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When men don’t pay..

One of our readers had a second date with a guy she thought was really nice. At the end of the date, he asked her for her portion of the bill. She was bothered by this and is not quite sure what to make of it. What does it mean when a man does not pay for a date?

Their outing was her idea because she was gifted free tickets to an event through work. Getting dinner before the event was his idea, though. So, she feels that he should have paid for her for two reasons: He is the guy and is pursuing her. The date activity was no cost to him because of her work connection.

Fellas, if you don’t pay for a woman, is that a reflection on what you think of her, or how you feel about her?

Ladies, why do we freak out when men don’t spend money on us? What do we think or feel, when a guy spends his money generously – to impress/woo us?

Happy Friday everyone!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

382 comments Add your comment

Gocha

October 19th, 2012
5:53 am

I feel exactly like the female … If a guy doesn’t spend money on me I don’t feel he values me… When he spend his money he cares

oddmanout

October 19th, 2012
6:50 am

Good Morning,
Its been a while since I posted, but this one has nabbed my attention. And I thought I was an A$$hole but this guy takes the Grammy home for “DBag Date”!! The male in this post is DEAD WRONG!! The female was kind enough to use her extra gifted ticket on the male, which was free BTW and he had the audacity to ask for her portion of the bill!?! B*#@! BYE!!!!

lee

October 19th, 2012
6:59 am

If we are going dutch – you are my friend – it is not a date. Now if we are dating and he stated that money was tight and was not able – i can understand that. Otherwise: He should of paid, i hope she didn’t give out those “benefits” already. Hate wasting time.

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
7:00 am

Who ever suggest the event should pay, unless it’s discussed before hand!

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
7:11 am

Wow! Just Wow! If I was her, I would have asked for his portion of the face value of the ticket. Free for me doesn’t mean free for you. We’re going dutch, remember?

Good Morning, bloggies!

Celise.....happy life!!

October 19th, 2012
7:23 am

Goooood morning!

Ummm, I’m so not even thinking about this dude…lol I wouldn’t even waste my time. I would have politely “declined” my portion of the bill and said “naw buddy, you got it”….seriously. I’m so over this “new age” thingy where dudes are keeping track of “your turn.” You gotta track it? Them how about we not do this altogether….k? I have no problem treating the honey to a nice evening but it will be when I feel the time is right. Until such time, as I’ve been raised “old school”, I’m not paying for dates. Point blank.

Two things I’ll ALWAYS believe men spend on women they care for….TIME AND MONEY. It’s just plain cheesy wondering when it’s her turn. Again, don’t get me wrong. ANY woman “feeling” her man or potential man, wants to do or show something nice towards him. You just be the man and it’s coming…trrrrrust me on that

Gotta run….ready for the weekend!!

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
7:27 am

A little devils advocate here. This was their second date right. For him the first date didn’t go that well and he had no plans on a second date, but she got tickets to an event he wanted to go to. To him asking her to pay isn’t a problem cause it’s not like it’s going to be a third date. It’s still wrong but IJS

Celise.....happy life

October 19th, 2012
7:29 am

Goooood morning!!

Run girl!!! lol Any dude so frugal that he’s splitting the bill, is NOT the man for you!!! You can eat alone for that matter…lol If I’m digging you, trust there will come a time where I’m going to show you a nice time. Until then, the natural order of things is in full effect…..and as I was raised, the man pays. If you’re sweating out, please please move on past me!!

Ready for the weekend!! :mrgreen:

Celise.....happy life

October 19th, 2012
7:30 am

it not out….my bad

Jeff

October 19th, 2012
7:32 am

You wanted to move out of the 50’s and 60’s, we moved out of the 50’s and 60’s.

Celise.....happy life

October 19th, 2012
7:36 am

I’m a firm believer….two things men will spend on women they care for…. TIME AND,MONEY. Don’t be fooled, they ain’t spending, they don’t care!

Celise.....happy life!!

October 19th, 2012
7:45 am

I would have declined….lol Seriously, I would have. That was just plain tacky. If I’m not reaching for my purse, you know the drill……lololol

Toddles!

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
7:50 am

Is declining really that easy, when the man tells the server separate checks, and he pays for what he ordered?? Now it’s between her and the restaurant.

Bug Al

October 19th, 2012
8:19 am

Men only pay after marriage. And they pay double after divorce.

Button

October 19th, 2012
8:31 am

There could be a slew of reasons why the guy didn’t pay for dinner. She asked him out, maybe in his mind since she did the asking then she’s forking the bill for the entire night. Money always gets in the way aside from sex. It should be about spending together time making memories. jmo

Button

October 19th, 2012
8:37 am

Why was she asking him out on a second date anyway? If we’re going to go on the natural order of things, he should’ve been asking for a second date not her.

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
8:39 am

It was her idea(for the second date) and we don’t know how the first date went.(coz u females hide the details on that :lol: )

Like Sibgle said,maybe dude smashed on first date and was Done! Chic is now feeling like a tornado so she pushes…’ ehh I got these free tickets,u wanna hang out and see xxxx in concert? Dude will say,’ sure,why not’ but chic is spinning it as a second date!

If dude didn’t wanna pay for her,it’s not even about him not having money. He ain’t pursuing her anymore ‘like that!’ ..he’s done!

Chic gave up the goods I’m Positive on that.

She’s now Pushing,Desperate! :lol:

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

October 19th, 2012
8:41 am

@Cel

Um, my wife offered to (and sometimes I let her) pay – if for no other reason than to experience the ’sticker shock’. And to this day, she’ll tell you that I’m cheap.

But, she moved her (and the kids belongings) to a new state, and a new house, and didn’t pay a cent.

If a woman defines herself by small measures such as dinner, and allows ‘frugality’ to become ‘cheap’ – for whatever reason – she may be missing out on a man that invests in people, places, and things that are worth investing in.

#isallimsayin

Good morning all

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
8:42 am

Single…sorry to spell ur name like LGBT …as if u confused biologically :lol:

Button

October 19th, 2012
8:43 am

I suggest to the reader to sit back and let the guy pursue her as she stated above. jmo

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
8:43 am

Good morning!

Dan taught me some manners there.

How u doing Dan..how’d business?

Mark

October 19th, 2012
8:45 am

Re: Gocha @ 5:53 am:

“If a guy doesn’t spend money on me I don’t feel he values me… When he spend his money he cares”

Really? There’s no way for a guy to care for you without spending money (eg., by doing nice, thoughtful things that don’t cost money, for example)???

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
8:47 am

We only moved out of the 50’s and 60’s as far as payments? Casue y’all damn sure seem to think we are still in the 50’s and 60’s when it comes to being king of the castle or cooking dinner or cleaning the house.

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
8:48 am

Comon, where dey do dat at??

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
8:49 am

Merk, I think Gocha mispoke. The correct response would have been one of the things a man does to show me he values me is spend his money on me. He can show that he cares in other ways, but if he never wants to spend a dime on me then, yeah, he can KIM…

Celise.....happy life!!

October 19th, 2012
8:50 am

Dan – I hear ya. I’m by no means saying I won’t or wouldn’t pay. I BELIEVE in making my man feel appreciated……absolutely!! I just take issue with dudes that tally stoke. I like reaching for my……for a good dude. I get it. You gotta admit, there are some that are cheesy… lol

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
8:50 am

S/H~ LOL! Dey do dat in a lot of places. These days, men want a woman to go out and bring home the bacon, fry it up in the pan, clean the dishes afterward, wash his shirt that he spilled bacon grease on, then go upstairs and never ever let him forget he’s a man. :lol:

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
8:53 am

Comon Gocha didn’t mispeak she typed what she meant to say (LOL)

Also comon can’t speak for other men, but I do yard work, wash cars and all the handy stuff around my house, so if and when I get married, would cooking and cleaning be a bad thing for her to do? I know there are some men that think as long as I pay someone to do this stuff I’m holding up my end, but to me it’s not the same.

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
8:55 am

8:47 Common..cooking Dinner?

That’s what Mitt Romney said bout uall..u gotta hurry home and cook for ur kids.

I agree with him on that tho altho lotta women don’t like that.

On that,yeah I’m Conservative!

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
8:56 am

I can’t speak for other women (because I know some that are in truly jacked up situations! :lol: ) but in my house, we both work and therefore we split chores. I cook most nights since he cooks all day for a living, but whoever cooks does not do dishes. If I wash and dry, then someone else needs to fold and put away. He cuts the grass and edges, but I do all the blowing and cleanup. As far as cars, we take them to be washed! LOL! Ain’t neither one of us trying to be out in the yard washing cars by hand…

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
8:57 am

Button..ur 8:37 is on point!

Why is she desperate?

Celise.....happy life!!

October 19th, 2012
8:59 am

I like reaching for my PURSE….is what I was saying. Dern typos…lol

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
9:00 am

Common.

I ain’t doing nothing in the house except fix my sammich every now and then or vacuum or fix the blockage or screw a lose nutt.

I will do All things physical outside

I agree with my Conservative foes on this

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
9:01 am

“Who ever suggest the event should pay, unless it’s discussed before hand!” – That’s my take as well. Especially since HE suggested going out to dinner. He should pay.

Single may be correct in that the first date may not have gone well, and he had no intention of asking her out for a second date, but couldn’t refuse free tix. That in itself indicates that he at least could tolerate her company for those few hours. I would think if he wasn’t interested to some degree, he wouldn’t have deviated from just going to the event. So, by him asking for her portion was letting her down easy saying this is where the buck stops.

