It sounds like you friend lives in the world of me!!

“At the very least, you should support it. The question is – would you be willing to reciprocate?” Yes you should support it, and keep an open mind. Be willing to do it sometimes. I’m not a movie person, but when I date someone that is, I’ll go. Not going every weekend, but once every 2 months isn’t going to kill me.

“I don’t know if all men are like this, but I seem to meet a lot of men that think that way. They have expectations of women but don’t seem to be prepared to offer the same thing back.”
No all men don’t think like that, I like when my woman has other interest, it allow us to grow. You have to have an open mind to trying new things.

“Is it important to you that you have a partner who shares the same interests or hobbies? Would it bother you if the person you were dating did not seem to be into the things you liked to do?” My hobbies are photography, and scuba diving, finding an Black woman that shares those interest is highly unlikely, and I’m okay with that. The problem comes up when since these aren’t their interest I need to change to conform to them. I don’t have a problem compromising, but I’m not conforming. Also the problem with most is they don’t have hobbies, or don’t know what hobbies really are.

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Single?

How about dating any woman that loves scuba etc,not just black?

What’s wrong with the other meat?
Cross over my friend.

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I can’t say I’m down with “helping you build your business”, but I’m always happy to go along and share in what you do. The last dude (before current boo), would always take me with him when doing business or discussed in front of me. I wouldn’t say that started day one but after about a year into the relationship, he was very open around me. I should be specific and say his personal “side” gig/business. He had a degree in engineering and worked “heavily” in finance. For his main gig, no I wasn’t really privy cause I didn’t trek along with him to work. But for his side gig, his passion, I was there. He owned close to 20 houses and some other stuff with one of is boys. He had no issue, discussing every aspect of his business in front of me or taking me with him when transacting business. Sometimes it was open and sometimes while riding together, he’s signal me to “sush” while he talked heavy business. And no, that was not an insulting type of “sush”, but a hold tight while I handle this “sush”….lol Not only that but he also took me with him when doing various fundraisers or events with his boys. IMO, that takes getting to a level of trust where you can be all open.

I think going along (whether you with them or them with you) or to share in on what a person does, at some point becomes inevitable if you are on a path of “togetherness.” I’m not saying they SHOULD share in their day to day, but I would think at some point the two of you eventually cross over into each other’s worlds. He NEVER asked me to help build his business because it was well established, was a man’s man and frankly was well on his way but I take no issue “sharing” in what you do. Heck, as my boo, I want to know at some point…..and vice versa.

Overall, I think it just depends on where things stand between two individuals and the path they’re on or where the path is leading.

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Heeeey there Mmeello….lolololol Well, thank you sir for the compliment. I should tell you though, I don’t sweat the small stuff (i.e. worrying about a man). I got a man but I will live if I don’t have one….lololol

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yea ex, whatever

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Tricks

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good morning.

S/H – you aren’t a movie person??? and here I thought we were the same person. big mistake. I love movies.

exiled – you crazy man. thing is there are some women out there who are perfectly willing to mold themselves into seth’s ideal woman. he just needs to find those women and stop judging the one’s that aren’t those women.

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Cosign on disco’s 9:04 re: Seth’s situation. Don’t judge me cause my blues aren’t like yours!

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Donald (t)Drump is an Attention Whrrre!!

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9:25 Common..

you stretching!

If u loved cheffing you would be a chef!

If ur hubby loved law he wld be a lawyer!

This is about supporting not being that which your hubby does!

Feel me counselor?
Approach the bench counselor.. let me feel if the Albertina is still in place.

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Good morning.

Not sure if Seth is the same person, but we had this convo on the guy believing his woman should help him build his business and take it to the next level. – That’s a bunch of marlarkey! Is he solely looking for a woman that will do that, or is he looking for a potential wife that would have no problem investing? And, I don’t have to love your hobby or your particular interest. What I need to do is understand that this is your baby. I may have a particular interest he’s not overjoyed about. We don’t have to love “everything” about our mates.

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Morning all,
No, not all men are like Seth.
Seth’s problem is not in in way of thinking or his wants. The problem is with his execution. He should know by now that it’s a very very did I say very small % of the female population that would go for his type of arrangement. The problem is he is shopping to the entire female population. If he isn’t already I think he needs to prepare for the reality that his pickings will be slim. If not we have another bitter bobby in the making.

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S/H – anime’? we are definitely not one and the same. granted a lot of movies are predictable but a lot of movies are still good. for instance, I can appreciate some good movie violence. lawless (on my mind because I just saw it) had shooting, a throat slashing, someone got bust in the face with a shovel and a guy even got tarred and feathered. when was the last time you saw that? that’s good stuff right there.

