Why no second date?
Have you ever had a really great introduction or first date with someone and felt a strong connection? You can literally sense the attraction and feel the chemistry spark. If you had to place a bet, the odds of hearing from them again were in your favor! Then nothing happens…ever.
It is SO frustrating but it actually happens a lot. People flirt, mix and mingle all the time. You won’t always have what you feel reciprocated, and you can’t take that personally.
Think about the last time you met someone and immediately realized they were not a good match for you. What was it that made you think that they were better suited for somebody else?
When was the last time you met someone or had a first date – but decided not to pursue it?
I heard a guy say that he refused to ask for a second date because the woman’s car was a mess inside and out. That made me wonder if our reasons are always valid? How can know for sure that you aren’t being too critical, picky, or judgmental?
Do you know why someone lost interest in you? Does it really matter to you or do you just “charge it to the game” and move on?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
4:30 pm
Slim~ You just made me think of that Dave Chappelle “kinkos” skit and I am over here chuckling to myself in my office. I know the folks I work with think I am crazy the past few weeks…
disco
October 24th, 2012
4:30 pm
enigma – now that got a giggle out of me. some men have separation anxiety when it comes to their hair. come to think of it, a lot of women do too. one of my cousins was walking around looking straight crazy with some jacked up broke off uneven hair. she didn’t have a fingernail full but didn’t want to cut it. I took her right to the barbershop and got her a boy cut. oh – and it may sound like a joke but I knew a girl back in high school whose hair was so short she needed weave to wear fingerwaves. no lie. true story.
Leggs
October 24th, 2012
4:32 pm
” the past few weeks”…why so modest?
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
October 24th, 2012
4:33 pm
Jake, the only dogs Bama is worried about go to Miss State
Slim you from skeegee how long is you stayed there, I’m from Opelika
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
October 24th, 2012
4:34 pm
how long is you stayed there WTF I mean how long has it been since you lived there (LOL)
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
4:34 pm
jake – I thought it was funny too but then I thought is holocaust humor ever funny?
disco~ Yes. Holocaust humor can be very funny… IJS remember the “Survivor” episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm?
Leggs
October 24th, 2012
4:36 pm
Single ~ are you pumping yourself up?
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
4:37 pm
the past few weeks”…why so modest?
So, maybe I should say they’re just looking at me like I’m crazy now?
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
October 24th, 2012
4:38 pm
Pumping myself up???
Leggs
October 24th, 2012
4:38 pm
WAIT, didn’t mean it like that. Meant are you hyping yourself up with your different add on’s to your moniker. Nevamind. I got off on the wrong foot and now must hobble back to my corner.
DreamsMaterialize
October 24th, 2012
4:38 pm
Hey everyone. How’s it going? Does anyone have a way to speed up time? I’m ready for the weekend.
Jake-SPJTWB
October 24th, 2012
4:39 pm
Disco–where I’m from we call those, “Keg-Heads”.
Yep Slim, probably would have to show her what the TWB stands for, I actually got a thing for a little Shower Fun, but do not have the water to warm….
warm water+warm puddy+too much steam=somebody lightheaded and wobbly in here
Slim-Mail Call
Leggs
October 24th, 2012
4:39 pm
Tiny humor that went awry in my own mind, Single. I know you’re happy and fulfilled.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 24th, 2012
4:40 pm
heads shaped like light bulbs make me pause…
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
October 24th, 2012
4:41 pm
Leggs, no I’m home now, on a different computer.
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
October 24th, 2012
4:41 pm
Leggs you know I have different computer for different monikers (LMAO)
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 24th, 2012
4:43 pm
warm water+warm puddy+too much steam=somebody lightheaded and wobbly in here
Just don’t fall…
Leggs
October 24th, 2012
4:43 pm
Sassy ~ look at the men around you. Eventually, you will see a man’s head shaped like a light bulb and will go “a ha, I now see what Leggs’ is talking about.”
Single ~ I forgot that tidbit, sir.
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
October 24th, 2012
4:44 pm
Comon have you seen some of the pictures from the Holocaust? I was looking at something about the US soldiers that were in prison with the victims and some of the things they endured, I could never find anything funny no matter how they spin it.
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
4:45 pm
Leggs~ I know exactly what you’re talking about with the lightbulb shaped heads. And on that note, not everyone needs a bald head. Some heads just need hair. I am tired of seeing brothers that look like half-sucked milk duds. Not a good look…
Leggs
October 24th, 2012
4:46 pm
Much better, Comon!
