Dating: I’m so embarrassed!
If someone could find a way to purchase a dating do over, I know a lot of people who would want it. We try to bring our A game, especially on first dates. Sometimes anxiety kicks in and we leave a less then stellar impression.
One of our readers went out with a guy from church this weekend. While they were waiting for valet, her ex-boyfriend approached her and basically embarrassed her. He made a comment about her temper and alluded to her history of property destruction.
In her defense *ahem*, this was a guy she dated in college. She told her date she is not the same girl and tried to downplay it, but she was pretty embarrassed. Should she try to explain the full story to her date or drop it and let it go? Maybe he can see for himself that she is a mature woman now?
Have you ever been embarrassed on a date? How did you handle it?
What would you do if you ran into one of your exes while you were out with someone else? Speaking of, Atlanta is WAY too small sometimes, no?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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lee
October 23rd, 2012
6:30 am
It has never happened to me, then again i never destroyed someones property. I just walked away. Seems she must of been “something else” for that guy to go out of his way to embarrass her, must still hold a grudge against her.
I think i would down-play it, there are two sides to every story ( then the truth) —
Celise.....happy life!!
October 23rd, 2012
7:24 am
This scenario can be viewed from more than one angle. Perhaps she is guilty but have since grown. Perhaps he’s still bitter……from waaaaay back when. Perhaps he was dirty low down and met his match in her. Perhaps he’s shaking salt on her new thing and hating. Perhaps, perhaps……the new dude should be willing to hear her out since it was brought up. Again, since he took it upon himself to oust her, then yes, at the sake of salvaging and damage control, I would tell “my side” and leave it be. Either he’s going to be in or out. I would not though apologize for my past….especially since it’s the past. As with past indiscretions, past bad mistakes, etc., IMO this scenario should be handled the same. The past is the past.
There’s always his version, my version and the truth lying somewhere in the middle.
Single and Happy
October 23rd, 2012
7:46 am
Jealousy, don’t need no bad talk around me, I don’t need Jealousy
Celise.....happy life!!
October 23rd, 2012
7:47 am
To the reader, embarrassed because he kicked it in the street our embarrassed because it was true? Either way, as long as you know you’ve grown past adolescence behavior, don’t sweat it. Perhaps you were that crazy chick men SO love to name us… lol I often believe men ain’t as slow as they claim. Behind 97% of the crazy chicks out there, there’s a man that provoked their behavior….IMO. Maybe you was apart of that 3% that carries the “crazy” trait unprovoked. Either way, don’t be embarrassed. If he cares for you and that’s not been his experience, he shouldn’t be swayed.
Enigma
October 23rd, 2012
8:18 am
Enter your comments hereGood Morning. My ex sabotaged my relationship with a guy I really like. He stayed with me after my ex told him things about me but used it as ammo when he dumped me. It hurt a lot. I think the pain was more about how an ex can get between my relationships. I don’t want a do over. The experience taught me to keep my private life private and not let my ex meet anyone unless married to them. If we didn’t have a kid together, it wouldn’t matter who I’m with but if someone else ends up being my son’s stepfather, he’s going to find out eventually. o I’m w
LeeH1
October 23rd, 2012
8:29 am
This is why men don’t ever want their sweethearts and their wives to meet!
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
8:43 am
Good Titillating Tuesday
I’ve only ever run into an ex waaaaaaaaaay back in the day. This was probably back in 2001 where me and the new guy (which is my most recent ex) were coming out of the movies laughing & talking. As we were walking out, the ex was walking in with his new chick (which he ultimately ended up marrying). We sort of just gave each other a look and kept it moving…no words exchanged, and no introductions. Later on, I got a text from him and he called me a few times but that was the extent of it. Now I have run into guys that I might have went out with once or twice but that does not fall into an ‘ex’ situation. No biggie there either…i’m sure there were reasons why we only went out once or twice.
Celise.....happy life!!
October 23rd, 2012
9:13 am
adolescent not adolescence
I have never run into an ex while with a current boo, that I can recall. Oh wait, there was Alan….he wasn’t a boo, but I had him on “standby.” I’ve said all too often how the kid’s dad just wasn’t working out. We pulled up next to Alan while at the stoplight. Talk about nervous…lol Of course Alan looked as if I’d grown two heads. The kid’s dad? None the wiser…..lol Too, Alan and I had gone out a couple of times……AND THAT’S ALL!! He called later and tried to get snarky….lol He dropped an ultimatum. Naturally I told buddy to kick rocks.
Not quite today’s scenario but all I have.
I’m out.
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
9:15 am
Cel – You just did a drive by…lol
Is it time for a topic change already or are folks coming into work late from staying up to watch the debate?
Celise.....happy life!!
October 23rd, 2012
9:41 am
Slim, I was so nervous…..lol He wasn’t handling his business….lol I was ready to get out. Naturally, being older I just walk away now, if I have to.
Alright, I was suppose to be off today but this added portfolio is kicking my butt….until I can wrap my arms around, no time for play….gotta run
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
9:45 am
Okie dokie chica…CIAO! I’ll just tend to the tumble weeds round deez herrrr parts
disco
October 23rd, 2012
9:48 am
good morning.
you ain’t kidding slim. ain’t nothing popping off up in here.
Bluzgirl
October 23rd, 2012
9:55 am
My recent ex new my previous ex…I was still friends with the previous ex, so there were times we were at the same place at the same time. The previous ex would never say a bad word about me, though. We were great as friends…just not great as partners.
