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Awful girlfriends make terrible wives?

I found out another test that men like to give the women they date, it’s called the Sick Test, i.e. does she take care of me when I am sick. My friend LC said he happened to catch a nasty cold last week. Ah, but he wasn’t too weak to observe how his new girlfriend was going to handle his illness. He wondered, would she pass or fail?

Unfortunately, she didn’t seem all that concerned about him. She even steered clear of him for a few days because she “could not risk picking up his bug” this week (Ouch?). She still has not come by, only sending him occasional text messages to make sure he is still breathing.

I found it rather funny because I don’t approve of giving people relationship tests. LB ended up getting his feelings hurt and now he is questioning what kind of wife his girlfriend would make!

I think he is being utterly ridiculous but maybe I’m just taking up for his lady friend because I think she’s great for him. Do you think someone who has shown bad girlfriend/boyfriend behavior would make awful marriage partners?

Have you ever second-guessed your dating relationship after seeing something that would probably be too hard to deal with in a marriage?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

486 comments Add your comment

SlimNu

October 16th, 2012
12:26 pm

if a woman is giving her all and the man is flat lining- I doubt that is the only area in which he is flatlining in- hence she picked the wrong dude

I’m throwing a flag down on this post…I know personally of a couple who have been married for at least 10yrs. The guy is a GREAT provider, GREAT father, GREAT husband but he is a little reserved in the bedroom. So that’s pretty damn near 80-90% of what the wife ever wanted. So because he doesn’t cuff her to the bed post, that means he’s the wrong guy? Your post comes off as if there are perfect people out there, without flaws, without a deficiencies or weaknesses and that just isn’t true at all.

SlimNu

October 16th, 2012
12:28 pm

Used – Just curious but do you know Bluz off the blog? (if you don’t want to answer, cool) :lol:

Comon Cents

October 16th, 2012
12:28 pm

Preach, Slim, preach! That was my point, but you said it so much better… :lol:

I used to be here before

October 16th, 2012
12:28 pm

When you have all your faith and trust in GOD- everything is perfect

I used to be here before

October 16th, 2012
12:29 pm

I don’t know Bluz

Comon Cents

October 16th, 2012
12:31 pm

When you have all your faith and trust in GOD- everything is perfect

Whoo, Lord! Now I know it’s time for me to go home!

Trust, sweetie, all my faith and love is in God, but things are not perfect. That is the biggest misconception ever. Being Christian doesn’t mean life is perfect, it just means that you are better equipped to deal with the travails that come with life. Are you telling me that Job’s life was perfect? Because somehow, all of my children dying, losing everything I won and my S/O running around on me doesn’t sound perfect to me.

Bluzgirl

October 16th, 2012
12:35 pm

Slim – why would you ask that?

Speaking of bosses…I was afraid my boss was going to give me isht for asking to come in late to take my pet to the vet, but she just said “ok”. I’m totally shocked!!!

I used to be here before

October 16th, 2012
12:36 pm

I’m going to give my boss this powerpoint on how to be a good leader

http://www.slideshare.net/happysammy/be-a-people-person

kimmie

October 16th, 2012
12:36 pm

Comon – LOL!!! I could still end up alone, but I be damned if it would be with a bunch of cats!!LOL!!

I will say this to anyone, male or female – whatever you did to woo this person you will need to continue to do it after you marry. So don’t start nothing you can’t finish. But you can always improve upon something you’re coming up short on. Going from completely vanilla to milk chocolate can add some spice. Change things up now & then, but make sure that is a change for the better!

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 16th, 2012
12:36 pm

Your post comes off as if there are perfect people out there, without flaws, without a deficiencies or weaknesses and that just isn’t true at all.

Throw the flag Slim…

kimmie

October 16th, 2012
12:38 pm

My staff gave me a card, flowers, a big chocolate cake and chocolate strawberries for Bosses Day!!

I love them and they love me!LOL!!

Comon Cents

October 16th, 2012
12:40 pm

Awww. That’s nice kimmie. I got an Edible Arrangement from my staff.

disco

October 16th, 2012
12:41 pm

hey kimmie!!!!

