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Are you anti-PDA?

Have you ever been out in public and noticed a really obnoxious couple who are taking “public displays of affection” too far? A lot of people don’t mind seeing a couple happy and in love. It’s the couples who are in lust, that annoy everyone!

Most days, when I am not all “down will love” I can appreciate seeing two people happy to be with one another. I just think there is a certain line you shouldn’t cross. At some point, you really should go get a room.

Oddly enough, I don’t require a lot of PDA from men I date but I don’t like it when they are completely anti-PDA. Why would you not want to publicly show me affection? Are you afraid of being secretly filmed by the show Cheaters? Then I get all paranoid and start acting irrationally with over the top PDA to prove a point (I know, I have issues).

What is your stance on PDA? Are you for or against it? Have you ever dated someone who was not affectionate enough or was into PDA too much?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

439 comments Add your comment

Leggs

October 17th, 2012
12:13 pm

I think Binders would be a nice name for a strip club! You’re bound to pay a high arse bill when you walk through the doors!

Leggs

October 17th, 2012
12:15 pm

Awww, sorry for the bad news, Bluz!

Comon Cents

October 17th, 2012
12:15 pm

Sorry about Crimson, Bluz. I hope everything comes out ok.

Comon Cents

October 17th, 2012
12:16 pm

I want to open a bar and call it the “Drunk Donkey”

Leggs

October 17th, 2012
12:22 pm

Might be a bit misleading, Comon. Some may think it encourages Bestiality. I would take that chance (lol).

Leggs

October 17th, 2012
12:22 pm

I wouldn’t….

Bluzgirl

October 17th, 2012
12:23 pm

Thanks ya’ll. I’m a bit bummed. On a positive note, the vet didn’t charge me anything. I think she felt bad that she can’t remove it…

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 17th, 2012
12:28 pm

Afternoon blog familia :mrgreen:

Not much to add to the topic. I’m for PDA but do keep in mind you’re in public and be respectful to others. Plus there are clever ways to get away with more without being seen or obscene.

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 17th, 2012
12:29 pm

Oh wait…I apologize. Did I interrupt a therapy session?

MsAtl

October 17th, 2012
12:29 pm

Afternoon all!
Leggs- I was at a club earlier this year and the female got up on stage and took off ALL of her clothes and let another female hump her. I am talking ALL! In the club. I was mortified for her. The sad part is that when she was dressed again, she was still alone; no guy even bought her a drink. I hope these are isolated instances.
Used- same here with the hand sanitizer. Can you even imagine how many times we shake hands in a day? I imagine Common has the same issue- especially at the courthouse.

I have no issue with a little pda (hand holding, pecks) but would not want to be subject to a frisk.

Bluzgirl

October 17th, 2012
12:30 pm

Seriously Sassy…read the comments before you chime in…

Leggs

October 17th, 2012
12:37 pm

Are you serious, Ms.Atl! I hope she didn’t expect any man to buy her a drink after that. A slut is a slut is a slut and when you’re slutting and disrespectful like that in public no telling who and where you’ve been. You might as well walk around with “P L A G U E” written across your forehead.

Comon Cents

October 17th, 2012
12:42 pm

MsAtl~ I hate that about court. All that hand shaking! And there are several prosecutors I can think of off the top of my head that I KNOW don’t wash their hands after going to the bathroom. Just ewwww… Don’t even make me think about it!

Leggs~ Not as uncommon as one might hope. The girl at the Bounce stuck out to me, but I have seen this more times than I would like to recollect. Some of them, I just wonder if my eyes are supposed to bleed after seeing them.

MsAtl

October 17th, 2012
12:44 pm

Leggs- I am dead serious. My friend actually apologized for taking me there. It was the first time for either of us & we were all (3 of us) a little shocked. Okay, heck, a lot shocked. Then on my way to the rest room, I felt a female hand on my breast. It was time to kick rocks! Note to self- I am too old for hip hop clubs!
Oh & thanks for using the term correctly. I am tired of correcting folks & letting them know it is BESTiality, not BEASTiality.

Comon Cents

October 17th, 2012
12:46 pm

OK, just got a call from the hubs and I must bogart the topic for a minute. I think I mentioned that the hubs is a chef. Of course, he works in a restaurant. There is this chickee at his job that has been calling and texting him for about 2 months now. Nothing out of the way but I still don’t get the need for contact outside of the job. Anyway, the hubs just called me and wanted to know if I want to go to her birthday party (apparently she invited him) and I told him I would call him back. I just feel some kind of way about chick calling/texting a man she KNOWS is married and trying to hang out with him. Ergo, I don’t really want to go to her party. On the other hand, he could be trying to make a statement to her by bringing me to her party. IDK… What y’all think?