I wouldn’t be surprised about what the recent ex may say about me. BUT…there are many things he did to provoke my craziness. Mags was friends with him and never told me what ex told him, but he said he didn’t hold it against me because he knew how ex was. Ex can say whatever he wants…the truth is that I’m very well loved in our little blues community and he isn’t. He says junk to the wrong person, he’s liable to get a punch to the face. Dang…that would be nice!!!
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
10:01 am
disco – Be vewy vewy careful…them tumbleweeds are dangerous and unruly. lol
disco
October 23rd, 2012
10:06 am
slim – you crazy. I imagined someone all scratched up talking about the tumbleweeds did it. that then made me think of the movie sparkle (new version not old version). I finally saw it and admit it wasn’t bad. the scene when old boy said he was scratched by a cat and then the sisters stepped to him and he was like “what y’all supposed to be her bodyguards” and old girl was like “naw. we some big A cats”. hilarious.
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
10:11 am
disco – I have not seen the new version just yet…I’m a red box girl so i’ll be looking for it soon. I know I loved the original movie though. So anything interesting you care to throw on the wall to see if it sticks?
disco
October 23rd, 2012
10:19 am
slim – if you don’t know me by now. lol. you know I have nothing “interesting” going on. right now I don’t even have anything crazy or entertaining. I gots nothing. I don’t do redbox but I am a huge fan of my neighborhood dollar movie theatre. may go see lawless tonight. saw premium rush last week. gotta be one of the best deals in town.
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
10:21 am
The only dollar theater I know of is in Fayetteville. Are you in that area?
Bluzgirl
October 23rd, 2012
10:28 am
The cheap movie theatre near me has had too many shootings, robberies, and gang activity. It’s a shame…
disco
October 23rd, 2012
10:30 am
nope. I’m in cackalacky. where did the term cackalacky come from anyway? gonna have to google it. and where the heck is everyone? not that you aren’t good company but I’m not sure the slim/disco show will get very good ratings especially when all we are talking about is tumbleweeds and dollar movies. lol.
oh. hey bluz.
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
10:30 am
Bluz – Where do you live again? lol
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
10:42 am
disco – Yeah I feel ya on that but it is mighty strange that there isn’t really anyone in here so far this morning. I’m HUNGRY too.
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
10:43 am
Did yall see the debate last night? Romney started out looking cool, calm and collected. But by the end, he was red, and sweaty almost like he had a sudden brush with bubble guts.
Bluzgirl
October 23rd, 2012
10:45 am
I live in Duluth…
Hi, by the way!
Yeah…where is everyone?!?! I was so tempted to call in sick this morning, but figured I better go ahead and come into work. I don’t know why, but I always feel guilty calling in…
kimmie
October 23rd, 2012
10:45 am
Hey Gang!
On topic – Never had such issues, thank goodness.
Okay what else yall wanna talk about?
Bluz – you heard anything from the bar guy?
disco
October 23rd, 2012
10:47 am
slim – I watched some of the debate (watched the beginning and then went back and forth). I was straight tripping off of obama’s facial expressions and I was thinking romney’s team should have got him some botox injections before the debate.
disco
October 23rd, 2012
10:47 am
hey kimmie!!!
Bluzgirl
October 23rd, 2012
10:48 am
I couldn’t watch the debate. Those honestly bore me. I’ll read up on it today…
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
10:49 am
Good Morning! (Is it still morning?
) Whoo, it’s been a long morning! Already been to court, watched my boy get inducted into the National Beta Club and dealt with the girl’s stinky little diva attitude. After commuting to the office I already feel like I have put in a full 8 hours! I may go home early today!
On topic, I am very hard to embarass. Even things that have happened in my past, they are what they are. **kanye shrug**
Bluzgirl
October 23rd, 2012
10:50 am
kimmie – Yes…we talked on the phone last night for a bit. He really does seem like a nice guy. He’s definitely a bit geeky, but that’s ok. Maybe I need someone like that! It’s a change. I’ll give him props that he is definitely pursuing me! He has called the past two days…I couldn’t talk to him on Sunday and was busy yesterday. By the time I could talk to him, he was working. So…we were texting and when he got done with work he asked if we could just talk on the phone, so I said ok.
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
10:58 am
It was a bit hard to get into at first….yaaaaaaawn!
Bluz – Just pace yourself…lions are always intrigued by the scent of possible new blood. Pace, 1 2 3…Pace 1 2 3
kimmie
October 23rd, 2012
10:59 am
Bluz – Okay, then continue to let him pursue & when you guys go out let him PAY!! Period!
I love geeks/nerds!!
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
11:01 am
Bluz~ Since MrsSC is not here yet, I will post this in her honor for you…
http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/2012/03/loyal-puy-vs-new-puy.html
Make sure you’re not new p_ssy.
disco
October 23rd, 2012
11:02 am
kimmie – I love nerds certainly reads like a t-shirt. lol.
Bluzgirl
October 23rd, 2012
11:04 am
I’m definitely going to pace myself and just go with the flow. It is nice to have someone texting and calling me first!
Bluzgirl
October 23rd, 2012
11:05 am
Comon – I can’t get into that site at work…
kimmie
October 23rd, 2012
11:07 am
Bluz – Doesn’t it feel good?!! It’s the natural order of things. It actually puts you a position of respect.
kimmie
October 23rd, 2012
11:09 am
Disco – It does!! I bet I can find a t-shirt with that on it too! My husband is always finding these crazy t-shirts online. He is a nerd too, by the way!LOL!!
