Can I date more than one person?
One of our readers, who is new to Atlanta, emailed me to get the MIA blog’s opinion about juggling dates. She has few friends in the city and has decided to do a little online dating. So far, she has met a few good men that have great potential. The trouble is, she doesn’t want to narrow it down right now.
They are all actively pursuing her and expressing interest in something serious. It’s a great problem to have, no! While she tries to figure out her best option, she is feeling a little guilty about dating so many guys at one time. She asks, “Can I date more than one guy? Should I let them know they aren’t the only one I am seeing?”
Personally, I like to go by the Golden Rule, do unto others. Would I want to know if there were multiple women jockeying for time with the same guy? (I would). What do you guys think?
Does it bother you when the person you are actively dating is seeing other people? At what point would you expect to be the only one?
If a guy finds out that there is another man interested in the same woman, do they usually back off or step up their efforts?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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327 comments Add your comment
Willie Dynamite
November 1st, 2012
3:24 pm
Since we going by labels I proclaim myself a Nice Guy. How’s that?
SlimNu
November 1st, 2012
3:26 pm
Trying to catch up again….
Ahem, seamen, enzymes and cervical mucus is just too much for one sentence
lol
kimmie
November 1st, 2012
3:26 pm
Willie – Again, if you have to make an announcement……….
LOL!!!
Single and Happy
November 1st, 2012
3:28 pm
Disco @ your 2:46 you’re just mean (I do agree with you though) (LOL)
Rich
November 1st, 2012
3:29 pm
I agree with those who date more than one person are player’s and m/f sluts, but I also agree that if dating more than one person is your thing, more power to you but I hope you’re honest about it. As for me, I am a one woman man not a man whore.
Comon Cents
November 1st, 2012
3:30 pm
Again, the cosign, kimmie. I feel the same way. If I can’t trust you, get to steppin…
SlimNu
November 1st, 2012
3:31 pm
Same thing with my female friends. I don’t have any “friends” that I can’t “trust” around my boyfriends or husband. Otherwise we would not be friends
Exactly….I had a friend that turned out wasn’t really a friend because she would try to talk to any dude that showed interest in me or I in him. We don’t talk no mo
Single and Happy
November 1st, 2012
3:31 pm
Rich not a man whore, umm don’t you have to having sex to be a whore (LOL)
Sassy Me...Disco Lady ;-)
November 1st, 2012
3:31 pm
There’s nothing wrong with being nice…
seamen, enzymes and cervical mucus is just too much for one sentence
I was about to chime in with that but thought the same thing so I said nada.
i'm swiss
November 1st, 2012
3:33 pm
“Ahem, seamen, enzymes and cervical mucus is just too much for one sentence”
Slim / Sassy / Comon — It’s like an episode of CSI Blogville up in this piece.
Comon Cents
November 1st, 2012
3:35 pm
Slim~ You stoopid! You and Sassy can say what you want, but even if it is TMI it the troof!
S/H~ Don’t you know? If you’ve committed the sin in your mind it is already done. Therefore, Rich could be a man whore…
Single and Happy
November 1st, 2012
3:36 pm
comon Oh I see, hmmm I wonder
Willie Dynamite
November 1st, 2012
3:37 pm
Kimmie- somebody has to be a spokesman for the good guys. I’m just taking one for the team.
Leggs
November 1st, 2012
3:40 pm
How can a professed “wolf” now be a good guy (lol)…how?
kimmie
November 1st, 2012
3:41 pm
Willie – I’m not mad atcha!! LOL!!!
Single and Happy
November 1st, 2012
3:41 pm
Leggs, it’s not a full moon
SlimNu
November 1st, 2012
3:41 pm
CC – I’m going to throw those words out randomly in my convo’s with the beau tonight and see what kind of reaction I get. Be like, the mucus of this chicken is superb. I wonder what kind of enzymes in the seamen was used to help it taste sooo good. The last chicken we had made my cervix hurt. How is yours?
Single and Happy
November 1st, 2012
3:43 pm
Slim to bad you can’t post pictures here, would love to see the look on his face (LOL)
Comon Cents
November 1st, 2012
3:43 pm
Slim~ You got me ALOL over here. Text me in WWF and let me know s\how that goes tonight…
DuShawn
November 1st, 2012
3:44 pm
I’m one of the good guys too….Green as a pool table and twice as square.
Exiled!
November 1st, 2012
3:45 pm
So Swiss u settle on a name(s) yet?
Comon Cents
November 1st, 2012
3:45 pm
S/H~ Don’t be over there commiting sins in your head now… Dang, now you gonna send the whole blog to hell… IJS
Comon Cents
November 1st, 2012
3:47 pm
Du~ We’ve read enough of you that if you are, indeed, one of the good guys, you must have some low down, dirty, straight up nefarious friends that you live through vicariously…
Single and Happy
November 1st, 2012
3:47 pm
Comon, not committing any, was just thinking Rich and his man whores, how many times has he committed the sin in his mind??
Jake-SPJTWB
November 1st, 2012
3:48 pm
Dayum Robert…rough day on the Blog huh Bad Boy! For some reason MJ is playing in my head, “You know I’m Bad, I’m Bad, really really Baddd” are you wearing a leather suit and dancing in a garage too?….lol
Sassy Me...Disco Lady ;-)
November 1st, 2012
3:48 pm
but even if it is TMI it the troof!
Yes it is Ms.Lady m’aam…indeed.
Slim you tryna make him up-chuck dinner?!
Willie Dynamite
November 1st, 2012
3:49 pm
Welcome to the club Dushawn. I would suggest we have regular meetings but I’m so domesticated I prolly couldn’t get permission to get out that often. Sorry.
Sassy Me...Disco Lady ;-)
November 1st, 2012
3:50 pm
JAKE!!!
———flatline——–
Who’s baaaaad?!?!
Jake-SPJTWB
November 1st, 2012
3:51 pm
What up GoodFellas, hey Ladies…I’m good guy too, now gimme one of them church hugs Willie was talkin bout and that lil pinch on your booty, well the spirit told me to do that.
Exiled!
November 1st, 2012
3:54 pm
By good guy u mean having puddy_fatigue Common?
I am a good guy then by that standard!
Domesticated yep.
Like a bull in the veld,u raise ur head when u see a heiffer passing by,sniff, sniff , to get a whiff and look up, then walk away!
Jake-SPJTWB
November 1st, 2012
3:54 pm
Sassy…wait,what I do?….lol
Leggs
November 1st, 2012
3:54 pm
Gotcha Single…all’s good until the full moon…You’re right!
DuShawn
November 1st, 2012
3:56 pm
Common – you are right, I merely assume the persona of my despicable friends. My moral compass would never allow me to do the things I’ve written about.…..….”I’m different…yes I’m different”
Jake-SPJTWB
November 1st, 2012
4:00 pm
Ex-I saw you mentioned GIN-what brand brother, and please don’t say Bumpyface.
disco
November 1st, 2012
4:01 pm
CC – didn’t you get the memo that all of the blog gents are upstanding, outstanding, second to none. the blog gents are the salt of the earth, the crème de la crème and to quote a guy I heard talking about his momma “the sugar in sweet tea”. a bad blog guy? never that.
SlimNu
November 1st, 2012
4:06 pm
Sassy – I honestly don’t think I could say anything to male him upchuck. This is the same dude that had me watching a compilation of boil busting videos laughing
Leggs
November 1st, 2012
4:08 pm
EWWWWWW……No way!
Comon Cents
November 1st, 2012
4:09 pm
CC – didn’t you get the memo that all of the blog gents are upstanding, outstanding, second to none. the blog gents are the salt of the earth, the crème de la crème and to quote a guy I heard talking about his momma “the sugar in sweet tea”. a bad blog guy? never that.
I must have been absent that day, disco…
Comon Cents
November 1st, 2012
4:10 pm
Du~ EVERY guy is different…
And you a QUE, so I know better.
Sassy Me...Disco Lady ;-)
November 1st, 2012
4:13 pm
Well sht SlimNu…I can only wonder about the types of conversations you two have…
I like to watch surgical procedures and child births but I don’t know ’bout busting boils. Where are these said boils, cause I have a friend that used to get them on his but…actually he had to have those things lanced…
Jake-SPJTWB
November 1st, 2012
4:16 pm
Sassy, you been bustin boils on a dude butt….lol
Before you get to lying, how else would you know?…….lol
Single and Happy
November 1st, 2012
4:17 pm
time for me to roll on out of here, Slim you still around to give me a push (LOL)
SlimNu
November 1st, 2012
4:17 pm
You can get a boil anywhere….the worse one I saw was on this guy’s back. So much nastiness came out of that thing. Ewwwww I got one while I was in Jamaica about 8yrs ago on my boootay. Them thangs are no joke either. So I have a boil scar on my right bootay cheek
(Some more TMI for yall before the end of the day)
Exiled!
November 1st, 2012
4:17 pm
Jake…Tangueray! (sp)
SlimNu
November 1st, 2012
4:19 pm
SH – GLADLY…show me the hill you need to go down and i’m there for ya bud
Single and Happy
November 1st, 2012
4:20 pm
Slim, no hills,
just downtown traffic (LOL)
Sassy Me...Disco Lady ;-)
November 1st, 2012
4:24 pm
Before you get to lying, how else would you know?…….
Sht rocket scientist…he told me. He was a nurse and I’m a microbiologist so maybe you can deduce that at some point we’d have those kinds of talks. That’s all..no biggie
DreamsMaterialize
November 1st, 2012
4:24 pm
So now the topic is booty boils? Just another day on the blog. Oh yeah, Willie, Jake, Du when’s the next Good Guy Support Group meeting?
SlimNu
November 1st, 2012
4:25 pm
SH – I’m sure I can find a hill in there somewhere. If not, i’ll make one lol
Leggs
November 1st, 2012
4:27 pm
Sounds like Single is going to recreate the scene from Rawanda.