CC – first off, please don’t go. re folks with “perfect” lives. show me the person who believes their life is perfect and I’ll show you the person who just really and truly doesn’t want much, need much, desire much, ask for much. lol.

i'm swiss

October 16th, 2012
12:46 pm

What a coincidence… Mrs. Swiss gave my staff a really nice gift this morning, too… :D :lol:

kimmie

October 16th, 2012
12:46 pm

I used to be here before

October 16th, 2012
12:47 pm

I wonder if my company knows that before they hired my boss- he was arrested for failure to appear
I think the original arrest was drug charges

My whole team hates him

He;s not a leader. Hes a dictator

I used to be here before

October 16th, 2012
12:48 pm

See this is why my life is perfect
yes, bad things happen and sure things don’t always go my way but what makes it perfect is that I know and have seen how GOD has my back.
I’ve been extremely blessed

MsAtl

October 16th, 2012
12:50 pm

Afternoon all. I don’t approve of “tests” or games in relationships. That said, the fact that she failed that one test does not mean she would not be a good wife. He has to look at the whole person.
When I got married, I was too young to catch red flags and too inexperienced to know to run.
Slim- I used to live in Conyers. And re: your story- my ex had a fender-bender on I-20. I stayed on the phone with him until the police showed up. For the next 3 months all I heard was how I didn’t come over to the accident site to see about him. Seriously? Dude, your trunk wasn’t even bashed in…

Comon Cents

October 16th, 2012
12:50 pm

I think delusional is the word you were looking for…

:lol: @ swiss. I’m sure Mrs. Swiss gave you a nice baptism this morning too… :lol:

Bluzgirl

October 16th, 2012
12:51 pm

So far, I don’t see anything given to my boss!

disco

October 16th, 2012
12:53 pm

enigma – that post sounds like a similar post we had re the term “fair”

i'm swiss

October 16th, 2012
12:54 pm

Comon — Meh… I’ve been baptized… Trust me, this was waaaaaaaaaaay better. ;-) :lol:

disco

October 16th, 2012
12:58 pm

swiss – as per usual – you are crazy. by the way, do you like gary owen? thought I’d ask. I think he’s quite funny.

Comon Cents

October 16th, 2012
12:59 pm

Glad your morning started out well, swiss. Are you and Mrs. Swiss trekking down to Jacksonville for the GA/FL game?

Comon Cents

October 16th, 2012
1:00 pm

disco~ I see you liked enigma. My favorite was UBO.

SlimNu

October 16th, 2012
1:02 pm

Bluz – Just noticed a few similarities…no biggie. Carry on, nothing more to see here ;-)

MsATL – Did we date the same person? :lol: I wanted to say, GET A GRIP!

Robert

October 16th, 2012
1:03 pm

@Buttons – “So your homework assisgnment is to find out how long a man can stay hard for pleasure that will not need him seeking medical attention.”

For a Man it depends on how much experience the woman has. For example some women know what to do in the bedroom and have no problem “going down” (oral sex) on their Man to increase his passion and desire for her. Ladies, keep in mind before viagra you had the power in hands. I once had a woman tell me that she loves being the in position of authority. She knew exactly how to keep me “hard” as a rock.

Bluzgirl

October 16th, 2012
1:04 pm

Whatever…I don’t see it…

Comon Cents

October 16th, 2012
1:05 pm

So, Bluz, do you have an appointment for you rat this afternoon?

Bluzgirl

October 16th, 2012
1:07 pm

It will be tomorrow morning. That’s when the vet who knows a lot about rats will be in. She comes in at 9:30 – I plan to be there at 9:00 to be the first to see her!

MsAtl

October 16th, 2012
1:08 pm

Slim- I was married to him for 26 years. However, that would not have stopped him from dating you or anyone else, so could be, lol.

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 16th, 2012
1:09 pm

wow dude your posts are gettin lamer by the minute…

Comon Cents

October 16th, 2012
1:09 pm

Good luck! I hope that everything goes well!