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Disco, those are the movies that I don’t like, too unbelievable (LOL)

comon good argument.

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S/H – for me the fantasy is in wishing you could do it. you mean to tell me you never wanted to hit someone in the face with a shovel?

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Disco, on second thought a shovel would be better because blowing their brains out can’t be achieved since they don’t have one!! (LOL)

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Disco, if you look at a lot of real life events, there was a movie about them somewhere, or the movie just took a real life event and sensationalized it.

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O/T ~ I have quarterly meetings at hotels and our last mtg two days ago was frought with mishaps. The hotel overbooked but I was ASSURED that with my contract none of my attendees would be walked. They walked 7 and tried to walk ME! They took me off club level and a suite and put me in a regular room. They even walked my attendee who is confined to a wheelchair. I was HOT!!! The front desk attitude “stank” and I so wanted to bitch slap someone, but I kept my attitude in check and kept my tongue in cheek. So, I’m finally hearing back from my contact person and the entire bill has been reduced by 50%. Just saved over $2000!!! I should get a raise (lol).

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Leggs~ Mail Call!

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fraught….

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Thanks leggs, so what hotel were you booked at, give them a shoot shout out (LOL)

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Is it important to you that you have a partner who shares the same interests or hobbies?

I think it’s important for partners to have interests that they share b/c it strengthens the relationship..but it shouldn’t be to the extent they’re like Siamese twins either. On the flip..I think couples should also have interests that allow them to maintain a level of individual autonomy as well….you know like a give me a chance to miss you type thing.

Would it bother you if the person you were dating did not seem to be into the things you liked to do?

If a person I was dating didn’t seem to be into anything I liked I wouldn’t be upset…I’d suggest us finding something new we both liked doing together and go with that. No biggie.

Mornting and Helluuuuur

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S/H & disco~ In 2008, during the beginning of the year, I had a 2 month period that was so unbelievable, I used to tell people that if they made it in to a movie, people would walk out of the theater because they would say that there is no way that much bad stuff could happen to a person in 2 months! So, yeah, I believe in the incredulity of movies. Never say what couldn’t happen.

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Good morning, Sassy. How you doin?

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disco~ You may have discovered that you and S/H are not the same person, but I’m not so sure that you and I aren’t the same person!

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Good morning Comon. I’m doing good..been a little busy in the lab and writing a concept paper & protocol for a project I’m working on. I’ve been pushed out of my scientific comfort zone and liking what I see.

I can’t complain…I refuse to. How you doin?

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Leggs – That should be your holiday bonus payout

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Slim~ I cosign on your 10:55. Let’s start a petition for Leggs!

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no offense leggs – but how can I be down? can I get a petition?

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Their reasoning is we won’t readily spend it on others so they avoid the holidays

Leggs – That sounds like some mambo jumbo…how are they going to throw some bs out there like that as to how a bonus is spent. SHOW ME DA MONEY!

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CCA = Anthony Hamilton – Spa Sydell Certificate – (404) 741-1075

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I’m coming for you Slim!

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Bet you’ll find the unicorn first.

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I agree it’s mambo jumbo. How do they dictate when or how we spend OUR much earned bonus. Nonetheless, glad I work for a company that still gives bonuses and employee recognition luncheons and cash gifts.

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Howya doin’?????

SINGLE….I am Black and I enjoy both of those. The only thing is…since I am asthmatic, no one will certify me. So snorkeling is as close as I can get:-( I also enjoy real haunted houses, cemetery tours and studying serial killers. Although I find it hard to find Black men that are in to these things as well! ! LMAO…I’m just frackin’ with ya!

EXILED….such a sexist! What makes you think that she will spend his money. In some cases…the female is the one earning the most money. “COMON…I’m using you as an example girl.” I am pretty sure she has her own money to spend. So should she make her hubby come see her in court when she is ball bustin’? LMAO

ENIGMA….I call BS on your 8:45 post. It not the job of one to impress the other. I’m just going to be me. So if he doesn’t appreciate it..screw him. You both have to impress each other! I do not live me life like it’s some hame show and I am a contestant with the prize being a man! It’s NOT the serious boo boo! It’s too much work to keep up the “representative” roll whether you are a man or woman. I want the real man…not the fake person trying to lure me in and then drop the “here I’m iz really” bomb. I will have NO problem dropping his @$$ like soap in a men’s prison..except I will keep my back to the wall! LMAO

I’m all for sharing my passions (such as performing: singing, dancing or acting) with my sweetie. But I will not force it on him. I would expect the same respect. I’m willing to at least try it out at least once though. I would not expect him to help make my dance costumes…it’ s side business and a passion. But it’s mine…not his!

