl
November 14th, 2012
10:37 am
Morning All!
I’ve only introduced 2 men to my family. They are not the type to rag a person at the meeting, but will give me their opinion later.
ABC- I agree with your comment. dates should be treated with respect & courtesy.
When I was taken to meet a man’s family, I was treated very well. It really puts you at ease. This is the way I am when my children have brought dates home to meet me. I try to get to know the person and make them feel welcome.
Bluzgirl
November 14th, 2012
10:38 am
Regarding being around relatives you don’t get along with…this year will be different because my aunt is moving down here from MD. She was on her way down a couple of weeks ago when she fell and broke her hip up in Greeville…she should be here this weekend. Anyway…I haven’t known her since I was 10-12. She really screwed over the family, but mom has let her back in. It will just be weird to get to know her…
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
10:39 am
Bluz, not trying to rain on your parade, but take your time and wait till the newness wears off to make those kinds of decisions, just enjoy the moment.
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
10:41 am
disco, now if your family thinks you’re all uppity, aren’t they going to think your date is uppity too? IJS (LOL)
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
10:43 am
Re: Awkward family situations~ Here’s the deal. I am not close with my brother (we don’t hate each other, we just don’t eff with each other on a social level) Most years, he and his family are out of town for Christmas. (They go on cruises, family vacays, whatnot) For whatever reason, they have decided to stay home this year and apparently my SIL called my mother and said that they would like to have Christmas at their house this year. (To give you the lay of the land, my brother lives 20-30 mins from me and if I see him 2x’s a year that’s a lot!) So, long story short, I told the hubs that I am on the verge of saying screw it and we go to his people for Christmas this year. (We usually alternate holidays. If we spend Thanksgiving with his family, we spend Christmas with mine and vice versa)
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
10:44 am
Bluz ~ you were saying you hoped he didn’t show up. Glad you two had a good time.
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
10:48 am
Dang comon, I see we have something in common, I’m the same way with my brother, and he stays 20 to 30 mins from me (LOL) Usually we’re cordial, for my mothers sake
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
10:49 am
It’s rare for me to spend any of the holidays with my family (NY, now Minnesota). Have a niece in NC that I’m not particularly close to thanks to her mother, who I haven’t gotten along with since air hit my lungs coming out the womb. So, if my sister and I should be in the same room during the holidays, let’s say there may be a few Jerry Springer moments!
disco
November 14th, 2012
10:57 am
S/H – I wouldn’t be surprised if my family isn’t laying bets on who I bring home if/when I ever get around to taking somebody home.
I don’t have any family members locally and that is by design.
Bluzgirl
November 14th, 2012
11:02 am
Single – I really do feel like I’m taking it slow. No rushing into a relationship with this one. Really need to get to know him better…
Leggs – Did I say that I hoped he didn’t come? Well…I’m glad he did. He adores me and is so very sweet! I’m not used to a guy who adores me…
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
11:08 am
Okay bluz, only you really know
kimmie
November 14th, 2012
11:12 am
Hey Gang!
My family has always been cordial to anyone I’ve brought around, but they will definitely voice their opinion later when he’s gone. There have only been about 2 that rubbed them the wrong way. They are all a bit boughie, so they watch their decorum. I’ve never brought anyone around they just hated, but I have gotten the “he’s okay, but you can do better” comment from some. That comment is the kiss of death with the boughies!
I have pretty much been able to avoid the discomfort of such family gatherings anyway. First, I choose pretty carefully anyway. I don’t deal with trash and don’t bring it around my family. So if I bring you around, you’re already pretty special to me. And I never badmouthed any guys to my family when I got mad at them for something. Because of course, that’s all they will remember when they see him, long after I’ve forgiven him.
I’ve never had any issues with any guy’s family when they took me around them. There were times I got along better with them than I did the dude!
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
11:15 am
I hear you Bluz. If that’s the case, let him adore you and let the relationship simmer for a long time, before you get to the “percolating” stage. Enjoy.
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
11:15 am
What is the best way to handle a situation where your family is putting your date through the wringer? Do you abandon them and let them fend for themselves? Do you run interference and serve as a buffer to protect them from awkward conversations?
an artful combo of the two. he must be able to hold his own; but i’m not gonna let him wallow in an uncomfortable situation.
Have you ever taken a date home for the holidays and it turned into a disaster?
nope. all four men i’ve dated since age 16 have come home to the fam during holidays and/or special family occasions. all have been well-received and enjoyed getting to know mi gente.
Would you break up with someone if they didn’t fare well with the “meet the family” introductions?
oh yeah. but i’m pretty good at selecting the “type” that melds well with me & mine.
disco, i can identify with your family dynamic. we are hugely witty and sarcastic. if you’re easily befuddled, you’ll be miserable around us. and we’re not likely to tone it down for a newbie’s benefit. either get with it or let the entire evening fly right over your head.
s/o & his fam met my fam all at the same time. it was dreadful. they all stayed clustered together and quiet while we let the zingers fly. never disrespectful … just smart-assy.
but hey, that’s my gang. *shrugs*
HiYas!
disco
November 14th, 2012
11:17 am
kimmie – I love my family dearly. I make no bones about most of them being very rough around the edges. your post about your family made me think about Brewster place. I watched some of it recently. don’t know if you remember the scene where robin givens escorted cora (the chick with all the stray babies – lol) to the play and cora put on her airs about going to the theatre. lol. it made me think of my peeps. they are a little unrefined but they try to step up when they have to.
disco
November 14th, 2012
11:20 am
brat – you just big chopped?
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
11:22 am
yup
it’s just so aaaahhhh!
disco
November 14th, 2012
11:24 am
well good for you. I was a transition-er myself but I’m always impressed with the choppers. funny thing is when I wore my hair relaxed I was very fond of short cuts. when I started growing it out natural I wasn’t too sure how comfortable I’d be with the chop.
kimmie
November 14th, 2012
11:25 am
disco – Yes, I remember that from Brewster!! I love that movie!!
We’ve got a pretty cool mix of all kinds in my fam. Like yours, even the unrefined ones try to step it up when necessary. Mainly because, at least on my father’s side, those that are unrefined are that way cause they choose to be! They know what time it is though. And those that get “too boughie” get shot down too!LOL!!
Celisea
November 14th, 2012
11:26 am
I do absolutely NOTHING based on other people’s opinions. Never have and never will (as long as I can help it). I will say I’m a bit more “tolerant” of folks than I was younger. Meaning, folks got issues cause I seem nonempathetic?? Umm, okay and I guess too bad…lol I just let it turn to being their issue…lol I find serenity in letting folks say and think what they want, whether it’s about me, my choice in a mate, so forth and so on. I said all that to say, it matters not one iota.
My guy is not perfect, I’m not perfect but we vibe. He “likes” me and more importantly, he “gets” me, which is essential to being able to relate. I’d actually been getting acquainted with him much longer than revealed….with my fam, friends and even mentioning on the blog. I didn’t feel a debut was necessary too early on. My fam though, the few he’s met seems okay with him. Mainly because I don’t do jokers, bums, nodogooders, etc. So, it’s kind of like, they already know. I tend to have a pretty good “good dude” radar…lol A few of them he met at my nephew’s wedding but mostly those were arm’s length kinkfolks….lol So far, we are good to go in heading to Savannah for Thanksgiving with a couple of friends so, no, many won’t meet him during that holiday. We’ll see how Christmas goes. Still, my life, my choice.
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
11:27 am
‘… they all stayed clustered together and quiet while we let the zingers fly. never disrespectful … just smart-assy.” – I smiled. I can only imagine!!!
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
11:36 am
lmao @ leggs. he is a mild version of how tony his people can be, and i’m a mild version of how raucous my people can be.
he and i are just enough to suit each other, but that mega-mix was not pretty. uh-uh. not at all.
well good for you.
thanx! i tried to go for a full year transition, only made it 8 months. my hair had always been mid-back length, but i’m surprisingly happy with the short do.
my mother, however, is probably gonna stroke out on the tarmac.
Exiled!
November 14th, 2012
11:37 am
Be nice to your family members at least.
We are all strangers and extras in this theatre!
Celisea
November 14th, 2012
11:44 am
I didn’t say I walk around mean mugging and getting folks told, etc etc etc…lol That’s apart of me evolving. Just smile, nod, say a couple of plesantries and K.I.M. That’s something I had to learn. Outside of that? Shrugs
That was for MMeello
Celisea
November 14th, 2012
11:46 am
That was for MMeello, if that 11:37 was for me….lolol If it wasn’t never mind
Why am I not hungry today? I know, it will hit be as soon as the cafe closes.
disco
November 14th, 2012
11:47 am
ex – my family actually does well at holidays but there seems to be a fight (or some level of drama) at almost every single family reunion.
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
12:02 pm
czB ~ I would be in the cut laughing watching the zingers fly by. I have a cousin who’s wit is quick but not as snarky as I can be so we piggyback off each other. Lots of laughter.
Family reunions, family drama go hand in hand.
Bluzgirl
November 14th, 2012
12:04 pm
disco – for some reason, my family always seems to fight at the holidays also. It’s only a few of us! Usually, it involves my brother…
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
12:04 pm
Leggs~ Not with my family. (Hence ther eason I perfer to hang out with the hubs family) My family all sits around and ignores the Big Pink Elephant on the table.
Celisea
November 14th, 2012
12:08 pm
LOLOLOLOLOLOL
Toodles
Exiled!
November 14th, 2012
12:08 pm
Cel..no that was for Common and Leggs..
I think Disco,you fine. No family is perfect or devoid of dysfunction or cliques but the key is to be friendly and smile even though we know,behind closed doors,we got camps.
At least that’s how my family goes.
But we seem to close rang on deaths of family members. There is usually 80% participation.
I guess the other members want to be sure ‘yes,he dead and buried!’
Celisea
November 14th, 2012
12:08 pm
Mmeello – Gotcha
Back to work
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
12:08 pm
That’s still drama, comon. All drama isn’t loud drama (lol).
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
12:12 pm
You know the saying “you can’t chose your family, but you can chose your friends!” the way some members of some families act, would you be friends with them? but you feel like you have to tolerate it because they are family.
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
12:13 pm
Leggs~ True…
I guess I just don’t understand it because I would rather talk it out and get it over with than sit in uncomfortable silence or forced convo. It’s not like I killed his dog or he did drugs with my son. There is no major issue. So, my thought is just “Let’s talk about it and move on!”
The hubs keeps gently reminding me that that’s not how my family works…
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
12:14 pm
the way some members of some families act, would you be friends with them? but you feel like you have to tolerate it because they are family.
That is a resounding “HELL NAW!!!”, Single.
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
12:14 pm
we have loads of fun, food, music & laughter when we gather. no fighting.
one thing i never could handle about the ex is that his family was prone to too much drinking & fighting whenever they got together. they’d start cussing each other out and telling each others’ business. we don’t play like that. .
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
12:14 pm
Comon, if there are no major issues, then what is it, if you don’t mind me asking?
disco
November 14th, 2012
12:20 pm
S/H – I have lots of family members that if we weren’t related I wouldn’t fool with them. still, I wasn’t raised to turn my back on family. so, as a compromise, I moved far, far away. lol. naw. it’s all good. also, I don’t trip because the reality is everybody’s family has at least one. anybody fronting like they got the “perfect little happy family” is delusional.
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
12:22 pm
“…the way some members of some families act, would you be friends with them? but you feel like you have to tolerate it because they are family.
NOT AT ALL!!! We barely behave as blood relatives as it is, so you definitely wouldn’t be in my circle of friends. Perhaps a distant associate, that’s about it.
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
12:23 pm
disco, I have the perfect little happy family …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………till we get together (LOL) then all hell breaks loose (LOL)
HST
November 14th, 2012
12:23 pm
Afternoon Bloggers…
I’ve been with the same girl for almost 13 years happily unmarried. She’s always been my main squeeze, and now my only one. We’re always together for every holiday – since 2000. We now have our own holiday traditions – our favorite is our ‘Misfit Thanksgiving’ – that we enjoy with my son mostly.
We have never done one thing with each others’ family, and we love it that way. We always have excuses to get out of family gatherings. We’re never subject to the others family’s craziness; and IMO, it really makes it easier on us. We always use each other as an excuse for whatever reason. That closes any further discussion for us with our family’s.
I do like my EX’s parents and extended family, but now we only have contact at my Son’s events. We always pick up right were we left, and have a good time. My GF sees them as well, and we all get along fine. I have met and hung out with my GF’s sisters (2), but they live far away. I have let my GF meet a cousin whom also lives far away, but that’s it.
I really think it’s advantageous to us and our lifestyle. It completely drives my mom and sister nuts, but they deserve it; however, that isn’t to suggest that I don’t love them dearly.
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
12:26 pm
Comon, if there are no major issues, then what is it, if you don’t mind me asking?
That’s just it; I don’t know. We were close when we were kids. I introduced him to his wife, for Christ’s sake. The only thing that I can think of is that my bro is a recovering alcoholic (in fact, I went and got him out of the Hotel and drove him to rehab) and I think that he believes everyone who drinks is an alcoholic (A lot of people who have been through AA feel that way) and I think that the fact I defend drunks offends him. Mind you, he has never said this, but it is the tone that I catch.
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
12:26 pm
soooo, speaking of family acceptance. how bout my big bro flat out told me to NOT marry if things are just fine between us.
this from a man who just celebrated his 35th anniversary.
Celisea
November 14th, 2012
12:28 pm
HST, you should blog more often
I LOVE reading your stories 
stories on tradition of family’s or families are always a good read!!
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
12:28 pm
this from a man who just celebrated his 35th anniversary.
Well, then it seems ike he would know…
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
12:29 pm
HST~ What is “Misfit Thanksgiving”?
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
12:29 pm
Dang comon, almost the same, me and my brother weren’t that close, growing up I don’t have any memory of him before I was 8 years old. but the thing that really put a wedge in our relationship was when he got saved and from that point on everything everybody else did was wrong.
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
12:30 pm
HST ~ Too bad you’re unhappily married. Why you staying???
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
12:31 pm
S/H~ Wanna be my big brother?
We can be sinners together!
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 14th, 2012
12:31 pm
they’d start cussing each other out and telling each others’ business.
I’ve got some extended family like that in Chucktown (Charleston). My uncle’s in-laws fight like pitbulls on long chains with each other AND/OR other people….they don’t discriminate. I have to admit that sometimes when things get said we’re like
at first….then things start falling in place and we have that “ooohh…so that’s why so and so acts/looks like that”. Then we have a good laugh about it…don’t judge me.
HST
November 14th, 2012
12:31 pm
Misfit Thanksgiving: I gather all my wayward friends, and throw a feast followed by debauchery.
disco
November 14th, 2012
12:32 pm
C – I was thinking the same thing re HST’s post. I love my family. I’m sure any guy I’m with will love his family but a lot of folks put so much emphasis on that extended family that they lose focus on the nucleus. that tiny little nub of family is what it’s all about, day in and day out. and, by no means am I taking from the others. goodness knows I LOVED growing up with a zillion cousins. probably wouldn’t say the same about a zillion siblings though.
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
12:32 pm
HST~ Can I get on that list?
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
12:34 pm
the thing that really put a wedge in our relationship was when he got saved
oooh. that one can be really hard to handle if the newly anointed becomes holier than thou.
HST
November 14th, 2012
12:34 pm
Leggs, simply put, it’s what makes me and us happy. Our lifestyle is all about us, unless it’s about my son. I could think of a better way for me to live.
disco
November 14th, 2012
12:34 pm
sassy – those family fallouts can be good. also, when good friends fall out. you know the ones that have been friends for 20 years. boy skeleton bones be flying all over the place.
CC – I ain’t mad at your game. you are recruiting big brothers, getting on invite lists. work your thang girl. work it.
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
12:35 pm
sorry, HST. You said happily unmarried, not married unhappily. I immediately transposed the letters. WOW.
HST
November 14th, 2012
12:35 pm
CC, yes you may.
HST
November 14th, 2012
12:36 pm
Leggs, funny how that happens…
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
12:36 pm
Hey! A lot of times the family you choose is 1000 times better than the family you were born into… IJS
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
12:36 pm
Even if I don’t get on the list, I may have to steal the idea…
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
12:37 pm
sure lil sis (looking up at you) (LOL)
Disco, my family knows they may or may not see me during holidays, I’ve always thought instead of following the extended family traditions, why not start your own!
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
12:38 pm
sassy, maybe it’s an SC affliction. my ex’ fam is from beaufort.
early on i was kinda like the deer in headlights. his fam even brought me to tears a time or two.
after a couple years i got better at recognizing the signs. i’d scoop up the kids, grab the car keys and tell hubs to get a ride home.
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
12:38 pm
HST ~ that’s the kind of Thanksgiving I’d like to have. Glad you will be having a blast surrounded by like minded people who love each other and enjoy each other’s company. Can I get a TOOT TOOT….
HST
November 14th, 2012
12:39 pm
edit: couldn’t not could – oops.
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
12:40 pm
comon, it’s better because instead of being part of the drama, you can sit back and laugh at the drama (LOL)
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
12:40 pm
HST ~ it’s amazing how that happens. I read the rest of your post saying “he doesn’t sound unhappy to me.” Then I read it a second time and saw my mistake.
HST
November 14th, 2012
12:42 pm
CC, you’re wise, moreover, it’s all yours to enjoy…
Leggs, TOOT TOOT for sure. It really is just that…
Exiled!
