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Are you anti-PDA?

Have you ever been out in public and noticed a really obnoxious couple who are taking “public displays of affection” too far? A lot of people don’t mind seeing a couple happy and in love. It’s the couples who are in lust, that annoy everyone!

Most days, when I am not all “down will love” I can appreciate seeing two people happy to be with one another. I just think there is a certain line you shouldn’t cross. At some point, you really should go get a room.

Oddly enough, I don’t require a lot of PDA from men I date but I don’t like it when they are completely anti-PDA. Why would you not want to publicly show me affection? Are you afraid of being secretly filmed by the show Cheaters? Then I get all paranoid and start acting irrationally with over the top PDA to prove a point (I know, I have issues).

What is your stance on PDA? Are you for or against it? Have you ever dated someone who was not affectionate enough or was into PDA too much?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

439 comments Add your comment

Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"

October 17th, 2012
6:59 am

“What is your stance on PDA?” Do what makes you happy, just keep it respectful! For me it all depends on the setting as to how much PDA goes on.

Celise.....happy life!!

October 17th, 2012
7:23 am

Do you. Keep it classy!!

Celisea....happy life!!

October 17th, 2012
8:15 am

Happy birthday to my sister, she would have been 50 today!

For tomorrow: 12 years since taking your eternal rest. Sleep on, til we all get there :mrgreen:

I used to be here before

October 17th, 2012
8:17 am

I don’t have a problem with PDA. It’s the couples that play for the same team that I have a trouble with when it comes to PDA

Exiled!

October 17th, 2012
8:30 am

I think (cough..racist here) do PDA too much..

Why does the public need to know u love each other..

Classy but not Splashy….!!!

And yes,the Lesbos do go over the top sometimes,especially there in Atl..
I hate that grovelling,kissing and fuc simulations in public when my kids are around…

….worse when it’s same s e x

:roll: eye roll Puuuleeeze!!

Exiled!

October 17th, 2012
8:34 am

O gave a good pointed punches round.

U can’t let up on the Mormon.

Closing with the 47%,behind closed doors stab.

That was ferocious!

(I saw Mitt’s face scowling as he sat behind on that 47 mention)

Button

October 17th, 2012
8:36 am

I’m all for a little pda. Holding hands, a little peck on the cheek or the lips. Nothing outlandish though like ramming his tongue down my throat or groping me in public though.

Button

October 17th, 2012
8:42 am

Exile you made a good point there. I noticed that too with the other races. I don’t see too many of us showing public affection ever!! Maybe it’s the places I’ve been frequenting but I don’t see that too often unless it’s way over the top affection.

Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"

October 17th, 2012
8:54 am

the good thing about seeing pda you don’t like, you can always turn your head.

Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"

October 17th, 2012
8:56 am

Button, you don’t see a lot of people of color doing it because most are to worried about what everyone else thinks of them.

Comon Cents

October 17th, 2012
9:04 am

Good Morning, Bloggies!

PDA? None for me, thanks. But for you? Do you. As far as same sex couples, I think that their need to go over the top with PDA is a direct reflection of the fact that people want to deny them the right to marry and pretend like they don’t exist. Not saying it’s right. Just saying that’s my opinion.

Exiled!

October 17th, 2012
9:09 am

Most are too worried about …..I missed that poll…

Too much PDA and needy and lacking kinda go lock in step….

Holding hands,strolling along happy seems fine. But when u have to hold and turn the head of your partner coz u want a kiss..in public…

GTFOTH :lol:

Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"

October 17th, 2012
9:13 am

So ex, beyond the kiss when you get married no other public kissing is appropriate.

And yes most do worry about what other will say or think about them!

Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"

October 17th, 2012
9:17 am

MJ, yes I am, who are you trying to prove anything to, it’s about doing what makes you happy. Not a myth, not and assumption, just what I hear!!

I used to be here before

October 17th, 2012
9:17 am

I am so sick of hearing same sex don’t have rights
They act like we have same sex only water foundations and that they have to sit at the back of the bus.
Shoot, in certain industries- same sex relations is your ticket to the top.

Comon Cents

October 17th, 2012
9:18 am

UTBH~ I didn’t say they don’t have any rights. I said that they don’t have the right to marry. Big Difference.

