Breaking up. Again.
Have you ever been in a relationship that went back and forth, on again, off again? It’s one of those frustrating roller coaster rides you end up on and don’t know how to get off. What causes us to keep going back to relationships that we already know we should not be in?
I know a lot women get hooked into the emotional drama that comes with these situations. Men convince themselves that they are happier with the person then without. Yet once you are reunited, all those same problems come barreling back. You end up right where you left off.
Do you think that a relationship with multiple break ups should be saved? It sounds so simple to say, cut ties and move on, but that seems to always get harder each time you reunite.
How do you know when you should break up for good or just take a break? If it is “mean to be” – should it be that difficult to work things out?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
7:14 am
Usually when relationships go back and forth, it’s one person apologizing and saying they will change while the other keeps doing the same thing that help cause the break up in the first place. Going back can work, but it will take both parties realizing what they did wrong and correcting it.
Jamie
November 8th, 2012
8:17 am
As a 10 year veteran of the on and off again relationship, I agree with Single and Happy. One person makes changes and the other person usually says they will….but they don’t. You stay because of the hope that things will get better. But a relationship is not built on hope. It’s hard to let the comfort and familiarity of a relationship go…so you stay. You love this person…have shared many memories and starting over is very scary. But at some point…you have to believe you deserve better. The bottom line to me is…it just shouldn’t be that hard.
Celisea.....smoooooove riding
November 8th, 2012
8:29 am
The only constant break up to make up in my dating history was with the kid’s dad. That was a real roller coaster ride…lol Being that we were both young, I think a huge percentage of that was attributed to us both “needing to grow up.” I won’t say people can’t reunite but that constant back and forth thing? For me, ain’t happening. I don’t really have the patience for that. I’m cool “working it out” and working through it, saying I’m sorry when I’m wrong, owning whats mine. However, I’m not gonna play games nor deal with foolishness. By the same token, I’m not going to inflict “stuff” on another.
Relationships are work, but you don’t cycle through repeated breakups to come to that realization. I’ve learned over the years that compromise is the key. I didn’t say bend til you break….I said compromise. I’m willing to do that, but after I’ve given my best effort and things still don’t pan out, I’m done.
Emotional drama is just that can be tricky. IMO, women can become misguided because emotions are running amuck…still and even so, it’s no excuse to tolerate BS, cut it if need be and move on. Again, if it’s a matter of differences and being able to work through challenges, I’m all in. If I say I love you and you love me, IMO, it’s worth the effort. Challenges though ain’t the same as BS. You gotta understand and recognize the difference.
Celisea.....smoooooove riding
November 8th, 2012
8:33 am
And the same should go for the man in the relationship. Everything is a two-way street. He should tolerate foolishness either.
Want to make sure I’m being fair here
Alright, I seem to have nothing now but days where work is just waiting on me to make my appearance…sigh…off to get coffee and then on the grind
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 8th, 2012
8:36 am
Morning,
Yeah, what yall said.
Exiled!
November 8th, 2012
8:40 am
And usually,the good good is that good,so that creates a real emotional connection with the woman.
And us men know,when you have a baby with a woman,she wants to keep you close! So a man can afford to wander,get new pudy,have a dry spell but pivot back to baby mama with a few kisses,Ian sorry, I am sorry and get a fresh serving of baby mama puddy,which by the way,was proly laying fallow because she was still pining and hoping that baby daddy will come back.
In those situations,a man will truly walk away if the woman slams the door shut! Without that,men know how to continously milk that female emotional Reservoir.
Tap it,tap it,tap it!
Good morning!
disco
November 8th, 2012
8:50 am
good morning y’all. I never had the back and forth with “real” relationships but I don’t deny a cut buddy or two that had that kind of staying power. if we were both in between things we’d hook up. we’d go our separate ways for months or even years but with the right timing and circumstances it was on and popping again.
ex – not that you said chicks want to keep the baby daddy close. I don’t necessarily disagree with you but I have to add that a lot of those are the ones with the baby momma/baby daddy mentality. men have it too. a lot of men think having a baby with a woman locks her down. he doesn’t necessarily believe it locks him down. he just thinks he can always go back.
Kat
November 8th, 2012
8:51 am
The only reason to continue to go back is if changes (maybe not all, but some) are being made. Also, with age comes wisdom, so who you are at 18 with him/her is not who you will be at 25 or 30. People can change.
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
8:52 am
Good Morning, bloggies!
Ex~ Who are these women you dated?!? Neither of my exs could even get a whiff, let alone tap it!
On Topic~ I will give it 1 back and forth. After that, don’t let the door knob hit you where the good Lord split you! That back and forth is for the birds. (Although the angry, makeup sex is the BOMB!!!) Sometimes people do need to lose what they have to realize they need to change. Happened with the hubs and I. We were together for 4 years and then we had to go our seperate ways. Now, we are on the same page and life is good!
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
8:53 am
Also, with age comes wisdom, so who you are at 18 with him/her is not who you will be at 25 or 30. People can change.
Exactly!