November 14th, 2012
12:43 pm
Common..isn’t also(I’m speculating here) drunks are told to stay away at all costs from dranks and folks who drank?
He may just be avoiding getting sucked back in knowing simple whiff may trigger it.
HST
November 14th, 2012
12:43 pm
Leggs, you’re not the first. Your first reaction is an imprinting, and your second is thought.
HST
November 14th, 2012
12:45 pm
Exiled! and CC, it’s called dry drunk syndrome. It’s hard for recovered alcoholics seeing others with their BF, and enjoying themselves properly. That’s something that didn’t happen for them, and becomes an issue for them.
disco
November 14th, 2012
12:46 pm
ex – and you know some folks ain’t no good. offering him a slice of rum cake. “oh there ain’t hardly no liquor in this here cake”. then those after dinner candies with the liquer filling. that’s how it gets started. lol.
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
12:47 pm
Common..isn’t also(I’m speculating here) drunks are told to stay away at all costs from dranks and folks who drank? Now how would this be possible if he usually takes cruises or family vacations (IJS) while it’s possible for drug attics to do it, alcohol is so common that would be almost impossible.
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
12:47 pm
Exactly, HST, imprinting then thought.
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
12:48 pm
isn’t also(I’m speculating here) drunks are told to stay away at all costs from dranks and folks who drank?
Off course I am not crass enough to drink around my brother. I realize that even though he has been sober for over 10 years, he’s still an alcoholic.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 14th, 2012
12:50 pm
when good friends fall out. you know the ones that have been friends for 20 years. boy skeleton bones be flying all over the place.
Say Whaaat?! That’s when we find out who was messing with whom now AND back in the day….and who’s brothers n sisters but never knew…hell all sorts of things come out and I’m a fly on the wall to it all.
after a couple years i got better at recognizing the signs. i’d scoop up the kids, grab the car keys and tell hubs to get a ride home
Toooo funny
Man another meeting..read y’all a lil later…
Exiled!
November 14th, 2012
12:51 pm
Maybe he just resends Common underneath…he was a drunk and Common knows the Whole scoop…
Sprinkle in sibling rivalry (from afar) and there u have it.
I can see that…
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
12:53 pm
after a couple years i got better at recognizing the signs. i’d scoop up the kids, grab the car keys and tell hubs to get a ride home all I can see is the scene in the color purple before the fight started between squeek and sophia, Time to go (LOL)
Dani
November 14th, 2012
12:53 pm
I read this blog all the time. I have only posted a couple of times but thought I would ask for suggestions. I have a dilemma this will be my 1st Thanksgiving with out my 2 kids since my divorce. I am used to them going with their dad every other weekend and nights during the week and other holidays. But for some reason I’m really sad we won’t be together this year. I need some suggestions on what to do/what place to eat when you are kid free for Thanksgiving.
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
12:55 pm
Dani, volunteer
Exiled!
November 14th, 2012
1:00 pm
How about going with a close friend to their Thanxgiving
Don’t u have family yourself,mom,dad,brother sisters cousins uncles
@Dani
HST
November 14th, 2012
1:01 pm
Dani, go to a boobie bar, movie, or as suggested volunteer. There’s some really good restaurants serving, but only you know what type of fare you want. IMO, kid free and family free Turkey Day means an all out debaucherous event.
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
1:02 pm
Dani~ Orr… If you were feeling less altrustic than Single, you could join HST party of debauchery…
Seriously, I would be willing to bet that someone you are friends with is having their version of Misfit Thanksgiving. I would join in on that. I know that at the hubs house, there is always someone new every year and we welcome them with open arms. Who knows, you might make some new friends.
HST
November 14th, 2012
1:02 pm
I’m going to job Bloggers, but “I’ll be back.”
HST
November 14th, 2012
1:03 pm
Misfit Thanksgiving for TMFW!
Bluzgirl
November 14th, 2012
1:09 pm
Dano – A movie is always good…anything out you want to see?
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
1:09 pm
single, you’ve just about pegged it. to this day my kids (now 23 and 20) have no recollection of madness around their “other side” coz mama was quick to slip the he!! on outta their midst before the fireworks. and good thing coz they didn’t need to sit around listening to aunts, uncles and grandparents telling of their daddy’s philandering ways.
comon, big bro’s 35 yrs have yielded much wisdom;
1) s/o’s protective nature could easily become possessive. (i agree)
2) don’t co-mingle assets that might later be a headache to amicably split. (we’ve known for years that part of what has kept them together is the
debtwealth they’ve built that they are not willing to split. so i get where he’s coming from with that too.)Bluzgirl
November 14th, 2012
1:12 pm
The bar I used to hang out at downtown has a Misfits Thanksgiving every year (at least I think they still do)…
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
1:13 pm
Dani ~ come over to my place and eat with me. Right now, it’s just me and my child who may grab a bite to eat then skedaddle.
Dani
November 14th, 2012
1:13 pm
Ex- My family lives 5hrs away and driving there with kids and dog for Christmas. Single- I just signed up to volunteer with meals on wheels for Seniors thanks for suggestion.
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
1:14 pm
Maybe we should celebrate Festivus this year and just give up on the traditional holidays…
Bluzgirl
November 14th, 2012
1:14 pm
My mom has decided that she doesn’t want to deal with a big old turkey this year. She’s going to try a chicken and stuffing cassarole. I told her that is fine, as long as she makes my broccoli rice cassarole!!!
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
1:15 pm
i’m hungry. ever so patiently waiting for my murphy’s burger.
Exiled!
November 14th, 2012
1:16 pm
Actually debauchery for Dani is a good idea Common..she recently divorced so she proly hasn’t had some in a while coz of the constant harangue with ex
Unless cheating is involved on both sides here.
This would be a pleasant way of getting back in the swing of thangs!
Bluzgirl
November 14th, 2012
1:16 pm
It’s a Festivus for the rest of us…
Exiled!