I used to be here before

October 17th, 2012
9:22 am

CC- I wasn’t referring to your post. I’m just saying in general
I can understand their wanting to marry which is something I do not agree with
I just noticed that same sex couples that are not of color act like they are denied the right to sit where they want to sit- kinda like what happened to people of color in the 60’s.
I feel they have the I’m going to throw it in your face all day attitude if you do not agree with same sex relations.

I’m a Christian and I believe what’s in the bible.

Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"

October 17th, 2012
9:23 am

MJ, I said, MOST not all!

Celise.....happy life!!

October 17th, 2012
9:24 am

I used to be here before – Pick a name. Wouldn’t want to get us mixed.

I’m out!

Comon Cents

October 17th, 2012
9:28 am

UTBH~ I am a Christian and I believe what is in the Bible as well. People want to be so hard on homosexuals, yet clearly, In Timothy, it is not only a sin to be a homosexual, idolators, fornicators, adulterers, etc fall in that same category. If we were talking about a MORAL right, I would agree with you 100%. But we are not. We are talking about a LEGAL right. And there is no good LEGAL justification for denying gays the right to marry.

Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"

October 17th, 2012
9:29 am

Comon, now you know we pick our sins!!

Leggs

October 17th, 2012
9:36 am

Nothing wrong with PDA, just keep it respectful. If not, don’t leave the house and continue behind your closed doors.

Morning!

Comon Cents

October 17th, 2012
9:36 am

S/H~ My point exactly.

Comon Cents

October 17th, 2012
9:36 am

Enter your comments here

kimmie

October 17th, 2012
9:36 am

Morning All!!

I dated an anti-PDA and I didn’t like it. He was cold and always acting like he was trying to hide something.

Yes, holding hands, kiss on cheek, light hugs, all nice. I think goodbye PDA at the airport can go a bit further, like a longer kiss or hug.

Anything beyond light PDA is vulgar and disrespectful to others around you, no matter your race, gender, religion, creed, sexual orientation. There is just a right way to behave in public. If you make others around you uncomfortable, it’s too much in a civilized society. We are not animals, and even alot of them look for some privacy when they mate. And yes, there are times when what others think matters. It doesn’t infringe on anyones right to be themselves. But respect is respect. Getting X rated in public is not respectful.

Single and Happier "It is easier done than said, if you just do it!"

October 17th, 2012
9:38 am

Kimmie when are there times that what others think matters?

I used to be here before

October 17th, 2012
9:40 am

“I used to be here before – Pick a name. Wouldn’t want to get us mixed.”

Um what part of my name I used to be here before is difficult for you to get mixed up with?

Comon Cents

October 17th, 2012
9:42 am

I don’t think it is so much a matter of what they think mattering as opposed to a respect issue. No matter what your sexual orientation, there are certain things I don’t want to be forced to discuss with my 3-6 year old simply because you can’t control your baser nature. That’s why we have movie ratings. The same goes for real life. You have certain events that are G, PG, PG-13, R & X. Know which rating your going to and act appropriately.

Celise.....happy life!!

October 17th, 2012
9:44 am

UTBH – The message boo. Someone alluded to similarities yesterday. Wouldn’t want to give folks a reason.

Later

Single and Happier "It is easier done than said, if you just do it!"

October 17th, 2012
9:51 am

Comon I agree on the respect part, and most of the time most 3-6 year old wouldn’t even notice a lot of things if the grown ups around them weren’t making such a fuss about it. Most behaviors are learned at home. If you’re watching television, and something unexpected happens you turn the channel, if you’re out in public and someone decides they want to go a little to far, walk away.

Exiled!

October 17th, 2012
9:52 am

Single…I miss the question

Too much PDA in a public setting is not good. A discerning adult has the discretion to make the call

Thats why,on a different but kinda same issue Atlanta city tickets those with saggy pants.

Public means Public

A grownman has to know what public means

(respect for those around you) really?

Single and Happier "It is easier done than said, if you just do it!"

October 17th, 2012
9:54 am

City of Atlanta ticketing people, that’s a joke right (LOL) That’s a whole nother issue (LOL)

kimmie

October 17th, 2012
9:55 am

Single – What my elders like my grandmother and aunts & uncles think. What my employees and coworkers think matters to a certain point. What my husband thinks. My children, goddaughter, nieces & newphews and any children I have any influence over.

Sure, folks that don’t know me I worry little about what they think.

