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Love and Politics

Imagine how awkward a date can be when you realize you have polar opposite views on politics. It happens a lot more than you would think. A reader emailed about being hugely disappointed that her new beau has staunch conservative views. She is concerned that it is something that can’t really be reconciled in a relationship. She wonders if she should even try.

Do you think that in order for a relationship to have a shot at lasting, you have to have the exact same outlook on politics?

Have you ever dated someone who had vastly different political opinions than your own? How did you make it work?

Election night was probably the best night to meet someone with shared political views or interests. Did you meet anyone fascinating while you were waiting on election results?

How important is it to have aligned political beliefs? Would you consider it a deal breaker?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Bill Clinton

November 7th, 2012
5:45 am

Democrat? Republican? Doesn’t matter. But a communist Muslim who thinks that I owe a large portion of my hard earned wealth to others who made no effort nor took any of the risk is a deal breaker and any idiot who voted for Osama Hussein Obama needs an intellectual adjustment.

Single and Happy

November 7th, 2012
7:26 am

Relationships are built on respect, if you don’t respect your mate, the relationship isn’t going to work.

Where is the ignore button!!!

SlimNu: Life always happens

November 7th, 2012
8:13 am

Good morning,

I’m sleepy, catch up with yall laters babes…

Exiled!

November 7th, 2012
8:37 am

FORWRD!

I am sleepy too Slim,went to bed well after 2:00 am!

It was worth it!

But Florida is such a disgrace. Like it’s Africa!

They need do better!

FORWARD!

Button

November 7th, 2012
8:40 am

Have you ever dated someone who had vastly different political opinions than your own? No

Would you consider it a deal breaker? Again, no. I wouldn’t let our political difference be a deal breaker unless he’s just outright blantant and constantly in my face about his political views. I would curb that to an outright ad nuseam. It’s all about respecting each others view/opionion/beliefs and political choice.

Honey bun made a deal that if Obama wins he will cook us a celebratory dinner and if loses we’ll just eat a whole mud pie :lol:

Celisea.....smoooooove riding

November 7th, 2012
8:46 am

Moooooorning!!!

I gots nothing on topic. WINNING….OBAMA….yeah baby!!!

Bill – Wow, such bitterness and against YO PREZ at that….lol At least be graceful about, your man Romney was. He’s eating a HUGE slice of humble pie this morning :mrgreen: Tombout he only had a victory speech…NOT!!!

I was so moved when I heard him speaking on the Steve Harvey Show yesterday morning. Such poise, elegance and grace….mmm mmm mmm Gon’ Michelle, you got a man’s man.

Toodles!!

Celisea.....smoooooove riding

November 7th, 2012
8:49 am

Right now, Mr. Nu Nu and I are seeing eye to eye on pretty much everything….I’d say that’s a win win :mrgreen: And for those areas where we differ, there’s a vast amount of respect, so in that regard, it ain’t a big deal :mrgeen:

Now, again…toodles Gotta get to work!

Exiled!

November 7th, 2012
8:51 am

We celebrating in Kenya too.

God made this!
God said ‘look at him’,bringing Sandy to put Obama on a pedestal when America seemed peevish.
And Obama was a class act on Sandy! Go Christie. For once you were right,repudiating Repub clowns.
God don’t play!

Lady~cool beans :-)

November 7th, 2012
8:53 am

Get it C~~~~ New Benz and all sis!!!! Enjoy your fruits honey!!!!!

LMBAO @ Ex~ I am very disappointed with Fla as well! but the south was needed last night! Awesome night!

Don’t forget the newly women elected to the Senate too! good stuff! Binder that! lol ;)

Celisea.....smoooooove riding

November 7th, 2012
8:55 am

Heeey there Lady, what’s crackalackin?! Girl, I didn’t want to get out of the car this morning…lol I should be use to this by now. I’m such a girl though. Cause there are still a few things that excite me!! Thanks hon!

