Relationships: Sharing is caring!
My friend Seth has a photography business. Every time he meets someone new, he invites them to accompany him on one of his gigs. He feels that whomever he is with has to enjoy photography as much as he does. He even wants his woman to help him build his business and take it to the next level.
I am always bothered by this being an absolute deal breaker. I tell him all the time that his Ms. Right may not have any interest at all in photography. Does that really mean you can’t be happy with her? I do agree that it is important to share common interests. I also believe that when you care about someone, you should be willing to share their passion. At the very least, you should support it. The question is – would you be willing to reciprocate?
My friend Seth never considered that the woman he meets may have her own business, dreams, or aspirations that he could support. I don’t know if all men are like this, but I seem to meet a lot of men that think that way. They have expectations of women but don’t seem to be prepared to offer the same thing back.
Is it important to you that you have a partner who shares the same interests or hobbies? Would it bother you if the person you were dating did not seem to be into the things you liked to do?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
October 25th, 2012
10:46 am
Good morning Comon. I’m doing good..been a little busy in the lab and writing a concept paper & protocol for a project I’m working on. I’ve been pushed out of my scientific comfort zone and liking what I see.
I can’t complain…I refuse to. How you doin?
disco
October 25th, 2012
10:47 am
CC – I have a friend who lives that kind of life constantly. everything about her world (to me) is just comical. she has the darndest mishaps and occurrences.
SlimNu
October 25th, 2012
10:55 am
Leggs – That should be your holiday bonus payout
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
11:04 am
Sassy~ Life is good over in this sector of the world. Things have calmed down for the moment and I am just cruising with the hubs and enjoying life.
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
11:04 am
Slim~ I cosign on your 10:55. Let’s start a petition for Leggs!
Leggs
October 25th, 2012
11:07 am
I wish, SlimNu. We get our bonuses in March. Their reasoning is we won’t readily spend it on others so they avoid the holidays.
disco
October 25th, 2012
11:08 am
no offense leggs – but how can I be down? can I get a petition?
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
11:13 am
disco~ What we petitioning for? A man that doesn’t have issues?
SlimNu
October 25th, 2012
11:15 am
Their reasoning is we won’t readily spend it on others so they avoid the holidays
Leggs – That sounds like some mambo jumbo…how are they going to throw some bs out there like that as to how a bonus is spent. SHOW ME DA MONEY!
disco
October 25th, 2012
11:15 am
CC – I was trying to be down with the holiday bonus payout but your petition sounds promising. we won’t even go into whether or not an issue-free man is believable or not. don’t want to get S/H started. lol.
Leggs
October 25th, 2012
11:16 am
CCA = Anthony Hamilton – Spa Sydell Certificate – (404) 741-1075
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
11:16 am
I was going to say, if you find an issue free man, that’s like finding an honest politican or a unicorn.
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
11:18 am
I’m coming for you Slim!
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
October 25th, 2012
11:20 am
Cool beans Comon….that’s what’s up!!
Mr. Bermuda and I are cruising as well…although in the past few weeks this blog caused me to love on him a lil more
He was like “You’re tryna kill me oman”…no not woman him say “oman” 
Side note: …y’all know Chrihmuh is in two months?
Leggs
October 25th, 2012
11:20 am
Bet you’ll find the unicorn first.
SlimNu
October 25th, 2012
11:22 am
CC – I can feel you breathing on my neck…back up!
Leggs
October 25th, 2012
11:29 am
I agree it’s mambo jumbo. How do they dictate when or how we spend OUR much earned bonus. Nonetheless, glad I work for a company that still gives bonuses and employee recognition luncheons and cash gifts.
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
11:36 am
Sassy~ I am convinced that my spouse is trying to kill me with his pen!s…
Slim~ Nothing doing! I take WWF very seriously!
Will the Real Black Mamba Please Stand Up
October 25th, 2012
11:36 am
Howya doin’?????
SINGLE….I am Black and I enjoy both of those. The only thing is…since I am asthmatic, no one will certify me. So snorkeling is as close as I can get:-( I also enjoy real haunted houses, cemetery tours and studying serial killers. Although I find it hard to find Black men that are in to these things as well! ! LMAO…I’m just frackin’ with ya!
