Are men powerless to women?
Yet another scandal involving a powerful, married man. The more details that emerge about Pertraeus and Broadwell, the more ridiculous all of this seems to become. You have two people who had a great deal to lose, deciding to risk it all to have an affair. I am sure it does not seem worth it now, to either of them. I wonder if the forbidden is so tempting that you don’t care what consequences you could face when you are caught up in it?
Whenever I hear discussions about why men and women cheat, I find it interesting how the reasons attributed to each gender can be so different. Women are trying to fill an emotional void, while men are seeking to feel a physical one.
Is is really about giving in to attraction and temptation? When you find yourself susceptible to being tempted, does it not all come down to making a choice?
I have seen a lot of judgment toward Broadwell, as many spin the sordid affair like it is some bad romance novel: Temptress targets her mark and lures him in to her web. Please! That all sounds a little too easy and it totally lets Petraeus off the hook. Are women really capable of making a man so powerless that his good sense goes out the window? Why do you think think?
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Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
6:51 am
No one can make you do something you don’t want to do, if you didn’t want to do it, then it wouldn’t “tempt” you. Life is about making choices some good, some bad, but what ever they are we need to own our choices and live with them, whatever the consequences!!
lee
November 13th, 2012
7:38 am
I think most people who cheat feel that they can get away with it. They are so arrogant that they feel no one will find out and if they do, “being so superior”they can handle it. I don’t know of any man that doesn’t do what he wants to do, so that would be No women are not temptress. If he didn’t want that he would of sent her packing..Same goes for a women.
Button
November 13th, 2012
8:47 am
Are women really capable of making a man so powerless that his good sense goes out the window?
I’d say most women, not all have that power. Prince made a song called Pu88y control. That power that hole has.
I’m against cheating but it happens, and I’m not one to judge. With all the cheating and being caught going on you’d think that would deter folks from cheating but it doesn’t. The it won’t happen to me mentality. I’m following the story and I’m surprised to learn that all of them are married.
Some say once a cheater always a cheater, I don’t believe that.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 13th, 2012
8:47 am
Chilly morning all,
Unless ole girl drugged him and forced him to get it on with her, he made the CHOICE to get involved with her.
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
8:50 am
She is a temptress,no doubt and she picked a susceptible target,an army general,in a far away lands without his family. Hormones are raging.
So when u invite yourself into a den and the lions are hungry…..you blame the lions for pouncing on you? It’s a bit fair to want to blame domesticated lions. They should know better,right?
But please,don’t bring your tantalizing fine azz into Afghanistani and expect the general to sniff but just look away when you know he hasn’t nutted in months! That’s testing a soldier too much.
Some things are just common sense.
Why did her husband even agree to her spending a whole year away in Afghanistani? I bet he was also entertaining the nurses at his job.
This is a complex sex web!
Robert
November 13th, 2012
8:53 am
“Are women really capable of making a man so powerless that his good sense goes out the window?”
Yes. “Brick House” 36-24-36. No man can resist the temptation of a woman with God given natural beauty. It does not matter where she works, how many kids she has or how much money she makes.
The only thing that matters is she is “Pretty, Hot, and Tempting”.
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
8:57 am
OMG!!! It’s a first! I agree with Exiled this morning! I think that there is enough blame to go around in this situation. Broadwell for pursuing a married man, Petraeus for putting himself in a situation to be vulnerable to her pursuit, Mr. Broadwell for ignoring the warning signs in his marriage and Mrs. Petraeus for not keeping it tight at home so he would have no reason to have a wandering eye (not saying that there are not some men who are just built to cheat).
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
8:57 am
By all accounts,she was also enthralled by the general. She held him in awe.
And the mo fo’s ego is Huge,based on my readings.
And huge egos and sexual libations go hand in glove.
And seems another general is getting sucked in as well.
All IN,I tell ya!
Button
November 13th, 2012
9:04 am
Why oh why is the one being cheated on is always the blame???
Robert
November 13th, 2012
9:06 am
Here is a good example of a women really capable of making a man so powerless that his good sense goes out the window. I was in McDonald’s last week and there was a female Manager with a “Brick House” body. All the male customers were trying to get her attention. All she did was smile and she had her pick of the litter.
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
9:06 am
Robert~ I have to disagree with you. There are men who are capable of not being mislead by a pretty face. Are you suggesting that men are so weak that they cannot control their passions in the face of a comely figure? Puh-leez! Like my husband used to say, once a man realizes that all pu88y is pink on the inside a woman needs more to distinguish herself than a tight snatch.
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
9:08 am
Button~ Because as a woman (just as with a man) what you took to get them is what it takes to keep them. Judging from the pics, I’d say that girlfriend stopped putting enough care into herself. Looking like Margaret Thatcher is enough to kill anyone’s libido. IJS…
disco
November 13th, 2012
9:09 am
good morning.
lee – I am going to take the stance you are taking. sure folks go in knowing the risks however they also go in thinking the risks apply to other people, not them. other people are stupid enough to get caught up, not them. other people will make tell-tale mistakes, not them. I’m also going to take the opposite side re the temptress role. no, not every woman is a temptress but there are some die hards out there that will do whatever it takes to get their mission accomplished. the reality is that there are some bad beeyotches out there. lol.
robert – that’s a winning hand. lol.
Button
November 13th, 2012
9:17 am
Comon you said ” There are men who are capable of not being mislead by a pretty face.”
then you criticized the wife’s looks, maybe you’re insunating that he was looking for a pretty face. What if Broadwell was butt ugly then what would be his reason? People cheat for no reason at all. If good looks deemed being married to a faithful spouse then the divorce rate would be a staggering low because I’ve seen a lot of pretty/beautiful divorced people who’s been cheated on.
disco
November 13th, 2012
9:20 am
cheating is a crime of opportunity. not saying everyone who has the opportunity takes it but when the opportunity presents itself you realize a person’s true character. a lot of folks say they wouldn’t steal but leave the right something in plain view where they think they can get away with it and a thief is born.
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
9:26 am
I agree with you, Ex. She is a temptress and she executed a plan she probably had in mind for a long time. It’s quite amusing how her sending emails to who she thought to be a threat to her affair blew her game and implicated others.
Are men powerless to women? YES! Are women powerless to men? YES! Sexual attraction is a strong vice that can make the most powerful man fall and the most simple man stand tall!
Heck, Arnold Swatzeneager (I know it’s spelled wrong), cheated on his leather faced wife with his leather faced maid! All because of his perceived power and him being o so horny!
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
9:30 am
Morning All!!
Are men powerless to women? I would like to think not, because I give them credit for not being like animals and having self control. Unless you have some mental disability, men and women always have a CHOICE. Period, point blank. They can use “my spouse isn’t pretty, I haven’t had any in awhile, my spouse doesn’t understand me, etc” all they want, but they still made a choice. I believe in keeping up what you did to snag each other, like keeping up your health and appearance, keeping things hot and interesting, etc. But sometimes even that’s not enough if the other person has made up in their mind to cheat.
Disco – I am so with you on your post – some folks think the risks don’t apply or will not happen to THEM!
Saying all that, I do wish more women would realize they have the power they have when it comes to men and self-respect, self-esteem. Then use that power for good and not evil!!LOL!!
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
9:40 am
Yes, there are men capable of not being mislead by a pretty face. It’s not just her face. If you look at her, she seems to have stopped caring about how she is viewed. While that will not cause all men to stray, no man wants a wife that has stopped putting effort into her appearance. Two completely different things.
Celisea
November 13th, 2012
9:47 am
There are no excuses for cheating. People cheat because they so desire. Nothing to do with their spouses, what they look like or not. Every man is responsible for their own actions.
disco
November 13th, 2012
9:48 am
OPP how can I explain it. lol.