Into the Light

October 17th, 2012
12:46 pm

Bluz, I am so sorry to hear about Crimson. We’ll keep hoping for the best!

Mrs. SexyCool

October 17th, 2012
12:47 pm

I saw an FB post the other day that said, “If you keep dancing for these bands, you will never dance with these bands.”

Top picture was money bound by rubber bands. Bottom picture was wedding bands.

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 17th, 2012
12:48 pm

read the comments before you chime in…

Bluz don’t come for me, hunty. Hell you go back and re-read yourself (from your first post here up to nOw, since you had to go there) and based on that, I asked a legitimate yes or no question. That was a totally benign question as far as I was concerned…

Moving on…

Mrs. SexyCool

October 17th, 2012
12:49 pm

Mrs. SexyCool

October 17th, 2012
12:50 pm

BTW – I *rarely* read comments before I chime in. (lol)
Y’all talk/type too much.

Into the Light

October 17th, 2012
12:51 pm

@CC: Does hubs want to go? I kinda read it like he’s trying to send her a message. Plus, he probably wants to show you off! :)

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 17th, 2012
12:52 pm

I just feel some kind of way about chick calling/texting a man she KNOWS is married and trying to hang out with him. Ergo, I don’t really want to go to her party

I totally understand that…and if you didn’t want to go to her party I think your hubby would understand. On the other hand as you mentioned in the latter portion of your post, he might be trying to make a point to her by bringing you with him to her party.

Still though, the fact that she calls and texts him “outside” of work isn’t cool and she may have ulterior motives. I think you two should discuss this face to face. Either way I hope it works out for the best for all involved.

Comon Cents

October 17th, 2012
12:52 pm

He said that he was down to go if I was. It’s at a spot that we have not been to before, so he kind of wants to check it out.

MsAtl

October 17th, 2012
12:53 pm

Common- Once I arrived to court in Cobb County & held out my hand to OC. He put his arm around my shoulder & clapped me on the back (HARD) 3 or 4 times while yelling out nice to meet you. That is one time, I was hoping for the handshake. I often have the dilemna of how to discreetly apply hand sanitizer after shaking hands with someone who looks less than savory.

MsAtl

October 17th, 2012
12:53 pm

Common- Once I arrived to court in Cobb County & held out my hand to OC. He put his arm around my shoulder & clapped me on the back (HARD) 3 or 4 times while yelling out nice to meet you. That is one time, I was hoping for the handshake. I often have the dilemna of how to discreetly apply hand sanitizer after shaking hands with someone who looks less than savory.

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 17th, 2012
12:54 pm

Heeey Mrs SexyCool! You’s married nah..how’s life treatin you guys and the doggie?

Mrs. SexyCool

October 17th, 2012
12:55 pm

Get cute and go to the party and be cute.

And tell your husband to tell her to stop texting him.

Into the Light

October 17th, 2012
12:55 pm

O/T: Oooh, lawd. Y’all pray for me and Comcast. I know companies outsource, but if you’re going to put your call center in the Phillipines and designate that it service the Atlanta-area, shouldn’t there be a minimum English requirement? Then, the “auto survey” calls me back. I indicate (by pressing one) that I was extrememly disatisfied and then press two to indicate my issue was not resolved. “This ends the survey! Thank you for your feedback.” WTH???? They’re not gonna ask what could we have done better? How could we resolve your issue??? Nothing? SMDH.

_______________here ends the vent_____________________________

Comon Cents

October 17th, 2012
12:56 pm

Still though, the fact that she calls and texts him “outside” of work isn’t cool and she may have ulterior motives.

I think that she definitely has ulterior motives. She is single and apparently just moved here recently from Chicago. Her excuse for texting/calling him is that she doesn’t really know anyone here and she heard he knows his way around the city. (Which is true. He has been in the restaurant/club biz for about 20 years) She keeps inviting him out, but it always seems like it’s a solo invite as opposed to inviting us as a couple (she has not said that, but the tone implies it) I would hate to have to cut a trick. (MsAtl, you gonna come down and defend me? :lol: )

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 17th, 2012
12:57 pm

It’s at a spot that we have not been to before, so he kind of wants to check it out.

Oh well in that case, if you feel comfortable then go. Be polite but feed that chick with a long handled spoon(i.e. keep her at a distance)..