Button

October 16th, 2012
1:10 pm

Common no, I don’t celebrate easter, christmas, new years or halloween.

Sassy you really do live up to your moniker gurl.

Willie Dynamite

October 16th, 2012
1:10 pm

Afternoon all,
Topic- I don’t approve of the test. I will say that dude found out what he wanted about gf. Buddy is needy and gf didn’t attend to his needs (per him). Moving forward he’s gonna think she won’t be there for him. In actuality this is a communication opportunity. They should be able to sit down and discuss rational expectations if they/he wants to move forward without resent.
Side topics- nothing on politics, illuminati.

Bluzgirl

October 16th, 2012
1:12 pm

Thanks CC! The only thing that won’t go ok is if they charge several hundred dollars for the surgery. I’m hoping they’ll work with me…

kimmie

October 16th, 2012
1:15 pm

MsAtl/Slim – See that’s the kind of stuff I have/had very little patience for, especially as a girlfriend. Dudes like that really do need to Man Up! I am not the wambulance. Even the kids know better with me.

Once this summer my hubs called me from the Kroger around the corner. His battery went dead and he needed a jump & he had the kids with him having just picked them up from school. I came right away and got the kids and he got his car started and went to get another battery. When he got back he thanked me profusely for responding like I did. It was no problem and I didn’t think twice – it’s my hubs & kids!! I got to thinking “dang, do I come off cold like I would have let them stay there and walk home?”! LOL!!

I used to be here before

October 16th, 2012
1:16 pm

I hope the rat is okay
do they offer pet insurance at the vet?

Comon Cents

October 16th, 2012
1:16 pm

Button~ JW?

Sassy~ You know you want him to be the next ex Mr. Sassy… :lol:

Exiled!

October 16th, 2012
1:17 pm

I married a fabulous woman!

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 16th, 2012
1:18 pm

You know you want him to be the next ex Mr. Sassy…

Comon…one of us wouldn’t make it :lol:

Into the Light

October 16th, 2012
1:21 pm

Afternoon, all!

sn: Nothing puts an awards luncheon on hold like a fire drill. :( Hmph.

What’s good this afternoon?

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 16th, 2012
1:26 pm

Anyone going to participate in any FelaBration activities?

MsAtl

October 16th, 2012
1:30 pm

Kimmie- either you come off cold or maybe, just maybe, the kids started getting on his nerves, lol. They probably wanted him to take them back into Kroger and buy them goodies.

i'm swiss

October 16th, 2012
1:31 pm

Comon — Nah… Mrs. Swiss is not much of a football fan even when she’s not preggers. She’s definitely not going to be trekking her sexy little knocked up booty down to Jacksonville in her current state. ;-) So, I’ll be watching the game in stunning HD, with a fully stocked liquor cabinet nearby… :D

disco — Yeah, I caught part of that guy’s act on cable a while back. It was pretty funny, but d@mn, some of the sh!t he was saying was making me a little uncomfortable… :lol:

i'm swiss

October 16th, 2012
1:35 pm

“I married a fabulous woman!”

Me.lo — Did Queen agree to get “Albertina’d”? :lol:

Bluzgirl

October 16th, 2012
1:41 pm

Used to – I’ll have to check to see if they offer insurance on pet rats. I need to check into it for my cats also…

Exiled!

October 16th, 2012
1:48 pm

@Swiss…she will get it,trust!

I am Schamburg right now and missed that opportunity two weeks away in Florida…coz it wasn’t conducive..

but next week..I’m gon take her out for dinner,romance and Albertinenize in convo..

will keep u posted.

I bet when Ms Swiss unloads you got that on lock yourself?

Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"

October 16th, 2012
1:49 pm

“So your homework assisgnment is to find out how long a man can stay hard for pleasure that will not need him seeking medical attention.”

this would also depend on age. If it was 4 hours I should have been dead by the time I was 25 (LOL)

Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"

October 16th, 2012
1:53 pm

Disco, I’m coming in late, my life is perfect. Because life IS what YOU make it, it may not be perfect to others, but it’s perfect to me!