Are men powerless to women?
Yet another scandal involving a powerful, married man. The more details that emerge about Pertraeus and Broadwell, the more ridiculous all of this seems to become. You have two people who had a great deal to lose, deciding to risk it all to have an affair. I am sure it does not seem worth it now, to either of them. I wonder if the forbidden is so tempting that you don’t care what consequences you could face when you are caught up in it?
Whenever I hear discussions about why men and women cheat, I find it interesting how the reasons attributed to each gender can be so different. Women are trying to fill an emotional void, while men are seeking to feel a physical one.
Is is really about giving in to attraction and temptation? When you find yourself susceptible to being tempted, does it not all come down to making a choice?
I have seen a lot of judgment toward Broadwell, as many spin the sordid affair like it is some bad romance novel: Temptress targets her mark and lures him in to her web. Please! That all sounds a little too easy and it totally lets Petraeus off the hook. Are women really capable of making a man so powerless that his good sense goes out the window? Why do you think think?
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Leggs
November 13th, 2012
12:20 pm
Ex ~ you’re an idiot before and after you get caught. #1 – you’re an idiot thinking you’ve covered all bases and won’t get caught. What’s done in the dark always comes to the light!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 13th, 2012
12:21 pm
I couldn’t imagine seeing my dude pumping some other chicks puddy…
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
12:25 pm
Slim~ ditto!
Bluzgirl
November 13th, 2012
12:25 pm
I think if I walked in on my man in the act, I would go to jail for murder…
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
12:29 pm
Yea…Leggs I know what u say..
My Jon Stewart reference was from a perspective of seeing and hearing her before u knew she was cleaning Paterues knob.
Talking bout the marathons,west point etc
Willie Dynamite
November 13th, 2012
12:31 pm
Afternoon all,
Topic- that story is turning into a lifetime movie. Quite a few interesting replies from some of you. I’ll sit back and browse some more.
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
12:31 pm
Yea…Leggs I know what u say.. – What code is this?
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
12:32 pm
And Ex. That’s exactly why the book is going to fly off the shelves now. People are going to see what they can detect from reading between the lines.
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
12:36 pm
I don’t know bout reading the book
It’s a Con job..the author is not credible!
Celisea
November 13th, 2012
12:40 pm
This whole Patraeus thing is hogwash….of course IMO He’s a cheater like all other cheaters. Cheaters cheat…period. Frankly all this hoopla is attention not deserved. It’s folks and the media that plays it up and makes it bigger than it should be. Ignore his kind and the noise will die. He’s a mere mortal man like all the rest of them. What power???
I will say, I think was funny as heck and the post of the day for me…lol On the contrary I think you grow a little more, the more accepting of “you just can’t have it all”, that you become
I have chosen a committed monogomas path, as this Western culture dictates…but every time let a piece a puddy walk away that I know i should bust wide open….died a lil bit inside….lol
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
12:42 pm
Of course the author is not credible. BUT, she did write her first book and what a doosey!
disco
November 13th, 2012
12:44 pm
I’ll run off at the mouth about cheating in general and the few cases that I know of personally but I’m really not that interested in celebrity sex scandals. could care less. I haven’t read anything re this current scandal other than what I’ve read here on the blog.
brat – re women not owning cheating. that’s because we are smarter when it comes to cheating. sure women cheat. you likely won’t trick a woman into confessing though. she’d have to be caught dead to rights. look how many husbands are walking around calling their sons Jr. when that little boy looks just like so and so. lol.
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
12:45 pm
Meaning, anyone else laugh at the title once this mess came to light?