Like Comon says it’s mostly a matter of respect. I try to carry myself in a way that reflects positively to the world. So yes, at a certain level on certain things to certain individuals, it matters. To blanketly not be concerned about what anyone in the world thinks is immature and naive to me.

Single and Happier "It is easier done than said, if you just do it!"

October 17th, 2012
9:58 am

Gotcha Kimmie, different strokes for different folks. Way to many folks for me to care about. What about what you think about yourself?

I used to be here before

October 17th, 2012
10:05 am

I have no idea what similarities you are talking about
I used to be here before is my name.
Now if you want to get technical about it , I first started logging into this blog when Blanca blogged along side Wize Diva.
I left when Blance left .

kimmie

October 17th, 2012
10:05 am

Single – If I showed my A– in public or allowed a man to disrespect me in public, I would not think too highly of myself.

But I am happy and comfortable with the person I am and the lifestyle I CHOSE to live. Pleasing those I mentioned above that I care for is effortless.

I used to be here before

October 17th, 2012
10:06 am

typo: Blanca

Comon Cents

October 17th, 2012
10:12 am

I remember years ago, I went to the Bounce (back when it was on Bankhead and an experience NEVER to be repeated again!) and there was a young lady (I use the term very loosely) at the club who was on stage shaking her azz in a skirt that was beyond miniscule and there were a whole bunch of guys lined up in front of the stage watching her and touching her. One dude even went as far as to pull her panties aside and put his fingers all up in her business. All I could think to myself was how low her self esteem must be to let some dude disrespect her like that in a public place. It has been more years than I would like to recollect since that happened and I can still remember what ol’ girl looked like. If I passed her on the street, I would know her. (I would probably recognize her vajayjay if I saw it again :shock: ) Just sad.

Into the Light

October 17th, 2012
10:14 am

Morning, all!

Looks like a slow blog morning.

Off topic: Breakfast meetings are AWESOME. Most days I eat a light breakfast, but there’s something about bacon, eggs, grits, etc…that gets your day off on the right foot. :)

Into the Light

October 17th, 2012
10:16 am

Dang, CC. You could be the VaJayJay inspector. FIrst the locker room exam, now this. If the police ever need a hoo ha sketch artist, they should call you! :lol: :lol:

Leggs

October 17th, 2012
10:17 am

That’s a sad story, Comon. I cannot imagine someone letting that occur in a public place. She must have been beyond high. Dang, not that you would know this, but where were her friends. Not many young women travel solo.

kimmie

October 17th, 2012
10:17 am

Comon – That is very sad. What sets such behavior apart from that of animals?

I used to be here before

October 17th, 2012
10:18 am

Eewww! that’s nasty!!!!!

Beyond low self esteem

Leggs

October 17th, 2012
10:18 am

“a hoo ha sketch artist” – oh my!

I used to be here before

October 17th, 2012
10:19 am

Question: what would compel a guy to do that? I mean, wouldn’t he be worried his finger might come off?

Single and Happier "It is easier done than said, if you just do it!"

October 17th, 2012
10:20 am

Kimmie, cool then let those others be happy with the lifestyle they CHOOSE to live. In some cases there are rules against things. I’m not saying I’m for it, but I’m sure not about to stand there and worry about what they’re doing either.

kimmie

October 17th, 2012
10:22 am

I Used – He did it because he could, because he saw he could get away with it. He probably figured he couldn’t catch anything on his finger. I bet he didn’t wash it right away either! :shock:

Into the Light

October 17th, 2012
10:23 am

Okay, still catching up, but this:

Anything beyond light PDA is vulgar and disrespectful to others around you, no matter your race, gender, religion, creed, sexual orientation. There is just a right way to behave in public. If you make others around you uncomfortable, it’s too much in a civilized society. We are not animals, and even alot of them look for some privacy when they mate. And yes, there are times when what others think matters. It doesn’t infringe on anyones right to be themselves. But respect is respect. Getting X rated in public is not respectful

is worth repeating.

Single and Happier "It is easier done than said, if you just do it!"

October 17th, 2012
10:25 am

Used to be, if it would make his finger fall off, she wouldn’t have been up there dancing! (LOL)

I used to be here before

October 17th, 2012
10:26 am

Kimmie; That is why I keep my sanitizer handing. No telling where someone’s hand has been.

Gosh , mental picture of the guy and girl.
I’m scarred for life :???: