I have an ongoing argument with many of my guy friends about how they perceive women. Specifically, the way a man perceives a woman influences how they will approach her, the level of interest, and in some cases their intention.

My problem with this idea is that men can misread women a lot (I know women do this all the time too, though). So what happens is men size women up, determine her worth/value based on some kind of “system”. Then their effort/lack of effort is based on how they perceive the woman. Now my friends say that all men do this, even if they won’t admit it.

Women can’t ever know for sure how they are being perceived, so I don’t think this is something we should worry about. I just wonder if men are missing out on a lot of great opportunities because they have the wrong perception about a possible Ms. Right.

What do you think? Is it all about perception? If so, does this idea explain why so many of us meet fake people on the dating scene?

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One of the most frustrating things about dating can the feeling that you are wasting your time with the wrong person. Every dating experience we go through teaches us about ourselves, so it is not a complete waste of time. However, we should know when it is time to let go and move on.

That’s sort of hard to figure out when you really like someone but things are not progressing anywhere. How can you tell if you are in a dead end relationship?

I think people end up sticking with the wrong person for a really long time because they rather play it safe. Even if all signs point to the fact that things won’t work out, a lot of people prefer bad relationship to no relationship at all.

Have you ever stayed in a relationship too long? When did you know things should end?

Typical time wasters are: the friend zone, stuck in a booty call situation, or in a relationship with someone incompatible. How do you know if you are in a time wasting situation?

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My friend JB has a common dating dilemma that happens to the best of us: He has two really great prospects but is having a difficult time deciding which one he should eliminate and which one should get all of his attention.

Things have been pretty casual and laid back, but he knows this won’t last forever. At some point, he has to decide who is more suitable for him.
What do you do if you have two romantic interest and both seem worth the effort? Do you decide based on who you are most physically attracted to? Who you are most compatible with in terms of background, upbringing, values, etc.?

Have you ever been in a situation where you needed to figure out who to pursue and who to let go? How did you decide?

Happy Monday!

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