Love and Politics
Imagine how awkward a date can be when you realize you have polar opposite views on politics. It happens a lot more than you would think. A reader emailed about being hugely disappointed that her new beau has staunch conservative views. She is concerned that it is something that can’t really be reconciled in a relationship. She wonders if she should even try.
Do you think that in order for a relationship to have a shot at lasting, you have to have the exact same outlook on politics?
Have you ever dated someone who had vastly different political opinions than your own? How did you make it work?
Election night was probably the best night to meet someone with shared political views or interests. Did you meet anyone fascinating while you were waiting on election results?
How important is it to have aligned political beliefs? Would you consider it a deal breaker?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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disco
November 7th, 2012
11:22 am
S/H – funny. I was really thinking I had a new word to add to my cache but birther doesn’t have enough sting to it to make it worth my while. “shut up you birther” just sounds like a punk move. lol.
Comon ¢
November 7th, 2012
11:22 am
Off Topic~ (really off topic…):
Are we sure that Colorado and Washington are the only states that legalized mary jane for recreational use last night? Utah might be in the running…
http://ringsidereport.com/?p=24555
kimmie
November 7th, 2012
11:22 am
Disco – I feel ya.
One of my best friends from high school is a Jehovah’s Witness. When my family would have birthday or Christmas or any holiday celebrations, she could not come.
One of my good friends that is a very devout Baptist started falling for a Muslim and she was extremely torn because he stated if they married he wanted her to convert and she did not want to.
I could not see myself converting and not ever celebrating Christian holidays. So while I can work with or be friends all day long with different people, I draw the line at marrying into such.
Robert
November 7th, 2012
11:23 am
@Bill Clinton – The correct name is – President Barack Obama (2008 – thru – 2016).
The American People
Single and Happy
November 7th, 2012
11:24 am
Higher education really works
http://www.clarionledger.com/article/20121107/NEWS/311070044/Ole-Miss-students-protest-Obama-re-election-sparks-riot-rumors
Mrs. SexyCool
November 7th, 2012
11:26 am
Leggs – you know me.
Single and Happy
November 7th, 2012
11:27 am
Kimmie growing up I had several friends that were Jehovah’s Witness, no the never celebrated Christmas, but the day after they had more stuff than we did
Mrs. SexyCool
November 7th, 2012
11:31 am
My JW friends always call me on my birthday. They just don’t actually say the words “Happy Birthday.”
And I always call them and say “I hope YOUR day is happy.”
MsAtl
November 7th, 2012
11:32 am
Disco- lol @ Shut up, you birther. Btw- I like Pepsi better, but I buy Coke for my son. I made the mistake of handing out leftover Halloween candy and was told by one person that she could not accept it because she was a Jehova’s Witness. I feigned ignorance and told her I didn’t realize they couldn’t eat candy.
Robert- thanks. I want to put a face to the person also because I can’t see through sheets.
Leggs
November 7th, 2012
11:32 am
Single and Happy
November 7th, 2012
11:33 am
MsATL, you live in GA, look around.
Robert
November 7th, 2012
11:37 am
@ABC – I hate to see young people like you support the GOP/tea party candidate (Romney) as a legitimate candidate for President of the USA. Did you grow-up in a home that practiced hatred and fear? Do you have friends that are different from you (Black, White, Asian, Hispanic, etc.)? Do you live in a neighborhood that is diversified? Does your place of work have a diverse work force? What is wrong with you?
The American People
Leggs
November 7th, 2012
11:41 am
Oh boy….
Lady~cool beans :-)
November 7th, 2012
11:43 am
what in the what lol all caught up….interesting!
disco
November 7th, 2012
11:45 am
see mrs. atl? birther just doesn’t have any sting to it. if I call you a name I want it to hurt.
robert – great questions. I know they weren’t directed at me but I’ll answer them anyway.
did I live in a home with hatred and fear? fear? definitely. hatred? we weren’t allowed to say the word hate. not saying we didn’t still say it but there were consequences if we got caught. lol.
do I have friends that are different from me? absolutely do. sometimes the more different the better. different can turn you on to new things.
diverse neighborhood? some but could be more. diverse workplace? not hardly.
Mrs. SexyCool
November 7th, 2012
11:48 am
I couldn’t say “hate” or “lie” when I was going up. So, I just really, really, really didn’t like people who told stories.
Comon ¢
November 7th, 2012
11:48 am
So, Leggs, have you given any more thought to the Blue Flame on Saturday night? (Anything to turn the conversation away from this asinine conversation that Robert is trying to lead us in to…
)
kimmie
November 7th, 2012
11:49 am
Single – I just don’t see the point in letting myself catch feelings for someone so different, then looking crazy down the line when I realize I can’t deal with the differences or don’t want to convert like they want me to! I don’t believe in putting myself thru unnessary stress.
But I can be friends with you all day!
Leggs
November 7th, 2012
11:51 am
Question, why you guys meeting so late (11:30). Chicks don’t dance any earlier???
MrsSexyC ~ I couldn’t say lie, stupid or bored.
disco
November 7th, 2012
11:52 am
mrs. sexy c – lie was another one we couldn’t say. that one didn’t get me in as much trouble as hate though. seems like whenever my brother and I got into we got to talking about hating each other. my mom was not having that. eventually figured out that we had a greater chance of not getting a whooping if we said “can’t stand” instead of hate.
kimmie – it’s all good. you know you and your limitations and that’s all that matters.
disco
November 7th, 2012
11:54 am
leggs – one of my aunts is a teacher and I just recently (in the last few years) got checked for calling someone stupid in her presence. I made my argument for why said person was stupid but my aunt wasn’t having it. good thing I was good and grown or I might have been punished. lol.
Comon ¢
November 7th, 2012
11:57 am
Leggs~ IDK. Sassy picked the time.
Leggs
November 7th, 2012
11:57 am
I feel you, disco! It used to bother me when teachers would say “there is no such thing as a stupid question.” That’s a bunch of, what’s the new word, MALARKEY!
Leggs
November 7th, 2012
12:00 pm
Sassy ~ why meet up at 11:30? Are you available any earlier than 11:30???
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
November 7th, 2012
12:00 pm
good noon, good people.
i don’t know about the EXACT same views, but generally speaking the more points of contention between you, the more issues you’ll have to deal with once the newness wears off.
how are yas??
MsAtl
November 7th, 2012
12:02 pm
Single-Point taken!
SexyCool- Had to laugh at your post because we also had to say “story” instead of “lie.”
Disco- remembering the Dave Chappelle episode where he said “get off my porch, you no do gooder.” I howled!
Comon ¢
November 7th, 2012
12:02 pm
disco/kimmie~ I also could not say hate. My mother would go ballistic if my brother or I used it. She also did not care for slang. I went through a phase as a tennager where I was to say “You know” all the time (Give me a break, it was the 80’s…) In any event, when I would tell her something and say “You know, we went to the mall and it was like, you know, packed. So, you know we walked over and waited in linbe for like, you know, 3 hours…” (You get the picture). Well, every time I would say “you know” she would interrupt me and say “No I don’t know. I’m waiting for you to tell me” That broke that habit real quick.
Robert
November 7th, 2012
12:06 pm
@Disco – A “Birther” is a member of the “tea party” homegrown terrorist group(s). “Birther’s” are people who do not believe that President Obama is a natural born citizen of the United States of America. Donald Trump is the “Poster Child” for this terrorist group. Hopefully “Birther’s” will die a quick death and never be heard from again. No other President in our history has ever had to prove his citizenship and be constantly harrassed by these “Birther” movement lunatics.
The American People
Comon ¢
November 7th, 2012
12:11 pm
Hopefully “Birther’s” will die a quick death and never be heard from again
Wow! I can fill the love of God in your words. I am so glad you are filled with the Holy Spirit.
Here’s a question for you: How is it that people like you who claim to be briming over with the love of God have so much HATE for people you view as different from you?
Comon ¢
November 7th, 2012
12:12 pm
*feel
Bluzgirl
November 7th, 2012
12:16 pm
I was trying to decide whether I should even read the blog today because of all the political stuff. Now that the election is over, can’t we all just go about our merry little ways? I’m appalled at some of the hatred being spewed (by both sides) on Facebook. It was bad enough the past couple of days…does it need to continue?
Anyway…on topic – it is possible to be in a relationship with someone with different political views as long as you both keep yourselves in check. I don’t think I could date someone who was too the extreme on opposite views. I dated someone who was on the same side as me, but he was much more extreme. He would get heated with me when I agreed with him! Looking back, it was a little funny…
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
November 7th, 2012
12:17 pm
Mr. Nu Nu and I are seeing eye to eye on pretty much everything….I’d say that’s a win win And for those areas where we differ, there’s a vast amount of respect, so in that regard, it ain’t a big deal
awww. now that’s ^ the sweetness!
leggs, so many of our tenants threatened to close up shop and leave the country if the “right” candidate didn’t win. i’m sitting here wondering when all these notices to break lease and vacate are gonna start rolling in.
MsAtl
November 7th, 2012
12:20 pm
A cousin posted on FB that her co-worker said he would kill himself if Romney did not win. I posted this morning that she should go do a safety check, lol. Guess he changed his mind because he was at work…
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
November 7th, 2012
12:26 pm
it’s to be expected. someone has to win; someone has to wait.
folks are acting stupid on both sides, but most are just getting on with it.
Comon ¢
November 7th, 2012
12:28 pm
I just love the poeple who say they are moving because of universal healthcare, blah, blah, blah, but then the country they pick to move to has the same thing.
I would think you might have wanted to think that through better… IJS
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
November 7th, 2012
12:31 pm
anywho. back to mundane things.
looks like cold, icky weather is setting in right on time for vacay!!
can’t believe we’re heading out in exactly 10 days.
i’m soooo not quite ready for this trip.
disco
November 7th, 2012
12:31 pm
hey bluz – as bad as all that hatred is it’s just an unpleasant little reminder of the truth. folks love to talk diversity but not all folks live it. folks love to say how America has come a long way and that may be true but there’s still a long way to go. just have to study the hatred and learn from it. just my take though.
disco
November 7th, 2012
12:34 pm
oooh. brat. vacation. if I may ask – where ya going?
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 7th, 2012
12:36 pm
why meet up at 11:30? Are you available any earlier than 11:30???
Leggs Yes I am..initially I thought this would be the meet up for The Flame but I’m available earlier as well. Whatchu got in mind?
Bluzgirl
November 7th, 2012
12:37 pm
disco – I am one who has opted to not share my political beliefs online. It’s really no ones business who I voted for. I won’t be whining nor gloating. It’s hard to see some of the things people are saying and continue to bite my tongue. It’s just sad how some people are reacting. I feel a certain way today and I choose to keep it to myself. It’s just a sad world. And my mama wonders why I choose to not have children…
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
November 7th, 2012
12:41 pm
disco, we’re off to panama. mum & i have b-days xgiving week, so i’ll be spending that special time with her. s/o is coming along to see where i grew up.
weather is perfect this time of year, and it’s not a holiday there so we get the benefit of “low season” prices and no crowds. i hear the waves calling my name already!!!!!
abc
November 7th, 2012
12:42 pm
Why, thank you Miss Leggs, everything is going really nicely ’round here!
Comon ¢
November 7th, 2012
12:51 pm
Sassy~ I am up for something before the Flame if you guys are. Just let me know. Have already gotten the free pass from the hubs for the Saturday night girls thing…
Comon ¢
November 7th, 2012
12:54 pm
Off Topic (kind of) ~ On a local scale, how demoralizing would it be to lose the sheriff’s seat to the guy with 39 felony indictments?
Single and Happy
November 7th, 2012
12:56 pm
Kimmie, you should never convert, and if they respect you they won’t ask you to. In a discussion with one of my exes about going to church which I don’t, she was talking about if we had kids she wanted them to grow up in the church, my reply was then take them!!
Leggs there is no such thing as a stupid question………………………….Just stupid people asking the question!!
Comon, @your 12:11 isn’t it funny how it’s the worst thing when someone else does it, but then some will turn around and say the same thing!!
Comon ¢
November 7th, 2012
1:00 pm
S/H~ Always. People are so funny in their hipocrasy.
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
November 7th, 2012
1:02 pm
guess you could say i converted when i married.
had to get permission from my church to recognize a ceremony performed by another denomination.
then he and his fam insisted the kids be brought up in their church.
no worries though. i reversed the damage after the divorce.
uh oh! blogettes on the loose. and dancing, no less.
are the gents excluded?
Single and Happy
November 7th, 2012
1:04 pm
“uh oh! blogettes on the loose. and dancing, no less. are the gents excluded?”
YEA are we (LOL)
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 7th, 2012
1:04 pm
I am up for something before the Flame if you guys are. Just let me know.
No problem Comon…I’m up for it as well. Leggs asked the question so I was waiting on her response. So far who do we have going?
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 7th, 2012
1:08 pm
S & H I don’t recall anyone being excluded…hell stay home if you have/want to….make it rain on the Mrs. instead