November 14th, 2012
1:17 pm
5 hours is nothing Dani
Thanksgiving = Family= Big
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
1:20 pm
personally, i’d go with volunteering or treating myself to an all-out getaway. anything non-traditional so i don’t find myself looking around thinking ‘my kids are supposed to be here right now’.
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
1:20 pm
Dani ~ just don’t like to see people alone for Holidays. Glad you found something to do.
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
1:21 pm
What’s a murphy’s burger?
Exiled!
November 14th, 2012
1:22 pm
Do uall go to lunch in groups…do some of u feel/do the lunch group thing?
I don’t.
Celisea
November 14th, 2012
1:23 pm
Dani – Get you some great music and snacks and make the drive to see your kids…if only for a couple of hours! Seeing them should be good Eat hearty, grab a few movies on the way in and chillax!!
Exiled!
November 14th, 2012
1:24 pm
Enjoy your heart attack Cz!
Dani
November 14th, 2012
1:26 pm
Leggs- You are so nice to offer an invite! I can cook but I have never prepared a big holiday meal. I usually go to my parents house for the holidays. I just arrive and the whole meal is ready.
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
1:26 pm
Ex ~ what makes you think her divorce was recent and she hadn’t had any. Is sex the only thing you think about???
1st Thanksgiving alone doesn’t necessarily state divorce is recent. He could have been feeling slighted since divorce and asked for the kids this year. Not saying you’re wrong nor right. Anything is possible.
Exiled!
November 14th, 2012
1:31 pm
Leggs, I’m sure shell answer that question if she wants to.
And Yes! @ the second question
Dani
November 14th, 2012
1:31 pm
Celisea- I’m the custodial parent. They will be here in Atlanta just with their dad. My ex inlaws are cool they invited me to dinner. I just think it looks bad for the ex-wife to show up when it is his parenting time with the kids.
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
1:35 pm
zip it, me-lo!!
leggs, thing 1 is bringing me lunch from murphy’s in va-highland.
folks started talking about smoked and fried turkeys at our staff meeting this morning. that was my first ‘i can’t believe i’m gonna miss turkey day’ pang.
but i’m over it now. bring on the beach!!!!!!
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
1:37 pm
Cz, hmm let me see, turkey, beach, turkey, beach, beach, turkey, beach tur, beach beach, yea beach wins every time (LOL) if I could I would spend every holiday at the beach, I can see the family anytime (LOL)
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
1:39 pm
I love Yeah Burger in Va-highlands. I actually save my hamburger consumption so I can go there and enjoy.
Dani
November 14th, 2012
1:39 pm
Divorce this year, separated back 2011, kids spent Thanksgiving and Christmas day with me last year and Christmas evening with him and his family. We have just started a odd-even year holiday schedule with our parenting plan.
Celisea
November 14th, 2012
1:40 pm
Dani – Gotcha. Not sure I would be comfy then either. There are lots of things you can do
I see nothing wrong with volunteering though 
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
1:44 pm
i like yeah burger too. and vortex. and farm burger. even liked flip burgers sliders.
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
1:47 pm
i didn’t even think about missing the time with fam; just the food.
we have eat-togethers throughout the year so that part i’m ok with. but we only do turkey at thanksgiving. and the last time i tried a cajun-infused fried bird it was a.maze.ing!
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
1:48 pm
Went to vortex, but couldn’t be seated due to lil leggs being with me. Like farm burger as well. Been to 5 guys once and will never go back. So now when I want a burger, it’s yeah burger.
I would feel the same way, Dani and glad I didn’t have to split holidays.
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
1:49 pm
i think i gave five guys two chances before x-ing them off my list.
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
1:50 pm
Cz ask them to freeze you some
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
1:50 pm
oh. and how can i forget red robin? although i haven’t been there in forever.
but they just reminded me i have a free b-day burger waiting so …..
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
1:51 pm
single, i plan to make up for it at xmas.
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
1:54 pm
See, y’all talking about burgers, Have you been to Just Around the Corner accross from Philipps Arena? They have been there for YEARS and the hubs and I used to go there when we were around 21-22. Great food! And they’re still there! We went there before the Falcons game a couple of weeks ago.
Dani
November 14th, 2012
1:54 pm
The only good thing at least my bday is not on Thanksgiving this year.
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
1:55 pm
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
1:56 pm
never even heard of it, comon. thanx for the tip.
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
1:57 pm
That would be a double negative whammy, Dani! I’m glad it’s not as well.
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
1:58 pm
leggs, this time of year i get b-day meal offers from EVERYWHERE. and that’s a prob when you’re already heading into chow-down marathon season.
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
2:02 pm
cz~ It look slike one of those trailers, but it is really a stationary restaurant. If you are ever headed down to Phillips or CNN, it is a great place to grab a bite. Others have told me that the Chikiyaki sandwich is really good (that’s what the hubs has) but I LOVE their burgers. It’s what they’re known for.
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
2:03 pm
Dani~ You and cz are right there together for the b-days. What day is yours?
Dani
November 14th, 2012
2:06 pm
28th
disco
November 14th, 2012
2:07 pm
dani – I may be a day late and dollar short (just back from lunch) but just remember thanksgiving isn’t forever. the kids are coming back. lol. get out and have some fun. do you. get your cabbage patch, running man, c-walk on. do the dang thang. whatever it is that you abstain from doing because the kids are around, have at it while they are gone. walk around your house buck booty naked. okay. don’t mind me. I’m throwed off.
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
2:08 pm
So, cz you are this coming Wednesday and Dani is next Wednesday. What are the plans for the B-days ladies?
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
2:09 pm
and you just threw Ex back on!
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
2:09 pm
comon is that on the corner of Spring an Marietta?
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
2:10 pm
disco, do you walk around but booty nekid
disco
November 14th, 2012
2:11 pm
S/H – I’m with you. turkey be darned. pass the rum. lol.
Bluzgirl
November 14th, 2012
2:12 pm
My bday is the 26th! I hate when it falls on Thanksgiving. I was bummed cause my 30th was on T-giving day. Hard to do anything special. Luckily, this year, my friends did it right early…
Dani
November 14th, 2012
2:12 pm
on the day I’m leaving work early and kids and I are doing the Japanese Hibachi thing for dinner. They love those places and well I like them too. That following weekend I am going San Francisco.
disco
November 14th, 2012
2:14 pm
S/H – not to put my business in the street but I have. I also live alone so I can do that if/when the mood strikes.
dani – san Francisco sounds nice.
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
2:14 pm
Disco, my son lived in Hawaii, I went twice in one year, he moved to NJ, haven’t been there yet, he asked me why I told him he stayed to far away from the beach (LOL)
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
2:15 pm
Disco that’s the best thing about living alone (LOL)
Dani
November 14th, 2012
2:16 pm
Bluz- I celebrate my bday from Thanksgiving to Christmas!
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
2:17 pm
From Thanksgiving till Christmas, what are you, a DJ (LOL)
Exiled!
November 14th, 2012
2:19 pm
San Fransisco…home of sodom and Ghomora
@ Dani?
See,Disco we think alike
Egg on Leggs
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
2:19 pm
S/H~ Yeah. That’s the place.
disco
November 14th, 2012
2:20 pm
S/H – Hawaii? new jersey? Hawaii? new jersey? I see how your son could not get it.
dani – you are one of those month-long celebrators? I have a cousin whose bday is next week (20th). I talked to her the other day and she was telling me about having gone out for her bday. I’m like chick your bday isn’t even here yet. shoot, your bday weekend isn’t even here yet. she doesn’t care. she’s getting it in.
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
2:27 pm
Disco, I was messing with my DIL last week, because when they left Hawaii he said he was tired of the threat of hurricanes, and earthquakes (they never had one) only to move to NJ, (they’ve had 2 hurricanes and one earthquake in a little over a year) (LOL)
Your cousin must think she’s a radio personality also, you know they love to celebrate all month long
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
2:27 pm
We (My SIL’s and I) used to do the month long b-day celebration. (All of our birthdays are in the same week. June 20th, 23rd, 26th and 28th) But nowadays, I’m doing good to go out and tie one on for ONE night, let alone 30 nights!
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
2:28 pm
comon, i’ll be in panama catching up with friends and fam & showing s/o my childhood stomping grounds. it’s also my mama’s b-day, so we’ll spend some much-needed mother/daughter time.
my mum is 79 this year!
disco, i am now in week 3 of living alone (for the first time EVER) and have discovered the joy of not having to close doors. bedroom & bathroom doors can stay wide open during any “activity” without a care in the world.
Dani
November 14th, 2012
2:30 pm
Ex- None of that over buddy.
Disco- Yes and my oldest daughters is starting to be the same way. Using my line but it is my birthday month! Last year I had friends come to town and we went on the Sat before Thanksgiving. Then I went to my parents for the holiday and had them making gumbo/seafood boil for me and the same group of friends. We are all from same place. Then the next week it was my Bday.
Lady~must be nice!
November 14th, 2012
2:30 pm
I am going to Charleston to his family house for Thanksgiving~ it will be interesting. Mama told me to stay in my lane and talk less and listen and observe……I will listen to her too and enjoy cordially as well~ This is my 1st holiday with a mate’s family since my marriage and college. #interesting #chuckle
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
2:30 pm
Off topic~
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/man-article-1.1201911
Really?!?
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
2:31 pm
Cz have you gotten to not whispering when doing the do yet
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
2:31 pm
Egg on Leggs – I concede.
disco
November 14th, 2012
2:31 pm
brat – yep. but the number one joy of living alone (to me anyway) is knowing stuff will be where you left it. knowing if you had something good in the fridge it will still be there when you get home. ooooh it would burn me up to have my mouth all set for something only to find the offspring beat me to it. I definitely don’t mind living alone (most of the time). lol.
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
2:32 pm
Comon, that’s a good thing, maybe others should follow his lead, and I’m not wishing death on anyone, but since they’re acting like it’s the end of the world.
Exiled!
November 14th, 2012
2:33 pm
Dani…the gorilla in the room question is:
Do u have a man?
disco
November 14th, 2012
2:34 pm
brat – the one thing it took me a while to get used to when living alone was that the in-house maid service was gone. lol. there were a time or two I came home and my breakfast dishes or whatever were still unwashed. I was kind of perturbed because if the offspring were still home he would have handled that. oh well. guess it’s a small price to pay.
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
2:35 pm
Joys of living alone is true, disco, stuff is where you left it, house stays cleaner, bills are decreased, but #! you’re on your own island calling all the shots!
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
2:36 pm
Dani ~ ain’t no gorilla in the room but horny a$$ Ex! If you’ve been lurking, you know what to do!
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
2:36 pm
Disco, for me it was having to cut the grass but as you say, oh well, and the #1 joy of living alone (don’t want to get ex started) is being able to do it anywhere in the house and get loud as you want too (LOL)
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
2:36 pm
Not if, since….
Exiled!
November 14th, 2012
2:36 pm
Now the blog vultures are circling!
@Dani
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
2:38 pm
Leggs I think waiting on ex to go there was the gorilla in the room (LOL)
Exiled!
November 14th, 2012
2:38 pm
but I know u are some blog fo …..
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
2:39 pm
Leggs~ You beat me to it! I was about to same the same isht!
Meelloo~ Back up off of Dani. She just got here. D@mn! I swear I cain’t take you nowhere.
disco
November 14th, 2012
2:39 pm
leggs – my housemate was a child so I was always the shot caller. lol.
S/H – re all that freaky deaky grown folks stuff. if my walls could talk they’d be talking about they wish that nasty heffa up the street would have bought my house and I would have bought hers. my walls (and the fly on them) are probably too through with me.
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
2:41 pm
Leggs if my walls could talk I’d burn my house down!! somethings you take to the grave (LOL)
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
2:41 pm
Disco if my walls could talk I’d burn my house down!! somethings you take to the grave (LOL)
Dani
November 14th, 2012
2:44 pm
I am single. I have been lurking and know Exiled is circling but not close enough for Queen to clip his wings.