Celisea.....smoooooove riding
November 8th, 2012
9:02 am
MMeello – While I think it’s the most asinine way of thinking, I agree that that sort of foolishness goes on. Heck some folks ain’t a “baby mama/daddy”, still act like they’re stuck….lol You have nothing to do but snap out of it and move on. The mind is a powerful thing, either you believe you can or you believe you can’t…but whatever you believe is what will be.
disco
November 8th, 2012
9:14 am
O/T – I know it’s early but since I need to vent right quick, here goes. I have a friend that I meet for dinner maybe once every 2 months or so. we’ve been doing this for years. it’s that time again. we’re supposed to meet next week. thing is she NEVER selects the restaurant and while I don’t mind picking I hate having to pick all the time. of course, the one time I forced the issue and let her pick she picked some nasty, gross, disgusting so called Caribbean place. the food was awful (at least to me. she liked it and even bought her hubs a to go plate). I remember at the time thinking I’m better off picking the restaurants. still when I got the email this morning asking where we should meet it just ticked me off. I have yet to respond to her.
Exiled!
November 8th, 2012
9:15 am
Common..your exes didn’t pound you good….that’s what the evidence seems to show…
Right?
Exiled!
November 8th, 2012
9:23 am
Why should it tick u off Disco…she has poor taste in food. Is she not nasty in her home?
Either u recognize and choose the restaurant urself All the time or u risk eating nasty food from the bad choices she make.
I think she has a deference actually to your better tastes,no wonder she keeps asking.
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
9:31 am
Morning!
disco ~ that’s a small issue. Since you didn’t like her pick, you can either give her another chance to pick, or continue to pick places you both like. She too may have you picking because she likes the spots you suggest. No need to sweat the small stuff.
I haven’t done the on again off again.
disco
November 8th, 2012
9:34 am
Ex – naw. she has a neat and tidy home. she has a cat and I don’t like cats but that’s neither here nor there. my thing is I hate being the one to always turn the other person on to something and that person isn’t reciprocating. I feel that way about friends, family, relationships. turn me on to something, introduce me to something new. I’m somewhat of a foodie. I research restaurant openings, I go online and read menus, I read reviews in the paper. I put effort into my restaurant selections. same for theatre performances, museum exhibits etc. I feel cheated when someone isn’t reciprocating. that’s all. heck, even if she’s not a good pick she can at least suggest that we return to one of the places that I previously suggested. I’ve suggested dozens of places over the years. it just seems like to me she’s putting in no effort and it rubs me wrong.
disco
November 8th, 2012
9:35 am
leggs – see my reply to ex. lol. it’s almost like dating the guy who always says “wherever you want to go or whatever you want to do”. that mess gets tired.
i'm swiss
November 8th, 2012
9:43 am
it’s almost like dating the guy who always says “wherever you want to go or whatever you want to do”. that mess gets tired.
disco — You want decisive? How ’bout this: Uh, yeah, hey baby, get dressed, we goin’ out. I’m taking us to the IHOP. Then we’re gonna go back to your place and I’m gonna hit it from the back a couple of times before the game comes on. Then I’m gonna sit on the couch, fart & watch football while you make me a sandwich.
Hey, it’s decisive at least…
disco
November 8th, 2012
9:46 am
swiss – and believe it or not, you had me up until the farting part. lol.
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
9:48 am
I understand, but why put the same amount of angst in a friend that you would put in a guy you’re dating that does the same thing? Tell her she needs to contribute more. Have you ever asked her why she doesn’t?
i'm swiss
November 8th, 2012
9:50 am
“you had me up until the farting part”
disco —
Well, after IHOP the farting would pretty much be out of my control. 
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
9:50 am
Disco, my question is if it ticks you off why do you go? If this is someone that you enjoy enough to have been doing this for years, why haven’t you accepted her for who she is. And another question why don’t you just ask her why does she like you to pick them out?
Exiled!
November 8th, 2012
9:51 am
Disco….what intrigues me here is that your friend is married..does he have no opinion either?
Exiled!
November 8th, 2012
9:55 am
The husband I meant…..Disco!
Maybe they regard you as the uppity and more educated friend with the better and finer taste!
disco
November 8th, 2012
10:02 am
lol. I guess this is where my carrie Heffernan alter ego kicks in. lol. leggs – I’ve never “asked” her why she doesn’t. I have suggested that she pick the place. she generally vollies it back to me. I have been aggressive and insisted she pick a place and she’ll typically just re-suggest something I already suggested in the past. she only ever picked something on her own once and it was the bad spot. I’m not even upset that it was bad. I give her credit for trying but I just feel like she needs to put in. I know it’s petty but it is what it is. i’ve got other friends who can be just as irksome this way. always talking about “oh disco, you pick such nice places or you know about so many interesting things to do”. on one hand it’s complimentary. on the other hand I’m like why don’t you pick a nice place or an interesting thing to do. their all a bunch of busters. lol. I even admit that I won’t disclose some of my shopping places for this same reason. go shopping with friends and they always go to the same stores. I’m keeping my good consignment stores and boutiques under wraps. call me selfish, I don’t care. lol.