Good morning!

Button

October 19th, 2012
9:03 am

Like you said Exile it could be they smashed on the first date or she could be one of those women that want to controll everything from the rip. There are too many information left out to garner what is really going on.

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
9:03 am

Cel..u like reaching for ur purse,sincerely or as a show/tester to say,’I can pay my own’

Coz if u do and after u pay,don’t mutter none…,it’s no Biggie…

But if u pay(coz I know I got it :lol: ) then pout and say this or that about u paying,then u weren’t sincere.

Which?

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
9:04 am

Good Morning, Leggs.

I still like my idea of asking him for his portion of the face value of the ticket. Oh, we going dutch? Well, free for me is not free for you. Cough up your dough, potnah. :lol:

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
9:04 am

U got it..I meant! Typos

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
9:07 am

Ex, Button, they may not have smashed on the first day, she just may have been someone that he didn’t want to date. Women will take a free meal from someone she has no intention of dating, Men can’t do that also? We do have to remember she asked him, we don’t know if he was pursuing her?

” So, she feels that he should have paid for her for two reasons: He is the guy and is pursuing her. The date activity was no cost to him because of her work connection.”

And by that statement, because she got the tickets free he should have paid, hell it didn’t cost either of them. If he had got the, free or pay, would she have been expected to pay?

Celise.....happy life!!

October 19th, 2012
9:08 am

Mmeello – LOLOLOLOL

Don’t get me wrong, I ain’t carrying or taking of a dude. A good man, considerate and thinks of me and my well being, will talk to me when things ain’t quite right, listens to me and shares with me his thoughts and desires, trusts me…….CAN GET IT ALL! Yeah, I can easily open my purse here and there out of appreciating the good man he is towards me.

disco

October 19th, 2012
9:09 am

good morning.

CC – that’s funny. asking him for his portion of the ticket price. I feel you though.

S/H – point made. sometimes it just is what it is. truly in that situation, if I were old girl, I would have gladly and even quietly paid for my dinner. I also may have made a dash to the bathroom to see if a girlfriend or someone else could make the event last minute. lol. if not, I’d have attended with him and accepted that that was the end of that.

SlimNu

October 19th, 2012
9:09 am

Good morning all,

Dan – How’s it going? How was the transition into “stepdad” go for you?

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
9:09 am

O/T~ What’s with all the businesses getting shot up the past couple of days? First the bar in Denver, now a beauty shop in FL. People losing their minds this October!

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
9:10 am

This issue is where u hear women profusely mutter,’ I ain’t a gold digger!’

But they want a man to dig his gold in order for him to stuff her belly!

:lol: :lol: Women

that’s called gift of speech or manipulation!

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
9:11 am

Comon, Life happens

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
9:12 am

S/H~ I think that the point is, since he was going to the concert for FREE he could have paid for dinner. What the tix cost her is irrelevant. She could have chosen to take someone else. But, damn, if I invite you to an event for free, you can’t even pay for dinner? You cheap b@stard…

Celisea.....happy life!!

October 19th, 2012
9:13 am

Gotta work….toodles!

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
9:14 am

Comon, if men are paying for the dates, isn’t everything free for women!! Even when she get’s something free, I still have to pay?

Into the Light

October 19th, 2012
9:14 am

Good morning, all!

So, she feels that he should have paid for her for two reasons: He is the guy and is pursuing her. The date activity was no cost to him because of her work connection.

Are we assuming that he is “pursuing” her? Because it doesn’t sound to me like he is. It sounds to me, like some other bloggers said, that she had some free tix to something he wanted to do and he agreed to go. She supplied the tix, so he could have treated for dinner….but maybe he thought a/it was an evening on the low cost end for both of them or b/he’s really not that interested but didn’t want to pass up a free ticket.

Button

October 19th, 2012
9:17 am

Clearly the guy is not feeling this woman, for him to go dutch on a “second” date.

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
9:17 am

S/H~ Short answer? Yes. :lol:

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
9:17 am

Button, second date for her, hanging out for him (LOL)

LeeH1

October 19th, 2012
9:17 am

There is a lot of sexism here. I thought women wanted to be treated as equals. I guess not.

The man came along, perhaps not for a date but for the event. He may not have even seen the outing as a date so much as two friends enjoying an evening together. The woman hyped it inot something it may not have been, then blames the man for not following her expectations.

The man should have just paid the woman’s father his twenty cows in bride price and then just have taken her. oops! That would be sexist, and treating the woman as an object to be bought and sold. Which is what this woman expected her date to do.

Women are such sexists. They want freedom for themselves, and equality, but won’t face the consequences.

This is also one reason why women won’t marry down in social or economic class. A woman lawyer seldom marries a carpenter or truck driver- only another lawyer or even better, a judge or politician. After all, no matter how much they make, they want to depend upon the man paying for her.

Actually, the twenty cows for a bride price seems rather cheap after all, and a much better deal.

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
9:18 am

“So, she feels that he should have paid for her for two reasons: He is the guy and is pursuing her.” – Aren’t they pursuing each other???

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
9:18 am

comon i like you, I like them dominate women (LOL)

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

October 19th, 2012
9:18 am

@Ex

Things are good. Thank for asking. How’s business your way? Seen the market’s up…

@Slim

It’s….interesting. It’s definitely a growth opportunity. I have to keep reminding myself that, as was once said of/to me “kids are dumb, and you’re no exception”

O/T

The thing about paying for this or that, her or him, is beyond ‘manners’ or ‘who should be doing what for whom’.

Just as a woman invests spiritually, emotionally, and physically in her man; so too does a man invest mentally, emotionally, and (for us) financially in a woman that’s worth it. The balancing act is her making herself valuable and prized, and him being in the right frame of mind (not ‘hurt’ or ‘woe is me simpin’) to recognize her value.

I will say this; you ladies are definitely better value investors. I’ve seen some of my homies make some amazing transitions because of – and more importantly for – their women.

disco

October 19th, 2012
9:19 am

S/H – that sounds like me. I’m always telling folks every outing isn’t a date. sometimes it’s just two people getting something to eat. lol. a lot of chicks (fellas too I guess) are on dates in their own minds.

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
9:19 am

Celisea..9:08 is on point.

To which I gotta revert back to Button’s point. A respectable,steady chic gotta swallow her desperation,if any and let a dude make the decision and invite. I ain’t never been a woman and don’t know how hard it is to wait to be approached or asked but the moment u take the lead on a guy and do the asking,we don’t think Like u may want to think.

Our minds run at supersonic speed after that. We are already thinking if we did laundry on All the sets of sheets! :lol: coz we may be need to replace and lay a clean pair soon. :lol:

History is also in our side..when a women seems desperate,she is Desperate! :lol:

Into the Light

October 19th, 2012
9:20 am

“So, she feels that he should have paid for her for two reasons: He is the guy and is pursuingshe wants him to pursue her.”

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
9:21 am

Forget my 9:18. He’s not pursuing her. Sure wish the poster would have stated where they went for dinner (that they both agreed upon).

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
9:21 am

Disco, if it’s a man and a woman, it’s a date, if it’s 2 guys/girls you’re just hanging out. (LOL)

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
9:21 am

Morning, Comon.

Hey there, Dan.

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
9:22 am

You know, I honestly can never remember a guy asking e to go dutch on a date. Even when we were in college and REALLY broke, they always paid.

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
9:23 am

Comon they probably were to scared to mention those 3 words (let’s go dutch) (LOL)

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
9:24 am

A woman lawyer seldom marries a carpenter or truck driver- only another lawyer or even better, a judge or politician

I call BS. I am an attorney and my husband is chef. When we first met he was a bartender.

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
9:24 am

I like that, ITL. We definitely do that at times.

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
9:25 am

Comon personal question, are the income potentials the same?

disco

October 19th, 2012
9:26 am

S/H – it just burns you up that you think like me (or that I think like you). lol.

guys – how about a flip on the scenario. some women when they aren’t feeling a guy will insist on paying for their own food/drink/whatever. it’s definitely not about flaunting financial independence so much as a subtle hint that you probably aren’t the one and she really doesn’t want to be bothered with you. lol. do guys recognize that move for what it is?

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
9:27 am

Ex~ No one cleans house faster than a man expecting to get laid… :lol:

ITL~ Stop clowning that girl early this morning… :lol:

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
9:27 am

S/H~ Not even close. I am the major bread winner.

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
9:28 am

Disco, where dey do dat at, never had that happen, always tell me after the meal has been paid for (LOL)

Disco, great minds think alike :-)

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
9:28 am

disco~ That goes back to yesterday with that “I bought you a drink and now you’re my girlfriend”. No thanks, potnah. I got that on my own. :lol:

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
9:28 am

I’d call BS on that as well Comon! What’s the word used during the debate? That’s pure “marlarkey.”

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
9:29 am

Comon then you should be paying!! IJK

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
9:30 am

S/H~ We don’t know WHO is paying because we are married and what’s mine is his. We have a joint bank account, so he has access to what I make and I have access to what he makes. All the household bills are paid out of that account and we each have personal accounts for our day to day expenses.

