Relationships: Sharing is caring!
My friend Seth has a photography business. Every time he meets someone new, he invites them to accompany him on one of his gigs. He feels that whomever he is with has to enjoy photography as much as he does. He even wants his woman to help him build his business and take it to the next level.
I am always bothered by this being an absolute deal breaker. I tell him all the time that his Ms. Right may not have any interest at all in photography. Does that really mean you can’t be happy with her? I do agree that it is important to share common interests. I also believe that when you care about someone, you should be willing to share their passion. At the very least, you should support it. The question is – would you be willing to reciprocate?
My friend Seth never considered that the woman he meets may have her own business, dreams, or aspirations that he could support. I don’t know if all men are like this, but I seem to meet a lot of men that think that way. They have expectations of women but don’t seem to be prepared to offer the same thing back.
Is it important to you that you have a partner who shares the same interests or hobbies? Would it bother you if the person you were dating did not seem to be into the things you liked to do?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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disco
October 25th, 2012
12:49 pm
hey there willie dynamite
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
12:50 pm
disco~ You would be amazed at some of the things people who commit crimes do. Sometime, I just want to shake them and be like “WTH were you thinking?!?” LMAO!
Willie Dynamite
October 25th, 2012
12:52 pm
Swiss- yep, got me wanting to snatch the Dish off the roof and get an antennae. Bish watch PBS if u wanna look at TV. Lol!!!
Willie Dynamite
October 25th, 2012
12:55 pm
Disco- hey, how yo crazy azz doing today?
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
October 25th, 2012
12:58 pm
If you scared, say you scared
Don’t blame us 
I’m going to the midnight premiere of Breaking Dawn part 2 with the SILs on November 15th.
I’m thinking about doing that,too but on the solo tip sans Mr. Bermuda.
SlimNu
October 25th, 2012
12:59 pm
thinking about caressing you, undressing you, neck to neck embracing you
creating moments only lovers do
feeling your warms lips on my skin as you dive in
lustin bustin all out of yo boxer briefs
climaxing with me
Afternoon delight
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
1:01 pm
Slim~
Where dat come from?!? 
You a bad beyotch if you blogging, getting afternoon delight and whipping my azz at WWF! I’m impressed!
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
1:02 pm
Sassy~ What area of town are you in? We go to the theater at the Cobb Galleria if you want to meet us there.
Single and Happy
October 25th, 2012
1:02 pm
Disco you’re right I don’t have issues, (now if you ask other people you’ll get a different answer)! we all have issues, it’s how we deal with them that matters
Mamba, is your issue with diving because your doctor won’t clear you. They will let you dive with it now. Also, hanging out in a cemetery at !2:00am on holloween is great
and I laugh through hunted houses (LOL) check out scuba board and search asthma.
Leggs
October 25th, 2012
1:04 pm
Mamba ~ I know you will be here, cuz I’m hanging with your crazy behind!
Who in their right mind doesn’t like serial killers. Crime, drama, ego issues at its finest. Love it!!!
Bluzgirl
October 25th, 2012
1:05 pm
I hate to change the subject…BUT, I’m going to anyways!
Ok…so, Karaoke guy is definitely on hot pursuit, but it’s starting to work my nerves. Every night this week, he’s tried to get me to meet him late and I’ve already told him about my work schedule. Last night, I went to a play at the Alliance and it was after 10:30 when I got out, so I texted him to let him know I was out. He texted asking me to meet him to hang out for a bit and I said I can’t because of work the next day. He seemed to whine about he has work too, but wants to hang out for at least a little bit. I ignored those texts at that point. Once I got home, he sent another text saying “Sorry…be safe.” There is a point when too much persistance is a turn off, don’t you agree? If he bugs me about meeting him tonight, there’s a possibility that he won’t see me this weekend. Am I wrong for that? We have texted about plans for tomorrow night…he’s asking me to maybe meet at his house and we’ll decide on dinner and go to a movie and maybe drinks after. Thing is…I don’t really want to go to his home. I’m gonna tell him that I’ll meet him at whatever restaurant we decide on. I don’t mind riding with him to different places after that, but I don’t want that awkwardness of getting back to his place at the end of the night. Not comfy with that…
Single and Happy
October 25th, 2012
1:05 pm
Disco, I like almost got away with it to, I be watching saying how you be so stupid, you’re supposed to get caught (LOL)
Leggs
October 25th, 2012
1:08 pm
disco ~ love “I almost got away with it!” Some of those stories are unbelieveable. Reminds me of something Michael Baisden said last week. His cousin ran from the law and worked on a boat for 15 years until one of his coworkers started looking at him crazy and turned him in. I bet the thought he was scott free. I guess they never really stop looking over their shoulders.
Single and Happy
October 25th, 2012
1:08 pm
Hold up wait a minute, There is a point when too much persistance is a turn off, don’t you agree?
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
October 25th, 2012
1:09 pm
~ What area of town are you in?
Comon~I’m on the souhtside of thangs off of Tara blvd. and highway 138.
Aww sookie,sookie nah…SlimNu’s dee jaying
Leggs
October 25th, 2012
1:09 pm
Sassy, I’m going to the midnight showing. Perhaps we can go together?
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
1:10 pm
Bluz~ Just be very clear in what you want. If you’re feeling pressured, tell him that. If you feel he’s being too agressive, tell him that. Not comfortable going to his house? Ditto. The biggest problem most relationships have is communication. If you ain’t feeling something, let it be known. He decideds to bail because of what you say? So be it. Better that than getting into a relationship where you have comprimised yourself. Have we really reached the point where we are so desperate for a man (not you in particular Bluz; society as a whole) that we are willing to not voice of beliefs/complaints for fear we will end up alone?
SlimNu
October 25th, 2012
1:10 pm
CC – I have no idea where that came from…sometimes words just hit me. But unfortunately, there is no afternoon delight going on. The beau is detoxing this week so he needs to hold onto any strength he can muster and draining is soldier sacks would not be good for him right now.
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
1:11 pm
Awww… I would have loved to catch up with you two for the movie. This is a tradition with me and the SILs and I don’t get down to the southside much…
Leggs
October 25th, 2012
1:12 pm
“…There is a point when too much persistance is a turn off, don’t you agree?” – HELL YEAH. Once you’ve slithered your way to “annoying” status, it’s very hard to gain your footing again. Esp. if you’re saying “so what, I have to work to.”
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
1:12 pm
Slim~ Can we get my hubs on the detox?!?
SlimNu
October 25th, 2012
1:14 pm
Bluz – This early in the game, why are you texting him to let him know your whereabouts??? He’s taking that to mean you are open for another move that night. Too early for him to know your play by plays if you ask me. Keep your texting to decent hours so he’ll learn what you mean by your example. Buddy smells of thirst for the pddy. He’s like a vampire who hasn’t had any blood to suckle in days. Don’t fall for his trap of coming to his house to THEN decide on a movie and drinks. That’s what phones and the internet is for. Make a plan, meet there and let it roll how it will roll, within your guidelines of course
SlimNu
October 25th, 2012
1:16 pm
CC – I’m sure you need a break…beau isn’t eating this week though. (no pun intended) lol
i'm swiss
October 25th, 2012
1:17 pm
I always thought emptying the ballz was detox? No?
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
October 25th, 2012
1:17 pm
I would have loved to catch up with you two for the movie.
Me,too…I still think we should have a meet n greet somewhere sometime soon…I’d love to put some monikers and faces/personalities together.
The beau is detoxing this week so he needs to hold onto any strength he can muster and draining is soldier sacks would not be good for him right now.
You’d probably have to keep some Gatorade and a defibrillator next to the bed…don’t do it to him Slim
What kind of detox is it?
Bluzgirl
October 25th, 2012
1:18 pm
It’s cool that he wants to hang out with me so badly, but when I’ve already told him that I’m not going out late at night during the week, he needs to quit asking and trying to push me to it. His youth is starting to show! LOL!
Willie Dynamite
October 25th, 2012
1:19 pm
Not scared at all. At all.
Slim- Ok, tell us what’s really on ya mind.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
October 25th, 2012
1:20 pm
Don’t fall for his trap of coming to his house to THEN decide on a movie and drinks.
Cosign…that’s a rookie move and definitely shows his “thirst”…
Bluzgirl
October 25th, 2012
1:21 pm
Slim – He had asked what I was doing last night and I told him about the play. When I got out, he had texted asking me how it was, so I replied that it was great and that I was just getting into my car to head home. It’s not like we’re keeping tabs on each other at this point. Tues night, he texted me at 8:30 asking if I wanted to meet him in VaHi and I told him that was too far for me to go and too late for a work night. He doesn’t need to know that I will go out sometimes during the week. To me…we already made plans to meet on Fri, so he needs to chill!
Maybe I’m just not used to someone being so eager to see me?
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
October 25th, 2012
1:22 pm
I hear you loud n clear cowboy…
Bluzgirl
October 25th, 2012
1:23 pm
Slim and Sassy – I’m not going to his house. I just don’t feel comfortable with that. I don’t know him from Adam…who’s to say he doesn’t try to force something on me? Nope…gonna tell him we can meet at the movie theater or restaurant.
SlimNu
October 25th, 2012
1:26 pm
It’s a body cleanse system he’d doing…I’m not sure all the kinds of pills he takes which are like fiber, colon cleanse, etc taken 3 times a day. He drinks only water with lemon juice or noncaffeinated green tea for 5 whole days. No food, no hanky panky..He says it’s like changing the oil in your car aka body.