S/H – it doesn’t tick me off all the time. just sometimes. today is one of those times that it’s irking me. the thing is I expect it and I generally roll with it but every now and again (like today) I’m like later for her. truthfully she’s lucky she’s my friend. I’ve broken up with guys over similar issues. one guy asked me to dinner. showed up to take me to dinner. then goes through the where do you want to go routine. I promptly told him never mind. I’d feed myself and he could go where ever and feed himself.
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
10:05 am
“…showed up to take me to dinner. then goes through the where do you want to go routine. I promptly told him never mind. I’d feed myself and he could go where ever and feed himself.” – I’m cracking up because I may be experiencing this same thing next week.
halo46
November 8th, 2012
10:07 am
Good Morning All,
Yesterday was my first day back to work and I was super busy and didn’t get a chance to read yesterday’s blog. But I first want to make a comment about yesterday’s topic. You see, I have an friend who has a total opposite viewpoint on political issues than I. And I cannot stand it. I believe in democracy and helping out your brother man. He believes in cutting social programs and getting rid of Obamacare (said with utmost respect), etc. It’s like talking to the enemy. I am like Kimmie, I cannot take our relationship to another level when he supports conservative ideals. It’s almost as if he thinks he is better or more intelligent than the average liberal. I’ve know this guy for four years and every election year the tension between us (as far as I am concerned anyway) grows and festers. I also thought it would not be a big deal, but really it is. After all, I can date interracially but the guy has to be more like my culture than me like his. lol Sorry for changing the subject, but just wanted to vent a little about how muchit irritates me. lol
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
10:08 am
SELFISH!!/Disco, just ask her why she doesn’t like to pick the restaurants, so much easier
Just like the topic today people keep going to the same ole places because it’s what they know, they’re afraid to venture out.
Lee
November 8th, 2012
10:11 am
I shall give you one chance, the second time — good bye & have a nice life
kimmie
November 8th, 2012
10:16 am
Morning Gang!
On topic – I did the on-off with one guy once. It went on over a 2 year span. While a roller-coaster, it was not the absolute worse thing. There were just some major dealbreakers we could not get past. One big was him being a committment phobe, plus we didn’t agree about children. I had to finally face that we were not meant to be and shut it down. I wish him well.
Disco – Just pick the place. It really should not be a biggie. I could see if it was your man, but this is a hanging buddy. I do think she probably just likes the places you pick and is not confident in her own taste. At least with you picking, you know it will be somewhere you like.
Now I do hate an indecisive man. Especially when that say “whatever you want”, then complain about your selection!
disco
November 8th, 2012
10:18 am
S/H – i won’t worry about it. she’s one of those go along to get along types. heck, she’s got a “house-husband” so you have an idea what I’m working with. I like her though. we’re cool. I just won’t respond about dinner until I’m over feeling funky about it.
halo – funny re your comment about dating interracially and the guy being more like your culture than his. I’m the opposite. I haven’t dated interracially much but I’ve always said if I did date interracially it couldn’t be with the guy who “acted” black. (please no one start on the what is acting black. for sake of argument let’s just say we all understand. lol). I’ve joked that I like my white boys white, my Puerto Ricans Puerto rican etc. lol.
disco
November 8th, 2012
10:22 am
kimmie – yeah. I’ll pick it. doesn’t mean I don’t want to have a temper tantrum about it though. doesn’t mean I won’t be feeling some kind of way about it. she’s a grown woman. she can’t decide on a restaurant? phooey. whew. okay. I’m done. I’ve released. thanks guys.
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
10:23 am
Disco, while some may be “acting black” others are just being who they are in the culture that they grew up in.
disco
November 8th, 2012
10:24 am
S/H – I get that. just saying that’s not likely the one that I’d be attracted to.
kimmie
November 8th, 2012
10:26 am
Disco – I don’t blame you much about keeping some of your shopping spots to yourself. There are a few hidden treasures I know of and I like rolling out in something unique. Plus, when I go shopping and I’m really looking for something, I like to go alone. I don’t want anyone elses opinion. Heck, I went alone to pick out my wedding dress. I would have taken my mom if she were alive, but her taste was the only taste I trust for ME. Otherwise, my taste is different from alot of my close friends. I can go to one of my spots and come out with something cool that works for me. My friends will compliment me on it, but if they had been with me when I bought it, they would have been turning their noses up! So when I do shop with friends, its just to hang out and be social. Or I’ll buy some perfume or makeup or something.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 8th, 2012
10:29 am
I do think she probably just likes the places you pick and is not confident in her own taste. At least with you picking, you know it will be somewhere you like.
Just like disco said,it can be kind of flattering initially but after a while it becomes exhausting and on days where you want to sit back and let someone else choose and they act lost it can make you a tad angry.
Anyhoo, on topic: I don’t do back and forth…once I’m out, I’m out.
halo46
November 8th, 2012
10:31 am
I’ve joked that I like my white boys white, my Puerto Ricans Puerto rican etc. lol.
When I say acting like me…meaning he has to have some swagger. For my personal tastes, I like a guy with confidence and swagger. Straight up white boys are nice, but sometimes they are very boring. Half the time they can’t even tell Im joking. Gotta explain every joke. Like the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice. ijs.
kimmie
November 8th, 2012
10:32 am
I actually feel disco on the lazy friend. Sometimes you do just wanna chill and go along and not have to be in charge all the time. It does get old.
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
10:32 am
disco~ Cosign on your 10:18 regarding interraciall dating. I am the same way.
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
10:37 am
I don’t think any question has started more arguments than “So, what do you want to eat?”
disco
November 8th, 2012
10:37 am
halo – speaking of “white boy swagger”. I first got turned on to Adrian brody when he played in the pianist. now that he does those commercials (old spice I think) I’ve been like “old boy got a little something with him”. he’s a little thin and I’m not really checking for him but he’s working with something. I also like Jason statham a bit too.
MsAtl
November 8th, 2012
10:38 am
Morning All!
I am not an on again-off again relationship type person. If my relationship breaks up, that will likely be it for that person. In my marriage (of 27 years), I put up with a lot and once I put him out I allowed him to come back one time, with therapy. I told him if it happened again he was gone for good. He didn’t believe me, but when he realized I meant it, he was realizing it from the extended stay motel, saying it was the first time he “slipped up” since we got back together. Ummm, buddy next time means next time!
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 8th, 2012
10:40 am
<em I also like Jason statham a bit too.
Me,too…
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
10:45 am
comon, there is the other question “so what you do want to do”
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
10:47 am
I mean “so what do you want to do?”
halo46
November 8th, 2012
10:49 am
I first got turned on to Adrian Brody.
@disco – Yes…good example. I also liked him in Cadillac Records. My sister always teases me when I get excited on his Old Spice? commercial. lol
halo46
November 8th, 2012
10:51 am
‘from’ his Old Spice? commerical
Bluzgirl
November 8th, 2012
10:54 am
I had one relationship where we were off and on quite a bit. We would break up…he would promise to change…he would for a little bit, then go back to the same old thing. His biggest problem was total commitment. We loved each other deeply, but were not made for each other at all…no matter how hard we tried. We ended up being great friends once we got through the pain of the final break up. We were much better as friends…
disco
November 8th, 2012
10:56 am
halo – is Cadillac records any good? i’ve had it on dvd for years and just never felt compelled to watch it. didn’t realize he was in it. maybe I’ll finally put it on my to watch list.
Bluzgirl
November 8th, 2012
11:00 am
disco – I LOVE that movie!!! Definitely watch it. When it came out on DVD, I watched it several times. Was much better than I expected it to be.
halo46
November 8th, 2012
11:05 am
disco – I LOVE that movie!!! Definitely watch it. When it came out on DVD, I watched it several times. Was much better than I expected it to be.
Ditto!!! The music is great! I love it. In my personal collection.
abc
November 8th, 2012
11:08 am
I had a girlfriend that was a lawyer — always a debate leading to arguments leading to her storming out. She hated that I wouldn’t argue, and grew weary of all the debates, about everything under the sun and moon. I finally just had enough — I told her she always got mad at me, so why does she want to keep coming back? It took months and months before she finally accepted that someone had actually rejected her. Great rack on that chick, though.
halo46
November 8th, 2012
11:10 am
I’ve concluded that on/off again relationships for me means one thing. I want to win. If we broke up over and over again, obviously he is not the one for me. But for some reason (probably my ego) I just want to be the one who walks aways without feeling bruised. If I allow a man to walk back into my life after he’s proven time and time again that he can’t be trusted, then I’m at fault. I’ve learned to just let it go, and chalk it up to lesson learned. Believe me ladies, those type men are a dime a dozen. The good guys are the ones we should hold on too. Gotta learn that lesson (as in beating my hand on forehead).
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
11:10 am
O/T: Just went to fridge to take chill of my pizza and some freaking idiot ate half of it and put the rest back. Savages!!!!
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
11:11 am
a lawyer that loves to debate, who’d a thunk it (LOL)
disco
November 8th, 2012
11:13 am
leggs – did you go all eve in barbershop? remember “who drank my damned apple juice”??? you know that’s nasty and now you can’t eat the rest of your pizza because you don’t know who was having at it. that’s the number one reason I do not use communal refrigerators. I carry an insulated lunch bag and it never sees the inside of the office fridge.
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
11:14 am
S/H~ Hey!!! What are trying to say (Comon rolling up sleeves as she walks up to S/H)
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
11:17 am
Leggs~ Mix dog food with sloppy joe sauce, put it on a hamburger bun and leave it in the fridge. Bon appetite, Mutha Fer’s! Never happen again after tha!
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
11:17 am
Cadillac Records is a very good music. Soundtrack is good and when Beyonce sings the last song before he walks out (All I can do is cry???), you feel every word she’s singing…beautifully sung!
Pop that movie into the DVD and enjoy!
disco
November 8th, 2012
11:17 am
CC – there’s really no need to take offense. that’s just the “stereotypical” lawyer. let’s face it, there are far more attorneys doing those nice, cushy, lawyerly background type things that involve very little confrontation and never any court time. they just don’t get any of the glory.
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
11:18 am
Comon, lawyers love to debate, that’s why they love being lawyers, I should have been one as much as I love to also (LOL)
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
11:19 am
I do like that plan, comon!
Willie Dynamite
November 8th, 2012
11:19 am
Morning all,
I’ve only had a few serious relationships. I never went the on/off again route. When it was done it was done. The one I coulda and shoulda (at the time that is) was my Sons mother. She was innocent is the causes of our demise. I should have done right by her but I didn’t.
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
11:20 am
“Leggs~ Mix dog food with sloppy joe sauce, put it on a hamburger bun and leave it in the fridge. Bon appetite, Mutha Fer’s! Never happen again after tha! “ Unless they like it, people do eat dog food (LOL)
abc
November 8th, 2012
11:20 am
Oh, I don’t know about that, disco; I attended many parties with lots of lawyers hanging around doing lawyer-speak. It kind of turned me off to lawyers, period — but that girl was a lawyer AND a psycho, just one or the other is enough, but both together is a no-go.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 8th, 2012
11:20 am
Folks are too damn grown to be eating other people’s lunch. But maybe they needed it more than you did. Gotta eat right
kimmie
November 8th, 2012
11:25 am
Leggs – That is freaking nasty and a shame!! I hope it makes them sick to their stomache!
disco – I’m like you, I carry an insulated lunch bag with one of those freezer packs in it.
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
11:26 am
BTW comon, aren’t you 6′+ I’m only 5′5″ you don’t have to roll up your sleeves to intimidate me (LOL) Just don’t slip on my drool (LOL)
disco
November 8th, 2012
11:27 am
abc – my point is that not all attorneys are the in your face aggressive type litigators. some are just your basic run of the mill boring dime a dozen pencil pushers.
slim – if someone was hungry and needed lunch that someone needs to open their mouth and say so. stealing (and it was stealing) is unacceptable.
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
11:28 am
people do eat dog food In that case, they are some nasty MFers and you need to go the disco route and store your lunch in your desk. That brings into mind those, no hand-washing, open mouth checwing, etc… People. Ewww… just ewww.
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
11:29 am
comon, Oh have we forgot the meatloaf episode of good times. when in hard times people do what they have to do IJS
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
11:30 am
S/H~ Slip in your drool? Eww… just eww. You are really going all the way there. I was thinking about lunch, but you have effectively cured that!
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
11:31 am
comon yea right, your stomachs not that weak, (LOL)
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
11:31 am
S/H~ While you’re joking, I had an accquaintance in high school that used to eat dog treats. He said that they tasted like cookies.
Yeah, how the hell did you even find that out?!?
kimmie
November 8th, 2012
11:32 am
disco – absolutely, if you are hungry speak up. I usually keep crackers or something I can grab in my desk cabinet, but if I am just hitting rock bottom I will go around the office and scrounge up something from folks or bum some coins and get something out of the vending machine to tide me over. Nobody else’s food in the fridge looks good to me at all cause I don’t know what’s really in it!!
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
11:35 am
comon, that’s just it, I’m not joking. People have been known to do it, and there probably are some that are out there doing it now. we think its bad because it says dog food, but if you look at the ingredients it’s the same thing you have in your fridge, just not mixed together
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
11:36 am
Oh comon, was shaggy your friend (LOL) he’ll do anything for a scooby snack (LOL)
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 8th, 2012
11:36 am
disco – Yeah I know…i was being sarcastic…very sarcastic
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
11:37 am
My son just got fired for fighting with a guy that was eating his lunch, (DA)
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
11:38 am
Don’t think it’s one of my coworkers. I think it’s either the cleanup crew or security guard. Building is monitored 24/7. Doesn’t even matter. I’m done with community refrigerators. An insulated bag is the best route.
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
11:39 am
Leggs you left it overnight?
disco
November 8th, 2012
11:42 am
slim – oh. sorry. I didn’t detect the sarcasm.
leggs – I have never done the community refrigerators. folks are just nasty and even without the nasty factor after awhile everyone’s little Ziploc, glad, Tupperware containers start to look alike. I know folks open things that aren’t theirs all the time. even if they don’t eat it or tamper with it I just don’t like the whole idea. there’s a good 50% of the folks in my office that I wouldn’t eat behind if my stomach was sticking to my back.
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
11:43 am
Don’t think it warrants fisticuff, but a good verbal, machete induced tongue lashing is on point.
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
11:44 am
Single ~ yes, I didn’t remember until I was on the highway and wasn’t about to turn around. Lesson learned.
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
11:44 am
Leggs, not my exact words to him, but along the same line. It wasn’t worth loosing his job over.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 8th, 2012
11:45 am
My job provides cases of bottle water to some offices here and mine is one of them. We are one of the few offices that has our own personal mini fridge and others are welcome to get water from our stash. However, what irks me is when they come in here to get the water out of the fridge, slam the door which in turns causes the door not to close all the way. So when we come in the office the next day, the fridge is not closed and the freezer part is all frosted up with ice. Read the sign, STOP SLAMMING THE DAYUM DOE!
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
11:45 am
Leggs if you left it over night all bets are off, it’s fair game. especially if it’s not home made (LOL)
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
11:51 am
My favorite is the biology experiments that get left in the fridge for MONTHS!!! I don’t know how anyone puts their food in the fridge next to the yogurt that is bound to ask how your morning’s going sooner or later. Yuck!
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
11:59 am
It shouldn’t be fair game. You know it’s not yours, you shouldn’t eat it. Anyway, I got the memo!
MsAtl
November 8th, 2012
12:00 pm
All- I have a solution for the lunch thief. These ziploc bags make your food look moldy.
http://www.thinkofthe.com/product.php?name=anti-theft-lunch-bags
As far as attorneys go- I think I am somewhere in the middle. I don’t usually bite unless I have to.
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
12:04 pm
Too funny on the anti-theft bags. Everything doesn’t fit in a baggie.
halo46
November 8th, 2012
12:44 pm
Read the sign, STOP SLAMMING THE DAYUM DOE!
lmao
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
12:57 pm
didn’t have any lunch today, and nothing in the community fridge really appealed to me (LOL)
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
1:08 pm
That’s a good thing, Single. Don’t need to see two ppl from the same family getting into a fight over something like this.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 8th, 2012
1:23 pm
We had our employee Thanksgiving luncheon today…i’m full as a tick and ready for a good cry and a nap
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
1:25 pm
Y’all sure is moving slow up in here today…
Robert
November 8th, 2012
1:33 pm
“I know a lot women get hooked into the emotional drama that comes with these situations.”
That’s a bunch of “Mularkey”. The only way a mature grown women (30-40) will keep going back-and-forth to the same Man is because she wants her desires fulfilled (sex, money, dinner dates, etc.). The only emotional attachment is if kids are involved. I know Men who still have sexual relationships with their ex-wife(s) because of the kids as long as the monthly check is in the mail. If the Man fails to put the check in the mail she will immediately cut off the sex and call her lawyer to have him locked up for failure to pay child support. That is a fact.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 8th, 2012
1:34 pm
Y’all sure is moving slow up in here today…
I was just thinking the same thing…y’all gone make me go to the gym and do my four miles. I was thinking on waiting ’til I got home but…geesh. I want to go home and snuggle up with my blanket and some hot cocoa(spiked of course).
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 8th, 2012
1:36 pm
Must be slow indeed…bitter bobby chiming in and all. Least we’re not on the couch..
halo46
November 8th, 2012
1:40 pm
That’s a bunch of “Mularkey”. The only way a mature grown women (30-40) will keep going back-and-forth to the same Man is because she wants her desires fulfilled (sex, money, dinner dates, etc.).
If mature grown women want sex, all we have to do is make one phone call. one. lol I have my own job with my own money and dinner dates can be had with a snap of a finger. But since we have all of that going on, it’s like abc said sometimes it takes ‘months and months before she finally accepted that someone had actually rejected her.’ We want to win! Plus we think you are kinda cute. lol
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
1:45 pm
Robert ~ it’s a fact because YOU know men. So, you know sorry men that are bedding their ex wives (1) because she allows it and (2) he thinks he’s entitled because he pays CS! Seems like irksome birds of a feather certainly flock together.
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
1:46 pm
Sassy, yesterday when I made the statement about leaving the drama at home, I was speaking in general, not trying to single anyone out, hope I didn’t offend you.
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
1:50 pm
Leggs, I aint bout go to get know dog food samich (LOL)
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
1:53 pm
Single, I may get a slice and put ex-law pellets in disguised as ground beef. Some will now have the stamp: “LESSON LEARNED!”
MsAtl
November 8th, 2012
1:54 pm
I fail to see a connection between sex with the ex and child support. I am glad I don’t seem to know any of those women because sex for pay is illegal last I checked. If I am done with you and we have children, the ONLY thing you can do is take care of your children (and I am not talking only a check because kids need parental time and involvement). Once it is over, there will be no penis between us!
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
1:56 pm
Someone….
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 8th, 2012
1:56 pm
Single you’re talking about yesterday and that’s where I’ll leave it…
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
1:58 pm
I don’t see the connection either, MsAtl. My neighbors laugh at me saying I need to re-marry my ex because he helps me around the house with repairs and he still cares for m. Hell, don’t mean I need to pay him with my body! Even got into an argument with one of them. I had to hold my hand up, say bye walk away from that senseless argument.
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:01 pm
bitter bobby chiming in and all. Least we’re not on the couch..
Bitter Bobby made me LOL! If he keeps hanging around, I will need the couch. Warm up those violins Sassy…
halo~ Bitter wouldn’t know that because he is a virgin waiting for the perfect woman (who will no doubt turn out to be ratchet… )
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
2:01 pm
Yesterday there was the story about the Ole Miss students upset over the election, here’s one about the Auburn students celebrating the election, so the south isn’t all that bad (I still hate Auburn though)
http://www.al.com/sports/index.ssf/2012/11/toomers_corner_rolled_after_ob.html
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:03 pm
Once it is over, there will be no penis between us!
Worth repeating…
LeeH1
November 8th, 2012
2:08 pm
Expect your partner to remain the way they are. They won’t change, and you can’t make them change, persuade them to change, or show them how to change. If you don’t like the way your partner is, don’t stay with them.
Love the person you are with, not some fictional future copy that you dream about.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 8th, 2012
2:12 pm
Warm up those violins Sassy…
SassaFrass now queing up Concerto #5…just in case
Jake-Dick Nukem
November 8th, 2012
2:14 pm
Hey, Hey, Hey (Fat Albert Voice)
disco
November 8th, 2012
2:14 pm
mrs. atl – re sex for pay being illegal. shhhhh.
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:15 pm
So, Sassy are we agreed on Saturday night at 8:30 at 6 Feet Under?
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
2:15 pm
Leggs, bring in some good ole chocolate cake
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:15 pm
Heeeyyy, Jake…
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:16 pm
S/H~ MAde with Choclate Ex-lax? We did that before…
Ahhh… Good times!
i'm swiss
November 8th, 2012
2:18 pm
Leggs — RE: The song from Cadillac Records… I believe you’re talking about this one (MIA / MIA). As usual, the original (this version) is the best. Great tune…
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 8th, 2012
2:21 pm
Sassy are we agreed on Saturday night at 8:30 at 6 Feet Under?
Yes, I’m in. I looked at the menu and it looks soo good. They even have alligator bites as an appetizer. I’m an adventurous person when it comes to food so I’m definitely going to try that…no I won’t force it on anyone else but you guys are welcome to it if you’d like.
I heard it tastes like chicken
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:23 pm
Sassy~ It does taste like chicken. I have had it before down in FL. It’s good though.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 8th, 2012
2:27 pm
I only got about two hours of sleep last night and I have not been this deliriously sleepy while at work in a loooooooooong time. I can barely think straight. I’m going to go home, shower, fix me a glass of vodka w/cranberry and go to sleep.
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
2:28 pm
forgot password, swiss
Jake-Dick Nukem
November 8th, 2012
2:29 pm
The bites dont exactly taste like chicken, but they are good…comes with a sweet pepper sauce thats pretty dayum good!
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
2:29 pm
email it to me if necessary
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:29 pm
Slim~ Sounds DIVINE!!! I might skip the vodka cranberry and go with a glass of wine instead, but I feel you.
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
2:29 pm
It taste exactly like chicken.
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
2:30 pm
LOLOL at Jake saying it doesn’t.
Jake-Dick Nukem
November 8th, 2012
2:30 pm
Hey Comon, couldn’t help but to think of Tina when I wrote that…lol
i'm swiss
November 8th, 2012
2:31 pm
Leggs — username: MIA / password: MIA
Jake-Dick Nukem
November 8th, 2012
2:32 pm
Leggs, it doesn’t though….lol
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 8th, 2012
2:34 pm
Okay so I’m definitely getting some “Gator bites” Saturday. Thanks for the input gang.
That whole menu looked really good…I hope it’s worth it b/c I’d like to take some of my people back there.
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:34 pm
Leggs~ It’s MIA/MIA.
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:35 pm
Hey Comon, couldn’t help but to think of Tina when I wrote that…lol
Eat the cake Annie Mae…
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 8th, 2012
2:35 pm
CC – So if you get some bs words tonight then you know it’s Goose you’re playing with and not me. lol Wait, that came out wrong
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:38 pm
Slim~ PLaying with your goose?
You gonna get the men of the MLB all hot and bothered… LMAO!
You might get some slang/strange words from me too…
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 8th, 2012
2:38 pm
’bout to hit the treadmill…I really don’t want to…really,really don’t but I’ve got to.
Read y’all in an hour or so…
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 8th, 2012
2:41 pm
I know i’m sleepy because I read Jakes post as this: Dick Nukem bites dont exactly taste like chicken
disco
November 8th, 2012
2:48 pm
what in sam hill are y’all taking about? lol.
Jake-Dick Nukem
November 8th, 2012
2:48 pm
Not that Tina
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:57 pm
Not that Tina
I know, but when she said Tina that is where my mind went.
Bluzgirl
November 8th, 2012
3:10 pm
Fried gator is very good! I used to get that a Pappadeaux’s often. Mmmm…haven’t been there in a minute…
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
3:13 pm
You coming out on Saturday, Bluz?
Jake-Dick Nukem
November 8th, 2012
3:14 pm
So yall doing 6feet under, I think I can make it…fellas just don’t want to pay the upfront like they used too…the ladies don’t work for free…cheap thrills don’t thrill!
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
3:18 pm
swiss ~ I missed the password staring me in the face. Thanks. Yes, sir. That’s the song. I love the words and how both of them sang it!!!
Bluz ~ I’ve only had gator twice (Pappadeaux) and I thought it tasted like chicken.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 8th, 2012
3:23 pm
If I get done running around Saturday, yall just might see me pop up at the shindig Saturday. I could use a night on the town.
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
3:31 pm
I’m going to put it out here, right now. Many of you guys say you will join us at the meet and greets and don’t then complain when we have one and feel you’re not invited. Halloween is over, no ghost appearances, everyone is always welcomed.
Back to regularly scheduled blogging. Thanks again swiss/comon. I ordered new glasses.
disco
November 8th, 2012
3:35 pm
O/T – I don’t play the lottery. I understand you have to play to win. I don’t generally sweat it when folks win big but for some reason I be feeling some kind of way win folks win big TWICE. lol.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 8th, 2012
3:43 pm
I never felt that way
Celisea.....smoooooove riding
November 8th, 2012
3:54 pm
Lawd, what’s wrong with this thing? Is it broken…lololol
Three pages at almost dern 4:00?? Guess I can’t do my run down today either then. Good thing I’m not addicted…lololol
Celisea.....smoooooove riding
November 8th, 2012
3:55 pm
I stand corrected….4 pages
Jake-Dick Nukem
November 8th, 2012
4:11 pm
Celisea…I was waiting for the daily synopsis….funniest thing I saw today was…Bitter Bobby, it fits so well…lol
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
4:12 pm
disco~ Who won the lottery twice? I’m like you; I never play. Although a client gave me a scratch off one year and I won $2.
Celisea.....smoooooove riding
November 8th, 2012
4:19 pm
Hey Jake – I cracked up when I read it too. I started to copy and paste, but yeah…that was funny
I like Robert though. Can’t say I agree but I think he’s funny. I think he says some things on purpose.
Celisea.....smoooooove riding
November 8th, 2012
4:25 pm
I purchased a scratchoff one time…only once in my life. Me and the kid’s dad were down on our luck…lol…I’m laughing as I read this. I bought one and he bought a gazillion. I didn’t win and neither did he. He was sooo disappointed cause it was his last few dollars. It wasn’t funny then, I was like HECK NAW, a dollar for a “nope not this time” was too much of a risk for me. I ain’t a big risk taker and being broke? A dollar was sacred back then. Well it still is and I ain’t playing the lotto but I was like, dang I could have done something with that dollar….lol
Celisea.....smoooooove riding
November 8th, 2012
4:27 pm
What’s the game folks play at Christmas where you can switch if you get a higher number? You can take someone else’s gift? Can’t remember the name but folks would giftwrap lotto tickets and folks would be coveting them. Nuh uh, what if you get nothing?? Usually it would be about 7 scratch offs giftwrapped. So that means somebody spent just 7 dollars and on top of that, you don’t win. That means you didn’t get nothing
Bluzgirl
November 8th, 2012
4:30 pm
Had some computer problems.
Comon – I wish I could, but I’m working Saturday evening. Boo!
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
4:31 pm
Celiesa~ Dirty Santa
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
4:31 pm
Bluz~ Too bad!
I am out! Read you guys tomorrow!
Celisea.....smoooooove riding
November 8th, 2012
4:32 pm
Yep, that’s it.
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
4:33 pm
Celisea ~ white elephant.
Celisea.....smoooooove riding
November 8th, 2012
4:35 pm
Oh, okay. My old department plays every year.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 8th, 2012
4:36 pm
I think he says some things on purpose.
Cosign…
Do we need to make reservations for Saturday?
Exiled!
November 8th, 2012
4:37 pm
I could use a nite on the town….?
U okay Slim?
Where is Officer….??
As for the
disco
November 8th, 2012
4:42 pm
CC – just came across a couple of news articles today out of south carolina. a couple of folks hit big (couple hundred thousand) on scratch offs, twice.
leggs – that’s what we call it too. white elephant.
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
4:54 pm
Sassy ~ I meant to bring up reservations. Last time we had a meet there, they wouldn’t seat us until all people in our party arrived. With that being said, I think we should make reservations for a table of 5 and seat and pull tables when others come…whatcha think?
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 8th, 2012
4:56 pm
Bye gang..read y’all tomorrow
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 8th, 2012
4:57 pm
Good idea Leggs…should you or I make them?
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
4:58 pm
Or ask to be seated in a section where we can easily grab a table. You know, plant someone at that table then pull it to the other. Just a thought…
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
4:59 pm
You can make the reservations.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 8th, 2012
4:59 pm
I like the first idea better..but either way is fine with me.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 8th, 2012
5:02 pm
Okay I’ll make the reservations for 8:30..
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
5:05 pm
First idea is good, but what if when people come tables next to us are taken, then we will have folk spread out. I like getting 2 tables right out the gate and some sit at both. Perhaps you need to make a reservation for 4 and I’ll make a reservation for 4…you think that might work?