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
9:31 am

Comon, young love is so cute. I was just joking :-D

Button

October 19th, 2012
9:31 am

Here feelings are hurt and she’s gotta realize that most men like doing the asking but on their time. It may seem unfair because he could be a slow as a snail, it is what it is. My dude used to always secure the next date even before the date we were on was over.

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
9:32 am

Leggs~ In fact, most of the female attorneys I know are not in relationships with judges and whatnot. They tend to date people in the field (sheriffs, cops, bail bondsmen, etc) but definitely not on the same pay level as them.

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
9:33 am

9:27 Common u are a jokster…that was good! :lol:

But I disagree with u on Leeh’s point,never mind u married ‘down’. Her point is valid for the most part. And when a woman marries down she tends to Dominate the relationship. Which is true in ur case and u have alluded to that.

disco

October 19th, 2012
9:34 am

lee – re marrying “up” or “down”, you’ll find that a lot of women have to date/marry down. essentially it’s a numbers game. I know I’d consider myself lucky if I got with a guy I considered an educational, financial, career “equal” let alone latching on to one that was a step “up”. (of course, we’re just talking paper qualifications and stats)

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
9:35 am

She wants him to pushed her…

Desperate!

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
9:35 am

Disco, could you elaborate on that career equal?

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
9:36 am

Ex~ I don’t dominate the relationship, I am just the major breadwinner. We make decisions together. I will not deny that I am a very dominate personality, but then again, so is he.

kimmie

October 19th, 2012
9:36 am

Morning All!!

I’m with Lee on this one – if it’s dutch it’s not a date. I dutch with my friends. This is not to say I never paid on dates. I just hate splitting the bill at the table or counter when on a date – it’s not a good look. So either I pay for the entire meal and he buy the movie tix or whatever, but no splitting.

Being honest, I’ve only had one guy to pull what happened with Wise’s friend and we were college freshman.

At first I was inclined to believe like some have said that the 1st date may not have gone well for dude, but he decided to go along to the event she had tickets for. But if that was the case, they could have just gone to the event and gone their separate ways. He prolonged the evening by suggesting dinner. HIS suggestion. Wonder if he suggested they grab dinner but left the choice of the restaraunt up to her and she chose something more expensive than he planned on?

In either account, being the lady I am and not used to a guy pulling such a stunt, I would have felt bad. I’m used to men being men and gentleman. If it was a case of him not being able to afford the dinner bill, he should have suggested something he could afford. See this is where my love for intelligence comes in. He could have suggested something less expensive like coffee & dessert after the event. That’s assuming he really wanted to spend more time with her. It was just not a classy move. Folks can site womens lib all they want. If he truly liked her and wanted to make a nice impression, he blew it. If he was using her just to go to the event, yeah like some women do to get a free meal, well she now knows what he’s all about. I’ve found that most men don’t mind spending some money and time on a woman they care about. They don’t have to break the bank, but they find a way within their means to show her he cares.

In any event, I’m sure he had to notice her disappointment.

I would have gone ahead and paid my portion. If he asked me out again I would tell him I cannot afford to go out. He’d get the message.

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
9:37 am

I mean “I know I’d consider myself lucky if I got with a guy I considered an educational, financial, career “equal”

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
9:37 am

I definitely understand, Comon. Not everyone wants to date someone in their same profession. Not all cops are dating other cops. Sometimes, opposite mindsets/professions definitely help to keep the relationship sparks sparkling and not find themselves in the position of having to fan the embers to ignite the slightest of sparks!

Into the Light

October 19th, 2012
9:37 am

@CC: LOL. Not trying to clown her, but it goes back to what we say so often: Open your eyes and see WHAT IT IS not WHAT IT MIGHT BE. She can read into his words, actions, gestures all day. But at the end of the day, it is what it is and she shouldn’t try to make it anything else.

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
9:40 am

disco~ On your point, I think a lot of “career” women “marry down” (And I hate that term because I did NOT marry down. My husband is the best thing that ever happened to me and I am lucky he CHOSE me. But for finacial purposes, we’ll roll with that) because men on the same level or higher are threatened by women like me. We have opinions, we are dominate and not easily manipulated and generally have a very definite idea of where we want to go. Men like my husband, while they have some financial success, they are not intimidated by a woman who makes more money. And he definitely pursued me. (I wanted him to pursue me too… ) :lol:

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
9:40 am

Dan..I think the market is looking up..Mitt wi be very lucky if he inherits this economy.

Even O is putting, ‘looking up’ in his stump speaches now.

My bro is in business and was laughing saying him and his partners are Dems but will still be fine if Mitt wins.

I know what ‘kind’ of a business man he is…like a lot out there.

O ain’t friends to corrupt folks who bend rules.

3 weeks..we shall see!

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
9:41 am

Comon, no offense, so the third times the charm, were the other 2 your equal?

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

October 19th, 2012
9:41 am

Hi Ms. Leggs…

How goes it?

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
9:42 am

ITL~ Did you read that link SexyCool (I think) posted yesterday afternoon? If not, go back and read it. I sent it to SEVERAL people I know… :lol:

disco

October 19th, 2012
9:42 am

S/H – not really besides I’m sure you know what I mean because you think like I think. it was just to make a point re marrying up/down. I can’t be the only one who knows folks who think that dating people who work in certain jobs or professions are beneath them.

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
9:43 am

S/H~ The first husband was (but I was at a different level than I am now) the second husband was not. He was a general contractor. No offense taken! :D

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
9:44 am

Disco and u Common..’we are just talking paper qualifications’

Quit playing uall I say!

Just paper qualifications.

I know u know u spoke with a forked tongue there! :lol:

I gotta go and I enjoyed this!

Good weekend!

disco

October 19th, 2012
9:44 am

CC – I’m not particularly fond of the term hence why I put it in quotations. still, when it’s used folks know what we are talking about. even single and happy while he’s asking me to elaborate. lol.

Button

October 19th, 2012
9:45 am

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
9:45 am

disco, no you are not. but in the end, wouldn’t it be the income potential rather than the job title, Hasn’t the recent past taught us anything? Things can change in the next second!

Into the Light

October 19th, 2012
9:46 am

Okay, folks. Gotta go knock out some work so I can get out of here on time today.

Have a great weekend!

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
9:47 am

disco~ You don’t know? You bout to learn todady! :lol: I feel you.

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
9:47 am

Comon, even being a general contractor, when the economy was good, alot of those guys were making a killing!

Disco, you know I’m always repping for the blue collar man (LOL)

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
9:48 am

Have fun at RHPS tonight ITL!

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
9:48 am

Comon, even being a general contractor, when the economy was good, alot of those guys were making a killing

Yeah, unfortunately he was not one of them. (In my driest voice EVER)

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
9:49 am

disco

October 19th, 2012
9:50 am

ex – I mentioned paper qualifications because that’s the tangible stuff. i.e. you can verify that a significant other has such and such educational credentials or makes X amount of money or works in whatever field. the non-paper qualifications are more abstract. he’s funny, he’s nice, he treats me well. all that’s important but all that’s relative. he may be funny, nice to you but he bored his ex to death and beat her on weekends.

S/H – i know you represent. I recognize the income potential but my point is that some people don’t care about that. some people are much more concerned about telling their friends/family/co-workers that they are dating a sanitation worker. it’s not a pretty truth but it’s still the truth.

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
9:59 am

disco~ Cosign your 9:50. Especially that last part! Girl, if I could tell you the number of times I have told someone my husband is a chef and they get “the look” on their face! Whoo! “Does he own the restaurant, Comon?” Ummm… no. He’s just a chef. “Oh. How ever did you meet?” At that point I just want to tell them some random, off the wall isht just to see what their reaction will be. :lol:

kimmie

October 19th, 2012
10:01 am

To be honest, there are subjects like this, who pays on the date, that make me so glad I am off the market.

I’ve always had enough to eat. I’d go home and eat a peanut butter sandwich first before I would trip with some tired-A dude over a little tired meal out. He could keep his ish.

And blue collar or white collar – are you seflt-sufficient & responsible and can you pay your bills? Are you intelligent and do you have common sense? Are you respectful? If any of the above are missing, Houston we have a problem.

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
10:02 am

“it’s not a pretty truth but it’s still the truth.” Disco, you know I know this O to well

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
10:07 am

Preach, kimmie! Preach!

kimmie

October 19th, 2012
10:09 am

Disco – You are so right, about some folks caught up on appearances!

Single – Now this is one of those things I would not give a SHI– what other folks thought or said!!

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
10:11 am

Kimmie, unfortunately there are a lot who would disregard that list because they feel if I have a degree, they should have a degree. I’ve had women that I’m not boyfriend material but I am great to have around when something needs repairing, (like that’s going to happen)

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
10:13 am

Kimmie even though I don’t care what others think about me, I do believe in treating others the way I would want someone to treat me. :-)

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
10:14 am

Enter your comments here

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
10:16 am

Well, S/H, I definitely don’t fall into THAT category. I have an advanced degree, he has a high school diploma. And I’m as happy as a pig in sh!t… :lol:

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
10:18 am

Comon, no offense again, but did it take the 2 failed marriages to get you to realize that? Not implying anything but sometimes that’s what it takes for some of us to open our eyes to other avenues?

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
10:20 am

Kudos, Comon! I’ve never been hung up on a degrees, I just want you to be able to carry a conversation, be respectful, responsible and have comon sense. Other attributes are important, but a degree doesn’t necessarily have to be one of them.

kimmie

October 19th, 2012
10:26 am

Single – It’s their loss. Money or all the college degrees in the world cannot buy you class. That’s not just a corny saying but very real, at least to me. Some of the most intelligent and successful people I have known over the years did not have the most formal education. They were just good at whatever it is they did, they wanted better for themselves and their family and they achieved it.

I’ve known folks with barely a full set of teeth in their mouth that had more going for themselves and would give you a drink of water if you were thirsty before some others I know of greater means.

A confident, positive attitude and good manners will take you very far and they are FREE.

I believe in doing unto others as well. :)

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
10:28 am

S/H~ No offense taken. No, it didn’t take two failed marriages (or maybe it did?) He was ALWAYS the right person for me, I just had to come to terms with the fact that we were meant to be together. Remember, even though the marriage is new, I have known him for 21 years. We lived together for 4 years. He always told his family if he ever got marriaed, it would be to me. I guess he was right, because while he is my 3rd husband, I am his first wife.

disco

October 19th, 2012
10:29 am

S/H – I see where you are going with your questioning of CC. I get it. but the flip is that the two failed marriages may have added some of the fuel or passion or motivation for her to be where she is today. there are no guarantees but perhaps if she’d married a “high school” brother right out the gate, she would have been complacent. or maybe she would have moved forward and “outgrown” him and be divorced from him and married to her ex. lol.

CC – you know I’m not making digs at you or yours. just making points.

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
10:30 am

Enter your comments here

kimmie

October 19th, 2012
10:30 am

Single – And in the environment I come from, degrees come a dime a dozen. Not knocking education at all because I believe in it. But a dude thinking all they had to be was educated and moneyed to impress me had another thing coming. I’m used to all that, so you gotta bring more, like character and respectfulness.

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
10:32 am

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
10:36 am

disco, can’t deal in ifs, have to deal it facts :-D so many times people have to figure out what’s wrong for them before they figure out what’s right!

comon, known for 21, lived together for 4, so it basically took you 25 years to figure out he was the right one for you, but in 25 years he had a hard time convincing you of that.

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
10:36 am

kimmie~ Agreed. My father and mother both have advanced degress, my brother went to an Ivy League. Yeah, you gotta come with something more than that. And, S/H remember, the 2nd husband was not degreed either. He was a general contractor.

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
10:37 am

Good Morning Blog,
Blog monster stole my comments but let me try this again..

I don’t see why is a huge deal for the man to pay.

This is what I do: I get to know a guy and on the first day, I offer to pay.
The guys are astonished that I do that and are impressed. They thank me for being considerate but they tell me to put my money away and they pay.
When that happens, I usually pay for the 2nd date and on the 3rd date, the guy quickly pays before I can offer and usually takes me to a restaurant where the bill was either higher or equal to the one I paid.

I’ve been told that I am one of the few females out there that have offered to pay and the guy made sure that he knew I was appreciated.

I just think that if you want to settle down with a guy that will take you seriously, you can’t be like most women who expect the guy to handle everything otherwise you appear selfish.

A friend of mine lost his job and wanted to go on a date with a girl but could not afford to really spend money like that. He said the girl left a bad impression when she told him to holler when he gets a job or money.

Years later, he’s working making more money, and engaged to a a wonderful woman that is not selfish and has paid for dates without a problem.

The importance should be placed on how the guy treats you and not on if he paid for the date or not.

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
10:38 am

Oh and disco, for most of us our past is what made our present. You wouldn’t be who you are today, if you forget who you were yesterday!

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

October 19th, 2012
10:40 am

@I used

Sound like the kid whose girlfriend broke up with him *right* before he hit that $30 million lottery

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
10:42 am

“At that point I just want to tell them some random, off the wall isht just to see what their reaction will be. ”

Common: tell them you were a jam and offered “services” in exchange for food :lol:

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
10:42 am

Comon, your progression, Educated=failed, General Contractor (assuming he had his own business)=failed, Man who has always been there for me no matter what=ladies and gentleman we have a winner. and there is nothing wrong with the way you did it because there is no right way or wrong way to do things in life, because every life is different.

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
10:43 am

The man: I bet the chick is still single too.

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
10:44 am

Single ~ dang, during those 21 years of knowing him remember she was married twice. The stars weren’t aligned for the two of them at that time. Sometimes, you wake up and the person is still standing there smiling at you…then the light comes on.

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
10:44 am

S/H~ We have both changed a lot in 21 years (we lived together for 4 DURING that 21) We dated, broke up, I married someone else, divorced and now we are married. When I first met him, he was leaving the bar with a different girl every night and was “that” dude. So, of course when he popped game to me, he got shot down. We became friends. We were friends for 4 years and I got married. He told me not to marry dude, and I did anyway (actually laughed in his face when he said we were meant to be together) and he stopped talking to me. Ran into him the night my divorce was final from the first husband. Had (what I thought) was going to be a one night stand and he ended up becoming the beau. We lived together for 4 years and then broke up because we were both stubborn and stupid. I married someone else 6 months later. (MISTAKE!!!) So, as soon as my divorce was final this time, he called me and said I don’t want to date you, I don’t want to live with you. We’ve done that. If we are going to be together, we need to married. So, we are.

disco

October 19th, 2012
10:46 am

S/H – mmm hmmm. that was my point which is why I questioned your questioning of CC’s marital background though i suspect you were getting to the point that blue collar man is the better man. lol. represent, represent.

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
10:48 am

Comon Okay so it’s 21 instead of 25 but same results.

Leggs stars smars, couldn’t see the forest for the trees!!

kimmie

October 19th, 2012
10:48 am

Leggs/others – Did you watch Scandal last night?

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
10:51 am

WOw Common!!! Interesting story

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
10:51 am

Disco, my point really isn’t about the blue collar man it’s about opening your eyes and seeing what’s in front of you, instead of leaning to the side and seeing what you think you want. It’s like when people go shopping, some know exactly what they’re looking for, go in the store pick it up and be back out the door, while some go in pick up the item put it down, look around for hours only to come back to it and leave.

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
10:52 am

Speaking of stars , there is supposed to be shooting stars visible in sky around the same time SNL comes on Saturday night.

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
10:52 am

kimmie ~ sure did. lil leggs is home for homecoming (SWD) and she is now hooked on the show. Olivia Pope is human and messed up, but dang that is a quick fire show! I like the President’s wife, she has backbone!

Single, same difference (lol).

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
10:53 am

You know what you want, but maybe I can find something better!

disco

October 19th, 2012
10:54 am

kimmie – didn’t realize scandal was back on.

S/H – it’s always a blue collar thing. lol.

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
10:54 am

Anyway disco, (LOL)

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
10:55 am

Speaking of common sense: Here’s one who thinks she has some but clearly doesn’t:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=CI8UPHMzZm8

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
10:56 am

disco ~ I believe this is the 3rd episode. Go catch up. Going to be really good this season. Olivia and Puck (whatever his name is) are hiding a lot.

disco

October 19th, 2012
10:57 am

S/H – glad you found it comical. I was thinking “it’s a blue collar thing, you wouldn’t understand”.

disco

October 19th, 2012
10:58 am

leggs – see how little I keep up with tv? lol. last year I was able to get caught up online. I’ll check tonight to see if full episodes are still available online.

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
10:58 am

stop it disco, you going to make me pee on myself (LMAO)

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 19th, 2012
10:58 am

Happy Friday gang :mrgreen:

Not too much to add since it’s already been discussed…I think etiquette dictates that whomever suggests said outing, pay for it…plain and simple. However, you do have people who are users and will try to take you for whatever they can get out of you so beware.

And if there is the potential for confusion about splitting the bill, those things should be discussed BEFORE the check comes so you two aren’t sitting there looking like :shock: and wondering who’s going to pay.

kimmie

October 19th, 2012
10:59 am

Leggs – Naw girl, what I’m tripping on is that scene of Olivia & the Prez grinding up against that tree, with the secret service dudes standing by!! I was screaming!!!Dang!! Yeah I like the 1st Lady too, she said she making plans for HER political career!!

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
10:59 am

Leggs, I would say that’s a joke, but I’ve heard worse (LOL)

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
11:01 am

LOL at Sassy’s use of the emoticon :shock:

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
11:03 am

random: OOHHH I’m craving cookie dough

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
11:03 am

Sassy when I say separate checks, I don’t care how you pay :roll: (LOL)

Button

October 19th, 2012
11:05 am

Single on point @ 10:42

Single and Happier

October 19th, 2012
11:05 am

The thing about saying separate check is you better be driving, because it could become a long walk home (LOL)

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
11:09 am

kimmie ~ I was tripping over that too, but know the secret service sees and hears a lot. I liked when she told him “I don’t belong to YOU!” Also laughed when First Lady asked them confirm her list of names with batting their eyes. When batted his eyes then turn around and say “I didn’t say anything” I laughed because we know communication isn’t always verbal.

Single ~ I think it’s real.

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
11:12 am

Random: did anyone catch Tom Hanks accidentally drop the F bomb this morning on the Today show?
Hil- Air- IOUS!

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 19th, 2012
11:26 am

when I say separate checks, I don’t care how you pay

True…which is why I always make sure I have money on a date..regardless of who asked whom. And I like to drive my own car so just in case dude acted up I could always get ghost…

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
11:35 am

What up good people, how ya’ll been….Happy Friday, drank sumthim!!!

kimmie

October 19th, 2012
11:35 am

Sassy – That was the way I was brought up – to always have money on a date.