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
11:10 am
Here’s the gist of it, Bluz:
“Men cheat because New P_ssy feels awesome. Not good—AWESOME. Physically it’s all comparable, but there is nothing more exciting mentally than having s e x with a girl you’ve never experienced. It’s like discovering America, snorting Coke, and scoring the winning Super Bowl touchdown all at once. The moment you realize you’re about to smash is better than the actual n u t. C_mming is something we can experience anytime we want if the proper amount of lotion is available, we’re not really chasing a n u t. You can make love to Loyal P_ssy and have better n u ts, but there is no way to recreate the excited anticipation of f__king something new—that’s the dragon we’re chasing.”
disco
October 23rd, 2012
11:12 am
CC – the new P concept always makes me think of Terrence howard in the best man.
i just ate a kit kat. wish i had another.
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
11:15 am
CC – To piggy back off that post, what would yall say if your spouse told you they only wanted to make love to you twice a year but the absolute max would be maybe once a quarter…like once every 6 weeks?
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
11:25 am
Slim~ I wouldn’t SAY isht. I would go see my attorney and file for dicorce. (Or in my case, I would go and file my own divorce) My theory is always if he ain’t sexing you, he is sexing someone…
disco
October 23rd, 2012
11:29 am
slim – is that a real or a hypothetical?
CC – I understand you are speaking for you but your husband is the “freddy’s dead” guy. lol. I actually know some couples in basically sexless marriages. don’t know if they agreed to it beforehand or if it just happened but I always say every marriage isn’t based on romantic love. some folks get married for other reasons. I imagine if I ever entered a marriage of convenience we might have to work out a schedule of some sort. (hey. I’m just being open minded here)
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
11:32 am
disco – It’s real…not me, but real. When I heard about it i was thinking the same thing. He must be doing someone else, depressed or just no longer into her. She said, his take on it is why does the only way for her to feel desired or wanted by him have to equal him putting his wang in her
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
11:34 am
She said, his take on it is why does the only way for her to feel desired or wanted by him have to equal him putting his wang in her
Ummm… because that is an expression of your love and desire for me?
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
11:36 am
This is a coworker of mine, which i’m surprised she even told me this….she even remixed Beyonce’s song, “If you like then you should put ring on it”…she goes around the office singing, “If you like it, then you should put your thing in it!”
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
11:36 am
disco~ I see your point, but realistically, guys like sex. On average, men think about it at least 7 times a day. So, again, if you are in a sexless marriage, your marriage may be sexless, but I guarantee you his sex life is not sexless.
Bluzgirl
October 23rd, 2012
11:40 am
kimmie – It does feel good. I get the feeling that he’s not just wanting sex either. Maybe I’m wrong, but that’s just my gut feeling about him. Seems like he wants to see where things can go with us.
disco
October 23rd, 2012
11:41 am
CC – yep I get it and it is awfully strange for the man to cut the woman off. still, I also know a lot of women who cut husbands off and don’t really care where they get it from. another spin. perhaps there’s more than she’s sharing. maybe she cheated and got caught. a lot of men can’t deal with that but he doesn’t want to leave her either. now he’s “punishing” her.
slim – well, how does she look? did she gain or lose 100? sure most folks say that’s shallow but I’m shallow like that. get with me and gain 100 pounds and it’s over. I’m not exercising with you, I’m not cooking healthier. none of that. I’m out. lol.
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
11:41 am
Apparently, they’ve been talking about it lately because of course it bothers her…she said men want sex…If they are attracted to you then that plays out in doing the nasty. But his comeback to her is, well that’s not the case because I don’t. I don’t know what to tell her but she said she does not believe in her gut that he’s getting it elsewhere.
Bluzgirl
October 23rd, 2012
11:43 am
There is no way I could have a sexless marriage. I enjoy it way too much. I used to get frustrated with ex because he didn’t want it as much as I did. Of course, now I know it’s because he was just using me for a place to lay his head. I wanted it several times a week at least.
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
11:44 am
disco –
If she’s gained any weight, I can’t tell. She is a medium sized chick…no muffin top or anything like that….average chick I suppose. He told her they should be able to connect in other ways and she should believe him when he says he wants her…just doesn’t feel compelled to hump her back out to prove it.
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
11:46 am
Slim~ While I may b!tch (lightly) about my 4-peater, if he wasn’t blowing my back out on the regular, it would be an issue. Did she say what their sex life was like BEFORE they got married?
disco
October 23rd, 2012
11:47 am
slim – well it takes all kinds. he might have something else going on (medical or something) and just hasn’t come to terms with it yet. could be anything. of course, I’m the chick that would kick his behind right up out of my bed. i’d be darned if he laid up next to me all night. lol.
kimmie
October 23rd, 2012
11:50 am
Bluz – That sounds good. Take this time to REALLY GET TO KNOW each other. Talk alot and really listen to what the other person is saying. Leave the physical out of it for now. If he’s really into you, yes he wants sex, but that’s not his main focus. And allow him to pursue you his way and by his means. If he’s only able to go for a walk in the park and get ice cream with you, then that’s what you do. It’s great that you offer to reciprocate and you should some time, but hold back some for now. Let him show you what he’s made of. And let him see you’re not an ordinary chick like all the others.
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
11:52 am
CC – They were doing it on a regular basis…at least weekly.
disco – I asked her if there were some sort of medical issues with him but nothing that should be affecting his drive. She said she’ll initiate with her and he’ll brush her off or roll over. And he’ll even get aroused….(damn, this chick told me all that LOL) I might need to start charging her for my time.
lunch
disco
October 23rd, 2012
11:53 am
kimmie – I read your post to bluz and I thought “yeah yeah yeah, blah blah blah”. not saying it’s bad advice just saying what I thought. lol.
disco
October 23rd, 2012
11:55 am
slim – I saw a similar medical angle play out on tv. Lincoln heights. dude got brand new with his wife to the point of pushing for divorce. come to find out he had a medical condition and he didn’t want to burden her with it. in his mind it was better to leave her before he got too sick.
kimmie
October 23rd, 2012
11:56 am
Disco –
If it doesn’t apply, then walk on by!!! LOL!!
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
12:01 pm
Slim~ If his d!ck is getting hard and he’s not beating her gutys with it, something else major is going on. Be it medical, mental, other chick, whatever. No dude gets the rock hard willie and brushes his WIFE off to go to sleep unless something else is going on. I had a friend whose husband started thazt isht and turns out, he was being faithful to the GF and not f__king the wife. That is not the kind of isht you want to find out a year or two down the line.
If their sex life was normal before marriage and now it just fell off, there has to be a reason. Can she pinpoint the time is started to fall off? What was going on in their lives at that point?
Bluzgirl
October 23rd, 2012
12:02 pm
kimmie – That’s what I plan to do. I need to hold back on my generosity. I guess it’s good that he doesn’t already know me, so he doesn’t know how giving I am! I’m gonna make him work some for me. Who knows…we may hang out this weekend and we don’t connect at all. We’ll see. I just want to take it slow and do everything right for once! Here’s my chance to show everyone (and myself) that I can do this without bringing sex in immediately!
disco
October 23rd, 2012
12:04 pm
CC – when my cousin’s first wife divorced him she said that the final straw was when she realized her husband was cheating on his girlfriend to spend time with her. at the time I thought the comment was hilarious.
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
12:11 pm
disco~ Happens more than people realize.
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
12:16 pm
CC – Now she didn’t say anything about an event that happened that changed it all…Said she had noticed the lack of frequency within the last few months…the times were starting to be more and more spaced out.
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
12:17 pm
I’m enjoying a Taco Bell Cantina bowl again. Mmmm, now all i need is a margarita
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
12:17 pm
No not now…oops
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
12:19 pm
So, she should go back to the past few months (when she first noticed it) and look at what was going on in their life at the time. Was there a “boys night out” or some other event where there was a space in the relationship? Did she do something that turned him off around that time? Was there a major life change like a baby or a job change around that time? Any doctor’s appointments for him?
disco
October 23rd, 2012
12:20 pm
slim – funny you mentioned taco bell. I was just thinking about a Mexican spot I frequent. of course, I’m not thinking lunch but dinner. also, while I enjoy margaritas I’ve been on a mojito kick here lately. well, in my mind. I haven’t had one in about a month but getting another one is on my list of things to do.
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
12:28 pm
I cannot get into the mojitos for some reason…just not my steelo lol
CC- She said she’s dissected it, put it back together and dissected it again and don’t see what could be wrong. When she asked him flat out what the deal was, he just said, Can I just not want to do it without you coming up with all kinds of reasons that you’ve read in a magazine or on the internet. I want you, I desire you but I don’t feel like sex is the only way I can show you that. If that’s all, then something is surely wrong.
Bluzgirl
October 23rd, 2012
12:29 pm
I had Taco Bell the other night for the first time in a while. It was actually pretty yummy! I haven’t tried the new Cantina bowl yet…
Mmmmm….now I’m craving real Mexican food…
disco
October 23rd, 2012
12:30 pm
slim – well hell. she should have called him on all the other ways he can show her. I would be making a list of things I wanted to do, places I wanted to go, experiences I wanted to have. show me you care futher mucker. geez. I was trying to stay on dude’s side for awhile. being all open minded and whatnot but eff it. it’s some fraggle naggle bull. lol.
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
12:30 pm
Slim~ Agreed. Men don’t just stop wanting to do the do with you. Once a quarter?!? Puh-leeze!
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
12:30 pm
See, even disco’s there now.
disco
October 23rd, 2012
12:33 pm
CC – heck yeah. they say it’s cheaper to keep her. dude would find out it’s cheaper, less time consuming and requires less energy to just break me off right quick. I’d have his behind hiking the grand canyon. lol. “baby if you really cared for me..”
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
12:37 pm
disco – That’s what she was telling me that she was like, please help me understand this change in you. If you care about my needs and desires then I would not have to have this convo with you. What man would want his woman walking around with a serious D deficiency. Eventually, she would probably go elsewhere as bad as that seems. But i’m sure that would be a waste because women want that connection to their partner…not some random wang. It’s a sad situation…really sad.
disco
October 23rd, 2012
12:42 pm
slim – I’m so retarded. he’d leave me. I could see me throwing buckets of water on him. every time I got to feeling some kind of way and couldn’t have any I’d go to running water. or I’d stop cooking and be like there’s other ways for me to show you I care besides cooking for you or doing laundry for you. you just found out your mother’s in the hospital? I’m sorry. I got the call but didn’t give you the message. there’s other ways for me to show you I care besides relaying messages. oh he don’t know petty like I know petty.
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
12:49 pm
disco~ You sound like me. Let me pull a page out of Comon’s crazy past.
When I married the first husband, we had a Rottweiler. Now, if you left him out in the garage, that fool would p!ss on everything. The first husband ran his own carwash and washed his towels at home. We got in an argument and dude left the dog out on purpose. So, I went an got his clean work towels out of the dryer and cleaned up the dog p!ss with them. Then I left them out there so that the dog could pee on them some more. When he came hom eand was all upset, I opened my eyes innocently wide and said “Well, you left the dog out knowing he would pee, so I assumed you left the towels at home so I could clean it up.”