MsAtl

October 17th, 2012
12:57 pm

Sorry, a bit behind. Common- If he is going, better that you go with him. He could be trying to show her that he doesn’t keep secrets from you and that he is fully taken. You don’t have to shut the party down (stay till the end) but at least make a showing. Yes, it is inappropriate for her to keep contacting him out of work, but he has to handle that. That is one thing I learned in my marriage. I could not get the ex to understand that if a female came out wrong, it was up to him to correct her because when I did it, it looked like I was the jealous wife trying to keep him on a leash. Later I came to realize that he understood it all along & that was his angle. :twisted:

Bluzgirl

October 17th, 2012
12:57 pm

Sassy – I think it was just rude for you to ask if you were interrupting a therapy session. If you had read the stuff posted today, you would have seen that I’m bummed about a sick pet. There was no need for you to go there.

Mrs. SexyCool

October 17th, 2012
12:57 pm

I think I just got moderated, Sass….
Let me try again.

That *dern*(Is that okay, moderator?) dog stays >< this close to Craigslist.
And actually, I'm lying.
M got her microchipped, so I guess we're keeping her.

And I like being married to M. He's a cool guy.

Mrs. SexyCool

October 17th, 2012
12:58 pm

Sass – I’m trying to respond, but I think I keep getting sent to moderation.

Into the Light

October 17th, 2012
12:58 pm

Her excuse for texting/calling him is that she doesn’t really know anyone here

…..and she’s not gonna get to know anyone if she’s spending all her time calling/texting Mr. Cents. She better join Events and Adventures and KIM…..

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 17th, 2012
12:59 pm

Comon, as Mrs. Sexy said, tell your husband to tell her to stop texting/calling him…

Mrs. SexyCool

October 17th, 2012
12:59 pm

Let’s see – is Craigslist the banned word?

Leggs

October 17th, 2012
12:59 pm

:lol: You’re welcome, MsAtl. (re: spelling)

Comon ~ I think he’s trying to make a statement, in a good way.

MsAtl

October 17th, 2012
1:00 pm

Common- sorry, I work for the state and that precludes outside representation. That said, I could certainly recommend some attorneys to defend you. I can even put on a ninja mask and some sneakers and braid my hair up, lol.

Mrs. SexyCool

October 17th, 2012
1:00 pm

Nope. I have no idea.

Um yeah…so, I’ll just change the answer altogether.

38 days in, married life is great. And a year and a half later, we finally got GiGi micro-chipped. So, we’re keeping her.

i'm swiss

October 17th, 2012
1:01 pm

Comon — You should go to the party & put on a totally inappropriate display of PDA w/ Mr. Comon. (How’s that for seering us back on topic?) :lol:

Mrs. SexyCool

October 17th, 2012
1:02 pm

And why would she have a need to have his cell number to contact him outside of work anyway?

i'm swiss

October 17th, 2012
1:03 pm

*steering, no seering

Mrs. SexyCool

October 17th, 2012
1:03 pm

Oh…I see you already answered that. (lol)
Told y’all I don’t read.

i'm swiss

October 17th, 2012
1:04 pm

Dammit! *not — not “no”

Mrs. SexyCool

October 17th, 2012
1:04 pm

And yes..what Ms. Atl said.

Exiled!

October 17th, 2012
1:05 pm

Miss Atl?

see that’s the thing,dudes like a Lil imagining..check the chic,’ugh her legs are nice,cute lips nice tatas and a good body…I can work with that’ …that’s a dude musing.

Now when u hang ur stuff All out like that and we got to see All if the deformities your clothes hide…,.Check mate!

We out!

Leggs

October 17th, 2012
1:05 pm

“Her excuse for texting/calling him is that she doesn’t really know anyone here and she heard he knows his way around the city.” – Doesn’t even matter! She needs to stop texting a married man asking him about the hangout spots. She thinks she’s discreetly dropping morsels with the hope he might bite. She knows EXACTLY what she’s doing. If she wants to invite him out, she should be inviting you along too. What single woman invites a married man out? Come on now, if the roles were reversed, we would immediately know this man was in the wings waiting to pounce. Go to the party, let her see you, no need for evil eyes or anything, but she’ll get the msg that she needs to back off or face the consequences. Sometimes a woman simply needs to make ner presence KNOWN!!!!

Exiled!

October 17th, 2012
1:05 pm

Leggs

October 17th, 2012
1:07 pm

“He could be trying to show her that he doesn’t keep secrets from you and that he is fully taken. ”

Exactly MsAtl…that’s my take as well.