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
12:48 pm
Kimmie @your 11:38 to go to officers training school you don’t need a degree you just have to be selected, most officers come from college trough rotc or the academies, and yes even some officers have a lot of kids, because of the allotment
Willie Dynamite
November 13th, 2012
12:49 pm
Yeah Jakes post (last paragraph) had me cracking up and nodding in approval. Hahaha
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
12:51 pm
Kimmie @your 11:38 to go to officers training school you don’t need a degree you just have to be selected, most officers come from college trough rotc or the academies, and yes even some officers have a lot of kids, because of the allotment.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
12:52 pm
as far as cheating, it aint cheating if you don’t get caught
Celisea
November 13th, 2012
12:53 pm
On women cheaters being smarter. It’s true. I can’t recall (until this time in my life), having worked or being friends with women that cheated and their men were none the wiser. I mentioned on here before that two coworkers (not friends but coworkers), did the double date thing EVERY Friday with their side dudes. Their husbands would have “a night with the kids” while those two galavanted around with their BFs. Back then, it was soooo unbelievable to me, their lack of conscious and being cool with. Well, I’ve grown over the years and I ain’t saying it’s okay…by any means, but it’s just not a thing incredible no more. I’m not jaded at all. I’m just a little less naive, a bit more worldly and a bit more wiser.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 13th, 2012
12:58 pm
Man this day is draaaggin by..
Jake-SPJTWB
November 13th, 2012
1:01 pm
Celisea/Willie…its just the truth, there are times when you know, I mean know, that if you just applied the slightest of pressure, this woman will let you have it, but you can’t becuase you went slipped up some years back a fell in love and are committed….then Lil One Eye look at you, shake his head and say….”I don’t even know who are these days, you changed on me”…lol
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 13th, 2012
1:02 pm
two coworkers (not friends but coworkers), did the double date thing EVERY Friday with their side dudes. Their husbands would have “a night with the kids” while those two galavanted around with their BFs.
Jake-SPJTWB
November 13th, 2012
1:03 pm
you
Celisea
November 13th, 2012
1:06 pm
Jake – LOLOLOL…okaaaay Shoot, that’s a good thing. Temptation is all around each and every one of us all….IMO Just depends on how you roll. The risk just don’t outweigh the reward.
Willie Dynamite
November 13th, 2012
1:07 pm
Man you preaching to the choir. Thing is (my opinion only) sometimes just knowing is enough to me. Sometimes.
Celisea
November 13th, 2012
1:10 pm
No kidding on the coworkers. They’d be getting dolled up after work and changing clothes. JUST NO SHAME. One’s husband was so under a rock (he’d come up to the job) and the other’s hub was fine as heck. Later she told me (cause I asked…lol) how he cheated on her all the while pre-marriage and a few years into the marriage. Soooo, you married him still? Yeah, um okay. She felt it was payback time. How silly was that???
Of course they had one kid pre-marriage. Maybe that’s why she married him…shrugs
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 13th, 2012
1:10 pm
Temptation is all around each and every one of us all….IMO Just depends on how you roll.
Worth repeating…
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
1:16 pm
he felt it was payback time. How silly was that??? – very silly. One of the dumbest excuses out there. You will degrade yourself, throw your morals and ethics out the window just for some payback that you did with your body for the sake of revenge and not even caring about the person you gave your body to. That’s makes a helluva lot of sense to me. Just talking about those that are in it solely for payback and don’t care about the person they’re f……!
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
1:16 pm
Celisea..so u saying the married women have taken this thang over to nuther level?
Sly and all…..
Maybe abc will come outa lurking
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
1:22 pm
I used to work with this woman that cheated, saw her boyfriend at the mall with another woman, and tried to jump on her, the amazing thing was she was with her husband.
Now I’ve messed with married women, but had to stop when I was at this road side dairy bar and she pulled up with her husband and told him to tell me she wanted to see me while he was ordering food, too much for me had to leave them alone, they crazy (LOL)
Celisea
November 13th, 2012
1:23 pm
Mmeelo – I’m saying men don’t have the monopoly or patent on cheating. And as mentioned earlier women do it, IMO for different reasons than men, but they do it just the same. My kid’s dad aunt did the same thing. She was at least 65 and had 9 kids. She sat down (of course grossed me out cause I was like 29 ish) and told me the same. She said Bo ran around on her their entire marriage and she was fed up. He was now (at that time), in a state of needing physical help and all she could think about was how she had to sit by and watch, care for the kids, while he ran around. I’m not saying it’s okay….AT ALL…but I think sometimes, men don’t realize the damage it does. Me? I say walk. Walk away and be done. Why put yourself through that or why spin your wheel doing something that’s not beneficial?? But, you just never know what it does to a woman. IJS..not advocating, but IJS
I’ve said it before, I walked once cause I felt a dude cheated. Could never confirm and all he could say was I think too much like a dude. Well, for me, in my mind, all I could see and hear was him doing and saying the same thing to me that he said to another. That’s enough to send me packing. Nope, no can do.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 13th, 2012
1:24 pm
Thing is (my opinion only) sometimes just knowing is enough to me. Sometimes.
Don’t do it Willie…
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
1:24 pm
I used to work with this woman that cheated, saw her boyfriend at the mall with another woman, and tried to jump on her, the amazing thing was she was with her husband. – This can’t be true (lol).
Celisea
November 13th, 2012
1:27 pm
I should say doing and saying to another, the same he said to me. He was my man
Just those small little things that makes your stomach flipflop that gives it away. Y’all know how I feel about gut and intuition….lololol
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
1:28 pm
Leggs, I thought the same thing when I heard it, until I heard it from her! This same woman shot her husband and he still didn’t leave.
Button
November 13th, 2012
1:32 pm
I have a good sense of humor Exile
Jake-SPJTWB
November 13th, 2012
1:41 pm
Conversations with One Eye:
1eye: Hey, Hey, hey…what you doing, she leaving
Jake: I know, gotta let her ride out
1eye: what you mean
Jake: You know we don’t go all them different places anymore
1eye: Your Fault, gettin married
Jake: Don’t be like that, you love what we got at home
1eye: Yea, but I know where everything is there, its quite an adventure, but we used to go here, there, everywhere
Jake: Hey I’m looking out for you, I wanna make sure you don’t get sick.
1eye: I know, but maybe I can wear my skull cap like you used too
Jake: We can’t, besides you hate that skull cap
1eye: yea, i do, think I could not wear my hat with her
Jake: NO
1eye: what about that one
Jake: NO
1eye: what about her, she gotta be cool
Jake: NO
1eye: so you saying if we go any of the other places, I gotta put that hat on
Jake: Just so you know, we are not going anywhere else, but Yep
1eye: Well take me home then, I ain’t wearing no dayum hat
Jake: Yea knee-grow, that’s what I thought
Willie Dynamite
November 13th, 2012
1:41 pm
Hahaha, I haven’t met her yet. So far so good.
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
1:42 pm
Single…she had the gutso to talk to u with her hubby feet away?
I was bout to say u strokked her better than the hubby did…,but on reflection…for ur preferences…,
U proly went down on her better!
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
1:45 pm
Ex I see you still don’t understand the meaning of ALMOST
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
1:46 pm
I think it’s better to cheat by watching porn.
Exiled!
November 13th, 2012
1:47 pm
Where is Almost Single?
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
1:57 pm
This same woman shot her husband and he still didn’t leave. – Sounds like Jackie Christie. Something about that woman is keeping him there through all her craziness. You shoot me, me taking flight. It’s a wrap!
Leggs
November 13th, 2012
2:00 pm
Ex, you are a trip. Almost is a brickwall that yells HELL NO!
Comon ¢
November 13th, 2012
2:00 pm
as far as cheating, it aint cheating if you don’t get caught
You just reminded me of that ad for “Moonshiners” when the guy says “Ain’t nothing illegal til you get caught…” LMAO!
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 13th, 2012
2:00 pm
Temptation is all around us so with that said, i’m tempted to pack my ish up and go home. I need a vacation
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
2:02 pm
comon, now you know your clients don’t regret anything until they get caught and convicted (LOL)
cba
November 13th, 2012
2:06 pm
Comon, do you watch “Moonshiners”? That was Tickle who made that comment.
I think the little cut socialite, Kelly, is more involved than we currently know……stay tune.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 13th, 2012
2:07 pm
Sounds like Jackie Christie. Something about that woman is keeping him there through all her craziness.
Doug got some hood in him…behind that mega watt smile, he’s got some stuff bubbling right under the surface. I got a snippet of it when they were on the last reunion show. It’s like Bobby n Whitney at first when everybody was like
tryna figure it out. Then it all came to light that they were two peas in a pod.
Single and Happy
November 13th, 2012
2:09 pm
Leggs, you aint got to shoot me, pull any kind of weapon on me, and the last thing you’ll see me leaving in a hurry (LOL)
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 13th, 2012
2:16 pm
I thought you liked that kind of isht Single.