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When men don’t pay..

One of our readers had a second date with a guy she thought was really nice. At the end of the date, he asked her for her portion of the bill. She was bothered by this and is not quite sure what to make of it. What does it mean when a man does not pay for a date?

Their outing was her idea because she was gifted free tickets to an event through work. Getting dinner before the event was his idea, though. So, she feels that he should have paid for her for two reasons: He is the guy and is pursuing her. The date activity was no cost to him because of her work connection.

Fellas, if you don’t pay for a woman, is that a reflection on what you think of her, or how you feel about her?

Ladies, why do we freak out when men don’t spend money on us? What do we think or feel, when a guy spends his money generously – to impress/woo us?

Happy Friday everyone!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

382 comments Add your comment

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
1:50 pm

Enigma~ Not a moniker stealer; I was playing at S/H.

I think the Gaytors are going down tomorrow… IJS.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
1:52 pm

Ex I got the Albertina during bike week in 2001 or 02. I was with my husband’s sisters so it was after we had hooked up the firt time. We got together the 1st time (like TOGETHER) in 1999.

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

October 19th, 2012
1:52 pm

Oh…

So, me the wife and friends hear “H-town performing” on the radio bout a year ago, and head out. Well, the one that could sing has died, and his brother and the other dude were performing.

Bad singing messes with my head, so me and the wife left, only to get this text:

“Good thing you left before the baby oil came out bruh”

I had blocked out that experience till just now…

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
1:54 pm

S/H — Emoticons only work in the message body; not in the handle. The other little symbols (anything starting with an ampersand) are actually HTML unicode or ASCII characters, so they’ll work anywhere.

kimmie

October 19th, 2012
1:55 pm

Hey Dan! Meant to speak earlier!!

I so agree with what you said about discussions about finances – in a RELATIONSHIP! I read awhile back that money issues are the #1 reason for divorce, not infidelity.

I am talking about a DATE! Especially the first few, when you have not even established anything! See the dating stuff – that should be easy and uncomplicated. We’re out to get to know each other and enjoy ourselves. I don’t mind treating, ask my hubs about that. But hangling over a little dinner, naw keep it. So tired. Have a little finese, a little class. Like I said earlier, good manners are FREE.

Willie – to your 1st post, you and I think alike.

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
1:56 pm

Good Choice Swiss, you ever take that trial run with Jameson we discussed, if not, you really should…as for thirstyness, hittin a Happy Hour later.

what up WillieD

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
1:56 pm

:lol: @ Dan!!! I went and saw Silk, Dru Hill and Tony!Toni!Tone! last summer in Macon for my birthday. I felt the same way about Triple T. Like Harold Melvin without the Blue Notes; They ain’t NEVER going platinum! :lol:

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
1:58 pm

S/H — Or to better explain that, emoticons are not standard HTML, they’re non-standard character combinations that the blogging software recognizes and converts into the cutesy faces you see. So, for those, the blogging software alone controls where those will “work.” The other characters (those prefaced with an ampersand) are standard HTML, and thus work anywhere.

Tequila

October 19th, 2012
2:00 pm

This topic is always tricky. I think if you all are friends then ok fine but if dating then I don’t know so much. I feel if you are dating then he should pay for at least the first and second date. Now if he tells you ahead of time funds are low then that’s fine. But then again in todays time things are rough for everybody so some people may find going dutch works for them. If going dutch works for you try http://www.greatdatedeals.com.

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
2:00 pm

Common…u read like u have such a wonderful personality..for a lawyer(that I imagine is involved in quarrelsome fights in court and painted as such by some folks)

I like ur blog persona really!

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
2:04 pm

Jake — I haven’t yet, but next time I hit the likka store to restock, I’m going to pick up a bottle.

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
2:07 pm

I’m Jameson’s unofficial spokesman….speaking of Whiskey, I tried the Jack Honey this weekend, it was suprisingly good.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:09 pm

Ex~ I like to think I have a good personality. But, some of the people I come up against in court would tell you I’m a straight up b!tch. (and I can be. No denying that) :lol: But generally, I am fun.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:10 pm

Jake~ I prefer Bushmill’s Irish myself. I like the Jack Honey but the alcohol content is not high enough (Did I just say that out loud? :lol: )

But, on the day to day, I am a Gentleman Jack & Coke drinker.

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
2:11 pm

um….exactly how long is a root canal supposed to hurt?
I week later- I still hurt :sad:

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
2:12 pm

Heard about the Jack Honey- must try

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
2:13 pm

Yesterday afternoon,while i was at work,my young(businessman) brother texts and asks,’whose daughter is Naomi X? X being my mom’s folks last name. I told him I didnt know and asked ‘why’

He didn’t tell me.

He calls me last nite,we yikking and yakking bout this and that but he asks me the same question. I tell him and I don’t know..ours is such a Big extended family.

He tells me said chic posted an abomination on facebook. I asked what?

Folks! Is Slim here? :lol:

It’s no laughing matter really..kinda Sad actually considering she is my fam.

Chic posted a whole body shot of her,I guess coz I couldn’t tell their pics apart..

She’s naked…lying down and she poses and crosses her legs in such a way that her shaved pudy and azz are in plain sight! :shock:

I muttered some choice words on the comments section.

Yes,Meelo got some Ho s in his fame too! :.lol:

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:14 pm

Enigma~ Don’t know. I’ve never had one.

Off/Topic~ Maybe you should consider changing your moniker to Enigma. I think that one has stuck.

