When men don’t pay..
One of our readers had a second date with a guy she thought was really nice. At the end of the date, he asked her for her portion of the bill. She was bothered by this and is not quite sure what to make of it. What does it mean when a man does not pay for a date?
Their outing was her idea because she was gifted free tickets to an event through work. Getting dinner before the event was his idea, though. So, she feels that he should have paid for her for two reasons: He is the guy and is pursuing her. The date activity was no cost to him because of her work connection.
Fellas, if you don’t pay for a woman, is that a reflection on what you think of her, or how you feel about her?
Ladies, why do we freak out when men don’t spend money on us? What do we think or feel, when a guy spends his money generously – to impress/woo us?
Happy Friday everyone!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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382 comments Add your comment
disco
October 19th, 2012
2:41 pm
CC – re guys will find you. ask me why I saw a night of the living dead image of a bunch of zombie busters chasing a chick. “hey girl. come back here. why you running?”. okay. it’s official. I’m tired.
i'm swiss
October 19th, 2012
2:43 pm
Comon — Speaking of spotify, what’s your handle there? Or better yet, if you still have mine, send me a message on there so I can check out some of your… uh… playlists. Yeah, that’s the ticket….
MsAtl
October 19th, 2012
2:48 pm
Common- it wasn’t said to my face; it was posted on the internet! Lol
Disco- Most times when you are the opposing party, they will make that claim. Hey- I have a job to do and I am going to do my job. I am not going to go easy on you when the law supports my position. Now, if my position is wrong, I will do what I have to do b/c I am not going to deceive the court.
Comon ¢
October 19th, 2012
2:54 pm
swiss~ No handle on Spotify, just my name (but I will send you a message so you can check out my playlists…
)
Single and Happy
October 19th, 2012
2:57 pm
thanks Swiss
Comon ¢
October 19th, 2012
2:58 pm
MsAtl~ Or those rachet azz beyotches who file a grievance with the State Bar because you lost their case. (Really dude?!?) I’ve only had one and it was dismissed the same day it was filed so I didn’t have to do anything, but still…
Single and Happy
October 19th, 2012
2:59 pm
Comon, you know we’ll sue you if you don’t win our case (LOL)
Comon ¢
October 19th, 2012
2:59 pm
disco~ While you joke, back in the day if dude had no job, no teeth, no place to stay and looked like a throwback from the 70’s, he was trying to talk to me.
Single and Happy
October 19th, 2012
3:00 pm
Image of Diary of a Mad Black Woman, “you better get me off or else”
Single and Happy
October 19th, 2012
3:01 pm
Comon back in the day you mean Yesterday (LOL)
Comon ¢
October 19th, 2012
3:04 pm
S/h~ Shiiiittt. I mean today!
kimmie
October 19th, 2012
3:06 pm
Come on now Comon! If you were single, wouldn’t you think he at least had potential?
Comon ¢
October 19th, 2012
3:12 pm
kimmie~ You actually just made me
and snort ver unladylike at my desk. He has the potential to be a stalker. If he had any other potential, it expired 20 years ago.
Comon ¢
October 19th, 2012
3:14 pm
And IDK, let’s ask single. Does he have potential?
DreamsMaterialize
October 19th, 2012
3:15 pm
Ok, I’m officially done today. I can understand that people comprehend in different ways, but after presenting and explaining the same thing 10 different ways I start thinking you just don’t WANT to understand. Who got the drinks flowing? I’m ready. lol
MsAtl
October 19th, 2012
3:16 pm
Common & single- they’ve been watching too much tv. That’s the only place where the attorneys win every single case, no matter how crappy it is. In real life, sometimes you even win good cases depending on your argument, witnesses and judge.
Willie Dynamite
October 19th, 2012
3:20 pm
Ok popping back in. Out and about, either my horns are up or it seems like the Ladies out today are really ready for the weekend. That was a pretty good outing.
Comon ¢
October 19th, 2012
3:21 pm
DM~ Sounds like the class I taught on Wednesday…
I had a chick in there that I wanted to stangle by the end of the night. And swiss has a new co-worker that falls into that category too. I think that we should just remove all the warning labels and let Darwinism sort it out…
Comon ¢
October 19th, 2012
3:22 pm
MsAtl~ Even tv has gotten hip to that though. Now their lawyers lose some cases too. What do they call it? The CSI effect?
Enigma
October 19th, 2012
3:24 pm
random thoughts: Did I use too much heat when I flat ironed my hair? what is that burning smell?
Enigma
October 19th, 2012
3:27 pm
yelping Buckhead bottle Bar and Bistro
hmmmm—maybe I will try it
Comon ¢
October 19th, 2012
3:27 pm
swiss~ You still here?
Jake-SPJTWB
October 19th, 2012
3:28 pm
On another note, another interesting hangout spot is Vanquish Lounge (Bobby V, live tonight), live band, nice atmosphere and its right next to Club Reign so its very busy on a Friday evening….but watch out for those people who are in their own video in their mind…makes me laugh a bit. last time I went, the crowd was impressive.
Comon ¢
October 19th, 2012
3:29 pm
Enigma and Jake about to have the off blog hook-up…
Enigma~ Let me know if he is really sweet peeda jeeda the womb beater, you hear?
