Why no second date?
Have you ever had a really great introduction or first date with someone and felt a strong connection? You can literally sense the attraction and feel the chemistry spark. If you had to place a bet, the odds of hearing from them again were in your favor! Then nothing happens…ever.
It is SO frustrating but it actually happens a lot. People flirt, mix and mingle all the time. You won’t always have what you feel reciprocated, and you can’t take that personally.
Think about the last time you met someone and immediately realized they were not a good match for you. What was it that made you think that they were better suited for somebody else?
When was the last time you met someone or had a first date – but decided not to pursue it?
I heard a guy say that he refused to ask for a second date because the woman’s car was a mess inside and out. That made me wonder if our reasons are always valid? How can know for sure that you aren’t being too critical, picky, or judgmental?
Do you know why someone lost interest in you? Does it really matter to you or do you just “charge it to the game” and move on?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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disco
October 24th, 2012
2:58 pm
slim – my son and I both have big legs. just the other night we were just talking, popping off at the mouth, and got to laughing at one of my cousins (she’s 5’8” and wears a size 0). anyway we laugh because she wears her little riding boots but her leg is just wobbling out of the top of the boot. it’s too funny to see.
Single and Happy
October 24th, 2012
2:58 pm
disco, sassy more on that later (LOL) time to go home.
Leggs
October 24th, 2012
2:59 pm
Single ~ that furniture was the joint. I remember what was playing at The Fox Theatre that night “You’re Arms to Short To Box With God!” Someone told the police officers I was over there watching the play when I was hiding out in someone’s room
disco ~ used to work with a girl who always used the word “lick” like you do.
SlimNu ~ I’ve always wanted to wear knee length boots growing up, but couldn’t because my legs looked like a skinny wisp of skin and bones. So glad I can now keep a pair of boots up (lol).
disco
October 24th, 2012
3:04 pm
leggs – yeah, lick is another one I use a lot. I just bought a ken cole leather blazer at the thrift store last week. leaving the thrift store I was on the phone telling someone I had just “hit a lick”. lol.
SlimNu
October 24th, 2012
3:05 pm
Yeah, I’d be the only chick walking around with the tops of my boots being held up by a garter belt. :lo:
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
3:17 pm
Y’all are tripping!
Off Topic~ Did anyone read Donald Trump’s “big, election altering announcement”?
disco
October 24th, 2012
3:20 pm
tripping? naw. just engaging in miscreant-ism.
SlimNu
October 24th, 2012
3:22 pm
Something about having Obama’s divorce papers or something??? Only heard a tidbit of that. What’s the deal
Rich
October 24th, 2012
3:29 pm
I am 35 thanks for asking, and it is an early Friday for me, going camping near Red Top Mountain for the weekend with a social group from church. I have to disagree Mrs. Sexyfool, I have had plenty of experience from relationships, you don’t have to have sex to be an expert or to have a good knowledge of relationships, and sex is a want not a need. I think the Mrs. Sexy is just jealous.
SlimNu
October 24th, 2012
3:29 pm
Oh wait, so he is challenging Obama to show his student records to prove he enrolled as a foreign student and is putting up 5 mil to his charity of choice? Did I get that right..
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
3:41 pm
Oh wait, so he is challenging Obama to show his student records to prove he enrolled as a foreign student and is putting up 5 mil to his charity of choice? Did I get that right..
Sorry. I got sidetracked for a second. Yes, you got it right. He wants the Pres to release his birth certificate (the long form) his college transcripts and his passport applications and in return he will donate $5 million to the charity of Obama’s choice.
Really? Why do we even give this assclown airtime?!?
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
3:42 pm
Wow, Rich… Them’s fighting words. You might want to move away from your monitor for when MrsSC blows you away… IJS.
Jake-SPJTWB
October 24th, 2012
3:42 pm
hey Blog Nazi-Slim
Swiss-Worst part of being a Dawg fan, others let reality get in front of fanaticism…..Dawgs gonna win this one, win out, see Bama in the Dome-then??????? (sorry Willie, see Swiss, its that it easy…to say)
i'm swiss
October 24th, 2012
3:43 pm
I want Trump to release whatever poor woodland creature he’s had mounted to his head.
Bluzgirl
October 24th, 2012
3:44 pm
Donald Trump is coo coo for cocoa puffs!
disco
October 24th, 2012
3:46 pm
swiss – now amen to that. goodness knows everyone who says money makes a man look better is a daggone lie.
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
3:47 pm
swiss~ Even if he released that thing, it wouldn’t go nowhere. It’s bee in capitivity too long.
i'm swiss
October 24th, 2012
3:48 pm
Comon — You’re right — it’s probably got Stockholm Syndrome by now…
Mrs. SexyCool
October 24th, 2012
3:51 pm
Name calling?!? Really, dude?!? Further signs of immaturity. It ain’t that deep.
disco
October 24th, 2012
3:51 pm
CC/swiss – they could use it for arts and craft, tie a stick to it and use it as a swiffer duster, he can wax his car with it, something. where there’s a will there’s a way.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 24th, 2012
3:52 pm
Also, I will disagree with you. If you have no sexual experience, you have no personal knowledge of how sexual experience can alter the relationship between two individuals. You cannot possibly be an expert at something in which you have no experience.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 24th, 2012
3:55 pm
Naw, Comon, I’m good. Skills that I have had to consistently rely on in my new position are emotional intelligence and emotional maturity. To get into a keyboard scuffle with a complete unknown would not be a good use of those skills.
SlimNu
October 24th, 2012
3:55 pm
Jake – I throw my 2lbs of weight around and I get deemed the BlogNazi…me no likey likey. Can’t we just chuck it up to me having a BF b!tch fit?
disco
October 24th, 2012
4:00 pm
slim – should I escort jake to the showers? bad joke?
Jake-SPJTWB
October 24th, 2012
4:00 pm
Sexy- “Also, I will disagree with you. If you have no sexual experience, you have no personal knowledge of how sexual experience can alter the relationship between two individuals. You cannot possibly be an expert at something in which you have no experience.”
That was worth repeating…..
Not knocking the 40 year old virgin, but once you have begun to have sex regularly, its a need, not just a want my friend…..
Rich-you are suffering from what we call “Desert D!ck”, nothing wet around you, just dust and dirt……i kid, i kid
Mrs. SexyCool
October 24th, 2012
4:02 pm
Tell him again, Sweet Peeta Jeeta.
Jake-SPJTWB
October 24th, 2012
4:03 pm
Disco…you stoopid, that was funny!
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
4:04 pm
Jake~ You may kid, but there is some truth behind every joke. What was the movie when Jamie Foxx was the superhero and when he got some he had to throw ol girl on the floor because he shot a hole through the ceiling? That’s about to be your boy Rich…
Jake-SPJTWB
October 24th, 2012
4:06 pm
Slim-Anybody got the winning numbers to that lottery yet, I hope not….you from the Gump right, I know you can cuss!!
Enigma
October 24th, 2012
4:06 pm
“I have to disagree Mrs. Sexyfool,”\
That made me laugh
Sorry Mrs. SexyCool
disco
October 24th, 2012
4:09 pm
jake – I thought it was funny too but then I thought is holocaust humor ever funny? I’m actually a holocaust buff. love the movies and biographies and try to get to the museum as often as I can.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 24th, 2012
4:10 pm
Yeah…no…I didn’t laugh.
SlimNu
October 24th, 2012
4:11 pm
disco – I’m afraid Jake might like it if you escort him to the showers. lol
Jake-SPJTWB
October 24th, 2012
4:12 pm
Sexy-It was a lil funny…
SlimNu
October 24th, 2012
4:13 pm
Jake – I’m not from the Gump but my folks are living there right now. I’m from Skeegee
But yeah I’ll throw some choice words out there if I get that upset. I told a customer today a hunned times that two of the printers were not working. He tries to throw a hissy fit and I was like well, It’s not like I can pull the papers outta my ass 
Great customer service right 
Enigma
October 24th, 2012
4:13 pm
I’m still laughing.
Mrs. Sexy Cool looking like
Mrs. SexyCool
October 24th, 2012
4:15 pm
Thank you for making it harder to ignore and refuse to respond to the offense.
Enigma
October 24th, 2012
4:16 pm
Lighten up
Mrs. SexyCool
October 24th, 2012
4:17 pm
I am pretty certain that I said in my initial response that it was not that deep. I just responded that I didn’t and don’t find it funny.
That is all.
Officially done with it.
Enigma
October 24th, 2012
4:18 pm
are you really now?
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 24th, 2012
4:19 pm
I did it!!
Now I’m ready to go…
disco
October 24th, 2012
4:19 pm
I was just looking at you all’s emoticons and thinking how I’m not a fan of folks who have perfectly round heads. anyone know what I’m talking about? just the big pancake headed folks. I guess women can pull it off but a round head just makes a man look kind of soft. okay. I’m done talking crazy. lol.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 24th, 2012
4:19 pm
Leggs – next time you talk to ARed, tell her I said hello.
Leggs
October 24th, 2012
4:23 pm
Mrs. SC ~ I sure will.
Leggs
October 24th, 2012
4:24 pm
You mean the perfectly round head that makes you think of Charlie Brown??
disco
October 24th, 2012
4:25 pm
leggs – yep. that’s it. lol. and to think they always called him blockhead.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 24th, 2012
4:25 pm
I always get the feeling that those folks are LD.
Enigma
October 24th, 2012
4:26 pm
speaking of heads
how are guys going to have a hair line that looks almost like thin bangs and be bald all over the rest of the head
Leggs
October 24th, 2012
4:28 pm
Well if round heads bother you, let me confess, heads shaped like light bulbs make me pause…literally!
Enigma
October 24th, 2012
4:29 pm
aLOL!!!