Mrs. SexyCool
October 24th, 2012
4:46 pm
I have two lightbulb dudes that work in my department. They are both around 6′3, 6′4…
Jake-SPJTWB
October 24th, 2012
4:47 pm
Slim-nevermind, that email came back like a leg in Yoga class
I know a few cats from Skeegee here in the A-town, sure you know them, in our age window.
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
4:47 pm
S/H~ Not only have I seen the pics, I have visited several of the concentration camps (or what’s left of some of them like Bergen Belsen) and I find humor in just about everything. **kanye shrug** to each his own.
Leggs
October 24th, 2012
4:47 pm
What about the bald headed guys who have a gaggle of bumps at the nape of their baldheadedness. Not a good look.
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
October 24th, 2012
4:48 pm
hey head is a sensitive issue
disco
October 24th, 2012
4:48 pm
leggs – when my son was younger folks used to call him lightbulb head. not for the shape but his color. also called him a little yellow skittle and one of my aunts called him banana popsicle.
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
October 24th, 2012
4:49 pm
heads I mean (LOL)
Leggs
October 24th, 2012
4:49 pm
Comon ~ friends don’t understand this about me, but I find humor in falling and tripping. Not nice, but it’s the truth.
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
October 24th, 2012
4:50 pm
okay what is a kanye shrug, I’m so out of touch
disco
October 24th, 2012
4:50 pm
CC – I understand where you are coming from. I have a friend who refuses to watch movies like roots or schindler’s list because she says they are too oppressive. they are. I get it. but if you look for the humor, you can find it. based on a lot of memoirs I’ve read, humor helped get the survivors through.
Leggs
October 24th, 2012
4:51 pm
“a little yellow skittle” – I had to put my hand over my mouth and laugh.
Leggs
October 24th, 2012
4:51 pm
I thought it meant “I don’t give a damn” shrug.
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
4:53 pm
disco~
They think it’s ok to laugh too:
http://www.myjewishlearning.com/blog/culture/holocaust-humor-its-okay-to-laugh/
Many survivors used humor to get through such a terrible event.
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
4:54 pm
Leggs/S & H~ Here you go:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=kanye%20shrug
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 24th, 2012
4:54 pm
not everyone needs a bald head. Some heads just need hair. I am tired of seeing brothers that look like half-sucked milk duds.
Cosign..some men actually look better bald but you have some brothers that ummm…can’t quite pull off that particular look…
Eventually, you will see a man’s head shaped like a light bulb
And me being the sensitive person I am, would just burst out laughing as soon as I do…
Mrs. SexyCool
October 24th, 2012
4:54 pm
After KanYeezy so famously interrupted TSwift at that awards show, after he finished his statement about Beyonce having the “greatest video of all times”, he gave this little shrug.
Since then, the KanyeShrug has been a thing.
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
October 24th, 2012
4:56 pm
Disco I can only watch those once, and no white person better not say something cross to me for a few weeks after. I’m sure there was some humor in alot of things, but it’s hard to imagine and from all the stories about the holocaust, Just haven’t heard anything but pain and suffering from the survivors. And I guess what really bothers me is that if some people had their way it still would be going on now.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 24th, 2012
4:56 pm
http://www.xlurbanmedia.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/06/kanye-shrug.jpg
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
4:56 pm
:dno:
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 24th, 2012
4:57 pm
Time to gooo
Read y’all tomorrow!!
Leggs
October 24th, 2012
4:58 pm
Got it. So, I could have better communicated with lil leggs and used *kanye shrug* instead of saying “End of Discussion?”
DreamsMaterialize
October 24th, 2012
4:59 pm
humor helped get the survivors through.
disco I actually saw an independent film about just that thing. It was about persecuted Jews in Italy. The Nazi’s took a guy and his daughter from their home to a concentration camp. The father convinced his daughter that it was some elaborate joke or game in order to shield her from the realities of the atrocities. I can’t remember the name of that movie.
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
4:59 pm
S/H~ Go to youtube and watch the Survivor episode of CYE. I defy you not to laugh. It’s hilarious. IJS
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
5:01 pm
Leggs~ You got it! Lil Leggs would have understood that completely!
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
October 24th, 2012
5:01 pm
I guess that’s why I don’t know, never watch award shows, or celebrities in the news.
i'm swiss
October 24th, 2012
5:01 pm
Leggs — That, or just carry around a mic with you at all times & drop it & walk off after making a point.
Leggs
October 24th, 2012
5:02 pm
How do you explain the beatings, the starvation as part of the game..just curious?
Leggs
October 24th, 2012
5:03 pm
Knowledge is power!
disco
October 24th, 2012
5:03 pm
dreams – that sounds like “life is beautiful”. in the movie version it was a father and his son. the little boy thought he was playing army and hide and seek.