Why no second date?
Have you ever had a really great introduction or first date with someone and felt a strong connection? You can literally sense the attraction and feel the chemistry spark. If you had to place a bet, the odds of hearing from them again were in your favor! Then nothing happens…ever.
It is SO frustrating but it actually happens a lot. People flirt, mix and mingle all the time. You won’t always have what you feel reciprocated, and you can’t take that personally.
Think about the last time you met someone and immediately realized they were not a good match for you. What was it that made you think that they were better suited for somebody else?
When was the last time you met someone or had a first date – but decided not to pursue it?
I heard a guy say that he refused to ask for a second date because the woman’s car was a mess inside and out. That made me wonder if our reasons are always valid? How can know for sure that you aren’t being too critical, picky, or judgmental?
Do you know why someone lost interest in you? Does it really matter to you or do you just “charge it to the game” and move on?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Willie Dynamite
October 24th, 2012
12:12 pm
Afternoon all,
Topic- I’ve never been into dating per se so the 2nd date question I can’t really answer. Most of my 1st dates were after already knowing the chick so it merely was just a formality. Even real 1st dates I didn’t put much emphasis on them. I did have an agenda but it was really simple. All I wanted was a good time/conversation and/or some puddy.
kimmie
October 24th, 2012
12:16 pm
disco – The friend I was talking about above had the nerve to ask me to clean up on the sly. When we first got to be buddies, we worked at the same company and she lived literally within walking distance of my apt. She quit the company and started an in-home daycare. She had an entired seperate area in the basement where she ran the daycare. I used to come by sometime and help her pick up the toys and such. She had one or 2 kids that she kept after hours so she would bring them upstairs and if I was there I would help pick up after them upstairs. When we ate I would help clean up the kitchen, help load the dishwasher, put up dishes, etc. But that was just out of the goodness of my heart and I was sitting around talking so I would pitch in. She stopped the daycare and went back to work after the divorce. At that point I’m not cleaning up after a grown A woman!
disco
October 24th, 2012
12:27 pm
kimmie – you did good to do as much as you did. I don’t clean up after folks who can clean up after themselves (especially grown folks). just not in me to do. now if a friend just had a baby, had a death in the family, something like that then I’ll go over and help out. if a friend is just nasty I’ll just own that I have a nasty friend. I’ll sit there and shoot the breeze, watch tv, whatever. won’t be the first time I’ve spent time in a nasty house. I’ve worked with chicks who clean up their boss’ office. that’s never been my thing. I had one boss who would have a dozen coke cans lying around his office. I guess the assistant before me went in and threw them out. not me. the mess don’t bother you, the mess don’t bother me.
Enigma
October 24th, 2012
12:31 pm
Slim, I was here….. lurking
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 24th, 2012
12:32 pm
hey slim. coming in here regulating and demanding answers
I know right?!
I was here,too…
Enigma
October 24th, 2012
12:33 pm
going to a meeting.
Talk amongst yourselves
disco
October 24th, 2012
12:33 pm
sassy – lol. you like me. let her know you was here. slim bout to lay the smack down on folks for skipping the blog. she’ll be like a blog truant officer.
hey enigma.
Enigma
October 24th, 2012
12:34 pm
Hey Disco
Random: your name reminds me of the song shiny disco balls
I digress
i'm swiss
October 24th, 2012
12:37 pm
Howdy, folks…
Not much to say on topic.
Side topic (nasty b!tches): If a chick’s car and/or house is nasty, what must her puddy be like?
Willie D — I assume you’re looking forward to the cocktail party? I hope my DAWGS can at least make it a decent game, but I have my doubts…
Willie Dynamite
October 24th, 2012
12:38 pm
Sassy- thanks again, you alright with me(smile).
disco
October 24th, 2012
12:40 pm
swiss – I swing my chin back and forth. lol. your post made me think of the old doo-wah-diddy song. summer’s eve. massengil. wash your —, kill that funky smell.
Single and Happy
October 24th, 2012
12:40 pm
Mamba I meet an online ex once that when we meet it was like someone peed on the fire, but since we were spending the weekend together, it went from pee to gasoline (LOL) Sometimes people expectations are too high when it comes to online dating because they’ve built this image in there head, and it’s hard for someone to live up to that.
Kimmie as you stated you bring your A game to everything you do, so you don’t feel the need to step up your game. Unfortunately everyone doesn’t
disco
October 24th, 2012
12:27 pm
kimmie – you did good to do as much as you did. I don’t clean up after folks who can clean up after themselves (especially grown folks). just not in me to do wow didn’t expect that from you (rotflmao)
Willie Dynamite
October 24th, 2012
12:41 pm
Swiss- looking forward to this weekend. Just want a smack down to make up for not being able to talk isht for a yr to dawg fans.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 24th, 2012
12:43 pm
You’re welcome Willie
i'm swiss
October 24th, 2012
12:43 pm
Willie D — Unfortunately, I’m afraid you’re going to get your wish. My heart tells me we could pull it out, but my head tells me we lose by 3 TDs, minimum.
kimmie
October 24th, 2012
12:48 pm
Single – It’s actually harder for me to hold back than it is to give my all. That’s just how I go about life!
Willie Dynamite
October 24th, 2012
12:49 pm
Swiss it will be closer in points than on the field. Fla has turned into a smash mouth team and I hope they just methodically beat the dawgs down.
Single and Happy
October 24th, 2012
12:51 pm
Kimmie, me and disco will give you some lessons on holding back (LOL)
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
12:58 pm
Now that Slim has put out the truancy warning, I felt I should show up.
On-Topic~ I think it’s all already been said.
Nasty car/house? No can do. And I don’t buy that “I have kids” argument. Beyotch! Me too! But you don’t see my house or car all nasty. I agree with swiss, if your house/car is that nasty, what must your genitals be like?
i'm swiss
October 24th, 2012
12:58 pm
Willie D — I don’t think it’s going to be that close in points. I’m afraid this has the potential to be an epic blowout — which is saying something by this game’s standards. Our defense is soft & undisciplined, and now there’s public finger-pointing. Honestly, if we get blown out (the way I’m afraid we will) in this game, then I’d almost prefer we just totally collapse & lose the rest of them, too, so that maybe there would be a chance for a coaching change. I don’t think we’ll ever be any better than mediocre with the current staff.
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
1:07 pm
swiss~ I like Mark Richt! I don’t think he is doing a bad job of coaching. I do think that he needs better backup, but overall, he is doin a decent job.
SlimNu
October 24th, 2012
1:08 pm
Guess we’ll need to implement a roll call from now on….lol
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
1:11 pm
Slim~ You stoopid! Like I need to add one more job to my already overtaxed schedule.
i'm swiss
October 24th, 2012
1:11 pm
Comon — He is a decent coach. And we have a decent team. But we’ll never be more than decent with Richt at the helm, I’m afraid. Our team is soft. And it has been for at least the past 6 or 7 years. Which is why every time we’ve faced an opponent who matched us in talent in that span, we’ve lost. That’s on the coach.
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
1:12 pm
Off Topic~ Did y’all hear about the shooting at World Changers this morning?
Willie Dynamite
October 24th, 2012
1:12 pm
Swiss- in this rivalry nothing would surprise me. Even with everything you mentioned I can see the opposite effect of bringing the dogs together for an upset. We’ll see.
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
1:13 pm
swiss~ Who would you throw out there to replace him? Nothing like jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire. (Which happens a lot in college FB…)
i'm swiss
October 24th, 2012
1:15 pm
“Even with everything you mentioned I can see the opposite effect of bringing the dogs together for an upset.”
Willie D — Yeah, that’s what my heart is telling me. I mean, we do have the personnel to win this game. But I have absolutely zero confidence in our coaches ability to have the team focused and ready to play tough — physically and mentally.
i'm swiss
October 24th, 2012
1:17 pm
Comon — Oh, don’t get me wrong, I know we could certainly end up in worse shape with someone different. But at least with someone different there’s a chance things could change for the better. With Richt, we know exactly what we’ll get — around 10 wins, but none of the ones that really matter.
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
1:19 pm
swiss~ True. I’ll give you that, but my fear is going down from 10 wins and going to 3 or 4. That would royally suck!
Single and Happy
October 24th, 2012
1:21 pm
swiss~ I like Mark Richt! I don’t think he is doing a bad job of coaching. I do think that he needs better backup, but overall, he is doin a decent job.
Now that’s the difference between the dogs and the tide, if you’re not winning national championships you got to go! Decent is not good enough! Yea I had to weigh in here.
i'm swiss
October 24th, 2012
1:22 pm
Comon — Even with Ray Goff — who was, quite possibly, the most unqualified hire ever made by a major CFB program — we managed at least 5 or 6 wins.