SASSY…stop trying to assinate that man with puddy! At least make sure you get the life insurance policy in your name as the beneficary first! LMAO

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I’m on the phone with Carol…gave tix back. I just wanted to know if I had the right answer (lol). Not worthy for me to be on probation for 3 more months. Heck, I just got off.

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” Mamba is a vampire reincarnated into a fiesty a$$ woman!”

So, you’re saying she likes to suck….? Hmmmm….

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Leggs – Yeah you are right about that…I just reached my 3rd year anniversary date last week and guess what….there is a freeze on raises. NOT HAPPY ABOUT THAT AT ALL. I should’ve ordered hella room service when I was in Dallas for my trip.

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CC – I’ve worked with those that give great gifts (I’m still using a gifted ipod classic I received several years ago) and I’ve worked with those that don’t give gifts. actually, I don’t have a preference. I’ll take a gift but I’m not pressed. I worked one place where they just partied, gifted, celebrated too much for me. it was annoying as heck. bridal showers, baby showers (not just for female employees but for spouses of male employees), graduation parties, retirement parties, they let folks bring their kids to the office to trick or treat. they were doing too much.

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swiss – be careful. might be saying she’s a biter.

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disco — My w@ng literally shuddered a bit when I read that.

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swiss ~ what was the term Raqi’s husband used, turtle diving???

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Mamba~ IDK you, but I like you. Girl, murder mayhem and serial killers is right up my alley!

It’s amazing, I don’t think the hubs has ever seen me in court. (Not sure I would want him to) I can be a bit aggressive. To borrow swiss’ phrase, it might make his w@ng shudder and shrivel up. Now that you mention it, maybe I found the answer to the 4-peater problem…

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**In my best ITL voice**~ Yay, miscreants!

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CC – not that you rolled with it and named your favorite. H.H. Holmes is my guy. he was not just a serial killer but a trendsetter. lol. he was ahead of his time.

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SWISS….YES..I do! And my sweetie is a happy camper with that!!! LMAO

LEGGS…you know I will not sleep this weekend since I will be in ATL with the crew! All 3 costumes are ready to go! 2 were shipped to Pageant_Girl’s house and one will be in my bag! You’ had better come out at least one night…or I will get you! LMAO

SASSY..at least he’ll go a happy man! LMAO Hey my life insurance is with Penn Mutual! LOL

DISCO…I do like to bite as well…but not the jewels

COMON…girl we went to a Serial Killers haunted house about 2 weeks ago. It was cool. Each scene/room you went through had reinactments of the most infamous killers…Jack the Ripper,Jeffrey Dahmer, Ted Bundy, etc. Wayne Gacey scared me because he was about 6′5 dressed like a clown. I have been not a fan of clowns (including Ronald McDonald) ever since birth. I’m addicted to the ID channel. Nothing but story of crazy @$$ folks! lol

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..at least he’ll go a happy man!

Yep…with a big kool-aid grin on his face.

…I do like to bite as well…but not the jewels

Me,too…sometimes I get a little carried away

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mamba – I won’t front. sometimes when I watch I almost got away with it, I find myself rooting for the criminal. lol. one little guy escaped from a prison transport and while I knew he was wrong I couldn’t help but hope that he made it.

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Reading this bunch will have a dude thinking twice about just trying to get a piece of puddy. And y’all say dudes are crazy. Hahaha

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Willie D — I know, right? I mean, I know the crazy b!tches are supposed to be the best lays, but d@mn, there is such a thing as too crazy…

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hey there willie dynamite

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Swiss- yep, got me wanting to snatch the Dish off the roof and get an antennae. Bish watch PBS if u wanna look at TV. Lol!!!

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If you scared, say you scared Don’t blame us

I’m going to the midnight premiere of Breaking Dawn part 2 with the SILs on November 15th.

I’m thinking about doing that,too but on the solo tip sans Mr. Bermuda.

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Slim~ Where dat come from?!?

You a bad beyotch if you blogging, getting afternoon delight and whipping my azz at WWF! I’m impressed!

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Disco you’re right I don’t have issues, (now if you ask other people you’ll get a different answer)! we all have issues, it’s how we deal with them that matters

Mamba, is your issue with diving because your doctor won’t clear you. They will let you dive with it now. Also, hanging out in a cemetery at !2:00am on holloween is great and I laugh through hunted houses (LOL) check out scuba board and search asthma.

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I hate to change the subject…BUT, I’m going to anyways!

Ok…so, Karaoke guy is definitely on hot pursuit, but it’s starting to work my nerves. Every night this week, he’s tried to get me to meet him late and I’ve already told him about my work schedule. Last night, I went to a play at the Alliance and it was after 10:30 when I got out, so I texted him to let him know I was out. He texted asking me to meet him to hang out for a bit and I said I can’t because of work the next day. He seemed to whine about he has work too, but wants to hang out for at least a little bit. I ignored those texts at that point. Once I got home, he sent another text saying “Sorry…be safe.” There is a point when too much persistance is a turn off, don’t you agree? If he bugs me about meeting him tonight, there’s a possibility that he won’t see me this weekend. Am I wrong for that? We have texted about plans for tomorrow night…he’s asking me to maybe meet at his house and we’ll decide on dinner and go to a movie and maybe drinks after. Thing is…I don’t really want to go to his home. I’m gonna tell him that I’ll meet him at whatever restaurant we decide on. I don’t mind riding with him to different places after that, but I don’t want that awkwardness of getting back to his place at the end of the night. Not comfy with that…

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disco ~ love “I almost got away with it!” Some of those stories are unbelieveable. Reminds me of something Michael Baisden said last week. His cousin ran from the law and worked on a boat for 15 years until one of his coworkers started looking at him crazy and turned him in. I bet the thought he was scott free. I guess they never really stop looking over their shoulders.

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~ What area of town are you in?

Comon~I’m on the souhtside of thangs off of Tara blvd. and highway 138.

Aww sookie,sookie nah…SlimNu’s dee jaying

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Bluz~ Just be very clear in what you want. If you’re feeling pressured, tell him that. If you feel he’s being too agressive, tell him that. Not comfortable going to his house? Ditto. The biggest problem most relationships have is communication. If you ain’t feeling something, let it be known. He decideds to bail because of what you say? So be it. Better that than getting into a relationship where you have comprimised yourself. Have we really reached the point where we are so desperate for a man (not you in particular Bluz; society as a whole) that we are willing to not voice of beliefs/complaints for fear we will end up alone?

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Awww… I would have loved to catch up with you two for the movie. This is a tradition with me and the SILs and I don’t get down to the southside much…

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Slim~ Can we get my hubs on the detox?!?

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CC – I’m sure you need a break…beau isn’t eating this week though. (no pun intended) lol

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I would have loved to catch up with you two for the movie.

Me,too…I still think we should have a meet n greet somewhere sometime soon…I’d love to put some monikers and faces/personalities together.

The beau is detoxing this week so he needs to hold onto any strength he can muster and draining is soldier sacks would not be good for him right now.

You’d probably have to keep some Gatorade and a defibrillator next to the bed…don’t do it to him Slim

What kind of detox is it?

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Not scared at all. At all.

Slim- Ok, tell us what’s really on ya mind.

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Slim – He had asked what I was doing last night and I told him about the play. When I got out, he had texted asking me how it was, so I replied that it was great and that I was just getting into my car to head home. It’s not like we’re keeping tabs on each other at this point. Tues night, he texted me at 8:30 asking if I wanted to meet him in VaHi and I told him that was too far for me to go and too late for a work night. He doesn’t need to know that I will go out sometimes during the week. To me…we already made plans to meet on Fri, so he needs to chill!

Maybe I’m just not used to someone being so eager to see me?

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Slim and Sassy – I’m not going to his house. I just don’t feel comfortable with that. I don’t know him from Adam…who’s to say he doesn’t try to force something on me? Nope…gonna tell him we can meet at the movie theater or restaurant.

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comon, watch what you ask for you just might get it!! (once every six months)

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COMON…I too will be at the mid-night showing up Breaking Dawn 2….in my Team Jacob shirt!. lol I read the books, I know what happens. But Jacob is hot! LMAO

WILLIE….at least he’d know what he’s getting! LOL

SWISS…that is what happens when a guy is “crazy h0rny”…he is a magnet to “crazy puddy”! lol

SINGLE…not one doctor will clear my asthmatic @$$! LOL

BLUZ…for some reason when I read about ole boy…I hear the sound from Psycho with the voice yelling “NORMAN”! LMAO We’ve never met….but I would hate to see you on an episode of “Stolen Voices” on the ID channel.

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Sorry, this is the right one for 5-days

http://naturessecret.com/products/5-day-fast-and-cleanse/

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Well, if swiss is the crazy puddy magnet, I am the crazy dude magnet. Just had a dude tell me that I smelled of cashmere and lace. WTH does that mean? (Coincidentally he smelled like musty grabage… IJS)

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He drinks only water with lemon juice or noncaffeinated green tea for 5 whole days. No food, no hanky panky..