I am so turned off by money discussions. If we HAVE to discuss who is going to pay, I’m already turned off.

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
11:36 am

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
11:38 am

I would crack up if when the bill came, the dude said ” you see the way my bank account is set up……”

Bluzgirl

October 19th, 2012
11:39 am

Morning folks!

I just got in about 30 minutes ago and it looks like I have a lot of catching up to do!

I had a BLAST last night at the concert. It’s good to know people and be known because my friend and I ended up back stage hanging out with the band. The only downside to that is that I got home after 2:00 and there was no way I could get up at 8:00 this morning! Man…I miss the days of being able to hang like that…I’m sleepy!

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
11:39 am

Ah Leggs you caught it!!!

I heard something, ran to my TV , pressed rewind on the DVR and was like, oh my lord!!!!

I love that I am back up with the Dish!!! :lol:

kimmie

October 19th, 2012
11:40 am

Single – I will say this. If there are separate checks, we’re not on a date. On a date, per my definition, one is treating the other, whether it’s me or him. Separate checks, seperate hearts!

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
11:41 am

My date just cancelled on me for tonight.

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
11:43 am

Awww Leggs. that stinks

disco

October 19th, 2012
11:44 am

I know y’all hate (sometimes) when food is brought up but I swear I’m so hungry I feel like I might keel over and die at any minute.

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
11:45 am

For R. Kelly? I could be in for that, Leggs… But only if we go dutch on dinner. :lol:

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
11:46 am

I miss the days of being able to hang like that…I’m sleepy! – It’s called “youth.”

kimmie

October 19th, 2012
11:46 am

Dang Leggs. Is there someone else you can ask? It’s early in the day.

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
11:47 am

For the folks that feel the man should pay- would you be offended if he took you to McDonald’s and you either paid the bill or went dutch?

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
11:48 am

At least you had a date Leggs.
That’s better than not being asked at all.

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
11:49 am

Comon ~ it’s for the Steppers’ Ball after the concert. My gf said it was too late for her to “start” going out. Doesn’t mind if she’s already out, but to start especially after going to dinner with another gf might be a bit much. Oh well…

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
11:51 am

At least you had a date Leggs.
That’s better than not being asked at all.

Haa haa haa, I did the asking.

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
11:53 am

<—-thinks I should try asking to. Sadly, no one to ask :cry:

Comon Cents

October 19th, 2012
11:55 am

In re: to Tom Hanks, The Dali Lama cussed at Brown University during a speech on Wednesday. (My brother went to Brown and one of his friends sent him the link) The university is now saying that it was his accent. He actually said “forget”. :?: Right…

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
11:57 am

I asked a gf UTBH. No biggie.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
11:57 am

So, do you have a backup, Leggs?

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
11:59 am

Oh, thought you asked a dude

SlimNu

October 19th, 2012
11:59 am

That’s better than not being asked at all. Um, in both situations, you still end up with the same results :lol:

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
11:59 am

pray for me all- It looks like they are doing department cuts :eek:

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
12:00 pm

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

October 19th, 2012
12:01 pm

@Kimmie

I hear you, but you know like I do, the discussion of finances (spending habits, goals, and plans) are just as important to a lasting relationship as concepts such as ‘chemistry’, ‘yolking’, and ‘love’.

People can be attracted, of equal ‘yolking’, and so in love – and divorced or not together for long because of money.

#facts

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
12:03 pm

@Comon ~ not yet.

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
12:04 pm

Left a voicemail for another gf. We shall see.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
12:06 pm

Cosign on Dan’s 12:01.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
12:06 pm

Good Luck! Either way, you will have fun!

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
12:07 pm

UTBH~ Good luck on the job cuts. That sucks.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

October 19th, 2012
12:09 pm

Cosign Comon’s 12:07.

Stay up shawty

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
12:14 pm

Willie Dynamite

October 19th, 2012
12:17 pm

Afternoon all,
IMO if we are on a date I’m paying, period. I don’t sweat stuff like that. I also hate splitting cks at the table. Not a biggie to me. If I think it’s about sponsoring or simping then I act accordingly.

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
12:19 pm

Thanks Common- It freaks me out but I keep remembering that I cannot control the situation.
I just have to do a diligent job search and trust GOD as always.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
12:21 pm

That does look like fun! Going back to prom… Hmmmm

Bluzgirl

October 19th, 2012
12:21 pm

Finally caught up!

On topic…I get the feeling dude must not be digging her. When I won free tix to a show and invited Mags, I didn’t expect him to buy me dinner. We went out randomly after the show and paid for our own meals. Of course…at that point, we were just “hanging out”. It was a date in my eyes, but I didn’t expect it to be a date to him. A different time he and I went out to dinner, I had bought a Groupon (or something like that), so most of the meal was free. He offered to pay the difference and leave the tip.

Anyway…I have no problem offering to pay my portion. It would just be nice to have a guy who declines that offer! :-)

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
12:22 pm

WD~ And that’s why you da man! :lol:

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
12:23 pm

i just need a prom date ~Kanye Shrug~

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
12:24 pm

“Fellas, if you don’t pay for a woman, is that a reflection on what you think of her, or how you feel about her?”

Speaking for myself, yes and yes. If I’m digging you, I’m paying. And I’m picking you up, and opening doors and offering my arm while walking, etc., etc., etc….

Howdy, folks! Happy Freaky Friday!

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
12:27 pm

Heeey swiss!

Bluzgirl

October 19th, 2012
12:29 pm

O/T – I just read this story and cannot believe anyone made it out of this wreck alive after seeing the pictures of the car!

http://www.myfoxatlanta.com/story/19861500/2-men-injured-in-fiery-wreck-in-alpharetta

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
12:29 pm

THanks the Man!

disco

October 19th, 2012
12:30 pm

funny y’all are talking about prom. I just opened an email from my son with throwback in the subject line. he messed around and got his hands on a pic of my brother and some of his friends at a homecoming dance 20 years ago. lol.

swiss – freaky Friday??? y’all ain’t freaked enough up in here this week????

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
12:32 pm

Howdy, Comon. Fancy seeing you here… ;-) I’m just sitting here listening to Catherine Wheel’s “Black Metallic” and for some reason it brings to mind your Albertina… :lol:

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
12:34 pm

20 YEARS- dang I’m old!

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
12:41 pm

disco — We’re inspired by Mr. Comon, gotta go for a 3- or 4-peater here… :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

October 19th, 2012
12:44 pm

Not sure what the topic is by now, so I’ll just say “hello” to all the regulars and “welcome” if there are any newbies. How’s everyone been doing?

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
12:47 pm

What’s up, DM? I know it’s been a while, but c’mon, man, you know the drill: It’s after noon and it’s Friday — the topic is puddy. :lol:

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 19th, 2012
12:55 pm

IMO if we are on a date I’m paying, period. I don’t sweat stuff like that. I also hate splitting cks at the table. Not a biggie to me

I heart you Willie :-)

Swiss I loove your post especially the part about “offering your arm”, I think that tells alot. As benign a gesture as it may seem, little things like that and opening doors is important and makes us feel like laaadies.

Leggs

October 19th, 2012
12:57 pm

Hello, DreamsM!

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 19th, 2012
12:58 pm

freaky Friday??? y’all ain’t freaked enough up in here this week????

It’s after noon and it’s Friday — the topic is puddy.

:shock:

I’m nervous…

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
1:03 pm

I’m just sitting here listening to Catherine Wheel’s “Black Metallic” and for some reason it brings to mind your Albertina

Awww… swiss, I’m flattered that you’re thinking about my puddy… :oops:

:lol:

Willie Dynamite

October 19th, 2012
1:04 pm

Swiss – you are alright with me. I appreciate your consistency.

Sassy- heyyyyy.

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
1:06 pm

Hey, anyone on here watch Sons of Anarchy?
I love that show

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
1:06 pm

Enigma~ What do you do for a living if you don’t mind me asking?

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

October 19th, 2012
1:06 pm

@WD

I feels ya. Different strokes, I guess.

@Dreams

What up my boy!!

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
1:08 pm

Back on topic for a minute, can y’all imagine ol girl’s face when he asked for a spilt check?!? :shock:

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Will the Real Black Mamba Please Stand Up

October 19th, 2012
1:10 pm

Hey hey folks. Yep…2 days in a row..I’m dropping in. Apocolypse is a coming right?

“which is why I always make sure I have money on a date..regardless of who asked whom. And I like to drive my own car so just in case dude acted up I could always get ghost”
SASSY….. girl you ARE my sista from anotha mista!

“Speaking for myself, yes and yes. If I’m digging you, I’m paying. And I’m picking you up, and opening doors and offering my arm while walking, etc., etc., etc”
SWISS….I guess “New Boo” is diggin’ ya’ girl because he does all of that for. He believes in picking up the tab. So once thus far..I had to put my foot down (nicely) and paid the the dinner tab. For this weekend’s dates ..tomorrow is Paranormal Estate and then a nighttime visit to the Haunted Cornfield in Upstate. I plan on doing the foot down thing some more. We are into the weird. We have been frequenting haunted hauses and off the wall exhibits. He doesn’t even care that I LOVE Battlestar Gallactica. Well he calls me a nerd. But he says I’m a hot and sexy nerd. So…I’m cool! But on the paying tip…I am very much in to OCD and home decor. So he did not take offense to me cleaning his condo. I even bought him a few items for his place that I saw when I was out shopping that I thought would go great in his home.

COMON…girl your story would make a good tv movie as a romantic comedy. Can I play the role of you?

LEGGS…go home and take a nap so you are refreshed for Steppin’. And then I will require that same action for next weekend when I come into town for Halloween. You know how the crew does it! No sleep til Brooklyn!

EXILED…nice to see your sexist nature remained the same!

¹ & :grin:

October 19th, 2012
1:10 pm

stealing idea from comon

Single & happy

October 19th, 2012
1:11 pm

okay it aint working

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
1:11 pm

Common- I do light office work

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
1:13 pm

Guy: Can you pay for the check? Or, maybe we can split it
Girl: I would but I can’t . See, the way my bank account is set up…….

Single & happy

October 19th, 2012
1:16 pm

Used to be, Guy: Separate checks
Girl: you aint paying for mine
Guy: Nope
Girl: you cheap MF
Guy: uh huh byotch

¹ & :-D

October 19th, 2012
1:18 pm

work work work

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
1:23 pm

COMON…girl your story would make a good tv movie as a romantic comedy. Can I play the role of you?

Mamba: Steal away. If you need some tips on the storyline, let me know. I am open to consultaion. :mrgreen:

S/H~ Single & :lol:

Enigma~ Check with Horizon in Marietta. I think they’re hiring.

SlimNu

October 19th, 2012
1:23 pm

So how many of yall will be rockin da boots this weekend?

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
1:23 pm

Single & Happy

October 19th, 2012
1:25 pm

comon the :-D will not show up :–((

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
1:26 pm

Comon — You know me, I’m an equal opportunity puddy ponderer. ;-)

‘Sup, Willie D? [raises glass of whiskey]

Mamba — Glad to hear your new boo knows how to treat you. :) And, he’s right, you are a hot & sexy nerd. If I were a single man, I’d definitely dress you up in a little Catholic school girl outfit & give you the hearty spanking you deserve… :lol:

Sassy — That’s why Mrs. Swiss loves me — gentleman in the streets, straight up freak in the sheets… :lol:

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

October 19th, 2012
1:26 pm

@Slim

Does that mean what it used to mean back in the Jodeci days?

¹ & :lol:

October 19th, 2012
1:27 pm

Comon we’re going to put you story on lifetime :-D

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
1:28 pm

the apartments?

Thank you so much for the lead btw

Comon ¢ Δ

October 19th, 2012
1:30 pm

How bout this one, S/H?

Comon ¢ Δ

October 19th, 2012
1:30 pm

Enigma~ No, it is a temp service in East Cobb. They get lots of temp to perm positions. One of our paralegals came from there.

¹ & :lol:

October 19th, 2012
1:31 pm

Comon it works for you :roll:

Why does the blog keep eating my post

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
1:31 pm

swiss, so the next time I see EOPP I know what it means… :lol:

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
1:32 pm

Oh okay Common!! Thank you :-)

Comon ¢- Maybe 1 & ◊

October 19th, 2012
1:33 pm

Enter your comments here

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
1:34 pm

I am ready to go!!!! But I can’t because I have a new client meeting at 4. :(

Single and Happy

October 19th, 2012
1:36 pm

Comon I give when I try to change the blog keeps eating my post.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
1:37 pm

It just doesn’t like you…

Single and Happy

October 19th, 2012
1:39 pm

I guess that’s what I get for having all those different monikers :?: :twisted: 8-O :lol:

SlimNu

October 19th, 2012
1:39 pm

Dan – I was leaning more towards the H-Town days but Jodeci works as well. ;-)

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 19th, 2012
1:39 pm

That’s why Mrs. Swiss loves me — gentleman in the streets, straight up freak in the sheets…

Ain’t nuthin wrong with that :lol:

So how many of yall will be rockin da boots this weekend?

I looove that song…I remember going to see H-Town at the Civic Center waaaaay back when they came to Atl. It also reminds me of a serious session with Mr. Bermuda back when we were in college…looooong siiiiigh :oops:

Now that we’ve re-connected we still talk/laugh about it once in a while..

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
1:41 pm

Hey Swiss…what kind of Whiskey?

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 19th, 2012
1:43 pm

I am ready to go!!!!

Me,too but unfortunately I’m in the middle of an experiment so I’ve got to wait.

Now I’ve got that song in my head and I’m reminscing about the good ole days. I remember when I had my first Blue Muthaf@#$a…couldn’t tell me sht.

Mamba what it do mami!!!

Willie Dynamite

October 19th, 2012
1:43 pm

Swiss- who you got? SC or UF? Sorry to take away from your puddy angle.

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
1:45 pm

Comon ¢- Maybe 1 & ◊- is this a moniker stealer?

Bluzgirl

October 19th, 2012
1:46 pm

I’m so ready to go, even though I’m working my second job right after I leave this one! Boo!!!

O/T – Can you believe they charge $10 for a 24 oz beer at the Tabernacle? My friend and I each bought two, but then others bought us beer the rest of the night! :-)

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
1:46 pm

Willie D — I think your Gators take care of bidness tomorrow. (And I’m not just saying that because we need you to to have any hope of staying in the East — I really think you’ll win)

Jake — Makers. You thirsty, my friend?

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
1:49 pm

Ok Common..had to come back after reading ur history on the marriages:

Question: when did u get the Albertina,before meeting husband or after meeting him and stating with him?

Sorry, that thang been playing tricks on ma mind! :lol:

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
1:50 pm

Enigma~ Not a moniker stealer; I was playing at S/H.

I think the Gaytors are going down tomorrow… IJS.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
1:52 pm

Ex I got the Albertina during bike week in 2001 or 02. I was with my husband’s sisters so it was after we had hooked up the firt time. We got together the 1st time (like TOGETHER) in 1999.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

October 19th, 2012
1:52 pm

Oh…

So, me the wife and friends hear “H-town performing” on the radio bout a year ago, and head out. Well, the one that could sing has died, and his brother and the other dude were performing.

Bad singing messes with my head, so me and the wife left, only to get this text:

“Good thing you left before the baby oil came out bruh”

I had blocked out that experience till just now…

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
1:54 pm

S/H — Emoticons only work in the message body; not in the handle. The other little symbols (anything starting with an ampersand) are actually HTML unicode or ASCII characters, so they’ll work anywhere.

kimmie

October 19th, 2012
1:55 pm

Hey Dan! Meant to speak earlier!!

I so agree with what you said about discussions about finances – in a RELATIONSHIP! I read awhile back that money issues are the #1 reason for divorce, not infidelity.

I am talking about a DATE! Especially the first few, when you have not even established anything! See the dating stuff – that should be easy and uncomplicated. We’re out to get to know each other and enjoy ourselves. I don’t mind treating, ask my hubs about that. But hangling over a little dinner, naw keep it. So tired. Have a little finese, a little class. Like I said earlier, good manners are FREE.

Willie – to your 1st post, you and I think alike.

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
1:56 pm

Good Choice Swiss, you ever take that trial run with Jameson we discussed, if not, you really should…as for thirstyness, hittin a Happy Hour later.

what up WillieD

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
1:56 pm

:lol: @ Dan!!! I went and saw Silk, Dru Hill and Tony!Toni!Tone! last summer in Macon for my birthday. I felt the same way about Triple T. Like Harold Melvin without the Blue Notes; They ain’t NEVER going platinum! :lol:

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
1:58 pm

S/H — Or to better explain that, emoticons are not standard HTML, they’re non-standard character combinations that the blogging software recognizes and converts into the cutesy faces you see. So, for those, the blogging software alone controls where those will “work.” The other characters (those prefaced with an ampersand) are standard HTML, and thus work anywhere.

Tequila

October 19th, 2012
2:00 pm

This topic is always tricky. I think if you all are friends then ok fine but if dating then I don’t know so much. I feel if you are dating then he should pay for at least the first and second date. Now if he tells you ahead of time funds are low then that’s fine. But then again in todays time things are rough for everybody so some people may find going dutch works for them. If going dutch works for you try http://www.greatdatedeals.com.

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
2:00 pm

Common…u read like u have such a wonderful personality..for a lawyer(that I imagine is involved in quarrelsome fights in court and painted as such by some folks)

I like ur blog persona really!

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
2:04 pm

Jake — I haven’t yet, but next time I hit the likka store to restock, I’m going to pick up a bottle.

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
2:07 pm

I’m Jameson’s unofficial spokesman….speaking of Whiskey, I tried the Jack Honey this weekend, it was suprisingly good.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:09 pm

Ex~ I like to think I have a good personality. But, some of the people I come up against in court would tell you I’m a straight up b!tch. (and I can be. No denying that) :lol: But generally, I am fun.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:10 pm

Jake~ I prefer Bushmill’s Irish myself. I like the Jack Honey but the alcohol content is not high enough (Did I just say that out loud? :lol: )

But, on the day to day, I am a Gentleman Jack & Coke drinker.

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
2:11 pm

um….exactly how long is a root canal supposed to hurt?
I week later- I still hurt :sad:

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
2:12 pm

Heard about the Jack Honey- must try

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
2:13 pm

Yesterday afternoon,while i was at work,my young(businessman) brother texts and asks,’whose daughter is Naomi X? X being my mom’s folks last name. I told him I didnt know and asked ‘why’

He didn’t tell me.