EXILED….such a sexist! What makes you think that she will spend his money. In some cases…the female is the one earning the most money. “COMON…I’m using you as an example girl.” I am pretty sure she has her own money to spend. So should she make her hubby come see her in court when she is ball bustin’? LMAO
ENIGMA….I call BS on your 8:45 post. It not the job of one to impress the other. I’m just going to be me. So if he doesn’t appreciate it..screw him. You both have to impress each other! I do not live me life like it’s some hame show and I am a contestant with the prize being a man! It’s NOT the serious boo boo! It’s too much work to keep up the “representative” roll whether you are a man or woman. I want the real man…not the fake person trying to lure me in and then drop the “here I’m iz really” bomb. I will have NO problem dropping his @$$ like soap in a men’s prison..except I will keep my back to the wall! LMAO
I’m all for sharing my passions (such as performing: singing, dancing or acting) with my sweetie. But I will not force it on him. I would expect the same respect. I’m willing to at least try it out at least once though. I would not expect him to help make my dance costumes…it’ s side business and a passion. But it’s mine…not his!
SASSY…stop trying to assinate that man with puddy! At least make sure you get the life insurance policy in your name as the beneficary first! LMAO
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
11:37 am
Leggs~ Amen to that! Our firm only does gifts on an attorney by attorney basis. So if you work for a cheap attorney (and a lot of them are) then you are just azz out. I personally take care of my favorite paralegals so that they will do my stuff first. Gotta spend money to make money.
Leggs
October 25th, 2012
11:39 am
I’m on the phone with Carol…gave tix back. I just wanted to know if I had the right answer (lol). Not worthy for me to be on probation for 3 more months. Heck, I just got off.
Leggs
October 25th, 2012
11:40 am
For the record, everyone, Mamba is a vampire reincarnated into a fiesty a$$ woman! She loves everything and anything ghoulish! I don’t think she will even sleep Halloween weekend!!!
i'm swiss
October 25th, 2012
11:43 am
” Mamba is a vampire reincarnated into a fiesty a$$ woman!”
So, you’re saying she likes to suck….? Hmmmm….
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
October 25th, 2012
11:44 am
…stop trying to assinate that man with puddy!
What other way is there to go out
Mamba what insurance company do you recommend?…lol
SlimNu
October 25th, 2012
11:44 am
Leggs – Yeah you are right about that…I just reached my 3rd year anniversary date last week and guess what….there is a freeze on raises. NOT HAPPY ABOUT THAT AT ALL. I should’ve ordered hella room service when I was in Dallas for my trip.
Leggs
October 25th, 2012
11:47 am
DAYYUUUM Swiss, I didn’t even see that coming…you good!
disco
October 25th, 2012
11:49 am
CC – I’ve worked with those that give great gifts (I’m still using a gifted ipod classic I received several years ago) and I’ve worked with those that don’t give gifts. actually, I don’t have a preference. I’ll take a gift but I’m not pressed. I worked one place where they just partied, gifted, celebrated too much for me. it was annoying as heck. bridal showers, baby showers (not just for female employees but for spouses of male employees), graduation parties, retirement parties, they let folks bring their kids to the office to trick or treat. they were doing too much.
SlimNu
October 25th, 2012
11:50 am
swiss – Thanks for helping me realize what was wrong with me this past year.
KIDDING
disco
October 25th, 2012
11:51 am
swiss – be careful. might be saying she’s a biter.
Leggs
October 25th, 2012
11:52 am
Hilarious….
i'm swiss
October 25th, 2012
11:53 am
disco — My w@ng literally shuddered a bit when I read that.
SlimNu
October 25th, 2012
11:54 am
swiss – shuddered or shriveled up?
It probably hid behind the uniballer.
Leggs
October 25th, 2012
12:06 pm
swiss ~ what was the term Raqi’s husband used, turtle diving???
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
12:08 pm
Y’all are so funny! I come back and we got Mamba the vampire d!ck sucker, disco the hatin’ co-worker, and Sassy the p-ssy assassinator. Whoo!
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
12:10 pm
Mamba~ IDK you, but I like you. Girl, murder mayhem and serial killers is right up my alley!
It’s amazing, I don’t think the hubs has ever seen me in court. (Not sure I would want him to) I can be a bit aggressive.