Celisea
November 13th, 2012
9:49 am
Frankly don’t want to hear things aren’t right at home. Do the needful, fix it or get out but don’t step to me during the time of your issues and have the audacity to get irritated with me because you hanging in limbo ain’t cool with me. IJS
And really, it’s an excuse to use what they no longer look like. I’m calling BS on that.
Celisea
November 13th, 2012
9:53 am
And honestly, Patreaus ain’t exactly nothing to write home about himself. He’s just thinner and she’s heavy. In the “looks” department, I don’t see him having an edge on her. IJS
I’m out…back to work
Robert
November 13th, 2012
9:55 am
@Comon – You are not a Man. I wish you and your husband nothing but success.
Celisea
November 13th, 2012
9:56 am
My 9:49 was a broad example of the things folks say and what friends have said when married dudes step to them.
HST
November 13th, 2012
9:57 am
We all have the power of choice. It was his choice to do what he did. It was her choice to do what she did. It seems they made a choice in concert.
Weak people blame environment, temptation, and such – not leaders. I’m not even a little angry for what he did in his own personal life, but what he did as a General is whole other story. In this story, he did what any leader should do, walk away with regard to his position for his digressions.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
10:00 am
HST, I’m confused, have they found any evidence that he did it as a general, or was it after he became CIA director?
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 13th, 2012
10:02 am
Leggs mail call
disco
November 13th, 2012
10:06 am
HST – while I get what you are saying and understand your viewpoint re leaders walking away from their positions I don’t necessarily agree. sure, certain positions maybe but in general I don’t think one’s extramarital relationships should have much bearing on their position or anything else. if you are doing your job and handling your business who you are sleeping with should have little or no bearing. it’s no one’s business. I really do not think the affairs should be the public’s concern. generally I think it should be between the person, the spouse and their god (if applicable). at the end of the day, it’s not even much about the other person involved in the affair. just my take on it though.
disco
November 13th, 2012
10:08 am
also, I understand the military has it’s little morals clauses re sexual misconduct, extramarital affairs and all that but the really real is that our nation’s military is filled with a whole bunch of soldiers that are getting in where they fit in. if they ever just up and kicked them all out it would be interesting to see how many were left standing.
Robert
November 13th, 2012
10:09 am
@Button – What is a “Cheater”?
HST
November 13th, 2012
10:10 am
Disco, I agree with you, but he did it in uniform. There’s a time and place, even for adultery (if one could say that, but I wouldn’t – I’m just all about personal choice).
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
10:10 am
Disco, the military has rules against adultery. So it’s really not your business anymore, you belong to them.
HST
November 13th, 2012
10:11 am
S&H, it was on mission, so I assume that’s when he was General not his current position.
HST
November 13th, 2012
10:11 am
S&H, exactly!
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
10:13 am
SlimNu ~ may be caught up in spam!
disco
November 13th, 2012
10:13 am
S/H – that’s my point. the military has rules but they most certainly aren’t enforced across the board. I hate to generalize but the us armed forces are “buck wild”. I’m sure this is really only being dealt with because it went public and had more potential for backlash.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
10:14 am
Disco, in the past they have kicked them out for that. and right now with the wait to get in, they would have know problem giving dis-honorable discharges, less benefits they would have to pay. but it will be interesting to see what they do to him.
HST
November 13th, 2012
10:19 am
I say he’s going to have to face a Military Tribunal. Even though he resigned, what he did was during war-time, and there are serious ramifications for such action.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
10:20 am
Disco, you’re right they are not enforced across the board, just like every occupation on life rules will be enforced differently depending on who’s doing the enforcing.
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
10:23 am
HST~ He did the biography with her while he was in the miltary. The affair started later according to the FBI. As far as facing the Military, can you dishonorably discharge someone who has resigned?
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 13th, 2012
10:25 am
Arnold Swatzeneager (I know it’s spelled wrong), cheated on his leather faced wife with his leather faced maid! All because of his perceived power and him being o so horny!
Something else that Aaahnold was dealing with is something that alot of men succomb to…pu.$$y in proximity. While it is true that that leather faced maid was more handsome than her father, she was also IN the house ALL of the time and with a wife like Maria, who has her own isht going on and travels alot for her career, that can be a recipe for disaster….which is what happened. She wasn’t cute but she was around hence “pu.$$y in proximity.”
Leggs it was nice seeing you. Since it’s officially “The Holiday Season”, I’m sure we’ll be hanging again soon
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
10:27 am
You can be blind if you’ll want to but…
And military spouses end up divorcing most times
Or shall I say Divorces are waaay higher with military spouses….it’s heeeengry out there. Soldiers are starving for puddy.
And Disco said it,Opportunity!
When tail meat is sighted in those far away places,every soldier wants it. Ask those who been on duty.
This piece,the General had to get it.
Button
November 13th, 2012
10:28 am
There’s something about new pu88y
HST
November 13th, 2012
10:30 am
Well that’s different than I thought. I’d be lying, if I said I gave a crap, other than a leader whom didn’t use good judgement or discreteness.
I really have no idea if they can dishonorably discharge in this instance.
I’d almost bet that they were together before that, but to save the gov. from scandal and a leader from a Military Tribunal, the FBI said it was later. This affair might cost our gov. millions.
HST
November 13th, 2012
10:36 am
“pu.$$y in proximity.” WOW. I just don’t get disrespecting the person you love, like, or have a friendship with like that. Hmmm, maybe that’s why I always have kept my GFs through out the years. Even if there was others, my GFs were always available to me until they got hitched.
I’m a weak man for food and bourbon, but not morals, and I don’t believe in a God.
HST
November 13th, 2012
10:40 am
Everyone have a good day, I should stop by later this afternoon.
Button
November 13th, 2012
10:42 am
All men cheat, isn’t that the word on the streets?
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
10:43 am
disco – I was asking my hubs why him having an affair what such a big deal, cause I thought like you when I first heard the story. Hubs said as he was director of the CIA, the biggest risk is blackmail and possible security secrets getting in the wrong domestic or foreign hands. Funny cause right after he told me that, I heard it repeated on the news show I had on.
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
10:44 am
“…pu.$$y in proximity.” – You’re absolutely right, SassyMe. Some can’t handle the closeness and believe they’re supposed to have it, no matter the cost. How that can make men lose all sensibilities, or rather not give a damn and throw caution to the wind, speaks of it’s power.
HST ~ none of us get “disrespecting the person” you purport to love, but it happens all the time. Many levels of disrespect married people engage in with infidelity high on the list. But for me, not the #1.
It’s always good seeing you, it was fun. Sorry those of you who wanted to come out weren’t able to make it. We had a good time.
disco
November 13th, 2012
10:48 am
kimmie – yep. I understand all that. my thing is the concept of “firm, fair, consistent”. what applies to the top brass should apply to the little guys at the bottom who might eventually become top brass. don’t let them get away with it now because they are low ranking. hence my thing about enforcing rules across the board.
re in proximity – that’s how come so many affairs involve maids, nannies, babysitters, family members, friends. folks too lazy to go hunting for affairs. they take the opportunity that’s sitting in their house drinking lemonade.
Button
November 13th, 2012
10:49 am
For every man seeking to cheat, there is a woman who will cheat with you.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
10:53 am
Comon, it can be more than a dis-honorable discharge, they can court martial you for it.
Ex, military spouse end up divorcing because most of the time it’s not love, but benefits and travel they marry for, when those run out, they run out.
disco
November 13th, 2012
10:58 am
re proximity. same thing goes for co-workers. goodness knows a great deal of affairs get started there.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
10:58 am
Ex a lot of people get married in the military because it comes with benefits, you get base housing, or housing allowances to live off base, you get a raise with every child. You can’t get these things being a single man or woman w/o children until you get up in rank.