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
2:15 pm

Me.lo — C’mon man. You and I both know Comon could be a straight up beeyotch all the time on here & you’d still like her blog persona as long as she has that Albertina… :lol:

The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior

October 19th, 2012
2:17 pm

@Mrs. Kimmie – salud!

I used to be here before

October 19th, 2012
2:18 pm

what to do what to …

option a) happy hour after work

option b) speed dating event

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
2:19 pm

Swiss…ofcourse!! :lol:

A beyeotch is only that after declining my advances.

Willie Dynamite

October 19th, 2012
2:19 pm

Hey Kimmie

Jake- sup, been a min homie

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
2:20 pm

Chicken Marsala Ravioli’s ARE THE BOMB!!!!!!! :lol:

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
2:21 pm

The artist formely known as I used to be here before

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
2:21 pm

Comon, i respect a girl who doesn’t mind a lil Whiskey…Bushmill’s, only had it once, can’t really judge it yet, what i don’t like that is popular is Glenlivet’s…but Booker’s or Four Roses isn’t bad either…

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:22 pm

C’mon man. You and I both know Comon could be a straight up beeyotch all the time on here & you’d still like her blog persona as long as she has that Albertina

He’ll like me even better when I let him know how to talk the Queen into getting the Albertina… :lol:

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:23 pm

Enigma! I ♥ it!

Speed dating? Blech! :???:

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:24 pm

Sweet Peeda~ I not only don’t mind it, there are times when I demand it… :lol:

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
2:25 pm

the Buckhead Bottle Bar&Bistro will be taken off its chain in exactly 3 hours, and 35 minutes.

Exiled!

October 19th, 2012
2:25 pm

So mamba gave me a shout out..hey Mamba!

Me sexist? :???: hmmmm

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
2:26 pm

Comon- the Whiskey or the Peeda…or a combination of both…hehehe

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
2:26 pm

Comon — BTW, I have this image of you and your sis-in-laws sitting around at all the family gatherings comparing/admiring each other’s p u s s i e s. Please don’t spoil my beautiful dream… :lol:

disco

October 19th, 2012
2:28 pm

y’all got me thinking about mel waiters. I came out to have a good time…. I got my money, and I got my whiskey. lol.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:29 pm

Sweet Peeda~ Both! Definitely!

swiss~ I’ll never tell. You know a laaady doesn’t do that… Shhhh!

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
2:30 pm

Swiss-you gonna take us there whether we volunteering for Freaky Friday or not, hey let me borrow that dream when you finish, but wipe it off first.

DuShawn

October 19th, 2012
2:31 pm

I’ve been in meetings all f&ckin day. I shoulda been outta here. I’m about to escape like Kunta on they azz……….Im about to tear out this mufukka so fast, papers gonna be flying off peoples desk as flash by… It’s time to celebrate life……I hope they don’t cut my off on monday. .

MsAtl

October 19th, 2012
2:32 pm

Hey All! If a man invites me out to dinner, I expect that he intends to pay. However, I have also offered to pay (not on a first date). If he suggested dinner, he should have paid especially since she had the event tickets. If he wasn’t feeling her and didn’t want to go on a date, he should have declined. That’s just my opinion.
O/T- Wow Common! I haven’t been called that in court, but I have been called a monster who kicks people when they are down.

MsAtl

October 19th, 2012
2:33 pm

DuShawn- I’m crying over here because I feel the same way. I just got into the office after a several hours deposition. Been on clock since 7:30 this morning.

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:34 pm

Sweet Peeda (Notice my use of SP even though it’s longer than Jake. I think I just like saying that… Where’s Sassy?!? :lol: ) We Always want to be taken there… even when we say we don’t.

Shawn~ What’s yo name boy?!?

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
2:35 pm

Okay- say you want to be somewhere where you can meet a guy.
Where is a good place to go?

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:35 pm

MsAtl~ No one has actually said it to my face, but I have heard it behind my back. I keep telling them I have spies everywhere. :lol:

Enigma

October 19th, 2012
2:35 pm

Swiss cracks me up saying likka store

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:36 pm

Where is a good place to go?

Strip Club? :lol: You know there will be lots of men there AND they’ll be really horny when they come out…

disco

October 19th, 2012
2:37 pm

mrs. atl – there is nothing wrong with kicking folks when they are down especially if you are the one that managed to knock them down in the first place. even if you didn’t knock them down it’s okay to sneak a kick or two. lol – like old boy in menace to society.

CC – is CC short for overseer? lol.

i'm swiss

October 19th, 2012
2:37 pm

“you gonna take us there whether we volunteering for Freaky Friday or not”

Jake — I like to think of it as strong leadership. :)

Comon / Jake — I’ve got to take advantage of all the mental images I can muster — that bun in the oven is severely rationing my real-life puddy supply… :cry:

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:37 pm

Seriously, don’t worry about meeting a guy. Go somewhere YOU want to go and have a good time and the guys will find you. #truestory

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:38 pm

swiss~ I’ll upload you some footage on Spotify later… Shhh! :lol:

Comon ¢

October 19th, 2012
2:38 pm

LMMFAO @ disco’s 2:37! I’m right there with you girl!

Jake-SPJTWB

October 19th, 2012
2:40 pm

I took notice, and I like it, I like it a lot…

Enigma-Buckhead Bottle Bar & Bistro in exactly 3 hours & 20 mins….look for the tall dark chocolate bald head that you just want to bite.