Man I’d be an eeeviiil you know what on that cleanse. I’m looking for one to do but I don’t want to starve myself…

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Comon, I’m sure that other lady thought that at one time too (LOL)

Mamba, that’s strange I have friend who’s epelictic and thought she wouldn’t get cleared. It won’t let me post that link from scubaboard

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S/H – I don’t know. I guess I’m so used to broke men and have no idea about his financial standings!

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Just had a dude tell me that I smelled of cashmere and lace

CC – Was he 4 foot 3, wearing purple heels and eye liner?

Sassy – He’s on day 4 and he said yesterday was probably the hardest so far. I try to hurry up and eat my dinner before he gets home because that’s just plain cruel to be munching down in front of him. lol

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SlimNu~ No, had it been Prince, I wouldn’t have even tried to decipher that terrible pick up line. I would have just given him some puddy. But dude smelled like we had just rolled up out the dumpster…

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I try to hurry up and eat my dinner before he gets home because that’s just plain cruel to be munching down in front of him.

That’s considerate of you SlimNu…ummm so are you going to be nice to him after day 5?…three or four-peater mayhaps That is iff’n he got the skrengf…

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The same cannot be said of issue dude…
Comon Difference is dudes have accepted that issue woman is the norm, so we just try to get in where we fit in. lol Ya’ll still on the quest for issue-free dude like it’s the Holy Grail. People have lived and died for centuries trying to find it. lol

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DM~ Who looking for him? Not me. If he was issue free, he damn sure wouldn’t want me..

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Comon – I definitely ain’t going there! Good thing also is that Aunt Flo is about to visit! Lol! Seriously, though, I wanna do this right. The guys I’ve fallen into bed with too early were at least guys I have known a while!

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back to the gore – I can watch serial killer documentaries and biopics but I’m not into horror films or slasher movies. not a fan of the “monster” movies. I like plain old regular beat him, kick him, punch him, shoot him violence. when you get to the point where you are gutting and deboning folks that’s too much for the kid.

bluz – my only comment is to say “bluz, bluz, bluz”

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disco – Come on…I’m not used to this actual dating. Just needing a little help!

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I’ll be ready either way.

See…that’s a team player…you go Slim!

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Slim- I bet you are ready. Lucky him, have fun.

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sassy – hey I’m open minded. it might be too much work for me, not necessarily too much work for bluz. besides, I can’t help but to think of my son calling me out for always saying “I don’t have time for this”. lol. he was like I have time, I have plenty of time, I just don’t want to be bothered. apparently I should be saying “I don’t want to be bothered with this”.

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comon, disco, what are men issues that are deal breakers?

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disco – I do tend to over think things a little too much…

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disco~I get it…and that is alot of work…almost sounds kinda whiny n needy to an extent. Either way he’s just thirsty for some azz so it’ll be her call to make. I just hope no one slits their wrists if it doesn’t work out however they wanted it to.

I should be saying “I don’t want to be bothered with this”.

Yep may as well tell the truth n shame the devil..

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That 2:38 reads a bit oxymoron-ish…

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Disco, there we go again, I was having a convo with a co-worker about my weekend, I was telling him about this woman that got upset with me because I wouldn’t go the movies with her. it was not the first time she’s asked, He was telling me I better go or she’s going to stop asking. I was like AND.

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S/H~ If you keep saying no, isn’t that the desired outcome? (For her to stop asking?) IJS…

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WD~ What’s got you feeling some kind of way? You been watching porn at the job again?

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Comon, broke and nasty are issues?? (LOL)

And you know this! :lol

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There you go trying to instigate a convo you have no intent on participating in…as usual. Buuut, at least you’re consistent

Going for a run…read you guys in a little bit..

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You been watching porn at the job again?

No she didn’t!

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Sassy~ Yes. Yes I did…

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Hold those thoughts, be back in an hour, time to go home.

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disco~ I feel you on the ride or die isht. Also, if you out foing stupid isht, don’t expect me to ride or die. You’re on your own with that mess.

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Thanks Slim! I’ve got to just stop overthinking this be open minded about tomorrow night. As far as I can tell, it’s a date, but I will have cash with me just in case.

I had a dream last night that we went on a disaster date! LOL! Maybe that’s got me a little nervous. He really did work my nerves last night when he tried again to get me to meet up with him after I already told him I can’t because I have to work. I’ll make sure to get that point across to him. I’m very curious if he’s going to try to get me to go out tonight. I’m kind of thinking that he won’t since we’ve already talked about the plans for tomorrow.

