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Are men powerless to women?

Yet another scandal involving a powerful, married man. The more details that emerge about Pertraeus and Broadwell, the more ridiculous all of this seems to become. You have two people who had a great deal to lose, deciding to risk it all to have an affair. I am sure it does not seem worth it now, to either of them. I wonder if the forbidden is so tempting that you don’t care what consequences you could face when you are caught up in it?

Whenever I hear discussions about why men and women cheat, I find it interesting how the reasons attributed to each gender can be so different. Women are trying to fill an emotional void, while men are seeking to feel a physical one.

Is is really about giving in to attraction and temptation? When you find yourself susceptible to being tempted, does it not all come down to making a choice?

I have seen a lot of judgment toward Broadwell, as many spin the sordid affair like it is some bad romance novel: Temptress targets her mark and lures him in to her web. Please! That all sounds a little too easy and it totally lets Petraeus off the hook. Are women really capable of making a man so powerless that his good sense goes out the window? Why do you think think?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Single and Happy

November 13th, 2012
6:51 am

No one can make you do something you don’t want to do, if you didn’t want to do it, then it wouldn’t “tempt” you. Life is about making choices some good, some bad, but what ever they are we need to own our choices and live with them, whatever the consequences!!

lee

November 13th, 2012
7:38 am

I think most people who cheat feel that they can get away with it. They are so arrogant that they feel no one will find out and if they do, “being so superior”they can handle it. I don’t know of any man that doesn’t do what he wants to do, so that would be No women are not temptress. If he didn’t want that he would of sent her packing..Same goes for a women.

Button

November 13th, 2012
8:47 am

Are women really capable of making a man so powerless that his good sense goes out the window?
I’d say most women, not all have that power. Prince made a song called Pu88y control. That power that hole has.

I’m against cheating but it happens, and I’m not one to judge. With all the cheating and being caught going on you’d think that would deter folks from cheating but it doesn’t. The it won’t happen to me mentality. I’m following the story and I’m surprised to learn that all of them are married.
Some say once a cheater always a cheater, I don’t believe that.

SlimNu: Life always happens

November 13th, 2012
8:47 am

Chilly morning all,

Unless ole girl drugged him and forced him to get it on with her, he made the CHOICE to get involved with her.

Exiled!

November 13th, 2012
8:50 am

She is a temptress,no doubt and she picked a susceptible target,an army general,in a far away lands without his family. Hormones are raging.

So when u invite yourself into a den and the lions are hungry…..you blame the lions for pouncing on you? It’s a bit fair to want to blame domesticated lions. They should know better,right?

But please,don’t bring your tantalizing fine azz into Afghanistani and expect the general to sniff but just look away when you know he hasn’t nutted in months! That’s testing a soldier too much.

Some things are just common sense.
Why did her husband even agree to her spending a whole year away in Afghanistani? I bet he was also entertaining the nurses at his job.

This is a complex sex web!

Robert

November 13th, 2012
8:53 am

“Are women really capable of making a man so powerless that his good sense goes out the window?”

Yes. “Brick House” 36-24-36. No man can resist the temptation of a woman with God given natural beauty. It does not matter where she works, how many kids she has or how much money she makes.

The only thing that matters is she is “Pretty, Hot, and Tempting”.

Comon ¢

November 13th, 2012
8:57 am

OMG!!! It’s a first! I agree with Exiled this morning! I think that there is enough blame to go around in this situation. Broadwell for pursuing a married man, Petraeus for putting himself in a situation to be vulnerable to her pursuit, Mr. Broadwell for ignoring the warning signs in his marriage and Mrs. Petraeus for not keeping it tight at home so he would have no reason to have a wandering eye (not saying that there are not some men who are just built to cheat).

Exiled!

November 13th, 2012
8:57 am

By all accounts,she was also enthralled by the general. She held him in awe.
And the mo fo’s ego is Huge,based on my readings.
And huge egos and sexual libations go hand in glove.

