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Do men get bored easily?

My friend Paul used to warn me about keeping things spicy in my relationship: “You don’t want to ever let things get stagnant. Men get bored easily.” That’s great advice, now who is telling my man the same thing, because women get bored too, right?

There is some work involved in keeping your man’s attention. It is easy to get too comfortable and complacent. That’s when things start getting less sexy. However, should women really worry about men getting bored too easily? Why is it always on the woman to keep things hot?

Men, do you agree that some men get bored easily? What happens when he does get bored? Does that lead to wandering eye and seeking attention from other people?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Single and Happy

October 31st, 2012
6:54 am

Men, do you agree that some men get bored easily? Hard one for me to answer, bored is not part of my vocabulary, can always find ways to spice things up.

Why is it always on the woman to keep things hot? If it is, sounds like it’s time to find a new man!!

There is some work involved in keeping your man’s attention. There is??? Maybe I need forward this to my lady (LOL)

Exiled!

October 31st, 2012
8:57 am

What happens when he gets bored..does that lead to wandering eye….

And you know this Diva! :lol:
Blessed Are the Women with buffet of Spice! And Happy are the Men.

Morning MIA!

Mike P

October 31st, 2012
8:58 am

Good Morning,

Topic: Men, do you agree that some men get bored easily?
No, we will always throw ourselves into our work or apply focused energy into an activity, whether the activity is a new hobby, a new job, or new strange (we get into the activity and not so much the person).

I think women are the opposite; they focus more on the person rather than the activity. If they’re enjoying the company, they enjoy the activity.

disco

October 31st, 2012
9:11 am

hey guys. good morning. bored smored. lol. some eyes are going to wander no matter how much spice is in the relationship. if you pay attention you might just catch someone looking at a picture of your friend on a bookshelf while they are on the downstroke. it’s just like that sometimes.

DreamsMaterialize

October 31st, 2012
9:19 am

Morning
Women get bored too. Aren’t they always the ones looking for the bad boy? If your relationship is too “boring”, then work harder to make it less so or find someone else who’s equally “boring”. Could be there’s a compatibility issue in your relationship, and no amount of spicing up is going to resolve that.

Exiled!

October 31st, 2012
9:22 am

Disco,u safe from Sandy?

I wish you and your ghetto peeps much safety! Howdee your other ralative who u were wandering bout yesterday?
I wish Sandy had gate crashed and cancelled the Devil worshippers party! especially in Atlanta.

Oghh well

disco

October 31st, 2012
9:26 am

ex – she was located and quite amused that the streets done killed her off. now she’s tooting her own horn talking about how folks are so worried about her that they’ve got her dead. lol. btw – my new York/DC peeps are good.

Leggs

October 31st, 2012
9:31 am

…should women really worry about men getting bored too easily? – I think so, but it shouldn’t rest solely with the woman to prevent his boredom.

Why is it always on the woman to keep things hot? – I’d beg to differ. The man needs to keep his allure up. The same way he got her, he needs to work on keeping her. Both parties are equally obligated to keep the relationship fresh, exciting, devilish, and decadent!

Good morning.

SlimNu - Happy Hoe-lo-ween

October 31st, 2012
9:42 am

Good morning all,

Just stepping in for a quick second…I won 2nd place at the job’s costume contest (Mob Wife)…check in with yall later :D

MsML5

October 31st, 2012
9:46 am

@ Leggs…The same way he got her, he needs to work on keeping her. Both parties are equally obligated to keep the relationship fresh, exciting, devilish, and decadent!
….well said! I definately agree!

kimmie

October 31st, 2012
10:01 am

Good Halloween Morning All!!!

Disco, glad all is well with your peeps!!

I got much family in the Sandy areas and they are all good.

On topic – Some folks eyes are just going to wander regardless and there is not much you can do about it. All both parties in the relationship can do is give their best. If someone still wants to look elsewhere, then again, nothing you can do about it.

DuShawn

October 31st, 2012
10:02 am

Two words to keep your relationship new and exciting……Sister Wives.

Exiled!

October 31st, 2012
10:05 am

MsAtl

October 31st, 2012
10:05 am

Morning all! Leggs, you are correct. It is up to both parties to keep the relationship exciting. That said, it doesn’t have to be on and popping 24/7. If you need excitement every waking moment, then you need some ADHD meds.

disco

October 31st, 2012
10:12 am

ms. atl – I was just getting ready to go there. I’m generally one in support of the checklist system but the reality is excitement isn’t high up on the list for me. my thrill seeking days are almost behind me. not quite but almost. I’d be perfectly content to be one half of an old, comfortable, boring couple.

kimmie

October 31st, 2012
10:22 am

Disco – Tom Joyner said these golddiggers need to quit chasing these dumb athletes and get them a nerd. Don’t go to All-Star weekend, but to these comic book conventions and Dragoncon!

Single and Happy

October 31st, 2012
10:27 am

Excitement, like everything else in life is what you make it. :-D Don’t depend on others for your excitement, make your own. :-D

Leggs

October 31st, 2012
10:28 am

disco ~ for some reason, I knew she’d be safe. It’s always weird when the “streets” know about a death before any family members, then call family members asking about the death.

disco

October 31st, 2012
10:31 am

kimmie – I hate to lump all the nerds in one category. gonna have to break down their nerd-dom. I don’t think I could get with a trekkie type or a dungeons and dragons type nerd. the fascination on that stuff is cool with kids and I’m even willing to let adults have it as a hobby but some of them are a little excessive. I need more of an academic type nerd. the chess club type or something but anyone into avatars and all that might not work for me.

Single and Happy

October 31st, 2012
10:33 am

Disco, so does that mean the star wars convention is a no go??

disco

October 31st, 2012
10:35 am

leggs – I figured she was alright too but still felt like it had to be confirmed. many years ago one of my cousins was shot and killed. I will never forget the night. my phone was blowing up that night with folks calling asking if that was my cousin that got shot. in that case the streets was definitely working faster than the police and the coroner’s office.

disco

October 31st, 2012
10:47 am

S/H – not really saying the convention is a no go. I’m game for it as a life experience. just not trying to be tied down with one of those psychotic types who are barely functional because they are so caught up in their fantasy life. btw – not related but kind of, I would like to check out an RV show though. every year I say I’m going check it out when it’s in the area and every year I haven’t got around to it. are RVers nerds? lol.

Single and Happy

October 31st, 2012
10:48 am

Disco, RVers are old and rich (LOL)

kimmie

October 31st, 2012
10:55 am

Disco – For some reason, it’s not taking my 2 prior posts. Tom Joyner was talking about the 4 billion dollars george lucas got for selling his star wars production company!

kimmie

October 31st, 2012
11:00 am

Disco – Oh, and I’m like you, can’t deal with every catagory of nerd. I much prefer the more academic types like my hubs. Smart is sexy. Weird is not, to me!LOL!

Yeah, a creative genius Hollywood director type I could get with as long as he was not weird!

disco

October 31st, 2012
11:00 am

S/H – well hell. that did it. next year I’m going to the RV show for sure. lol.

kimmie – I believe it. star wars has a huge following. I worked with a lady years ago who incorporated star wars into her wedding. she also incorporated kilts but that’s neither here nor there. I didn’t attend said wedding but she sent me a video slideshow.

Mike P

October 31st, 2012
11:02 am

If you are easily bored or need to seek thrill and excitement from others, then maybe you should look in the mirror; perhaps you are the one that’s boring. This world is an exciting place; go live a little people.

DreamsMaterialize

October 31st, 2012
11:04 am

Don’t go to All-Star weekend, but to these comic book conventions and Dragoncon!
Hey kimmie. How have you been? I’ve been to the last few dragoncons. I wouldn’t consider myself a “trekkie type”, but as a scientist, I’m naturally drawn to scifi.

kimmie

October 31st, 2012
11:08 am

Dreams – Good to read ya!! I’m doing great – just counting down the days to the end of soccer season!LOL!

My hubs does not attend the conventions, but he does love scifi and used to collect comic books. I have always loved smart guys!

i'm swiss

October 31st, 2012
11:09 am

You like nerd, eh, kimmie? Well, hold on to your panties, sister;-)

Bluzgirl

October 31st, 2012
11:10 am

Looks like this topic has already been well covered. It is up to both parties to keep the relationship exciting. You don’t want to fall into too many mundane patterns.

My mom always said that I should be with a nerd. The new youngster is definitely a nerd, but he has other good qualities. He does play Dungeons and Dragons, though, which is not something I can share with him! He’s also a gamer. Not the type of dude I thought I’d be interested in, but I’m thinking that’s a good thing. Get away from what I have been attracted to since that hasn’t worked!

MsAtl

October 31st, 2012
11:17 am

New youngster Bluz? What have I missed over the past week while I was knee-deep in depositions?

DreamsMaterialize

October 31st, 2012
11:18 am

Dreams – Good to read ya!! I’m doing great – just counting down the days to the end of soccer season!LOL!
kimmie The end of soccer season just means the beginning of some other activity though right? lol Kids are definitely full time. Are you still taking martial arts?

Celisea.....snuggling weather :)

October 31st, 2012
11:19 am

Men that bore easily IN MY OPINION, tend to be unstable and always that dude or those dudes that are skirt chasers or chasing a constant puddy high. As we all know, a high is as good as one hit. Ask any crackhead. Time and “growing” up should help cure some of that. Developing a conscious should be another source to getting cured…lol As you and your boo :mrgreen: continue to mesh and grow and relate, keeping things spicey is fomulaic to keeping satisfied and pleased with each other and none others. Too, you can define “spicey” to what works for you. Everybody’s level of spice ain’t the same. I always say I’m not trying to break nothing but I’m happy to take it there with you…again as long I don’t end up in the ER…lol

Men will always “look”, it’s in their DNA. The difference though, IMO in wondering eyes versus wondering heart. I feel nothing about you taking a peek, heck I look madangself. But as long as you keep with home, it’s all good.

kimmie

October 31st, 2012
11:20 am

Bluz – My hubs is a big gamer. That is an interest we definitely don’t share. It’s okay, he engages in it during his “me” time while I pursue my other interests. It’s all good.

DreamsMaterialize

October 31st, 2012
11:20 am

MsAtl What type of law do you practice?

Bluzgirl

October 31st, 2012
11:20 am

MsAtl – I went on a date Friday night with a guy a little younger than me. He’s 29 and I’ll be 33 next month. Not my usual M.O. He’s also not a musician!!! Date went very well. I like him, but taking it very slow.

kimmie

October 31st, 2012
11:24 am

Dreams – It will be a big break from having to take them to practice during the week and our weekends tied up with games. Not only that, instead of most of the games being up the street at the soccer park, a lot were “road games”, some 2 hours away!

We took a break from the martial arts, but with soccer season over we are going to get back into it. It’s not as disruptive of our time as having 2 kids playing on 2 different soccer teams. I was also getting started to teach them both piano, so now I can get back to that – all on our own schedule!

Bluzgirl

October 31st, 2012
11:29 am

kimmie – my ex fiance from 12 years ago was a gamer. I would enjoy playing adventure games with him occasionally. I had to get out because that’s all he would want to do all weekend and I got bored quickly!

Leggs

October 31st, 2012
11:31 am

Bluz ~ I can see you with a nerd.

DreamsM ~ looking at kimmie, she looks like she can fight, but you’d be surprised that she can put a can of whoop a$$ on you making you run to the hills screaming “Mommy, Mommy….”

kimmie

October 31st, 2012
11:33 am

Bluz – Yep, I dated a guy once that took it too far. Luckily, my hubs just does it to relax and it’s something he shares with the boy. Not disruptive.

disco

October 31st, 2012
11:36 am

leggs – it’s funny but I know exactly what you mean by “looks like she can fight”. some folks just have the look.

lol. okay y’all – disclaimer – don’t call me out. re leggs’ comment that kimmie looks like she can fight. kimmie, aren’t you on team light skin? lol. I just had to go there because I thought it. I don’t deny that I know plenty of light skinned chicks that got their squabble on.

MsAtl

October 31st, 2012
11:38 am

Dreams- I practice health law.
Bluz- Glad the date went well. Smart move taking it slow; hope it works out. Either way, have fun and enjoy yourself.

Albert

October 31st, 2012
11:38 am

Why is it always on the men to keep things hot?

I have noticed several times that it’s the man who has to keep the conversation going. That’s one thing I dislike about dates. There are some women who behave as if they felt that if you don’t keep the conversation going, you’re either not interested, or you’re “out for only one thing”.

kimmie

October 31st, 2012
11:41 am

disco – yep I’m on the pale team!LOL!!

kimmie

October 31st, 2012
11:46 am

Albert – If there is a lot of uncomfortable silence when you’re on a date with someone, it probably means you guys are not compatiable. Neither of you should have to “keep the conversation going”. It should flow naturally. Then, if there is silence between the two of you at times, it’s not uncomfortable. That’s when you know you are really clicking with someone. You don’t really run out of things to talk about.

If a dude is “out for one thing”, it’s pretty apparent, and no need for much conversation! :shock:

Bluzgirl

October 31st, 2012
11:47 am

I don’t mind playing fun games, but not too into the role playing games and the ones that go on and on! Shoot…I only have the original Playstation and don’t hook it up because I’ll stay up all night playing Fifa Soccer or Tony Hawk Skateboarding! LOL

Leggs

October 31st, 2012
11:52 am

but not too into the role playing games – Ummm, clearing my throat, are you referring to sexual “role play?” I ask cuz not sure how role playing got lumped in with Tony Hawk Skateboarding and Playstation.

Robert

October 31st, 2012
11:53 am

“Men, do you agree that some men get bored easily?”

If your man gets bored easily because he is busy playing video games or playing with his electronic gadgets (phones, pads, tablets, etc.), fake a headache and give me a call when he leaves your house. I get bored watching TV or going to work. I never get bored when my woman is around seeking my attention. I love having her un-divided attention and listening to all her wants and needs. I feel “wanted” when she is talking to me in person rather than on the phone or sending text messages. Guys, spend time talking to your woman if you feel bored and turn the TV off.

Bluzgirl

October 31st, 2012
11:53 am

No Leggs – I can do the sexual role play…I’m talking about a certain video and computer game type! LOL