Single and Happy
October 25th, 2012
1:28 pm
comon, watch what you ask for you just might get it!! (once every six months)
SlimNu
October 25th, 2012
1:28 pm
I think this is the one
http://www.naturessecret.com/products/ultimate-cleanse/
Will the Real Black Mamba Please Stand Up
October 25th, 2012
1:31 pm
COMON…I too will be at the mid-night showing up Breaking Dawn 2….in my Team Jacob shirt!. lol I read the books, I know what happens. But Jacob is hot! LMAO
WILLIE….at least he’d know what he’s getting! LOL
SWISS…that is what happens when a guy is “crazy h0rny”…he is a magnet to “crazy puddy”! lol
SINGLE…not one doctor will clear my asthmatic @$$! LOL
BLUZ…for some reason when I read about ole boy…I hear the sound from Psycho with the voice yelling “NORMAN”! LMAO We’ve never met….but I would hate to see you on an episode of “Stolen Voices” on the ID channel.
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
1:32 pm
S/H~ I don’t think I will ever get to the once every 6 months routine. Hell, I don’t think I’ll get to the once every 6 DAYS routine!
SlimNu
October 25th, 2012
1:35 pm
Sorry, this is the right one for 5-days
http://naturessecret.com/products/5-day-fast-and-cleanse/
SlimNu
October 25th, 2012
1:39 pm
Bluz – Now that I think about it, I think ole boy is trying to capitalize on his ‘home alone weekend’ so he’s really putting it on thick right now. He only has one more day to get you down as a done deal. I would like to know what’ll happen next week when he won’t be riding solo
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
1:41 pm
Well, if swiss is the crazy puddy magnet, I am the crazy dude magnet. Just had a dude tell me that I smelled of cashmere and lace.
WTH does that mean? (Coincidentally he smelled like musty grabage… IJS)
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
1:42 pm
I reiterate my 1:10 in relation to the Bluz situation. Grow a set and tell him what the deal is!
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
October 25th, 2012
1:42 pm
He drinks only water with lemon juice or noncaffeinated green tea for 5 whole days. No food, no hanky panky..
Man I’d be an eeeviiil you know what on that cleanse. I’m looking for one to do but I don’t want to starve myself…
Bluzgirl
October 25th, 2012
1:44 pm
Mamba – LOL!!! God…I hope not!
Slim – you may be right. I’m really curious to see how he’s gonna make his move…
Any of ya’ll been to Marlow’s Tavern? Wondering how the food is and the price range. Was thinking I could meet him there for dinner, then go to the movie, then back there for drinks…what ya’ll think?
Single and Happy
October 25th, 2012
1:44 pm
Comon, I’m sure that other lady thought that at one time too (LOL)
Mamba, that’s strange I have friend who’s epelictic and thought she wouldn’t get cleared. It won’t let me post that link from scubaboard
Single and Happy
October 25th, 2012
1:46 pm
Bluz, we think if he’s so eager to hang out, why you worried about the prices??
Bluzgirl
October 25th, 2012
1:47 pm
S/H – I don’t know. I guess I’m so used to broke men and have no idea about his financial standings!
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
1:50 pm
Bluz~ Not to be crass, but make sure you **ahem** “shoot one off” before you leave for this date. I would hate for ol boy to touch your hand and you cream all over yourself…
SlimNu
October 25th, 2012
1:53 pm
Just had a dude tell me that I smelled of cashmere and lace
CC – Was he 4 foot 3, wearing purple heels and eye liner?
Sassy – He’s on day 4 and he said yesterday was probably the hardest so far. I try to hurry up and eat my dinner before he gets home because that’s just plain cruel to be munching down in front of him. lol
DreamsMaterialize
October 25th, 2012
1:54 pm
Hey Everyone
I KNOW we aren’t still on topic this late in the day, but I’ll just say this: If you’re serious about your passion, then you don’t NEED anyone to help you build the empire. You’ll gather all the materials you need to make that happen, whether solo or as a team. No one else is responsible for your dream.
Off-topic:
I suppose wherever you find the issue-free man, he’ll probably be equally yoked with an issue-free woman.
Psycho girl is hot, her psycho puddy is fiyah, but the psycho fallout is explosive. lol
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
1:55 pm
SlimNu~ No, had it been Prince, I wouldn’t have even tried to decipher that terrible pick up line. I would have just given him some puddy. But dude smelled like we had just rolled up out the dumpster…
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
1:59 pm
DM~ Touche on that 1:54. BUt at least issue woman has fire puddy to go along with her issues. The same cannot be said of issue dude…