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Awful girlfriends make terrible wives?

I found out another test that men like to give the women they date, it’s called the Sick Test, i.e. does she take care of me when I am sick. My friend LC said he happened to catch a nasty cold last week. Ah, but he wasn’t too weak to observe how his new girlfriend was going to handle his illness. He wondered, would she pass or fail?

Unfortunately, she didn’t seem all that concerned about him. She even steered clear of him for a few days because she “could not risk picking up his bug” this week (Ouch?). She still has not come by, only sending him occasional text messages to make sure he is still breathing.

I found it rather funny because I don’t approve of giving people relationship tests. LB ended up getting his feelings hurt and now he is questioning what kind of wife his girlfriend would make!

I think he is being utterly ridiculous but maybe I’m just taking up for his lady friend because I think she’s great for him. Do you think someone who has shown bad girlfriend/boyfriend behavior would make awful marriage partners?

Have you ever second-guessed your dating relationship after seeing something that would probably be too hard to deal with in a marriage?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Leggs

October 16th, 2012
11:09 am

Single ~ if you don’t want to play you can still eat the lunch and sit around and talk with others who may not be playing then go home. So, in 30-40 mins, I’m going to “attempt” to play some Italian bowling.

DuShawn

October 16th, 2012
11:10 am

I agree with -swiss’- 10:32 comment completely, tests in broadest sense of the word, are merely performance evaluations. Now, if one purposely orchestrates a situation to see someone’s reaction, that’s a little weird. When wifey was my girlfriend, I somehow contracted Chicken Pox. I was in my early thirties and that sh&t had me f*cked up.
I looked like half oatmeal cookie half elephant man. I didn’t want anyone to see me. She stayed at my crib and rubbed the medicated lotion on my bumps and nursed me back. She drew the line at kissing though. She would kiss her hand and blow it to me like Gina did Martin on the episode when Hit Man Hearns uglied him up.

I used to be here before

October 16th, 2012
11:10 am

need for the blue pill :shock:
does that mean when I’m in my 70’s, the dude will need a blue pill to rock my world :shock:

Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"

October 16th, 2012
11:11 am

Leggs, buttons, what about all the women issues!! at the top of the list those crazy ass mood swings!!

Into the Light

October 16th, 2012
11:11 am

Fame, Fame, fatal Fame
It can play hideous tricks on the brain
But still I’d rather be Famous
Than righteous or holy, any day
Any day, any day
But sometimes I’d feel more fulfilled
Making Christmas cards with the mentally ill
I want to live and I want to Love
I want to catch something that I might be ashamed of

I used to be here before

October 16th, 2012
11:12 am

I wonder what effect blue pill has on guys my age and younger.
I heard of a guy younger than me that takes the blue pill on the regular.

I wonder what will happen to his unit when he’s an old man

SlimNu

October 16th, 2012
11:12 am

ITL – I was very much passive-aggressive with less passiveness and more aggression lol

I used to be here before

October 16th, 2012
11:13 am

ugh…somebody’s nail polish remover is making me high :mrgreen:

Comon Cents

October 16th, 2012
11:13 am

swiss~ While I don’t disagree with your post per se, the issue becomes that the more ou make the more you pay. Therefore, society is punishing you for being successful. Because you CHOSE to make good decisions and you CHOOSE to go to work everyday, you should pay for people who are not making the same sacrifices you are. We are going to mess around and tax the middle class out of exisitence.

i'm swiss

October 16th, 2012
11:14 am

S/H — That’s just it, it shouldn’t be about what makes people happy or even what’s “fair.” It should be about what is the best economic policy for the country. Everybody always wants to decry any “redistribution of wealth” but the reality is that the free market, itself, facilitates redistribution of wealth — to the top. When you have money, free market forces are heavily weighted in your favor to make more money. If you want to avoid the trend we’ve been experiencing here since the 80s — a smaller & smaller percentage of the population controlling a larger and larger percentage of the wealth, a growing under class and a shrinking middle class — there must be some policies in place to counter the free market flow of money to the top.

Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"

October 16th, 2012
11:14 am

Also Leggs, Button, why do you guys feel you have to be their caregiver? I mean really what you can you do for them that they cannot do for themselves?

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 16th, 2012
11:14 am

On a serious note, I tend to fall into the “mother hen” category when an SO is sick.

Me,too. I mean if we’re in a serious relationship then yeah I will take care of my man but if we’re just “kickin it”…then I might pass through and see about you and drop of some juice n food but don’t look for much else. Don’t judge me…

disco

October 16th, 2012
11:15 am

dushawn – chicken pox on grown folks is no joke. ugggh. yeah. you married the right one. lol.

Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"

October 16th, 2012
11:16 am

Comon, but isn’t that the way we’ve always been told, you should help those less fortunate than you! IJS

Leggs

October 16th, 2012
11:16 am

when Hit Man Hearns uglied him up. – I don’t think I’ve ever laughed so hard as to when he showed his face with all those lumps. I mean I was crying.

Into the Light

October 16th, 2012
11:16 am

LOL@Slim. I meant HE was being passive aggressive. And that PA mess irks me. Just say what you want to say!!! :)

Into the Light

October 16th, 2012
11:17 am

Okay, I’m off like a prom dress.

Y’all be sweet…..

Leggs

October 16th, 2012
11:18 am

Single ~ you probably have a point. It’s just that the 3 I know with those issues are constantly complaining, going to doctors, whining. I just have a bad picture in my mind of men in their late 50’s falling apart.

Comon Cents

October 16th, 2012
11:19 am

swiss~ There are only two occasions when someone uses the phrase “too much money” and those times would be wen they A) have to pay that money out or B) they are talking about how much money someone else makes. No one ever says “Wow! I make too much money!” But, what we have to remember is that everything is relative. Someone else may think you make too much money and want to “redistribute” what you have. Don’t think you would be too keen on that idea, would you?

Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"

October 16th, 2012
11:20 am

Leggs, those are the ones that need there man card revoked, it’s life it happens, you deal with it and move on!! I don’t want to be with any one that constantly complains about anything!!

Robert

October 16th, 2012
11:21 am

@Button – “other things like high blood pressure, diabetes, high cholestoral and such is a heavy burden to take on ”

If your man is over 40 he should be on the “preventive healthcare plan” especially if he is a Black American or Hispanic. By starting early in you can control things like high blood pressure, diabetes, high cholestoral. Please ask your Man to talk to his doctor. His family may have a history of these diseases that can be prevented if they are caught in time.

disco

October 16th, 2012
11:21 am

O/T – any of you attending any grown folks’ Halloween parties this year? if so, are you dressing up?

SlimNu

October 16th, 2012
11:21 am

ITL – I know what you meant and thats the exact same way I feel. How are you going to cop an attitude with me because YOU failed to open your damn mouth and say how you were feeling or at least that you wanted to see me? I never once claimed to be a psychic, medium, palm reader, mind reader, tarot card reader or related to Miss Cleo. :roll:

Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"

October 16th, 2012
11:22 am

Comon when it comes to Child support you can make too much money when they want to take it, and not enough when they finally get it (LOL)

Comon Cents

October 16th, 2012
11:22 am

S/H~ I don’t have a problem with helping those less fortunate than me if it’s MY choice. However, I don’t want anyone coming in and mandating how I spend my money.

Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"

October 16th, 2012
11:23 am

Comon what is less fortunate?

czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪

October 16th, 2012
11:24 am

Men my age are stricken with gout, diabeties, need for the blue pill, etc., breating issues, etc.
oh stop! men “your age” should not be in need of replacement parts already. unless they’ve lived a lifetime of not taking care of themselves. that’s a shame.

I heard of a guy younger than me that takes the blue pill on the regular.
that dude is just lazy.

Button

October 16th, 2012
11:24 am

At some point the blue pill will stop working, then what? a pump? an inserted bendable rod?

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 16th, 2012
11:24 am

I see we’ve got Bitter Bobby(with the house full of cats) in the house spreading their usual cheer… :???:

i'm swiss

October 16th, 2012
11:25 am

Comon — My money is already being redistributed, at a much higher rate than truly wealthy people, I might add, because the majority of my income comes from wages. And I’m fine with what I pay, because I don’t want to live in a 3rd world country, where a few people control all the money and everybody else is poor as dirt. That’s the direction we’re trending in with this whole “trickle down” economic philosophy.

Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"

October 16th, 2012
11:26 am

Button, no offense, but when the little blue pill stops working, you will be dried up anyway (LOL) don’t forget women have issues also.

Comon Cents

October 16th, 2012
11:26 am

S/H~ Your term (I just re-used it) so you tell me.