SlimNu: Life always happens

November 7th, 2012
9:03 am

Only in for a hot second but I teared up when he spoke about his wife and how America has fallen in love with her as he did. Awwww, i’m such a sap these days :cry:

USA, USA, USA!

Slim is currently out of the office. All comments and/or responses will be deleted in the order they were received :lol:

Lady~cool beans :-)

November 7th, 2012
9:04 am

Meant the South WAS NOT NEEDED~ ;) y’all get it lol

Mrs. SexyCool

November 7th, 2012
9:04 am

My hope for those such as our first poster and those like him that find themselves angry over the outcome of the election is that they find comfort in the Christianity that they cling so closely to and consistently tout as the basis for many of their policies, beliefs and actions.

For if they truly believe and are practicing Christianity, they should be able to admit that a God who is considered all-knowing and all-powerful and who does things in divine order does not make mistakes.

And if they remember that all things work together for the good of those who love Him, why are they worried? Why are they mad?

If the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob is your God, then you have nothing to worry about regardless of who sits in the White House.

Mrs. SexyCool

November 7th, 2012
9:05 am

Oh…and yes, my candidate was victorious. I am well pleased.

Leggs

November 7th, 2012
9:07 am

Do you think that in order for a relationship to have a shot at lasting, you have to have the exact same outlook on politics? – Not at all. Like it’s been said, respect is the more important foundation to have. We can have differing views on many things, but love and respect for each other trumps everything else.

Sleepy is an understatement. I need to find a clothespin or some toothpicks to keep my eyelids open. I danced and jumped so much that I’m surprised I didn’t sprain my foot or something!

Timeless

November 7th, 2012
9:10 am

Bill Clinton @ 5:45 am: I thought fundamentalists only lived in the Middle East… :-)

disco

November 7th, 2012
9:10 am

C – lol. I’m with you. I’m all for confidence but Romney was all about arrogance on that tip. he was 100% he was going to win. guess somebody done told him wrong. lol.

mrs. sexy C – I was in the shower this morning talking about “Romney got spanked”, eating breakfast this morning talking about “Romney got spanked”. I was looking forward to watching folks mope around today. shoot their faces are longer than they were the last time. I love it. shoot, they lucky I ain’t treating the hallways like a soul train line this morning.

on topic – differing political beliefs would not be a deal breaker for me. a person is entitled to feel how they feel, like what they like, want what they want. we find common ground, we compromise, we do what we have to do if we want to make it work.

Celisea.....smoooooove riding

November 7th, 2012
9:12 am

If the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob is your God, then you have nothing to worry about regardless of who sits in the White House

I cannot go without agreeing….AMEN AND AMEN

Celisea.....smoooooove riding

November 7th, 2012
9:16 am

disco – Picking his face up off the ground can’t be fun. At least he was grown up on camera in his concession.

Okay, for real, gone this time. Got emails and my phone is ringing.

Comon ¢

November 7th, 2012
9:20 am

Good Morning, bloggies!

Do you have to have the same ideas on politics? Nope. The hubs and I cancel each other out regularly. And so goes the world. In reality, our views are actually amazingly close, we just differ on who we think will best accomplish them. That being said, we debate with respect and move on. :lol:

MsAtl

November 7th, 2012
9:30 am

On topic- we can have differing political views as long as you respect my right to disagree with your views. It is not a dealbreaker for me.

SexyCool- I am in agreement with your 9:04. The competition is over, it is time to put the mess aside, support YOUR President and move forward as a country. If you cannot do that, there is nothing stopping you from obtaining a passport and moving elsewhere. I have not agreed with every President that has been in office, but I have respect for the office of the Presidency. I am not about the hatred, tom foolery and jackassery. Keep that mess to yourself.

Comon ¢

November 7th, 2012
9:32 am

” I am not about the hatred, tom foolery and jackassery. Keep that mess to yourself.”

Worth repeating… Hear! Hear!

disco

November 7th, 2012
9:45 am

come on people. where y’all at? where’s the energy? what’s the dealy-o? lol.

Comon ¢

November 7th, 2012
9:51 am

Not the topic you want to go to, disco, but I am hoping to lure swiss out into a conversation about the upcoming GA game this weekend…

Leggs

November 7th, 2012
9:58 am

I heard on the radio this morning a new meaning for R.I.P = Romney Isn’t President!!

Leggs

November 7th, 2012
10:00 am

That being said, we debate with respect and move on. – That should be the bottom line to all relationships!!!

disco

November 7th, 2012
10:06 am

leggs – RIP is funny but the one that had me cracking up was the advisory to drink lots of water because there were going to be a lot of salty crackas out today. I know it leans toward inappropriate but funny is funny.

CC – right about now I’ll even sit back in the cut and listen to y’all talk about football.

Leggs

November 7th, 2012
10:11 am

O/T: The Bert Show called back a listener who vowed if Romney wasn’t elected he would move to Costa Rica and start his own business. Bert called telling him the show would pay for a one way ticket for him, even told him about good start up business for that area. The guy hemmed and hawed with Bert finally saying, man, you’re not going anywhere. You’re using this to get more money from your boss which is so American, but you want to leave our great nation. Go figure.

disco

November 7th, 2012
10:17 am

shoot. the bert show paying for tickets? how can I be down? maybe I should call him and tell him I’m about sick of these united states myself. I can have me send me to Europe and then take a transatlantic cruise back home. lol.

abc

November 7th, 2012
10:18 am

While I’m disappointed that Romney didn’t win, I don’t think that the Presidency has that much power and control over what actually happens, so no need to whine and cry. Congress’s mix stays about the same; we’ll see what happens with appointments to the Supreme Court this term. I’d say Reagan was the first President that made it clear to me that the Presidency had become a figurehead, more of a symbol, than anything that had real political meaning. Perhaps Nixon was the last President that had any real political clout.

So, kind of a wash, in my view. Those that Romney appealed to won’t get hurt; those that find Obama appealing won’t really get helped.

abc

November 7th, 2012
10:19 am

Per topic: I’d be unlikely to be attracted to someone that had dramatically different views than mine in the first place. It’s never come up.

Leggs

November 7th, 2012
10:31 am

abc, I honestly thought about you this morning and how you were faring.

kimmie

November 7th, 2012
10:34 am

Morning Blog Peeps!!

I don’t think vastly differing political views would be a dealbreaker so much as they would be a non-starter for me, just like vastly different religious beliefs. I can respect that everyone is different and has a right to their beliefs and opinions. But I don’t have to be in a relationship or marry someone that differs so drastically with me. I’m not converting or raising kids or changing my lifestyle to suit another person that doesn’t share my basic beliefs and opinions. Period, point blank. I don’t even let it get started. Thus my personal life runs much easier. My hubs and I can have a lively, friendly debate on things, but basic beliefs and political stances we share and agree on.

Mrs. SexyCool

November 7th, 2012
10:44 am

Why….oh why…oh why….did Sh!thead send me a text message yesterday about the election?!?!?!!?

I had no clue who it was. He gave me clue – which should have been a clue – but I was really like, um, naw, couldn’t be. After the second clue, it was confirmed that it was him. I responded, “Um…okay…hope all is well with you and yours.”

Once I didn’t chop his head off, he must have considered that an invitation to keep texting me. I didn’t bother responding again.

Comon ¢

November 7th, 2012
10:47 am

MrsSC~ Is this the guy that was married and tried to hit you up?

Robert

November 7th, 2012
10:51 am

What is the GOP strategy to clean-up the homegrown terrorist group(s) known as the “tea party” ?The American People (elderly, women, minorities, gays & lesbians, Muslims & Jews, etc.) have spoken. During the 2010 midterm elections the whole world saw the hatred and bigotry displayed by the “tea party” and heard their call to battle (take back my country) as well as saw the majority of poor uneducated, disenfranshised White Americans embrace the “tea party” (klansmen, skinheads, militia’s, birther’s, etc.) as a protest vote against the American People for electing the first Black American President of the USA. During the 2010 midterm elections the GOP/tea party won several seats in the House of Representitives and held the majority of votes in the House. The American People were held hostage. Every piece of legislation presented by President Obama and the Excutive Branch were either “fillbusterd” in the House or never brought to the floor of the House to vote.

I hope the GOP uses this opportunity to recruit moderate candidates and create a strategy to include all the American People with the goal of re-capturing the White House in 2016.

The American People

Comon ¢

November 7th, 2012
10:54 am

kimmie~ While I see your point, I view this discussion the same way that I view religion. To wit, if my son is going to be a Christian, I want him to be a Christian because he has full knowledge of our understanding of God and he chooses to be a Christian. To that end, I have taken him to synagogues, he has gone to temple with some friend who are Jehovah’s Wittness, I read the Bhagavad-gita with him, he has been to a Buddhist ceremony, etc, etc. Therefore, being in a relationship with someone whose views differ from mine is a non-issue (unless as someone said earlier, they were constantly cramming it down my throat)

Mrs. SexyCool

November 7th, 2012
10:58 am

No…this is my ex-live in @ss wad that I put out of my house almost four years ago and have not had any regular contact with since that time, other than the occasional feeler/test text messages that he randomly sends out.

Comon ¢

November 7th, 2012
11:01 am

MrsSC~ Did you offer him your right butt cheek or your left? :lol:

kimmie

November 7th, 2012
11:06 am

Comon – That’s wonderful what you are doing with your son. I try to do similiar with my kids with respect to colleges and careers – take them to different college campuses, take them to work with me & others I know, expose them.

My point is the person with drastically different views such as religion doesn’t even have to constantly cram it down my throat for me to not want to deal with it. Just the practice of it and the differences in the lifestyle and the beliefs are something I don’t want to deal with. I BREIFLY dated a guy that turned out to be atheist. I could not deal with every time I said something like “Oh God” he would say “Don’t go bringing God into this”. My faith is a big part of who I am. One of my friends married a Muslim and she is a Methodist. Her hubs does not like it when we drink alcohol. I’m not changing my lifestyle to accomodate someone. When I’m out or in another person’s home I respect their differences. I don’t have to deal with it in mine.

disco

November 7th, 2012
11:06 am

CC / Mrs. SexyC – or the entire thing? lol.

disco

November 7th, 2012
11:09 am

kimmie – I get both you and CC’s perspective though I suppose I lean a bit more toward hers simply because I’m a bit more open in general to other’s views but I do draw the line at folks trying to force their views on me. these could be religious or political views or someone trying to tell me that coke is better than pepsi. there’s a line that I won’t have crossed. if folks respect the line, it’s all good.

Robert

November 7th, 2012
11:11 am

@Bill Clinton – Thank you for taking off your sheet, hood and combat boots. What branch of the homegrown terrorist group(s) known as the “tea party” are you affiliated? Are you a klansmen, skinhead, militia or birther? Your children, friends, co-workers and neighbors want to know how to answer your comments in the future.

Mrs. SexyCool

November 7th, 2012
11:14 am

I just ignored him. I know that bothers him more.

disco

November 7th, 2012
11:16 am

robert – what’s a birther?

Mrs. SexyCool

November 7th, 2012
11:17 am

The folks hollering that Mr. Obama was not born in America and are always filing lawsuits for him to produce his birth certificate.

Leggs

November 7th, 2012
11:18 am

Mrs. SC ~ aren’t they funny creatures. I can see you staring at your phone screen with an incredulous look on your face thinking WTF!!!

Comon ¢

November 7th, 2012
11:19 am

disco~ A birther is like Donald Trump; someone who believes that the Prez was not born here.

disco

November 7th, 2012
11:19 am

thanks. didn’t realize they had a name.

Single and Happy

November 7th, 2012
11:20 am

Disco a$$holes was the correct name (LOL)