Breaking up. Again.
Have you ever been in a relationship that went back and forth, on again, off again? It’s one of those frustrating roller coaster rides you end up on and don’t know how to get off. What causes us to keep going back to relationships that we already know we should not be in?
I know a lot women get hooked into the emotional drama that comes with these situations. Men convince themselves that they are happier with the person then without. Yet once you are reunited, all those same problems come barreling back. You end up right where you left off.
Do you think that a relationship with multiple break ups should be saved? It sounds so simple to say, cut ties and move on, but that seems to always get harder each time you reunite.
How do you know when you should break up for good or just take a break? If it is “mean to be” – should it be that difficult to work things out?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Leggs
November 8th, 2012
1:45 pm
Robert ~ it’s a fact because YOU know men. So, you know sorry men that are bedding their ex wives (1) because she allows it and (2) he thinks he’s entitled because he pays CS! Seems like irksome birds of a feather certainly flock together.
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
1:46 pm
Sassy, yesterday when I made the statement about leaving the drama at home, I was speaking in general, not trying to single anyone out, hope I didn’t offend you.
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
1:50 pm
Leggs, I aint bout go to get know dog food samich (LOL)
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
1:53 pm
Single, I may get a slice and put ex-law pellets in disguised as ground beef. Some will now have the stamp: “LESSON LEARNED!”
MsAtl
November 8th, 2012
1:54 pm
I fail to see a connection between sex with the ex and child support. I am glad I don’t seem to know any of those women because sex for pay is illegal last I checked. If I am done with you and we have children, the ONLY thing you can do is take care of your children (and I am not talking only a check because kids need parental time and involvement). Once it is over, there will be no penis between us!
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
1:56 pm
Someone….
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 8th, 2012
1:56 pm
Single you’re talking about yesterday and that’s where I’ll leave it…
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
1:58 pm
I don’t see the connection either, MsAtl. My neighbors laugh at me saying I need to re-marry my ex because he helps me around the house with repairs and he still cares for m. Hell, don’t mean I need to pay him with my body! Even got into an argument with one of them. I had to hold my hand up, say bye walk away from that senseless argument.
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:01 pm
bitter bobby chiming in and all. Least we’re not on the couch..
Bitter Bobby made me LOL! If he keeps hanging around, I will need the couch. Warm up those violins Sassy…
halo~ Bitter wouldn’t know that because he is a virgin waiting for the perfect woman (who will no doubt turn out to be ratchet… )
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
2:01 pm
Yesterday there was the story about the Ole Miss students upset over the election, here’s one about the Auburn students celebrating the election, so the south isn’t all that bad (I still hate Auburn though)
http://www.al.com/sports/index.ssf/2012/11/toomers_corner_rolled_after_ob.html
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:03 pm
Once it is over, there will be no penis between us!
Worth repeating…
LeeH1
November 8th, 2012
2:08 pm
Expect your partner to remain the way they are. They won’t change, and you can’t make them change, persuade them to change, or show them how to change. If you don’t like the way your partner is, don’t stay with them.
Love the person you are with, not some fictional future copy that you dream about.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 8th, 2012
2:12 pm
Warm up those violins Sassy…
SassaFrass now queing up Concerto #5…just in case
Jake-Dick Nukem
November 8th, 2012
2:14 pm
Hey, Hey, Hey (Fat Albert Voice)
disco
November 8th, 2012
2:14 pm
mrs. atl – re sex for pay being illegal. shhhhh.
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:15 pm
So, Sassy are we agreed on Saturday night at 8:30 at 6 Feet Under?
Single and Happy
November 8th, 2012
2:15 pm
Leggs, bring in some good ole chocolate cake
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:15 pm
Heeeyyy, Jake…
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:16 pm
S/H~ MAde with Choclate Ex-lax? We did that before…
Ahhh… Good times!
i'm swiss
November 8th, 2012
2:18 pm
Leggs — RE: The song from Cadillac Records… I believe you’re talking about this one (MIA / MIA). As usual, the original (this version) is the best. Great tune…
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 8th, 2012
2:21 pm
Sassy are we agreed on Saturday night at 8:30 at 6 Feet Under?
Yes, I’m in. I looked at the menu and it looks soo good. They even have alligator bites as an appetizer. I’m an adventurous person when it comes to food so I’m definitely going to try that…no I won’t force it on anyone else but you guys are welcome to it if you’d like.
I heard it tastes like chicken
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:23 pm
Sassy~ It does taste like chicken. I have had it before down in FL. It’s good though.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 8th, 2012
2:27 pm
I only got about two hours of sleep last night and I have not been this deliriously sleepy while at work in a loooooooooong time. I can barely think straight. I’m going to go home, shower, fix me a glass of vodka w/cranberry and go to sleep.
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
2:28 pm
forgot password, swiss
Jake-Dick Nukem
November 8th, 2012
2:29 pm
The bites dont exactly taste like chicken, but they are good…comes with a sweet pepper sauce thats pretty dayum good!
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
2:29 pm
email it to me if necessary
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:29 pm
Slim~ Sounds DIVINE!!! I might skip the vodka cranberry and go with a glass of wine instead, but I feel you.
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
2:29 pm
It taste exactly like chicken.
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
2:30 pm
LOLOL at Jake saying it doesn’t.
Jake-Dick Nukem
November 8th, 2012
2:30 pm
Hey Comon, couldn’t help but to think of Tina when I wrote that…lol
i'm swiss
November 8th, 2012
2:31 pm
Leggs — username: MIA / password: MIA
Jake-Dick Nukem
November 8th, 2012
2:32 pm
Leggs, it doesn’t though….lol
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 8th, 2012
2:34 pm
Okay so I’m definitely getting some “Gator bites” Saturday. Thanks for the input gang.
That whole menu looked really good…I hope it’s worth it b/c I’d like to take some of my people back there.
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:34 pm
Leggs~ It’s MIA/MIA.
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:35 pm
Hey Comon, couldn’t help but to think of Tina when I wrote that…lol
Eat the cake Annie Mae…
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 8th, 2012
2:35 pm
CC – So if you get some bs words tonight then you know it’s Goose you’re playing with and not me. lol Wait, that came out wrong
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:38 pm
Slim~ PLaying with your goose?
You gonna get the men of the MLB all hot and bothered… LMAO!
You might get some slang/strange words from me too…
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 8th, 2012
2:38 pm
’bout to hit the treadmill…I really don’t want to…really,really don’t but I’ve got to.
Read y’all in an hour or so…
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 8th, 2012
2:41 pm
I know i’m sleepy because I read Jakes post as this: Dick Nukem bites dont exactly taste like chicken
disco
November 8th, 2012
2:48 pm
what in sam hill are y’all taking about? lol.
Jake-Dick Nukem
November 8th, 2012
2:48 pm
Not that Tina
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
2:57 pm
Not that Tina
I know, but when she said Tina that is where my mind went.
Bluzgirl
November 8th, 2012
3:10 pm
Fried gator is very good! I used to get that a Pappadeaux’s often. Mmmm…haven’t been there in a minute…
comon ¢
November 8th, 2012
3:13 pm
You coming out on Saturday, Bluz?
Jake-Dick Nukem
November 8th, 2012
3:14 pm
So yall doing 6feet under, I think I can make it…fellas just don’t want to pay the upfront like they used too…the ladies don’t work for free…cheap thrills don’t thrill!
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
3:18 pm
swiss ~ I missed the password staring me in the face. Thanks. Yes, sir. That’s the song. I love the words and how both of them sang it!!!
Bluz ~ I’ve only had gator twice (Pappadeaux) and I thought it tasted like chicken.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 8th, 2012
3:23 pm
If I get done running around Saturday, yall just might see me pop up at the shindig Saturday. I could use a night on the town.
Leggs
November 8th, 2012
3:31 pm
I’m going to put it out here, right now. Many of you guys say you will join us at the meet and greets and don’t then complain when we have one and feel you’re not invited. Halloween is over, no ghost appearances, everyone is always welcomed.
Back to regularly scheduled blogging. Thanks again swiss/comon. I ordered new glasses.
disco
November 8th, 2012
3:35 pm
O/T – I don’t play the lottery. I understand you have to play to win. I don’t generally sweat it when folks win big but for some reason I be feeling some kind of way win folks win big TWICE. lol.
SlimNu: Life always happens
November 8th, 2012
3:43 pm
I never felt that way