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
12:56 pm
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
12:59 pm
Slim~ I don’t know what the Hell dummio had. But that dog marked his damn territory EVERYWHERE!!! I mean he p!ssed CONSTANTLY! But only if you left him out of the kennel. Go figure!
Enigma
October 23rd, 2012
1:08 pm
“On average, men think about it at least 7 times a day. ”
As a female, I probably think about it way more than that
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
1:10 pm
CC – Well maybe Kudjo was acting out for being locked up so much lol
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
1:11 pm
Nah, Cujo just liked to prove he was a dominant and isht was his…
So he felt the need to “mark” everything and then mark it again.
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
1:32 pm
I remember I had a cat and when we had visitors, he sprayed their luggage. That is definitely a smell you cannot get rid of easily.
Enigma
October 23rd, 2012
1:35 pm
I lived with a lady who’s cat would sneak into my room when I was away and spray on my stuff.
I was livid!
Mrs. SexyCool
October 23rd, 2012
1:35 pm
Comon – you’re feeling me. Really, Bluz, that blackgirlsareeasy site has some posts that should be in the Bible for Black Girls Dating. Some of the language is a bit rough at times. But Dude brings you real ish.
I can so see some of my past behaviors in things that he talks about. And sometimes, I have to be honest and say that a lot of what he talks about are lessons that I learned, but some of what he talks about didn’t apply in my last relationship only because my husband is such a stand up guy.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 23rd, 2012
1:37 pm
Or I should say in my current relationship.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 23rd, 2012
1:42 pm
And as to today’s topic, I call foul on the ex and any ex that would do some foolishness like that.
Lame @$$ simp.
Enigma
October 23rd, 2012
1:47 pm
My effing tooth.
I digress
kimmie
October 23rd, 2012
1:55 pm
Where are all the men today???
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
2:02 pm
They were too embarrassed to confess…
kimmie
October 23rd, 2012
2:04 pm
Slim – Guess so!!lol
Enigma
October 23rd, 2012
2:06 pm
where are all the PEOPLE ?
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
2:07 pm
There’s my hero! Hey MrsSC! I LOVE that blackgirlsareeasy site. Girl, I been perusing and emailing links to those I think need or or just to tell some about their rachet azz selves…
disco
October 23rd, 2012
2:11 pm
blog long-timers – is this one of the slowest blog days ever?
kimmie
October 23rd, 2012
2:12 pm
disco – It’s up there!
Enigma
October 23rd, 2012
2:14 pm
I’m out….deuces
disco
October 23rd, 2012
2:16 pm
well, you know I’m going out on a limb here but parents of small children. if you are allowing your child to participate in Halloween activities what are they dressing up as? and, if you have a child that is all about getting requests in early, what do they want for Christmas?
Mrs. SexyCool
October 23rd, 2012
2:16 pm
We have had slower.
disco
October 23rd, 2012
2:24 pm
okay. I’m committed to at least getting to page 3.
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
2:25 pm
I’M SOOOOOO SLEEPY….Come on yall, let’s get the juices flowing in here. Somebody lube it up!
disco
October 23rd, 2012
2:26 pm
I just got a message that I was posting too quickly and to slow down.
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
2:31 pm
disco – I recall when I was in high school, my mom got remarried and I didn’t too much care for the dude. Our family had always participated in Halloween and the dressing up deal. This particular year, my sister wanted to be a witch. He told her she could not be a witch. I don’t know what happened inside me but I basically stood up and told her she could be whatever she wanted to be as we always had. Long story short, we ended up getting into it. Started out in the kitchen and somehow ended up in the living room on the floor.
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
2:32 pm
disco~ My so says he is too old to dress up and my daughter is going as the Red Ranger. Girl, I thought the Power Rangers were dead!
My daughter wants a trampoline and my son wants a “whole bunch of fresh athletic gear and some new kicks” (His words not mine…
disco
October 23rd, 2012
2:35 pm
slim – “we” as in you and the new stepdad? if so, that’s deep. you were squabbling for real. lol. it’s actually kind of funny. didn’t like him to begin with. negative feelings were probably just being buried deeper and deeper but you had to draw the line at a Halloween costume being banned.
CC – dang. not the red ranger. are the power rangers even still on tv? how does she even know about them? my niece wanted a tea set last year but hasn’t asked for anything yet for this year. my nephew is in juvie. guess he just wants to go home for Christmas. lol.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 23rd, 2012
2:39 pm
Helluuuuur blog!
Just passing through…
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
2:42 pm
disco – Yeah, I hadn’t realized it until the beau pointed it out to me but I guess I have a history of being protective of my sister and mother. That was the same stepdad that at one point, ended up pointing a loaded .44 revolver at my head when I busted in his room for acting crazy. Imagine my little ole self telling some crazy arse dude to, “Go ahead and shoot me if that’s going to make you feel like a man!” I would’ve been blown into smithereens
disco
October 23rd, 2012
2:45 pm
slim – we are sitting up in here having a slow day and you got stories like that to tell. dude pulled a gun on you? a grown man? safe to assume you were still (technically) a child at the time? heck, even if you weren’t why he gotta pull a gun? ole buster.
Leggs
October 23rd, 2012
2:46 pm
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Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
2:48 pm
disco~ Gurl, yes, the Rangers are still on tv. They come on NickToons. Damn cartoon stations! And, apparently, they are having quite the revival because she wanted to be the Gold Ranger, but the costumes were sold out, so I had to sell her on the Red Ranger. Dude, that’s a boy that let’s me put him in dresses occasionally…
Leggs
October 23rd, 2012
2:49 pm
Not sure if you guys are still on topic, but I don’t think she needs to go into detail at all. Apparently, she has grown and her ex hasn’t. No need for any of us to go into detail about what we did yesteryear unless it’s information for medical reasons. Many did dumb stuff, it’s almost a rite of passage into adulthood.
I see it’s a slow day here. Let me go an read to catch up.
Good afternoon!
Mrs. SexyCool
October 23rd, 2012
2:49 pm
I fought my mom’s husband shortly after they got married. We fought in the front yard. He has not ever talked crazy to me or my mom since then. Oh…and that was twenty years ago.
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
2:50 pm
Hey, Leggs!
kimmie
October 23rd, 2012
2:52 pm
My daughter wants to be a genie, cause she fell in love with I Dream of Jeanie when I pulled it up on TVland.
I think she’s excited about bopping that fake ponytail around!LOL!
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
2:52 pm
So are you “friends” with the Stepdad now?
kimmie
October 23rd, 2012
2:53 pm
Slim, I assume they are divorced?
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
2:57 pm
disco – Yeah I believe I was in my late teens because I was already going to GSU. The fool was a damn crazy fool. You can never really explain the actions of a crazy person lol
kimmie – Yeah they have been divorced for quite some time now.
Mrs SC – What did you and stepdad get into it about?
CC – Heyal naw, i’m not friends with him at all….I recall for my grandmother’s 70 bday party, he was there. He tried to act like nothing ever happened between us, wanting to dance with me and stuff. It was so funny seeing how everyone was sitting back waiting to see if anything would pop off. I played it cool though. I didn’t want to distract from the reason we were all there. But the mere touch or sight of him disgust me.
DreamsMaterialize
October 23rd, 2012
2:58 pm
Hello ladies. Hope you all are doing well. I see you Mrs. Sexy Cool. Congrats. How’s life? Still running? I’ve done a few 5k’s and 10k this year. Looking to do two more 10k’s before the year is out, a 15k in January, and a half marathon in March. Pray for my knees. lol
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
2:59 pm
I never had a stepdad; my parents been married 45 years and going strong. I imagine that it has to be awful difficult to blend a family from the kids perspective. It is hard enough from an adult perspective!
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
3:00 pm
DM~ You should do the tri-athalon for Team in Training. Great cause and a great exprerience.
Bluzgirl
October 23rd, 2012
3:01 pm
Hi Leggs!!!
disco
October 23rd, 2012
3:01 pm
dang. I would have never thought that stepdads were being physically abused by their stepfathers. I know of many cases where the sons bumped heads but not the daughters and not like this. y’all blog chicks are bout it.
kimmie – I couldn’t stand the I dream of Jeannie tv show. I do think the genie will be a cute costume though.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 23rd, 2012
3:06 pm
I wouldn’t say that we are friends. I still refer to him as my mother’s husband. We got into because he and my mother had been arguing and she went into their bedroom. When she tried to close the door, he blocked it and it snapped back and hit my mom. When I got home that evening, my mom had a big goose egg on her forehead. I asked what happened and when the first words out of her mouth was her husband’s name, I basically lost it.
Thanks, DreamsMat. Life is grand! Yeah…still running. I’ve actually run fewer races this year. A half mary in New Orleans in March, the PRR and the FireFly night run a few weeks back. I’m running on a marathon relay team on Sunday. After that, I may do one or two more races this year and be done.
Good luck on that half. I slacked on my training and hit the wall at mile 9 in the French Quarter. (lol) But…I finished.
Leggs
October 23rd, 2012
3:08 pm
Hey there, Comon.
SlimNu ~ I agree with those that say something medically must be going on, as well as a disconnect emotionally. I think disco or Comon said perhaps your coworker should back track to when she first noticed things were going awry sexually and take it from there to see if there are any commonalities that made his sex drive drop to zilch.
On the topic of being embarrassed, never happened to me, but then again, I didn’t date alot.
I remember being in the mall with my then husband and his ex wife was walking toward us. I never met her, but he quickly darted in a store next to us. I didn’t know why he ran so fast. I followed and asked WTH was going on. He started fidgeting. I was like, dude, what’s up? He finally told me his ex was walking by and he didn’t want her to see him because he owed money on a car loan they had together. First time I’m hearing of this loan. I told him to stop being a punk hiding out in a store (I sho did) and let’s finish our shopping. I was pissed that he ran like an 8-yr old from a fight in the school yard. She never saw him, rather I never saw her. A few weeks later a call comes to the house from the car place asking to speak to him and if I would make payments on his behalf. I told the person on the other end if his mother raised a fool and hung up. I never heard from the car place again. To this day I don’t know what happened with that car loan.
Leggs
October 23rd, 2012
3:10 pm
Hey bluz. Did you go out with the guy from Karaoke? I apologize if you mentioned it, I didn’t read all the posts.
disco
October 23rd, 2012
3:12 pm
leggs – you didn’t read all the posts? there’s only 15 of them today. lol. also, it’s funny that old boy ran and hid. he obviously knew good and darned well he owed her that money. he also must have known good and darned well that she was the type to show out in public.
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
3:12 pm
Leggs! You are so funny!. You went all Cahrlie Murphy in the Dave Chappelle skit! “Yo, f__k yo car loan, ninja!”
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
3:13 pm
*Charlie.
Jake-SPJTWB
October 23rd, 2012
3:13 pm
Slow day today it looks like…what up folks.
Leggs
October 23rd, 2012
3:14 pm
O/T, Just opened my electric bill. Snapping Shoals posts account numbers on the newsletter that accompanies the bill. If your account number appears, you get $50 off your next bill. Dang, 12 years later, and my account number still hasn’t appeared.
Back to regularly scheduled programming.
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
3:23 pm
Leggs – Have you been running your electricity (heat/ a/c) lately???
Rich
October 23rd, 2012
3:25 pm
I applaude the guy for embarrassing the woman, If the date in question has shady traits I would like to know them. When I see ex’s that have cheated on me, I think that is need to know imformation for the current guy she maybe seeing, I mean who wants to date a cheater or someone who has cheated. Honestly there is no good reason to cheat, period. Women I have dated have “tried” to embarrass me for being a virgin, but I don’t care, I kind of have a chip on my shoulder for being so anyway (I think that’s why some people don’t like me). But Seriously if a person male or female has bad traits, it IS a need to know. I understand people can change but it is good to know those things just so you know what you’re dealing with. If I know about it now, it won’t be such a big deal later, because finding out later can be a very big deal depending on what a person hides.
Leggs
October 23rd, 2012
3:27 pm
disco ~ I just received the last 5 books I ordered. Abraham’s Well came the other day, so I started reading that one. Was hoping Cane’s River came first. Glad I came home early (afternoon off w/pay) because all the books were at my front door waiting for any soul to drive by and take them.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 23rd, 2012
3:28 pm
Rich – that’s so lame. It makes no allowance for any maturity or growth that a person may have done unbeknowst to you.
Besides, if you have your own vetting process in place and trust your own instincts, well………shadiness can’t hide for long.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 23rd, 2012
3:29 pm
Oh…wait…you’re a virgin. That suggests that you have limited experience when it comes to relationships. And in that case, your post makes sense FOR YOU…
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
3:30 pm
Rich~ Nice of you to drop in. How’s Benita?
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
3:30 pm
Leggs
October 23rd, 2012
3:31 pm
Slim ~ for the past week or so I can finally feel the breeze coming in from windows upstairs. Also just bought a vintage fan from a consignment shop that helps. My ceiling fan wires are sticking out and too afraid to turn that on. Looking for an electrician to fix that. Apparently, it was installed sloppily.
disco
October 23rd, 2012
3:32 pm
hi rich. thanks for showing up. a little something else to talk about for a minute. just because certain information is something that someone may need to know doesn’t necessarily mean it’s something that is the ex’s place to share. frankly if I’m dating a new guy and his ex-woman feels compelled to tell me he’s a cheater I’ll see it as making more of an impression about her and her inability to get on with her life. she doesn’t know me and she likely isn’t doing it to benefit me. maybe in her mind she’s blocking and if she blocks everyone he’ll have to come back to her.
leggs – if someone had stolen your books there is a good chance the thief would have been quite angry. they may have come back and left a sternly written note on your door.
Single and Happy
October 23rd, 2012
3:33 pm
After noon ladies, just passing through.
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
3:33 pm
Rich – A person will eventually show you who they are…I suppose it would be cool to have a heads up but that person’s experience may very well differ from how Your relationship with them will be. How old are you?
Leggs
October 23rd, 2012
3:35 pm
Rich ~ guess you’re saying a person can’t ever change. What if you’re the ex from 15 years ago, you feel if your past was put on front street it will still show a true depiction of who you are today?
Leggs
October 23rd, 2012
3:36 pm
ALOL disco!! No doubt.
Leggs
October 23rd, 2012
3:37 pm
reflection of who you are today…
Leggs
October 23rd, 2012
3:39 pm
The hardcover books are in mint condition to buy for only $.01
Single and Happy
October 23rd, 2012
3:39 pm
On topic, as I didn’t have much to say about it this morning, but it just made me think of the song Jealousy, unless it can cause me some health issues, or some issues with the law, I don’t need to know about your PAST. and a JEALOUS ex sure aint the one to be telling me about it anyway!!
Mrs. SexyCool
October 23rd, 2012
3:42 pm
SAH – grown man thinking. (lol)
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
3:42 pm
S/H~ Finally a man perspective! Did you read Slim’s earlier post about the co-worker who’s hubby stopped giving her the hot beef? He’s rationing (down to twice a year) What’s the MLB perspective on that please…
Single and Happy
October 23rd, 2012
3:46 pm
Comon, he may still love her, just not sexually attracted to her. Tired of the same ole puddy all the time.
i'm swiss
October 23rd, 2012
3:47 pm
Afternoon, folks…
Kinda slow in here, I see…
Not much to say on topic… what else you got?
i'm swiss
October 23rd, 2012
3:48 pm
Wait, wha…? Twice a year?
Leggs
October 23rd, 2012
3:48 pm
Exactly, Single. Last thing you need is to hear about someone’s past from a jilted, biitter ex still basking in the past.
Bluzgirl
October 23rd, 2012
3:49 pm
Leggs – Not yet…probably this weekend. He works every evening, so our schedule won’t accomodate until Fri or Sat…
Jake-SPJTWB
October 23rd, 2012
3:54 pm
Slim’s Co-Worker-He is experiencing some type of ED, or low Testoterone situation that effects his libido, is addicted to porn and squeezing off so he doesn’t have anything left, or he has “special interest”.
Single and Happy
October 23rd, 2012
3:56 pm
have a good evening, time to go
i'm swiss
October 23rd, 2012
3:58 pm
Sidebar: Slim — Where do you work that your co-worker is filling you in on all that business?
