Dating: Grow up!
My friend Allen is dating a young lady who he really likes a lot. He believes she could be the one…in a couple of years. Allen says his girlfriend has a little growing up to do. Her lack of maturity is shown when she doesn’t get her way, or handles things with little patience.
As he talked, I thought about how he was the same guy friend that advised me not to date a guy for “potential” but accept him as he is. Now, here we were having the same exact discussion ..and switched places. I asked him what he asked me, “What if she never changes? Could you still be with her?”
Although they are only three years apart in age, when you see Allen with his girlfriend, you can’t help but notice the stark difference in their maturity levels. Ah, but love is blind, right? He does not see what I see, just as I had to learn my lesson for myself.
Would you be willing to wait till someone “grew up” and behaved less like an adolescent? Is that one of those things that should be a dating red flag?
How can you tell if the person you are dating are compatible to your maturity level?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
7:13 am
Her lack of maturity is shown when she doesn’t get her way, or handles things with little patience. Maybe that’s just who she is, it has nothing to do with age. He’s looking at grown up from his perspective, as far as she’s concerned she maybe grown.
Celisea....snuggling weather :)
October 30th, 2012
7:41 am
Relating is about togetherness. No one person within a relationship should have tantrums, testing, playing games, being stubborn….so forth and so on. Yes, be your individual selves, but also know there’s a middle, a medium, a place where we come together. If I find myself in situations where I’m constantly expected to yield or bend or everything is always always about you, what you want or don’t want, things have to always gravitate to your happiness….not “our happiness”, ummm you need to grow up or find a person to cater to you. A lack of maturity will have you asking, “what happened?” All you’ll see is the back of me or shown the door! lololol I’m all about working through or working it out, but I’m not going to tolerate an adult that lacks maturity.
Diva, please tell Allen he’ll forever be waiting on her to get over it. He should have the talk now. If not, I have a feeling he’s gonna have regrets later on. Three years age difference between adults is no excuse to display “bratdom.” She needs to grow up.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 30th, 2012
9:15 am
Don’t date the person you *expect* or *hope* that a person will become. Date the person that they are.
Allen should move on.
And much like S&H said, she could have done all the growing that she is going to do.
And maybe she doesn’t need to grow up. Maybe Allen’s perspective of the kind of grown up she should be is different from hers. Who died and made Allen the authority on Grown Up Behavior?
And one other thought, since WDiva seems to agree on her lack of maturity, maybe it’s not about maturity. Maybe it’s a personality clash or a difference in backgrounds or what someone has been exposed to.
Regardless, Allen sees a need to fix this young lady. How arrogant of him. #FloatOn
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
9:16 am
Good morning,
Maybe throwing tantrums is the way of dealing with things that has worked for her. Or maybe she hasn’t been shown or told of some alternative ways to handle situations. Sometimes folks just don’t know what they don’t know. Often times in therapy or with certain life coach sessions/books, they teach you how to alter behavior or give you skills to be better in decision making and in how you react to things. So if he’s serious about her having potential to be THE ONE, then he can sit down and talk to her about how he feels she reacts, in a non-accusatory manner of course…then see where it goes. If she isn’t open then he already knows what he’s in for.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 30th, 2012
9:18 am
Aaaaannnddd…if he is the same person that told you to not date potential, the puddy must be really good because he’s not taking his own advice….
And will probably end up marrying the puddy….immaturity and all…
Mrs. SexyCool
October 30th, 2012
9:22 am
If I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies for me and eaten alive.
Audre Lorde
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
9:40 am
Slim, if she’s okay with her behavior, there is no need to alter. You have to be happy within yourself.
It would be nice to know their age, and not just the age difference.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 30th, 2012
9:46 am
This subject kinda hits home for me. In the past, I was with someone who made me feel like I had to change or suppress parts of who I am to be with them.
It was a time that ended up being very bad for my self confidence and my psyche.
In the end, it wasn’t that I needed to change who I was. It was that I needed to change who I was with.
DuShawn
October 30th, 2012
9:52 am
Pretty thighs and good neckwork always increases a man’s ability to tolerate immature behavior and a host of other character flaws…until the novelty wears off. Then they become downright irritating.
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
9:58 am
Mrs Sexy, that’s always the first thing that you need to change
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
10:03 am
She probably realizes her tantrums or lack of patience wear on him. Maybe why she’s doing, rebelling against his “control” on who she is. If you’re grown and want to date grown, then leave the kids in the sandbox. Once you pick one out to play with, don’t complain. You knew they had sand between their toes.
Morning.
Bluzgirl
October 30th, 2012
10:18 am
Morning all!
Trust me…you don’t want to sit around waiting for someone to mature or change just because you “think” they may be the one. I’ve wasted too much time in my past doing this. No more!
Celisea.....happy life!!
October 30th, 2012
10:20 am
Dushawn – I agree
Going off Diva’s post alone, I don’t think it’s about her changing who she is as a person. A bit of criticism or another set of eyes can’t hurt in showing a person something they maybe can’t see or recognize how it comes off. There is a difference in hearing the truth versus someone asking you to bend until you break. Why throw away a potentially good relationship if things can be improved? Bad behavior transcends over into life. It’s not limited to an intimate relationship. No one is going to tolerate tantrums…period. I tell you one thing, if Allen’s girl wants to keep her job, she’s going to sit and patiently listen to her manager tell her she needs to be a team player….lololol
To Dushawn’s point, that’s usually the way it goes…fly at the mouth, snappy, being spoiled is cute (to some), until it becomes irritating.
Allen could very well be off the mark but just going off of Diva’s post, he and his girl should have a sit down and see if things can be worked out. If not, then she as well as he should find a better fit.
I’m out….leaving early today
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
10:27 am
SH – I’m all good with being yourself but no one is above improving themselves…like i said, they should sit down as a couple, discuss it and see where to go from there. If she is perfectly fine throwing tantrums and he is not okay with her throwing them, then time to move on. In dealing with a person in relationships, compromise will have to something that happens at some point. It may not be about attitude, but it could be something else i.e spending/saving habits, cleaning habits, dressing habits, etc…
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
October 30th, 2012
10:31 am
’m out….leaving early today
You show off
Would you be willing to wait till someone “grew up” and behaved less like an adolescent?
No, I’m not waiting for you to grow up and I refuse to “re-raise” an adult.
Is that one of those things that should be a dating red flag?
Yes,yes and yes.
abc
October 30th, 2012
10:34 am
How old are these people? If they’re over 21, they’re pretty much the way they’re going to be. After that one can gain wisdom, but not necessarily maturity. I acknowledge, though, that generation to generation, from Gen X to Gen Y to Millennials, people seem to emotionally grow up a lot slower — mostly because their parents seem to allow it, I think.
Acting out when one doesn’t get their way, or showing a lack of patience, is not about maturity. It’s about narcissism. Narcissistic Rage seems to be more and more common these days.