Anyway…I’m ready to get out of here today! I’m meeting some girlfriends after work to plan my birthday bash in a couple of weeks! I can’t wait to have a beer and some yummy food tonight. Will be great fun to hang with these girls!

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“His youth is starting to show! LOL!” – Has nothing to do with youth. When someone is trying to get into the panties, age isn’t necessarily a factor.

SlimNu ~ I too was wondering why she was texting him she was out. Sounds like she was “entrapping” herself.

“But Jacob is hot! LMAO” – Mamba, I felt like a pedophile gasping when he appears on scene (lol). That young buck can buck me any day.

“I had a dream last night that we went on a disaster date!” – You’re thinking too much about it. Wait and go on a first date before you let your mind start playing tricks with your libido.

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But Jacob is hot! LMAO” – Mamba, I felt like a pedophile gasping when he appears on scene (lol). That young buck can buck me any day.

Rest easy. You are no longer a pedophile. He’s over 18…

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Thanks, Comon!

Don’t know why I like flipping numbers people put out there…I like 384

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Bluz – I don’t really know how to call this…I cannot in all my days of dating, recall a time where the thought of a date with so many uncertainties, wrecking my brain like it is yours. I could see if I had gotten past the first date and there was sooo much crazy energy between us but with the way he’s come off so far, I’d probably hardly be ‘cited, let alone excited lol It would just be a reason to get out of the house. yawwwwwwwn

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slim – I didn’t see anything on chemo therapy but this came up on cancer.

To dream that you have cancer denotes hopelessness, grief, self-pity, and unforgiveness. You feel you are wasting your life away. This dream also represents areas in your life which are bothering you, disturbing you, and hurting you in some emotional way. An emotional issue is eating away at you.

To dream that you are being treated for cancer signifies a positive change in your life.

To dream that someone has cancer indicates that you need to change your negative way of thinking before it eats away at you. Start being more positive.

To dream that someone is a Cancer sign symbolizes your tendency to keep and hold on to everything. You have a lot of power and influence. The Cancer sign also indicates that you tend to be sensitive, moody and emotional. You are also very family oriented.

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COMON…cashmere and lace???? WTF? LMAO I am a crazy dude magnet too girl.

SINGLE…your epileptic friend scuba dives? I’d be real worried about that.

COMON I’m with you about handling business Pre-Date. You don’t want to be caught is a slip up moment because he breathed in your ear and got you flowing like a rapid river!

Oh and yes…when Jacob turned 18 (in real life) I no longer felt like a perv! But when he showed up in part 2 shirtless and muscled up…I dayum near…well let’s just say I almost needed to say “clean up on aisle 1″! Taylor “Hot-ner” can get it on his mama’s kitchen table on a Sunday moring before church.

DREAMS…you trying to become a Gold Digger Pimp…author of “The Gold Digger’s Manual” ? LMAO

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SLIM…your dream means that you are killing off, or putting to rest a certain thing or part of your life. It could be anything, friends, lovers, family, job, etc. It’s not negative.

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Since some of you are talking about Twilight…just thought I’d share that I’m reading the first book now. I wasn’t very interested, but my friend talked me into giving it a shot. I’m about 125 pages in only and it’s pretty good so far!

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I guess ‘Vampire in Brooklyn’ was before its time hahaha

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That’s not a good dream, SlimNu. You should have woke up and started over again.

disco – nice dream interpretation.

“he really hadn’t seemed like he was just trying to get into my pants,” – then he’s young with skills. I kid, I kid, kinda sorta.

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You’re going to give yourself a damn stroke as much brain power you’re giving to this dude who hasn’t even proven deserves that much of your mental workings. Maybe you should tell yourself that this isn’t a date so you can relax. Yall just hanging out anyway

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Leggs – I woke up in a cold sweat

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Bluz ~ this is how it should go.

1. I met a guy while out last weekend
2. We’ve been talking about meeting each other again
3. Shared a few texts
4. We’ve decided to meet up again on _________
5. Will see him then.

that’s it!

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disco~ Are you saying I should audition for the Sister Cleo network of psychics & dream interpreters? Nah, gurl. I’m good where I am…

Mamba~ I told them earlier, if dude has no teeth, no job, no place to stay, no car and mommy issues he is looking for me. And all that desire comes wrapped in a velour jogging suit from the 70’s with gold chains and a jehri curl… SMDH… :wtf:

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Leggs – I agree. I think it just threw me off with him asking me to meet up with him Sun, Tues, and Wed night (can’t remember about Mon) and I told him no each time!