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
11:00 am
Disco – I get what you’re saying. I guess if in the military they went after everyone that cheated, they probably would not have many left. But the CIA/FBI – that’s different. Potential for spilling the beans on matters of national security is of greater concern.
Single – The whole military lifestyle is hard. I have a career military uncle whose wife divorced him well before he retired, so she was not worried about losing any benefits. She said she just could not deal with the constant moving around and the lifestyle.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
11:01 am
Disco, I have a co-worker who has been flirting with me since I started working here, thought about it once when I wasn’t in a relationship and hadn’t had any in awhile, but cheat with her, I don’t think so, proximity doesn’t always work. But there have been plenty of them started here, hell some of them both spouses worked here and the still got started.
disco
November 13th, 2012
11:03 am
S/H – that ties in to my perpetual comment to the romantics that a lot of folks get married for reasons that have little to do with love. a lot of those military marriages are “game”. lol.
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
11:03 am
I think that it all comes down to the individual. If you have strong morals, all the proximity in the world won’t make you cheat. And if you don’t? Well, we see how that worked out for Mr. Petraeus…
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
11:04 am
Kimmie, you know that old saying, watch what you ask for because you just might get it. people don’t realize that the military really doesn’t care about your family situation, you belong to them, and they tell you all this upfront.
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
11:05 am
Single – Plus dealing with a spouse’s emotional issues stemming from multiple deployments and those that have seen action is stressful. Add any physical injuries that have occurred and you have a whole new set of problems. All of that is a strain on marriages and families.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
11:06 am
Disco, if you’ve ever stayed around a military base, the women are like vultures eyeing their prey, Especially the ones where the new recruits come in.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
11:08 am
Kimmie for better or worse, in sickness and in health doesn’t really mean that much huh (LOL) JK I know some of those issues are hard to deal with,
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
11:09 am
Single – I know that. That’s actually one of the projects of the1st & 2nd Ladies – assisting military families.
I dated 2 men that were in the military. Let’s just say after the last one, I vowed never to date one again. The issues they had were a bit much for just this mere girlfriend to handle, let alone a wife.
disco
November 13th, 2012
11:10 am
S/H – I know a couple of chicks who upped and married military amputees right quick. I say right quick because they weren’t dating before. they latched on to them quick, hooked them quick, married them quick.
CC – we know that proximity and opportunity alone do not a cheater make. we just agree that if one is prone to cheating proximity and opportunity aid the process.
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
11:14 am
Marrying for military benefits?
Really…that’s real dummie i must say if they do that.
How can you potentially ruin your whole life for a nickel
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
11:17 am
Single/Disco – Those military groupies can have them. The 2 guys I dated in the military I dated them “in spite of” them being in the military. I’ve never been turned on by the uniform or potential benefits or anything like that. Never got why that does it for some, but not me. Plus, the potential for him possibly having to ship out to war always scared me.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
11:17 am
Ex people marry for a nickel all the time, not just the military.
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
11:18 am
Exiled – Your 11:14 – totally agree, and yeah a nickel is about right too. Unless he’s way up there in rank, so not worth it.
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
11:18 am
Disco..,so they married the amputees but they proly ain’t luving them and giving them their fair share of sexual favors…but supplementing elsewhere.
That’s Fraud!
disco
November 13th, 2012
11:20 am
kimmie – kind of related and unrelated but what really irks me about the military is when folks are hounding me for donations to help a soldier’s family. I was at the grocery store recently and the cashier asked if I’d like to donate to benefit military families. I’m like the soldier has a job. his wife may or may not but she can get one. even if she doesn’t that’s what a daggone allotment is for. stop asking me for my money!!! lol. sorry. just a little tirade of mine.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 13th, 2012
11:20 am
Button – My ex repeated that more often times than I cared to hear that “All men cheat”.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
11:21 am
Kimmie, when you have nothing, a nickel is a lot, most of the girls that do that just want to get away from their parents. most of the time they don’t work.
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
11:21 am
You ladies set me wondering….and thinking..
So what did my wife marry me for?
Hmmmm
I’m gon ask her str8 up!
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
11:24 am
Disco, I’m like you, when I went to visit my son, my grandson had a basketball game, you wouldn’t believe all the stair step children running around (yes my son is one of them) I’m thinking damn they need to be handing out birth control. that allotment really isn’t enough. But they should have thought about that before they had them.
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
11:25 am
Single..11:21 u answered my question..I think I can understand that when some young chics are desperate,uneducated and proly failed high school or barely made it.
The tough and rough thing is most of the folks in the army are young high school graduands making such illogical marrying decisions.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
11:25 am
Slim if he repeated it, then he was cheating, because all men don’t cheat, just a lot of us (LOL)
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
11:26 am
Single – You don’t have to tell me, that’s just another one of the things I’m thankful for. I was fortunate that I didn’t feel I had to resort to that. Education and a good upbringing gave me choices alot of young people don’t have.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 13th, 2012
11:31 am
if he repeated it, then he was cheating, because all men don’t cheat, just a lot of us
SH – Believe me, I already knew that. Now I hear he’s trying to walk the straight and and narrow with his new chick. His mom apparently doesn’t like her and wants me to try to break them up. Folks from the islands I tell yal. (Not going to happen) I told her she needs to find a way to deal with her if that’s who he so chooses to be with.
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
11:33 am
kimmie~ Amen! I dated one military guy and figured out very quickly that I was not cut out for that life.
I have a friend with 3 kids and her husband has been deployed for a 1+ twice in the last five years. 
I’m like, you might as well be a single parent because you do it all anyway. Negative! I will have to pass on that.
MsAtl
November 13th, 2012
11:33 am
Morning All!
There are certain things that I think get too much credit. Those are that a beautiful woman can overcome the will of any man; that if your spouse is not a bombshell that is a reason to cheat; that if your spouse is not doing everything you want, you will cheat, etc. etc. Bottom line, some people are predisposed to cheating and some people will cheat no matter what kind of man or woman they have at home.
While I don’t think an affair is geberally a reason to lose your job or career, there are some exceptions. The UCMJ makes adultery a crime. Patraeus knew this and still made a CHOICE to have an affair. Not to mention, his position demands a man of honesty and integrity who is able to resist temptation.
Yes the military lifestyle can be stressful (on both the member and the spouse). I was a military wife for 16 years and it was not easy. Also, contrary to popular belief, the benefits are not as great as people think they are.
As for Patraeus, he can’t be discharged because he retired. I don’t know that there is any jurisdiction to court-martial him, but there may be some mechanism for him to lose his retirement benefits.
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
11:38 am
Exiled – A lot of those military high school grads barely made it out. They aren’t going to college and can’t find a decent job paying any benefits. For alot of the girls that latch on to them, it’s a step up.
Those that rise in the ranks have more going for them. As far as I know, to get into Officers Training school you have to have a college degree. Those folk aren’t the ones running around with 10 kids usually.
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
11:40 am
Well said MsAtl.
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
11:41 am
Great post, MsAtl!
One of my best friends is a former Air Force recruiter, so that’s how I get alot of info about the military. It really is not all some folk think it is.
Button
November 13th, 2012
11:45 am
Exile you mean to tell me you don’t know why your wife married you? wow
Robert
November 13th, 2012
11:46 am
Married men who served in the military for 20 years or more are 80% more likely to be divorced when their service ends. One of the main reasons is because they have a hard time adjusting to the real world when they return to society. They have severe emotional problems which lead to both physical and verbal abuse after they return home. In fact most women who have husbands that serve in the military as a career have higher incidents of “cheating” on their husbands than women whose husbands do not serve in the military.
Questions
Ladies, do you know women who “cheat” on their husband who choose a 20+ year career in the military?
Guys, how many of you served in the military and got divorced when service ended?