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
10:35 am
Cel basically made the point I was trying to make…we are all works in progress. If someone is giving me constructive criticism then I’d be open to hearing it. Then I’d determine if that’s something I’d be willing to tweek. It’s no different in learning how to communicate with each other. Just because we say we like each other or want to be together doesn’t mean the stars, moon and sun will line up and all will be perfect. We have to learn how we receive info, how we communicate and what speaks to us. We are all different beings from different backgrounds, different upbringings and different love languages.
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
10:43 am
abc – Your post goes back to the Wussification of Society per Bert Weiss of the Bert Show
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
10:45 am
Just because we say we like each other or want to be together doesn’t mean the stars, moon and sun will line up and all will be perfect.
Excellent point. I think alot of folks over look deal breakers because of that notion. Sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn’t.
Totally of topic: I sooo don’t want to be here right now…but my mortgage,car payment and student loans say otherwise..
i'm swiss
October 30th, 2012
10:53 am
I do believe Allen is dating this chick for her young, firm booty & breastseses, and I doubt he’s in any hurry for those to mature.
Random
October 30th, 2012
10:59 am
I have an O/T: I have a cousin that is in prison and recently got in contact with me, via cell phone. Now he is texting me and other family members allllllll the time. I know that is my family but every time I get a text i’m like, OOOOOOK already. I know I shouldn’t feel that way but it’s becoming a bit annoying. I know he doesn’t have much else to do but text all day.
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
11:03 am
Mrs. SexyCool
October 30th, 2012
11:04 am
When they start letting them have cell phones in prison?!?
Sounds like contraband…and he’s gone mess around and get some additional time…unless something has changed that I haven’t heard about.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
11:06 am
Is it common for prisoners to have cell phones? j/k Does he have unlimited texting (j/K). Just tell him to stop!
Mrs. SexyCool
October 30th, 2012
11:08 am
Maybe she thinks Allen needs to change. Maybe she is tolerating his behavior for some reason.
How would he respond to her constructive criticism?
What if she doesn’t want to change? What if she likes herself just fine?
I know that when this was done to me, it did not feel good. In retrospect, there wasn’t a d@mn thing wrong with me except I chose the wrong person, for the wrong reason.
Random
October 30th, 2012
11:21 am
“When they start letting them have cell phones in prison?!?”
That’s the same thing I said. He said, ssshhhh don’t tell anybody. Then at one point when we were talking, we got disconnected. He called back a few minutes later saying the guard had walked by. lol I would like him to cut down the texts but I can understand his plight.
i'm swiss
October 30th, 2012
11:23 am
Slim — When I’m an old man, I’ll happily eat my daily dose of prunes, trust me.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
11:28 am
Random ~ someone smuggled that phone to him with him putting it up his butt cheeks to get to his cell.
disco
October 30th, 2012
11:36 am
hey guys. i see it’s another quiet day in blogville. what’s the topic? inmates in prison with cell phones? ahhhh. finally a topic I can truly relate to. lol. I have a cousin who generally makes his prison calls in the late night hour. you can get up with on facebook during the day if need be.
disco
October 30th, 2012
11:37 am
leggs – all that smuggling ain’t even necessary. the guards are bout dirtier than the inmates.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
11:39 am
disco ~ I thought that too while typing that crap!
Random
October 30th, 2012
11:39 am
He is supposed to get out next year so I asked what his plan was. He threw some stuff out about having a lawn service and that he has gotten pretty good at online gambling
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
11:41 am
As a matter of fact, I used to work with someone who smuggled in two cellphones. She was to throw them over some fence to a guard patrolling. Very common indeed!
kimmie
October 30th, 2012
11:52 am
Good morning/almost afternoon!
I think Allen is blinded by the sex and doesn’t want to face the fact that they are incompatible. I also agree that maybe she’s done all the “growing up” she’s gonna do. There are plenty “old” folks that are spoiled and used to getting their way and throwing tantrums. They’ve been allowed to get away with it and it works so why change? Forget if she’s over 21, how about that ish wasn’t checked when she was 10 by her parents??!!!
Plus, maturity can be one of those things that is relative. While normally kind of a serious person, I love to be silly and joke and have fun and lighten up at times. I remember one guy I dated calling me immature though. Thinking back, like SCool’s 11:08, not a dam thing was wrong with me. The only thing I needed to change was my boyfriend and I did just that. He didn’t appreciate my sense of humor.
The off-topic of prisoner priviledges? I could not care less. That’s a whole world I have nothing to do with and have no interest in.
Random
October 30th, 2012
12:04 pm
Now he’s sent out mass texts saying he needs help with winter clothes.
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
12:12 pm
This cold weather is making me crave some soup. Any of yall have a bomb ass chilli recipe you care to share?
disco
October 30th, 2012
12:15 pm
hey kimmie.
random – y’all sure that’s your fam? he’s soliciting, it might be some kind of jailhouse scam. lol.
disco
October 30th, 2012
12:19 pm
slim – funny I was just telling someone I think I’m going to swing buy the grocery store for some andouille sausage. I have a crockpot recipe for stew with chicken, sausage and vegetables. of course, that’s assuming I’m still feeling it by the weekend because I doubt if I’ll bother during the week.
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
12:22 pm
disco – Yeah i’m saving my experiment for the weekend…too much to try to go out buy 1000 new ingredients all for a chilli craving. lol But that chicken stew sounds good. Let me know if you try it so I can try it the following week
kimmie
October 30th, 2012
12:26 pm
Hey disco!
I’m getting ready to go out and find me some soup now! See all it takes is a suggestion with me!LOL!!
disco
October 30th, 2012
12:28 pm
slim – I’ve made it before. i generally make it once or twice a year during the winter time. a little bit of prep – cutting, chopping and browning but the good old crock pot can take it from there.
kimmie – enjoy. don’t know what I’m getting for lunch. didn’t pack anything though so I need to be thinking about it.
i'm swiss
October 30th, 2012
12:32 pm
Slim — I make some kick ass chili. I could tell you the recipe, but then I’d have to kill you…
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
12:34 pm
You don’t have to kill her, just kick her a$$.
kimmie
October 30th, 2012
12:34 pm
I used to make this black bean and smoked turkey soup every winter. I have not done it in the last 4 or 5 years though. I am going to pick back up on it. It’s a recipe from Southern Living and it is da bomb!
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
12:35 pm
I’m getting ready to go out and find me some soup now!
True…I made some spicy gumbo yesterday and I’m having that for lunch.
MsAtl
October 30th, 2012
12:35 pm
Afternoon all!
Random- Winter clothes? Isn’t he limited to the orange jumpsuit??? With respect to the cell phone in prison; IKR? I had the same shock when I found out that there were folks on FaceBook in prison.
On Topic- I agree with Bluz on her 10:18; why waste time waiting for someone to grow up. I spent more than a decade waiting for that and it seemed like he was going backwards. If I didn’t get out, I would’ve been back to changing a diaper. However, I do believe he owes it to her to at least raise the topic and have a conversation letting her know how he feels before he just rolls her crib to the curb.
disco
October 30th, 2012
12:35 pm
hey swiss – I know you are (sort of kind of) joking there but I’ve never understood why people who aren’t in the food business get all funny acting when it comes to their recipes. folks will guard a recipe tooth and nail. lol. I guess I never sweated recipes because I grew up with “ghetto gourmet” type cooks. we don’t hardly follow a recipe right because we hardly ever have everything we are supposed to have. we are some substituting, improvising individuals.
MsAtl
October 30th, 2012
12:37 pm
Disco- hiding my face as I agree with you on growing up like that, lol. Even when we had the items, we didn’t follow the recipe because we used pinches, tastes and dabs instead of measurements.
disco
October 30th, 2012
12:39 pm
mrs. ATL – were you married to Benjamin button? lol. re prison winter clothes. it ain’t all about the jumpsuit. they get to buy thermals, hoodies, skullies, jackets. they be in prison styling.
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
12:39 pm
swiss – I’m not about to die over no chilli….but i’ll let you get a flash of the CT just as long as Mrs Swiss approves.
i'm swiss
October 30th, 2012
12:41 pm
disco — Um, well, I can’t speak for others, but on the closely guarded recipes — I can neither confirm nor deny that my chili recipe may contain certain illegal substances. IJS…
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
12:42 pm
I have a friend that had a brother go to jail…he had a facebook page too. Apparently, he must’ve had a cell phone since he was able to upload photos of himself in that usual jailhouse pose
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
12:44 pm
Slim, if we changed/grew to suit every person that walked into our lives, we would be forever changing. It’s like when people say I have an attitude problem, no they have a problem with my attitude, they don’t have to be around me, problem solved.
passing through again.
Bluzgirl
October 30th, 2012
12:45 pm
I sure wish I had learned how to make my ex’s (the one who passed away in March) gumbo, crawfish etoufee, and red beans. I never tasted anyone elses that was as good as his!!! When we were together, he didn’t like me in the kitchen with him much. Cooking those meals where his down time…
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
12:49 pm
SH – I wasn’t saying to the change for every person you meet. Every request isn’t the end all be all to who you are. It could be something as simple as requesting your partner to not use excessive profanity in front of them…could be doable, could not be. Ultmately, the choice is going to be yours. It’s not like they are asking you to change your skin color or something…but we don’t have to agree.
MsAtl
October 30th, 2012
1:00 pm
Lol @ Benjamin Buttons. Crazy Buttons was more like it. Certainly didn’t know about all the stylin & clothes folks could buy in prison (not that it’s a bad thing that I don’t know). Slim- “jailhouse pose.” I’m laughing because I know what you are talking about; I’ve seen it on FB also.
i'm swiss
October 30th, 2012
1:03 pm
Slim — Jailhouse pose? I hope that doesn’t involve a shower and a slippery bar of soap…
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
1:06 pm
I’m not about to die over no chilli….but i’ll let you get a flash of the CT just as long as Mrs Swiss approves
Thanks I needed that…I was about to doze off…
we don’t hardly follow a recipe right because we hardly ever have everything we are supposed to have.
Us,too…as long as we had the “main” ingredients we were good. Mommy would improvise and if she never told us, we’d never have known otherwise..
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
1:08 pm
Someone is heating up a pot pie in the microwave…I have not had one of those in YEARS. I guess that’s where the ole toaster oven could come in handy.
swiss – I’m not sure what kind of jail poses you’re used to seeing
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
1:17 pm
Curious ~ did you have difficulty giving up your solitude once you became exclusive with that special person? Meaning from not really having anyone under you or you under them to now seeing this person on a regular, was the adjustment difficult or did you welcome it. Were you easily irritated??
Willie Dynamite
October 30th, 2012
1:20 pm
Afternoon all,
Topic- ole Allen trying to handcuff the chick via the shape, mold and growth method. Allen needs to snap to reality and understand he’s prolly in denial. This chick wasn’t immature when he was goo goo gah gah over her before he smashed. Now that he’s smashed a few times and the newness wore off he wants to place blame on immaturity. Methinks he just didn’t have an exit strategy. Apparent they’ve talked without the desired results. I’m seeing immature behavior on his part.
Side topic- I just made Turkey soup using the carcass from a turkey I smoked over the w/e. no recipe just a lil bit of this and that. If I must say so myself it was the bomb.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
1:22 pm
I made a pot of soup using the ham bone, navy beans, veggies. I almost OD’d on that soup.
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
1:31 pm
I have hiccups now and I feel like a retard with tourettes. lol
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
1:31 pm
Afternoon, all.
Dang, Willie D. Carcass???? Something about that word just makes me cringe…..
sn: Guess who broke her foot??? Give you three guesses and the first two don’t count….
DuShawn
October 30th, 2012
1:38 pm
“……did you have difficulty giving up your solitude once you became exclusive with that special person?” I’ve been married for over a decade and still have not adjusted.
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
1:40 pm
Yep this is definitely soup weather(along with some other heat creating acivities)…I’m looking up some more recipes on deelish.com and eatwell.com….and they’re quite interesting.
Side note: Office romances are a slippery slope….just saw a couple arguing and now they still have to work together…NO way I’m doing that.
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
1:43 pm
I’ve been married for over a decade and still have not adjusted.
Really…y’all got chirren and everything and you’re still adjusting…interesting. I ran into a couple I know and they’re going through their own thing…they have two children and she wants another but he’s like
He said he loves the kiddies dearly but umm no mo…
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
1:46 pm
I’ve been thinking about catching the sperm flu within the last few months…not sure what that’s all about.
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
1:49 pm
SlimNu is your biological clock ticking?!
I don’t have children and I’m not thinking of catching “the sperm flu” any time soon…actually not at all. But I’ll practice lke a muhg,though
i'm swiss
October 30th, 2012
1:50 pm
“i’ll let you get a flash of the CT just as long as Mrs Swiss approves”
Aw snap! How did I miss that post?
Slim — You can just sext that CT pic on over. If Mrs. Swiss finds it, I’ll just tell her it’s hers. She hasn’t been able to see her puddy for the past couple of months with the baby bump, so she won’t know the difference…
(j/k/b/k/n/r) 
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
1:52 pm
Sassy – Is that what that is, the biological clock? For a second I thought I was developing an early case of DEMENTIA
swiss – I’m not sure how you missed it but I was beginning to think I must’ve shown it to you already
KIDDING
Willie Dynamite
October 30th, 2012
1:59 pm
Consign the 1:38. Hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life.
Willie Dynamite
October 30th, 2012
2:02 pm
Slim- toaster ovens, sperm flu. Something u wanna tell us or are you still in denial. Seems like you ready, hahaha
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
2:03 pm
Thanks for answering, DuShawn and for your honesty!
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
2:05 pm
Oh, thanks WillieD!
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
2:08 pm
WD – Now i’m going to have R Kelly’s song in my for the rest of the day.
Willie Dynamite
October 30th, 2012
2:09 pm
ITL- oh man you broke your foot? Do tell.
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
2:12 pm
Naw SlimNu that ain’t dementia…you might be ready for real chica
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
2:16 pm
@Willie D: 99% sure. Going to get an x-ray to confirm. See, what had happened was, I thought I had perfected my dismount from the ceiling fan onto the bed, but the headboard sticks out further than I thought, and……
I kid, I kid. It was a perfect storm of tripping over the cat and the rug sliding…..
Exiled!
October 30th, 2012
2:17 pm
Good neckwork ha Dushawn?
I see,says me, the blind man!
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
2:18 pm
I can’t keep my eyes open or my head straight up.
disco
October 30th, 2012
2:21 pm
willie d – your little of this little of that soup sounds like my grandmother’s “clean out the refrigerator” soup. she’d put almost anything wrapped in foil or in Tupperware over in a pot. no telling what all was in that soup but I tell you it was always right on time after trudging around in the cold and snow.
itl – how about I hurt my left foot and my right knee recently. once I got past the pain the whole thing was kind of comical.
kimmie
October 30th, 2012
2:21 pm
Leggs – I’m still adjusting. Love em all, but err now and then……….
I’m just used to having things in the house the way I like – neater!
DreamsMaterialize
October 30th, 2012
2:22 pm
Hey Everyone.
As far as the topic goes, Allen should know that growing up can mean growing apart or her out-growing him. He’s putting alot of stock into this one. I don’t want to marry somone based on who I think she could be…it’s a setup for disappointment.
kimmie
October 30th, 2012
2:22 pm
Light – Be careful lady!!
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
2:26 pm
It was a perfect storm of tripping over the cat and the rug sliding…..
ITL – If you only knew how many times I almost broke my neck from tripping over the dayum cat
I don’t have him anymore but whenever he saw me about to go into a room, he had this thing where he would try to run past me to go in the room first. TOO many times I tripped over him hurting myself only to then have him run and hide when I started cussin him out lol
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
2:29 pm
Ahh good old Tupperware…do they still make that stuff? I know back in the day we had a Tuppa-everything…my aunt used to sell it and of course Mommy was her number one customer…
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
2:29 pm
I’m just used to having things in the house the way I like
I don’t like when the beau puts on a new roll of tissue. He has the paper coming out from under the roll. I like it over the top. Petty I know…
Bluzgirl
October 30th, 2012
2:32 pm
ITL – Oh no girl! I hate that for you. Those darn cats sure like to get up under our feet, don’t they?
Mrs. SexyCool
October 30th, 2012
2:33 pm
Yeah…some days, I have space sharing issues. This morning was one of them. I cleaned the kitchen last night before I went to bed. This morning I get up and it was the scene of late night cooking/snacking.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
2:36 pm
That’s a big adjustment, kimmie…the cleanliness of others. I hear ya!
I ask because a coworker told me yesterday that she has reconnected with her h.s sweetheart through FB. Both same age and (early 60’s). She’s been on her own the past 12 years and his constant banter via texting is annoying her. He never texted until she introduced him to a smart phone. Now, he’s telling her every dang tidbit about this day from going to the vet, and “now I’m leaving the vet.”
She says she loves him and glad they’re reconnected, she just not used to all the adjustments she’s about to make and how she wished she never introduced him to an IPhone!
kimmie
October 30th, 2012
2:37 pm
Slim – Actually the toilet tissue thing was one of the adjustments I had to make!LOL!!
I like mine going under!LOL!!
DuShawn
October 30th, 2012
2:37 pm
@Leggs – On the issue of solitude, Wifey has come to understand my issue with that. I got married in my mid thirties. I was used to living alone. Even as a child I always had my own room. I truly enjoy my solitude. A couple of years ago, I took advantage of the housing market and bought a bigger home. This house has six bedrooms, four baths and a finished basement. Between wifey and the cockblockas , it’s still hard to find my own space. I literally hide from them. If they’re in our bedroom, I go to the basement, when they come down there, I go on the deck, if they come out there, I go in the bonus room above the garage. If they invade that, I’ll go sit in the garage. I often hear them calling me. I won’t say a word. Finally, wifey will look in my final hiding space, realize that I’m in solitude mode, then close the door and leave me alone.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
2:37 pm
ITL ~ now you know you have no business making that cat sing Three Blind Mice. You tripped while he was making a run for it.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 30th, 2012
2:38 pm
M always puts it going under. And I don’t know if he does it intentionally or not, but I always change it to going over.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
2:39 pm
SlimNu ~ I believe the toilet paper flap should be over and not under. I have changed many in my friend’s bathrooms.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
2:42 pm
Dushawn ~ awww!!! I know it has to be hard for a man with a wife and cockblockas all over the place. Don’t stone me ladies, but I think men need space to unwind, scratch his balls, fart, belch, deep think w/o any of us or his chillin around him.
Willie Dynamite
October 30th, 2012
2:47 pm
Ahh Mars and Venus
Woman worried about tissue over/under
Man buys 250K house just to hv a room to hide alone for 30 mins
Mrs. SexyCool
October 30th, 2012
2:47 pm
I was fairly used to by myself time as well. I love it when M takes GiGi to Petsmart for her bath. I truly have the house all to myself then. And if I’m supposed to go pick her up, I wait until it’s almost closing time.
disco
October 30th, 2012
2:48 pm
leggs – I hope none of your friends argued with their S/O or fussed at their children over your changing the tp. I could just hear a chick fussing about how many daggone times do I have to tell you. and him mumbling about how he didn’t do anything.
leggs – don’t women need that same space? lol. I think the word mom and many of it’s variations can be the most annoying sound in the daggone world. think stewie from family guy. mom. mom. mom. mom. mommy. mommy. mommy. enough to make you want to put a bullet in a kid.
kimmie
October 30th, 2012
2:51 pm
Leggs – I won’t stone you, but us ladies need our unwind space too!
That actually isn’t much of an issue with us. Everyone had their own little spots in the house they go to to do their own thing at times. My space is the chaise lounger in our bedroom. I watch whatever I want on the tv, read or do my jewelry-making. Hubs has a spot in the basement and the kids have their own rooms. We’re all good about giving each other space.
I just can’t take the clutter that can build up in a matter of minutes! It gets to where I can’t take it and I come thru like the tazmanian devil and clean up.
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
2:53 pm
I believe the toilet paper flap should be over and not under. I have changed many in my friend’s bathrooms
That’s what I learned,too, when I used to work in the restaurant business. I thought I was the only one to change other people’s tiolet tissue around…glad to know I’m not
Don’t stone me ladies, but I think men need space to unwind, scratch his balls, fart, belch, deep think w/o any of us or his chillin around him.
No stone throwing over here Leggs…I agree. Hell we too need our own space to unwind, take our bras off and think about some isht as well. I like my solititude,too….maybe a little too much at times. Mr. Bermuda and I had to go through that period of adjustment initially b/c he didn’t understand that about me. I have my days where I’m a chatter box and other days he might not hear from me…not b/c I’m angry or anything. I tell him that’s when I want to be off the radar….and now he gets it. When he’s going through the same thing I don’t trip…it is what it is.
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
2:53 pm
Leggs – I always stand there for a second trying to decide if i’m being rude by switching the roll to go over. But I say, well if they call me out on it, i’ll just say it came off the roll by mistake and I just put it back on.