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Bluz – Yeah Leggs pretty much summed it up as far as all you should have thought about. Even if he contacted you those other days about meeting up late at night, all you had to do was say, we decided to meet up___so I look forward to seeing you then. None of all that extra filler in the middle

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Bluz – Forgive my lack of memory…what was the relationship like with your dad? If there really wasn’t one, what was the age of your last period of memory of his presence?

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you trying to become a Gold Digger Pimp…author of “The Gold Digger’s Manual” ? LMAO
Mamba aka Venomous One Hey if you don’t want broke dudes anymore, there are alternatives out there. That’s my good deed for the day. lol I hadn’t thought about a book, but if Steve Harvey can do it, I guess I can too. You’re a creative type…can I send to you for editing?

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And all that desire comes wrapped in a velour jogging suit from the 70’s with gold chains and a jehri curl… SMDH… :wtf:
Comon Don’t front, you know was diggin’ my gettup at Taboo2, talking ’bout “ohhhh that velour feels so smooooove. and is that Cool Water you’re wearing?” haha

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DM~ Ain’t nothing wrong with looking for a man with some duckets (especially if you already got your own!) My momma used to say, it’s as easy to fall in love with a rich man as it is a broke one!

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Don’t front, you know was diggin’ my gettup at Taboo2, talking ’bout “ohhhh that velour feels so smooooove. and is that Cool Water you’re wearing?” haha

Dreamz~ I didn’t like Cool Water when it was the isht.

Ohhh, boy you so scrong! Your arms is big! I bet they would feel good wrapped around me… NOT!!!

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Preach, disco! My parents been married happily for 45 years. Y’all know what my track record looks like…

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disco – You’re absolutely right to a certain extent. Your parents cannot save you from yourself but you have to also realize that what you experience as a child can have a lot of bearing on your decision making skills later in life. It doesn’t mean that you cannot break a family cycle but it does have weight in many cases. In Bluz’s case, it was said that she was very confident, seemed to have her stuff together. But for some reason, when it comes to dating, male-female relationships, sex and emotions, that same confidence is not there.

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In addition, it could be certain early childhood situations that shape a person later in life. But let’s not forget the lot that are just plain crazy for damn reason.

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slim – trust me. I get the “logic” behind it. I just say it’s not a science and therapists and social workers need to quit trying to pin everything on parents. you see it all the time, parents raise their kids all the same (sure, I think sometimes there’s some favoritism but most parents won’t admit it and that’s not the point here anyway. lol) anyway, parents raise their kids all the same and one or two veer off path. it happens. it’s not necessarily a result of bad parenting. at the end of the day you choose whether you become who you become because of or in spite of your upbringing, circumstances or whatever. essentially my tirade is against lazy A therapists, counselors and social workers. lol.

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Did my three miles and I’m goood.

But Jacob is hot!

Yes he is…nice body and that smile is killer. I like Edward’s passion and intensity but Jacob definitely has a better physique.

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I am family with Mags. Who are Dr. Britt and young-fellow?

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Yes he is…nice body and that smile is killer. I like Edward’s passion and intensity but Jacob definitely has a better physique.

His body is bangin! but that nose? Not so much. Although much better than popsicle d!ck.

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Comon – young-fellow is this new guy. Dr. Britt was a guy I was texting with (shortly after the break up) who lived out of town who seemed to have his isht together, but things didn’t work out…

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bluz – yep. and like I said before. you are not alone. I don’t suppose there’s a “clinical” name for it but I call it “man-dumb”. of course, if all of a sudden all the man-dumb women of the world disappeared I suppose all of a sudden men would be leaping off bridges and jumping in front of trains all across the land. it is what it is.

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Bluz – Errrrrrybody is PMS’ing

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here we go…

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Disco..I agree with you there..therapists etc

Anybody going to see one for counsel is basically wasting their damn money. My mum or grandma could give them betters advice.

Like I have heard of couples going to see a counselor coz one was cheating….

really?
Like the cheating party don’t know the right thing!

Unless u were brought up in a home of drug dealing and snorting parents and they did it in plain sight..which I bet is what happens in those homes

Or where the mum is a whrre and the suitors come in and go as they please

Yea a kid wld have a hard time knowing what’s right or wrong as an adult.

Ignorance is really pervasive! If u grow up in a fam of ignoramus,neighborhood is ignoramus,associates are ignoramus

Who is going to infuse knowledge in the dense knucklehead’s skull?

Ok now contradicting myself: wld I wanna marry a chic whose mama and granny were never married?

Hmmm mm…No!
just musing

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And y’all tripped on me trying to steer the Convo away from Dr. Phil’s couch.
At least bring up the clown so I can laff while I smh.