Single and Happy
November 14th, 2012
2:45 pm
Dani, good one (LOL) you’re fitting right in
disco
November 14th, 2012
2:46 pm
dani – I assumed you were single or else you likely wouldn’t have been questioning what to do with your child-free time. lol.
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
2:47 pm
ooooh it would burn me up to have my mouth all set for something only to find the offspring beat me to it.
uh. already had that snafu. s/o does have a key. ate up my leftover chinese food one day and had the nerve to say “but you told me to help myself to anything in the kitchen”.
that was WHEN YOU WERE COOKING!!!!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 14th, 2012
2:51 pm
Afternoon folks!
Dani
November 14th, 2012
2:51 pm
cz- I did the big chop after 9 months. I was mad that I didn’t do it sooner.
disco
November 14th, 2012
2:53 pm
alright dani and brat. I just got a tshirt in the mail yesterday from natural girls rock.
Bluzgirl
November 14th, 2012
2:54 pm
Dani – I used to celebrate my birthday for a whole month, but the past three years have been bad. That is why my friends wanted to do a big party for me. I just happened that the 9th was the best date for the venue and the band. We decided that I’ll just have to keep celebrating! I’m going to Charleston for the weekend after Turkey Day…that will be my big hurrah for myself.
Exiled!
November 14th, 2012
2:55 pm
Welcome Dani!
I will give u a recommendation so u get ur blog vest sooner.
U vibe good!
disco
November 14th, 2012
2:57 pm
ex – doesn’t look like dani needs a vest. we’re all amicable up in here today.
by the way – did I get a vest? guess it doesn’t matter now does it?
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
2:58 pm
Yes indeed, Single. He took longer than expected.
Dani
November 14th, 2012
2:58 pm
Disco- don’t get me started I am a product junkie and a walking infomerical for stuff.
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
3:01 pm
disco~ You been had your vest girl. Stop playing. Just cause you loant it out ain’t Legg’s problem. You an Ex gon get throwed in the corner in a minute.
disco
November 14th, 2012
3:04 pm
dani – well come back on a really slow day and hook a sister up. shoot, ain’t really much popping off right now. whatcha using? generally I mix up my own concoctions primarily using shea butter and coconut oil and whatever I might have on hand. all summer I stopped using any products at all with the exception of a spray bottle with water and conditioner. now that winter’s here I’m going to have to get with a program because my hair is getting dryer.
CC – hush. all I said was I don’t recall getting a vest. maybe leggs was out and the substitute vest dispenser forgot me. lol. still, I guess it matters not this late in the game.
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
3:08 pm
Dani, I’ve been wiping this egg off my face that Ex keeps throwing at me which has delayed me in welcoming you to Blogsville. Hope you’ll leave Lurksville and hang with us more often.
Ex ~ you remember her saying she’s been reading us for some time now. No need for me cockblock you, you’ve done that on your own.
disco ~ true on being the shot caller. I was really referring to schedules, time constraints, etc. You call the shots.
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
3:10 pm
Leggs~ Don’t encourage “family feud” over there. She”l think she owns the joint.
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
3:12 pm
disco ~ I quietly enacted an Executive Order. Those who come to Blogsville never, EVER needing a blog vest will not be issued one. You are the first one to feel the effects of the Order.
Dani ~ well see how you fare 2 weeks from now (lol).
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 14th, 2012
3:13 pm
I know you guys have probably strayed far from the morning topic but so far I have not had issues with family’s of anyone i’ve dated. The only issue is my exes mother calling me trying to get me to break her son up from the girl he’s currently dating. Apparently, she hates the b!tch (her words not mine) lol
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
3:16 pm
oh he!! yeah. i need one of those. taryn916(?) also recently put out some cute natural tees.
cool, dani. i was actually ready about two months ago. but finding cantu curling cream just put me over the edge. it did wonders for my curls! got to the point where the straight hair was just in my way.
Dani
November 14th, 2012
3:16 pm
disco- I like As I Am coconut cowash i wash my hair 2-3 times a week in the summer. Now that it is cold I don’t like leaving the house with my hair wet so I will let the afro puff come out. My hair is tight curl to it like Freddie from different world so after day 4 it is frizzy. I really like Donna Marie styling jelly and her buttercream all natural. I shingle my hair/wash and go. I can’t bring myself to buy Miss Jessies. I have learned that if you want to try something new buy it from Sally’s Beauty you can return it in 30 days and get your money back.
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
3:21 pm
Laughing at you Comon!!!
disco
November 14th, 2012
3:21 pm
why gee leggs I don’t know if I should feel special or like a mutant. of course, if I were a mutant that would make me special so it’s all good.
brat / dani – btw, I should mention I’m not much of a product junkie and the products I do try have to be low budget. miss Jessie, kinky curly and ‘nem are out their darned minds (or rather I’m just cheap). I guess that’s why I’m big on mixing up my own concoctions. I just stopped and bought some oils yesterday. I know I bought vitamin e because I like it alot. not sure what other two I got. something to experiment with.
Exiled!
November 14th, 2012
3:23 pm
Disco..Common is jes trying to get this vest issue quickly squashed coz we know how she bought All the witnesses that were lined up to oppose the award to her.
kimmie
November 14th, 2012
3:23 pm
Welcome Dani!
disco
November 14th, 2012
3:24 pm
hey kimmie!!!!
Dani
November 14th, 2012
3:29 pm
Disco- Everytime I walk by Miss Jessies I keep thinking this is bill money for mineral oil and vaseline..lol, T
Thanks everyone for the welcome!
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
3:29 pm
kimmie! You’re back! Please talk some sanity into these people! Ex breathing all over the new company. disco ticked about her blog vest and women chopping their hair off left and right.
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
3:30 pm
Ex~ I ain’t have to buy nobody! I won them all over with my grace and charm (Comon slowly slides the shank back behind her back…)
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
3:32 pm
disco ~ you are special in a very good way. Just being a little more frugal in 2013!!!
disco
November 14th, 2012
3:41 pm
CC – I’m not ticked. really I’m not. just a friendly inquiry is all.
leggs – frugality is my thing. I can most def get with that. even virtual frugality.
disco
November 14th, 2012
3:44 pm
CC – I just peeped the part about your shank. awww lawd. we gone have a mishap on the blog. don’t worry though. when you done doing what you gotta do just drop it and walk away. I’ll ease up behind you, kick it to the side with my foot and eventually scoop it up and dispose of it. we got this.
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
3:45 pm
disco~ I knew you’d have my back girl!
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
3:51 pm
That was special….
kimmie
November 14th, 2012
3:55 pm
LOL!!!
Exiled is acting like one of those 3rd year seniors/professional students that swarm over the new crop of freshman!!LOL!!
Natural Ladies – Hey rock you! Chop or no chop, I know you look great!! Folks always get mad when I cut mine, but they’ll be alright!
Disco – you never really needed a vest, you’ve always held your own, Shero!
Comon – Tell Ex to sit his behind down!!LOL!!
Exiled!
November 14th, 2012
3:55 pm
Yu girls done some derty!
Shank….
We can’t put Common and Disco in the same room
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
3:59 pm
Why Ex? Is because they teamed up to b Thelma and Louise?
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 14th, 2012
4:03 pm
Exiled is acting like one of those 3rd year seniors/professional students that swarm over the new crop of freshman!!
Eeeww
disco
November 14th, 2012
4:07 pm
ex – now I laughed at not being in the same room with CC. that’s funny because in real life there’s some folks I don’t need to be in the same room with. like the song said, I’m a movement by myself but I’m a boss when we’re together. lol. some folks bring out the best and the worst in each other.
For Real
November 14th, 2012
4:13 pm
What blog fam!!! What’s the happs?
- “She”l think she owns the joint.” – Comon family be blazin the fatties!!!!!
- “finding cantu curling cream just put me over the edge” – Dayum!!! Brat be beating that thang up don’t she? For Real now wondering is Brat has ever forcefully asked herself “Whose puddy is this?”
- “I like cowashing my hair 2-3 times a week in the summer with Donna Marie and we like using jelly and her buttercream. – Dayum!!!! Now that’s how you come onto a blog as the new chick. For Real now smooving down his baby hair to approach Dani.”
- “I’m low budget kinky. I’m big on mixing up my own concoctions with miss Jessie and ‘nem. I just stopped and bought some oils and vitamin e to experiment with. – For Real now shedding one tear like that Indian in that pollution commercial.”
- “I use bill money for mineral oil and Vaseline whenever Miss Jessies falls thru.” – For Real now throwing an oil, vitamin e, mineral oil and Vaseline party. Heyyyyy Disco and Dani!!!
- “Comon slowly slides the shank back behind her back.” – Well at least it ain’t a razor in the puddy.
disco
November 14th, 2012
4:16 pm
for real – you’se a certified fool FOR REAL. funny though. oh, and you best approach dani or somebody with that smoothed down baby hair because I would straight up clown the clown that stepped to me with some “died, fried, laid to the side” mess on his head. lol. it’s 2012, leave that dippity do alone.
Dani
November 14th, 2012
4:16 pm
Funny I haven’t been refered to as freshmeat since my college days back in the late 90’s.
kimmie
November 14th, 2012
4:18 pm
it’s 2012, leave that dippity do alone.
LOL!!!! Dang, I don’t remember the last time I heard dippity do mentioned!! I think they still sell that stuff too!!!
kimmie
November 14th, 2012
4:19 pm
Dani – I’m sure it’s been awhile since Exiled been referred to as a college senior too. Senior citizen, now that’s different!LOL!!!
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
4:21 pm
Haven’t heard “dippity do” in years! Dippity Do and V-05
benita michelle wheeler
November 14th, 2012
4:21 pm
thank you for th tips
Leggs
November 14th, 2012
4:29 pm
PEACE!
Dani
November 14th, 2012
4:30 pm
For Real- You are funny!
Leggs- If the invite is still open? I can bring a glazed pound cake for dessert.
It has been nice blogging with you guys today.
For Real
November 14th, 2012
4:33 pm
For Real: Disco you want to touch my baby hair don’t you?
Disco: Giggles likes a 10 year old school girl at the thought of touching For Real’s baby hair.
For Real: Come closer, feel what you’ve been dyin’ for.
Disco: Shaking her head with a hint of fear.
For Real: Don’t be afraid, baby, touch it and explode
Disco passes the f/k out and For Real performs CPR on her vulva to save her life.
HST
November 14th, 2012
4:47 pm
OH MY…only in blogsville…this “ish” has me cracking up…
HST
November 14th, 2012
4:50 pm
Looks like I’m I’m a little late for Happy Hour.
Oils and Vaseline has been broken out. Blog vests are not distributed or taken away. So For Real and I are the only guys out here? I’m scared of an estrogen beat-down.
HST
November 14th, 2012
4:54 pm
Seems everyone has gone home.
Peace!
Comon ¢
November 14th, 2012
5:02 pm
Comon slowly slides the shank back behind her back.” – Well at least it ain’t a razor in the puddy.
disco
November 14th, 2012
5:05 pm
forget a blog vest. is there a vulva vest I can order online or something?
czBrat ♀ birth date: 11/21; big chop: 11/12
November 14th, 2012
5:30 pm
meetings. just ugh! i missed the fun.
disco, leggs does have full-body armor versions of the blog vest available upon request.
and i don’t do high-priced products either. trader joe’s tea tree poo & conditioner, any brand avocado or coconut oils, and cantu’s leave-in conditioner and curling cream. (zip it, for real!). each one only around $5. i mean, damn, it’s just hair.
send me your addy and i’ll send you my before & afters.
or get them from leggs.
ciao, all!