He calls me last nite,we yikking and yakking bout this and that but he asks me the same question. I tell him and I don’t know..ours is such a Big extended family.

He tells me said chic posted an abomination on facebook. I asked what?

Folks! Is Slim here? :lol:

It’s no laughing matter really..kinda Sad actually considering she is my fam.

Chic posted a whole body shot of her,I guess coz I couldn’t tell their pics apart..

She’s naked…lying down and she poses and crosses her legs in such a way that her shaved pudy and azz are in plain sight! :shock:

I muttered some choice words on the comments section.

Yes,Meelo got some Ho s in his fame too! :.lol:

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:14 pm

Enigma~ Don’t know. I’ve never had one.

Off/Topic~ Maybe you should consider changing your moniker to Enigma. I think that one has stuck.

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
2:15 pm

Me.lo — C’mon man. You and I both know Comon could be a straight up beeyotch all the time on here & you’d still like her blog persona as long as she has that Albertina… :lol:

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

October 19th, 2012
2:17 pm

@Mrs. Kimmie – salud!

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
2:18 pm

what to do what to …

option a) happy hour after work

option b) speed dating event

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
2:19 pm

Swiss…ofcourse!! :lol:

A beyeotch is only that after declining my advances.

Willie Dynamite

October 19th, 2012
2:19 pm

Hey Kimmie

Jake- sup, been a min homie

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
2:20 pm

Chicken Marsala Ravioli’s ARE THE BOMB!!!!!!! :lol:

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
2:21 pm

The artist formely known as I used to be here before

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
2:21 pm

Comon, i respect a girl who doesn’t mind a lil Whiskey…Bushmill’s, only had it once, can’t really judge it yet, what i don’t like that is popular is Glenlivet’s…but Booker’s or Four Roses isn’t bad either…

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:22 pm

C’mon man. You and I both know Comon could be a straight up beeyotch all the time on here & you’d still like her blog persona as long as she has that Albertina

He’ll like me even better when I let him know how to talk the Queen into getting the Albertina… :lol:

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:23 pm

Enigma! I ♥ it!

Speed dating? Blech! :???:

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:24 pm

Sweet Peeda~ I not only don’t mind it, there are times when I demand it… :lol:

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
2:25 pm

the Buckhead Bottle Bar&Bistro will be taken off its chain in exactly 3 hours, and 35 minutes.

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
2:25 pm

So mamba gave me a shout out..hey Mamba!

Me sexist? :???: hmmmm

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
2:26 pm

Comon- the Whiskey or the Peeda…or a combination of both…hehehe

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
2:26 pm

Comon — BTW, I have this image of you and your sis-in-laws sitting around at all the family gatherings comparing/admiring each other’s p u s s i e s. Please don’t spoil my beautiful dream… :lol:

disco

October 19th, 2012
2:28 pm

y’all got me thinking about mel waiters. I came out to have a good time…. I got my money, and I got my whiskey. lol.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:29 pm

Sweet Peeda~ Both! Definitely!

swiss~ I’ll never tell. You know a laaady doesn’t do that… Shhhh!

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
2:30 pm

Swiss-you gonna take us there whether we volunteering for Freaky Friday or not, hey let me borrow that dream when you finish, but wipe it off first.

DuShawn

October 19th, 2012
2:31 pm

I’ve been in meetings all f&ckin day. I shoulda been outta here. I’m about to escape like Kunta on they azz……….Im about to tear out this mufukka so fast, papers gonna be flying off peoples desk as flash by… It’s time to celebrate life……I hope they don’t cut my off on monday. .

MsAtl

October 19th, 2012
2:32 pm

Hey All! If a man invites me out to dinner, I expect that he intends to pay. However, I have also offered to pay (not on a first date). If he suggested dinner, he should have paid especially since she had the event tickets. If he wasn’t feeling her and didn’t want to go on a date, he should have declined. That’s just my opinion.
O/T- Wow Common! I haven’t been called that in court, but I have been called a monster who kicks people when they are down.

MsAtl

October 19th, 2012
2:33 pm

DuShawn- I’m crying over here because I feel the same way. I just got into the office after a several hours deposition. Been on clock since 7:30 this morning.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:34 pm

Sweet Peeda (Notice my use of SP even though it’s longer than Jake. I think I just like saying that… Where’s Sassy?!? :lol: ) We Always want to be taken there… even when we say we don’t.

Shawn~ What’s yo name boy?!?

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
2:35 pm

Okay- say you want to be somewhere where you can meet a guy.
Where is a good place to go?

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:35 pm

MsAtl~ No one has actually said it to my face, but I have heard it behind my back. I keep telling them I have spies everywhere. :lol:

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
2:35 pm

Swiss cracks me up saying likka store

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:36 pm

Where is a good place to go?

Strip Club? :lol: You know there will be lots of men there AND they’ll be really horny when they come out…

disco

October 19th, 2012
2:37 pm

mrs. atl – there is nothing wrong with kicking folks when they are down especially if you are the one that managed to knock them down in the first place. even if you didn’t knock them down it’s okay to sneak a kick or two. lol – like old boy in menace to society.

CC – is CC short for overseer? lol.

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
2:37 pm

“you gonna take us there whether we volunteering for Freaky Friday or not”

Jake — I like to think of it as strong leadership. :)

Comon / Jake — I’ve got to take advantage of all the mental images I can muster — that bun in the oven is severely rationing my real-life puddy supply… :cry:

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:37 pm

Seriously, don’t worry about meeting a guy. Go somewhere YOU want to go and have a good time and the guys will find you. #truestory

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:38 pm

swiss~ I’ll upload you some footage on Spotify later… Shhh! :lol:

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:38 pm

LMMFAO @ disco’s 2:37! I’m right there with you girl!

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
2:40 pm

I took notice, and I like it, I like it a lot…

Enigma-Buckhead Bottle Bar & Bistro in exactly 3 hours & 20 mins….look for the tall dark chocolate bald head that you just want to bite.

disco

October 19th, 2012
2:41 pm

CC – re guys will find you. ask me why I saw a night of the living dead image of a bunch of zombie busters chasing a chick. “hey girl. come back here. why you running?”. okay. it’s official. I’m tired.

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
2:43 pm

Comon — Speaking of spotify, what’s your handle there? Or better yet, if you still have mine, send me a message on there so I can check out some of your… uh… playlists. Yeah, that’s the ticket…. :lol:

MsAtl

October 19th, 2012
2:48 pm

Common- it wasn’t said to my face; it was posted on the internet! Lol
Disco- Most times when you are the opposing party, they will make that claim. Hey- I have a job to do and I am going to do my job. I am not going to go easy on you when the law supports my position. Now, if my position is wrong, I will do what I have to do b/c I am not going to deceive the court.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:54 pm

swiss~ No handle on Spotify, just my name (but I will send you a message so you can check out my playlists… :lol: )

Single and Happy

October 19th, 2012
2:57 pm

thanks Swiss

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:58 pm

MsAtl~ Or those rachet azz beyotches who file a grievance with the State Bar because you lost their case. (Really dude?!?) I’ve only had one and it was dismissed the same day it was filed so I didn’t have to do anything, but still…

Single and Happy

October 19th, 2012
2:59 pm

Comon, you know we’ll sue you if you don’t win our case (LOL)

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:59 pm

disco~ While you joke, back in the day if dude had no job, no teeth, no place to stay and looked like a throwback from the 70’s, he was trying to talk to me. :lol:

Single and Happy

October 19th, 2012
3:00 pm

Image of Diary of a Mad Black Woman, “you better get me off or else”

Single and Happy

October 19th, 2012
3:01 pm

Comon back in the day you mean Yesterday (LOL)

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
3:04 pm

S/h~ Shiiiittt. I mean today! :lol:

kimmie

October 19th, 2012
3:06 pm

Come on now Comon! If you were single, wouldn’t you think he at least had potential? :lol:

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
3:12 pm

kimmie~ You actually just made me :lol: and snort ver unladylike at my desk. He has the potential to be a stalker. If he had any other potential, it expired 20 years ago.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
3:14 pm

And IDK, let’s ask single. Does he have potential? :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

October 19th, 2012
3:15 pm

Ok, I’m officially done today. I can understand that people comprehend in different ways, but after presenting and explaining the same thing 10 different ways I start thinking you just don’t WANT to understand. Who got the drinks flowing? I’m ready. lol

MsAtl

October 19th, 2012
3:16 pm

Common & single- they’ve been watching too much tv. That’s the only place where the attorneys win every single case, no matter how crappy it is. In real life, sometimes you even win good cases depending on your argument, witnesses and judge.

Willie Dynamite

October 19th, 2012
3:20 pm

Ok popping back in. Out and about, either my horns are up or it seems like the Ladies out today are really ready for the weekend. That was a pretty good outing.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
3:21 pm

DM~ Sounds like the class I taught on Wednesday… :lol: I had a chick in there that I wanted to stangle by the end of the night. And swiss has a new co-worker that falls into that category too. I think that we should just remove all the warning labels and let Darwinism sort it out…

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
3:22 pm

MsAtl~ Even tv has gotten hip to that though. Now their lawyers lose some cases too. What do they call it? The CSI effect? :lol:

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
3:24 pm

random thoughts: Did I use too much heat when I flat ironed my hair? what is that burning smell?
:shock:

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
3:27 pm

yelping Buckhead bottle Bar and Bistro
hmmmm—maybe I will try it

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
3:27 pm

swiss~ You still here?

