Think outside the box?
I read somewhere that women should consider sending a thank you gift after a first date. I’ve never done this personally, but I imagine that is a surefire way to make a great impression. Maybe more women should think outside the box when it comes to dating?
Guys, what would you do if someone gave you a thank you gift because she really enjoyed the date you planned for her?
Ladies, have you ever felt compelled to send a note or thank you gift after a really fantastic date? Would you feel uncomfortable reciprocating a man’s effort that soon after your dating relationship began?
We all can get in dating ruts from time to time! What are some unique ways to think outside the box when it comes to dating?
Happy Friday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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i'm swiss
November 2nd, 2012
1:18 pm
BTW, Leggs, reading your dissertation on p_ssy inspection made my ball tingle just a little…
Bluzgirl
November 2nd, 2012
1:21 pm
MsAtl – Part of me wants to give him a half pass because of his age, but he also knows better. I think he’s an intelligent man. He’s playing it off like it was a joke, but that’s not a funny one. He has yet to apologize for it. Even the major of Forsyth said he was shocked and if that had been said about black people, he would have walked out. Really…I think he should have walked out anyways.
I think the biggest thing that bothers me is that I don’t even see the story on the front of AJC website and if it has been a white person saying that about black people, it would be ALL OVER and he would be forced to apologize and would never live it down…no matter what his age is…
Jake-SPJTWB
November 2nd, 2012
1:24 pm
What up…Hey Bluz, is that a jedi mind trick you are playing on us….Remember, we are talking about a man who has seen the worst of your ancestry…he founded the SCLC…when white people were lettting dogs loose on Black people, he was there…when white folks were cutting on fire hydrant hoses and spraying it directly at Black folks, he was there, when somebody took a shotgun and killed MLK he was there….he made the statement in a tongue and cheek fashion in a mixed crowd, a joke sweetie, but if he really meant it….he kinda earned a right to say it don’t you think?
SlimNu - Finally Friday :)
November 2nd, 2012
1:24 pm
Leggs – I told ya
MsAtl
November 2nd, 2012
1:27 pm
Aaah, I’m not sure about that Bluz. I recall that when Judge Arrington asked the White people to leave the courtroom so that he could speak privately with Black defendants, it was ALL over the news- CNN, everything! He was even called to give the same speech to the media and everyone else, that he had given behind closed doors that day. I agree with you that the “joke” was in bad taste. I’ve heard worse. I am not excusing his behavior because he does know better.
Leggs
November 2nd, 2012
1:30 pm
“…because certain things can still get your cane kicked out from under you.” – I can readily see disco saying this, not you, MsAtl.
@SlimNu ~ you’re right. He must be really busy.
Sticking is so much better than licking, but licking is still great. Nothing like those hard thrust making your back convexed!!!!
Leggs
November 2nd, 2012
1:32 pm
Ok, my post is on page 4 while I was reading page 3.
SlimNu ~ always knew you were psychic.
Bluzgirl
November 2nd, 2012
1:32 pm
Jake – it’s one thing to say that’s how he used to think, but to say that he’s back to that? Not cool.
Also…don’t assume MY ancestors did anything. My ancestors are from Europe and Mexico. Also, MY Cherokee ancestors had their land stolen long before slavery…
i'm swiss
November 2nd, 2012
1:34 pm
Bluz — I started to respond, but I think Jake pretty much covered it.
I would just add this. Is there a double standard over who can say what about whom and public/media reaction to it? Yes. But there are much worse double standards that we come out on the better end of. Like the double standard over disproportionate incarceration rates, unemployment rates, sentencing for drugs like crack vs. cocaine (even though they’re the same drug, just with different clientele), disproportionate selection of minority neighborhoods for environmental hazards like landfills, etc. Before you get outraged over who can say what without creating an uproar, think about the bigger picture.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 2nd, 2012
1:35 pm
the more they cum, the more they want
Oh okay…ummm glad it isn’t just me
sticking is definitely neccessary to push things over the top so to speak…
True(I think we all sounding like 2Chainz)
cba
November 2nd, 2012
1:35 pm
Ok Jake, your 1:24 said all that I was about to say.
Bluz you are 33 and this man is 91, I’m sorry, you don’t have a clue.
Swiss made a comment to ITL a week or so ago, if you can find it; it’s worth re reading.
Bluzgirl
November 2nd, 2012
1:37 pm
So…because he’s 91, he’s allowed to say that all white people should go to hell? I don’t get how it’s ok for anyone to say that about any race…
Leggs
November 2nd, 2012
1:38 pm
Jakes and swiss’ posts closes the convo! Excellent points.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 2nd, 2012
1:39 pm
Swiss excellent post Jake(1:24)and Swiss(1:34).
Are we going to someone else’s couch?…
Bluzgirl
November 2nd, 2012
1:40 pm
I’m not trying to start any isht here…just stating how I feel about it. If the role was reversed, how would you feel?
i'm swiss
November 2nd, 2012
1:42 pm
And as far as saying someone is “going to hell” — sh!t, I get told that by “good Christians” of all races, creeds & colors all the time, and somehow I manage to go on with my life…
cba
November 2nd, 2012
1:42 pm
Hey Leggs~ I know I’m about 24hrs late
Had to meet someone for lunch.
Leggs
November 2nd, 2012
1:42 pm
Ummm, probably pissed and placed in the bucket with all the other nonsense some white folk spit.
MsAtl
November 2nd, 2012
1:42 pm
Leggs- you sound like my first grade teacher. She fell; whole class laughed; response- “I’m surprised at you” directed toward me. Think it’s time to kick this good girl image, lol.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nIgsSzx_BG4
i'm swiss
November 2nd, 2012
1:43 pm
If the role was reversed, how would you feel?”
Bluz — I’d imagine if all the other double-standards were also reversed, most would gladly trade places.
Leggs
November 2nd, 2012
1:47 pm
Better late than never, cba!
My 1:42 was for you Bluz.
Her voice irritated me MsAtl. Couldn’t listen anymore (lol). Gotcha!
Willie Dynamite
November 2nd, 2012
1:48 pm
Afternoon all,
Topic- never got a card after a date. I have gotten appreciation and thank you calls. That was plenty enough for me. Never really thought about it.
Side topic- Bluz I know it was on your mind and you are entitled to share as this is an open blog. All I can say is your timing SUX. It’s Friday and the Convo steered to licking and sticking. Plz stay focused. Hahaha
Jake-SPJTWB
November 2nd, 2012
1:49 pm
Thanks for the assist Swiss…you know what….you’re pretty fly for a white guy…lol
Bluz…as for your particular ancestry, excuse me but I think you know what I meant…I got Indian in my family too…but for much different reasons…mine is because the Freedman had to go to Indian reservations after…….ahh nevermind, its Friday, no history lessons today. What up blog fam.
Bluz-Blog rose for you sweetie!
Single and Happy
November 2nd, 2012
1:49 pm
I guess, people don’t understand the meaning of almost!!
Have anyone here ever cried from an orgasm?
i'm swiss
November 2nd, 2012
1:50 pm
Willie D — Always bringing people together — a “uniter” not a “divider”
Jake-SPJTWB
November 2nd, 2012
1:50 pm
Freedmen
MsAtl
November 2nd, 2012
1:51 pm
Willie- your “stay focused” comment. Flatline_____ Hilarious!
SlimNu - Finally Friday :)
November 2nd, 2012
1:51 pm
I guess the blog monster didn’t like my reversed stereotypes lol
Comon ¢
November 2nd, 2012
1:52 pm
Bluz~ Remember the convo we had about divided sisters? This goes back to it. To put it in a different perspective, recently some friends of mine from high school were having a very heated discussion on FB about the fact that the Walton HS chorus has elected bot to participate in the ASO Christmas pageant this year because they did not want to pick and choose who would get to attend the show from their chorus. My “friends” were outraged that the ASO was discriminating against their kids by saying that their chorus was not “diverse” enough and therefore they wanted them to mesh with another chorus (I believe it was Tri-Cities or Redan). They said that they could not control who chose to move into their neighborhood. And on the surface, that is an excellent argument. However, if you look at the deeper picture, East Cobb has done an excellent job of making sure that their schools stay “lily white” for the most part. In the Wallton School district, there are no apartments. There is no bus service within 5 miles of the area. Etc. Etc. Etc. Therefore, like I told my friends, you can bob and weave all you like, but the reality is that you take the privileges when they benefit you but the first thing you want to holler is “racism!” when it doesn’t.
I say all that to say, white are the only people I know who “classify” their whiteness. European=white. And, I am sure, that if I looked at you I would never know you are Mexican or Indian or Scottish or Irish or whatever else. Blackness is not like that. From the moment I walk into a room, people know I am black. And just as quickly, they know that you are white.
So, is there a certain privilege that comes along with having endured the history that blacks have? Sure. We get to make off the cuff remarks like Lowery made and it’s not front page news. But the systematic privileges that you receive from being white far outweigh any slight of words that Rev. Lowery may have gotten away with. IJS…
Bluzgirl
November 2nd, 2012
1:52 pm
Ok…back to the regularly scheduled sex talk! Lol!
Sorry…I needed some place to vent and share how I feel about all that.
S/H – have had a tear in my eye before from an incredible orgasm! Have seen stars and almost passed out too!
Single and Happy
November 2nd, 2012
1:54 pm
bluz, not a tear, but crying like a baby
Bluzgirl
November 2nd, 2012
1:56 pm
S/H…not yet…but, hopeful someone will do that to me!
Bluzgirl
November 2nd, 2012
1:59 pm
I hear you Comon…I do. Like I said, I needed to vent.
SlimNu - Finally Friday :)
November 2nd, 2012
2:00 pm
Have anyone here ever cried from an orgasm?
YESSSSSIR! It’s like that feeling of finally catching up to the pot of gold at the end of a rainbow…or reaching the promised land. Dang that takes me back
So have YOU ever cried after bussin a phat one??? 
Comon ¢
November 2nd, 2012
2:01 pm
I have had an orgasm that made me shed a tear. Mind blowing is all I can say…
Single and Happy
November 2nd, 2012
2:02 pm
Bluz, check out this article and then look at the comments, maybe you will get a better understanding of why he said what he did!! And remember those comments are from white america!
http://finance.yahoo.com/news/south-african-whites-earn-6-times-more-blacks-152851096.html
Single and Happy
November 2nd, 2012
2:04 pm
Slim no I’ve never cried, but I’ve made some cry from licking and sticking.
comon is shed a tear the same as tears streaming down your face?
Comon ¢
November 2nd, 2012
2:05 pm
Bluz~ Check this guy out:
http://www.timwise.org/
I think you will find a lot of what he has to say very enlightning. He speaks at KSU occasionally and I usually go see him when he comes. Next time he’s here, if you find him interesting, I would be happy to take you. Also, his books are loanable on kindle, so if you have a kindle I am glad to loan you mine. (Or anyone else on the blog who is interested in Tim Wise)
SlimNu - Finally Friday :)
November 2nd, 2012
2:05 pm
SH – I take that back…no sobbing like a baby…Released some tears thats about it.
Single and Happy
November 2nd, 2012
2:07 pm
Swiss when ever someone tells me to go to hell I tell them I’ll leave the light on for them (LOL)
Bluzgirl
November 2nd, 2012
2:10 pm
I’ll check out those links when I get a chance. Thanks.
Comon ¢
November 2nd, 2012
2:10 pm
S/H~ No not the same. I have shed a tear out of each eye one time. That’s it. (Note to self: going home to tell the hubs he needs to make me cry after the big O)
SlimNu - Finally Friday :)
November 2nd, 2012
2:10 pm
when ever someone tells me to go to hell I tell them I’ll leave the light on for them
SH – So is Motel 6 where hell is?
Comon ¢
November 2nd, 2012
2:11 pm
S/H & swiss: I always try to tell people to go to hell in such a way that they look forward to the trip.
Bluzgirl
November 2nd, 2012
2:12 pm
My brother just told me that he was told he is going to hell for being an atheist. He lives up in hick town Gainesville. He was at Goodwill and someone brought up the comments and said that the only people going to hell are atheists. My brother said that he is an atheist and would she kindly keep those comments to herself. She proceeded to go off on him and he kept asking her nicely to please stop talking to him. Some people…
SlimNu - Finally Friday :)
November 2nd, 2012
2:12 pm
CC – You might want to clarify how you word that to hubs…I’d hate for him to wait until the moment you get the big O and follow it up with, “I slept with the young chick who texted me from work”..:lol: bad joke…I hereby sentence myself to timeout for 2 whole minutes
Single and Happy
November 2nd, 2012
2:15 pm
Slim from the few times I went there, I’m not sure, but I think it was around the corner (LOL)
SlimNu - Finally Friday :)
November 2nd, 2012
2:15 pm
I like the way Tina Turner told Ike to go to hell in “What’s Love Got To Do With It” lol
Leggs
November 2nd, 2012
2:15 pm
Ummm, slowly raising my hand. I have cried after the mighty O and, I almost lost my mind. When we finished, I didn’t know where the hell I was, what had happened. I knew my name and I knew his, but didn’t know much else. I slowly came around, but it took me some time. I ain’t gonna lie….one and only time!
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
November 2nd, 2012
2:18 pm
Have anyone here ever cried from an orgasm?
Chile…shed tears,seen stars,shook like I’s having a seizure…whooo