Will the Real Black Mamba Please Stand Up
October 24th, 2012
1:24 pm
DISCO…yes, she would always blame her little boy. I was like…”nah heffa, that’s all you. Your son is just copying what he sees.” I went to use her bathroom one time (hovering of course) and her friggin’ panties were on the floor. So of course I called her out on it. This chick actually told me she was rushing that morning and didn’t have time! WTF??? It takes 2 seconds to pick them up and put them on the hamper. I called her a dirty trick. I know….I’m filterless!
KIMMIE…sounds like your friend met her match!
SINGLE…I do believe the expectations are too high sometimes. It’s strange…when I first met my current guy, we clicked, but because I LOVE tall men, it was holding me back. So after kicking my own @$$…I realized that I need to let the height thing go. He was handsome, intelligent and was a gentleman who treated me nice. Needless to say…so far, I am glad that I made that decision. “Physicality is a technicality!” (Don’t ya’ll go stealin’ my ish either)
COMON…yeah I read about that shooting this morning. WTH man? People have gone straight ca-ra-zy! Insanity never goes out of style. Hence the reaosn I am back in college for Forensic Psychology. I can get paid off these fools!
i'm swiss
October 24th, 2012
1:24 pm
S/H — I hate to agree with a Bammer, but I totally agree with you. And it’s not just the fact that we lose the games that matter — it’s the way we lose them. We get pushed around. Cocky doesn’t have better athletes that we do. But they sure as hell have a tougher team than we do. And that’s unacceptable.
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
1:28 pm
Mamba~ THey said he was an employee of the church up until August. Dude prolly got fired and snapped. At least that’s what it sounds like. But he only shot one person (and 6 times to boot!) I hope I know whoever picks up his case!
Single and Happy
October 24th, 2012
1:30 pm
Mamba,
way to look out for the vertically challenged men 
Swiss, comon, come on over to the dark side (LOL) Mark Richt is like where he came from, FL State, always had a good team, but could never win it all.
Single and Happy
October 24th, 2012
1:32 pm
Comon, 6 times, he really wanted him dead
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
1:34 pm
swiss~ If we could lock down Delando Crooks or Kelsey Griffin, I would feel more inspired…
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
1:34 pm
S/H~ They say never say never, but I can gleefully say that will never happen.
i'm swiss
October 24th, 2012
1:35 pm
S/H — I would never, ever, even if my life depended on it, cheer for Bammer. But I would trade coaches with you in a heartbeat.
i'm swiss
October 24th, 2012
1:37 pm
Comon — Doesn’t matter how many 4 or 5-star recruits we bring in. They’ll still be soft until they’re coached to be otherwise.
SlimNu
October 24th, 2012
1:39 pm
flummoxed
Leggs – Wow, I won’t be playing Words with Friends with you ever
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
1:41 pm
SlimNu~ Are you on WWF? If so, I am grammarnazi404. Would love to play! I’m always looking for new games!
Willie Dynamite
October 24th, 2012
1:42 pm
Comon- sorry if I missed it but did yall or hubby attend the party?
Will the Real Black Mamba Please Stand Up
October 24th, 2012
1:43 pm
SWISS..,my love of tall men will never go away. But I see that good things sometimes come in smaller packages! And not what you’re thinking either!
COMON…that was straight up focused and premeditated….6 times??? He had to make sure he did not miss or give him a chance of survival. If I was in charge of firing someone..I’d be worried of this kind of retaliation, and be looking over my shoulder. In this economy to lose a job can take a toll on you. It’s not before when you could just go get another one next week.
Leggs
October 24th, 2012
1:43 pm
disco ~ that is the worst, to know your house is dirty then ask relative’s children to clean it when they come for a visit…that is low down.
“If a chick’s car and/or house is nasty, what must her puddy be like? ” = No correlation, but made me think of a male coworker who used to say, “a butt that big has to be dirty cuz no way she can get into all those crevices!” That’s where my mind went….
SlimNu
October 24th, 2012
1:43 pm
CC – Ok, okay…no roll call lol
I can shoot people with my mind
i'm swiss
October 24th, 2012
1:44 pm
Mamba — I think you’re confusing me with S/H.
i'm swiss
October 24th, 2012
1:46 pm
“If a chick’s car and/or house is nasty, what must her puddy be like? ” = No correlation
Leggs — Have you conducted a survey?
Comon ¢
October 24th, 2012
1:47 pm
WD~ We did not attend the party.
Furthermore, the hubs has (by way of giving me the blame, lol) made ol girl stop calling him. He told her that his wife was really jealous and didn’t like her calling so she needed to only call him if it was work related. 
I’m like “Why you gotta blame me?!?” 