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
3:28 pm

On another note, another interesting hangout spot is Vanquish Lounge (Bobby V, live tonight), live band, nice atmosphere and its right next to Club Reign so its very busy on a Friday evening….but watch out for those people who are in their own video in their mind…makes me laugh a bit. last time I went, the crowd was impressive.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
3:29 pm

Enigma and Jake about to have the off blog hook-up… :lol:

Enigma~ Let me know if he is really sweet peeda jeeda the womb beater, you hear? :mrgreen:

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
3:35 pm

Common- at your 2:36. Um……NO! :evil:

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
3:36 pm

Common- I go places all the time by myself were I want to go and I do things I want to do.

Sadly, guys don’t find me ~Taylor Swift after Kanye took the mic~

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
3:37 pm

Comon,…you are welcome to join in…lets make it a threesome?

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
3:37 pm

Enigma~ so, you’re saying no to my 2:36 but yes to my 3:29?

See, Jake, I’m looking out for you… Bout to be the blog pimp up in here! MsAtl~ How much time will that get me? :lol:

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
3:37 pm

Jake- what’s the crowd like?

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
3:38 pm

LOL at Disco’s 2:24

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
3:39 pm

I’m confused.
Common are you male or female :?:

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
3:39 pm

Sweet Peeda… while your offer is VERY tempting, I think I told you I don’t play well in a group… :oops:

Enigma~ If they’re not finding you, it’s time to find out why. Seriously, in a city where women outnumber men 6-1, I have NEVER had a problem finding a man or a date. So, it has to be something you’re doing. IJS…

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
3:40 pm

Female all day (and night) long.

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
3:41 pm

I mean lol at Disco’s 2:41

Will the Real Black Mamba Please Stand Up

October 19th, 2012
3:44 pm

COMON…..AA called. They said that they miss you!

I USED TO BE HERE…it should not hurt that long. You may need to go back to the oral surgeon.

SWISS…the bun is on Puddy Patrol. She is NOT trying to be hit in the head. It’s still soft!

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
3:45 pm

Common- I noticed that I guys kinda stopped hollering the closer I got to GOD.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
3:45 pm

Mamba~ I would say I’m an alcoholic but they go to meetings. :lol: My meetings happen at the bar. Does that count?

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
3:46 pm

Enigma~ I didn’t have that problem either. I’m very close to God and still had no trouble finding a man. If that’s what you’re looking for, why not go to church to find a man instead of the bar? IJS…

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
3:47 pm

however, I met guys all the time when I went to online dating sites but I gave that a rest

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
3:49 pm

The scary feeling when you start to wonder if the dentist did your root canal the right way
:shock:

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
3:51 pm

Will, the pain is random
It comes and goes

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
3:52 pm

Common- there are way more single women at my church than there are single men.
Most of the men are married.

Honestly- meeting guys yeah, not a problem. I just mean specifically, meeting guys that want to settle down- yeah that’s my problem

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
3:54 pm

Enigma-Can’t speak on the Bottle Bar, this will be my first venture here, but the ambiance looks good, and I am adding me so it should be straight (lol..I aint conceited, but I show up to show out)…..Vanquish is really nice, laid back initially, turns into a party about 10ish, but its lounge for real so there no big dance floor, gotta do it in the walkways…my type of party.

I would also recommend my favorite place to party, becuase people really actually come to have a good time, no bull….The Pearl Bistro, you will hear some Luke & Clay D before the night ends, a real jam.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
3:57 pm

Enigma~ Well, obviously they all want to settle down with me, hence the 3 marriages. :lol:

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
3:58 pm

Common- there are way more single women at my church than there are single men.

Maybe it’s time for a new church? :lol:

I kid, I kid…

Will the Real Black Mamba Please Stand Up

October 19th, 2012
4:03 pm

COMON…I say alcholics go to meetings. So that makes me a drunk!

ENIGMA….sad to say, that during years of living in ATL. I came across guys who were looking for the “girlfriend experience” but did not want to commit. I’m talking the run of the mill “HEAUX”! So I figured…I woudl not let them catch me out there h0rny. Me and my B.O.B (battery operated boyfriend) were the best of lovers. So now I could go out on a date and not end up with wet knickers because he smile and quoted “Lady Marmalade” in my ear. TMI…right?

Single and Happy (LG Life is good)

October 19th, 2012
4:04 pm

“And IDK, let’s ask single. Does he have potential? ” yes he has potential if broke and homeless is what you’re looking for :-D

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
4:04 pm

Enigma-On some real, keep getting closer to God, you will find that it drives away the beast, but you will never find a guy that wants to settle down…its not what we want to do….

Men settle down when they make the mistake of falling in love with somone they can’t live without, we don’t really seek to settle down, it happens to us.

MsAtl

October 19th, 2012
4:08 pm

Common- it depends on how you spin your services, lol. Are they companion services? I think Michael Baisden’s “Maintenance Man” may assist you.

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
4:09 pm

Yeah Common- you are like the golden hen when it comes to marriages

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
4:10 pm

“Men settle down when they make the mistake of falling in love with somone they can’t live without”

so, I just gotta be someone’s mistake :lol:

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
4:13 pm

Comon — Yep, still here. Had to step away for a minute… Whatchu need…?

Mamba — Mini-Swissette’s head might still be soft, but daddy’s head is H A R D. She just needs to scooch over and let it slide on by — no harm, no foul. :lol:

Single and Happy (LG Life is good)

October 19th, 2012
4:13 pm

“Men settle down when they make the mistake of falling in love with somone they can’t live without”
Hmm guess I don’t make mistakes (LOL)

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
4:14 pm

swiss~ I need a drank… and none of that p!ss water you gave me last week. You hear?!?

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
4:15 pm

Well, damn, Jake, I guess they just can’t live without me… Hmmm, if that’s the case, why do I have to deal with ex-husbands? Shouldn’t they be dead since I left them? :lol:

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
4:15 pm

“I need a drank… and none of that p!ss water you gave me last week.”

Comon — I thought you liked R. Kelly?

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 19th, 2012
4:16 pm

Eeeew Swiss….

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
4:17 pm

“I guess they just can’t live without me”

Wouldn’t it have been better if you waited for the one instead of fining him after two divorces?

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
4:17 pm

Its a beautiful mistake though….one that he is happy he makes!

Single and Happy (LG Life is good)

October 19th, 2012
4:17 pm

comon if you’re still dealing with them that means you’re still in their lives :-D

Single and Happy (LG Life is good)

October 19th, 2012
4:18 pm

Jake happy for how long :-)

Will the Real Black Mamba Please Stand Up

October 19th, 2012
4:19 pm

SWISS…you are a complete looney! LMAO I love it!

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
4:21 pm

Comon-but then, when you live with, you realize you were wrong, and try without again….lol

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
4:21 pm

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
4:23 pm

Enigma~ No. Because I wouldn’t be who I am today without those two divorces and I A) like who I am now and B) wouldn’t appreciate what I have without having gone through those horrible marriages.

swiss~ You stoopid! I’m gonna p!ss on you. I’ll pee on you. I’ll p!ss on you” :lol:

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
4:31 pm

ok Common- i’m glad you grew from it
I’m out beautiful people- have a good one

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 19th, 2012
4:31 pm

Comon if you do that he’s gonna like you…

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
4:31 pm

You headed to the Buckhead Bottle Bar? :lol:

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
4:32 pm

aight folks, time to wash the truck, wipe the tires, thrown on the shades, and “Glide”…Watch out Streets, bout to ride ya’ll this weekend!!!

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
4:32 pm

Sassy~ How you think I ended up married three times? :lol:

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
4:34 pm

Bye Enigma & Jake. Don’t y’all do anything I wouldn’t would do…

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
4:35 pm

Off Topic~ My client is oficially late and I am irritated… :evil:

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
4:37 pm

Sassy / Comon — Am I really that transparent? :lol:

Alright, folks, swiss out! Y’all be good. And if you can’t be good, be good at it.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
4:37 pm

swiss~ I’m always good. I just didn’t say what I’m good at… :lol:

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 19th, 2012
4:40 pm

And if you can’t be good, be good at it.

True!!

I’ll holla!!!!

Have a grrreat weekend errbody!!!!! :mrgreen:

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
4:45 pm

Fixed!!!

:lol:

Y’all have a good weekend! ;)

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 19th, 2012
4:45 pm

Will the Real Black Mamba Please Stand Up

October 19th, 2012
4:48 pm

Alrighty folks…..stay out of trouble. Well at least Don’t Get Caught!

Nikki K.

October 19th, 2012
4:59 pm

Since dinner was his idea, then he should pay, unless it was discussed prior to the outing. The inviter should pay for the invitee. There should not be a third date. He is setting a precedent. If he can’t disclose that he expects to go Dutch for the evening regardless of his reasons, then how can it be expected for him to discuss more important issues (the kind that relationships are built on). Next…

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
5:57 pm

I might check out BBB. Right now, I’m at a spot in the Perimeter

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
5:59 pm

My bad. Old.name comes.up on the mobile. This spot is a taxi fest :cry:

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
6:00 pm

Typo, taco fest. :cry: