Are you dating a commitment phobe?
No one wants to waste their time in dating. If you want to date someone who actually wants a relationship, then you have to pay attention to certain things. Some people are commitment phobes and unfortunately they don’t walk around with a sign on their forehead, identifying them as such.
To be fair, though, many people don’t even realize they are actively avoiding commitment. It’s buried deep in other behaviors such as being unreasonably picky, sabotaging things that feel too real/good, or those disappearing acts that are oh so sexy.
Some people are happier not being in a committed relationship. That is perfectly fine, of course, but you have to be honest about it. Do you believe people are spending time dating you simply to be in your presence? They could be!
Just be clear that you don’t want anything serious – and don’t say “right now” because that is emotional terrorism. Nothing is worse than thinking someone is going to change their mind and holding on to false hope they will.
How can you spot a commitment phobe? How do you know if you are one?
Happy Monday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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369 comments Add your comment
Enigma
October 22nd, 2012
3:40 pm
I once saw taxi cab confessions where a straight man was now dating a woman whom was born a man
To him, it was the same as dating a natural born woman
Single and Happy
October 22nd, 2012
3:41 pm
If a lesbian dresses like a man and dates a man that dress like a woman- does that still mean they’re gay
Yes. If there are two vajayjays they are still gay. Don’t care how you slice it…
Umm there’s one vajayjay and one dajajay
Single and Happy
October 22nd, 2012
3:42 pm
Enigma, Marco
Comon ¢
October 22nd, 2012
3:45 pm
Not neccesarily. For me, it’s an anatomy factory. Two vajayjays=gay, two dajayjays=gay; 1 vajayjay and 1 dajayjay=straight. Cut and dried. Don’t care how you dress.
Enigma
October 22nd, 2012
3:48 pm
okay, there’s one
Enigma
October 22nd, 2012
3:48 pm
Polo – who’s next
Enigma
October 22nd, 2012
3:50 pm
If two lesbians have a kid, how do they decide which one is the dad?
Single and Happy
October 22nd, 2012
3:52 pm
If two lesbians have a kid, how do they decide which one is the dad? where dey do dat at?? the sperm donor is the dad
Mrs. SexyCool
October 22nd, 2012
3:52 pm
I need a lawn guy in West Atlanta/ AUC area. Anybody have any recommendations?
Single and Happy
October 22nd, 2012
3:53 pm
2 vajayjays, can’t make a babay
Leggs
October 22nd, 2012
3:53 pm
The guy giving the sperm is the dad, while the baby has two mothers.
Leggs
October 22nd, 2012
3:54 pm
Mrs. SexyC ~ because you are now married, I can’t even play with your post at 3:52.
disco
October 22nd, 2012
3:54 pm
blog gents – any of you willing to admit that a lesbian pulled a hotter chick than you pulled?
Single and Happy
October 22nd, 2012
3:55 pm
Yea MRS. sexy, you have a lawn guy!!!
Single and Happy
October 22nd, 2012
3:56 pm
Disco, yes I am, hell I’ve seen some where I was drooling over both of them!!!
Enigma
October 22nd, 2012
3:57 pm
If two lesbians have a kid, how do they decide which one is the dad?
Let me clarify- they either adopt or have a sperm donor
I’m speaking in regards to when they are raising the kid. Does the kid call them both mommy?
Jake-SPJTWB
October 22nd, 2012
3:58 pm
Yo….how did yall get to this subject…hope Monday has been good for yall, mine has been way too busy.
Enigma
October 22nd, 2012
3:58 pm
does it do anything to a man’s ego if two hot lesbians want each other and not him?
Single and Happy
October 22nd, 2012
3:59 pm
Disco, I was sitting in a restaurant one night waiting for our table, and 2 of them were seated in front of me, I was looking because they were gorgeous, well they got closer and kissed to let me know they were a couple and of course I stopped looking then (LOL)
Comon ¢
October 22nd, 2012
4:00 pm
When they raise the kid, the kid has two moms. One of my son’s little girlfriends has two moms. Must admit it was very weird for me the first time I met them…
Single and Happy
October 22nd, 2012
4:01 pm
Enigma, no more than when you see a guy with a hot woman (LOL)
Leggs
October 22nd, 2012
4:01 pm
Engima ~ I would think the child would call one mommy or address one by name. Not sure how this works, but doesn’t seem like one would be called daddy, no matter how masculine the other person is.
DuShawn
October 22nd, 2012
4:02 pm
I became a Lesbian in the 1998. That was a great year.
disco
October 22nd, 2012
4:02 pm
hey jake.
I don’t know why it is that when I comment on a gay male being nice looking folks always feel compelled to point out that they are gay. I’m like just because he’s gay doesn’t mean he can’t be handsome. lol. just because I say he’s nice looking doesn’t mean I want him. folks just go straight to “he’s gay”.
CC – I don’t know of any gay couples that adopted but I do know of some who started off straight, had kids, decided (or admitted) they were gay and got into relationships. the world continues to turn.
Leggs
October 22nd, 2012
4:03 pm
Are you a lesbian Enigma??
Single and Happy
October 22nd, 2012
4:04 pm
Mrs. SexyCool
October 22nd, 2012
4:04 pm
Well….he was my lawn guy, but after he got me bi-weekly cleaning service, I figured the least I could do was get him out of the yard. So, I’m looking for someone to take over and relieve him of that chore.
Enigma
October 22nd, 2012
4:06 pm
no. I like hot dogs
Single and Happy
October 22nd, 2012
4:06 pm
Mrs. SexyCool, wow, must be nice
Single and Happy
October 22nd, 2012
4:08 pm
get married and hire a made service HUH:eek:
Single and Happy
October 22nd, 2012
4:09 pm
Mrs. SexyCool
October 22nd, 2012
4:09 pm
He found someone very reasonably priced. I still clean regularly. This service just comes by every other Friday and does the heavier chores.
Comon ¢
October 22nd, 2012
4:09 pm
no. I like hot dogs
Don’t know why, but for some reason this made me lol…
Mrs. SexyCool
October 22nd, 2012
4:10 pm
Single and Happy – that just means he knows how to keep me Married and Happy. (lol)
Single and Happy
October 22nd, 2012
4:10 pm
Hmmm so you don’t do a good enough job with the cleaning, (LOL) IJK
disco
October 22nd, 2012
4:10 pm
CC – maybe because you were thinking “they plump when you cook ‘em”
Leggs
October 22nd, 2012
4:10 pm
weenies….
Single and Happy
October 22nd, 2012
4:10 pm
Disco
ball park franks popped in my head when I read that (LOL)
Leggs
October 22nd, 2012
4:11 pm
ding-a-lings…
Mrs. SexyCool
October 22nd, 2012
4:11 pm
My thought – “Hot dogs are my favorite food. Too bad I can’t eat them as much as I’d like.”
Single and Happy
October 22nd, 2012
4:12 pm
My thought – “Hot dogs are my favorite food. Too bad I can’t eat them as much as I’d like.” I aint touching that one (LOL)
Enigma
October 22nd, 2012
4:14 pm
and not the pigs in a blanket type either
Comon ¢
October 22nd, 2012
4:14 pm
MrsSC~ You trippin!
Somehow, I think your newlywed self is getting all the hot dog you can handle at the moment…
Single and Happy
October 22nd, 2012
4:16 pm
Home James, lata peeps
Jake-SPJTWB
October 22nd, 2012
4:17 pm
Enigma…just saw your post about the Bottle Bar…you really should have come in…by 8, drinks were moving and conversations were getting a liitle louder, by 10, it was a full and people were dancing, by 12….it was in full club mode!
Enigma
October 22nd, 2012
4:17 pm
This comes to mind when I think about SexyCool trying to find a lawn guy
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AJgLBqKFOq0
Enigma
October 22nd, 2012
4:17 pm
Jake- what’s the crowd like?
SlimNu
October 22nd, 2012
4:19 pm
I was craving a grilled weenie over the weekend.
Enigma
October 22nd, 2012
4:20 pm
“When they raise the kid, the kid has two moms. One of my son’s little girlfriends has two moms. Must admit it was very weird for me the first time I met them… ”
Common- did your son ever ask questions? How would you explain it?
Enigma
October 22nd, 2012
4:20 pm
ALOL At Legg’s ding a lings