And seems another general is getting sucked in as well.

All IN,I tell ya!

Button

November 13th, 2012
9:04 am

Why oh why is the one being cheated on is always the blame???

Robert

November 13th, 2012
9:06 am

Here is a good example of a women really capable of making a man so powerless that his good sense goes out the window. I was in McDonald’s last week and there was a female Manager with a “Brick House” body. All the male customers were trying to get her attention. All she did was smile and she had her pick of the litter.

Comon ¢

November 13th, 2012
9:06 am

Robert~ I have to disagree with you. There are men who are capable of not being mislead by a pretty face. Are you suggesting that men are so weak that they cannot control their passions in the face of a comely figure? Puh-leez! Like my husband used to say, once a man realizes that all pu88y is pink on the inside a woman needs more to distinguish herself than a tight snatch.

Comon ¢

November 13th, 2012
9:08 am

Button~ Because as a woman (just as with a man) what you took to get them is what it takes to keep them. Judging from the pics, I’d say that girlfriend stopped putting enough care into herself. Looking like Margaret Thatcher is enough to kill anyone’s libido. IJS…

disco

November 13th, 2012
9:09 am

good morning.

lee – I am going to take the stance you are taking. sure folks go in knowing the risks however they also go in thinking the risks apply to other people, not them. other people are stupid enough to get caught up, not them. other people will make tell-tale mistakes, not them. I’m also going to take the opposite side re the temptress role. no, not every woman is a temptress but there are some die hards out there that will do whatever it takes to get their mission accomplished. the reality is that there are some bad beeyotches out there. lol.

robert – that’s a winning hand. lol.

Button

November 13th, 2012
9:17 am

Comon you said ” There are men who are capable of not being mislead by a pretty face.”
then you criticized the wife’s looks, maybe you’re insunating that he was looking for a pretty face. What if Broadwell was butt ugly then what would be his reason? People cheat for no reason at all. If good looks deemed being married to a faithful spouse then the divorce rate would be a staggering low because I’ve seen a lot of pretty/beautiful divorced people who’s been cheated on.

disco

November 13th, 2012
9:20 am

cheating is a crime of opportunity. not saying everyone who has the opportunity takes it but when the opportunity presents itself you realize a person’s true character. a lot of folks say they wouldn’t steal but leave the right something in plain view where they think they can get away with it and a thief is born.

Leggs

November 13th, 2012
9:26 am

I agree with you, Ex. She is a temptress and she executed a plan she probably had in mind for a long time. It’s quite amusing how her sending emails to who she thought to be a threat to her affair blew her game and implicated others.

Are men powerless to women? YES! Are women powerless to men? YES! Sexual attraction is a strong vice that can make the most powerful man fall and the most simple man stand tall!

Heck, Arnold Swatzeneager (I know it’s spelled wrong), cheated on his leather faced wife with his leather faced maid! All because of his perceived power and him being o so horny!

kimmie

November 13th, 2012
9:30 am

Morning All!!

Are men powerless to women? I would like to think not, because I give them credit for not being like animals and having self control. Unless you have some mental disability, men and women always have a CHOICE. Period, point blank. They can use “my spouse isn’t pretty, I haven’t had any in awhile, my spouse doesn’t understand me, etc” all they want, but they still made a choice. I believe in keeping up what you did to snag each other, like keeping up your health and appearance, keeping things hot and interesting, etc. But sometimes even that’s not enough if the other person has made up in their mind to cheat.

Disco – I am so with you on your post – some folks think the risks don’t apply or will not happen to THEM!

Saying all that, I do wish more women would realize they have the power they have when it comes to men and self-respect, self-esteem. Then use that power for good and not evil!!LOL!!

Comon ¢

November 13th, 2012
9:40 am

Yes, there are men capable of not being mislead by a pretty face. It’s not just her face. If you look at her, she seems to have stopped caring about how she is viewed. While that will not cause all men to stray, no man wants a wife that has stopped putting effort into her appearance. Two completely different things.

Celisea

November 13th, 2012
9:47 am

There are no excuses for cheating. People cheat because they so desire. Nothing to do with their spouses, what they look like or not. Every man is responsible for their own actions.

disco

November 13th, 2012
9:48 am

OPP how can I explain it. lol.

Celisea

November 13th, 2012
9:49 am

Frankly don’t want to hear things aren’t right at home. Do the needful, fix it or get out but don’t step to me during the time of your issues and have the audacity to get irritated with me because you hanging in limbo ain’t cool with me. IJS

And really, it’s an excuse to use what they no longer look like. I’m calling BS on that.

Celisea

November 13th, 2012
9:53 am

And honestly, Patreaus ain’t exactly nothing to write home about himself. He’s just thinner and she’s heavy. In the “looks” department, I don’t see him having an edge on her. IJS

I’m out…back to work

Robert

November 13th, 2012
9:55 am

@Comon – You are not a Man. I wish you and your husband nothing but success.

Celisea

November 13th, 2012
9:56 am

My 9:49 was a broad example of the things folks say and what friends have said when married dudes step to them.

HST

November 13th, 2012
9:57 am

We all have the power of choice. It was his choice to do what he did. It was her choice to do what she did. It seems they made a choice in concert.

Weak people blame environment, temptation, and such – not leaders. I’m not even a little angry for what he did in his own personal life, but what he did as a General is whole other story. In this story, he did what any leader should do, walk away with regard to his position for his digressions.

Single and Happy

November 13th, 2012
10:00 am

HST, I’m confused, have they found any evidence that he did it as a general, or was it after he became CIA director?

SlimNu: Life always happens

November 13th, 2012
10:02 am

Leggs mail call

disco

November 13th, 2012
10:06 am

HST – while I get what you are saying and understand your viewpoint re leaders walking away from their positions I don’t necessarily agree. sure, certain positions maybe but in general I don’t think one’s extramarital relationships should have much bearing on their position or anything else. if you are doing your job and handling your business who you are sleeping with should have little or no bearing. it’s no one’s business. I really do not think the affairs should be the public’s concern. generally I think it should be between the person, the spouse and their god (if applicable). at the end of the day, it’s not even much about the other person involved in the affair. just my take on it though.

disco

November 13th, 2012
10:08 am

also, I understand the military has it’s little morals clauses re sexual misconduct, extramarital affairs and all that but the really real is that our nation’s military is filled with a whole bunch of soldiers that are getting in where they fit in. if they ever just up and kicked them all out it would be interesting to see how many were left standing.

Robert

November 13th, 2012
10:09 am

@Button – What is a “Cheater”?

HST

November 13th, 2012
10:10 am

Disco, I agree with you, but he did it in uniform. There’s a time and place, even for adultery (if one could say that, but I wouldn’t – I’m just all about personal choice).

Single and Happy

November 13th, 2012
10:10 am

Disco, the military has rules against adultery. So it’s really not your business anymore, you belong to them.

HST

November 13th, 2012
10:11 am

S&H, it was on mission, so I assume that’s when he was General not his current position.

HST

November 13th, 2012
10:11 am

S&H, exactly!

Leggs

November 13th, 2012
10:13 am

SlimNu ~ may be caught up in spam!

disco

November 13th, 2012
10:13 am

S/H – that’s my point. the military has rules but they most certainly aren’t enforced across the board. I hate to generalize but the us armed forces are “buck wild”. I’m sure this is really only being dealt with because it went public and had more potential for backlash.

Single and Happy

November 13th, 2012
10:14 am

Disco, in the past they have kicked them out for that. and right now with the wait to get in, they would have know problem giving dis-honorable discharges, less benefits they would have to pay. but it will be interesting to see what they do to him.

HST

November 13th, 2012
10:19 am

I say he’s going to have to face a Military Tribunal. Even though he resigned, what he did was during war-time, and there are serious ramifications for such action.