Mrs. SexyCool
October 23rd, 2012
3:58 pm
16 Ways I Blew My Marriage
http://www.danoah.com/2012/10/16-ways-i-blew-my-marriage.html
Interesting read…
DreamsMaterialize
October 23rd, 2012
3:59 pm
DM~ You should do the tri-athalon for Team in Training. Great cause and a great exprerience.
Comon I might try that out. I’m also looking into doing the Tough Mudder in 2014. I don’t think I’ll be ready for the one in April.
Mrs. Sexy Cool Small world. I did the Firefly Run a few weeks back too. So, far my long run is at 8.5 miles on Saturdays. About time to bump it up to 10. Good luck on the relay Sunday.
disco
October 23rd, 2012
4:01 pm
swiss – now you know some folks are wide open with all their business. nothing’s off limits. what gets me is when they have the nerve to be upset about their business being in the street when they are the ones that put it there.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 23rd, 2012
4:04 pm
Very small world indeed.
I did not appreciate how they had us walk down the hill to the start line and have us start uphill. Craziness…
They should have had the registration lines closer to Park Tavern. #IshThatMakesSense
Mrs. SexyCool
October 23rd, 2012
4:06 pm
My longest run before my half was 8 miles. My (obviously flawed) logic was that if I had no problem running 8 miles of Atlanta hills then I would have no problem running thirteen flat miles in the Big Easy.
Big mistake. IF (big if)…if I do another half, this time, I will train past 13 miles to make the full distance a bit more manageable.
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
4:06 pm
swiss~ That’s what I said! WTH?!? Twice a year? Shiiittt… my hubs is mad when it’s twice a night. Let me walk in the house with some bull like that and y’all will see me in Judge Lynn’s court tomorrow…
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
4:08 pm
Yeah, part of getting info from someone is knowing who you are getting the info from…relationship, ulterior motive, emotional tie, etc…
Mrs. SexyCool
October 23rd, 2012
4:11 pm
Trump supposedly is going to release copies of the Obama’s divorce papers from nearly 12 years ago.
WTF? From the dude who is always getting married and divorced.
Leggs
October 23rd, 2012
4:12 pm
He’s mad when it’s twice a night, Comon. Man he’s greedy (lol).
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
4:12 pm
swiss – She sits right next to me, 8 to 9 hours a day, 5 days a week. lol
Jake – I didn’t want to ask if she thought he was potentially ghey..
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
4:14 pm
CC – Do you keep ice packs at the office? I know I would not want to be on the spectrum of Not getting any but I can’t say I’d want to do it every single day. Ya gotta let that thang marinate and air out sometimes. Don’t want to walk around smelling like d!ck everyday
kimmie
October 23rd, 2012
4:15 pm
Women I have dated have “tried” to embarrass me for being a virgin, but I don’t care, I kind of have a chip on my shoulder for being so anyway (I think that’s why some people don’t like me).
Rich – So who is telling “people” this about you? Man, I think folks have better things to do with their time than worry about your virginity!! And maybe the women cheated cause they weren’t getting any. Just sayin’
Wack!!!!
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
4:15 pm
Leggs~ I don’t think you were here for the discussion about that. He’s BEYOND greedy!
Bluzgirl
October 23rd, 2012
4:15 pm
Mrs. SC – That is a great article. I especially agree with #10…my ex never could understand why I would not want the door open to the bathroom while doing #2! I don’t want to see him and I don’t want him to see me doing that!!!
Mrs. SexyCool
October 23rd, 2012
4:16 pm
Bluz – maintain the mystery. (lol)
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
4:17 pm
Slim~
I actually enjoy doing it everyday. Just not 3 or 4 times a day. And, trust, I don’t walk around smelling like d!ck everyday. I have had to invest in some very good skin moisturizures thought. 
Leggs
October 23rd, 2012
4:21 pm
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
4:23 pm
CC – I’m not even mad at cha…Do your thang!
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
4:23 pm
Leggs~ Mine is the fear of the dreaded UTI. Too much d!ck=UTI. Gotta watch that!
Mrs. SexyCool
October 23rd, 2012
4:27 pm
Even as a newlywed, I don’t want to do it everydernday.
Leggs
October 23rd, 2012
4:30 pm
UTI i do understand!
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
4:33 pm
CC – Stay stocked up on that cranberry juice…I drink it almost daily.
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
4:44 pm
Slim~ I have taken to the Cranberry Pomegranate. I keep some in my briefcase, some in my desk, some in the fridge at work and of course at home. I should own stock in Ocean Spray.
DreamsMaterialize
October 23rd, 2012
4:45 pm
Man I’m so ready to go. Actually, I’m ready to just skip to Friday. Could it be because homecoming is this weekend?
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
4:47 pm
Daaaaaaamn! lol….Pretty much that’s all the beau and I drink except the occasional sweet tea, sprite and our GOOSE!
I’ve only tried the Cranberry Pomegranate once and I was not too big of a fan of that. One thing I have not had in lawd knows how long is Apple Juice.
I’m craving cheesecake
Bluzgirl
October 23rd, 2012
4:49 pm
I just bought apple juice at the store last week because it sounded so good and I had not had it in years! It is pretty darn tasty!
I’m out ya’ll. Have a good evening!
Leggs
October 23rd, 2012
4:52 pm
No apple juice for me. Haven’t had any in decades!!!
Comon ¢
October 23rd, 2012
4:53 pm
Have a good night, y’all. I’m about to head out too.
Leggs
October 23rd, 2012
4:53 pm
Lil leggs probably has apple juice running through her veins.
SlimNu
October 23rd, 2012
4:57 pm
Check yall tomorrow…