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
11:48 am
One of the main reasons is because they have a hard time adjusting to the real world when they return to society.
Robert – Bingo! Don’t know how many times I have seen this. Forget homelife, I’ve worked with ex-miltary and alot just have a hard time adjusting.
Jake-SPJTWB
November 13th, 2012
11:49 am
What up Blog Dudes and Dudedettes…
To an extent we are all powerless to our lustful nature…but it is a choice one makes…I have chosen a committed monogomas path, as this Western culture dictates…but every time let a piece a puddy walk away that I know i should bust wide open….died a lil bit inside….lol
disco
November 13th, 2012
11:49 am
robert – can’t think of any women who cheat through the 20 year mark. most of the chicks I know hold out until the 10 year mark and then they dip.
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
11:57 am
11:45 Button…given how u chics are so sly,I may never know.
u don’t have a sense of humor do u?
Bluzgirl
November 13th, 2012
11:58 am
No excuse for cheating or for being the one chasing the married person. If you are willing to cheat, then you are not worthy of the love from your partner. I will not tolerate being cheated on. I really don’t think I could forgive a man for doing that to me. You wanna sleep with someone else? End it with me first…
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
November 13th, 2012
12:01 pm
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November 13th, 2012
12:01 pm
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czBrat ♀
November 13th, 2012
12:03 pm
sorry, folks. stapler on the ‘enter’ key.
good noon, good people. time to play catchup.
disco
November 13th, 2012
12:06 pm
wrong or not, y’all have to admit that a good cheating story is highly entertaining. one of my play cousins told me that his girlfriend came through the window on him on the downstroke. said his backside was all up in the air and he was nothing but cold busted. I couldn’t do anything but crack up.
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
12:08 pm
When you watch the tape of this woman on the Jon Stewart show,hearing her blabbering about Patreus then this..banging him….
it’s not pretty…why?
She is so accomplished herself.
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
12:14 pm
it’s not pretty…why?
She is so accomplished herself. = You make it sound like only wanton idiots cheat.
MsAtl
November 13th, 2012
12:14 pm
I know quite a few ex-military families that are intact. My ex was in the military for 16 years. When he got out of the military, I was still there 12 years after he left the military. His downfall was that he entered into a successful second career, he let his “success” go to his head and thought it was his right to have any woman he wanted. And just like Petraeus & a lot of others that make the news, he thought he would not get caught and thought he would not face consequences. He lost his license, career and family behind his lack of self control. With all of the puddy on Atlanta streets, he went “shopping” in his office. He forgot the number one rule- don’t get your puddy and your paycheck in the same place. He would not have me but he would still have his career.
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
12:15 pm
Disco…that was in the downstairs bedroom during the day and the curtains wide open?
Hopefully the other chic was not moarning!
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
12:17 pm
Leggs…it’s idiotic when u get caught
And u are an idiot after u get caught.
Before u get caught u the one!
czBrat ♀
November 13th, 2012
12:18 pm
dunno about powerless but men are definitely weak when it comes to women.
temptation and opportunity is a problem, true, but i think ego plays as big a role as any.
have a woman stroke his ego and he’s all to happy to let her stroke anything she wants.
i’ve never met a man who’s sorry for cheating, but i know a couple of them sorry they got caught.
and i’ve not yet met any women willing to admit to infidelity so ….
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
12:20 pm
Ex ~ you’re an idiot before and after you get caught. #1 – you’re an idiot thinking you’ve covered all bases and won’t get caught. What’s done in the dark always comes to the light!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 13th, 2012
12:21 pm
I couldn’t imagine seeing my dude pumping some other chicks puddy…
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
12:25 pm
Slim~ ditto!
Bluzgirl
November 13th, 2012
12:25 pm
I think if I walked in on my man in the act, I would go to jail for murder…
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
12:29 pm
Yea…Leggs I know what u say..
My Jon Stewart reference was from a perspective of seeing and hearing her before u knew she was cleaning Paterues knob.
Talking bout the marathons,west point etc
Willie Dynamite
November 13th, 2012
12:31 pm
Afternoon all,
Topic- that story is turning into a lifetime movie. Quite a few interesting replies from some of you. I’ll sit back and browse some more.
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
12:31 pm
Yea…Leggs I know what u say.. – What code is this?
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
12:32 pm
And Ex. That’s exactly why the book is going to fly off the shelves now. People are going to see what they can detect from reading between the lines.
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
12:36 pm
I don’t know bout reading the book
It’s a Con job..the author is not credible!
Celisea
November 13th, 2012
12:40 pm
This whole Patraeus thing is hogwash….of course IMO He’s a cheater like all other cheaters. Cheaters cheat…period. Frankly all this hoopla is attention not deserved. It’s folks and the media that plays it up and makes it bigger than it should be. Ignore his kind and the noise will die. He’s a mere mortal man like all the rest of them. What power???
I will say, I think was funny as heck and the post of the day for me…lol On the contrary I think you grow a little more, the more accepting of “you just can’t have it all”, that you become
I have chosen a committed monogomas path, as this Western culture dictates…but every time let a piece a puddy walk away that I know i should bust wide open….died a lil bit inside….lol
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
12:42 pm
Of course the author is not credible. BUT, she did write her first book and what a doosey!
disco
November 13th, 2012
12:44 pm
I’ll run off at the mouth about cheating in general and the few cases that I know of personally but I’m really not that interested in celebrity sex scandals. could care less. I haven’t read anything re this current scandal other than what I’ve read here on the blog.
brat – re women not owning cheating. that’s because we are smarter when it comes to cheating. sure women cheat. you likely won’t trick a woman into confessing though. she’d have to be caught dead to rights. look how many husbands are walking around calling their sons Jr. when that little boy looks just like so and so. lol.
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
12:45 pm
Meaning, anyone else laugh at the title once this mess came to light?
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
12:48 pm
Kimmie @your 11:38 to go to officers training school you don’t need a degree you just have to be selected, most officers come from college trough rotc or the academies, and yes even some officers have a lot of kids, because of the allotment
Willie Dynamite
November 13th, 2012
12:49 pm
Yeah Jakes post (last paragraph) had me cracking up and nodding in approval. Hahaha
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
12:51 pm
Kimmie @your 11:38 to go to officers training school you don’t need a degree you just have to be selected, most officers come from college trough rotc or the academies, and yes even some officers have a lot of kids, because of the allotment.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
12:52 pm
as far as cheating, it aint cheating if you don’t get caught
Celisea
November 13th, 2012
12:53 pm
On women cheaters being smarter. It’s true. I can’t recall (until this time in my life), having worked or being friends with women that cheated and their men were none the wiser. I mentioned on here before that two coworkers (not friends but coworkers), did the double date thing EVERY Friday with their side dudes. Their husbands would have “a night with the kids” while those two galavanted around with their BFs. Back then, it was soooo unbelievable to me, their lack of conscious and being cool with. Well, I’ve grown over the years and I ain’t saying it’s okay…by any means, but it’s just not a thing incredible no more. I’m not jaded at all. I’m just a little less naive, a bit more worldly and a bit more wiser.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 13th, 2012
12:58 pm
Man this day is draaaggin by..
Jake-SPJTWB
November 13th, 2012
1:01 pm
Celisea/Willie…its just the truth, there are times when you know, I mean know, that if you just applied the slightest of pressure, this woman will let you have it, but you can’t becuase you went slipped up some years back a fell in love and are committed….then Lil One Eye look at you, shake his head and say….”I don’t even know who are these days, you changed on me”…lol
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 13th, 2012
1:02 pm
two coworkers (not friends but coworkers), did the double date thing EVERY Friday with their side dudes. Their husbands would have “a night with the kids” while those two galavanted around with their BFs.
Jake-SPJTWB
November 13th, 2012
1:03 pm
you
Celisea
November 13th, 2012
1:06 pm
Jake – LOLOLOL…okaaaay Shoot, that’s a good thing. Temptation is all around each and every one of us all….IMO Just depends on how you roll. The risk just don’t outweigh the reward.
Willie Dynamite
November 13th, 2012
1:07 pm
Man you preaching to the choir. Thing is (my opinion only) sometimes just knowing is enough to me. Sometimes.
Celisea
November 13th, 2012
1:10 pm
No kidding on the coworkers. They’d be getting dolled up after work and changing clothes. JUST NO SHAME. One’s husband was so under a rock (he’d come up to the job) and the other’s hub was fine as heck. Later she told me (cause I asked…lol) how he cheated on her all the while pre-marriage and a few years into the marriage. Soooo, you married him still? Yeah, um okay. She felt it was payback time. How silly was that???
Of course they had one kid pre-marriage. Maybe that’s why she married him…shrugs
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 13th, 2012
1:10 pm
Temptation is all around each and every one of us all….IMO Just depends on how you roll.
Worth repeating…
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
1:16 pm
he felt it was payback time. How silly was that??? – very silly. One of the dumbest excuses out there. You will degrade yourself, throw your morals and ethics out the window just for some payback that you did with your body for the sake of revenge and not even caring about the person you gave your body to. That’s makes a helluva lot of sense to me. Just talking about those that are in it solely for payback and don’t care about the person they’re f……!
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
1:16 pm
Celisea..so u saying the married women have taken this thang over to nuther level?
Sly and all…..
Maybe abc will come outa lurking
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
1:22 pm
I used to work with this woman that cheated, saw her boyfriend at the mall with another woman, and tried to jump on her, the amazing thing was she was with her husband.
Now I’ve messed with married women, but had to stop when I was at this road side dairy bar and she pulled up with her husband and told him to tell me she wanted to see me while he was ordering food, too much for me had to leave them alone, they crazy (LOL)
Celisea
November 13th, 2012
1:23 pm
Mmeelo – I’m saying men don’t have the monopoly or patent on cheating. And as mentioned earlier women do it, IMO for different reasons than men, but they do it just the same. My kid’s dad aunt did the same thing. She was at least 65 and had 9 kids. She sat down (of course grossed me out cause I was like 29 ish) and told me the same. She said Bo ran around on her their entire marriage and she was fed up. He was now (at that time), in a state of needing physical help and all she could think about was how she had to sit by and watch, care for the kids, while he ran around. I’m not saying it’s okay….AT ALL…but I think sometimes, men don’t realize the damage it does. Me? I say walk. Walk away and be done. Why put yourself through that or why spin your wheel doing something that’s not beneficial?? But, you just never know what it does to a woman. IJS..not advocating, but IJS
I’ve said it before, I walked once cause I felt a dude cheated. Could never confirm and all he could say was I think too much like a dude. Well, for me, in my mind, all I could see and hear was him doing and saying the same thing to me that he said to another. That’s enough to send me packing. Nope, no can do.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 13th, 2012
1:24 pm
Thing is (my opinion only) sometimes just knowing is enough to me. Sometimes.
Don’t do it Willie…
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
1:24 pm
I used to work with this woman that cheated, saw her boyfriend at the mall with another woman, and tried to jump on her, the amazing thing was she was with her husband. – This can’t be true (lol).
Celisea
November 13th, 2012
1:27 pm
I should say doing and saying to another, the same he said to me. He was my man
Just those small little things that makes your stomach flipflop that gives it away. Y’all know how I feel about gut and intuition….lololol
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
1:28 pm
Leggs, I thought the same thing when I heard it, until I heard it from her! This same woman shot her husband and he still didn’t leave.
Button
November 13th, 2012
1:32 pm
I have a good sense of humor Exile
Jake-SPJTWB
November 13th, 2012
1:41 pm
Conversations with One Eye:
1eye: Hey, Hey, hey…what you doing, she leaving
Jake: I know, gotta let her ride out
1eye: what you mean
Jake: You know we don’t go all them different places anymore
1eye: Your Fault, gettin married
Jake: Don’t be like that, you love what we got at home
1eye: Yea, but I know where everything is there, its quite an adventure, but we used to go here, there, everywhere
Jake: Hey I’m looking out for you, I wanna make sure you don’t get sick.
1eye: I know, but maybe I can wear my skull cap like you used too
Jake: We can’t, besides you hate that skull cap
1eye: yea, i do, think I could not wear my hat with her
Jake: NO
1eye: what about that one
Jake: NO
1eye: what about her, she gotta be cool
Jake: NO
1eye: so you saying if we go any of the other places, I gotta put that hat on
Jake: Just so you know, we are not going anywhere else, but Yep
1eye: Well take me home then, I ain’t wearing no dayum hat
Jake: Yea knee-grow, that’s what I thought
Willie Dynamite
November 13th, 2012
1:41 pm
Hahaha, I haven’t met her yet. So far so good.
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
1:42 pm
Single…she had the gutso to talk to u with her hubby feet away?
I was bout to say u strokked her better than the hubby did…,but on reflection…for ur preferences…,
U proly went down on her better!
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
1:45 pm
Ex I see you still don’t understand the meaning of ALMOST
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
1:46 pm
I think it’s better to cheat by watching porn.
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
1:47 pm
Where is Almost Single?
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
1:57 pm
This same woman shot her husband and he still didn’t leave. – Sounds like Jackie Christie. Something about that woman is keeping him there through all her craziness. You shoot me, me taking flight. It’s a wrap!
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
2:00 pm
Ex, you are a trip. Almost is a brickwall that yells HELL NO!
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
2:00 pm
as far as cheating, it aint cheating if you don’t get caught
You just reminded me of that ad for “Moonshiners” when the guy says “Ain’t nothing illegal til you get caught…” LMAO!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 13th, 2012
2:00 pm
Temptation is all around us so with that said, i’m tempted to pack my ish up and go home. I need a vacation
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
2:02 pm
comon, now you know your clients don’t regret anything until they get caught and convicted (LOL)
cba
November 13th, 2012
2:06 pm
Comon, do you watch “Moonshiners”? That was Tickle who made that comment.
I think the little cut socialite, Kelly, is more involved than we currently know……stay tune.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 13th, 2012
2:07 pm
Sounds like Jackie Christie. Something about that woman is keeping him there through all her craziness.
Doug got some hood in him…behind that mega watt smile, he’s got some stuff bubbling right under the surface. I got a snippet of it when they were on the last reunion show. It’s like Bobby n Whitney at first when everybody was like
tryna figure it out. Then it all came to light that they were two peas in a pod.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
2:09 pm
Leggs, you aint got to shoot me, pull any kind of weapon on me, and the last thing you’ll see me leaving in a hurry (LOL)
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 13th, 2012
2:16 pm
I thought you liked that kind of isht Single.
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
2:19 pm
yes even some officers have a lot of kids, because of the allotment.
Single – Well at least they can afford it better!
I think the Patraeus story would get a decent amount of play anyway because of his position, but I think alot of the attention is political. He was due to testify this week about Benghazi. He can still be called to testify, but your conspiracy folks think the timing is suspect.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
2:19 pm
sassy, light bondage, when you start pulling out knives baseball bats, guns etc, it’s time to go, aint nothing hot and sexy about that (LOL)
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
2:22 pm
There are four options to joining the military as an officer:
Academy (for high school students with outstanding grades)
ROTC (for people that want to go to a regular college and have it payed for)
OCS (for people that already have a bachelor’s degree and want a better payed military job)
Direct commission (for people that already have a degree and training in a much needed area like medical or clergymen)
Read more: How to Become a Military Officer | eHow.com http://www.ehow.com/how_4741710_become-military-officer.html#ixzz2C8GEOo6P
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
2:24 pm
Kimmie they get better housing, but by the private sector scales their pay isn’t really that much better. and when you have no mortgage you can do alot more with your money.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
2:26 pm
Kimmie those are options for joining as an officer, enlisted can be selected to go to officer training school, it’s rare but it does happen.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 13th, 2012
2:27 pm
Sassy – I’m so intrigued by the relationship of Doug and Jackie Christie…i missed the reunion show so what did he do to make you think he has something bubbling under the surface. Jackie just seems 100% delusional and her own kids don’t really have much to do with her either. Strange
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
2:27 pm
Single – If you had 5 kids, would you rather be a Private or an 2nd Lietenant?
Whatever benefits available, I want to have the option of getting them.
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
2:28 pm
This sure is gon be better than a lifetime movie coz the other general who replaced Patreus and the woman that was harassed by email seem also entangled sexually.
She is also married.
hmmmmm
For Real
November 13th, 2012
2:30 pm
What up blog fam!
On topic: People cheat because they can period. Men get caught because they don’t care no mo. Women get caught because they don’t want him to leave and be happy with another woman.
Jake holding court today… But my convo went like this
Mista Wesel: For Real check out that ass ova there! Come on let go holla.
For Real: Hole on now Mista Wesel, we can’t be doing that no mo.
Mista Wesel: Hell you say!!
For Real; NO!
Mista Wesel: Well ain’t nothing wrong with accidently rubbing up on some booty as we walk by?
For Real: Excuse me. Sorry maam. Excuse me. My bad. That’s my flashlight.
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
2:33 pm
Slim/Sassy – It is something facinating, that Christie thing. It’s something keeping him there though!
Single – I know it does happen, though probably not as much as it used to and I definitely wouldn’t advise a person of color to bank on it, sad to say. I asked my old boss that sits near me about it. He was in the Marines years ago. He said back then you didn’t need a degree, but he said things have changed. He sent me the above link.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 13th, 2012
2:35 pm
so what did he do to make you think he has something bubbling under the surface.
He passed several comments about he and Jackies lives but towards the end of his stint on stage dude was like he didn’t give n’aan fck about who did or didn’t like it. For those few moments some hood seeped out of those pressed edges…it was enough to let me know that if some isht popped off he’d be in the fray right next to her crazy azz.
Okay Single, I get it
For Real
November 13th, 2012
2:36 pm
Slim: Crazy puddy is the bomb!!! Doug was hooked the first she sucked his duck through his rectum.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
2:36 pm
Kimmie of course a second lieutenant, but now if you got 5 kids, you better be a sergeant or a captain, because if you still a one of those lower rankings, you’re about to be put out. (LOL)
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 13th, 2012
2:39 pm
It’s something keeping him there though!
As I’ve said, they’ve got some shared personality traits but his isn’t as obvious as hers but they’re there..
Okay gotta hit the gym..read y’all in an hour or so…
For Real
November 13th, 2012
2:40 pm
“Single – If you had 5 kids, would you rather be a Private or an 2nd Lietenant?” – I know you didn’t ask me but if I had 5 kids would rather be missing in action.
For Real now scratching his agent orange.
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
2:40 pm
you’re about to be put out. (LOL)
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
2:42 pm
Missing in action!! LOL!!!
What’s shakin, For Real??
For Real
November 13th, 2012
2:44 pm
Nothing much Kimmie. I found some time to play today. How’s your fam doing?
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
2:44 pm
cba~ I do watch it and I think you’re right. It’s my little guilty pleasure…
Kelly is definitely more involved than they are letting on!
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
2:45 pm
For real my first thought was, hell I aint having no five kids (LOL)
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
2:46 pm
For Real – Fam is doing great! Good to read ya!
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
2:46 pm
For real, Kimmie, when my son had his third child, I asked him hadn’t he figured out what caused that disease yet, on #4 & 5 I just told him he’s a better man than me.
For Real
November 13th, 2012
2:55 pm
After dealing with his 6th baby mama from his five kids Single barged into the General’s office….
Single: Sir! Reporting for duty!
Gen: Duty? Son you just got back from action. Hell you ain’t healed up yet.
Single: Tis but a scratch sir!
Gen: Scratch? Dayum son I can see part of you small intestine. Now what the hell is going on?
Single: (in his Doughboy voice) Either they don’t know, don’t show, or don’t care about what’s going on in the hood.
cba
November 13th, 2012
2:55 pm
@Comon~ I watch it because it reminds me of the stories my grandma would tell about my uncles and other cousins making that “shine”. A couple even served some time.
Dam!! off to take my first flu shot……EVER!!! If you hear a deep scream, it’s me
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
2:55 pm
Single – LOL!! Actually, the 5 kids thing stuck in my head because my friend, the Air Force recruiter, has 5 kids! I went to college with her, and while she does come from a family of 5 siblings, she is the last one I expected to have 5. She had 2 with her 1st husband and 3 with her 2nd & present hubs. The last one was a surprise! Both hubs are military as well. Yeah, that allotment really came in handy!. The oldest 2 are out of the house now, one in the military too.
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
2:57 pm
I agree Single, you don’t have to shoot me. Just pull any weapon on me and I’m ghost. It could be a hairbrush you trying to beat me with, I’m gone! Just had a flashback to Claudine (old movie).
“It’s something keeping him there though!” – Love, combined with a little fear of coo coo and knowing i’ts cheaper to keep her.
DreamsMaterialize
November 13th, 2012
2:59 pm
All I’ll say on the topic is that the military is WIDE open, and people just look the other way. When the soldiers ship out, you can find all their wives at the club that weekend.
Hey ladies. Sup fellas.
For Real
November 13th, 2012
2:59 pm
Single: You should have tied your son’s wang in a knott after the 2nd.
For Real
November 13th, 2012
3:02 pm
PSA for FLU SHOOTS:
It is physically impossible for a doctor to give you a shoot in the ass with both of his hands on your shoulders. I repeat… It is physically impossible for a doctor to give you a shoot in the ass with both of his hands on your shoulders.
THAT IS ALL!!!!!
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
3:07 pm
for real, I suggested that after the second, but hell I’m only dad, what do I know (LOL)
Kimmie a child as a surprise, after 4, hell they knew what caused that disease also (LOL)
disco
November 13th, 2012
3:09 pm
S/H – don’t sleep on those accident/surprise/mistake/blessing babies. they sneak in on a lot of folks.
MsAtl
November 13th, 2012
3:13 pm
Dreams- From what I have heard, the military has changed over the past several years. While we were in, I saw more than one soldier get busted and lose rank for adultery. I also saw a soldier get discharged from the military for an affair with a lower-ranking soldier.
Also, personally speaking, I was too busy being mommy & daddy to be in the club when my ex was deployed.
For Real- lol @ your Flu shot PSA.
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
3:13 pm
Single – It was wild, cause the last 2 are about a year apart, meaning it had not been long since #4. She had said she was getting her tubes tied after 4 and I thought she had done it. She said she was bleeding heavy or something, so the doc could not do it. She called me absolutely shell-shocked!
#5 and I have a special relationship! My friend says it’s because he knows I spoke up for him in the womb!LOL!!
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
3:15 pm
When the soldiers ship out, all their wives at the club that weekend. – Come on now, DreamsM. Can’t you give some of them some credit. All aren’t waiting for that ship to sale to go party.
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
3:17 pm
All aren’t waiting for that ship to sale to go party.
Leggs – Sadly not all, but quite a few are. Dreams is not the first person I’ve heard that from.
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
3:20 pm
don’t sleep on those accident/surprise/mistake/blessing babies. they sneak in on a lot of folks.
Preach, disco! I had my TUBES TIED before little Ms. Cents showed up! A year later, here come Ms. Lady…
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
3:23 pm
Sex, Lies & Email
The headline now on Huffington Post.com
disco
November 13th, 2012
3:24 pm
oooh. CC. you were one of them? that sucks. lol. of course you love your baby and all but I know several folks who thought they were “good” and that surprise floored them.
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
3:24 pm
sail….
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
3:26 pm
That’s why when I tied my tubes, I stopped having sex with my husband (lolol). I know this isn’t funny, but my warped sense of humor has me cracking up over here.
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
3:26 pm
No surprise babies for me!
Jake-SPJTWB
November 13th, 2012
3:27 pm
Lots of Military wives step-out…dude is absent, on the other side of the world, there is no fear of him walking in and catching her when he is stationed in Kuwait.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 13th, 2012
3:28 pm
Doug was hooked the first she sucked his duck through his rectum.
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
3:32 pm
I can’t wait for Scandal this week!!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 13th, 2012
3:35 pm
For Real – I miss yo crazy ass…oh and the rest of you too
esenoleV
November 13th, 2012
3:35 pm
First off, nice try on moderating me cowards. On topic, no woman alive has power over me.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
3:37 pm
disco if you’ve never done anything to prevent it, it’s no accident/surprise/mistake/blessing babies. you know what can happen.
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
3:37 pm
Lord Velonese has opened his coffin days before the showing of Twlight. Lord Velonese, you have always reminded of Dark Shadows.
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
3:40 pm
S/H~ Even if you do, sometimes it can happen.
disco~ Yeah, I’m one of those. And it took me a LONG time to see it as a blessing!
I cried for weeks, you hear me?
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
3:44 pm
comon if you’ve done things to prevent it then it is a accident/surprise/mistake/blessing babies.
me and an ex got into a heated discussion once because she was telling me a friend of hers was pregnant, and it was a blessing, now mind you this friend was always borrowing money, husband wouldn’t keep a job, and stayed in and out of jail for child support. I failed to see the blessing in that!
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
3:46 pm
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disco
November 13th, 2012
3:47 pm
CC – a lot of folks I know that have those late life babies sneak in on them are almost suicidal. they take it hard. one lady I know thought she was going through menopause only to find out she was pregnant. mid 40s. no children. she’d spent a lifetime being careful and “protected” but if it’s meant to be it’s meant to be.
For Real
November 13th, 2012
3:49 pm
Friend: Girl congrats on the new baby.
Comon: Whateva!
Friend: Um, okay.. Hey what’s the baby name?
Comon: Retirement Down the Fugging Drain Jankins aka Awwww Dayum!!!!
disco
November 13th, 2012
3:50 pm
S/H – as the resident teen parent I specifically recall feeling everything but blessed when I realized I was pregnant. still, as an adult I recognize it for what it is. this is just my own math but I figure for every unplanned teen pregnancy or every single mother having another kid with another baby daddy there’s probably some married couple or older, single woman out there with fertility issues. doesn’t matter how they get here, the babies are a blessing (and that’s whether it’s in disguise or not).
For Real
November 13th, 2012
3:52 pm
aka Pull out my ass
aka He ain’t touching me again
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
3:53 pm
Disco, maybe, but for it to be a blessing, it has to be from god, which mean god blessed you for going against his word and sinning. and children born into bad situations, how is that a blessing. I’m not saying all aren’t but some aren’t.
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
3:53 pm
O/T: Not to bring this back up on Petraeus’ looks, but I just looked at a pic of him and it finally dawned on me. He looks just like Don Knotts in Mr. Lippitt.
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
3:53 pm
disco – That’s so sweet!
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
3:54 pm
technically, I’m a teen parent also
dang are you sure we’re not the wonder twins (LOL)
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
3:55 pm
Disco, the blessing is what we made of it, we took on our responsibilities and didn’t let one huge mistake for some keep us from going forward.
disco
November 13th, 2012
3:57 pm
S/H – the fornication is the sin, not the kids. at least that’s how I was taught to believe. doesn’t matter how they got here, once they are here they should be appreciated. (and by the way, you see how I’m refraining from going all religious on it. lol.)
kimmie – what’s so sweet? I missed it.
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
3:59 pm
disco – Your 3:50 post.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
4:00 pm
disco, without the sin, they wouldn’t be here. Yes they should be appreciate, unfortunately everyone doesn’t see it that way
no child should have to pay for what some felt was a mistake, they never asked for any of it.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
4:01 pm
That is unless your name is Mary!:-D
disco
November 13th, 2012
4:03 pm
S/H – while I see and understand your perspective I guess this is one time that we aren’t seeing eye to eye. thing is, somebody has to have the babies and if that somebody is nay nay and june bug in the projects or bobby ricky and amber lynn in the trailer park then so be it. folks sitting around waiting to have X number of degrees, the so called perfect spouse and X amount of money in the bank may find themselves looking for somebody else’s baby to adopt when it’s all said and done.
kimmie – I thought so but I wasn’t sure. in that regard I do agree with S/H. to be totally honest for a very long time I saw my son as more burden than blessing but at the end of the day we can call that perspective.
Celisea
November 13th, 2012
4:09 pm
Okay, where’s my long post???
I’m out
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
4:09 pm
disco – While fate has a way of messing up the best laid plans, nothing wrong with trying to do things in the best way possible. I sincerely hope my daughter at least finishes college and finds a nice guy to marry before she has a little one.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
4:10 pm
Disco, someone has to have the kids, but if you’re not going to take responsibility for these kids, don’t say they are a blessing, I’m sure you know just like I know women who go out and have kids with guys that aren’t already taking care of their other kids, fuss all the time about what he ain’t doing but then call it a blessing?? for me if it was truly a blessing both parents would handle their business to the best of their ability, regardless of what station in life they are at. The would always do what’s in the best interest of the child.
Celisea
November 13th, 2012
4:12 pm
The blog monster sure is getting picky….I was basically agreeing that life have to be replenished. So if you block, stop, wait, pull-out, etc etc etc, that will stop life. Just like in the wild there has to be kept a balance, as with human life, the concept remain the same. Folks die and babies are born.
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
4:13 pm
For Real~ You stoopid!
But on the real, by the end of my pregnancy I was posting eviction notices on my stomach. “My little souvenir” had to get the hell out!
Celisea
November 13th, 2012
4:13 pm
Now, I’m out
MsAtl
November 13th, 2012
4:14 pm
Disco & S/H- another teen parent here. I was 19 with 2 children, but I’ll be dayumed if I was going to be anyone’s statistic!
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
4:17 pm
So, maybe you guys can offer me some advice on what to say to my 14 year old cousin who is having the baby. She seems to think that dude is going to become so great guy because she knocked up when he was cheating on her even before she found out she was pregnant. I’m glad she is keeping the baby, but I also don’t want her to have some rose-colored view of what life is about to be like. Is there anything that anyone could have said to you all that would have made a difference on your outlook?
For Real
November 13th, 2012
4:17 pm
Disco: I like your honesty… I respect people that are honest about themselves. I wish more people were like that.
For Real now wonder if Disco got her tubes tied and what flavor of liqurious is her favorite.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 13th, 2012
4:20 pm
He looks just like Don Knotts in Mr. Lippitt.
Eeew and why did an image of a pig in a blanket come to mind?
disco
November 13th, 2012
4:21 pm
Mrs. Atl – we are all statistics. lol.
S/H – just one more and I’m done. regardless of the parent or parents’ parenting, all I’m saying is that the life (i.e. the child) is a blessing. not going into anything deeper than that. just saying life itself is a blessing.
for real – nope. tubes not tied. but I might be the first person in medical history to OD on birth control and I ain’t even getting any. lol.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
4:24 pm
comon, not really, because everyone was saying it, and we didn’t listen. The best thing to do is not make it convenient for her to get another.
Life goes on, but to bring a child in this world and then starve them to death, drown them, burn them up, shall I go on!! where is the blessing in that? some people don’t need to have children. Children need all the love and attention that they deserve!!
I have never really wanted kids, but I don’t regret a day of having my kids. love them forever!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 13th, 2012
4:26 pm
Non-mother here…so no teen mother stories to share. My mom was a teen mom though..Got preggers with me at 16, had me at 17. That is all
kimmie
November 13th, 2012
4:28 pm
Comon – That can happen in any family. We are trying to be sure we don’t “glamorize” the teen moms to the up & coming generation, while we continue to offer support and encouragement.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
4:28 pm
well time for me to “pull out” (LOL) have a great evening
MsAtl
November 13th, 2012
4:28 pm
Disco- I mean the typical negative stereotypes that folks try to pin on us. Granted, I was a married 19 yo with 2 kids, but still.
Comon- I think the best thing is to let your cousin know that it will not be easy and convince her to do what she has to do for her child whether she is with the father or not. We know that if daddy is a douche before the baby, daddy will likely be a douche after the baby, but you don’t have to tell her that. Just encourage her as a mother and let that be. The rosy tint will fade on its own.
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
4:29 pm
Single ~ I think disco is saying all children are a blessing, but unfortunately, it’s the parents who doesn’t see that and harm them, drown them, kill them. It doesn’t take away the fact that they are blessing from God. They were simply a blessing for the wrong people.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
4:32 pm
Leggs, do you think god sends down blessing for sinning? for some without the sin there wouldn’t be that blessing. that was the last stroke, now i’m really going to “pull out”, read you guys later
disco
November 13th, 2012
4:33 pm
S/H – I see you aren’t budging. I respect that especially since I used to be right there with you. I had a cousin who had her first at 17 and had 4 by early 20s. all four kids had different fathers. said cousin died in an accident at 28. we, and I see we, collectively, the family as a whole, are glad those four kids are here.
leggs – that’s exactly what I’m saying. I’m not talking about specific circumstances. just life. and I’ll go a step further and disagree with your statement that they were a blessing for the wrong people. since I was taught God doesn’t make mistakes I’ll say he blessed the right people but the right people just weren’t ready for their blessing.
where is celisea? she’s the one that gets all churchy. I try not to. lol.
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
4:35 pm
Single, how many blessings have come your way during your years of sinning??? I’m just asking.
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
4:38 pm
“I’ll say he blessed the right people but the right people just weren’t ready for their blessing.” – how are they the right people if they weren’t ready and refused to get “ready” because God doesn’t make mistakes? God is always on time, His time, not our time. The statement seems skewed.
For Real
November 13th, 2012
4:40 pm
on the teen preggos thingy…. We need to stop glorifying single moms!! We need to make parenting EQUAL! No he can’t just walk away and pay child support! We need to take away the infrastructure of support and push it back onto the parents and grandparents! We need to stop having 36 year old grandparents preggo with Aunts and Uncles that’s the same age of the grandchildren!
disco
November 13th, 2012
4:40 pm
leggs – it is skewed. lol. my only point is that he (in his infinite wisdom) chose to give that baby to those people. he could have chosen to give the baby to someone else. whether or not they handled it right/treated it right/raised it right is a whole nother something and I don’t profess to be able to explain the whys, how comes and what fors.
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
4:43 pm
Ok, disco.
disco
November 13th, 2012
4:48 pm
for real – I do agree with you re not glorifying single parenthood. believe it or not, I have never once ever referred to myself as a “single mother”. I kind of cringe when I hear single parents do it. just like I cringe when I hear a woman talk about her “baby daddy”. it’s just not cute to me.
by the way, I’ve mentioned before that both my sets of grandparents were essentially having kids and grandkids at the same time.
ok leggs. lol. sometimes expressing the right point can be a bit difficult.
For Real
November 13th, 2012
4:48 pm
First God does not chose when to give people children people make that choice. So, that should clear up the “skewedness of disco post”. It’s funny how people forget they have FREE WILL when the consequence of their decision slaps the ish out them!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 13th, 2012
4:50 pm
We need to stop glorifying single moms!! We need to make parenting EQUAL! No he can’t just walk away and pay child support!
Aaaaamen, I shole don’t want a kid as merely a paycheck. I want the father of my kid to be an active parent and role model for our child…and not just a baby sitter whenever i need a break lol
For Real
November 13th, 2012
4:50 pm
Make a bad decision and it’s God’s will. Make a good decision and you’re the most awesome person on the planet. Funny ain’t it?
For Real
November 13th, 2012
4:53 pm
Slim: I believe if they take away child support (which is a revenue stream for states so it ain’t going nowhere) and replace it with shared parenting that would take away the incentive of money for the child and take away the incentive of money to solve the problem of having a child.
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
4:53 pm
“I cringe when I hear a woman talk about her “baby daddy”. it’s just not cute to me.” – I can relate, disco. Never liked it, and the smiles and smirks “hey this here my baby daddy, ain’t he cute!” Who gives a flying f…
disco ~ I’ve been explaining something off this blog that’s difficult to explain so I definitely know what you’re saying.
disco
November 13th, 2012
4:54 pm
for real – thing is all that free will means nothing to the couple that have been screwing like rabbits, using ovulation tests, getting fertility treatments and everything else trying to get pregnant. my point – and my only point really – is that God calls the shots in determining who is going to be “blessed” with a baby. whether you are screwing a little or a lot, whether you are married or not, whether your tubes or tied or not, it is his will.
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
5:05 pm
MsAtl~ I can’t help but to WANT to tell her that he’s a douche. It’s like she thinks that a baby is going to “bind” him to her and make him stay. Ughhh!!!
As far as sinning leading to blessings, although I couldn’t see it at the time, my daughter is definitely a blessing and for those of you who were here when I first came, you know I was definitely sinning when she was conceived. IJS…
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
5:14 pm
My point, Comon.
For Real
November 13th, 2012
5:17 pm
Comon: You will do you cousin no justice if you don’t tell her what’s in front of her. Would you scream WALL if she was about to run into one?
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
5:19 pm
For Real~ Absolutely. But she’s 14 and in that puppy love phase where she knows EVERYTHING! I have a feeling this baby is going to slap her back to reality though, especially when ol boy shows up at the hospital (if he bothers to come) with his new chick…
For Real
November 13th, 2012
5:23 pm
Disco: No God does not call the shots when it comes to who can or who cannot have babies. People call that shot exclusively. If a couple cannot have children you it’s their fault or their parents fault but it’s not God fault nor is it his call. If I don’t ever stick Mista Wiggle into puddy I will never have a child. There are a million Nuns that can attest to that and some priest as well. Although they use the kids for other purposes.
For Real will sleep with a rubber on tonight just in case.
For Real
November 13th, 2012
5:27 pm
Comon: I’ve said here before one of the keys to a good relationship is to get the woman out of fantasyland and into reality as quickly as possible and the same applies here.
You know one of the things that has always puzzled me about women is when they use a child to make a dude stay with them. I always ask them why would you want to MAKE someone be with you that don’t want to be with you? Where’s the pride in yourself?
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
5:47 pm
For Real~ Definitely agree! I always tell the hubs, I don’t need you, but I do want you. I don’t want you to need me either. Two needy people is just not a good look…
MsAtl
November 13th, 2012
6:04 pm
Comon- reality slapping her in the face will do a lot more for her than you telling her about reality. She has to experience it. Okay y’all; wuss moment- I just feel like giving the cousin a hug.
Now, back to reality for me, I fully agree with the want you, don’t need you thing.
Night all.
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
November 13th, 2012
6:17 pm
Leggs, I know you’re long gone, but I have 2 kids, and plenty of blessings.