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Leggs – I may have eluded to it before, but don’t think I really talked about it on here before. I do think that it has affected how I deal with sex and relationships. My last session with my therapist, we talked about this and that we need to work on figuring out why it may have affected me like this. You would think that I would have gone the opposite way after that happened, but I kind of went buck wild. I sure hope I’ll get to a healthy level of self-esteem one day!!! I think I’m starting to get there…

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disco – I hope and pray that my man-dumb condition goes away soon!!!

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Whoa, patnahs! She is not havin gsex with dude yet! Maybe if she talks her way through it, it will be a good “training” boyfriend. You know the dude that you try your wiles out on?

Bluz~ Perhaps we should use young fellow as a model. You can build up your skills on him and then move forward to a partner who is more suited/compatible with your tastes. I mean, most of us in here are married or boo’ed up (so we know how to get/keep a man) and you also have the MLB to help you out. Sound like a good idea?

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some folks are cured from man-dumb with a darned good wake up call. for others the condition may be permanent.

Sure seems so doesn’t it?

And y’all tripped on me trying to steer the Convo away from Dr. Phil’s couch.

SassaFrass now queing up violin concerto #s 5&6…

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Didn’t y’all have “training” boyfriends? It’s like a training bra, only for dating instead of boo_ies.

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sassy – i’m all for being supportive but man-dumb is real. some folks got it for life. I’ve watched countless chicks leave an abusive man to get with another abusive man. they like it, I love it but I’m not the shoulder to cry on when your lip is busted and your eye is on swole.

ex – her therapist is a hustler. lol. I think I mentioned on here recently that several of my friends are currently in therapy. one court ordered (lol), another couples, a third just because she likes it. they are all telling me I should get a therapist. to that I say puh-leeze. there would have to be extenuating circumstances for me to go to therapy but I sure wouldn’t be there for the advice and self analyzing. I know what my problems/issues are.

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Didn’t y’all have “training” boyfriends?

That’s what boy toys are for..been there and evolved from that..

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Sassy~ And that’s my point, I don’t think that Bluz has ever “evolved” from that. In fact, I bet she never had a training boyfriend.

Bluz? What say you?

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Comon – I like that thought! It will be good practice!

Slim – you could very well be right about that. Don’t think I ever thought of it that way.

Ex/disco – My thoughts on therapy are different because of my dealings with mental illness (personally, with people I care about, the non-profit I work with). My therapist doesn’t give me all of the answers. He helps me to find the answers within myself. He leads me down the right path and helps me pick myself up when I fall. I wasn’t sure about therapy in the past, but over the past two years, I can definitely see a difference in myself. I have gained more confidence in myself and I have handled many situations better than I did before. It’s a long process. Mental illness is nothing to joke about. Some people can do just fine without therapy, but I think it has helped me to become a better me.

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uz? What say you?

^^^^

Yeah what she said…

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Comon – I think my first serious boyfriend may have been my “training” boyfriend, but that was shortly after the rape. I think I fell into a comfort zone with him. We were engaged. He loved me dearly, but he wasn’t the one. Since then, I have had 3 serious relationships and they all were ones that I jumped into. Time to change that.

I had a great family life growing up, but I’ve had a LOT of bad things happen to me outside of that. I’m tired of holding onto the pain and that’s why I go to therapy. I want to let that all go and live a close to normal life. I know I will. It just takes time

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SassyMe ~ I too know people who said “if he doesn’t hit me, he doesn’t love me!” I wish I would utter those words out of my mouth. Going back to the convo where we may be like our parents, I’m the opposite of my mother, but watching her definitely helped mold me. I watch her in abusive relationship and always said I’d de damned if I let a men beat my ass!!! I had one bad fight with my ex, but I was about to clock him with a lamp. Not the other way around! I quickly came to my senses. So, no matter how we may not want to own it, our parents start out molding who we are, then we finish the end product!!

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Love don’t love nobody simply cannot be our EOD lol

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Comon – I think my first serious boyfriend may have been my “training” boyfriend, but that was shortly after the rape. I think I fell into a comfort zone with him. We were engaged. He loved me dearly, but he wasn’t the one. Since then, I have had 3 serious relationships and they all were ones that I jumped into. Time to change that

That’s not a training boyfriend. Training boyfriend is the dude you KNOW is never going to be the one, but he likes you so you “test” things out on him. No kissing. No sex. You’re just holding on to him until something better comes along. (Sounds sh!tty on paper, but trust when I say it works) The girl who has a dude in her life always finds the dude she’s looking for quicker.

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Gotcha Comon – Then, no…I have not had a training boyfriend…

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*off not iff…

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CC crazy…..

Check yall laters

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The Spinners

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