Can I date more than one person?
One of our readers, who is new to Atlanta, emailed me to get the MIA blog’s opinion about juggling dates. She has few friends in the city and has decided to do a little online dating. So far, she has met a few good men that have great potential. The trouble is, she doesn’t want to narrow it down right now.
They are all actively pursuing her and expressing interest in something serious. It’s a great problem to have, no! While she tries to figure out her best option, she is feeling a little guilty about dating so many guys at one time. She asks, “Can I date more than one guy? Should I let them know they aren’t the only one I am seeing?”
Personally, I like to go by the Golden Rule, do unto others. Would I want to know if there were multiple women jockeying for time with the same guy? (I would). What do you guys think?
Does it bother you when the person you are actively dating is seeing other people? At what point would you expect to be the only one?
If a guy finds out that there is another man interested in the same woman, do they usually back off or step up their efforts?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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327 comments Add your comment
Lady~must be nice!
November 1st, 2012
11:23 am
Disco my boo and I love beer! lol this past homecoming @ state we entertained the masses with beer~ fun times~ many folks love beer men and women alike
Exiled!
November 1st, 2012
11:27 am
U prefer weed Disco?
weed is more hood lol
Single and Happy
November 1st, 2012
11:28 am
Ex people have said that about any avenue that people use to date. No matter where you meet them, it’s the same people.
DreamsMaterialize
November 1st, 2012
11:28 am
by no means is that what I really think of you. lol. I just typed it for comedic effect. you know lenny was sangin’ that song.
disco Ok, I just didn’t want to get type cast as the original Keith Sweat. lol Yeah he sang that joint…that was real for him. Oh and on the beer, it depends on what kind you’re drinking. There are beers with higher alcoholic content than wine; some even taste like a fortified wine. I’ve seen some as high as 30% alcohol. You’ll pay for those though. Don’t ask me how I know all this. lol
Leggs
November 1st, 2012
11:29 am
CCA = TLC (4) 741-1075 – Nas/Lauryn Hill tix for tomorrow night at Tabernacle.
disco
November 1st, 2012
11:30 am
lady – I know folks like beer. I’m just not one of them. never could get past the smell of it. I’ve said countless times that I wish I drank beer if for no other reason than it’s pretty daggone cheap and there’s always a beer on special. also, when drinking, I’m all in. I want the bang for my buck which is why I generally just drink shots when out. why water down the likka? lol.
I guess my underlying question is how much beer do you need to equal the amount of alcohol in the standard shot of, say, tequila? where’s swiss? for some reason I think he might know the answer.
kimmie
November 1st, 2012
11:30 am
Hey Page!!! Stay awhile! Dreams will fix you a drink.
Single and Happy
November 1st, 2012
11:30 am
Disco, I’m a wuss I prefer mixed drinks
Lady~must be nice!
November 1st, 2012
11:31 am
got you disco and yeah your right 36 beers for 22 bucks is winning lol
Single and Happy
November 1st, 2012
11:33 am
Ex I had this friend that used to tell me that “if you meet a woman in the club you’ll always find her in the club”
My answer and if you meet a woman in church you will always find her in the church, in the end she’s still not with me!!
Exiled!
November 1st, 2012
11:33 am
I know it’s working for u Single,can’t convince u otherwise
but I’m assuming this single chic is young and proly wants marriage
Can’t see that online unless u just want yours snatched lol
U miss All the folks u see in real life to go search behind ur srcreen?
Strange logic!
Leggs
November 1st, 2012
11:34 am
disco ~ for me, that first gulp of a nice, icy cold beer is what it’s all about. Everything after the second one is just fluff (lol).
“how much beer do you have to drink to get where you are trying to be? ” – Umm the amount differs greatly between white and black folk…oh my!
Hey there, Page!
Leggs
November 1st, 2012
11:35 am
Dang, can’t find anyone to go to the pizza shop w/me.
Comon Cents
November 1st, 2012
11:36 am
Leggs~ I cosign on the first part of your 11:34. There is nothing better than an ice cold beer on a hot day! (Especially if I have been doing something outside!)
Page1908
November 1st, 2012
11:36 am
Hi sweet Kimmie! OMG I had forgotten about this blog but Black Mamba just recently reminded me of it, and since I’m trying to stay awake, I’ll try to see if I can keep up. LOL
Page1908
November 1st, 2012
11:37 am
Hey, Leggs.
Exiled!
November 1st, 2012
11:39 am
Single,was at OSS this past Saturday at the Sheraton with Queen
It was teeming with beavers there…hungry beavers some of them
I saw a couple looking at me like a lion eyes a gazelle in the veld
Try that place sometimes
Its better than the fake folks online.. They dress good and u can actually see them live.
Only difference with online is bootey might take a day or two later
Try it!
Single and Happy
November 1st, 2012
11:39 am
Umm ex why would you even try to convince me other wise?? I’m not trying to convince anyone to try it, I’m just saying it’s no different that meeting someone at Wal-mart, Kroger, any club, the airport, church, or any other kind of function, people really need to take the time to get to know each other before embarking on anything serious.
U don’t miss anything by searching behind your screen, because it’s the same people. There are more who do it and don’t admit it than actually do.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
November 1st, 2012
11:40 am
I stopped drinking beer about 2 years and 4 pant sizes ago.
Now, give me a chilled shot of Goose (to start a night or chill), and I’m oh.so.good.
Leggs
November 1st, 2012
11:42 am
Page ~ you all cleaned up now (lol). You are genuinely a hot mess…luv ya!
Single and Happy
November 1st, 2012
11:42 am
Ex with technology, there’s no fooling anyone with fake pictures, but those that you meet in person can be just as fake as those online.
Leggs
November 1st, 2012
11:43 am
Comon ~ on a hot day, a glass of bear in an iced mug or chilled beer stein can make your eyes roll back in your head (lol).
Willie Dynamite
November 1st, 2012
11:45 am
Morning all,
Head nod to the fellas, church hug to the ladies.
Topic- some folks can and some can’t. First you have to know yourself and be true to yourself. At that point you will find that it really doesn’t matter what the next person does because you won’t tolerate folks that don’t fit that mold. Of course you can be evasive or outright lie but really who are you fooling.
Exiled!
November 1st, 2012
11:45 am
Dan…I’m with u there..beer is crap
Gin!
Leggs
November 1st, 2012
11:46 am
I saw a couple looking at me like a lion eyes a gazelle in the veld – Now come on! Why would they do that (lololol)?
disco
November 1st, 2012
11:47 am
leggs – why would they look at ex like a lion looks at a gazelle? probably because they were thinking of ripping his throat apart. lol.
Leggs
November 1st, 2012
11:50 am
SlimNu
November 1st, 2012
11:53 am
Dang, yall moving too fast on this busy day…
while you are conferring with your client I am sliding a manilla envelope with a dead bird inside to opposing counsel HOLLERS
In other words. ALWAYS go with the 12-pack Hell yeah! There was only one beer left last night so I opted for wine. Let the beau have that Henny which ain’t nuttin but a tease. But at least i stuck it in the freezer for him so it would be good & cold by the time he was ready for it
disco – Like I mentioned here before, throw a shot in that beer and you’ll be just fine. The one reason i don’t like to drink a lot of beer is because it makes you PEE too dayum much. Liquor is quicker though. Some folks like to drink on a slow simmer and not get hammered off the rip. Gotta space that buzz out
Leggs
November 1st, 2012
11:53 am
My CCA is wrong. I now think it’s Beyonce’s old group??? Will find out in 6 mins.
Page1908
November 1st, 2012
11:54 am
LOL Leggs, I know I am! 5 costumes over 6 days, what else could I be other than hot mess.
Exiled!
November 1st, 2012
11:54 am
Disco..
That’s a place for hungry older chics Disco!
and lonely hungry older men too
Comon Cents
November 1st, 2012
11:54 am
LMAO @ disco! Girl, you stoopid! (and I love it!)
disco
November 1st, 2012
11:55 am
slim – I like how you broke that drinking down. like I said, my problem with beer is the smell. same thing for coffee. can’t get past the smell so I’ve never had any. re the added shot, I do that with wine. folks look at me crazy if I have a glass of wine and pour a shot of vodka in it. to that I say, whatever. it works for me.
Leggs
November 1st, 2012
11:59 am
disco ~ I have a shot with my wine also. My friends are now used to it, but first time they look at me quizzically. A glass of wine w/o a shot just seems so naked.
Exiled!
November 1st, 2012
12:00 pm
Single still on it
Why do u think folks don’t admit looking online?
Lol
Funny Single u a funny guy
When u say what u say with conviction,u convince somebody listening. That’s what I meant. I won’t convince u coz u stuck in a good spot. Lol booteywise
But for somebody looking for marriage? Nah
Leggs
November 1st, 2012
12:01 pm
Yep, Destiny’s Child.
DuShawn
November 1st, 2012
12:02 pm
The trip part about dating a woman who is seeing other people is that moment when you want to be with her and she tells you she has company or has made other plans. It’s a blow to your ego whether you admit it or not. You think to yourself…”Muffukka I’m me, I’m Mr. Better Offer, I’m willing to bless you with my presence and you’re declining, what the f&^K you mean you got plans!” Then you calmly say to her.”That’s cool sweetheart, maybe another time”. The realization that you are merely a part of HER rotation is humbling. But when yall just dating, you gotta swallow that.
Leggs
November 1st, 2012
12:03 pm
Going alone to get my fix.
SlimNu
November 1st, 2012
12:05 pm
I have added a shot to my wine before but I felt like i was committing a taboo act
I guess folks look at wine being the ’sophisticated’ way to get your buzz on. Folks look at you like you walked in with a tall can of Old E drinking it out of the brown paper bag or something lol
Exiled!
November 1st, 2012
12:06 pm
Ok going to work
Have a good F ursday! Lol
SlimNu
November 1st, 2012
12:07 pm
Dushawn – that goes both ways…
Lady~must be nice!
November 1st, 2012
12:11 pm
i am sleepy seems times has paused…….sigh
ciroc and pineapple is cool too sir~
kimmie
November 1st, 2012
12:11 pm
Dushawn – Thanks for keeping it real. And Slim’s right, it goes both ways. Most folks just won’t admit that’s really the way they feel.
Love your earlier “going together” post too!!!LOL!!
Willie Dynamite
November 1st, 2012
12:14 pm
Du- ego mgmt is a helluva thing. Humbling at times.
Lady- what’s up? Been hiding out again.
Lady~must be nice!
November 1st, 2012
12:19 pm
lol hi wd~ not hiding at all never been hard to find sir~
just low key……
i'm swiss
November 1st, 2012
12:25 pm
RIP Pascual Perez…
Sassy Me...Disco Lady ;-)
November 1st, 2012
12:28 pm
The realization that you are merely a part of HER rotation is humbling. But when yall just dating, you gotta swallow that.
I’ve had that happen whilst rotating(in college and right after)and I thought dude was going to be angry…he was BUT he had his own rotation going so I wasn’t too pressed about him being around or not. It’s usually the guys who always get their way with women that don’t like being a part of a woman’s rotation…but I’m like if it’s good for the goose then it’s good for the gander.
Bluzgirl
November 1st, 2012
12:36 pm
Done with my training. The guy training us was very good looking…too bad he’s taken.
It’s kind of hard to have feelings for someone before you even go out with them one time. With the Young One, I thought he was kind of cute and seemed sweet…doesn’t mean I developed feelings after one date. I don’t know if I will or not. Time will tell. I developed minor feelings with Mags fairly quickly, but we were friends for a while and I always was a little attracted to him. I’m just glad the feelings didn’t grow too major!
Comon Cents
November 1st, 2012
12:38 pm
Bluz~ So fill me in, since I’ve been away, did you see Young Dude this weekend? How did it go if you did? Details, woman! Details!
Bluzgirl
November 1st, 2012
12:39 pm
On the topic of beer…I never was a beer drinker in the past, but forced myself to develop a taste for it due to it being much cheaper. I favor beer now because I can get a decent buzz going, but it’s hard for me to get crazy, stupid drunk on beer! By the time you drink that much of it, you’ve already pee’d out most of it!