Leggs

October 16th, 2012
11:26 am

Single ~ I agree. Man up, stop acting like a wussy p u s s y!

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 16th, 2012
11:26 am

I heard of a guy younger than me that takes the blue pill on the regular.

Actually he’s not being lazy…it’s the opposite. He’s being greedy…what they’re thinking is they can have a hard on for hours and stroke all the kitty they want.

Comon Cents

October 16th, 2012
11:27 am

swiss~ Trickle up economics don’t work either. So what’s your solution?

Button

October 16th, 2012
11:28 am

Black my man don’t have those problems, he’s a health nut. But I do know what you mean. Some things are genetics though, what can you do? I know a lady who had a complete hysterectomy to avoid getting cervical cancer because it ran in her family. Her mother, grandmother, aunts all died from it.

Leggs

October 16th, 2012
11:28 am

czB ~ you’re right if they’re my age they haven’t been taking care of themselves. Really didn’t mean to say “men MY AGE,” but rather man a little older than me. I know of 4 who are 56, 58, and 2 are 59 acting like they’re invalids.

Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"

October 16th, 2012
11:28 am

comon, I used it because that’s what we’ve always been told, when i talk to those supposedly less fortunate than me they were willing to do the thing I did to get to where I am. so is that my fault, am I supposed to feel sorry for you, I think not!!

Comon Cents

October 16th, 2012
11:28 am

Sassy~ Eggs-zachery!

Leggs

October 16th, 2012
11:29 am

Enjoy the rest of the day. I’m going to play on the company’s dime.

Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"

October 16th, 2012
11:30 am

Sassy when I was young I could have hard on for hours, even had to tell a few just because it was still up didn’t mean I was still up for it (LOL) I don’t understand these younger guys who are doing these things.

Button

October 16th, 2012
11:31 am

Lollll Single you’s a bad man for saying that! plus I’ve got a lot of juice stored away. Take care of your health, eat right, stay away from those awful meat and infuse more live food in your diet. It does a body good!

Robert

October 16th, 2012
11:33 am

On topic: “Do awful girlfriends make awful wives?”

“Freaks” make the best girlfriends and wives. It does not matter how many kids she has, where she lives or much money she makes. The only thing that matters is we share a common goal to be happy. I crave passion and desire. I want a “lady in the streets and a Freak in my sheets” .

Most marriages end because the Woman forgot how to be a “freak” and the Man lost his passion and desire for her. Don’t let that happen to your relationship. Laides, be a “freak” with your husband all the time, especially if he is not expecting something “freaky” today. You just might be surprised by his “freakyness” for you.

SlimNu

October 16th, 2012
11:33 am

SH – Yeah I’m with you on the extending hard on’s…i mean after a while, are you even feeling anything anymore? Seems to me that it would get rubbed raw and you’d wind up with a skinless, numb weenie. Plus who wants a scabbed up dizzle scarring up their sugar walls?

Comon Cents

October 16th, 2012
11:37 am

S/H~ I agree. Everyone wants to take it down to dollars and cents, but it’s not that simple. No one else gave up the hours and time away from their family to get where I have gotten except me. Literally, when I was in law school, when I dropped my son off in the morning, he was sleeping and when I picked him up in the evenings, he was sleeping. I made a lot of sacrifices to get to the level I’ve gotten to and I don’t think I should have to support people who chose not to make those same sacrifices. JMO

Button

October 16th, 2012
11:37 am

uuuh huh @ Robert

i'm swiss

October 16th, 2012
11:37 am

“Trickle up economics don’t work either.”

Comon — Technically, what is supposed to be “trickle down” is really “trickle up” because that’s where all the money goes, but that’s beside the point. But, actually, to the contrary, when lower and middle class people have more money in their pockets, you know what happens? They spend it. At a much higher rate, actually, than the wealthy do when they get extra cash handed to them. The more they spend, the more demand increases for goods and services. The more demand for goods and services increase, the more jobs are created. The more jobs are created, the more lower & middle class people have money to spend, And on, and on, and on. And guess who also benefits from all this added economic activity? The wealthy, who own and invest in the businesses whose profits are increasing.

Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"

October 16th, 2012
11:39 am

Button

October 16th, 2012
11:39 am

Common we all make sacrifices.

I used to be here before

October 16th, 2012
11:40 am

I wonder if her husband needs the blue pill to keep up

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eae3_LDysY8