Dating: Grow up!
My friend Allen is dating a young lady who he really likes a lot. He believes she could be the one…in a couple of years. Allen says his girlfriend has a little growing up to do. Her lack of maturity is shown when she doesn’t get her way, or handles things with little patience.
As he talked, I thought about how he was the same guy friend that advised me not to date a guy for “potential” but accept him as he is. Now, here we were having the same exact discussion ..and switched places. I asked him what he asked me, “What if she never changes? Could you still be with her?”
Although they are only three years apart in age, when you see Allen with his girlfriend, you can’t help but notice the stark difference in their maturity levels. Ah, but love is blind, right? He does not see what I see, just as I had to learn my lesson for myself.
Would you be willing to wait till someone “grew up” and behaved less like an adolescent? Is that one of those things that should be a dating red flag?
How can you tell if the person you are dating are compatible to your maturity level?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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i'm swiss
October 30th, 2012
4:43 pm
Sassy — Oh no, all of this was long before she was preggers. She’s actually been much easier to live with while pregnant, to be honest.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:44 pm
Swiss, they should be S shaped or curly. Ask any doctor.
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:44 pm
@Leggs: I agree with you. I saw a documentary where they used a special chemical and a blue light to show where the water particles landed. All over the vanity, the faucet, TOOTHBRUSH, soap…. Blech.
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:44 pm
Leggs, feel water splashing out, dang where you taking a dunk at (LOL)
disco
October 30th, 2012
4:45 pm
lol. I don’t know leggs. it does seem like you are taking it to a whole nother level. of course real is real and what is the blog if not real. (well except for when we are overcome by imposters and all that other drama).
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:47 pm
ITL in this documentary was the lid up, or down, was someone sitting on the seat? If you’re talking airborne particle and the seat is not sealed they are still getting out and floating around lid up or down.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:47 pm
disco ~ not taking it to another level. Just speaking the truth. Really…
Single ~ has nothing to do with the “dunk”. It has to do with the power of your water level and flush!
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
4:48 pm
so wouldn’t that mean you already have ecoli (LOL)
Umm okay then…
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:48 pm
@Stamps: Ummm, Poo Diddy, there are a myriad of bacteria in your stomach and intestines. E.coli is probably among them. Don’t you remember the E.Coli outbreak at White Water? Came from babies poop getting into the water (from leaky diapers, etc.)
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:48 pm
reverse that…power of the flush and your water level. Yep, disco, that’s real talk!
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:49 pm
Am I remembering incorrectly, Sassy???
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:49 pm
Now, on to more fresher pleasant smelling things (lol).
DreamsMaterialize
October 30th, 2012
4:50 pm
Everyone is currently breathing in germs as we speak. (insert evil laugh here)
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:50 pm
Leggs I know but where are you that the water in the toilet is that powerful IJS (LOL)
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:51 pm
You remembered correctly, ITL.
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
4:51 pm
Swiss usually it’s the other way around but each woman is different. Now you’ll be in the house with TWO of them…one grown one and another one in training. Be strong uni-balling,grashopper…I have faith in youuu..
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:51 pm
Here you go, Stamps:
Escherichia coli or E. Coli is a common bacterium characteristically found in the human and animal intestine. The bacteria form part of the normal gut flora present in the bowel. There are a number of different types of E. Coli, the majority of which are harmless although a few strains of the bacteria can cause serious food poisoning and infections.
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:52 pm
DM hell we all got to die from something so why worry about it, death is inevitable
disco
October 30th, 2012
4:52 pm
dreams – I’ve been thinking that for a minute but didn’t want to rile the germaphobes. some folks will drive themselves batty worrying about germs when there really ain’t a darned thing you can do about them. fighting germs is almost like fighting the war on drugs. you can’t win.
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:52 pm
@Dreams: Now was that nice?!?!?
DreamsMaterialize
October 30th, 2012
4:52 pm
Leggs I know but where are you that the water in the toilet is that powerful IJS
S and H those old project toilets used to flush like that. Leggs I am NOT saying you live in the projects.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:52 pm
Single ~ don’t get me wrong, not talking about a surge of water spewing from your bowl. However, if you really paid attention, particulate matter will become airborne with a flush of the toilet.
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
4:53 pm
there are a myriad of bacteria in your stomach and intestines. E.coli is probably among them. Am I remembering incorrectly
You’re right ITL and that is what caused the outbreak at White Water. A Braves player’s son was one among the infected and the poor boy almost dies as a result.
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:54 pm
ITL so if you have to strain that can cause serious food poisoning and infections, didn’t you get it from you??
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:55 pm
@Leggs: Ours at work are like that. I feel like I need to stand back 20 paces before it flushes.
Oh…..and have you ever flushed the toilet on a cruise ship??? I remember the first time I heard it, I was like, “Ummmm, you still in there or do I need to call the Coast Guard???”
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:55 pm
So, once again, how many sit on the toilet and flush. Even with a courtesy flush, I’m raising my a$$ off the bowl. IJS…..
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
4:55 pm
There are a number of different types of E. Coli, the majority of which are harmless although a few strains of the bacteria can cause serious food poisoning and infections.
True…the same can be said of different types of staph and strep….some are harmless and others can be nightmarish…
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:56 pm
I apologize folks, didn’t mean for this to take on a life of it’s own, rather didn’t mean to exert my thoughts on that type of matter onto the blog…I am cracking up.
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:57 pm
@Poo Diddy: I know you’re trying to be funny (emphasis on trying) but if you read the above, it’s certain strains that cause the outbreak. And, like Sassy confirmed, that can be from infected water or from other sources. Like people preparing your food who haven’t washed their hands after going number 2.
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
4:57 pm
Man o man, you never know how this blog will turn…
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
4:57 pm
Leggs I know , and putting the lid down will make a difference, but it’s still getting out in the air because toilet seats are not sealed the seat and the lid have openings for air to get through, otherwise the toilet wouldn’t flush properly
Dreams, maybe she was using a badey I guess that’s how you spell it (LOL)
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
4:59 pm
Good grief. Stick a fork in me, I’m done.
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
5:01 pm
ITL now that’s just nasty (LOL) and on ecoli, been there done that, and it dang sho didn’t feel good (LOL)
Leggs
October 30th, 2012
5:01 pm
Not saying it would make a difference, but the convo started not from what’s released while flushing, but how you stop it’s release by sitting during your flush…that’s all.
i'm swiss
October 30th, 2012
5:01 pm
S/H — bidet
Sassy Me...Mi wan go home :-(
October 30th, 2012
5:01 pm
Okay I’m out, read y’all tomorrow!!
Single and Happy
October 30th, 2012
5:03 pm
Thanks swiss, (LOL) and on that no, I’m going to flush my way home
read you people tomorrow
MsAtl
October 30th, 2012
5:03 pm
I missed a lot while working. re- my stash; I grab extra plates & utensils when I see them on sale. I also have my own fridge in my office.
Slim- cracking up at not letting the air out of the bag.
Btw- my family teases me that they have to hold on to their drinks because if they set the cup down to take a breath, I will grab it and wash it.
Into the Light
October 30th, 2012
5:10 pm
Y’all have a good night…..