To borrow swiss’ phrase, it might make his w@ng shudder and shrivel up. Now that you mention it, maybe I found the answer to the 4-peater problem… 
disco
October 25th, 2012
12:12 pm
CC – there are a lot of serial killer fans on the blog. we are a morbid bunch of miscreants. I mean who really has favorite serial killers? ask the blog folks and we have favorite serial killers. what does that say about us?
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
12:14 pm
**In my best ITL voice**~ Yay, miscreants!
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
12:14 pm
Herb Baumeister is my favorite serial killer. Although Ridgeway and Bundy are still favorites.
disco
October 25th, 2012
12:17 pm
CC – not that you rolled with it and named your favorite. H.H. Holmes is my guy. he was not just a serial killer but a trendsetter. lol. he was ahead of his time.
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
12:19 pm
I liked Baumeister cause he did his thing and when the jig was up, he went out like a trooper. Married for all those years and the wife and kids had no clue?!? He was playing the game to the max!
Will the Real Black Mamba Please Stand Up
October 25th, 2012
12:34 pm
SWISS….YES..I do! And my sweetie is a happy camper with that!!! LMAO
LEGGS…you know I will not sleep this weekend since I will be in ATL with the crew! All 3 costumes are ready to go! 2 were shipped to Pageant_Girl’s house and one will be in my bag! You’ had better come out at least one night…or I will get you! LMAO
SASSY..at least he’ll go a happy man! LMAO Hey my life insurance is with Penn Mutual! LOL
DISCO…I do like to bite as well…but not the jewels
COMON…girl we went to a Serial Killers haunted house about 2 weeks ago. It was cool. Each scene/room you went through had reinactments of the most infamous killers…Jack the Ripper,Jeffrey Dahmer, Ted Bundy, etc. Wayne Gacey scared me because he was about 6′5 dressed like a clown. I have been not a fan of clowns (including Ronald McDonald) ever since birth. I’m addicted to the ID channel. Nothing but story of crazy @$$ folks! lol
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
October 25th, 2012
12:36 pm
Shiiit Comon you got down witht that 12:08…TRUE(in my 2 Chainz voice)
Ridgeway and Bundy are still favorites.
Yeah with Halloween this month they’ve been profiling all sorts of people….last night I watched this show on cults(Jim Jones/Jonestown, Manson, etc.) and it was pretty good. When they showed the footage and aired audio from the mass suicide it really made me think and wonder how those people felt(the ones that survived,lost families,felt jaded by Jones,etc.)
Then I watched “Twilight”….again. Don’t judge me
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit ;-)
October 25th, 2012
12:39 pm
..at least he’ll go a happy man!
Yep…with a big kool-aid grin on his face.
…I do like to bite as well…but not the jewels
Me,too…sometimes I get a little carried away
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
12:40 pm
Sassy~ No judgement on Twilight. I’m going to the midnight premiere of Breaking Dawn part 2 with the SILs on November 15th.
Mamba~ The hubs says that the only reason we have cable is so that I can watch ID. He’s all “Don’t you get enough of that at work?!?”
disco
October 25th, 2012
12:40 pm
mamba – I won’t front. sometimes when I watch I almost got away with it, I find myself rooting for the criminal. lol. one little guy escaped from a prison transport and while I knew he was wrong I couldn’t help but hope that he made it.
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
12:42 pm
LOVE I almost got away with it. Girl, even though I know they are gonna get caught, I root for them. And then I pick apart how I could have won their case…
Willie Dynamite
October 25th, 2012
12:46 pm
Reading this bunch will have a dude thinking twice about just trying to get a piece of puddy. And y’all say dudes are crazy. Hahaha
disco
October 25th, 2012
12:48 pm
CC – you crazy. I don’t pull for all of them. some of them dumb bastids need to get caught. the one guy who was faking resumes, getting six figure jobs, embezzling money, faking court documents to get released from jail and all kinds of mess kept getting hemmed up. he even called the clerk’s office from jail and got himself released. he had game! all I could think was “dude, you scored. take the money and dip”. naw, he all at the casinos with his boyfriend. he deserved to get caught.
i'm swiss
October 25th, 2012
12:48 pm
Willie D — I know, right? I mean, I know the crazy b!tches are supposed to be the best lays, but d@mn, there is such a thing as too crazy…
Comon ¢
October 25th, 2012
12:48 pm
WD~ My father used to tell me “Do what you love and you will never work a day in your life” so, since I have an aversion to jail serial killing was out, so I became the next best thing..