Single and Happy

November 13th, 2012
10:20 am

Disco, you’re right they are not enforced across the board, just like every occupation on life rules will be enforced differently depending on who’s doing the enforcing.

Comon ¢

November 13th, 2012
10:23 am

HST~ He did the biography with her while he was in the miltary. The affair started later according to the FBI. As far as facing the Military, can you dishonorably discharge someone who has resigned?

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)

November 13th, 2012
10:25 am

Arnold Swatzeneager (I know it’s spelled wrong), cheated on his leather faced wife with his leather faced maid! All because of his perceived power and him being o so horny!

Something else that Aaahnold was dealing with is something that alot of men succomb to…pu.$$y in proximity. While it is true that that leather faced maid was more handsome than her father, she was also IN the house ALL of the time and with a wife like Maria, who has her own isht going on and travels alot for her career, that can be a recipe for disaster….which is what happened. She wasn’t cute but she was around hence “pu.$$y in proximity.”

Leggs it was nice seeing you. Since it’s officially “The Holiday Season”, I’m sure we’ll be hanging again soon :-)

Exiled!

November 13th, 2012
10:27 am

You can be blind if you’ll want to but…

And military spouses end up divorcing most times

Or shall I say Divorces are waaay higher with military spouses….it’s heeeengry out there. Soldiers are starving for puddy.

And Disco said it,Opportunity!
When tail meat is sighted in those far away places,every soldier wants it. Ask those who been on duty.

This piece,the General had to get it.

Button

November 13th, 2012
10:28 am

There’s something about new pu88y

HST

November 13th, 2012
10:30 am

Well that’s different than I thought. I’d be lying, if I said I gave a crap, other than a leader whom didn’t use good judgement or discreteness.

I really have no idea if they can dishonorably discharge in this instance.

I’d almost bet that they were together before that, but to save the gov. from scandal and a leader from a Military Tribunal, the FBI said it was later. This affair might cost our gov. millions.

HST

November 13th, 2012
10:36 am

“pu.$$y in proximity.” WOW. I just don’t get disrespecting the person you love, like, or have a friendship with like that. Hmmm, maybe that’s why I always have kept my GFs through out the years. Even if there was others, my GFs were always available to me until they got hitched.

I’m a weak man for food and bourbon, but not morals, and I don’t believe in a God.

HST

November 13th, 2012
10:40 am

Everyone have a good day, I should stop by later this afternoon.

Button

November 13th, 2012
10:42 am

All men cheat, isn’t that the word on the streets?

kimmie

November 13th, 2012
10:43 am

disco – I was asking my hubs why him having an affair what such a big deal, cause I thought like you when I first heard the story. Hubs said as he was director of the CIA, the biggest risk is blackmail and possible security secrets getting in the wrong domestic or foreign hands. Funny cause right after he told me that, I heard it repeated on the news show I had on.

Leggs

November 13th, 2012
10:44 am

“…pu.$$y in proximity.” – You’re absolutely right, SassyMe. Some can’t handle the closeness and believe they’re supposed to have it, no matter the cost. How that can make men lose all sensibilities, or rather not give a damn and throw caution to the wind, speaks of it’s power.

HST ~ none of us get “disrespecting the person” you purport to love, but it happens all the time. Many levels of disrespect married people engage in with infidelity high on the list. But for me, not the #1.

It’s always good seeing you, it was fun. Sorry those of you who wanted to come out weren’t able to make it. We had a good time.

disco

November 13th, 2012
10:48 am

kimmie – yep. I understand all that. my thing is the concept of “firm, fair, consistent”. what applies to the top brass should apply to the little guys at the bottom who might eventually become top brass. don’t let them get away with it now because they are low ranking. hence my thing about enforcing rules across the board.

re in proximity – that’s how come so many affairs involve maids, nannies, babysitters, family members, friends. folks too lazy to go hunting for affairs. they take the opportunity that’s sitting in their house drinking lemonade.