Enigma
October 19th, 2012
3:35 pm
Common- at your 2:36. Um……NO!
Enigma
October 19th, 2012
3:36 pm
Common- I go places all the time by myself were I want to go and I do things I want to do.
Sadly, guys don’t find me ~Taylor Swift after Kanye took the mic~
Jake-SPJTWB
October 19th, 2012
3:37 pm
Comon,…you are welcome to join in…lets make it a threesome?
Comon ¢
October 19th, 2012
3:37 pm
Enigma~ so, you’re saying no to my 2:36 but yes to my 3:29?
See, Jake, I’m looking out for you… Bout to be the blog pimp up in here! MsAtl~ How much time will that get me?
Enigma
October 19th, 2012
3:37 pm
Jake- what’s the crowd like?
Enigma
October 19th, 2012
3:38 pm
LOL at Disco’s 2:24
Enigma
October 19th, 2012
3:39 pm
I’m confused.
Common are you male or female
Comon ¢
October 19th, 2012
3:39 pm
Sweet Peeda… while your offer is VERY tempting, I think I told you I don’t play well in a group…
Enigma~ If they’re not finding you, it’s time to find out why. Seriously, in a city where women outnumber men 6-1, I have NEVER had a problem finding a man or a date. So, it has to be something you’re doing. IJS…
Comon ¢
October 19th, 2012
3:40 pm
Female all day (and night) long.
Enigma
October 19th, 2012
3:41 pm
I mean lol at Disco’s 2:41
Will the Real Black Mamba Please Stand Up
October 19th, 2012
3:44 pm
COMON…..AA called. They said that they miss you!
I USED TO BE HERE…it should not hurt that long. You may need to go back to the oral surgeon.
SWISS…the bun is on Puddy Patrol. She is NOT trying to be hit in the head. It’s still soft!
Enigma
October 19th, 2012
3:45 pm
Common- I noticed that I guys kinda stopped hollering the closer I got to GOD.
Comon ¢
October 19th, 2012
3:45 pm
Mamba~ I would say I’m an alcoholic but they go to meetings.
My meetings happen at the bar. Does that count?
Comon ¢
October 19th, 2012
3:46 pm
Enigma~ I didn’t have that problem either. I’m very close to God and still had no trouble finding a man. If that’s what you’re looking for, why not go to church to find a man instead of the bar? IJS…
Enigma
October 19th, 2012
3:47 pm
however, I met guys all the time when I went to online dating sites but I gave that a rest
Enigma
October 19th, 2012
3:49 pm
The scary feeling when you start to wonder if the dentist did your root canal the right way
Enigma
October 19th, 2012
3:51 pm
Will, the pain is random
It comes and goes
Enigma
October 19th, 2012
3:52 pm
Common- there are way more single women at my church than there are single men.
Most of the men are married.
Honestly- meeting guys yeah, not a problem. I just mean specifically, meeting guys that want to settle down- yeah that’s my problem
Jake-SPJTWB
October 19th, 2012
3:54 pm
Enigma-Can’t speak on the Bottle Bar, this will be my first venture here, but the ambiance looks good, and I am adding me so it should be straight (lol..I aint conceited, but I show up to show out)…..Vanquish is really nice, laid back initially, turns into a party about 10ish, but its lounge for real so there no big dance floor, gotta do it in the walkways…my type of party.
I would also recommend my favorite place to party, becuase people really actually come to have a good time, no bull….The Pearl Bistro, you will hear some Luke & Clay D before the night ends, a real jam.
Comon ¢
October 19th, 2012
3:57 pm
Enigma~ Well, obviously they all want to settle down with me, hence the 3 marriages.
Comon ¢
October 19th, 2012
3:58 pm
Common- there are way more single women at my church than there are single men.
Maybe it’s time for a new church?
I kid, I kid…
Will the Real Black Mamba Please Stand Up
October 19th, 2012
4:03 pm
COMON…I say alcholics go to meetings. So that makes me a drunk!
ENIGMA….sad to say, that during years of living in ATL. I came across guys who were looking for the “girlfriend experience” but did not want to commit. I’m talking the run of the mill “HEAUX”! So I figured…I woudl not let them catch me out there h0rny. Me and my B.O.B (battery operated boyfriend) were the best of lovers. So now I could go out on a date and not end up with wet knickers because he smile and quoted “Lady Marmalade” in my ear. TMI…right?
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
October 19th, 2012
4:04 pm
“And IDK, let’s ask single. Does he have potential? ” yes he has potential if broke and homeless is what you’re looking for
Jake-SPJTWB
October 19th, 2012
4:04 pm
Enigma-On some real, keep getting closer to God, you will find that it drives away the beast, but you will never find a guy that wants to settle down…its not what we want to do….
Men settle down when they make the mistake of falling in love with somone they can’t live without, we don’t really seek to settle down, it happens to us.
MsAtl
October 19th, 2012
4:08 pm
Common- it depends on how you spin your services, lol. Are they companion services? I think Michael Baisden’s “Maintenance Man” may assist you.
Enigma
October 19th, 2012
4:09 pm
Yeah Common- you are like the golden hen when it comes to marriages