And I agree with regard to men needing that space to do whatever but I guess they just want to act like they don’t. When I think the beau needs some time alone, he rolls his eyes at me lol
DuShawn
October 30th, 2012
2:55 pm
Disco- that’s wifey’s ringtone for the kids. When we’re out and they call…. that ish is funny.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
2:55 pm
disco ~ I’ve only done with my single female friends. I wouldn’t go into a married couple’s home and change anything.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 30th, 2012
2:56 pm
Sass – I’d wanted to ask about Mr. Bermuda, but have been around so infrequently, I wasn’t sure if he was still around.
I’m glad to hear that he is.
MsAtl
October 30th, 2012
2:56 pm
What is this blog coming to- now we’re discussing over versus under??? BTW Leggs- I have changed the tissue many times too, lol.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
2:56 pm
I am not saying women don’t need their space. Of course we do. For some reason, we are more petite than our male counterpart, but our shoulders are stronger. We all need our “quiet space” to unwind, but our protectors need it more (IMO).
Mrs. SexyCool
October 30th, 2012
2:58 pm
I had the opportunity to change my off days back to Saturday and Sunday, but chose to keep Thursday and Friday for a few reasons. One of the biggest ones – that I would have time at the house to myself for a few hours on my off days and that he could have the same on his.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
3:00 pm
MsAtl ~ thanks for weighing in (lololol). Think about it, flap under is just an inconvenience (lol).
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
3:02 pm
I think we all go through that where the only voice we want to hear are in our heads…Sometimes I don’t want to answer the phone, talk, text or share space with another. I have taken a day off just for the sake of alone time. What’s funny is I took a day off recently, I believe it was a Friday. Next thing I know, you know who was taking the same day off to chill together.
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
3:05 pm
Thanks, y’all.
My co-worker just looked at it and asked, “Are you going to wait for the bone to actually pop out of the skin, or are you going to the doc today??” LOL
@Slim: My cat does that ALL the time. Especially when it’s dinner time. I ask her all the time if she’s trying to get a spanking. And she just looks at me like, “WTH is a spanking??? Do they taste good?”
That little brat is spoiled so rotten.
@Leggs: You know she can’t sing. But she does thump her tail while I sing.
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
3:07 pm
Rolling back in, Yes men do need their space, but now when our woman things we need it, but when we want it!!
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
3:09 pm
Slim now rolling SH right back out the door and down the hill
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
3:09 pm
My cat is greedy and for some reason thinks he’s part of my rib cage when I’m on couch watching tv. I’ve never seen a cat that literally gets up under a person.
Ok, now for those seeking alone time, well really for you DuShawn, you sure you haven’t built a panic room in your home and your family doesn’t know about it???
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
3:10 pm
Single ~ did you have a few drinks before you rolled back in here???
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
3:11 pm
LOL@Slim’s 3:09. I had a mental image of SH rolling down a big old grassy hill, like Buttercup and Wesley in The Princess Bride.
Aaaaaassss Yuoooooouuuu Wiiiiisssshhhhhh.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
3:11 pm
SlimNu ~ I am laughing out loud, just saw your response…that was on point!
kimmie
October 30th, 2012
3:12 pm
Leggs – I get what you are saying, and maybe if things were the way they were in the past I would agree. Male and female roles were more clearly defined. Now, more women work outside the home.
Take myself for example. Hubs can get from the house to work in about 20-25 minutes tops. The only way I’m getting to work in under an hour is if there is absolutely no traffic, which when is that the case in the ATL? So, each day I spend at least 2 hours just driving to work and back. When I get home, I prepare dinner and 2 nights a week drive kids to soccer and other activities. This is not counting other things that need to be done. I’m exhausted mentally and physically quite a bit. Yes, hubs helps out quite a bit, but still. I have almost no time to myself to just do nothing if I want.
Not really complaining, I do what I gotta and want to do. I know what I signed up for. But I do get tired, like any human.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
3:15 pm
kimmie ~ not even trying to take away from us strong woman. In my case when married, I had the weight of the world on my shoulders and a new parent/wife. I got tired, but couldn’t take a break so I forged ahead. I think with all those memories, just want to give that man that truly is taking care of things and his wife, his own soundproof room.
kimmie
October 30th, 2012
3:18 pm
Slim – For some reason lately, the phone ringing at home irritates the H out of me!!! I try to call folks during the day or call them when I feel like it in the evening. Other than that, when it rings I make no attempt to answer it most times. I don’t feel like talking to anyone unless I’ve initiated it. If it’s not for me, I don’t feel like calling hubs or the kids to pick up the phone. Unless it’s someone I have not talked to in awhile or my grandmother, I just hate it when the phone rings!!!!!!
kimmie
October 30th, 2012
3:20 pm
Leggs – I feel ya. If he’s doing the dang thing, he definitely deserves it.
Bluzgirl
October 30th, 2012
3:20 pm
Speaking of the over/under issue…I’m very surprised that I don’t care which way it is. I have mild OCD and that is one that doesn’t bother me. What does bother me is when people leave time on the microwave! LOL
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
3:22 pm
I wasn’t sure if he was still around.I’m glad to hear that he is.
Thank you Mrs. SexyCool…I’m glad he’s still around,too
disco
October 30th, 2012
3:23 pm
O/T – so a friend of mine phone me earlier today. I missed the call. called back at lunch. said friend said he got a call saying that one of my relatives was found dead today. this particular relative lives close to the streets so anything is possible. I’m like “hmm. nope. haven’t heard anything” but still thought it best if I called to investigate. I call the supposedly dead person. no answer. call a few aunts and a few cousins. no answer. starting to get nervous because the folks I’m calling don’t work. they always answer the phone. finally get a cousin who hasn’t heard anything either. at this point I just asked them to holler at me when someone heard from her.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 30th, 2012
3:23 pm
My phone rings about once every two days – even then, I may not answer it.
It is easier for me to cook breakfast for M than it is to cook dinner. Breakfast is easier to cook anyway. I am in control of when I leave my house in the mornings, so, I can take my time and make a veggie omelet. By the time I get home in the evenings, I have less energy for cooking. Unless – I season some chicken or fish, throw it in the oven, set the timer and take a nap while it’s baking. (which is what I’m doing today.)
Thank God he’s easy to cook for.
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
3:24 pm
kimmie – My co-worker was just talking about having to do all this stuff, especially when it comes to football practice & stuff. She said she has to leave here, round up the kids, get them to practice meanwhile when hubs gets home, he’s in front of the tv. He will hardly ever cook unless she barks at him to cook something simple. So after practice, she still has to do homework with the kids, get dinner ready, get herself together for the next day and wash rinse repeat….(I guess he feels like he works a lot, on-call or whatever that he doesn’t have to do house type things)
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
3:26 pm
Slim why it got to be like that
Disco, not on vacation yet, that’s the only time I drink 
Mrs. SexyCool
October 30th, 2012
3:27 pm
And to be fair, he doesn’t mind picking dinner up either. But cooking – he will, but…if I tell him dinner is on him, he’s probably going to stop somewhere as opposed to getting in the kitchen.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 30th, 2012
3:28 pm
Oh…and prayers and well wishes to those effected by Sandy.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
3:29 pm
SlimNu ~ don’t know why but I pictured “Mister” (Color Purple) in your 3:24 but w/o the abuse.
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
3:29 pm
OMG, Bluz! I am with you on that one. I am forever clearing the microwave timer in the breakroom. So much so that I’ve named it “rollover” seconds. That, and people putting the lid back on the candy jar crooked and leaving cabinet doors open. Just ugh!
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
3:30 pm
@disco: Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
3:32 pm
Slim that sounds like on of those couples who thought they were on the same page in the beginning, but didn’t realize they were reading different books.
kimmie
October 30th, 2012
3:33 pm
Slim – I am blessed with a helpful hubs. He does all of his & the kids laundry every week. He will also cook, but not like I do, with planned, healthy meals. He’ll do burgers or grilled cheese & heat up soup or do a frozen stirfry. He does BBQ alot in the summer. But more than likely if I’m going to be late he’s gonna pick up something or order a pizza. The kids think they can live on pizza, so I’m the bad guy!LOL!! When he does cook though, he doesn’t clean up like I do or how I like it!
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
3:33 pm
kimmie – I have a cousin way down the family line that always sends me texts or whatever but he NEVER really wants anything. I had him blocked from seeing when i’m online on fb for that very reason. I hate to be that way but I feel so annoyed by it lol I hope i’m not becoming an old grumpy frumpy chick
Bluz – I like the microwave time to show the clock, not unfininshed time. So i’m right there with ya on that one. I don’t like cabinents or drawers not fully closed or stuff hanging out of them.
MsAtl
October 30th, 2012
3:33 pm
Okay Bluz! That really gets on my nerves. I try to ignore it, but I always end up clearing the time anyway. ITL- yes, I also close cabinet doors. However I am not sure which one bugs me more. I can’t stand it when folks use the last paper towel & don’t replace the roll or leave the trash can without a bag. Now you guys have me twitching, lol.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
3:34 pm
Hope your first phone call was wrong, disco!
kimmie
October 30th, 2012
3:36 pm
Slim – When it comes to that phone ringing after I’ve come home from work, call me grumpy all you want, I don’t care!
Bluzgirl
October 30th, 2012
3:38 pm
Good…I don’t feel silly with my microwave time! We have two microwaves in our break room and I’m always clearing out the time. I don’t know what is so hard about hitting clear if you have leftover time!
Open cabinets and drawers get to me also.
Another thing here…people are bad about getting more plasticware and plates when they use the last one. Seems like I’m the only one who refills everything. So annoying!!!
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
3:41 pm
disco – Where does the missing relative live? Could not be AS bad…could just be on locked down at the moment. (Trying to see some positive in the potentially negative situation)
MsAtl
October 30th, 2012
3:42 pm
Bluz- I solved that issue; I have my own stash in my drawer. That way I am eating properly while they have to eat like sasquatches.
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
3:44 pm
kimmie – The co-worker said her husband will pickup Mickey D’s if she isn’t going to cook but she’s like at least make sloppy joe’s or hamburger helper. lol But as far as hubs not cleaning up or whatever like you like it, you’ll have to find a way to deal with it unless you want to do it all the time. One thing I’ve learned with men, if you complain about how they do something, they’ll choose not to do it at all.
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
3:44 pm
MsAtl do you bring your stash from home?
Mrs. SexyCool
October 30th, 2012
3:45 pm
5 Hour Energy EXTRA is just too much for me.
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
3:45 pm
Slim women do that same thing (LOL)
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
3:47 pm
MsATL – My cousin’s ex boyfriend would b!tch about not letting the air out of the bag whenever someone would put a new bag in there.
To this day, we’ll always make a comment about it in our MISTER voice from Color Purple.
kimmie
October 30th, 2012
3:54 pm
Slim – You are so right, that’s why I don’t say much to him. I am just scared I am going to explode one day. I get on the kids because I am trying to TEACH them. I threaten them all the time that if we don’t watch it, our house will be like those on Hoarders and they won’t want to have any of their friends over. On top of that, I tell them we will have roaches and rats everywhere and everything will stink!LOL!! That helps them jump to attention. It just gets old.
I know I need to work on my OCD though.
Willie Dynamite
October 30th, 2012
3:55 pm
Fellas- I hope y’all are paying attention. This isht is waaaay deeper than leaving the toilet seat up. Wow!!!!
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
3:55 pm
It’s good to know I’m not alone in my little CDO world.
How about when you do go for the burger and fries, and they throw the ketchup packets in on top of your fries? I’m like, really??? I know that ketchup has been dropped on the floor, stepped on, crawled over by who-knows-what with 6 or 8 legs, etc, etc, etc…. No thank you on the condiments packets touching my food.
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
3:57 pm
LOL@Kimmie. That’s why I can’t watch that show. I’ll be tired as heyal, trying to relax, but when that show comes on, I’m up an at ‘em, scrubbing something. (((((shudder))))) And that Extreme Cheapskates is just as bad. You pee in a jar and throw it outside???? Where dey do dat at? Cheapy McCheapster. Ick.
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
3:58 pm
SH – I see you made it back up that hill
kimmie
October 30th, 2012
3:59 pm
Willie – Yeah, it’s kinda crazy isn’t it?? LOL!!!
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:01 pm
Fellas- I hope y’all are paying attention. This isht is waaaay deeper than leaving the toilet seat up. Wow!!!!
I was wondering which MLB would be the first to say this.
disco
October 30th, 2012
4:01 pm
leggs – there are a lot of hands in this one. on one hand this relative lives close to the streets (real hood like that), anything is possible. on the other hand, this particular relative has an uncommon name. hard to confuse. on the other hand, this relative has more than one alias. (I know it sounds crazy but it’s real). I could go on with the other hands. I’ll make calls after work but I’m sure it will turn out to be a misunderstanding.
slim – Cincinnati
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:02 pm
Took a whole lot tryin’….just to get up that hill…. Now Stamps up in big leagues….gettin’ his turn at bat….
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:02 pm
You’re right…
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
4:04 pm
This isht is waaaay deeper than leaving the toilet seat up.
WD – You’re probably right, as funny as that is. It may just be that day where your mercury has reached the top and we explode like kimmie said. It’s days upon days, or weeks of TRYING to ignore the clutter, the tissue under the roll, the stuff in the middle of the floor, the extra time on the microwave, pee on the toilet seat, having to come home after sitting in traffic for two hours only to be greeted with, “What’s for dinner?” when you get there, then helping kids with homework or reports they knew about a month ago but are trying to do it the night before it’s due, THEN at the end of the night when you finally get a moment of peace, here comes Mister tombout his weenie is hard and he needs your help to deflate it.
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
4:06 pm
ITL –
Exactly what I heard in my head when I asked SH that question lol
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:06 pm
WD that’s why I like living alone, I have to remind folks when they come to visit to leave the dang seat up, you’re in a mans house now.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:07 pm
You summed that up nicely, SlimNu.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 30th, 2012
4:07 pm
(lmao)
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:07 pm
Slim is preggers. I’m saying it right now.
kimmie
October 30th, 2012
4:07 pm
Slim – I am over here CRACKING UP at you!!!
You have definitely helped me to leave here with a better attitude!!LOL!!
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:08 pm
Funny you say that Single because I asked a guy why he left the seat up in my bathroom and I’m the only one who lives there.
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:08 pm
ITL, Slim, tell you the same thing I told a TI in the military when he informed me isht rolls down hill, I KNOW HOW TO STEP ASIDE! :-d (as I watched slim roll down the hill) LOL
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:08 pm
Or will be by this time next year. yup.
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:09 pm
Leggs your house, your rules (LOL)
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:09 pm
That’s right, sir!
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:11 pm
@Stamps: Why leave the seat up or down? It looks much nicer, and is much more sanitary, to close it. Have you ever seen the demo of how far those airborne germs can travel???? Nope. Not ITL. I’m not brushing my teeth with the poo poo brush. Ick.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:13 pm
Right, ITL. All seats should be closed and are in my house.
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:13 pm
Amen, Leggs. Gives me the willies just thinking about airborne germs. Ew ew ew!
i'm swiss
October 30th, 2012
4:16 pm
Peeking back in… Couple comments:
On the “men need a quiet space more than women” front: The reason we need a whole separate room (or basement, etc.) to ourselves is that our ladies (lovely as they are) can’t be in the same room with us an not talk.
On the “dude not cleaning the way she likes it” front: I have no problem with Mrs. Swiss asking me to clean something or to clean something differently that I do. But you ladies have to realize that men and women have completely different perceptions of what’s unacceptably dirty. Here’s what Mrs. Swiss does that drives me crazy: She’ll spot something that she doesn’t like (spider webs in the garage, little (and I mean little) smudge spots on the hardwoods in the kitchen, etc. Now, instead of asking me to clean ___, she’ll say nothing & just wait to see how long it takes me to notice it. Now, mind you, by my standards, the place still looks fine, so before it gets to the point where I notice & clean it, she’s already pissed off & then will come at me with the old “you make me do everything” line. Which, of course, couldn’t be further from the truth — I’m just not as picky as she is, and thus, I don’t notice sh!t as quickly as she does.
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:23 pm
ITL and how do all these germs get out? when I flush I’m sitting, not flushing when the lid is down. And know I haven’t seen the demo, because they can find something wrong in anything if you look hard enough! Also remember when the lid is down, it’s not sealed, it still has ways for air to flow in and out!
kimmie
October 30th, 2012
4:25 pm
Swiss – See I’m different that Mrs Swiss. I will go ahead and clean it myself & not say anything unless the kids did it. But it’s all adding up……..
It’s actually gotten a little funny with me & hubs. He will set a cup down or a fork down that he’s used and intends to use again, but before he knows it I have already swooped it up and washed it or put it in the dishwasher. Or, someone will leave some food on a plate and I would have already tossed it when they decide to come back to it. Mind you, it usually looks dried up and totally unappetizing by the time they come back, so I feel good in tossing it!
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:28 pm
How many flush while sitting??? Single, if there’s air flow when lid is down, where’s the air when your buttocks are planted on the lid. The germs have one or two places to go…oh my.
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:29 pm
S/H rule to live by (LOL) ahhh the way to live a stress free life!
If your’e going to do it and then fuss about it or hold it in, Don’t do it!!
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:29 pm
I can identify, kimmie!!!
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:29 pm
@Stamps: Ew.
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:30 pm
@Leggs: Your 4:28 is right on!! Stamps got a germ enema….
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
4:31 pm
kimmie – You sound like my cousin…she’s damn near taking your cup or glass out of your hand to wash it before you’re even done. If you get up to go to the restroom or something, you MUST tell her you’ll be rhet back lol
swiss – I’m still waiting for the day the beau decides to take all 40 almost empty lotion bottles to merge the remnants all into one bottle.
Meanwhile, they are just taking up bathroom cabinent space. 
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
4:32 pm
One thing I’ve learned with men, if you complain about how they do something, they’ll choose not to do it at all.
See it can’t come out as a complaint….you have to use the sandwich method. Tell him one or two things you do like that he does and ever so lightly slip the issue right in there..then top it off with another thing he does that you like. Learnt that from Dr. Phil (no pun intended).
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:33 pm
ITL ew at you, you have to stand and look at your before you flush (LOL)
disco
October 30th, 2012
4:33 pm
swiss – your 4:16 reminds of the comedian who joked about dusting. said men don’t dust because how else are they supposed to know where stuff goes. their drinks, the remote, everything has it’s place and the dust particles apparently mark the spot.
i'm swiss
October 30th, 2012
4:35 pm
“I will go ahead and clean it myself & not say anything unless the kids did it. But it’s all adding up……”
kimmie — Mrs. Swiss will do that, too. And then at some point months later, it’ll get thrown back in my face that she had to do such & such. Is it really that hard to just say, “hey, would you mind cleaning ___?” Speaking for myself, it’s not that I think she should be the maid, it’s just that my definition of dirty is a lot different than hers, so I don’t notice it.
SlimNu
October 30th, 2012
4:35 pm
if there’s air flow when lid is down, where’s the air when your buttocks are planted on the lid. The germs have one or two places to go…oh my.
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:36 pm
LOL@Slim. That’s a man thing, for sure. And leaving one sip of OJ/milk/tea whatever in the pitcher. Really?? Like if you leave that I’m not gonna think you drank it all?
@Stamps: I’d rather risk a glimpse than bathe my booty in airborne e.coli
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:36 pm
Well, it’s good to at least look at your poop, it’s color, it’s shape (should be S shaped), whether there’s seeds, etc. I’m serious…
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
4:37 pm
And that Extreme Cheapskates is just as bad
Yuck…I saw an episode where this lady fed her friends food that she’d found while dumpster diving. My inner scientist cringed at that isht…and truth be told if ANY friends I had ever did that and had the cajones to hell me about it after the fact…I’m kicking a$$ left and right…
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:38 pm
I’d rather risk a glimpse – WTH are you risking (lol). You should look!!!!!
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:39 pm
Slim the only place the germs go if your buttocks is planted on the lid is down with everything else, when you flush it creates vaccum and sucks everything down. This the same place they would go if you had the lid down.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:39 pm
And Sassy, did you notice her jacked up haircut she gives herself. Girl, I’ll be throwing blows right along with you!
DreamsMaterialize
October 30th, 2012
4:39 pm
if you complain about how they do something, they’ll choose not to do it at all.
slim Got that right. lol
Fellas- I hope y’all are paying attention. This isht is waaaay deeper than leaving the toilet seat up. Wow!!!!
WD Like X-Clan said, “Deeper than Atlantis”. lol
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
4:40 pm
Speaking for myself, it’s not that I think she should be the maid, it’s just that my definition of dirty is a lot different than hers, so I don’t notice it.
Grasshopper…keep in mind that you’re dealing with an emotional woman right now. Oh and wait til she starts nesting and cleaning EVERYthing..all I can say is don’t agrue or fuss back, just smile and nod…smile and nod.
i'm swiss
October 30th, 2012
4:42 pm
S – shaped turds??? GOT D@MN, that’s got to be a mighty big stretch of pipe, there, Leggs.
Maaaaaaan, on that note, the very best thing about our house is the “his & hers” thrones — on opposite sides of the master bathroom. Some things are just not meant to be shared, even between husband & wife, and what our dumps smell/sound/look like are one of those things…
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:42 pm
Flushing toilet, water particles jump up out the bowl which mean they will plant themselves in you A-hole if you’re sitting down. If you stand by a toilet while you’re flushing it, you can feel the water on your leg. So, if you’re sitting down, your butt should be wet. Am I the only one who feels this way??
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
4:42 pm
Leggs, I was looking at her like WTH?!?!
And she really wanted them to like that isht…just eeeeeeewww..
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:42 pm
Heck, where did you really think the convo would go after talking about the proper placement of toilet paper flap (lolololol).
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
4:43 pm
S – shaped turds???
Well actually Swiss your intestines are S shaped…so therefore…
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:43 pm
ITL, airborne ecoli (lmao) uhhh it came out of you, so wouldn’t that mean you already have ecoli (LOL)
i'm swiss
October 30th, 2012
4:43 pm
Sassy — Oh no, all of this was long before she was preggers. She’s actually been much easier to live with while pregnant, to be honest.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:44 pm
Swiss, they should be S shaped or curly. Ask any doctor.
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:44 pm
@Leggs: I agree with you. I saw a documentary where they used a special chemical and a blue light to show where the water particles landed. All over the vanity, the faucet, TOOTHBRUSH, soap…. Blech.
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:44 pm
Leggs, feel water splashing out, dang where you taking a dunk at (LOL)
disco
October 30th, 2012
4:45 pm
lol. I don’t know leggs. it does seem like you are taking it to a whole nother level. of course real is real and what is the blog if not real. (well except for when we are overcome by imposters and all that other drama).
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:47 pm
ITL in this documentary was the lid up, or down, was someone sitting on the seat? If you’re talking airborne particle and the seat is not sealed they are still getting out and floating around lid up or down.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:47 pm
disco ~ not taking it to another level. Just speaking the truth. Really…
Single ~ has nothing to do with the “dunk”. It has to do with the power of your water level and flush!
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
4:48 pm
so wouldn’t that mean you already have ecoli (LOL)
Umm okay then…
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:48 pm
@Stamps: Ummm, Poo Diddy, there are a myriad of bacteria in your stomach and intestines. E.coli is probably among them. Don’t you remember the E.Coli outbreak at White Water? Came from babies poop getting into the water (from leaky diapers, etc.)
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:48 pm
reverse that…power of the flush and your water level. Yep, disco, that’s real talk!
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:49 pm
Am I remembering incorrectly, Sassy???
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:49 pm
Now, on to more fresher pleasant smelling things (lol).
DreamsMaterialize
October 30th, 2012
4:50 pm
Everyone is currently breathing in germs as we speak. (insert evil laugh here)
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:50 pm
Leggs I know but where are you that the water in the toilet is that powerful IJS (LOL)
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:51 pm
You remembered correctly, ITL.
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
4:51 pm
Swiss usually it’s the other way around but each woman is different. Now you’ll be in the house with TWO of them…one grown one and another one in training. Be strong uni-balling,grashopper…I have faith in youuu..
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:51 pm
Here you go, Stamps:
Escherichia coli or E. Coli is a common bacterium characteristically found in the human and animal intestine. The bacteria form part of the normal gut flora present in the bowel. There are a number of different types of E. Coli, the majority of which are harmless although a few strains of the bacteria can cause serious food poisoning and infections.
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:52 pm
DM hell we all got to die from something so why worry about it, death is inevitable
disco
October 30th, 2012
4:52 pm
dreams – I’ve been thinking that for a minute but didn’t want to rile the germaphobes. some folks will drive themselves batty worrying about germs when there really ain’t a darned thing you can do about them. fighting germs is almost like fighting the war on drugs. you can’t win.
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:52 pm
@Dreams: Now was that nice?!?!?
DreamsMaterialize
October 30th, 2012
4:52 pm
Leggs I know but where are you that the water in the toilet is that powerful IJS
S and H those old project toilets used to flush like that. Leggs I am NOT saying you live in the projects.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:52 pm
Single ~ don’t get me wrong, not talking about a surge of water spewing from your bowl. However, if you really paid attention, particulate matter will become airborne with a flush of the toilet.
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
4:53 pm
there are a myriad of bacteria in your stomach and intestines. E.coli is probably among them. Am I remembering incorrectly
You’re right ITL and that is what caused the outbreak at White Water. A Braves player’s son was one among the infected and the poor boy almost dies as a result.
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:54 pm
ITL so if you have to strain that can cause serious food poisoning and infections, didn’t you get it from you??
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:55 pm
@Leggs: Ours at work are like that. I feel like I need to stand back 20 paces before it flushes.
Oh…..and have you ever flushed the toilet on a cruise ship??? I remember the first time I heard it, I was like, “Ummmm, you still in there or do I need to call the Coast Guard???”
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:55 pm
So, once again, how many sit on the toilet and flush. Even with a courtesy flush, I’m raising my a$$ off the bowl. IJS…..
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
4:55 pm
There are a number of different types of E. Coli, the majority of which are harmless although a few strains of the bacteria can cause serious food poisoning and infections.
True…the same can be said of different types of staph and strep….some are harmless and others can be nightmarish…
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:56 pm
I apologize folks, didn’t mean for this to take on a life of it’s own, rather didn’t mean to exert my thoughts on that type of matter onto the blog…I am cracking up.
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:57 pm
@Poo Diddy: I know you’re trying to be funny (emphasis on trying) but if you read the above, it’s certain strains that cause the outbreak. And, like Sassy confirmed, that can be from infected water or from other sources. Like people preparing your food who haven’t washed their hands after going number 2.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:57 pm
Man o man, you never know how this blog will turn…
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:57 pm
Leggs I know , and putting the lid down will make a difference, but it’s still getting out in the air because toilet seats are not sealed the seat and the lid have openings for air to get through, otherwise the toilet wouldn’t flush properly
Dreams, maybe she was using a badey I guess that’s how you spell it (LOL)
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:59 pm
Good grief. Stick a fork in me, I’m done.
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
5:01 pm
ITL now that’s just nasty (LOL) and on ecoli, been there done that, and it dang sho didn’t feel good (LOL)
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
5:01 pm
Not saying it would make a difference, but the convo started not from what’s released while flushing, but how you stop it’s release by sitting during your flush…that’s all.
i'm swiss
October 30th, 2012
5:01 pm
S/H — bidet
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
5:01 pm
Okay I’m out, read y’all tomorrow!!
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
5:03 pm
Thanks swiss, (LOL) and on that no, I’m going to flush my way home
read you people tomorrow
MsAtl
October 30th, 2012
5:03 pm
I missed a lot while working. re- my stash; I grab extra plates & utensils when I see them on sale. I also have my own fridge in my office.
Slim- cracking up at not letting the air out of the bag.
Btw- my family teases me that they have to hold on to their drinks because if they set the cup down to take a breath, I will grab it and wash it.
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
5:10 pm
Y’all have a good night…..